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This can't be real. What man is ok with this kind of relationship? That his friend is flirting with his wife?

DreamSonInlaw:
God bless you real, real good. I hope lot of Nigerian girls have this your mindset.
It's a big issue for me, I can't marry a girl that only a graduate. Have something doing no matter how little; sewing, baking, interior decor.

What if something happens to me? What then happens to our kids? Or I am not in town you calling me for sugar, water..you know how mentally draining that is

Very important. The woman must be able to bring money into the home.

I pray no man marries a woman who would rather have a spend mindset rather than a growth mindset. Every tree needs nutrients and foundation to grow strong. No seed germinates immediately.

I am not so worried for Nigerian women. I am aware that the noise makers are a minority of the female populace. However that minority, flee from them. They add no value to your life - absolutely none!!

People and words. Going through difficult times is normal but to now be insulting your partner during those times is something I cannot stand.

Job's wife told him to curse God and die. She insulted and left Job. Job wasn't a poor man. He was going through difficult times.

How a partner behaves during difficult times is hard to predict. However a partner bringing nothing to the table and starts insulting their spouse during difficult times is the very height of immaturity and stupidity. That person is a liability.

I hate advising women. Whatever they have decided to do, they will do it. Many were the times, I would waste my mouth and brain on providing advice. Results were almost always the same.

Stubbornness boku for that gender. I will say my own sha. OP, this route you want to take is not recommended.

Hmm this is sad to see. Was there a background to the reason for the beating?

I am familiar with the school and its use of corporal and physical punishment. For an SS3 student to have been beaten like that - there are serious questions that need to be answered.

LyfeJennings:
Lemme share a true life story
My present girlfriend is richer than me
On like 3 occasion, she helped with some very funny bill
Yesterday, we dey talk
She jokingly seriously told me
"You no get money guy, U are a broke, U not even near what a man should be"
I swear I wan die
E pain me ehnnnn
My ego was bruised but she no lie

In your shoes I would look for plan B. That joke is not acceptable. I can't imagine telling another human I have a relationship with that crap.

PS those crying racism need to go look at club academies. They no dey look colour.

googlepikins:
He looks like a racists sef

Stop misyarning. That is not the coach. Matt Taylor was coach at Spurs in 2019. Is that when Troost was 19? Sometimes go and do proper research.

There is another coach. No be dis one. You have already started insulting him. Also the name Matt in the OP is clearly a grammatical error.

Need to understand who Troost was competing with then in the Spurs Academy.

descarado:
The problem isn't about culture or were it's done.
That's how it's done everywhere.
The problem is why he was cast aside in his own wedding?

Even if you want to sponsor my wedding with 10m, shouldn't I join in the planning?

Well, goodluck to you guys if it's how prospective inlaws are looked down on.

Una don forget say na their wedding - your only job is to be present. The wedding is an opportunity in South West for the parents to demonstrate their capability.

OP should have no worries. In fact he should go buy small gift for the in-laws to greet them.

Not enough information in your post

By your group's culture, who pays for wedding?
By your girl's culture, who pays for wedding?

In your culture, is it frowned on for one party to support the other?

Are your own people getting upset and putting aggressive notions in your head?

EDIT; Just seen that you married a Yoruba girl. There is nothing to worry about. Go and find something else to disturb your mind. It is only if your people are troubling you. At the very least be happy that you won't have in-laws headache in future as regards financial support. In order for you to not be treated as economic outpatient sha, you will need to demonstrate that you are taking care of their daughter. Daddies don't like seeing their princesses suffer. A word is enough for the wise.

tollyboy5:
Omo wahala 4 who dey reason unnecessary things.
Na d lady go lose last last.
If he tell his brother and they got married.
Bitterness might come in.
Having knowing his brother was his wife ex.
Some secret are meant to be taking to the grave.
Your wahala too much

The decision is his to make. Blood is more important for me.

So siblings from one family who married siblings from another family is taboo? I see nothing wrong.

tollyboy5:
Not everything are meant to be told. Use ur head

I am using my head. I think you should find yours and use it.

