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betabread:
With so much uproar or marketing of dna test online, one should really put on his thinking hard and ask simple questions, can nature really make mistake...... In every offspring the man donates half while the woman donates half of the genetic material.......seriously one does not need a thousand dollar test to know if a child is truely his, him must take something resemble him papa....no need for soothe Sayers..... The idea of a dna test only comes to play when close relatives are vieing for the paternity of a child.......


Please let's not fall for this marketing gimmick......... Apples have never given rise to oranges and never will

No matter how you try to deceive anyone it will not work...a child may look so much like his or her mother that a man may not suspect that the child is not his if truly the child is not his. It is better to spend 150k, to know the true father of a child, than spend a fortune training and raising another man's child and then one fool comes from nowhere to claim the child as his...churches must as a matter of necessity start requiring DNA test results/declaration of paternity before child dedication. Some fathers may know the child is not theirs but still want to raise the child as theirs such fathers should submit a declaration of paternity otherwise submit DNA test results. Shikena. If you are afraid of this development then you must have a ton of skeletons in your cupboard.

blunt2dcore:
Truly speaking,Covid-19 has divided the world into two categories : 1)the vaccinated ones waiting for the unvaccinated people to die
2)the unvaccinated ones waiting for the vaccinated ones to die before taking decisions on the vaccination.....

What is your opinion on this? Kin2ahare your views...

There is a third category...those who just don't give a hoot about vaccines or COVID irrespective of what happens. Given the issues surrounding COVID. The fact that repurposed drugs that are effective against COVID were banned in some countries. The fact that the vaccinated are afraid of the unvaccinated (quite senseless). The fact the virus mutated within a short period of time thus implying that folks will be getting the booster shots forever. The fact that cloth and surgical masks do not slow the spread of COVID yet counties mandate masks. The fact that AstraZeneca vaccine is considered ineffective yet it was brought to Africa. The fact that despite the poor medical facilities in Africa the projections of bodies littering the streets of Africa are yet to be fulfilled and instead advanced economies were the worst hit even with their medical advancements. The fact that the vaccines cause death in a minority of people (who would like the face a 0.01% chance of dying immediately after taking the vaccine). The fact that many in advanced countries are protesting vaccine and mask mandates...all make the fear of the vaccines quite legitimate and well founded.

Love wins? What is love? How did love win?

Mynd44:
This woman is really invested in this DNA issue ooo.

If you have a child with her, her friends, relatives or those close to her, better run a DNA test as she takes this personal and it might mean someone close to her is about to get caught

25000 naira multiplied by 100000...mehn! Na to go open DNA center ohh! DNA center na the new gold ohhh.

FutureIsFemale:
Oh! What a relief. Finally a man who uses his brain has been unveiled.

NB: I don't support infidelity.

My concern is the emotional breakdown of the kids and the family at large.

Oh yes you do. You support infidelity as a means to avoid emotional breakdown...perhaps we can continue like this. More men should keep having children with women other than their wives and more women should keep having children with men other than their husband and keeping the whole thing under wraps...soon marriage will be scrapped or outlawed and anyone can sleep with anyone, get pregnant for anyone and live with anyone...if that's the utopia we seek we might as well get it!

osuofia2:
Sheikh El zakzaky is right, If Nigeria were to be under Islamic republic there wont be one single Beer, Olosho,No Ipob, No Afonja Skull Miners. Nigeria will have fresh Air.

No beer? But there will be a lot of child marriages. No olosho but men can marry and remarry several times over provided they keep a maximum of 4 wives at a time. Tell me how this isn't even worse that visiting olosho? No IPoB but ISIS, ISWAP, Al Shabaab, Al Qaeda, ISIL, etc will flow into Nigeria. Boko Haram has done more harm than IPoB multiples times over. No skull miners but there will be a lot of beheading, flogging to death, chopping off of hands etc for the poor but not for the elite (as confirmed by Hisbah leadership). Nigeria will not have any fresh air, rather it will join the ranks of Pakistan, Saudi Arabia etc and soon enough the entire Nigeria will become a desert because most muslims majority countries are deserts...whatever islam touches dies! Islam, the religion of slavery to a demon known as Allah.

syntekelite:
She wont be harmed cos woman wey waka confidently that kind time for dose area u mention is definitely not human..

