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T0T0fucker:
it started last 2wesks, steady crying...I can't sleep at all.. always wakes me at night.
surprisingly today it used to be one.

now it's two, crying all throughout the night like you mistake it for a human being

is there a sign or omen?

what can I do?

Oyiboman69:
Their problem....

shortIGBOman:
AchalugoNwa, I'm not from Ogun. Ask Chidedu, Ebere, Kalu, Chibuzor and co. Na them dey go do those kind things for Ogun

Daniel7543:
You this damaged wh0re.. Go and tell your fellow wh0res to stop denying their husbands sex.

If I marry you legally and you're denying me my marital rights for months.. Uhmmm.. Let me rest my case.

I swear I even blame op for being remorseful... He should stop Simping around and allow his wife go to hell

Go and read his previous posts and see the reason why his wife ran away.

His wife still has that spirit of oloshoism in her, the stupid wife denied him his marital rights for months without any tangible reasons. Then the op dealt with her wonderfully... Then she ran away.

Probably she was fvcking another man somewhere.. You know that You wh0res can't be trusted.

The op still went to beg for forgiveness yet all to no avail, what do you expect him to do? Kill himself? You women are so dangerous. Spits!

chidamysy:
Dont know if this have been discussed here, decide to create a topic on this.

I need an advice for a cousin that just got married last two months, He is having a hard time making love to his wife because she is a Virgin. Their relationship did not last more than 6 months before they got married, he thought all the while the babe was pulling his legs, and me as a sharp guy i told him to sample that kpekus but he did not heed the advice.
Just last week he opened up to me, telling me how he has been battling for weeks, that each time he tries, its as if he wants to rape her, cos the last attempt, she had to bite his chest, and ever since then he left her all alone to her self.
The guy is considering Infidelity because he is sex starved
Now for those who had similar cases like this, need your advice on how to go about this.
I gave him two options, 1. He should get he girl drunk and force his way, after all he is legally married and cant be held responsible for his actions, but on second thought, that seems like molestation or man inhumanity to fellow man.
2. Try and see a physician, maybe he would be given a remedy, to ascertain if his womaniless is someone too tight or she is having Genophobia, don't know if i got that right.

Please i need a matured advice.

Thanks for taking your time to read.

Noah9:
Good day Nigerians.

My wife and I had issues sometime around December last year till January this year when she ran to her parent's house to stay without telling me. I know I was at fault, I have gone to apologize several times but she refused to forgive me.

Okay! Hand over my child to me, let me take my responsibility and play my fatherly role in her life, but she refused.

This Sunday may 1st, will make it 5 months I've not set my eyes on my daughter. April 2 was my daughter's 4th birthday, I couldn't even reach her to wish her happy birthday not to talk of sending her money.

It's been 2 months now my wife's phone is switched off. She off her phone purposely because of the way I'm agitating to get my child back.

I've reported to human rights at igando, Lagos State, they called and wrote petition to my wife but she refused to honor it. I also reported to the police and radio FM but they couldn't help me because her phone is switched off since then. I don't know her whereabout, she's no longer in her parents house.

My wife's elder brother who is a lieutenant in the Nigeria Navy is the bread winner in my wife's family, I'm sure he knows her whereabout.

I went to Abuja with my Dad and my people to meet him. He sent us away right from his gate. I felt so embarrassed.

It's 5 months now, but soon it would be counting years Pls Help me. My wife is frustrating me, I can't sleep at night, I'm always thinking and restless, @11pm I'm still in a beer palour drinking my life away. I'm fading away.

All I need is my daughter, if my wife don't want to forgive me.. No problem, but give me my daughter. My wife will contaminate my daughter's mind to hate me if things goes on like this. Please help me.

Nigerians please help me.
Government please help me.

StilmaVsBorn2w:
Back then when my mom was warning me not to go that far when our relationship started She kept on insisting I should go for the girls in my tribe, I thought she was just been a tribalist bigot. If only I had listened

She bore me a son, he's 3years now... though her people knows me well from normal visitation..but I haven't been able to pay her bride price yet due to the hardship this regime has on us. life happened, unfortunately she got sick since February, ever since then from one hospital to another..I took several loans from people for hospital bills to the point of me looking sick myself.so sad for us we lost her last night.

I informed her elder brother who knows about all thats happening, he called me back this morning to tell me that his people told me to be prepared to marry her corpse. he went further and said if I don't pay her bride price, my boy will be taken from me and I should be ready to withstand the consequences.
I was surprised, I called for the burial arrangements not for a marriage ceremony


I blantly told him, I won't, why would I get married to her corpse. He was angry and cut the call on me.


