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xcelpro:
Good day Nairaland.
Please how do I recover my money from Union Bank?
On 19th April 2022, I went to use their ATM at about 8:10 a.m and I was debited N20k without cash dispense because the machine went off while counting the money due to power failure from the bank's generator house.
After 24hrs I went to their branch to lay a compliant and they acknowledged the dispense error and started that it will be reversed after 24hrs which did not happen.
I called their customer care line 2 days later and one of their agent told me that it will be reversed after 24hrs and that she has sent It for manual reversal.
Despite this I didn't get the reversal.

I again went to the bank last week Friday, 23rd April and the customer service apologized that it must be reversed that day which did not still happen.
I chatted them up on Twitter, and they claim that it has been reversed, and after proving that nothing has been reversed they stopped responding to my messages on Twitter.
I sent them a mail and they didn't respond till yesterday, where they stated that the issue will be resolve within 48 hours.
Nothing has happened yet.
I tried calling their their customer service now and I noticed that I can no longer reach them with my two lines, probably they blocked my line.

P.s; I am fully aware that they have breached their obligation in respect to banker-customer relationship and that I would be entitled to damages if I sue them for this.
But the truth is, instituting a legal action now would be too expensive for me coupled with the litigation process.

Please what do you suggest I do apart from litigation?

You don't have the time and wahala of litigation

Just keep going to their bank and keep disturbing them

At least they didn't deny not seeing the error

abeniagbon:
How will a sane person allow his wife's junior brother to come for holiday only to turn one of the guess room to his permanent room...

I have asked my wife many times when is your brother going , she will tell me not to put mouth in her family matters..

It getting annoying. Okay I got him a job at a filing station only for him to turn it down, said that work is not good enough for him ..each time I got back from work is either I see him hangin pillow in between his legs sleeping or chatting on facebook with white women.

I don't know who to report him. I don't know how to deal with this kind of issues... My kitchen had no peace ever since when he is around, even my bathroom cos he bath all most 4 times a day.... He gives excuses both here and there and this is making me to hate him the more...

Please I don't know if anyone had been in my shoe before, how do you handle it... ??

I thought I would have read where you sat him down and ask him his mission and what he plans to do with his life

So you are afraid of confronting him because your wife said that you should stay away from their family

Then if that is the case, you can't confront him too

Keep him there and feed him to laziness

Until your wife permits you to ask him his plans

munas:
You are a fool.
The lady is simply saling for a solution and you are talking trash. Who asked you for all that?

Honestly, you have displayed that your are arrogant

RedCentaur:
This is the counsel she seeks for, that is if only she's open-minded in dealing with life and the harsh realities.

She just realize that, all flowers are not a symbol of love

Let her deal with it

Kreddy:
There's this girl I've been dating for a year now. I met her at a friend's wedding. I've met her mother before we went far in the relationship and thankfully she "yessed" the relationship. Two months ago, I had a disagreement (due to her unfaithfulness) with my fiancee. I was a little bit tensed and I ended up calling her a dog. I really love her, there's a time I visited her out of blue,She asked me to sit which I denied,I angrily asked her if she put a charm on the chair for me to sit on. It took some weeks before we came to terms again. I was not aware that all my statements had been reported to her mom.
Last Friday,I was publicly embarrassed by her mother. I was with her on that faithful night,in the middle of our discussion,her mother just showed up and told me she can't marry me. She made allusion to my utterances, (charm). I left the spot shamelessly.
Now today the girl visited me and asked me to impregnate her to avoid being given to a man who's being giving her mother money.
This girl was raised by a single mother,her elder sister was also supporting the mother. it's only her immediate brother that's against her being given to the man. The man, who's being conversing with her mother and sister on phone,wants to make her the second wife.
The main issue is that, I'm an undergraduate at my penultimate year, living with my parents. I can't yield to her request (impregnating her) which might be disastrous, I'm not financially stable. The girl really loves me and I do too. She burst into tears when I told her to follow her mother's Will. I have lost my sense of reasoning,I can't just arrive at a logical conclusion.
What should do??
This night,she also confided in me that my brother's wife who's related to her father,used to tell her mum how wicked my mom is, that my mom use to control her children. This I didn't really see it as an issue. If I were to take up this matter,my mom would really not take it lightly. Though I was advised by my younger brother to confront her on it. But I'm resisting the urge.
I really need your inputs on this matter.