Emu4life:
The best way to sleep with your two eyes closed as a Country is to acquire The Nuclear Weapon, Intercontinental Ballistic Missile and Hypersonic Missiles. The Western Imperialists cannot ne trusted.
Nice one from the NORTH.

Really? Western imperialists? Wow! Well soon those so called Western imperialists will fall and we shall see the rise of a communist dictator that will paint the globe red with the blood of humanity...enough carnage that would dwarf the number of death from plagues, flu, world wars, communist dictators and epidemics combined.

Lostchild:
I refuse to help a needy pregnant woman because I am running from my real self. Yes, I needed to save my peace and sanity

In 2018, I move to a new place, a married woman with children started and always comes to meet me to give her whatever she wants from me which I always do. One day, the husband came to me with anger, and told me to stay away from his wife. I said, OK.

Even If i use common sense - helping people I know has landed me in too many conflicts, they are just too over many for me to overlook anymore.

Because of the many years of constant betrayals that lead me to regret my life, I move to a new town and decide to start afresh. In the past I have shown too much financial care and love for women that backfire and work against me. so I decide to stay focus on myself for the first time of my life.

After living in this new place for about six months, a pregnant woman who also live in the same visinity ask me to help her. She told me to lend her some money.

She told me that, she had not eaten since morning and she wants to cook something to eat and her hubby is out of town and will be back later.

She told me she will refund me when her hubby comes back. She was pregnant, hungry and need help.

I badly wanted to but I instantly had many flash back and I told her, I don't have the money right now. I told her, why can't you go and meet that your fellow business woman down there? she may be able to help you, she replied me with God forbid.

The money she asked me, I have it in my base, three times over but I refuse to give her. I painfully refused to help her because nigeria society has made me look like a fool.

To save my peace - I just have to only help strangers and not give help to the people I know

Did I do wrong?

What do you think?

...but bros na why you go dey give married woman anything wey she want...you be CBN? Animashaun 1, oko iyawo on'iyawo. You are lucky that man did not hire an assassin to deconstruct your destiny for you...apply sense and maturity to your dealings with people abeg, before dem use you do suya!

...the best test of safety in Lagos state is if a lady can walk such areas as Palmgrove, Ikorodu, Mushin, Agege, Orile, Shomolu and Bariga alone by 1am and be unharmed...until Lagos achieves this feat it is not safe!

Abi na your number, you wan come dey do advert for yaself! I would like to know what it would cost to setup a glass front for provision store. I would also like to know what my options would be in terms of the materials needed.

Nigeriainpeace:
Good evening everyone, please any one with an idea of any good books one can read, to help come out drug addiction problem, currently, a 26 years old girl, is in serious need of help she can not hold a phone because she will exchange the phone for drugs immediately, she has nothing except the clothes she's putting on now all she have has been exchange for drugs, she was talking to church for deliverance she ran away , now she is under lock and keys in rehabilitation center, she is asking for any good book she read in there, she really wants to come out of it because she has loose a lot of things, she could not graduate from school, she could not learn any trade or handwork, her life is practical definition of waywardness, naira Landers please any idea to save her?

She ran away because the cure to her drug addiction is right there in that church and the force fueling her addiction reacted negatively to the prospect of losing its host! Deliverance is the way ohh. No amount of book reading can help. The demon responsible for that addiction needs to be expunged from her life and the legal ground that that dark entity had in the first place must also be properly addressed!

Babsojimjim:
Dear All,

Hope your day is going on fine!

Please I need expert and mature advise here.

My worries is that my wife is aware of my past life during my days as a playboy in school and the child I had then before we got married.

But am not happy with the fact that any little misunderstanding with her if I can even call it misunderstanding, because its something a lay man could understand but instead of resolving amicably, she will bring up my past which she claims makes her feel insecure in the marriage as a result she will stay away from me and be displaying silent and cold treatment to me. This affects the sanity of the entire house.

At this moment how do I handle this? I appreciate experienced input. Thanks

Note: our marriage is blessed with a child.

She insisted she must travel to see her pastor for advise and counselling as to ensure her sanity as she claimed, I paid her transport and allowed her go with our daughter to return back in three or four days time to stay in the house of one of our relation.