Am more concerned about my son, please lawyer's in the house do they have any right to take my son away from me?
Even if they do am ready to give it to them, but spending money to Marry her corpse I will not.

I only brought this here, if had chance for my son whose still in my custody.


Seun
Lalasticlala
Mynd44

Ayanwukoma:
My mom owns a boutique, but you see neighbour's going as far as the other road to buys things instead of just buying from us. Wearing new palms everyday, when we have same quality but they prefer buying elsewhere. I don't know why.

Same with my OGa that am learning barbing at his shop, some neighbour's don't cut hair at his place... This guy is so good and friendly that the whole Street knows him. He barbs very well too, but some people that stays opposite his stores always barb from somewhere else, but in the evening no light, they come to charge their devices.

Please why's that

Sominablack:
Greeting Nairalanders,
My wifes attitude has been unbecoming, disrespectful, avoiding intimacy for months, insultive and always playing the silent treatment which I have learnt to ignore. Her mum visited and confirmed these attitude, she did counsel and advised her to change yet she was reluctant and stated she dont want to continue being a wife that she has lost love and feelings for me because I want things to be done decently and in order in my family which she is opposed to. Having observed this her mum left angrily and told the matter to her husband to confirm some of the issues of my wifes behaviour which I had stressed on and as a result had a family meeting with her family since I was invited not long ago.

Now with the attitude still being displayed by her, her dad asked me to come down to the village by next week so the issue will be discussed in their larger family so that my wife would come and explain to them why she is behaving the way she is doing, but not up to three months we had a meeting and now this one billed for next week again.I dont feel like honouring the meeting because I have done my best to follow peace even though I cannot fathom where I am at fault. At this juncture what do I do?

Ehinjuola:
Hello NLanders,
I got caught up with something on my neck in my neighboood recently.

There's this woman (A) who bought a sewing machine from one woman (B) 9 years ago, suddenly woman B just came from nowhere to come and claim the sewing machine that she sold years back that she only use the machine as a collateral from woman A that she didn't sell it for her.

Now the issue is Woman A has sold the sewing Machine and also insisted that if truly woman's (B) use it as collateral for how many years now she would wish if Woman B paid her back with the interest on the money which the money is way much more than money for 100 sewing machines.

Now questions is, how will I go abt it cause I happened to be one of the landlords in my area( I guess I am the youngest) and we are called to come and judge over the matter.
1. Woman's A doesn't posses the receipt of the sewing machine and as already sold the sewing machine
2. Woman's B want the machine at any cost claiming she has the receipt with her and she will use it against woman's A in court ( If the judgement didn't suite her taste in landlord meeting)


Note: They've gone to police station around early February which they've told woman's A abt the important of receipt and also let it known to woman's B that collateral shouldn't be more than a year and after that the person you borrow something from might as well claim the ownership what you use as collateral (Don't know maybe there's any law backing it though)

Abeg let it gain more audience by pushing it to front page thanks.

shortIGBOman:
Amaka, Skull mining is only known in the East.

shortIGBOman:
Na lie.
Drugs is the major trade of all the wealthy men in Anambra.

Blablamalala:
This man is gradually digging his own grave.

NewSoul:
Alright then. Thanks

Babaflenjor:
This pretty lady joined our company in 2019, She is a junior staff, she works directly under me. At first I didn't like her, in fact I'm more friendly with other ladies in the office than with her, but in 2020 those who were my friends left, and I was left with no option than to be more friendly with her. Within few months we became very close.

She is very beautiful, smart, and very intelligent, She loves me and she always show it, I love her too but I didn't come out to tell her I love her, though I always care for her anytime, others think we were dating, in fact many people say it to our face.

Now my feeling for her is very strong. I belief she knows this too, for some time now she always wants to be around me.

To cut the story short, the management gave her a sack letter early this month, meaning today is her last day in the office.

NOTE her sacking has nothing to do with my relationship with her, I'm seriously missing her already. For over two years in that office she is not in any relationship, but now she is dating one guy, and she is leaving Today.

Hello Guys and Happy Easter.

It's been six days my girlfriend and I broke up, and in those days that I have been alone, it's been hard. I always feel like to call her every day to tell her I am sorry. But it's something that I know if she get away with, she would want to do it again and again.

I have missed her a whole lot. I don't know what to do

Please how do you all get passed this?

P.S: She didn't cheat. Neither did I.

