₦airaland Forum

myglodata:
I just want to read about other people's experience. I might not be able to describe the phenomenon, but I'll try (bear with me)

We have been married for over a decade now with kids. Like all human interactions (marriage not excluded) we've had our problems but we always manage to resolve it (patience is key - an advice to married couples).

About 3 week ago after one of our usual argument (over some flimsy issue). She walked to me told me we need to talk. She said, and I paraphrase; "If we keep on arguing like this my love for you will keep reducing, and I'll only be staying with you for the kids". She then left for the room. After some few minutes she called me on phone and said "come and take me out" (this was around mid night). She then started crying and complaining of severe headache. She said she wants to go out for a walk at midnight, and crying and acting wired. She loves playing the Qur'an from her phone but at this point she asked me to take it far away from her and lots of other drama.

After about 30 to 40 mins she snapped out of it, her tone changed and she asked me "what are you doing here, are you not coming to bed". As if nothing happened, and when I told her about the incident and our discussions (about the kids and our love) she had absolutely no recollection of it whatsoever (even though it happened just moments ago). She just said she is having severe headaches. I could sense she was visibly disturbed when I told her because she hates any form of mental illness attributed to her.

Recently we travelled and she slept in my sisters place. In the morning she told me she had those severe headaches again and almost called me to come get her in the middle of the night because she was terrified and didn't want to snap into that state again and end up embarrassing her self at my sisters house.

Looking back at some fights we've had over the years couldn't help but think could it be that "she wasn't the one" I've been having these arguments with, but I only start noticing recently?

She normally gets into this state when she's angry (so I try to avoid getting her angry - but its quite hard)

She told me that recently she's been having some wired and fetish urges (even though I have known her to be a good woman)

I don't know if this make sense. I have always thought this kind of things (splits, possession etc.) happened to pretty women (and my wife falls in this category).

I am not the superstitious type and have resolved to stand by her, no one knows about this and I intend to keep it like this as long as it is not beyond our control. But I just want to here from people out there with similar experience

N.B I hope she's not on NL

I saw the word "Quran" somewhere...have you considered that what's wrong with your wife could be due to the activity of Jinns? You might have to apply your Islamic solutions to dealing with Jinns before your wife's situation gets worse...she might wake up one day and think you are a rapist and she may go on the offensive and attempt to kill you. Take your wife's condition seriously!

Snitch24:
No
Will you still love her if she lost her beauty ?

Clergymen in church weddings and family members in traditional weddings should revise the vows of marriage to include these conditions. We should be hearing stuff like: "Woman, do you accept love this man when he is rich and comfortable but leave him or disgrace him when he becomes poor or miserable?" and "Man, do you accept to love this woman as long as her hole is tight, she looks beautiful and presentable, can cook and agrees with you all the time?"...We need to allow couples getting wedded to design their own vows and both agree to it.

betcliq:
Ask am whether you be her Papa . To knack you 2by2 just dey hungry me. Simp everywhere


Train any Nigerian babe at your own peril unless you give am Belle.

In Mosdii voice those people are very useless.


That amount done reach to start up reasonable business in Nigeria.

Abeg Op give me that amount N549k to do turn over in my biz this coming season December by February I'll return N650K with value..

Abeg knack am 2by2 e need am badly...

walozanga:

U won't understand

IPOB has learned from Boko Haram. They announced the suspension of the sit-at-home order so that it is on the record that they are not responsible for enforcing the sit-at-home order. However the same IPOB has created another outfit known as "unknown gun men" and added this to the list of Nigerian criminal nomenclature (herdsmen, insurgents, bandits...) and have empowered the unknown gun men to enforce the sit-at-home order whilst destroying government installation using guerilla-style warfare. No business, no tax returns, no revenue from the east, no money for governors, governors become powerless and at the mercy of the unknown gun men who are on record deemed unconnected to IPOB...governors plead for FG intervention, amnesty follows, IPOB gets a ton of cash to re-equip themselves...IPOB puts this process into a while TRUE loop . Alternatively the loop could end with the FG getting tired of the guerilla warfare games and offer the east their referendum...an excellent strategy but it will turn Nigeria governments into a government of criminals, by criminals for criminals, a mobocratic government. The bloodshed will be something else!

tens of thousands of oloshos and broloshos...

lonelydora:
Hell has no fury like a woman scorned.

