₦airaland Forum

phemmylink:
How often do you ask your wife for sex? Should there be an agreed ratio? Because I understand there are varing degrees of individual libido However, most women run away from sex even after the get married, that's one of the reasons why there is increasing rates of "side chickinson".

Obinna53:
There's this Girl, I love so much,so one Day she went to stay at a Friends place for a justifiable reason.The next Day she came back Home everything was fine but after a couple of Days I noticed how fragile she became and always had this pity face.Then she sat me down one Day crying and told me she wanted to tell me something and Should Forgive her Please and Boom!!! She Told me what ensured between her and the Guy that Night,Right now I am really Moody, I would like to here your Individual Opinion on this Situation and how you handled it, if you had like my Experience, Thank You

igbowoman:
I dont even know why young ladies feel the need to confess up and down to men things they would never know.
Ladies please learn to keep your mouths shut.
Stop telling boyfriends how many men you have slept with before you met them.
Stop telling them when you err
Stop seeking forgiveness up and down
Stop being needy.
Please stop it!!

If you've committed abortions ,tell it to God,repent and do it no more.
You don't need to tell your life stories to boyfriends.
Your past is your past,keep it there.
Stop getting too emotional ,not good for you.
These things only hurt you in the end
Many of these men have procured countless abortions for people,raped women, raped little girls,slept with people's wives and grandmothers,some have slept with their fellow men, paid and slept with prostitutes,done yahoo, were cultists on campus, stolen and done all manner of evil in their past, they don't tell those stories to every girl they meet.
They ask God to forgive and turn a new leaf and move on.
But females will let their emotions take over and be answering questions no one asked them.

This is a timely advice
Ladies please stop tarnishing your image with your own mouths.
Those same boyfriends will be sharing your conversations all over the place even on nairaland.
Zip your mouths
Pass on this timely advice to your friends.

OpinionCounts:
I love your write up.

You made some very valid points even though you also made some 360 errors like assuming God to be in some sort of pact with the devil. God is only in a pact with his vow / word, the devil just knows this vows and only aligns himself to use it even against God, knowing that God will stand by His word wether it pleases him or not.
Most of the events you narrated above were already written by God to happen, God had already sent his prophets of old to tell his people that these things will happen. Like the killing of the babies in the birth of Jesus, Joseph and Mary moving to Africa with baby Jesus, even the crucifixion of Christ etc so they were not chance events.
There are a few others I could point out or discuss with you, but unfortunately I am a lazy writer sometimes.
Funny enough even though you thought you were disagreeing with my position, your write up actually solidifies my position that no spirit has permission to intervene in the affairs of men except granted permission by man himself either through Sin or through Submission. So if anyone likes, let them take the placenta of a child and sacrifice to Ogun or Amadioha, if the parents know their power and authority in God NOTHING WILL HAPPEN!!!
I wish we had time to discuss through voice communication, I would have attended to all the points you raised above one by one because they are issues that require deep understanding and knowledge.

OpinionCounts:
They can't do nothing with it except you believe they can.
They are not greater than the Almighty God that created the child.

By our thoughts and conscious acceptance we give power to all these powerless elements.

Zuchey91:
I need matured inputs please.

I am a married woman, with a child.

My Marriage has been really rocky. Quarrels every now and then.

What basically causes the problems is our differences, we just don’t understand each other, it wasn’t so visible during dating.

Although we did not date for long....but being married, it has been from one issue to the other, right from a week after our wedding.

I have always contemplated leaving, but I am yet to be fully independent.

Sometime this year, I found out he has been cheating (I was not surprised, but I was heart-broken) my discovery strengthened my resolve to leave the union.

In the process of nursing my heartbreak, I reconnected with an ex, we got talking and he helped my heal. I did not tell him what I was going through at the time...I was just enjoying the attention he was showing me.

I should state that I did not tell my husband about his cheating, I held all the emotions back, it was a very difficult period for me because I am usually the outspoken type.

My ex is not based in the country where me and my husband reside, we just communicate on phone, he says he misses me and would want us to meet when he is in town.

I should also state that my ex was married but divorced.

I would not deny my having feelings for my ex, and I also do not want to believe in a fairytale ending, I am just confused.

constance500:
Who b this idiot

Cow go cost 2 million no issues , how much b goat..

Make dem dey chop their cow

SimplyFacts:
If God wan punish a man, make he give am a wife like Tonto or Tega. The drama go looooong.

sirjamesjnr:
I am making a case here for the innocent child.

Ishilove:
The video is hilarious but filled with some realities. Marriage is hard, right? Right. So you as the prospective husband has to undergo basic military training because it really is all about sacrifices. Love her, cherish her, don't carry face unnecessarily, make her feel special etcetera etcetera

Train first before marriage!


