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Notyourtype:
Hello Guys,

Is it even possible to have up to six kids without having a male child?

I have a friend, who wanted to have only 4 kids. He's now counting six and will count more because he has refused to have a male child.

When the wife gave birth to the fifth child, then my friend was very anxious to having a male child. But as soon as the news got to him that his wife gave birth to another female child, he send a message to his wife at the hospital not to come to his house with the child. He said his wife has a curse on her, that is why she refused to give birth to a male child. We had to beg him before he allowed his wife home.

The issure now is that his wife just gave birth to the sixth child again today, and another female child. He his just very confused right now.

He just told me now that people says the fault his not from her wife but rather on his side. And he want me to help him on what the problem is.

Pls nlanders, what do you think is the problem, and how can he give birth to a male child?

You friend is actually very ignorant and a bit egocentric. A woman has no power in determination of the child's sex, it's obviously the man's responsibility. If he gives her a "Y" chromosome carrying sperm cell then she will give him a boy but as long as he keeps giving her "X" chromosome she'd keep bearing girls.
And that's happens cos he might probably have unhealthy habits, stress, drinking, smoking, e.t. cos these things with bad habits kill the Y sperm cells

Mooh247:





What does he need a pilot job for as the son of former IGP and In-Law of Dangote


Why are they misconstruing what the nigga said for sentimental purpose, he didn't support or justify Deborah's death, he only caution people not to insult others God and Creator

Mob action is crime and should be punished with capital punishment as stipulated in our constitution

To people who seem not to get me clearly

KILLING ANYONE FOR ANY REASON IS A CRIME

HOWEVER I CONDEMN ANYONE WHO INSULT OTHER PEOPLE'S GOD AND THIS IS NOT A JUSTIFICATION FOR GRUESOME MURDER

Again i repeat to the stubborn deaf ones

KILLING ANYONE FOR ANY REASON IS A CRIME

HOWEVER I CONDEMN ANYONE WHO INSULT OTHER PEOPLE'S GOD AND THIS IS NOT A JUSTIFICATION FOR GRUESOME MURDER







.

Call a spade a spade...
If it looks like a dog, barks like a dog then it is a dog...

GraciousGod190:
I am 38 years old and have never had a girlfriend, never dated before. What I do is visit brothel and back to my house, this habit have been with me since I was a young boy and sometimes I envy those people who actually talk about their ex.

You see it's not like I can't get a girl but I have one physical problem that's keeping them away from me, some only tag along because of my money. But when I stop giving them, they stop coming close.

Some cover their nose when I try gisting them, one even insulted me that I get mind o, to open my smelling mouth to gist her.

This is getting suicidal, the funny thing is I always join people to jubilate that "THOSE WHO DONT HAVE GIRLFRIEND HAS PEACE OF MIND" but deep inside me I know am a reject and I wished I had one.

As for my physical deformity have tried everything but its seems not to work. I'm feeling suicidal, loneliness every night and day.

After dressing nice wearing good perfumes, The thing is once I open my mouth and they see my teeth, it's over.. because of that I try as much to be on my own to avoid insult.

Firstly, you've got to stop that ungodly habit that's reducing the essence of your life to 2MB I.e the sleeping with prostitutes.
Secondly, visit a good dentist and your challenge will be over.

Jashub:
Another powerless Christian advertising what he has no knowledge of

Walk and pass!

You don't need any special Prayer or deliverance session to liberate yourself from the sackles of satan concerning sexual immorality. What you require is to serve satan breakfast in the name of Jesus and that's all. For those that don't comprehend the previous statement, I mean all that you require to do is to send satan packing as simple as "satan I cast you out of my life and body in the name of Jesus Chris,Amen."

1Cor.6.19 - Or don't you know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself,
1Cor.6.20 - for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.
Mark.16.17 - These signs will accompany those who believe: They will cast out demons in my name, and they will speak new languages.
Col.1.12 - always thanking the Father, who has enabled you to share the inheritance that belongs to God's holy people, who live in the light.
Col.1.13 - For he has rescued us from the one who rules in the kingdom of darkness, and he has brought us into the Kingdom of his dear Son.

You have the ability to believe God's word when you receive it, so believe it and come back to share your testimonies.
Any questions?

Niece:
Captain Jamil Abubakar, a son-in-law of Africa’s richest man, Aliko Dangote, has justified the killing of blasphemers.

Jamil, an experienced pilot and the President of the JMD Foundation, a non-profit organization, stated this in a Friday night tweet.

Jamil, who is the son of former Inspector-General of Police Mohammed Abubakar, made the remarks in the aftermath of the death of Deborah Samuel, a student in Sokoto State who was killed by her classmates for allegedly blaspheming Prophet Muhammad.