African women should know that men are polygamous in nature and there is nothing they can do about it. Women should forget all these western ideology of a man should marry only one woman.

Well, let the law take it's course.

Men are not polygamous in nature. Sex is sweet that's all. As e sweet for man na so e take sweet for woman too. Couples should declare and agree on their interests fully before entering into a lifelong conjugal relationship. If want to have mistresses agree with your spouse before marriage. It's as simple as that!

SonOfThePlateau:
Nope, We are not compatible, especially with the Core northern Hausa' fulani muslims.

Do you know how many thousands of lives has been lost to Yoruba vs Hausa' fulani clashes since the last 20 years? Do you want me to give you a timeline?
That of Middlebelt people against Hausa' fulani settlers cannot even be calculated.

The same Hausa' fulanis, how well do they flow with Igbo people?

When a group of people living together are always having regional frictions, it is a clear indication that they cannot be together.

Yes, the elite class will never fight themselves, but they are heavily involved in sponsoring the masses who do the fighting. Is there any difference between the one who sponsors a conflict and the one who executes it?

Jews, Arabs, Hindus, Whites, Chinese, Buddhists and Black Africans all do business with each other and even intermarry each other at the elite level. Does that mean that they are all compatible or can be able to share one country in equal proportions and live in peace??

The bolded is why it seems like we are not compatible. Compatibility is not equality. That you and your wife are compatible does not imply that you and your wife are equal. There are differences between the Igbos, the Yorubas and the Hausa and these differences do not necessarily imply lack of compatibility...Compatibility is the result of different entities, mutually accepting their differences, leveraging commonalities and mutually exploiting the unique comparative advantages that each entity has over the others. The killings you see in the north and all over the country is the result of the political elite harnessing the poverty of the masses to their advantage. I have Igbo friends, Yoruba friends, Hausa friends and even Muslim friends and I have come to see that neither ethnicity nor religion is the problem of this country but the activity of a few plutocrats who would use their position, money and influence to organize the affairs of the country to suit their narrow interests. I have nothing against being wealthy but when you use your power, money, fame and position to destroy the lives of the weak then you are an enemy that should be fought against.

SonOfThePlateau:
Yes you are correct.

But other than secession, what on earth could be the possible solution to the current problems we are facing as a nation?

Believe you me, many people who are scared of the division of this country are those who are currently benefitting from the dysfunctional system. These kind of people do not care about the other lives being wasted unless it comes to their doorsteps.
That is extreme selfishness.

Nigeria is clearly a union of incompatible bedfellows. It's not really about Abuja controlling everything.

Even if Abuja was controlling everything and we were very compatible. There wouldn't have been so much killings, destruction and grievances.

We are very compatible. Over compatible sef dey worry us. The problem of Nigeria are its political and economic elite. They are the ones that have enough money to pay lazy youths to go and kill. They are the ones who weaponized the police, army, navy and airforce against the citizenry. They bought our courts and have the entire judicial system in their pockets...secession will not make the problem go away because the very same members of the elite club in Nigeria today will continue their operations in the break away regions. To compound the problem the elite are united whether they are Igbo, yoruba, hausa, Muslim or Christian but the poor masses irrespective of ethnic or religious affiliation are at war with each other. Do you think Obi Cubana hates Aliko Dangote? Or do you think Allen Onyenma is at war with Otedola? But you will see poor masses getting hired to kill their fellow poor masses. Poverty is evil aswear! Do you think Ganduje of Kano state will not do deals with Uzodinma of Imo state if the deal will profit both of them to the tune of billions of dollars? The day our revolution starts is the day the poor masses quit working for the elite and decide to forget ethnicity, forget religion, agree and join forces to fight our common enemy, the political and economic elite.

Lostchild:
Do you know how long I have been helping people this way?

If you like fight any help that is coming your way.

I have finish my course here in Nigeria

Oh so you are taking your help to the next level...where are you going to next? Afghanistan? They need help there you know.

Lostchild:
SHUT UP, You hypocrite.

Who church help? or who I want help for church?

Church nor see them dey suffer?