RoyalRoy

@RoyalRoy

please do frontpage it,to get more inputs

Just respect yourself and face uoir studies before you start a foundation you can never finish

Since she has been telling her mum all the careless words coming out of your mouth and her mum has rejected the proposal you made to her if any

What are you still doing with her ?

Let her and her family deal with whatever suitor that is coming for her hand in marriage its not your business to save her by getting her pregnant

Your business now is to leave her and run far away from anything that has to do with her and her entire family

Lastly, you are not yet even matured to date a woman, with all these your careless talks that are sensitive to women ears, talk more of getting into marriage

Just respect your self and grow more

Movingon5:
Pls sirs and mas am not really in my right frame of mind.......We cohabited for 7years and av suffered several domestic abuse so i decided to quit dis January, so he left d house and took all d amenities the kids are enjoying since February... so dis easter he called to tell d kids to come do easter with him in his village.. getting to kogi state he sent me house and harrassed me with security officials. So he has apparently take d kids from me and trying to take them to another state. He has make attempts to buy d children from me by offering me 400k but i said noooo. He is a Deputy retired commissioner of police and ex director of efcc and currently working in dangote as their cso. D kids here are minors age 3 and 5years.... where can i get justice and d authorities to report to. D kids are supposed to be in school today. He is 66years and am 30years. Pls elders on family issues help me and how to get d custody of my kids back cos am ready to be taking care of them without his contribution. Am fighting for the kids becos of d motherly love i av for den not because of child support fee etc. Am not married to him legally or traditionally...... we cohabited for 7years. And am his 4th wife and dat is how he has been collecting d kids from his wives. He has a brother he puts in efcc and they all threatens me to fight me cos they have d money to spend...


@mynd44
@lalasticlala. Pls help move this to the front page

You can't fight this man because he is rugged

You dated him simply because he was flashing all sort of wealth and comfort to you so you were just ok with him

For the fact that you are the forth woman having kids for him would have made you not to have any child for him

Assuming you used your head very well and get a bachelor to cohibit with and have those kids even if he has no money to give you, you will be in charge of the home

I will advise you look for people he respects and go to them to talk to him to allow you have the kids or better still get a place for you and the children then he can be visiting you guys there

Because they are minor, they are supposed to be with you, that's all the court can do for you

Wether he did any marriage rites on you or not, he is not supposed to trickly take those kids away from you

Involve your family while going through some one that can talk to him

Alternatively, if he allows you to be coming to see the children, but won't allow you to take them away from where he wants them to be, that's still OK

Be visiting them and start another life

This time around, look for a bachelor, even If he is poor, start life with him, struggle and have a say in your marriage

TheOldGods:
even if they share the money, it can never be 50 50. He lost it when his father didn't share it when he was alive. He has no stronger say than his brothers because the father's brothers are the immediate offspring to their grandfather, and it's the second son now, who has the final say and never the son.

You are taking it too far

It still remains that he must share it for his own peace and safety

Which ever way and manner it will be done the formula will come out

Gaggii:
I just put this here may be I could get some relief.

I don't want to share it with anyone because it's a family issue, since am anonymous here

I told my wife to do family planning after our second child, she refused claiming she is not a kid and knows how to prevent herself.

Now she is pregnant and will not terminate it.

My head one bust, been thinking how to survive this economy with 3kids, while earning a salary less than 100k.

She has her niece leaving with us and my own nephew also leaving with us.

Since she knows her game and gets the target well

Let her start contributing to the upkeep of the family

Involve her and she will understand why you guys have had enough

What do you need two house help for in the name of relations, let them go let her have more domestic chores to do

By the time she runs the home alone and take care of the children

She will stop being pregnant

Then the savings of feeding those two relatives will go into the family feeding and planning

Some people don't know what it is to run the financial aspect of the home, get them involved

TheOldGods:
it cannot be 50 50 if they are more than 2. Impossible

They can sell and share the money

questionanswer:
Hi everyone,

My father happened to be the first son of my grandfather who automatically inherit his lands and other properties.