The pilot said that blasphemy is frowned upon by all religions and urged people to respect the beliefs of others.
https://www.instagram.com/p/CdiM5InIG2h/

He tweeted,
https://twitter.com/CaptJamyl/status/1525218874303684609

Blasphemy against the Holy Spirit isn't forgiven doesn't mean you'd stand in the place of JUDGE, the only one with that responsibility is Jesus.
Plus you people should truly research and know what Blasphemy against God truly means.
If I should ask you now I'm not certain you'd be able to provide the accurate response.

jackals:
I'm a beautiful woman in my 30s (33 precisely) with a good career and a budding startup in the make-up business. I'm also very humble and I'm one that appreciate the little things a man do. Recently, I got linked to a guy who just came back from the US and have the intention of settling down just like me. He's successful and very respectful the First time we met, and I was already looking forward to something meaningful with him.

Last week Sunday, he took me out. When I got back home, I noticed I've embarrassed myself too much by literally throwing myself at him. I withdrew and form busy by not responding to his texts and calls for two days. WhatsApp message read but not replied.

On Tuesday, I noticed he didn't message me for the whole day. But I became bothered. Up till now, he has not called me nor message me. I didn't want things to be like this, I just didn't want it to be like I'm desperate of his attention.

Is he that he has moved on or not really interested

Firstly how do you know you're truly humble?
Self appraisal is deceitful and deception you should know. And the scriptures say in proverbs that those who judge themselves by themselves aren't wise.
Unto your plight now, while reading your article only one thing came to my heart, and that is aren't you too matured to be playing games?
I avoided using "too old" cos age is but numbers. But the point is know what you want and go for it. Be open, be plain, be honest and truthful. Stop playing games. Above all talk to God!

APC2:
I created this new account to hide my identity.

We live in a highbrow area in Ogun state with one Kid of 2 years. My wife is not working, she is attending a university in Ogun state where we lived. My wife always watch African Magic, Zee World or running from one prayer house to another. She does not respect me at all. Living with her for 3 years now is hell on earth.

Yesterday, she told me that she attended a program conducted by a prayer ministry and the the General Overseer, a woman told her to bring a bag of rice as a seed. I told her I don't have money to buy a bag of rice for a ministry I don't know anything about. She got angry and told me that I must give her the money before I go to work. To my greatest surprise, she block the door and told me that I am not going anywhere until I give her the money for the bag of rice that the woman of God need the rice that yesterday. I got angry and tried to push her, she gave me a heavy slap and began to shout and insulting me using English so that every neighbour will hear. I was so ashamed and forced my myself out of the flat, she ran after me, held my clothe and tear it down.

I return back to my flat, carry a cable wire and beat her until she couldn't stand up. I'm an operation manager in my company, I went to work, took excuse and went to police station. I carried two police to arrest the general overseer, when we got there, she started swearing that she did not tell my wife to bring any rice, that it is my wife that volunteer to bring. The police did not arrest her again. I returned to office and notify her parents.

Her parents came in the night and after I explained to them, they insulted their daughter and apologize to me. I told my wife to follow her parents she refused.

So about 12:00 midnight, my wife started again, threatening me that she will deal with me, talking loudly again that I called her parents to come and insult her and she will pay me back in a way that I will regret knowing her.

When I couldn't sleep, I went out of the house at about 2:00AM to look for a near-by hotel to sleep. Immediately I entered the hotel, a young lady standing in front of the hotel followed me to the reception. I was thinking she want to book a room as well. The receptionist told me that the available room is 17, 000. I accepted and paid. I was directed to the room and as I entered, somebody knocked the door. I open the door and it was the young lady that followed me to the reception when I was entering the hotel. Before I knew she entered the room and said, "oga, I will do you well, na just 4,000 you go give me". She started touching me and I told her to stop it. I was so disturb by wife problems and I needed someone to talk with. So I accepted the lady. We spent the night together and had sex twice. This is my first time of having sex with another woman since I married in 2019.

I am always at home with my family when I return from work and I think my wife is taking that for granted. I will be going out from now to meet other women. I am completely tired of the marriage and I am considering marrying another wife that can give me peace and respect.

You should ask God to forgive you and repent from this ungodly act and plan.
You're now the one successful destroying your marriage, not satan, not your wife and obviously not the many Prayer houses she's been going to.
You should understand properly what is meant by the man is the head of the home.
You want to start frolicking with a Multitude of strange women and reduce your life to 1Megabyte?