Do you know how long I have been helping people this way?

People like you are the reason why Nigeria is a back ward nation

Dude get some sense na...it is free. I did not mention church in the post na. Monitoring spirit. Dey dia dey monitor people. One dey you go monitor d wan wey go kidnap you.

@SonOfThePlateau, decision making is usually driven by interest. The secession of Nigeria may suit you but you don't have to foist your sensibilities on others whose interest may diverge from yours. The igbos you referenced will have a lot to lose in the event of a secession. All their wealth in strange lands will be lost the instant that each state organizes their constitution to appropriate to themselves the property of non-indigenes. There are people who have businesses in different locations of the country and their drive to make more wealth will never allow them support secession. However those who have nothing to gain from Nigeria will easily fight for secession...so do not foist your common sense on others just because they hold views that diverge from yours.

As for me I support secession so that regions that intend to integrate can do so organically under renegotiated terms. The Abuja hegemony is a problem. Secession will decentralize political corruption and allow for a sweeping revolution by the people. A bloody decade may follow a secession but after the dust settles the new nations will emerge and renegotiate the terms of trade, monetary or economic integration.

Dahustler007:
Long story Short! I'm currently serving in the North-East region of the country precisely Gombe state. I got myself into some debt mess mixed with me gambling my 33k in just two days! I know I messed up big time.
My mind isn't at rest, I'm kinda depressed and I have School tomorrow I can't teach those primary school pupils in this state of mind I need some advice on what to do... I cried my Life out... I deserve all insults and more. I just need help! Please someone should help me. I'm dead¡

Stop whatever you are doing right now. Listen to the voice of truth. The instruction I am about to tell you will most likely help you regain your sense. Hence it imperative you follow the instructions with utmost devotion, all sense of seriousness and a purpose driven resolve.

Instructions:
1. Kneel down
2. Close your eyes
3. Raise your hand
4. Remain in this position for 2 hours
5. In this condition keep shouting at the top of your voice Oh, God. I need help
6. Continue doing this for two hours.

KossyKiss97:
Okay fam, this has been on my mind for some time now, so I'll like to throw it open to hear from a larger audience.

Who among these women will you go for as a wife? A woman who is peaceful but with zero or little cooking skills, or a woman with excellent cooking skills but nags and complains?

Let's get our opinions rolling in.

None! If the first type woman decides to be peaceful when she is supposed to nag and complain about a problem I am not taking cognisance of, the marriage will fall to pieces. Being able to cook is good but it is not a prerequisite for me. If the second woman, decides to nag me to stupor over the most trivial of things na high blood pressure I dey take play even if she can cook for Africa. In the end the solution is to marry your match as directed by the Spirit of God, shikena.

Lostchild:
I have seen that, Nigeria society does not embrace virtue at all. No matter the good you do, people will still choose not to understand you but attack you.

In year 2013 I saw a lady that relocated into my neighbourhood. I saw that she has a son, a very bright young boy of about 14 years of age.

Something unknown to me happened to the legs of this boy that lead to disability, maybe it is as a result of sickness or injection. The most painful things for me is that, they seem very poor.

I started praying in my heart, looking for a way to go into their life. For me, I badly wanted this lady and her son in my life as I see it as rare privilege for such priceless humans to be in my life. Damnnnn, I love this young boy

Sometimes, I will go into their yard, walking around, asking question about them, looking for a way to enter their life. I knew I can make their own world beautiful.

One day, I saw they were moving out of the neighborhood because of the poverty in their life. The only property they have was their clothes. I did not want to loss the young boy and I have no choice but to secretely follow them up to where ever they were going. After about 90 mins walk, I saw that, the lady and her son was moving back to her parents house, it was a (wooden) plank house, built in a swampy area, not far from the river.

I felt so bad as I did not want them to continue to suffer poverty. I knew that, the Nigeria government do not care about the physically challenge or the handicap, so I have to try my best

I went into the compound and I gave a knock, knock. I thought they would allow me in of which they did not. I spoke to the lady and asked her if she knows me. She said, yes, she knows me. She even describe where I live and ask me why I came.

