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Kobojunkie:
Many of you don't seem to live in the real world at all.

Yea and you live in the realest of worlds...Dr realist, I hail.

Kobojunkie:
Well, have you ever actually had a househelp situation such as the one you described.... cause it seems you really believe househelps are mumus.

No matter as e be you can never incur more costs recruiting helpers than having a nasty drama queen of a wife that can ultimately ruin one. In our modern world, with gadgets (washing machine, freezers, food dehydrators, vacuum cleaner, etc), eateries and other housekeeping services have eroded the value of drama queen wives as home keepers. This means men will need women mostly for sexual pleasure and procreation. However in our liberal world today, more and more women are willing to be toys and baby mamas which helps men escape the burden of legal marriage...in the end, na woman go lose! Na how many men dey pray for wife these days, ehn? Come compare am with the number of ladies fasting and praying in Shiloh for husband. A time will come ladies, particularly the valueless ones, will literally go on a begging spree to be the second, third, fourth or fifth wife or side chic of second class low life men.

Midas01:
And who is suffering from the baby mama crisis in America?.

You men don't like telling yourselves the truth and that's your problem.

If men don't marry whose problem is it ? The women (babymama) will have the last laugh in the end because the go find out, most kids of babymamas in America want nothing to do with their fathers as their fathers were mostly absent from their lives. Most of them end up lonely and rejected by their kids in their old age.

Keep deceiving yourselves.

Hear yourself! When a man has labored for himself, earned a fortune, doing well in his career and has tons of investments in store for him in his retirement, he will always have kids (probably adopted) around him! In today's liberal world no one wants to be associated with anyone who is not financially successful not even wives and children. So a financially successful man will always have women and children at his beck and call without being bound by marriage. Many of you ladies here will gladly spread your legs for someone like Wizkid to vaccinate you all night even when you are married to someone else and even when you know an affair with Wizkid is an exercise in futility. And you ladies have made matters even better for such men. You provide sex without marriage. You provide nude pictures on the internet for the entertainment of such men. Even married women can be lured into the beds of such men and in many cases these married women get bred thoroughly and their unfortunate husbands get to raise the child of another man. In the end, you ladies shot yourselves in the end in the name of liberalism. You have helped foster a world where men see no value in marriage because these insignificant women bring nothing to the table other than sex and drama...In the end, the joke is on your kind!

Islie:
From previous threads

https://www.nairaland.com/6768218/female-lieutenant-pours-dirty-water

And

https://www.nairaland.com/6768553/nigerian-army-reacts-officer-pouring

Their has been a new twist to the whole situation




http://saharareporters.com/2021/09/24/update-youth-corps-member-dehumanised-nigerian-female-soldier-forced-leave-cross-river

This goes on to show that there are very toxic females out there! This fool will be seeking for a husband one day and find herself asking my men don't date female soldiers. When we all know the amount of toxicity present in the army irrespective of gender!

Kobojunkie:
You think say househelps be mumu?

Na how much househelp wan collect? Househelp wey dey live rent free for ya house, eat your food and yet receive pay? You wan pay am wetin you go pay graduate ni? How househelp wan collect pass 10k per month?...and if we are not careful oga go still lash the poor girl regularly. Today it is increasingly becoming foolish to pay bride price and trap yourself in a marriage all because of sex and house chores...

kristonium:
Justice is served!

How was justice served? The fool that killed this lady will roam free. He should rot in jail. And the family of the deceased should be compensated for their loss.

fergie0o1:
SOURCE

Women will be the ones to ultimately suffer for this...men will further deepen their resolve never to marry. As for sex, there are countless girls available for sex outside of marriage and there are married ones willing to taste forbidden fruits. As for house chores you can recruit a house help to do the job and pay him or her a modest fee. And boom some women have been replaced as far as some men are concerned. Who wants to labor for years and lose it on a divorce? Na woman go suffer this law las las.