My father just died and since I'm the first son of my father. Which means I'm automatically inherit and in charge of those inheritance.

Now my uncles are all ganging up against me. These guys not allowing me to do the burial of my father who passed away for a while now.

They keep giving different excuses on why the burial will not hold.

They gang up and cancel the burial i fixed previously and I lost everything. All what I spent for the burial arrangements was wasted.

I really want to charge them for this.

They are using the influence that if they are not in support the burial will not hold.

These uncles has really fustrate me and I keep spending money and wasting my precious time traveling back to the village for series of meetings just to please them.

Yet they're not approving my burying my father. Not like they are giving me any money for the burial. I'm the one handling it yet they no gree.

They said i cannot inherit the grandfather and my father's properties..so I cannot do my father burial. And these are for their own selfish motives.

The Kingsman and the king supports me and has cautious the uncles to desease from such. But yet they still persist.

I have tried to make peace and peace with them as family concern but yet they are all still ganging up. And wow to fustrate me.

Now my patience has ruined out. I'm in mood for actions now.

I want to take matter higher than the community level with them now.

I'm thinking taking them to court now. But I don't know the process.

I'm seeking for the right direction i can take to solve such issue.

Thank you so much �

The most important thing now is your own life not about your dad that has already gone

What really are the inherentance that you want to gamble your life with this wicked uncles

You don't need to be stubborn or drag any thing with them

You may adopt the following

Suspend all plans and start again

Have a heart to heart meeting with them to know exactly what they want and if that thing is about the inheritance, then you have to share it with them

Yes be prepared to have a sharing formula of 50/50 take the 50 and let them go and share the remaining 50

Secondly involve them in the burial process by giving them a duty to perform, even when they are not contributing penny

Send them on errand like the purchase of cows and drinks for the burial and they will give you feed backs then you approve

Look you are to small for them to deal with but they want you to apply wisdom

Even those things that you are dragging with them, you will definitely have issues with your own siblings over those inherentance

Pls be wise because you are dealing with old men who already knows how to play village politics

Don't let any one tell you otherwise or to fight them you will just go 6ft and nothing will happen

If they want you to suffer more, they will just send one untraceable sickness, that will keep you frustrated till you are gone

Be wise

mandate12:
I really like u. Upon how annoying this op and the situation at hand is, u were still very subtle n constructive in ur submission. U r a very nice lady. Pls keep it up.

Thanks my dear

oseahumenb:
Thank you so very much.. You're indeed a great councelor.

Thanks dear

Nightaccountant:
Please my dear nairalander, i sincerely need your help
Am married with a child but not yet wedded. I've completely settled her bride price list remaining their bride price token which rhe items required are kola nut and 120 naira and another #15 according to their traditional rites which I intend to payoff on our forthcoming traditional ceremony.
But here lies the problem, my wife is that kind of woman who sex starves his husband. She always expect me to beg repeatedly before she agrees to love making. She sees it as a weapon, and am growing tired cos it lowers self esteem ( someone who experienced it would understand better). Sometimes i struggle my way through while she's fast asleep but if she unfortunately wakes up she will be crying as if am ra**ing her. I don't know to do cos am not a woman type which she knows, am depressed b'cos its too early for this
Secondly she never apologize despite any gravity of her wrong doing. Instead she'll start giving me the silent treatment and plays the victim. I don't knpw if she sees it (marriage) as a competition. Recently she forgot my birthday making it thrice in a row despite alerting two days before it. And guess what she never apologized. She always wants to be treated like a queen while she never reciprocate.
I've had a heart to heart conversation about it to the extent I even woke the up at late hour (2am) to confront her about the consequences of her actions but all aids to nothing, gradually am losing the love I had for her but am just holding on for the sake of our child.
I cross heart i have never cheated on her but by the way things are going It seem like cheating might be my last lifeline which I might regret
Please I need your sincere advise cos it's early for these. Dear nairalander help save a marriage

You need to understand that marriage is game of two and your wife is not bothered about the situation

Just let her go she is not ready for marriage

You are too young to be suffering in marriage

Currentblog:
One have to ask what is the fate of the young and Street wise Queens of the ALAFIN of OYO will be. "WILL they Remarry"? or "CAN they Remarry also?.