Tonero5200:
I Just attended a wedding ceremony where the celebrants told the mc to announce to the public that people shouldn't bother spraying them. the mcee said it loud and clear, that we should eat and drink and keep our change to ourselves or we should come spray him the mcee or DJ. As a normal nigeria at first we were happy, atleast money is saved, but as time went on we realised they were certain people that were allowed and expected to sprayed while they were dancing, the celebrant peers and all, Rain of cash everywhere... meaning we that they saw we were likely coming to spray with 500# or 1k were rebuked, probably they don't need our 50naira, change.

I felt embarrassed and angry at the same time, that's ill-mannered from them, I hate it when people look down on me, because they are financially bouyant they think they can look down on people anyhow. Well I look to see them in few years time where they will be. I wished them a normal married Life and withold the happiness from it because I don't think they need it.

This is how evil thoughts and desires come into manifestation. So because your nice gesture was politely rejected you started wishing ill for a couple that the Lord has blessed?
I refuse to be broke in my life cos there's a kind of wicked, heartless and proud mentality poverty gives to people.

SEGLIZ:
I'm sorry about that, I'll return to it and do that.

And that was the very reason why it's meaning was misconstrued.

SEGLIZ:
I was only confirming what you said not against you.

to this over civilised generation, foolishness to them is civility.

to them your comment is nothing but lie even when on the affirmative it is true. you didn't take time to digest my response to you comment.

You didn't punctuate your first response rightly

victooman:
l am not intimidated bro, my complain boils more out of concern than intimidation , certificate in this era doesn't make anyone bigger, l have a degree bro,but l have meet a lot of this igbo guys doing well in their business ,their level of exposure and the way they package themselves doesn't even show any sign they didn't attend a university, grooming yourself and making good money set you on the pedestal not certificate,, though we have settled, thanks for ur advice

Beautiful

MistarT:
Please candid opinions will be appreciated. Thanks.

Itwill do humanity great good, if we hear from marriage counsellors with wide range of experiences, thanks.

Don't do it!!! unless you've got a confirmation from God yourself directing you on such path.

Cyntie55:
There is this guy, we dated for 2 years before he traveled abroad (Italy) 2019. Our relationship was going on well even when he traveled out, we were always calling each other on video calls everyday. I was so faithful to him.

Suddenly (last year March), he started avoiding me. He could go for months before he replies my calls or chats.
Atleast no matter how busy you are, you can always spare 1 minutes of your time with the person you claim you love.

Please note, he's always online, We do video calls mostly on WhatsApp and anytime I try to reach him on video call or send him a message.... it always ring and deliver but he won't pick or reply.

Here are my reasons why I'm so confused whether to move on with my life or not.

1) Although before he started avoiding my calls, he told me he was busy... that he was working on something (but he never disclosed the particular "thing" to me)

2) We were supposed to get married as planned last year August. But this is May 2022 and absolutely nothing is in progress about it.

3)I discussed with his friend about it and he told me he's in a relationships over there. (I don't know if to believe him or not, because he didn't show me proof)

Now, it been a year I'm enduring his character. I feel like I'm stuck alone in this relationship. Heaven knows I haven't offended him in any way. I wish he could open up to me and tell me what I was doing wrong so that I could adjust. OR he should just tell me he's in a relationship so that I could move on.

I plan visiting his elder sister this weekend and explain to her the issue on ground but on a second thought I think I'm too forward. I'm jst confused and I feel hurt.

You already know what to do... so carry on...
Visit the sister and explain things... Best still have her call him in your presence...

2blockus:
Good afternoon Landers.

I have finally resign from the banking job and I am very happy now with my earnings and freedom.

For me to resign I had to work as Bolt driver everyday I close from the bank and drive till 10pm and worked all through the weekends as a bolt driver, with this I was able to save 1million in short period of time and got loan of 1.5m to get another car.

So now my monthly savings after other expenses is 200k which I plan to pay back the loan in six month starting form this month.

I only work from Wednesday to Sunday every week now since I resigned.
Thanks for all the support from here, other contract staff bankers especially men reading this post should look for exits root immediately as there is no future in the banking industry for us as a polytechnic graduates.

Congratulations and God bless your efforts in Jesus name Amen.
So inspiring

Cutecharlz:
Greetings everyone. My company just shut down due to economic polices, no incoming business nor fund to sustain the staff. So as it is now, I am back to the street.
I made a savings of 500k from my meagre salary of 65k monthly. I am married with a kid.
What business can I venture into that can sustain I and my family before house-hold expense will reduce the money to nothing.

Please I need a good and legit advice from everyone.

Thanks.