Verysmart101:
I am currently in a fix my people.I have a girl who is in the university currently.Shes 21 already.I Live at Abuja while she lives at Owerri.Late last year I disvirgined her but I never knew my nightmare would start from there.Ever since I did that act,she totally changed and I made some observations and discovered she cheated on me with her male friend.I confronted her with facts and she apologized promising it would repeat itself again.Out of love I agreed and we continued again.To my greatest shock her behaviour never changed.I still inquired and I discovered she is sleeping with a guy in her lodge regularly.She denied several times until I got serious evidence and this time she admitted and was blaming me for deflowering her.She said she can't withstand the temptation of guys in her school.This is the girl I intend to marry.Now she says she wanna quit and I don't deserve her because of her promcious ways.She has been nice to me all along until she changed recently.I need solid advice my people.i don't wanna act out of anger.Pls should I kick her out or reconsider? I do help her financially for 2yrs of dating.Am 28 and ready to settle down.Help my people.

NewSoul:
So I met dude over 3 weeks ago and had a chat late into the night. He's a pal (not so close a friend) and then he spends the night but ever since he has made it a habit. He comes in every night to share my bed and only pillow and I'm getting pissed off already I am an introvert. I hate sharing my personal space.

The funny thing is they do this without permission like saying "hey buddy I want to sleep in your house/room for so-so days" . Don't people have conscience? . I hate inconveniencing people. And I don't like people doing it to me. If you want to sleep in somebody's house ask for permission, don't assume the person likes you enough to want to share his space with you

bigpicture001:
... if you are Igbo , you would havve. Been accustomed. To the age grade system inso many local community...

I have all my life. In the city and have never been accustomed to group gatherings in the village locality.. I love my culture don't get me wrong.. but recently my dad called and told me I have. Come of age and have already missed being enlisted in the local village age group settings.. He insisted I should. Be enlisted lest I am not a full son of the soil..

I have been reluctant about this for no good reason .. I don't even know the benefit of being enlisted in a far away village age grade group.. he has change hiss counternace towards me and now refers to me as "efulefu"..

I strongly believe my Dad is stuck in the 60's can't can't see that this group have no use in the modern society... A small inquiry I made about being enlisted also discouraged me as I was told to pay 70k for late enlistment..

Plz room do you guyz think it is worth it..?

hammermcc:
it has become a tradition in Nigeria that most corpses are usually buried in their compound instead of at a public cemetary. burying dead in their compound is bad for real estate business and land laws.

An example of this dilemma is the guy on this thread who was contemplating his family land with is mom's grave in the compound.


https://www.nairaland.com/7093708/should-sell-late-mothers-house

Strangebuttrue:
What could it mean when a relative want you to tell him your place of work ,where you stay ? And if you refuse to tell them, they get angry ?

Joanney:
Good morning guys.

So my uncle passed away in December 2021 and we just finished his funeral rites last weekend.
His survivors (wife and two daughters) want to claim the money in his bank accounts but don't know how to start.

He died in an auto crash and left no will.

Namiji4319:
oga boss do you know how the bank queue is these days?

Reality3080:
u watch too many Yoruba films

Tell her to live d life of a single mother n when d man comes back they can take things up from there, which it's very unlikely he comes back

Namiji4319:
Yesterday I lost my card,ATM card, then today I went to the bank and do another one directly without blocking that old one or anything, I have money in the account but the stress of blocking account and opening it is something I don't want
After doing the new card, I wanted to do a transaction and check my balance but it says invalid account selected, and when I wanted to go back into the bank and tell them, one of the workers told me the card can't make any transaction until 24 hrs.
Please can I work with this card normally without deactivating that one? Or does it mean that one is automatically deactivated since I got a new card? Or can someone still Use that card despite me having a new one? is it supposed to show me invalid account selected just because i doesn't Wait for the 24hrs?

Depressionkill:
Good afternoon my good people of nairaland. It is with utmost sadness that I write and pour out my mind on this hot sunny noon! I had to create this account just for this purpose so that I don't get trolled unnecessarily (I can't handle it, I could eventually commit the suicide).

Here is the story of my life

I am a graduate and a mother of two lovely children, legally married to my husband who travelled to seek greener pastures in Canada in early 2020! We were eagerly willing and trying to relocate together as family (we had only one child then) but because it was tough and we didn't have much money, I suggested he goes alone and bring us in, in no time. We both agreed to do this, and we focus on sending him alone. To God be the glory, he left in January 2020. I was nursing a 2year old toddler and also pregnant at that time.