Whatever fate that comes their way, they should deal with it

After all they married him because of royalty and the benefits

Now that he is gone let them enjoy it as well

petrage:
Oil dey your head....every blessings.

Thanks dear

Born2winKingOG:
I Know how odd this might sound, with alot of people trooping in to insult me with all sorts of names calling, like I should go and hustle for my own and stop having entitlement mindset on someone's else's property..but you see..I will never relent..am here for those who have logical advise to give to me...so your insults is for yourself and you alone.

My father has been selling his landed properties since 2006, since I was still a little boy.. my fore fathers were among those founders who discovered our town...so huge landed estates were passed down to our lineage...up to this moment my uncle's and aunts have their own share of land intacts... but my dad has almost sold All his own.


*He sold to marry a new wife in 2009



*He sold to develop a small plot in 2011



*he sold to collect a chieftaincy title in 2015


and many combined little selling he's been doing, I had no ideal of


fast forward to 7years later he's left with little plots and some he took from loan defaulters, just this morning I got a call from my elder sister that my dad is about selling the little plot left... I asked to do what, she said she doesn't know yet. As at now am really angry hence me asking if there's anything we the children can do to stop my dad from selling the little plots left even though it's his.. he's the owner, don't we have a say? isn't there any legal law that can stop him.

A friend of mine he's Still enjoying wealth his grand Father left for his father and his father to him, all he did was just to renovate them and dude is packing more than a millionaire yearly from those estate. why would mine be different. Davido did well because his father's a big man who gave him a starting point, same with jowi zaza that guy can never go broke because of his father...

note: I don't think he's trying to wicked us, I know he won't sell all.. but at least the one he had sold his more than the one left... and it won't be enough to share to my siblings and I.... if he leaves this world today... why would he still be selling more. ( am not praying for him to die or anything...but life is common sense) is not a bad thing if a parent gives his children a starting point like his father did.

Besides it doesn't make sense for me to be looking for land to buy when my family is known as one of the owners of the town...my cousin's are even talking behind our back.

legal advice needed please

If you want to be happy with yourself
Just forget about your dad and his stupid ways of selling his inheritance

Your mother is not his only wife, so whatever he has left any, will still be shared after selling them because it can't go round his children

Go and start struggling so that you don't behave like him

If he likes, let him sell himself that's his business, when he falls sick and can't raise himself, that's when he will go through the pains of the property's he has sold

You guys should leave him, it's either he is selling them to punish you guys or he knows those properties will cause problems after his death

Whatever reasons for selling them, that's his decision

oseahumenb:
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Pics attached..

About six months ago, I returned home from work and discovered that my wife and four children were no where to be found. I also noticed her that belongings and that of the children were missing.

I quickly dashed out of my flat and went to my neighbours to enquire of their whereabout. I was shocked to my bone marrows when they narrated to me how a man accompanied my wife to move out her belongings. When they tried to intrude the man warned them of serious consequences.

That was when it dawned on me that my wife whom I have caught severally on the phone discussing with her lover on the phone has finally done her worst.
On two occasions I caught her sneaking around with her phone, in the midnight I discovered an Sms that the so-called lover sent she was fast asleep . I cannot divulge the content here because it was disgusting to me at first.
I reported to the pastor and she was warned. Then the identity of the lover wasn't known to me. I just let it go, because I still needed the marriage for the sake of my four children.
However, I began to investigate without her knowing. Then I discovered that the secret lover was a custom officer, named Adeniyi Adesola, he was in Ibadan command. He is married with children.
One day he called my wife and I just could bear the insults, I confronted him on phone I warned him to stay away and reminded him that she was married.
Then he started abusing me and even threatened to kill me. He revealed to me that he knew my wife before I married her. He told me to backoff and let him always have access to her or he will kill me.
I reported the matter to the ekpan police station warri. The IPO who was a lady advised me to thread with caution and report to my family which I did.
I am from Edo State and my wife is from Ondo state. The custom officer is from Ekiti state. The custom officer, Adesola was intimidating me because I was not understanding their language.

