Jewessgratitude:


Me? Fall in love with my Mentor?
Think again.

Happens. You can ask the French President.

Jewessgratitude:
Yeah!
Like seriously he shared and liked two of my comments and I felt like I finally met him considering how shrewd he is at never replying back when being attacked or commended. So yes! NwaAmaikpe liked and shared my comments.

NwaAmaikpe show thyself!
I truly want to be a friend cos I like your thick skin and want to learn how you put up a strong resilience to the way people lash out at you and you're still able to come back even tougher. And your ability to just ignore, ignored and ignore.

Youre a rare gem I must confess and you're man of the year as you're the only man on here who never exchanges banters with anyone and still stay focused ; undeterred by numerous bashings on here.
I like to be around people like you cos it laughter all the way .

The best aspect of you I like is your eloquence and astute way of expressing your thoughts. Mehnn... sometimes I wonder where you schooled and I'm sure you must be a literary guru.
I would really like to meet with you. Sure ill'd learn a thing or two from you. Nna ijiya!

Hit me up if you dont mind and identify yourself as NwaAmaikpe o lol....Nwa Nwa hahaha... Cheers!

You that opened a thread just last month saying no NL guy should dm you or follow you again, now you are here pleading to hook up with NwaAmaikpe.

Like someone said on that thread, "...you'd still fall in love"

Well deserved.

Michelle55:

TRUE... She looks more confused than loyal

LIE...based on what you quoted

xcelentattitude:
All these people crying and shouting that the lady is older sef

Who knows are age among you all. You are basing your assertions on pictures that where snapped from some awkward angles.

The dude naturally has baby face and that would make any lady look older than him. He could even pass for a secondary school dude sef.

And he could also be a local fowl too just like someone mentioned earlier. Short guys like that usually carry age.

Even if the lady is older than him, is it not his choice? How does it affect us?

Ebus12:
Forget that joy and peace of mind Fallacy

A man in his right senses shouldn't date a lady he isn't at least 5 years older than talk more of thinking of even taking her as a bride
To think that this dude... Is now planning to marry his aunt baffles me
Are there no younger ladies out there who can still give him that Joy, and peace of mind he desires

Tufiakwa...

Is it your marriage? He has made his choice and has his reasons, how does it affect you? If you can't be happy for him, just scroll to the next topic

Biglittlelois:
I actually know someone that use to be my friend who did the exact same thing, she is very obese, she told me she didn't think she can meet a man that will love her and her stature, I always encourage her to be patient, not until she one day told me she was pregnant, I didn't even notice cos of how big she is, she was pregnant for a married man, she prefers being a baby mama, i was really sad,


It's actually an esteem issue and has to do with the psych, your wife should be careful of her.

His wife should be careful of her? She is the one encouraging her. His wife should be doing what you did.

Fillibuster:
I had to create a new moniker to post this.

I hate posting private issues but we all need a sounding board to check our ideas to prevent us from over reacting

I am married with a son. Like all homes we do have our ups and down.
This morning my wife received a call from a colleague. She (wife) works as a branch manager in a financial establishment. The call was from a subordinate. My wife was asking her if she remembered to tell her boyfriend to buy them the chicken.
I got interested in the conversation and i prodded my wife for more explanation and she said the said colleague is dating a married man who happens to live in my neighborhood.
I was shocked!
Her excuse was that the colleague was extremely obesed and had little or no chasers.
I just contained myself because i was already going out this morning to conclude a transaction.
But right within me, i am already bursting at the seams.

I don't want to say what's on my mind but i am shock that her morale compass is dead. How can she subtly encourage her friend to wreak another home? All because she is fat.

I want mature ladies and married men to weigh in on this issue. No immature stuff pls.
I am seated in my office trying to digest this info and my next line of action once i get home.
am i over-reacting?


Pls mod dont take this to front page.

You are not over reacting. If anything, you have under reacted. See, two wrongs don't make a right. Being obese is not an excuse to share someone else's husband. If her obesity is the reason she is getting few or no chasers, then let her try to work on it.