The earlier he tells his brother the better especially once he has confirmed the lady's identity. It doesn't mean that she is loose but no man should be able to say he has inserted his penis in his brother's wife either in the past or present.

This is your blood brother - you are talking about. And your first instinct isn't to tell him?

You are an idiot. That is what came to my mind.

You escaped a situation and want to enter it again.

Some of those prices look very high not to mention the grammatical errors.

Depends on who the groom is.

PS it looks very fake.

Where do y'all see these types of women? For me it is a fatal flaw and I would move on from her. It is up to you what your preferences are. You can't change a person especially after the contract has been signed.

africandollar:
The only positive thing about that is that it still shows that a good number of our male actors are non-homos, because the way homos are being popularized daily in Naija sef dey fear me these days.

You assume say na guy give her money? Girls too dey bat for the other side o.

Time to sell their shares if this is true.

You are immature.

Yes, yes, yes. What is the shame in making money? Had a friend she left a job to go start making pap. Big time lady now.

You are being mischievous. He clearly stated that he prays Nigeria is there in 2023. He even hinted that people would use his statement in this way.

What he clearly meant was that you do not know what the future holds so be careful when planning for the future.

Super story.

Stupid behaviour by the girl. A simple no would suffice. The slap was unnecessary.

Call a spade a spade before insulting Nigerians. As much as people like forcing certain behaviours, majority of Nigerians are conservative. As long as certain activities are done in private - no one will judge you.

This video and the subsequent interview by the girl shows poor judgement. In the name of popularity - she did these things. Of all things to do - it is to compete in a dancing contest that she was aware is recorded and she decided to twerk to win 30k. What did she think would happen? A recorded video nowadays is coming out on social media. Did she consider her family's honour and reputation before she did these things on video?

The reaction to have her father lose contracts is in my opinion too much but I wonder if any of them came with a good behaviour clause. It may be that the father wasn't performing and this was used as an opportunity to get rid.

In short for me - I wasn't aware of this entire situation till I saw this thread. I avoid watching certain things and I sincerely pray that my children and others do not show the lack of judgement or thinking this girl did.

I don't get what is wrong about army removing checkpoints. Is there further information that is not being shared?

megapriest:
A mediocre Arsenal? ,Always choose ur words with respect...Remember Arsenal brought Emery from PSG just as Chelsea brought Tuchel.

Was that not an ambitious move by Arsenal? The fact remains that Emery in Spain is like a fish in the ocean .Emery is a king only in Spanish football he will flop outside there.

He flopped at PSG before he was booted out....NEWCASTLE FOR STILL SACK AM

Tuchel also flopped at PSG, didn't he - based on your logic. Emery has coached in France, Spain and England. He has won trophies with French and Spanish clubs. He is a 4 time Europa champion. Arsenal in their history has not won more than 3 European trophies. Their record is mediocre compared to Unai's in Europe. His record at Arsenal despite the way he was treated and disrespected by that club shows he was the last to lead them to a final.

richmondefosa:


Not an ambitious man in my books.

Manchester United gave this guy relevance by losing the Europa League final.

If not, who is Unai Emery?

An Arsenal reject.

You are joking? This guy has won more European tournaments than l'arse. He was known before joining Arsenal. Your post instead reveals your ignorance!

Kobojunkie:
Being a Christian has to do with the way I live my own life, not the way others live theirs. I can only make Christian choices for my own life... I have no right to force those Christian choices on others.

Why should she stop if she is not convinced that doing so will be in her favor?

Read my posts very carefully. Read your posts carefully. Then whatever thing that is making your mind create positions from thin air - let it go. I say it is her choice - you mention forcing. Odikwa that thing you are looking for - doesn't reside here.

Kobojunkie:
If runs is what she wants to do, then what is wrong with that? It is her life and her choice.

I thought you said you were Christian. It is truly her choice how she decides to leave and I see no change in her decisions to continue doing runs.

She should stop but hey she can look up to people like you to guide her.

Stories that touch the heart. She doesn't see anything wrong in the runs she did. What she is afraid of is what a man told her.

She isn't changing. Forget it.