I gave my wife everything she needed. I got a loan of 5m from a bank to set up a business for her. She squandered the money and there is nothing to show now in the shop. The bank has started moving in on me, I don't know what to do.

The custom officer I heard has kept my wife and children in Ibadan because his wife couldn't take it.
MY children are not in school and my wife just gave birth to a baby for the custom officer.
Meanwhile, she has not returned the bride price but she has delivered a baby for the customs officer.
Now I want the custom officer, Adeniyi Adesola to release my wife, Helen Bose and my children with immediate effect because he has charmed them.
Pls nairaland admins put this story on front page pls.. I need my children. They are not in school.
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If you are sure he is serving with customs, go to their head quarters at Abuja, ask for DCG WELFARE and report your mater to the office with your family pictures of your entire family

Submit his name and ask them to go through their nominal roll, the name will come up with the command he is serving, a call will be made through to the Comptroller of that command, that his attention is needed at the headquarters

He will report the next day and the DCG will run interviews between you and other disciplinary committees

He will be adviced to either release your children and wife or return your dowry to you through your wife family then return your kids back to you and move on with your wife

But first of all, take this matter straight to your inlaws make sure you go with your kins men to their own kins men and make it a public matter

If the family are not in support of her actions they will bring her home back to you

Though, just ask them to bring your children and iet her continue her journey with the man

But I bet you she will suffer in that man's house when the time comes

Because his first wife and kids are still doing press up on what to do to her

Dogo143:
Please house i just got a new apartment for myself and I wasn't able to afford a mattress at the moment I've been sleeping on just a piece of clothe for the past two weeks now and it's affecting my body someone should kindly help me with any kind of mattress atleast something to lay my body on, i will kindly appreciate it (i will come and pick it up myself) someone should please come to my aid �please I'm begging

My contact 070 4212 6432

I wish you are around Iju, I would have asked you to go pick up a used mattress

zeb04:
I and my husband separated for a period of 1 year( his decision. Also the marriage wasn’t really great at the time) during that time we both made friends with the opposite sex because we didn’t think we would ever come back. Atleast I didn’t.

However when we came back together( our decision after much conversation)i cut off all communication with the men i was talking to and even blocked them on my Whatsaap and Instagram. I wanted a new start, fresh beginning.

There was a female friend that was the go to person for my husband. She met him approximately 2 weeks to our separation, during an event i and my husband attended. She was always available to “cheer him up” and according to him, nothing romantic ever happened with this lady even though she seriously wanted it. She was always inviting him for movies and other hangouts.

For some reason, I Dislike this lady mainly because i think she is foolish to want to build a relationship with a man that is not even properly separated. Although to some extent, he probably told her he was.

It got so bad that I started having dreams about this lady and even seeing her around during the day( for example, i could be driving and look around and just see her. It was that bad.

Before I agreed to the reconciliation, I asked him several times, have you stopped talking to this lady and he said yes over and over again ( I believed). To be sincere, i would never ever have agreed to any reconciliation if he ever dated her, kissed her on even still talking to her. To me she is bad news i don’t want to ever here of her.


Of recent, i have had this gut feeling that they are still in communication. When i ask about it, he would say i am being insecure or my self esteem is low. And there are other behavioral changes I noticed in him that os making me suspect this (even though he is a very secretive person, i am still noticing some things).

Wives and mothers, how do i go about this?
Do you think my feelings might not be true, do you still I hate her so much and conjuring things in my head?


There is always a breaking point for every thing in life and for me, this particular one, I CANNOT accept it.

Also just to clarify, coming back in a way was our decision because we decided to work on the marriage and talked a lot about out faults.

Ps. I might or might not get a good advice here. But writing it out has lifted it off my chest.

