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depure:
good point me too I am willing to also give but this little task is cool

OK let's see how he will respond

I will personally do a video call to be very sure

Cyntie55:
There is this guy, we dated for 2 years before he traveled abroad (Italy) 2019. Our relationship was going on well even when he traveled out, we were always calling each other on video calls everyday. I was so faithful to him.

Suddenly (last year March), he started avoiding me. He could go for months before he replies my calls or chats.
Atleast no matter how busy you are, you can always spare 1 minutes of your time with the person you claim you love.

Please note, he's always online, We do video calls mostly on WhatsApp and anytime I try to reach him on video call or send him a message.... it always ring and deliver but he won't pick or reply.

Here are my reasons why I'm so confused whether to move on with my life or not.

1) Although before he started avoiding my calls, he told me he was busy... that he was working on something (but he never disclosed the particular "thing" to me)

2) We were supposed to get married as planned last year August. But this is May 2022 and absolutely nothing is in progress about it.

3)I discussed with his friend about it and he told me he's in a relationships over there. (I don't know if to believe him or not, because he didn't show me proof)

Now, it been a year I'm enduring his character. I feel like I'm stuck alone in this relationship. Heaven knows I haven't offended him in any way. I wish he could open up to me and tell me what I was doing wrong so that I could adjust. OR he should just tell me he's in a relationship so that I could move on.

I plan visiting his elder sister this weekend and explain to her the issue on ground but on a second thought I think I'm too forward. I'm jst confused and I feel hurt.

It's difficult for a man to stay with out having a woman to chat or call on, so when he says he is busy, it could be one of it

There is nothing wrong in telling his sister how you have been lonely and worried about him nit communicating with you and to you especially when he doesn't respond to you, yet he is only

If after your visit to his sister and there are no changes, just prepare yourself to move on

If something you have been holding doesn't belong to you, you have to drop it because it will still go back to the owner

All thses abroad guys, once they go abroad, there is slim chances of him keeping to his promise especially when it comes to marriage

What really caused this kind of wound on your leg, is it really healing as in are you sure you are seeing the effects of the medicine that you are talking

Can you put a little video of this leg and your face in display

I really want to dash you but I need to be very very sure you are real

Miraclenoble:
Please don't just view,you could call me to confirm if I am really genuine.
Please I have not eaten since last night,believe me.
I know am not supposed to be doing this but I don't really know what else to do.

Why did you open a fresh page instead of you to continue with the previous page

Threesha:
I woke up to check my mailbox and saw a disturbing mail from a woman.

According to her, she slept with her landlord to feed her husband and children. This is what she wrote;



What advice do you have for this woman?
Do you think what she did was right or wrong?
Drop your comments below and give her some advice.

Let her handle and deal with her present predicament in any way she thinks she can

If her husband is comfortable with his joblessness but not crippled, then I don't have any blame for her actions

Ebubu:
he is possessed

You are a nuisance who doesn't know anything about child care and parenting

guru03:
Hello Professional Health workers in the house, Mt two year old son who is learning to talk is stammering, please I need help on that. Moderator please post it to front page.

First of all, check if it runs in both parents family

Secondly, teach him how to talk slowly and picking words one by one

Lastly when you hear him stammer while talking, caution him immediately then remind him to talk slowly

mohziz1:
Hi nairalands...

I received a call from my female friend whose wedding is just a year old, she was weeping on phone seriously.

I tried to percify her and asked what the problem is, she said her husband wants to sleep in a separate room and she told him she is not okay with it.

To cut the story short, the husband had succeeded in separating their room, she said she feels lonely at night and she has tried to talk to him but he wouldn't listen.

Pls what advise can I give to her, and is it okay for a newly wedded couple to sleep in a separate room

Advice her to be loyal and humble, let's see if that will do the magic

myami:
you are miserable. go and get a man

Was my comment strange to you or you are the man in question

Go and read her profile then you will understand why the comment

Sophiecute:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z-5UeJkj8A8

Actress uche ogbodo shares hot � bedroom video with her younger baby daddy

She said that she is tried of hiding her handsome man, so she wants to show the world what she has been enjoying.

I hope it doesn't end in premium tears

Macsjebs:
Source: https://dnbstories.com/2022/04/full-list-of-elon-musks-wives-girlfriends-and-children.html

cc: lalasticlala

Does It mean that he is so difficult that no woman can stay with him

Or he just like changing women

essentialone:
Is it wrong to avoid your hometown or village?

It depends

If the people there are that bad that they don't want to see the progress of others

If you have witches and wizard that monitors people progress

If your kins men are good at giving poisons to people

Lastly if there are no love and unity among families

arejibadz:
I keep wondering The love they both had at first site were did it run to?