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZjmdwOvfZ7Q

Breeze111:
I done Come again, this guy confuse need our help.
Omo today eehh, me and my dad exchanged real blow of which I burst his mouth. See eeh my dad they mess up die. The up-keeping of our house is being done by our mum alone right from when we were kids. All my dad those is to drink and womanise. (I wonder how those girls they even green for am with he koboles pocket) .
So this afternoon I was inside my room with my headset on my ear watching movie but still I was hearing some shout so I just conclude maybe is my parent usual wahala not on till I began to notice that my door is being bang so I decide to open and I saw my elder sister shouting Daddy has done the worst today, so I said to her is there anything new that Man has not done and she say they caught him having sex with madam saloon inside mummy room. Jesus my head won burst I rush to my mum room, I saw my mum crying while madam saloon knelt down saying na devil work with her fallen breast and my dad just sat there with his boxer saying and so, his my house I can marry more than one wife. Kai I no fit hold myself again, that was how I rush him, We exchange some blows and he started bleeding. So he has being calling all our relatives that I beat him. they say, they going to have meeting in our house tomorrow that I must apologise.
To God I can never apologise to that big for nothing man that called himself my dad. Just confuse and depressed, only son my head choke and am so afraid not to end up like him.

sirjamesjnr:
According to some traditions, you cannot disown a child born within marriage on the basis of a DNA test. The moment you pay brideprice every child from that woman is yours. So I have to ask this question: Is it right for a man to disown a child born within marriage due to paternity fraud? What is the fate of these children involved?

Fafesot:
Abeg, make una help me oo.
I had little malaria, which I've addressed with drugs. It's now 90% gone.
But, I noticed at a time when the sickness was still intense; I couldn't sense the taste and smell of anything. After sometimes, I regained my sense of taste,about 60%. But I still can't smell anything. This is getting crazy, to the extent I can't perceive the odour of faeces
Pls help me; it's urgent.

LALASTICLALA abeg help me push to front page, so I can get enough response

saphiere:
Former presidential aide to Ex President Goodluck Jonathan, Reno Omokri as reminded men their work as men, WonderTV Media learnt.

Reno in his recent post advises men to take back their roles which they were commanded by God to play as failure to do so shows a disobedience to the direct command from God.
His post says;


lalasticlala

esthel:
can you imagin

Citygal:
If you abort that baby, e no go better for you.

Congratulations, you are going to be a proud father. All that you need to take care of him/her, heaven shall supply them in bountiful folds.

ifinger:
Hehehehe werey de look for mojo ogun � fire u and calamity

Vabama:
So am one of those Guys that preach against domestic Violence ....

I Got married of Recent and Guess what , we dated for 3 Years before marriage.

After putting a ring on her finger ... her behavior change ...

From Bad to Worse ...

Like this girl will wake up at Night , and Give me a dirty slap .... If You Ask her what's the problem , she will look at you and work away.

She will wake up by 2am and start playing music , if you ask her wetin .... She will ask me 'CAN'T I PLAY MUSIC BECAUSE I MARRY YOU'

If You mention divorce .... she go vow say if you try am , You Go die !!!

Okay i sat her down and ask her what is the matter.

Below is what she told me !!!



So am asking , is it that she wants me to beat her or what
Should i run away from Home
Marriage no dey easy at all.

GerraMeh74:
Send me an email, I don't want to paste her digits here to avoid miscreants disturbing her.

MrBrownJay1:
so you actually believe that because two people live together they automatically must know exactly what goes on in the mind of their partner?!
better yet, if your partner dont say anything, can you accurately say what she is thinking about?
sadly, in this Nigeria where people are gladly marrying TOTAL STRANGERS, no wonder many are living with strangers that they probably dont understand....and unless that person opens up and communicate with their partner, that spouse of theirs wouldnt know shiit. also, some men dont care about what their spouse think because in their (one sided) household, the man takes all the decisions and it is HIS WAY OR THE HIGHWAY

the reason why so many men fail in this issue is because they actually think they cant/shouldnt sit down and listen to what their partner has to say.... as if listening to your partner is blasphemy.

ifinger:
Who told u he believes what u claim to believe? Getaway u go preach to buhari who sold ur destiny to China

Gentlerespect76:
Someone's wife. Hey, it's morally wrong if you don't know. Do not do it again. If not, something like that could lead to a misfortune befalling one, please.

MrBrownJay1:
since she stopped way before the child was born then obviously, the "childbirth" is not the issue... why dont you sit down and communicate with your wife to know exactly what the problem is (and possibly find a solution)?

so instead of begging for sex, why dont you beg for a sit down and open heart discussion...

abiolamitodun:
give your opinion

Lostchild:
(Anonymous) on quora

I regret divorcing my 1st husband! I married him 3 weeks after I turned 22, I blame my immaturity and lack of experience on my reasons for leaving. This man treated me wonderfully, I was young, foolish and immature. I thought the grass was greener on the other side, it wasn't green it was burnt and fried. Karma has been repaid to me over most of the 20+ years since I left him. I'm no longer young, or neive, nor am I'm as immature and shallow as I was then. If I could turn back time I would have never left him. He told me I would regret it and I do!