And please talk to your wife and make her see reasons why she needs to discourage such. In fact, may be you can ask her if she would feel empathetic if you cheat with someone obese.

RichBoy247:
But I think this should be stopped. If so called parents cannot feed their children, why did the parents give birth to children? You can't pay school fees; ordinary PTA token fee in government school, you cannot pay; you can't pay house rent; small money to buy drugs in government hospital, you don't have; but you are giving birth to children every year like white pigs.

Nonsense. Not even in developed countries do the governments think like this.

adecz:


A beautiful FTC at the end of
This year!!!


Meanwhile, this school feeding
program is another nonsense one
by the mumutious APC govt.

Billions are wasted 'feeding' pupils that
have no classrooms to study in.

Who learns with an empty stomach?

UyaiIncomparabl:
I am never happy. For every reason I have/find, I'm just always happy and content with my sadness. I always find a reason to be downcast and burdened. I'm very skeptical about everything/everyone around me. I carry scars of everything I have seen and see; pain, sadness, disaster, sickness, death etc. I wear on the gloom and doom of a hundred persons. I can't even say if I'm a sadist.

I constantly seek the meaning of life, the reason of my existence, and as soon as I can't find the meaning, I pass aggression or get mad at myself. I don't have trouble building relationships with others, but I don't strive to build them anyway. I don't like people. I have a huge difficulty fitting into the norms of the society. Could it be that I'm not in the right society for me to be appreciated?

I strive to make friends but I cut them off before they even come close. I'm a realist but people misunderstand it as pessimism.

I'm a very good, ambitious, nice, lovable, generous and approachable person, but people scare me. There's no real love in the world. I have a fairly good life to be thankful for. I have good people around me too, thankfully, but I'm still not happy.

I have a stable job. A fairly good business by the side. I have a good shelter above my head, in school and enough food to eat, in fact, I have totally everything to make the average young adult happy. On here, people might mistake me to be an outgoing and bubbly personality, but in real life, I'm not that. I only come here to have fun, and out of here, feel miserable.

I'm not even passionate about what I even do. I have a job but I don't enjoy it. I just love to be by myself and still get angry for being by myself. In turn, I'm called non-challant.

I'm very passionate about the arts, fashion, poetry, academics, but I lack the right motivation to forge with these things. I usually am very immersed in my emotions to do anything reasonable. In totality, I'm just a sad person.


Is there a help to combat recurrent melancholic symptoms? Do other people feel this way? Am I okay?

Your problem is simply lack of LOVE.

tomakint:
Bishop Oyedepo spent N650million for a standard and very quality road construction.... did you know that our FG, state governments, senators etc will pay over N20billion for the same road project with a substandard construction that will see the road developing potholes within four years?

Put that N20billion in the hands of Bishop Oyedepo to construct us roads just in the South West alone, he will give Nigerians 10 different high quality constructed roads in the shortest period of time.

Give Bishop Oyedepo a $1billion to build us world class international airport, I can guaranty Nigerians that he will bring us four Narita International Airport in Tokyo into Nigeria, but give that same $1billion to Tinubu, Fashola, Rotimi Ameachi, Ibori, Buhari, Ambode, Rochas, Shettima, Ganduje, the entire past and current Northern governors and 96% of Nigerian politicians in and out of both state and federal government, they will build us just one airport that will not measure up standard airport.

Only if you know the damage and underdevelopment that over-inflated contracts is causing us as a nation...

Nigeria is completely doomed until we do away with these bunch of criminal politicians.

#Copied

Looks like you are campaigning for him. Does he want to run for politics?

cerpvad:
I am interested. Just let me know what I should budget per month for three months old baby

Call this number 0814 810 0100 and discuss.

cerpvad:
Please how much do you charge per month?

I know someone that will be good. If you are interested, let me know. Thanks.

uninspired07:


Your parents’ Nigeria is different from our Nigeria.

Yes, it is.

Massey27:


Thank you so much. I think using the word good makes him look like a saint. And I apologise for that.

I would have contracted a deadly illness. I agree and i still have an unforgiveness in my heart towards him because of that. I keep going for test every month. Knowing the kind of life the lady in question lives and I was put at risk.