Any business that has to do with the basic necessities of human beings, food, water, clothing, housing, entertainment etc

Mystery2020:
Our then neighbor was informed that I would like to work pending when school resumes. Few days later, she had some guests among whom was the wife of a super dealer of multi-choice. She too had her own small company.

So our neighbor informed her about me and she agreed. It was a Sunday, she said I should resume the next day being Monday.

I was there on Monday. She asked someone to show me how to do what will be my routine task. She assigned some other tasks which I did.

All through, I noticed that she was not comfortable with my personality. She kind of preferred a more outgoing person. Then she said I don't know how to count money, that I can't do the work. So she gave me transport fare and I went home.

That was my first job ever!

Did you ask to precisely what you didn't get right?
Adaptability is a great gift for any staff

Zanzibar1:
I have come here to raise this issue because i believe someone must have passed through what i am going through at the moment.

There is this Lady i met in March, she is super classy and has all the curves and looks like a model. What brought us together was just a friendly convo and a friendly tease that i admire her nails and since then she has been all over me.
She asked me if i lived alone and i told her i currently stay with a friend because i just relocated to the city based on job hunting levels. She asked what my plan was and i told her that i would like to first get an apartment while i sort out other things.

I don't know what exactly she does for a living although she said she sells women hairs, bags and shoes. I have actually seen her post them on her whatsapp. What surprise me the most was that she doesn't deny me access to her phone. This made me to loosen my grip a bit regarding my phone privacy ... Then one day, she saw a loan app message requesting me to pay my outstanding debt, she asked me how come and i told her the truth that i was seriously broke and i wanted to take her out. I wanted the two of us to go swim together and have fun. And that was why i took the loan. She frowned and asked why i was stressing myself to impress her .
She transfered some money to me to offset the debt. it all happened like juju. i am still trying to wrap my head around that.

I am trying my best to fit in with her but something is really off somewhere. I don't want to assume i know entirely what she does for a living but then, i have grown to really admire her. I wouldn't want to call it love but all my thoughts are always about her nowadays. Like 4 days ago i questioned her about some friends of hers i saw on her icloud and since then she has been giving me tough time.

Lately, she told me point blank that if i cant get my own apartment, she'll have to stop dating me. she said she is ready to even pay part of the money involved but a nigga got nothing to afford even a face me and face you room. I have tried my best to explain to her how i am even surviving and how broke i am to get a 150k self con. She keeps saying i am going to get a job and ill be fine, that i am a man and i will certainly raise the money if she as a lady can raise part of it.

I dont know why she believes so much in that tho cuz i have been very opened to her. My mind has been filled up and i dont have anyone to share it with thats why i brought it here. i have my doubts about her but i love her.

Please pardon any typos, i am writing this straight from my heart

Make she show you road.

victooman:
Please help advice me,

We both finished our NYSC service last year, luckily enough we started a POS business and as God will have it, we are both doing well, we both make a minimum of 5k at least on daily basis.

The main problem is that of recent she is talking about applying for her masters degree, l told her what is the essence of going for masters degree when the degree we obtain has not been any useful to us, why not expand this particular business, be financially stable before you start talking about masters, beside we need to build our self financially well if we have to settle down.

She told me that is her long time ambition and she is not expecting any money from me, she left my house this morning with anger.

Please Nairalanders, did l do anything wrong? What is the best way to handle this issue?

Amazing, but why can't you kill two birds with one stone? There's truly no cause for a misunderstanding between you too. And if you breakup or even consider breaking up with her then you might somewhat be limited in vision. While there is credence to your concerns about your already gotten degrees the fact remains that having a masters degree opens up more opportunities and who knows where it will take her to.
The truth is you should change your mind and not feel intimidated at all by her ambitions and academic desires instead support her fully

Profmetoo:
I have been gambling since around 2014 and never for once have I ever decided to quit despite destroying my life, career, relationships, and self esteem. It was as if I was cursed with it. I was so addicted to gambling that I'd rather gamble with my money than to buy cloths on my body. I've read so many stories here on nairaland from people who suffered similar faith, but I'd be looking out for comments from people who would say gambling isn't that bad just to encourage myself. Now I'm at level zero. I have no job, no money, no relationship, but friends who are also addicts. I'm cutting them off.

I believe it's not too late for me to make it in life, so I'm believing in God for miracles. Some people might think i can still relapse when i make some money, but so help me God I won't. I have eradicated anything that'd remind me of gambling, deactivated my betting account and focusing on how to make my life better. Betting can never get you rich. It is what I've come to realize anyways.

I don't want to ever return to gambling even when I make enough money. Right now I'm just looking for money to eat and survive.

I hope those going through same would take that bold step and come out of that shell of bondage. It is well.


I'll update my progress once in a while on this thread.