I started explaining my intention. I told her I came because I am deeply concern about the well being of her son. I told her I so much love and care about she and her son and I intend to open a bank account for her son and will put her son on a monthly payment. I will need her to use the money to take good care of the boy. I told her to kindly accept me.

I thought she will accept me and embrace my generous offer, but she scream and started shouting at me; holy ghost fire, holy ghost fire, holy ghost fire, holy ghost fire.

The grand mother was there, she too started shouting, calling me Satan, Satan, Satan, Satan, devil.. ... devil... Satan....... devil...... Satan ........Satan.

I was shocked as mother and daughter were shouting, calling me an enemy sent forth by Satan to destroy their teenage son.

I started pleading with her to calm down and try to understand my good motive. If you see how I was pleading with them that day just for them to accept me.

As I continue to plead, asking them to reason, the grand mother instantly lay hold of a bucket of water and started sprinkling water on me, calling me - the great Satan who was sent forth to destroy her grand son, while her daughter was busy calling out holy ghost fire on me. I look at the teenage boy, I saw that he seem very happy over the display of his mother and grand mother.

As I left the place, I felt so sad and embarrassed.

I know that, not many have that thought to build and help children that are not their own.

THE MESSAGE

I know I did well because, he does much who loves much. He does much who does a thing in love. He does well who serves the common good rather than his own interests.

Many sufferer has been abandoned, and many good works has be purposely left undone. Without charity our purpose in this life is of no value, but anything done in charity, be it ever so small and trivial, is entirely fruitful inasmuch as God weighs the love with which a man acts rather than the deed itself.

FINAL WORDS

In this life, I am fulfilling my purpose. I seeks self in nothing but I do all things for the glory of God. More so, I envies no man, because I desires no personal pleasure nor does I wish to rejoice in myself; rather I desires the greater glory of God above all things.

If my fellow black men had a spark of true love in their heart, they would surely see that all the things they are pursuing on this earth are nothing but vanity!

Dude! Are you the Holy ghost? Why are you trying so hard to enter someone else's life? Fickle human like you want to enter somebody's life. The first and best way to help a person is in the place of prayer because you do not know more than what you can see or hear. Only the LORD Jesus knows all and only He can be a propitiation and advocate for us before the Father. It is when you receive a revelation from the LORD Jesus concerning the challenge of a person and how you can intervene. Zeal without knowledge is tantamount to suicide!

Finnese001:


Joe yorubakwe and thiefnubukwe

"Yorubakwe and thiefnubukwe", chai, nairaland no go kee pessin.

...a new mosquito? The idiots who created COVID have decided to create another parasite that can be transmitted through mosquitoes...they are jealous that COVID did not decimate the population of African countries! Last last this mosquito will travel to your lands and kill you its creators. Some idiot will come here now to tell me that the parasite evolved naturally. They said the same about the COVID virus even though there is concrete evidence that the virus was engineered! Whether you like or not, we will all die. If you like live to 1000 years you will still die one day both the creators of diseases and its victims will all die and stand before the terrible judge!

Godszilla:
Pls pls stop this disinformation,this is d problem with social media.
my people every organism has its life cycle.by this persons logic a caterpillar is not a butterfly, neither is nymph a mosquito(insect) so u can kill them as u will. This people com online n start deceiving people. A fetus is jus a stage in human(homo sapein)life-cycle dat we all must pass thru this is undisputed fact beyond science. Anything any1 else is trying to convince u to bliv its a lie from deepest part of hell.
My people get knowledge n get wisdom do not b fool by d wicked in high placed. Peace

Don't mind the idiots. If we can kill a foetus, a stage in the development of a human being, because the foetus is unwanted, why can't we also kill of all disabled persons, all persons with schizophrenia, persons with down syndrome etc since they are also at a stage of human development and an argument can be made that they are unwanted in the society...this is the same thinking of Hitler that led to him killing invalids, disabled people, etc of German origin ohh. Sadistic blood drinking and flesh eating parasites. They will support abortion because the spirit of moloch rules supreme in their hearts and their patron deity, moloch, longs to be worshipped once again.