I didn't stay because of the childlessness. I stayed because I found more than 80% of what I wanted in a man. And he is sorry, he has shown he is. I don't need a Prophet telling me.

You won't understand what I made him go through because of his betrayal. And he actually went through alot.

And the truth is even his family and people close to us were surprised he did what he did. He is not known with that.

In as much as he betrayed me , I don't want the iniquity of the sin committed to linger. He should do right by his child. It hurts me talking about it and wanting him involved in the child's life but I no want old age wahala from any pickin that will raise up one day and start causing problems for me because he was neglected.

Thank you again for your advice.

Madam you don't need to explain anything to that commenter. Especially not a lengthy explanation like this. You are handling it well so far. May God continue to strengthen you.

heavenlychy:
I see you really love this man and I'm not here to tell you to love him less but can you please tune it down with your constant calling him a 'Good man'. This man cheated on you for months. He had 'Unprotected sex' with a stranger and covered it all up. Pretended right down to his balls. What if he contacted Hiv or any of these deadly diseases? Mehn, if I were you, I would be very afraid of such a man. I know it is the childlessness that is making you cope with all this bullshit. I pray the Good Lord gives you your own child. As for him, he did the crime, let him do the time.

Abeg calm down before you worsen the whole issue. Thank God you are not her.

Op you are handling the matter well so far.

lalasticlala:


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The bank and the man, I wonder who the real thief is.


D'Economist.

Jesse25:
She is just blackmailing you emotionally ....this was exactly what my ex gf was doing till she finally broke up with me

This is the same thing I saw from the chats.

Op ladies can be very cunning in stuff like this. Don't overestimate your position.

Hurlarzan139:
Good afternoon Nairalanders.

There is this girl that we've been dating for up to a year now, she love me so much and I love her so much too. When we started everything is going on smoothly until like 3 months back now that we started having issues regularly.

She has this attitude of talking recklessly without thinking of the consequences of what she says. I am the angry type, whenever she talk to me anyhow and I reply her back anyhow too she will be crying foul. For me not to be receiving blame, I always cool my temper even when she know I'm 100% angry. So as not to overreact, I wlll just be quiet. She just entered school this October and fast forward to around last week, she told me that one guy living around her hostel always disturb her that she like her and when the disturb is much she later gave him her number, immediately I told her to tell the guy not to call her again and she should block the guy number. So this week on Friday, she confessed that she accepted to date the guy, that she did it becaue the guy is disturbing her too much.. I got mad at her and tell her again to blocked the guy number which she did. She later accused me of not having human feelings that I should pity the guy, she said if she blocked the guy now that how do I expect the guy to feel. Since then I just couldn't think straight, I don't know if I should call this attitude of her kind hearted or she's making fool of me. She has been begging me since last night to forgive her that she will not do such again, but I don't believe her, cause my mind is telling me she will continue talking to the guy becaue they live next house to each other.
She's not a kid cause she' will be 20 soon.

This is someone with all what she's doing that I still instructed my younger sister which is the same age with her to help me buy stuff for her for Christmas and New Year. I told my sister this morning all what happened, she couldn't believe it.

Please, my question is what should I do? She's coming to my place next week, and I'm thinking of sitting her down and let her know the gravity of what she did. Or I should just zero her from my mind.

Make Una no mind my English ooo..

Please moderators, Abeg help me push this to front page so that elders on here can see it and contribute.

How many times will they warn you people about students?!

Romanoff:
I believe anyone, man or woman would know when it is the right time. Age is not a factor.

You'll feel this need to share your life with someone and when you're in a relationship with someone who sparks this need of you wanting to share your life, especially if you've found peace and happiness with the person, that's the right time.

Unfortunately, it doesn't happen very early for most people. For other women, because of societal pressure or family pressure, or even peer pressure, they marry who is available so as not to be called names.

This is one of the reasons some women aren't faithful in marriage. They pretended to love the man, be the perfect wife so they could be MRS, then in the marriage, reality hit them so they'll look for a piece of what they need in any man that fancies them or they fancy.