BluntCrazeMan:
Dear Mathematicians in the house....
I need you all to look at the attached picture below, and point out the spot where the whole mathematics started going wrong.
..
Thanks..

You cannot start with nonsense and end with sense...na how you wan divide 0 by 0!

Modified: Dividing 0 by 0 is tantamount to dividing infinity by infinity and it is in such a problem your technique breaks down!

Corporate2020:
They shoulders all be shot with AK-47, survivors should be re-short with AK-49 and Machine Guns. No protesting retired policeman, policewoman, policechild or even policedog should be allowed to escape.

So this people want to bring down the government and cause a coup? They should all be treated as coup plotters and treasonable and felony offenders.

Mad idiots that killed our youths at Lekki Toll Gate. They killed the youths that were protesting that Police renumeration and welfare should be upgraded

policechild, policedog...

Commentor:
How much is a full goat?

I taya broda!

Ogamysamo:
how can one know who is really good to go?

She will fit you, believe in your future, labor with you, criticize you when you falter, encourage you when you are weak, celebrate your success as her own and protect you like a mother would protect a newborn she has been waiting for years to have. That, is a wife material!

Gozye:
Hello All,

My wife is seriously suspecting am still engaging in a past relationship where I had an issue. Though I occasionally send money for the child school fees that's all. All these are known by my wife before we went into marriage but am just surprised this is coming up now. Pls advise me on how to handle this,thanks

Dude live with it. She will doubt you for as long as she can remember you had a child before marriage...in cases like this it is hard to offer counsel because I don't know who the real wife is? Because as soon as your current wife shows you hell you will remember that your Ex did not do that much and soon enough you will go back to browsing her website until it crashes again. Dude na your cross. Carry it with wisdom, make cross no go carry you ohhh!

greencard:
We keep hearing;

"Marry the right person"
"Be with with the right person"
"Life is easier with the right person",

What's your definition of "The right person"

The right person is the best fit. You are a unique person with distinct strengths, weaknesses, fantasies, ideas, proclivities, dispositions, habits, vision, outlook, guiding philosophies, mentors, ambitions, sexuality, spirituality, limits and passions...so if you must be locked with someone in a relationship for a lifetime that person has to uniquely match your personality such that both of you act consistently as a single person! Now finding a person that fits this criteria is practically impossible...and this is why the only way to find such a person is with the help of the most high GOD, Jesus Christ.

zedegit:
I've been thinking lately cos I am the type of person that loves his space.
I don't like sharing my things; I want my things to be as I kept them.

I am sensitive to words and very temperamental. I am like a volcano waiting to erupt anytime.

I hate being manipulated. I hate the entitlement mentality of some women.

I am an introvert and don't like crowd. I can stay indoors for a month or more as long as I got food, water, a charged phone with subscription. I go out for work and other essential duties.

They say every man got his type of woman. Do you think there's a woman that can match my temperaments?

NB: I respond well when a lady is good with sooting words and avoids arguments.
I love intimacy too although I'm not the romantic type but I can be generous if money is there.

I think the temperament is choleric.

No marriage is not for you...you are worse than complicated math problems. By your own admission, you love intimacy but you are not the romantic type, how? How na? If you are not romantic what are you doing with intimacy? By your own admission, you like your space and detest sharing stuff but yet you love intimacy, how bros? How? How can you love intimacy and yet you don't like to share and you want your space? Being intimate with someone requires you to share somethings with that person. Things like your time, your living unit, your bedroom, your secrets, your fears, your fantasies, your ideas and so on. Dude if GOD created the wife you need, she would be a freak of nature that would most likely end in the asylum...If you want a woman you must be ready to change as much as you require her to change. Anything short of this arrangement would result in a taskmaster-slave relationship which will ultimately blow-up in your face!

Playloaded:
My Husband Wants To Marry His Side Chic After I Reported Her To Her Husband – Woman Laments, Seeks Advice

A woman has sought advise from the public on how to find a solution for the problem currently bedeviling her marriage.