This fool-in-chief leading the US can easily react to invalidating the abortion law but he left Americans behind in Talibanistan, he is mandating vaccines for his people but making it optional for illegal migrants, he is pushing budget provisions that can plunge the US into hyper inflation, he is sanctioning the sack of people who are not vaccinated without considering the teeming cases of persons with natural immunity, his own military advisors revealed how much of a lying fool he is yet he want to invalid an abortion law that does not nothing but disincentivize the killing of babies yet the law does not entirely prohibit abortion. Basically the abortion law stipulates that: abortion is prohibited in Texas once a fetal heartbeat can be detected, which may be as early as 6 weeks into a woman's pregnancy. Within 6 weeks any lady can decide whether to keep or terminate the foetus but these blood sucking generation of idiots want to be given the chance to keep a pregnancy for more than 6 weeks and then decide for very dumb or sadistic reasons to abort the child. Some of these macabre individuals seek to use the body parts of these aborted babies for very evil purposes and that is why they are pushing really hard for abortion...and Biden has not spent one year in office ohh...

Nadaken:
Allow who want BOOOOOMM


Many Dead Allah is happy

Allow who want BOOOOOMM

Fantachapman:
My Fiancee has been attacking me regularly nagging at me each time we are out together and she sees a fine girl look at me. I don't even see the girls she is talking about. She has accused me of doing things that I never even imagine doing.

Now there was a time I sent her a message last year with my business whatsapp (that I rarely use, sometimes I deactivate it to create space on my phone to download new apps). She didn't know about this particular whatsapp because I don't really use it to chat with family and friends. In this message, I acted like a stranger/Chyker to her just to see how she would react so that i can use it and laugh with her but she discarded the person not knowing it was me.

Fast forward to last month she came to my house to spend time with me (we are in long distance relationship), I usually recharge dstv with that whatsapp, so she saw the whatsapp and she searched her phone and found out the fake chyker message I sent her last year had the same pic as the one I was using for dstv recharge. I told her I normally deactivate the whatsapp cos I don't use it often. I dont use it much anymore because the original phone number I was using with that whatsapp is no longer in use (blocked due to no usage). I told her the truth about the chyking incident. No one I know personally has the number except I want to ask questions online anonymously or when I was looking for a house, i used it to talk to agents. She accepted.

My main phone spoilt recently and i used the whatsapp to contact a repairer i met on nairaland. So we have been chatting about how to get it to him for repairs.

Now, two days ago, when I woke up in the morning, she asked me why I'm still using the whatsapp. I told her it was cos I was trying to contact a repairer. I opened the whatsapp and showed her, she saw the dstv recharge too, and the other messages that I sent to house agents were still there. So she insisted I scroll down so she could see what I have been doing on whatsapp. At this point I was upset. I told her her suspicions are getting too much, so I stretched my hand with the phone and asked her to give me her own whatsapp (Which she passwords) for me to see her messages, and then she can have and see mine. She then said she doesn't want to see mine anymore. She then left the room and when next I saw her in the parlour, she was deleting chats on her whatsapp. So I demanded to see her phone ( I bought it for her).

When I read her messages I was broken in half. There was a guy she earlier told me was a fool and an idiot, that the guy doesnt know how to talk to women and always wants to chat cos he has no one to talk to. She told me if that guy dares talk rubbish to her he will get slap. That he's not a spec to any girl at all. Now of all the people I see on her Facebook I'm always laughing when I see this particular guy's comments cos I tell her even if other guys are a threat, this is the last person I can ever fear can take you from me.

Can you believe that I read her chat with this particular guy and I was blown to shreds? She has been sex chatting the guy since when me and her first met 2 years ago and she is always the one bringing the sex chat up. She even tells him about me and they both laugh at me behind my back calling me Senior Uncle (as in old man). The house I rented for her and her family to stay, she invited the guy to bring condom and hammer when he is coming to help them arrange the house in the chat. She asked the guy to buy her condom and pant for Christmas, that year was the period I paid for the house. I bought her the phone she used to be chatting with this guy. Each time they are chatting and I come online, she will tell the guy that senior uncle is disturbing her again, that I am annoying and im talking talking not letting her sleep. I was planning to register her in school and that very night in January 2020, she told the guy that I'm disturbing her with school registration. She told him my village and where I live. Anything or plan I have for her, she will consult this guy to ask him what he thinks before she accepts what I tell her. Even when she travelled for a wedding, she returned very late to her parents house due to bus breaking down and as she was telling me their journey she was also giving this guy a blow by blow account of the journey, like for example: "we have entered Imo now, but we have not reached Ph, I am in Ph now, I am home now" and the guy responds "oh thank God". There was a chat where she was angry that the guy came to her house and didn't eat her food. This guy asks her if she is alone at home before he can come visit. She stopped working (cos they were paying her peanuts so i put her on monthly allowance) so she was always home.