I know of a friend who married at 21 and by her 27th birthday, she was in her second marriage. I know of another who married as a virgin at 33 and I can say to a reasonable extent that she's happily married.

Everyone's time is different. Don't let society pressure you into marrying a man you know you can't love, respect and be with long term. The same society will tag you a divorcée when the chips are down.

As you lay your bed, na so you go lie on top.

Nice write up. You wrote very well.

theButterfly:
Maybe if he had respected her (when she arrived to pick him up), she wouldn't have behaved that way. Respect begets respect.


They didn't have to accept it - it's not by force. He really didn't owe them anything (a lift, token, etc) other than a "Thank you. I really appreciate your help and kindness. God bless and take care".

Madam, please don't do like the OP's gf simple. Our kindness to others shouldn't be a function of the way we feel at the particular point in time.

theButterfly:
So because she's just a girlfriend she should be treated with lesser respect?

LOLs. Yes, he "ordered them to enter the car" while she "ordered them to come down". I'm sure those girls were thinking, "Which kain wahala be this na?" and were probably happy to be on their way, away from the drama.

Yes she should especially when she behaves that way.

theButterfly:
There's nothing wrong with being kind. Perhaps if they weren't already upset w/ each other for not picking each other's calls or he hadn't accused her of lying in their presence, giving them a lift wouldn't have been a problem, but it was. He should've thank the two ladies, give them a token for their help (which would've been more than enough kindness on his part in response to their own), then be on his way with the gf. When they get home and are both calm, they can then talk things out. But getting out of the car to join them was wrong. If he was a married man, would that have been the right thing to do to his wife? This was an unnecessary battle that could've ended right there.

I am not excusing his action of accusing his gf in front of strangers but please don't compare a wife to a girlfriend.

theButterfly:
When your girlfriend arrived to pick you up, you should've simply thanked the two ladies for their help, said your goodbyes to them, get in the car and be on your way.

All of you saying this are really pissing me off! What's wrong with a little kind gesture? Even if they hadn't helped the op prior to that point, what's so bad in giving them a lift since they were going in the same direction? They were two ladies for crying out loud, the less likely anything personal was involved.

binghamm:
I'm seeing two girls at the moment
I want to settle for one. Getting married isn't a problem. I have the money and the plan.
Problem is:
I like both. Let's call them A and B.
A is very smart, can hold conversations for long and is well informed on topical issues. She's however from a poor home, isn't that pretty and working a rather dead-end job. I have tried tried to push her to use her wits to help herself, but she just seems unmotivated.
B is reaaallly pretty. That's not surprising. She comes from a rich home, has lived very guarded all her life and so has radiantly glowing skin. Ajebutter, let's say. She schooled abroad and now works a fine job where she earns very decently. On the other hand, she can't hold a conversation and is not well-informed. You could say she isn't that smart. Her family and connections clearly got her where she is today.

Now I'm just confused who to settle for as I don't have a lot of time to make up my mind. Even though my head wants to settle for A, I don't know if I can stomach living with her for the rest of my life. The only time we have the most fun is when I'm away and we discuss international politics, Brexit, History, etc on WhatsApp. Once we see, I don't have that much interest again. But at this stage, my mind is just going for B who I feel most proud of when we are out together in public. Any advice?

When you are ready to be married, you will know. Even if the list na A to Z.

She better hope he doesn't sign for Arsenal

Arsenal fans, na play o

bryanarchie:
his dad has been sick for years and I know he will not die...
but what about me and his son, why do we have to be alone...

I'm tired of going to my father's house for Christmas, I want to kill my own chicken, I feel bad....

You must be trolling.

Bakrabas:



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Ilovebigboobs:

Yhh he knows

How many clean sheets did Becker have last season?

21.

Preshy561:

Madam, since you already know which gender lies and tells the truth, isn't it best you ask the man at home instead of coming here to seek for advise?
Don't you have a man at home to tell you the truth? Mtchew.

Why are you taking it personal? She didn't call your name. You could just ignore rather than making a mountain out of a molehill.