Dude are you sure it is her pastor she went to see for advise? Are you sure it is not her boyfriend she went to see? Are you sure the reason she is bringing up your past is not because she has been doing something sexually wrong and she needs to justify it as her getting even with your past life? Are you sure that daughter is yours? Are you sure you are a man at all? Would a man let his wife out of his sight for a good three to four days? Are you sure your wife isn't getting counseled into the next pregnancy as I type? Did your wife also confess her past exploits as you did? Are you sure it is the house of one of your relations she is currently spending the night? Are you sure your relation isn't doing the 3rd round on your wife after the pastor finalizes his own browsing? Are you sure you have sense at all? Will you ever get sense?

By the time you answer all of these questions, you would have had the advise you need!

AmazonTopaz:
First and foremost I don't support cheating and deception I can never support deception or paternity fraud but I wonder why some men are outraged over paternity fraud.

We live in a society or some of us grew up in a society that gave excuse or justified infidelity amongst men under the guise of "men are polygamous in nature"they forget that men can be used to refer to women too and that polygamous is a gender neutral word for men it is polygyny for women it is polyandry.

When you justify infidelity or adultery you reap paternity fraud because these married men sleep with married women who are wives of other men who are at the receiving end when it comes to paternity fraud.

You men cannot always eat your cake and have it you feel bad when cheated on and call women who commit adultery all sorts of names but hail men when they cheat on women what happened to what is good for the goose is good for the gander.Some people seem to forget that the cheating men don't sleep with themselves they sleep with people's wives and girlfriends too so maybe that shows that women are polygamous in nature and two can play a game.

You cannot be preaching morality and chastity on women while failing to hold yourselves to account as well it doesn't work that way because it is a small world afterall if boys are not taught morality, decency and chastity we will continue to hear tales of paternity fraud and infidelity.

As we try to shame and tell young girls not to follow married men let's not forget to tell young boys and married men to leave married women alone it is the same polygamous men that are sleeping with these women and another man is at the receiving end of this disaster men don't sleep with themselves they sleep with women

As for the married men and women depending on your vows if you promised to be faithful try to be faithful and stop cheating beautiful women and handsome men will never finish in this word try to stick to one be contented,committed and try to learn discipline.


I think we should ask men why they are outraged

...the same reason women are outraged when their husbands get another woman pregnant...nowadays even Muslim ladies are also not on with the idea that their husbands can marry more than one wife even though their religion grants their husband the right to keep accumulating wives for all times - through successive divorces and new marriages!

BMathew:
Men Helping Men to become a Better Men.
Please, People with deeper understanding should kindly review this with me.
A lot have been going through my mind as touching the way men lives their life; (I just said their lives, meaning left with Individual's decision).
I'm laying my emphasis on "Why men are not helping men to become a better men"? Listening to what alot of men out there had done for our other gender compare to their reactions towards thier fellow men then we can bold say the hardship we have now is caused by men(cus focus is wrongly placed).

I am not saying you shouldn't help other gender but let's see this together; If the assistance you've ever render to a lady is being compared to what you've ever done to your male friend (positively), can we rate it?

Note, I'm not trying to belittle any gender nor gender biased.

I'm just thinking out loud, if we can help our fellow brother the way we "mumu" over these ladies trust me by now most of our men would have been a better person achieving purpose.

My female friend posted something on her WhatsApp status yesterday stating that, You see Abuja ladies with iPhone12, designer shoes and bag with the salary of 35,000naira per month, is with the same salary? "what about that"?

"Another guy told me how his boss built a house for a lady he slept with once"

A man can swear Heaven on Earth that he had no dime on him if his fellow brother seek for assistance but they tend to show off, spend without even expecting anything in return for ladies.


Without vain repetition, When will men start Helping Men to become a better men?

It is important to stop say "men do this...men do that...", it is more accurate to say: "some men do this...or some men do that". Two, you are not the judge of how anyone will spend his money or decides to offer help. Men, like women, all have perspectives and it governs how they make decisions and there are some who are not even aware or take cognizance of the ratio of men they have helped to the women they have helped...

engineerabj:
My fiancé is pregnant,and I don't really believe if the pregnancy is true.
We had sex on Thursday,and the following week Wednesday she called me and said she is pregnant.
Please is that possible, because when we had sex,I used protection and the condom did not burst.
Please I need an advice please.
If the pregnancy is mine I will accept,but I am just confused.