She revealed that her husband wants to marry his side chic who was recently chased out of her home by her husband after he uncovered her infidelity.

Sharing her story with a relationship counselor on Instagram, she distraught woman revealed that she had gone through her husband’s chat and messaged his side chic, who was also married.

She then contacted the side chic’s husband and gave him proof that his wife was unfaithful. .

The narrator said that her husband then came home and said his side chic’s husband sent her packing, and if they don’t reconcile, he would have to take her as his wife.

Read her write-up


https://playloaded.com.ng/my-husband-wants-to-marry-his-side-chic-after-i-reported-her-to-her-husband/

It's either the woman is provoking her husband to do something stupid or the man has foolishly played himself into the charm of the side chic. Clergymen who join couples in marriage need to include a curse in the wedding vows that if either one of them attempts to have amorous relations with another man or woman whilst still married to their spouse they will die immediately. This would help men and women know the intentions of the their spouses before the wedding because they way marriages end these days it seems most men and women have already made up their mind to cheat after their wedding!

cybertruss:
My wife no longer loves me. She always insults me, snub me and has no respect for me. I will confess I am not very rich but I work extremely hard. I noticed that my wife attends political meetings and they have overpowered me as she has no atom of respect for me.

In fact a time I sent 90% of my total monthly earning she told me real men send their wives 500,000 naira monthly but you send me this rubbish and call it money. The time I wanted to pack my things to the house we built together she told me that I cannot bring it in because it is her house.

It is a very shameful thing for me to mention that she gives me blow sometimes when I ask for sex. The day I got angry and revolted the whole world went against me that I went against the rights and dignity of a woman. I was accused of trying to rape my wife.

The last day I kissed a woman was on my wedding day when they said I can kiss her. Till today I have never kissed a woman. I take a lot of pains but cannot take that anymore. She seems to have carry on with her life in her political group in Ogun State. As she is mingling well with politicians there.

The problem is why are pastors telling me that I cannot carry on with my life.

Why is it called sin if I go for another woman. Didn't God himself say it is not good for man to be alone. I blame myself, I might have married a wrong lady. But didn't God himself say that if his people repent he will heal their land.

Why do they believe it is wrong to re marry?

Dude own your shiit. You have successfully married an assassin. I wonder what you saw in her that made you choose her. Dude you better go for deliverance first. E fit be powers of your fathers/mothers house they turn the woman head. Go for prayers but if the matter still pass you japa!

saphiere:
Being a second wife to the right person is better than being a first wife to the wrong person – Nigerian lady

A Nigerian lady has taken to cyberspace to share her opinion on marriage.
The lady who took to her Facebook page to air her view on marriage said it is better to become a second wife to the right husband than to become the first wife to the wrong husband.

“Being a second wife to the right person is better than being a first wife to the wrong person.
I Move ��‍♀️��‍♀️��‍♀️”, she wrote.

https://.com/being-a-second-wife-to-the-right-person-is-better-than-being-a-first-wife-to-the-wrong-person-nigerian-lady/

lalasticlala

The idiocy of some ladies is mind boggling...would the right man need a second wife? Won't a right man be satisfied and content with one wife? If the right man accepts you as a second wife what is the guarantee he will not be seeking for a third wife? And when the right man eventually gets the third wife would you still consider him the right man? Some ladies believe in notions so idiotic, they make the word "idiocy" obsolete!

Telling men to call themselves to order is not a practical public policy option...a better policy option would be for the government to reform the criminal-justice system. If criminals were caught and punished severely, crime will reduce drastically and this would also imply a reduction in rape incidents...but when you live in a country where ritualists, robbers, corrupt political office holders, rapists, pedophiles, murders etc are set free after a phone call then you can reasonably expect that anyone located in the lower rungs of the society has valid reasons to be live in perpetual paranoia and fear. You isolated rape as a crime that occurs due to the physical vulnerabilities of women but you probably missed the broader picture that anyone who is economically, socially, psychologically, politically and intellectually vulnerable are also victims of other forms of crime that are as destructive, if not more, as rape. We must fight crime in our society by asking for a functional criminal-justice system...nothing else will work. You can protest rape all you want. You can mobilize celebrities all you want. You can set up talk shows all you want. You can conduct sensitization programmes all you want. You can tweet all you want...rape will keep being an integral part of our society if we do not have a functional criminal justice system.