We were communicating on phone real good and I was also dreaming of joining him with the children as agreed but anytime I talk about this, he tell me abroad is not always as easy as we think, things are rough and tough blah blah blah. Eventually we stopped reaching out to us, not sending upkeep money to me and the children. Anytime we ask, he'd say things are tight for him that he will sort us when he have the money. Though I also work here but I don't earn enough to sustain two children and myself. As a matter of fact, I had to wean my baby earlier than necessary because I couldn't afford to eat good meal to lactate well, I started feeding him family meals at seven months

I had to borrow money to sustain and survive. My monthly pay is 52k but monthly expenses is more than enough to gulp all and run me into debts. For instance, I had to buy diaper, feed the kids, pay school fees and even house rent! I don't even want to talk about how I've been wearing shoes that disgraces me all about or how my wardrobe had malfunction several times, those are least among my actual problems.

Right now, I'm in so much debt that I don't even know how I can get out of it. I just borrowed money to renew house rent in February and I also owe a lot of loan apps that I consult for emergency bailout. As I am now, I am owing nothing less than 700k and I practically have nowhere to sort my self. I cried like a baby yesterday knowing that I have failed as a mother! No food in the house, yet I can't get help because I've not paid people that borrowed me some money in the past.

My mother in-law called me early this month that she wanted to see her grandchildren so I promised her that I will bring the children during the Easter break but she says I shouldn't worry, she will come and check on us. When she came, she went round the house and even check my bedroom then she burst into tears that I should stop hindering her son from performing his duties to her, she started accusing me of many things and called me a lot of unprintable names, I told her I was experiencing the same thing but she held unto her belief. She really frustrated me that day, she took foodstuffs from my kitchen and did all sort of this that made me feel really bad. I am frustrated, I have ran into so many debts just to fend for my children, I have become a shadow of myself due to depression, I have failed my children!! I do have suicidal thoughts lots of times, I have thought of ending life but what would be the fate of my children?

Sorry for my long post but I need some words of encouragement as I'm going through a lot right now, including things I can't pen down!!!

Failure44:
I'm reaching in a depressive state of mind.
I can't stop masturbating towards pictures of my ex, I had stopped for 4 months but I immediately backslided one day and now am back doing it chronically.
We recently talked and it was 100% obvious she had moved on from me but I still haven't moved on.

I need counseling pls not insults or jokes.

IBenardoo:
Married Woman Takes Drunk Husband To The Mortuary To Stop Him From Drinking

A man has vowed never to drink again after his wife took him to a mortuary while he was drunk and had him sleep with the corpses.

According to @dunswortgabriel who shared the story on Twitter, his neighbor was a big drunk and after so many embarrassing experiences with him, his wife decided to teach him a lesson by taking him to the mortuary while he was unconscious.

He tweeted, “When a woman wants to teach you a lesson, even Satan sits down to take notes. My neighbour was a big drunk. Most times his wife would pick him up in bars and terraces. Her family and friends wanted her to leave him but she was hopeful that she would find a solution. She told me in confidence that at one point she was so tired that she said to herself that she must find a solution very quickly.

According to her, last Monday she went to pick him up again, but he was completely drunk as usual. Instead of taking him home, she headed to the Mortuary and negotiated with the mortuary attendants to have him sleep near the corpses, then she came back home Some hours later, the gentleman wakes up and starts screaming and begging the mortuary attendant that he is not dead.

The mortuary attendants just laughed hysterically and said: “All you corpses, you come to practice witchcraft here. Abeg, go lie down with your friends joor…” After several pleas, he was released and came home. My neighbour says that since that day, even Coca-cola or Pepsi sef, her husband doesn’t take anymore.”

https://twitter.com/DunswortGabriel/status/1502799068883558404?t=xcKdBjCl1a5l6KxBLuKvYA&s=19[/quote]And some men who don't understand what being a woman is says that, women have fish brain

When a woman means you, she will definitely follow you till she is satisfied with what she wants to do with you

Alexia20:
Hello house, the age of my spouse on our marriage certificate (church wedding cert) was wrongly captured (my own fault) and I will need to upload the certificate for visa application for spouse dependent visa application for my spouse to join me in uk asap. Common sense dictates that the age on marriage certificate should tally with her passport DOB .

Hence, I have approached the church for correction and they have refused blatantly on the ground that the mistake is not coming from them. So what other options do I have for proper documentation in this visa application,kindly advice.

Babsojimjim:
Dear all, permit me to use this medium to seek for mature and experienced advise...

When a wife out of her own wish without any current justifiable reason seperates from her husband for almost two months and has now decided to return back with the kid out of her own wish without any pressure, should the man accept her back?

Also should there be conditions attached before the man can accept her back? Mature and experienced input is highly appreciated.

Thanks all.