You are likely being played. Tell her to her face that you will be conducting a DNA test on the child to confirm paternity. Telling her this will shatter any plans to hide under a lie. Don't be conned into marrying her until you see the results of the DNA test or she confesses who actually got her pregnant...and you, be loyal to her if that child is yours!

fineberry:
Good pm fellow Nlanders. One Just gat to fear women/ girls of nowadays. Couldn't believe my eyes when my babe handed her phone to me, so I can see the video someone sent to her via WhatsApp. The spirit just told me to scraw up o, that's how I saw the nude pictures she has been sending to the guy.

If I was told my babe go do stuff of that nature I will outrightly deny it....i just told her its over straight up, no mixing of word.... She has being calling begging, crying for me to "please forgive her", please nlanders does a girl like that deserve a second Chance?

Say your mind.

Second chance? No she deserve ¼ chance...abi broom the trash into the dustbin and move. She has screened herself out of your life by herself. To sey you nor catch am and you marry am, chai, na so you take kill yaself be dat oh!

Breeze111:
Am really feeling so bad today...i stayed in a self con apartment with neighbours. So this evening it was raining heavily, but I had light because I put on my gen and the rain did not affect my gen because I build a small house for it. I heard a knock on my door, I was supprise on who might be knocking because I don't talk to any body in the compound(just greatingz na join me and them) and before any of my friends come to my place they most put me on call(my Principles though). When I open the door it was my neighbour wife who he brought newly from where I don't know nor care. She say she wanted to charge her phone but her charger use to check so she would love to set it herself mean while my hands werr oiled because I was cooking so I ask her to come and plug it close to the fridge. So I went straight to the kitchen to continue what I was doing when I get back(madam Don sit down for my chair they watch the Naija film wai I b they watch). Before you know she started asking me plenty questions like why is my room this fine, where am I working, am too young to have all this, she noticed I don't talk to any body in the compound. Tou from there we enter discussion, she started complaining of how her husband don't use to take her out, that her husband brought her to Abuja to suffer, that she regret rushing into marriage bla-bla-bla( but abeg ooh, why is it that all married people be it male or female like complaining about their marriage or rushing into it, we send una) omo before you know eye contact started coming in.( I swear devil na bastard, if you never do the evil wai he want he no go leave you) Tooh food was ready, I brought the food we ate, jess the food burst her head (fufu and Egusi soap) I trust myself when it comes to food I dey murder. After the meal, omo the eye contact became too much before you say Jack we were kissing...To God how I pull this woman cloth, suck boobs then........i can't explain till now, it was like firm. Have done many bad thing, kai but I think this one is the hight of all, just can't get the act out of my head...i sincerely regret my action...i don't know if I should tell her husband and ask for forgiveness

Deep down you know that after asking for forgiveness you will still lash her again...because the demon that inspired you to do it is still very much the landlord of your life.

tenry:
Please don't mind my grammatical blunders .My brother in law called my wife and I tonight sobbing profusely and confused about what to do.

He caught his wife cheating on a man erroneously believe to be her daddy's friend.

It all started when his wife's phone was bad and he gave him to repair it for him while coming from work. Engineer repaired the phone and on his way home, he curiously checked his wife's phone and discovered sex chat his wife had with the man she called her daddy's friend.

His wife snapped her private parts and sent to the man. They exchanged so many dirty videos including pornography . All the wife's family members (mother, sisters) all knew the man introduced to the husband as dad's friend.

Her dad is late. Their wedding is one year this month with a three month old girl child.

He is worried about the father of the child cos according to him, his wife had visited the man shortly after their wedding.

My wife and I have been disturbed seriously on this matter. The husband called for advice on the step to take.

Please I need your advice cos we are in shock as we didn't expect that from the lady.

He should digest the breakfast first. Next he should do DNA test for his child. Third he should call for a family meeting and he should present the evidence he found. If it turns out that the child is not his let the biological father have his child.

Modified: after seeing that the lady visited the co-cheat a few days after the wedding I would advice that he forgives the lady, ask the family of the lady return the bride price and you move on with his life...

Lamanii22:
I am in my mid 20s, is it still possible to learn tech.... Is it something hard? I don't even know what it is... And can you recommend any tech teachers.. thank you...