I broke down in tears and smashed the phone. I still took her and the phone to the repairer of my other phone and they changed the screen, I paid. While I was reading the rest of the messages I was seeing, talk of breast and yansh and other terrible sex chats. She took the phone from me, I threatened to call her dad and she begged me not to. Next thing she deleted the messages. Her dad already saw my missed call the next morning (yesterday). He called her and she told him we had a problem. He called me and I told him everything that happened. He called her again and she said it was all a joke that she didn't mean all those chats with the guy. Her dad called me begged me to forgive her. He was crying. Her mum later called and begged me to forgive her that she said she was joking with the guy.
I called the guy with her phone and i told him i am senior uncle, he said he knows who i am, then i asked him why he destroy my marriage, he asked me which marriage? That he doesn't know who I am. I shouted on him and ended the call. I called his girlfriend and told her what he was doing to my relationship. My Fiancee has been crying and begging me since then. After that I forgave my fiancee yesterday, and her parents have called to thank me but my heart is still heavy. I don't know what to do anymore.

Note: She told me she never slept with him that it's just chat jokes.

I am sorry sir but you are a fool ohh. Leopards don't change their spots oh. That your fiance will do it again and again. I am not saying you should not help her family oh. Help them. Help the lady get her education so she can carry on with supporting her parents...if you marry that lady you will end it with suicide ohh. It is not a threat it is a guarantee ohhh. Men have walked this path you are on now and it ended with a sip of sniper juice. Help the lady. Help the parents...but never marry that lady.

Darhmmy:
We used to be lovers back in uni , We broke up at some point and lost contact. Earlier this year we reconnected at a party and it was obvious we still had feelings for each other.

We started dating and everything seemed nice at first. He never told me he was married. After months of dating , i started to get suspicious as he wouldn't let me visit his home , instead he was always coming to mine and meeting up at hotels. We had a big fight about it and he finally told me the truth. He kept on pleading and asking that we continue dating. I couldn't even leave if I wanted to, I was in love with him.

I am 2 months pregnant and he has been avoiding me. He calls just once in two days and has told me to do whatever I want with the pregnancy , that he is fine with my decisions. I want to keep him and the baby and I'm scared he may ghost up on me. Last night I found his wife and some of his relatives on Facebook and I want to send them texts about it. I really need advise on this.

When they tell you no sex before marriage you will argue for Africa. If you had waited to know his parents, his family and he knows yours, you could have prevented this from happening and even if it happens that man and his family will be put to great shame...madam you are on your own oh. The man will reject both you and the baby. You have been played. You need to investigate the parents or extended family of the man. They are the ones that need to know what their son has done. They need to know that their son has a child with you and that he is liable to contributing to the welfare of the child. Avoid informing his wife about this development she could arrange for your assassination oh. Wetin ur gender no fit do, e doesn't exists oh! Also avoid letting the man know you are searching for his people. If your child is a girl raise her not to be as stupid as hermother and if the child is a boy raise him not to be as stupid as his father.

ashewoboy:
What is your take? should a wife wait for her husband to come back from work or wherever he is before she eats or she should eat alone?

Share your take.

If a wife wants to honor her husband in such a manner it is welcomed...but this culture is not practicable. That the woman has prepared the food is enough. The husband may return very late from work due to traffic or any other reason. So denying yourself food for the sake of this culture could be a dangerous idea and no husband that truly loves his wife will agree to this culture.

Crazychris:
Those feminists that have been disvirgined since age 12 won't like this news...

Ma brother! When they see their hole which is like the size of a volcano and see this news about a lady that is a virgin, that demon inside them will erupt in anger. They would love to see the lives of every other lady destroyed like theirs...so when they see virgins like this they will start throwing up every reason to justify being a refurbished olosho.

betabread:
How can u be providing first class life style for your wife without good daily knacking......