Esseite:
Someone earns about 400k monthly which is suppose to be a very good salary, but his expenses despite frugal is not cutting it.. he has been advised on marriage countless times, but he does not just know how to support such. He tries to make people see reason as to why the "big boy tag" does not fit because he cant see it at all..

- his job prevents me from cooking and he really does not know how to cook either, really really bad at cooking.
- he stays in an apartment of 1m/annum, which is somewhat not luxury I think.

Rent - 84,000 monthly (average 2 bed)
Security - 5,000 monthly
Estate security - 3,000 monthly
Cleaner - 5,000 monthly
Dstv - 9,500 monthly
Auto Fueling - 50,000 monthly
Auto servicing - 7,000 (3mths projection)
Auto miscellenous/charges - 10,000 (tolls,pr)
Generator fuel/service - 30,000 monthly
Laundry - 10,000 monthly
Feeding - 77,500 (2,500/day)
Hangout/chills/network - 30,000 (7,500/week)
Clothing/wears/accessories - 10,000 (monthly)
Electricity bill - 10,000(monthly)
Gifts - 10,000(monthly- No wife/No GF)
Home maintenance/personal care- 10,000 (monthly)
Healthcare miscellenous - 5,000 (monthly)
Internet data - 10,000 (monthly)
Recharge card - 16,000 monthly (500 daily)

Total = N395,200
Savings - 7,800

How in the world would he explain to people that he does not have. He is an introverted character and a very frugal in finances. He didnt not factor in furnishing et all.. he has no school fees and multiple mouths to feed.

Sorry. This is my opinion and others may think I'm wrong but this budget is the budget of a pauper. A pauper will receive salary and dump it all on cash outflows. From the bolded and coloured expenditure heads you can extract 200k for investment. For goodness sake you earn 400k and you want to live in Estate. Arrant foolishness. You earn 400k and you want to spend 10k on data and 16k on recharge cards to waste your life on youtube, instagram and twitter and calling people with zero bearing on your success. You want to spent 30k on hangouts with friends that will desert you when you go broke. Mumuism. You want to spend 77.5k on feeding in a month for what? To impress who? Oloshism. You want to spend 67k on car expenses with 400k in Buhari era when you suppose get sense. Why not use public transport/uber/bolt and use the vehicle for uber/bolt to earn more income? DSTV 9k monthly? You are not ready to succeed. You are romancing poverty. Very soon your poverty will be pregnant for you! Be not deceived 400k is a lot of money and if you are prudent you can start your business with a portion of that salary. 200k savings per month for 12 months is 2.4million naira which is enough to start most small businesses in Nigeria.

loveth360:
You are just ranting and exhibiting your hatred for great Igbos.

If you can't tell your tribe and answer questions i asked then don't quote me again.



Every little mind is always expert in great Igbo affairs.

As for whether Igbos are great or not,we leave it till when you tell me how you tribe is greater than them.

My mind is too busy with more valuable stuff for it to harbour hatred for an entire tribe...mrs or miss great tribe. I hope you can cash in on your great tribe fantasy because it would be a shame if you can't!

loveth360:
Then learn to drive your point without insulting the great Igbos.

And if you are to insult.eg insulting the politicians then be specific.

In that comment you called the whole Igbos fool.


If i may Ask.What's your tribe?
Are they all comfortable with one Nigeria?
What are you people doing to be comfortable if you are not in one Nigeria?