Everything is easy and everything is hard...it all comes down to whether you are prepared to pay the price to become a top player in a lucrative profession.

@idrisaa951 men will keep finding incentives to be stupid provided women keep choosing them as spouses. This is why I don't pity women when they get thrashed by their so called husbands. You opened your eyes wide and married a rich fool, a greedy pauper, a demented gentleman, a lazy church bros, an incurable philanderer, a lillylivered sissy or a distinguished drunkard and you expect to live happily ever after...women should stop promoting the stupidity of stupid men by declining their advances and seek out true men of character and purpose, men who may not be perfect but are willing to change, grow and learn.

Larrysung:
Marriage is a phase in a man’s life that comes with a lot of responsibilities and commitment. According to research and recommendations from relationship experts and psychologists, it was revealed that before a man becomes married; it's a necessity that he, first possess certain traits and materials which are essential for the success and continuity of the relationship.

Regarding this article; we shall be examining some of those traits or things a man is supposed to have before considering marriage. Below are some of them.

1. Emotional and mental maturity.

Mental and emotional maturity is a necessary prerequisite that is needed for the smooth running of the union. As a man who intends to get married, you should first ask yourself; if you are capable and ready for the challenges and hurdles marriage brings. As you might know – marriage goes beyond love and mutual feelings, it embraces the whole idea of adjusting to your partner’s terms and exhibiting the desired virtues that will make your relationship a smooth one.

2. A job or steady source of income.

Yes, I know you love her and you are sincere about it; but do you have a job? The continuity of any marriage is not only rooted in love and romance, it involves the availability of financial resources which are needed in settling some challenges.
As a man who desires to get married to probably the woman of his dreams; it then becomes important to know that your love can only be effective when there is money. I am not talking about millions of naira – at least something that can settle food bills, clothing, domestic bills and health care.

3. An apartment.

Most men have reportedly married their wives into their family home which isn’t completely bad – but it is better to have your own apartment before getting married. The reason for this can be traced to the idea of maintaining your self-respect and that of your wife’s, and also to accord yourself some marital privacy.

4. Vision and prospect for the marriage.

It might interest you to know that marriage isn’t an end – rather, it is a means to an end. Marrying your partner for the sole purpose of satisfying your sexual urge or pleasure isn’t completely a good reason to marry. As a man who desires to get married, it becomes important you bear in mind that you are bringing somebody’s daughter into your house, as such; you should have a well-drafted and solid plan for her and the marriage as well. In the absence of no vision before marriage - the relationship might perish.

Men and brethren. Be not deceived. If as a man your intended wife does not contribute to your progress, does not play a key role in your mental and spiritual maturity, did not play any role towards your financial security and has no bearing in the formation of your vision and future run oh...run like a mad man ohh. A wife is a helper and if she cannot help you when you are in need she cannot help you when you have a job, income, an apartment and all-round maturity...the best time to know your wife is when you are struggling because if she is indeed your wife she will be there to help you get on your feet if life beats you to the ground...so I say, if she cannot help you at the time of need, she is not your wife!

Modified: if I don't say this my counsel will be lopsided. Women if a man cannot love you with little he cannot love you at all. Quit looking for a ready made man. A ready made man is the product of factors outside of your control. A ready made man will easily see you as property because he realizes you have little or no bearing in his success. However if you find your match of a man and participate in building him, you will know it by his interest in your wellbeing, his desire to see you succeed, his prioritization of your pleasure above his, his desire to share what little he has with you and his undying loyalty to you. If your man does not love you with the little resources he has he will not love you when he becomes made.

Donangelo:
What is the best means to join The Nigerian police as graduate without the normal recruitment.?

Of all the professions in this life...na police. Mehn. Village people are wicked.

Modernizer:
I won't bore you all with a long write up.

I'm ready to settle down, actually I needed to settle down like yesterday. Problem is, I don't make friends easily and hooking up is even tougher. I don't trust easily.

So I'm talking with this girl that checks all my boxes ( quite a rare feat for my high expectations), but for one thing...she is evidently a choleric. I know because I'm one myself.

The hot temper, impetuousness, some bossy-ness, independent mindedness, low empathy, high ambition...all those tell tale choleric features give it away.