It depends on the value of love they have for each other

Some family issues can reduce the love

Some things that needs financial backing but couldn't be met can affect the love

Individual attitudes in marriage is different from that of friendship, so bad attitude is capable of affecting the level of love from high to low

AishaDant:
Communication in relationships is very important. Talk to your partner about everything and carry her along always.

Be honest, be kind and be sensitive to your partner.
Also, be faithful!

Feel free to share these with your partner.
It must be 50:50 to work well.

Best of luck!

Honestly ❗ you have said it all, transperency is the key

iamdapsyj:
To be honest, I feel his parents doesn't like the girl. Unfortunately, as a man, he is not ready yet for marriage if he can't make his own decisions.

That's it
But I see him regretting dropping her at the end of this manipulation

OluwoR:
Good evening my brothers and sisters,

I sincerely needs urgent help/assistance for my Fiancee.

Met her in 2012, started dating in 2014, had our first sex in 2019, but since that 2019, anytime I make moves to have sex with Her, it's always through fight, to cut the story short, she find sex extremely painful that even anything that pass cuddling, she'll start crying, this might sound funny, but seriously it is not.
I talked to Her about it, booked an appointment with a gynecologist, my babe didn't show up, I tried to get her sexual supplements, she said they have side effects, and she disposed them.

Now, the problem is, we're planning our introduction, and we're yet to get any solution to the problem at hand,
please, who have any idea of what we can do about it.

Is it introduction to sex that you guys are planning or introduction to a marriage with sex problems

Alright so how do you guys intend to make babies

How do you plan to have a sexless marriage at this your vibrant age

I mean how do you think this issue will be solve once you are married to her

Anyway solve this problem now before any introduction

iamdapsyj:
His reason is just an excuse jare....he knew all along that this girl lives in a city far away from his folks and yet continued the relationship. My conclusion is that his folks are not ready to make such trip for some reason only the Op can tell us. Chaii, I just pity the girl

My dear, I pity the girl but I blame the man not his parents

He is the one that will wear the shoe not his parents

If he realy loves her. He can bring her over there and the parents can do the needful on his behalf

Security is in God's hand not human

oldienavie:
So I have been dating my girlfriend for 3 months and she is perfect, actually she is a virgin, well behaved and very respectful. The relationship is going very fine but I am starting to really think deeply and I may just break up.
Why ? I have lived abroad for a while and do have a very serious phobia for travelling on Nigerian roads, her parents are a journey of 4 hours from where I am and I understand the area is rife with kidnapping and robbery of all sorts.

I find myself obsessing over having to make that trip to her parents place and also have my family embark on that journey and I always shudder at the thought of it.

I am seriously considering breaking up with her and looking for a lady whoose parents are here in the same city I reside, cos one of the things that gives me serious head ache is travelling on Nigerian roads.

Since I got back to Nigeria I have not travelled outside of the city that I am and it is because of how serious that phobia is.

But how do I tell her I am breaking up with her for this reason, it sounds very trivial but its a serious issue for me.

Honestly this is not the main reason for breaking up with her

You are yet to tell us exactly why you want to break up with her

You may have found another lady and because of the proximity you want to break up with her, maybe you suddenly just realized that she is not your standard

Alright, which ever lady you want to replace her with, can you determine how the trip of your family going to visit them will be, what if what you were afraid of in her own trip now happens in uoir new girl friend trip of marriage, will you question God

Haven't you heard of Marriage done on your behalf since you are abroad then your family will do the needful

What if you can afford to get free security from fully armed forces men to take your family through and flow for her marriage rights, will you still go ahead or you will get another excuse

Make una they reason some kind things very well because of posterity

You break her virginity, gave her hope if a happy marriage and now you want to drop her for another, tomorrow if the later turns out to be the worst woman in your life, will you drive her away to go back to your vomit to pick the one that have been loyal to you

Then if she has gotten married then, will you advise her to come out of the marriage

Anyway its your marriage not our, do as you wish but don't say, had I known

Kingsley123456:
I will be brief...

I dated a lady in 2009, despite that she knows I wasn't ready to father a child, she got pregnant and hid it for about 5-6months before she came to my patents through my elder sister....now I hardly sleep,

Well, I started dating another girl (23yr old) early last yr, obviously we started as a sex mate thinking the relationship was heading nowhere so I thought there was no point of being straightforward about having a child before meeting her....

Now I've seen other qualities that I like in her, we love each other and the relationship has taken another face, I don't want to lose her Care and love. I ought to have told her before, now I'm scared, I know she will be heartbroken, I don't know what she could do when I finally tell her, but what I know is that, she will leave me once she found out elsewhere....

We spoke last night and I asked her what can make her break up with me, her reply was, if her mother should reject me or if she herself should find out any of my secrets from another person...how do I tell her Honestly I'm afraid of loosing her...I'm 31yrs old, she's serving rn.