The great Igbos! It is amusing how you keep repeating that phrase. It is amusing because if indeed they were that great as you so emphasize they would have seen the power in their numbers, invested in their own land, rallied the youth and turned the East into the industrial hub of west africa...instead they keep whining about a referendum from a political system that profits from the current geo-political structure. Don't get me wrong the Igbos are indeed great but their greatness is usually abroad and not within their home land. Imagine the largesse display of wealth in Oba, Anambra by the Cubana crew and compare it with the state of the roads, the buildings and general economic outcomes of the town and you will see that of a truth there is something off about the greatness of the Igbos. I say it again that the Igbos really don't need Biafra because if they did they would have achieved it by now...if e remain 10 seconds for una to get Biafra one Northern billionaire will share millions of naira amongst Igbos leaders and boom den go cancel Biafra sharperly. Don't ask me about what I gain or do not gain from one Nigeria, it is you Igbos that have persistently mouthed the idea of secession to no avail and that is why Igbos have been at the center of all discussions bordering on secession in Nigeria.

loveth360:
You are the full here.


What happen to your own tribe,are they all happy in One Nigeria?


Every fool what to insult the great Igbos.

You did not criticize what I posted. You are just maligning my person for no reason. Igbos are great. There is no doubt about that. It is pretty evident. But my pain is despite their capacity for greatness they join forces with outsiders to ruin their collective development in favour of personal gain. This is the greatest challenge facing the Biafra movement. I lived in Abia once and saw the teeming resources lying unsed and untapped but Igbo politicians and billionaires rather amass their wealth in another land. Buhari is not your enemy. Fulani is not your enemy. Even the Yorubas are not your enemy...the enemy of Biafra are the Igbo elite who profit from the current political configuration in Nigeria. I won't be surprised if it was a fellow Igbo man that worked secretly with the FG to kidnap Kanu. I come in peace sister, no need to insult me...I have relatives who are Igbo too so I feel their pain as well.

chatinent:
Hello,

First, I don't support the way she left. Marriage should not be all honey and darling when the going is good.

You guys didn't have any outstanding issue apart from the money thing? No quarrel ...no beating?

If that's the case, I think you should call her mobile phone.

I think you should try to meet her and discuss issues together.

Crowdfunding for public advice may not be too good sha. Awon redpills are coming to tell you to take in another woman.


Wouldn't another woman leave too if it is unbearable?

You don't need to be a redpill. You need to be an alpha gentleman. You need to know your responsibilities as though they were your body parts.

I must say... I hate it when families know husband and wife are having an issue.

We shouldn't listen to our family sometimes.

Check: they are all concentrating on the woman but none of them is telling you be more responsible. Of course, they'll support you with words. Will words help you take care of your family?

When I mean trying your best, I mean living up to the expectations of being a man; it is your responsibility to take care of your family! You don't bear children more than you can take care of.

You may rightly argue differently that you work hard. Sure, you do. But you aren't working harder enough for the family. You need to man up.

Bring your wife back.

Be the husband you'd want your daughter to have.

Be like the man who was sent to the lions to be eaten but came back leading the pride.

Please don't forget to buzz me when she is back make I come chop nkwobi biko.

You are welcome.

Rubbish talk. The man should go and rob so he can be more responsible, abi. Imagine mumucious talk. Money is the yard stick of responsibility now...but they wed a man with a ton of cash that cheats they will shift the goal post and redefine the yardstick of responsibility. @Olivertwist1985, don't call her back. If she left because you don't have enough money she will lead to your destruction when you eventually have money. This is what I tell good and responsible guys. Start dating or courtship when you have nothing. The woman that agrees to have faith in your future, submits to you when you have nothing and endures your present will eventually be a great wife who will stand by you through thick and thin. OP free the woman she was never your life and you should consider doing a DNA test when you can afford it to be sure those kids are yours.

Kondomatic:
Marriage in Nigeria doesn't give room for equals rights for now.