Now I know cholerics are advised to get their opposites say phlegmatic for relationship purposes, but I want to ask the house: can I a hot tempered man cope with a hot tempered woman?
Any people with experience on this here?
Can both of us with low empathy really be compatible?

The adverse statistics coming out of marriage these days scares the sh..t out of me. I don't want any of it.

Should I drop this girl? Or can it work?

Sorry oo...it may sound small but that's my own challenge.

Cc newbornmacho, Ahnie, kestolove

All this choleric or diarrhoeaic stuff has nothing to do with the longevity of a relationship. Mutual sacrifice, mutual declaration of your assets and liabilities, clear determination of the rules of engagement in the marriage, the setting of minimum standards and the desire to change, learn and grow all determine great relationships! Find your match, bond, change, learn and grow.

neonly:
Am not good writer please trying to make it short

Everything just falling apart in my house
Sometimes I hear some folks saying I will tolerate rubbish in marriage but honestly it easier say than done if it actually happen to you
Where did I get it wrong sef
We use to be good friends before church matter enter
Now she does nothing in the house
I go to work come back to go to market and cook clean the house wash the children uniforms for the younger ones

All she is interested now is her own career
What my fate when I grow old
Is this not a red flag for me
What will be the fate of my wonderful innocent children how will they feel not growing up with their mother and father together all these are pounding in my head
the issues are too much I can't type it all am really depressed but sha life goes on
But my children what will be their fate

She cannot all of a sudden decide to pursue her own ambitions without carrying the family along. There is a lot you are not sharing with us and you want us to advice you. If all was well for over a decade then tell us what went wrong. Tells us if you supported her ambitions. Tell us if you discussed ambitions before marriage and tell us what agreement you two arrived at...if you wife has abandoned her duty to you it may be in response to you abandoning her. Humans tend to be vengeful when wronged deeply. If both you do not see eye to eye without a confrontation blowing up in your faces, then call for a family meeting with her parents, your parents and her. Let everything that has transpired be laid bare and you do your part.

achu442:
Christainity is the simplest and easiest religion.

It's is this... Accept and acknowledge Christ as Lord and Saviour, that He was crucified, died and rose from the dead.

That's all...That's all.
No other thing.
What is hard there?

That's not all. Many accept Jesus and later reject him. Accepting Jesus is one thing. Keeping Jesus is another thing entirely. To accept Jesus is simple but keeping Jesus is a battle. Jesus said if you will follow him you must first deny yourself and then take up your cross. Now tell me that is easy. Denying yourself is a war. A war against your very own soul. As if that is not enough. You have to now take up your cross, a symbol of sacrifice and servitude to the will of the Father. That is super hard. Even Jesus prayed to have the cross and the punishment waved...without the grace of God you cannot be a successful Christian. Saying a simple prayer is not enough!

Truvelisback:
Living a perfect christian life is hard but it's possible. To some, the christian life is easy probably because of their wealth, nice cars, beautiful houses etc. Our human needs too makes christianity hard too. e.g our need 4 money, happy marriage, children, happy home, good job etc.

Hardship, poverty, childlessness, marital delay, broken home etc, make it difficult too for one to live a perfect christian life.

In summary, living a perfect christian life as a human (having a flesh and blood) is really hard but it's possible. It's neither easier 4 the rich but it's more harder 4 the poor. My own point of view.

You ultimately become who or what you spend time with in devotion. If consistently spend time with a fool you will gradually start morphing into a fool. If you spend more time with paupers in devotion to their condition will soon be a pauper...and if you pray to Allah 5 times daily and follow the words of the Quran literally you will soon become a jihadist......but if you spend 5 hours a day worshipping, praising and interceeding before the Father in the name of Jesus as directed by the HolyGhost you will soon be like the trinity! There are only two ingredients to becoming whatever you want. Time and devotion to a standard. When Dr Steven Strange asked "how can I get from here to there" in response to the Sorcerer supreme's display of mastery over the dark arts, the Sorcerer supreme asked: "how did you become a doctor". Steven Strange replied "study and practice, years of it" and the Sorcerer supreme gestured in affirmation. This may be just a movie but those words stuck in my soul...and therein lies the secret of all secrets... study and practice (devotion to science), years of it (time). Combine time with devotion and there is nothing you cannot become.