Many men just dey use work dey cover bedroom inadequacies........

You can never cheat Nature

Yea, why not kill the man already. If the man slacks in money making but has all the time for continuous sex you will castigated him as being a lazy dog. If due to prolonged hours of work he is not always available for sex they will say he is covering bedroom inadequacies and his wife is justified to ruin her marriage by sleeping with a jobless, randy, lowlife he-goat...what is the function of the wife then? To sleep, spend hours online doing nonsense, spend money lavishly and have sex? To be useless and unfortunate? I don't blame these bitchy women at all, I blame the good men. Any good man who hustles first and hits it first before marrying will most likely marry a bitch...and hence every good man must seek out their wives when they have nothing, when they are struggling, when they do not look desirable to the hoes but can be spotted by a true virtuous woman.

okgerald:
Hello,

I am getting married to an American citizen of Nigerian parent. I have a lot to benefit like becoming a citizen myself, leaving Nigeria for good, papers . The thing is i don't feel a thing for her. We were introduced to each other and am not feeling a thing. Is it a good idea to go into this and feign happiness for the rest of my life.

You are heading into hell on earth bro. You just don't know it yet. If she is a great wife you will always loathe her and will one day seek out a replacement that you truly love. And when you do this she will be so heart broken and life threatening events may follow. If she is a bad wife wow, you will be passing through another NYSC (Now Your Suffering Continues) and after she finishes with you you will do another NYSC (Now Your Sapa Continues)...whoever advised you to take this road does not love you at all ohh. It is the road to self destruction oh...

Myrealself:
I took a lot of character from my dad that I don't like about myself. I have come to realize that marriage is not for me. I see the way my mum and dad acts towards each other, and I don't like it.

If it happens that I never get married, what is the implication of that for me? Although I might have a child with a woman I love, but marriage is out of it.

I need different perspective on the matter from matured people.

You want to love a woman and have a child with her but do not want to marry her! How old are you? 17?

okrote4real:
Bandits Deserve Respect, Empathy, They Have Children, Families – Islamic Cleric, Sheikh Gumi




http://saharareporters.com/2021/10/01/bandits-deserve-respect-empathy-they-have-children-families-%E2%80%93-islamic-cleric-sheikh-gumi

It's wrong to be rude to the elderly but I have to say this. Idiot, armed robbers have wives and children. Old fool, fraudsters have wives and children. Islamic dunce, mass murderers too have wives and children. Perhaps we need to also treat them with sympathy and respect. If any amnesty is granted to Boko Haram, Bandits and killer herdsmen then we must open all prisons and free everyone there! Since we are a nation that sympathizes with criminals then we have to free all criminals and burn down every court, police formation or prison...let everyone start studying UnknowGunMenology 101...let's see who will be the last criminal standing! Old, idiotic, Pisslamic fool.

MufasaLion:
Let him be deceiving himself. A week ago a guy posted screenshot of some IG post where women were revealing secrets like this. A woman said she's been sleeping with her man's best friend and still can't stop. Another said the child thry have is for another man even though the child resembles the husband facially.

Just imagine...one man go dey work like craze to provide first class lifestyle for his family only for the one lazy Nigerian yoot to be working hard on his wife's ass! This madness has to stop abeg.

betabread:
Let's stop reinventing the wheel,a child's genetic make up is split equally, I don't need a dna test to know my dad is my dad, it like using a machine gun to kill a mosquito but if mum had slept with my dad's brother or relative then dna night come in to prove

Split equally? Do you even know what you are saying? Can you even define what you mean by split equally? Have you forgotten that some genes are dominant or recessive in parents and this could imply that some genetic features of one parents may be more present in the offspring than the genetic features of the other parent? Dude you can tell yourself that both your parents contribute equally to your make-up and that is your opinion or your truth and you can decide to live with it...but do not discourage those who have doubts. E be like sey I go begin reason I go take setup DNA lab for my middle-class heavilypopulated area. Chai. In a world of immorality and deception, DNA testing lab will be an instant cash cow!