Not necessarily true...whether there is room for it or not depends on the parties involved and not the country...as for me I am graced to be the Lord of my home, my LORD Jesus is the overlord of my home. Hence my wife has to be someone who agrees with this power structure...but some other men may choose not to be like this and that is their choice.

Lamanii22:
I noticed recently that whatever my husband likes is what I like, for example, I originally use FCMB and my partner uses zenith, immediately I opened an account with zenith... Another one, I listen to foreign classic songs basically while my partner's more into Tupac and Orlando owoh, I totally love those songs now... I don't eat fufu before but I'm liking it now lol.....

Congratulations. You are among the exclusive and privileged 1% who are really married...99% of so called marriages are basically two roomates cohabiting after wedding!

sapientia:
Why pick someone from Imo state and dump the person in Keffi?

SE leaders are all cowards

God bless you whoever you are. Yes, the cowards. It is either they bend over and allow Fulani bang them to stupor or they engage in chest beating and empty threats. I have said it over and over again. Biafra will never be given to them it must be achieved...but these fools want Biafra handed over to them just as independence was handed over to Nigeria and not earned. Igbos have a ton of billionaires. Igbos are strategically located in a region accessible by land and sea. Igbos are hardworking and natural business people. Igbos have lush vegetation and abundant arable land...and instead of these fools to rally their resources together and develop their land, they are waiting for Buhari to give them lefelendum! Nonsense!!

This fool could reverse policies but could not reverse the exit from Afghanistan. Many of the sympathisers of this fool will claim he inherited the deal from Trump, bla bla bla but will forget that this fool has one of the strongest militaries in the world and he could have rolled back the so called condition-based Trump agreement with the Taliban but he went ahead, pull troops, caused a panic, sent troops back in, botched the exit, created a kill zone at Kabul airport that led to the deaths of US soldiers after 18 months with no single American deaths, left more than 80 billion dollars worth of military equipment behind, abandoned Americans and abandoned Afghan allies to the torture of the Taliban...by the time Biden is through with the US, it will go up in flames!

Dozis:
So today I took the first jab of the AstraZeneca COVID-19 Vaccine and here's my experience.

I registered today and I still took the vaccine today, the registration was so simple, easy and seamless, you can register here https://nphcda.vaccination.gov.ng/

After registration, you will receive a message indicating the vaccination time, date and centre.
Luckily for me, the vaccination centre is very close to where I work, on getting there, there was no crowd, as a matter of fact I was the only one coming to take the vaccine as at that time, so I walked up to a nurse and made enquiries, she directed me to the people in charge, they asked wether I've registered I answered in affirmative, they checked my name in their system and confirmed my registration, after the manual registration, I was shown the health worker in charge of the vaccination, the woman was just nice and straight to the point, I received the vaccine and was asked to sit for 10-15 minutes so that they can observe me for side effects and there was none, though I wasn't expecting any and till now, till now I feel nothing but just the initial needle pain and I know some people that took theirs 6 months ago and they are all fine.

I am scheduled to take the next jab by 28th of next month.

I am a front line health worker and during that first wave and lock down I contracted COVID-19 and the experience was not funny, so I don't want to take chances, I don't want to have the feeling again.

To the naysayers, COVID-19 is real and the vaccines are safe and accessible, please go and take yours now.

Why are you begging people to take vaccine...if they want to take it they will take it and if they don't they won't. Your body, your choice. Abi is that no longer the moto of the times? If you have taken the vaccine, you are protected and should have no fear of contracting COVID from anyone, abi!?

KillAlabi2021:
You're not intelligent

And you are the most intelligent person in the world...more intelligent than Terrance Tao! Congratulations.

Calitoscassius:
What are you on about? Did you read the article atall? Or maybe you didn't understand it? This is how people fail common reading and comprehension tests.

I stated my opinion but unfortunately there are folks like you that have little or nothing to contribute but think themselves an umpire of reason...though they are actually bereft of any form reasoning.

Financial success almost always comes down to demand and supply...and has nothing to do with gender!