OnyeObodo:
Oga, bolt work is slavery work. I pity those suffering it.

Slavery? There was a time I was teacher and treasurer collecting #5000 naira monthly and I did not see it as slavery rather I saw it as one of the many steps I must take to financial independence. Whether you are collecting 500k per month or collecting 10k per month, work is work. Work is modeled as dis-utility in labor economics...If we all had the chance we would like to sit down at home and collect free money like politicians but unfortunately not everyone has such a privilege. Hence if and when someone creates an opportunity it is only fitting to appreciate it, do your part and hope for the best!

BRATISLAVA:
If men don't marry because they are bitter at women, who cares? You're the ones looking for good women, why? You're looking for who to spend your lives with. A man without a woman is nothing. He will always seek to impress women. All the dickmeasuring is for who? Other males?

Who proposes? Who pays the bride price? Who is getting married on Saturday? One word: Men.

You lot act like you're doing women a favor by marrying them. Don't marry. You will still have the same issues with baby Mama's. Want to know how? By the time all of you don't marry yet want someone else to slave after your offspring, a new law will be used to tackle that. And you will then refuse to have children, etc, as the "proactive" gender. SMH. Same issues will spring up again.

If there's way too many issues with women, whichyou frequently moan about and seek to teach women a lesson for, why don't you marry the peaceful, genuine, undemanding and loving gender —men? There's nothing wrong with loving yourselves, man to man. Right?

Too many teenagers on the forum. Come Saturday another man will be "shackled" gladly. Men are truly suffering. From confusion. And hurting themselves pretending to be red pill.

Dear if you followed by comments you will see that I am basically describing the situation women created for themselves all in a bid to conform to liberal ideals. I am married and I know the value of virtuous women. There are people who have made marriage work and I believe if done right marriage can be one of the most beautiful of things...but given the state of affairs in our world today one can see how liberal ideals are tearing the great institutions apart and one institution that has consistently been a victim is the institution of marriage.

Marriage today is increasingly been seen as a scam by most men and their fears have been well founded by facts from liberal societies. A man works his ass off trying to earn a living and after becoming a success he foolishly gets married just to have a sex partner, a home keeper and offspring. Soon enough he will realize that his so called wife is fair weather person and when the chips are down he will be left high and dry either by abandonment or by divorce. It is considered fair when the man has to have his properties shared equally in a divorce but when this happens to the woman lamentations begin...we currently have an epidemic of single men who are refusing to get married and they are more prevalent in liberal societies where most connubial laws are geared towards protecting women and not protecting relationships.

Data proves this point. This was culled from an editorial:

According to Pew Research Center, the share of women ages eighteen to thirty-four that say having a successful marriage is one of the most important things in their lives rose nine percentage points since 1997– from 28 percent to 37%. For men, the opposite occurred. The share voicing this opinion dropped, from 35 percent to 29 percent. Source here

While more women have profited from marriage, men haven't. This is why I always advice. If as a man you intend to get married, seek your spouse when you have nothing. Find your spouse when you are not yet successful. The woman who is willing to support your growth and success is the woman worthy to be your wife. I don't care how holy your wife is. If she did not play a key role in your rising she will ultimately be the source of your downfall.

OnyeObodo:
When no be NNPC work?

God forbid.

NNPC work will likely not be advertised here. The slot will be filled before you even become aware of a vacancy. NNPC work will not ask for a minimum SSCE. Asking for that will result in an avalanche of applications that NNPC will have trouble sieving through. The work you forbid could be the lifesaver of someone else!

A car owner would like to recruit a bolt driver. Here are the requirements. The candidate must:

*be within resident in the Ikorodu axis
*be between the ages of 20 and 30
*have a valid driver's license (you can still apply if you have an expired license but hope to renew it) with between 1-3 years experience driving a sedan/SUV car in Lagos state
*have experience using mapping software (google maps) on a mobile device
*have attained a minimum of SSCE qualification
*have completed NIN registration and have a NIN
*submit the details (names, phone number and profession) of 3 referees who will serve as guarantors (all 3 must have NINs)

Interested candidates should send their CVs to the email address: efficiencie@gmail.com. The subject of the email must be: [NAME] Bolt Driver Application 2021 for example: Shade Adeoye Bolt Driver Application 2021