NothingLikeLove:
Hello fam, I need advice please. I met this man two yrs ago and we got married last year January. During our courtship, he portrayed himself in a good light. A week after our marriage, his true colors started coming out. It's been one problem or the other. He nags a lot, he doesn't forgive even when I plead for forgiveness if I offend him. It was a month after our marriage, he started revealing shocking things about himself, how he was told by a doc that he can never father a child, tho it could be cured, and many others. I got tired of the marriage because of his ill attitude towards me plus these shocking revelation, but because my faith kicks against divorce except on the ground of adultery, I try all I can to save my marriage. He's very jealous to the extent that he suspects every call I receive. He feels I'm cheating on him because according to him, his previous experience made him not to trust any female.

There was a day he beat me because he was suspecting that the phone call I had was from a man, yet that day it was my mum who called, but because I was pissed by his distrust, I refused to tell him who I was talking with on phone. He even threatened to shoot me if he had a gun.

That apart, he refused to go for treatment to cure his impotency, despite the pressure I mount on him. He keeps blaming it on lack of fund, so I had to give him money, since I'm a salary earner, he used the money for something else instead.

To cut the story short, the last straw, was when he converted to a Muslim and has been pressuring me to do same. And this is highly against my religious belief and I will never do it. He's been threatening fire and brimstone since then. I reported all that has been going on to his people and then mine, so they can help us. He denied all. Even denied that he's impotent and that I never gave him money to go for cure.

I had to leave my matrimonial home because I was scared. Right now am considering filling for divorce, since his attitude is very bad, he cannot impregnate me and has refused to seek help, he cannot take care of my needs financially because of his poor status and worse off, has joined a faith I will never be part of no matter his pressure. I don't know if divorce is the right action to take or I should give him time to change. Am confused please.

Mods please put this on front page so many will see it.

Divorce is more than right...If you are a Christian, the justification for a divorce can be seen here: 1 Corinthians 7:15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace. A man does not have money, yet his wife stayed. The man has infertility issues yet the wife stayed and offered to help. On top of it all baba now joined set awon religion-of-piss geng...aunty jejely walk away now that you can. If you are a Christian there is scriptural evidence for you to leave because the marriage has been rendered null and void.

usj:
I saw this on Facebook, it really touched me so I'm sharing it here

"name is **********I live in Lagos.My sister got pregnant for someone and during delivery she died.Till date I don't know who was responsible for the pregnancy.

The girl is now 8 years now and I have been doing my best in caring for her.Since my sister's death no one has come for this .i am not tired of caring for her, because God has blessed me with a lucrative business.

She is in one of the best nursery School here in Lagos.My problem now is that I met a guy early this year and told him everything about myself and my late sister.He said if he's to marry me he won't be able to accommodate the child.That he doesn't want to marry someone who has a child, Blessing is just like my own child.

First he complained that I buy expensive clothes for a child of 8 years that it's inappropriate,so I stopped.He then said I should register her in a government school instead of private school as the school is quite expensive,I told him I will think about it after this term.He got angry and said I want to be stubborn.

My boyfriend is a nice guy and we hope to settle down together early next year,but my problem is my niece.I discussed with her head teacher about giving her up for adoption she wasn't pleased about the idea but promised to look for someone who could just take the girl as a maid.

I am not comfortable about giving her as a maid but for people to adopt her and care for her.She can come and visit me any time.Age is no longer on my side,I will be 37 by January 2022.No one has the right to judge me on this,I can't waste my whole life to please anybody.Blessing is a good girl,she won't give anyone headache.

I have tried to reason with my guy but he still stick to his decision.I don't want to loose him,it wasn't easy having someone serious as it always last for a 2 or 3 months.I believe he is the right man for me.

His family loves me and it's a signal that our Union will be blessed.Before anyone will judge me I love my niece and will always do.

- from Amarachi Attamah ‘s wall.
https://www./990035224858252/permalink/1164337674094672/

Please tell that lady that she is about to be unfortunate in life. She wants to plunge a child into a life of uncertainty and deprivation because one mumu boyfriend does not want to accommodate her niece...you don't want to lose your boyfriend but you want to lose your niece...the lady has already made up her mind to do what she has purposed to do and but the GOD of that girl will fight for her and help her attain great heights in the future...last last her sorry ass will be on her knees begging her niece for forgiveness!