Invite her over to your place as usual and then seat her down and tell her that you want her to know that you have a child and you kept it away because you don't know how far the relationship will go

Stop at that point

Make sure that you are telling her this at night so that it will be impossible for her to leave that night

She will be speechless that moment

All she wants from you is to assure her that, you will make sure that you will always prove to her that you will be with her forever and keep loving her

No matter how angry she will be, don't loose your guard, keep apologising, she will find a way to deal with it

MonkeyMods:
With the cheapest women in Africa


Women are 5 for 10 kobo there

Try and get sense, even if it's 10kobo sense, just get it

You need it

DamnnNiggarr:
English scholars in the house!!!

Line 3

essentialone:
How do you avenge the death of your father, killed by wicked relatives?

Do you too wish to be killed the same way your father was killed as you are claiming

Just leave judgment for God

If a child is anxious to know what killed his father, that same thing may kill him

It a proverb in Igbo land

Znation:
It's a blark sunday nairalanders.

I was watching Evaton vs Chelsea match when my negbour called me that my girlfriend mum came to our compound with police, that i should'nt return home for today.

I knew it, that this girl will definately put me in trouble somday, but i could'nt resist the temptation.

She has been given me money and lot of things from her mum shop.

last week, i recieved the sum of N250,000K to my bank account with her name as the depositor, i called her and she told me i shouldn't fear that she was the one who sent it.

I ask her why and she said i should help her to save it. I've already spent N40K from the money which she was aware of.

I'm now getting imformation that her mum gave her money to deposit to their accout, but she instead sent it to me and said she lost the money. Is like she finally told her the truth that she sent me the money, and i don't kno if she told them she has been given me money before.

I don't kno what i will do, my landlord is callin but i don't want to pick.

Ask her to send her mum's account and transfer the money back to her mom

Before then call her and ask her why they are looking for you

nesgeeek:
very correct.

Thanks

StilmaVsBorn2w:
Thank you, am going today with my people, have already spoken with her elder brother they expecting us.

Excellent, just be calm and humble and you will spend less

They lost their daughter you lost the mother of your child

Both of you are grieved

So the pains of losing a loved one is 50/50

StilmaVsBorn2w:
https://www.nairaland.com/7102223/want-me-marry-corpse-refused


I have decided to Marry her corpse after reading through all the comments on the thread since two days. you all should understand, my traditions don't behave that way hence me insisting. The thing is am in debt because of this whole challenge, hospital bills, transportations to and fro that those who loan me and some apps I borrowed from are starting to call my contacts asking for my whereabouts. How then am I going to afford a marriage ceremony.. those saying it won't costs more than 5k, actually when I called a relative close to her, she said it would be organize like normal marriage and I be giving a list to provide some things.

please good fellow Nairalanders am here seeking for financial assistance of any sort.
kindly help me, not to marry her but to help clear some of my outstanding bills.
before I proceed with the next step

thank you all

You know what, you have tried to accept to do the needful

This time around take your inlaws inside and let them know your capacity
If possible print uoir account balance from the bank they will see the current date or show them your account balance in uoir phone they will see the current transaction

Tell them that this us all you have, that they should arrange and modify things to fit into your availabile balance

Just humble yourself and everyone will cooperate with you

If he likes, let him marry another third wife

That's his business

Now that his problem on earth is to marry another wife hope its solved

If not then he can add the third one

DMerciful:
I'm not foolish to cohabit with a woman in the first place but if i was in such a situation,
I'd never marry the dead or pay any bride price.

Nothing can be done to the guy, the family of the girl knew she was sick and they were giving her traditional concoction instead of taking her to the hospital

Am glad you mentioned the word foolish

That has described that it was a foolish act to keep a woman at home without proper marriage rights

So he should deal with it

And you, stop my mention I don't argue with people who doesn't reason properly

Am done with you

Enough said,
His father has stood on his ground that he is not in support of such

It's left for him to obey his father or obey himself

So the Judy was already having two kids for another man

Then it's not a big deal for Judy as she is use to disgraceful acts

She only succeeded on bringing Yul into her crazy world

DMerciful:
The woman is in the mortuary so whoever comes for her body would pay the mortuary bill.

He should just continue his life and take care of his son.

Again, the son is with him

Talk is cheap

Pray to God to put you into such situations then you can practically do all you are saying

Not hiding behind a key board

[quote author=QuinModah post=112363266][/quote]If you want to stay and remain childless stay

If you want to leave and probably get pregnant for another man, even if he doesn't need the pregnancy, leave

Which ever you choose, it's your choice and your biological clock that you are dealing with

DMerciful:
The child is with him already, if the name on the child certificate is his or he is listed as the father then nothing can be done to him legally

He never mentioned that the child is with him as at the time he brought this report

Whatever rocks his boat, that woman must be buried

And whatever he was asked to do, he must fulfil it