Oh may the Lord who has caused light to shine upon your heart, strengthen you, help you and keep you from relapsing in Jesus name,Amen.

[quote author=22o62021 post=112641146][/quote]I wonder why people posts these stories and experiences online, cos personally I think your next actions are clearly spelt out... cos this is the beginning of many more to come...
Move on...

Voldoz:
Thanks guys , it tastes similar to honey

Tastes like honey cos it was prepared with honey...

NasCarter:
I am a 28yo medical student still in 400L and i am feeling like i am too old..

There are those older than you still in medical school and in junior levels. Keep calm and be humble

Kobojunkie:
Pretty much entire generations know more about the doctrines(opinions) and traditions of their pastors mogs, than they do of Jesus Christ and what He actually taught. Their idea of what the Gospel comes from the lies fed them by men and not from experience with Jesus Christ Himself.

Now you're speaking.
And I could comment on this.
So whose fault is it?
The people's fault ofcourse.
Remember the Berean Christians who when they were taught went back to search and verify that it was so.
Most people have become so lazy that they can't study the word for themselves

KINGJAJA888:
Nairalanders Good day. My Pops is a Senior Pastor in one of the Pentecostal Churches in Nigeria and has devoted his life to Church.
Ironically I don't believe in God. Never been the religious type. I See no sense that in 2022 humans still live by a book written by someone in 18BC. Doesn't make any sense to me.
Pops wishes I were religious lyk him carrying some big story book (Bible) with me about Lol.
I'm too woke for those fairy tales Sorry.
Watch my Pops dedicate his whole life to someone's business (Church) as they seriously exploit him.
I've advised him Severally but he won't listen. I Can't be like him. I'm Smart, Handsome, Rich and Non-religious. And I Will remain so.

I love people like you, who always create an opportunity for the word of God to produce results in their lives...
Firstly the calling of God upon your father is not inherited, neither is faith in God nor revelations.
You know some people need to be slapped by the devil before they see the light of God.
If I must comment, your wokeness is actually blindness to a whole new level as the scriptures already foretold.
2Cor.4.3 - If the Good News we preach is veiled from anyone, it is a sign that they are perishing.
2Cor.4.4 - Satan, the god of this evil world, has blinded the minds of those who don't believe, so they are unable to see the glorious light of the Good News that is shining upon them. They don't understand the message we preach about the glory of Christ, who is the exact likeness of God.

princeemmma:
Recently I heard my daughter saying "Zazoo zeh" she is not up to 2years though. Am that kind of person that always caution myself and watch the kind of music I listen at home, but she did not learn the word at home, am sure she might have heard it somewhere in her mom shop, because my wife shop is located somewhere very rough, a lot of children in the environment. But my wife does not see this as a big deal. She always told me that she can't stop the little girl from playing with other children in the hood and that's true. That day when I heard her say that word, I called her to myself and told her not to say the word again that it's not good saying such word, she nodded in approval.

Two days ago I heard her saying this common words "Eni pe". I felt really bad, because I don't want my daughter to learn those bad words, but my wife feel am overreacting.

Am I overreacting truly? How do I stop my daughter from saying such words?

Please help a friend

Prov.4.24 - Avoid all perverse talk; stay far from corrupt speech.

If you dont agree with that then you're over reacting.
Scriptures say to train up a child in the way she SHOULD GO and not in the way she wants to go.
Make her unlearn those things

ikorodureporta:
People don't care like they used to....they don't attend meetings...

Is that how it is in your church?

Because iniquity abounds the love of many is waxing cold.
And most Christians have failed to realised that we're actually present in the times of the last hours of the last days which Apostle Paul spoke to Timothy about, that it's going to be difficult to be a Christian .
So care for one another and pray for one another.

Sheffdon:
Good people of nairaland

What can my friend apply on this leg? He's tried everything possible

And the funny thing is, he feels no to little pain in the leg

Pls we will welcome your good suggestions pls; be it medical or natural method abeg

And water also comes out from time to time too.

Lay your hands on that leg and say "You unclean spirit,come out and never return into this leg in the name of Jesus Christ "

NurseMaryUSA:
With so many scams going on how can an African American female find a serious African man to marry. It doesn't seem like many African men are interested in marrying us.

Ask your trusted relatives with good morals and excellent spirituality. They'll link you up

effico:
Please which one is state academic loan?

most states have that in the education board.

Kobojunkie:
I don't think the question is vague at all this since almost all 2. 5 billion or so Churchians out there who claim to be Christians are Implicated.

Okay, the question seems vague to me

Deeprooted:
This really opened up my eyes. It seems to be the canker worms the Bible talked about.

Very true.