Thank you everyone

While you work hard on uoir own part to see if this marriage will work fine for both of you

Keep fighting and protesting about the other woman in his life, so that he either gives up on her or gives in to your fight

Men lies a lot especially when they are having illicit affairs

If you think the marriage can work, settle down for pregnancy to occur as the other lady too will be doing everything possible to take in too for him, that's if you guys don't have children so far

Men do get confused when it involves other women in their life, especially if they have ever slept with such women

janejjjjj5000:
Hello everyone,

Here is my post from yesterday.

https://www.nairaland.com/7090858/tired-marriage

I thank you all for the feedback - the kind words, chastisements, and even insults. I see them all as help. For the first time in being married for14 years, I spoke about my marriage and I am glad I did. I feel very relieved.

My husband is very sorry and has decided that we will seek family therapy. He told me he does not want our home to break and that he is willing that we work together to fix this. What I like the most is that he also agrees that he needs to work on himself. I have my faults too and I am also willing to work on myself. We have found an experienced therapist that we believe will be a good fit to help us.

Even though some of the comments yesterday were harsh, I learnt from them. I had no boyfriend before marriage. My husband and I got married to each other as virgins and there is no ex boyfriend anywhere telling me anything. I am not a cheat. We have been born-again from our youth. I am not a promiscuous person. I was just feeling down yesterday and decided to pour our my heart. I was tired of bottling up my emotions because I have the habit of not discussing my home. I got tired and was feeling very confused yesterday but I am much better now. Still, I don't regret putting up that post. God used everybody who commented to point me in the right direction.

I am grateful to those who suggested therapy. I was not thinking in that direction at all but you gave me the idea. I thank everybody who got involved. May God bless you all.

Amen.

You have done well

Tonero5200:
Not one not two...I have never see a man like my father who likes talking about widow women, befriending them while he has a wife at home.
Sometimes he be dashing them money, talking out of sympathy, like wondering how they are able to survive with their husbands gone... meanwhile ask him for money, he complain he don't have.

It's good to be kind, but why widow women discussion in the house all the time..I think that man has an ulterior motive.

He has only one motive and that motive is sex

He loves sex and going after widows make him free of any accusations from any man

He knows his game and he is playing it well

He has no pity for their conditions but he has feelings to make love to them

As for your mum, it's an embarrassing thing to her family, but she will deal with him in no short time

Women don't forget who hurts their emotions, especially if it's her husband

MadamVanessa:



The boyfriends of his young wives are so happy now, they're coming to take their girls back home. The girls in return are so happy because finally they're free from boring sex, though they got the money and enjoy life to the fullest, but their womanhood really suffered alot.

Who told you that they were bored, what about the fame they wanted and the expensive life they lived, including traveling abroad for vacation

They know what they wanted getting married to him and they got it

janejjjjj5000:
Please, I don't want to be judged. My husband is a good man. We have been married for 14 years. I am 33 years old. He is 39 years old. We have 4 kids - 3 girls and 1 boy. He has never cheated on me. Right from day 1, he has been very open. He is not the type of husband that locks phone and all of that. But I am tired. He has the habit of flaring up around the children and I don't like it. I don't want my kids to be damaged. I know some will say no marriage is perfect but at this point, I don't even want marriage again. I just want to be free and single and look after my kids. I am tired.

Anytime we have an argument, he always talks about how he did this and that for me. In front of the children. I don't want this kind of life. He hardly gets angry, maybe twice or thrice in a year but when he does, he does not have the sense to know he should not be doing it in front of the kids. He apologizes to them and to me but I am done.

He has no other issue apart from this. He has never beaten me or anything but I am tired. Overall he is a good husband to be fair and honest but I can no longer deal with this. I prefer to be single and free than deal with this rubbish.

I feel like pouring out my heart.

Am glad that your husband is a wonderful man

If his anger attitude is what you find as a fault in him, then it's obvious you just want to be separated from him for some time

Well, follow your heart if that is what will make you happy

But he may have gotten another woman in that gap and don't blame him if he moves on

By the time you may wish to come back, you will be treated like a second class wife

So I will advise you remain in that marriage as I see no faults in that man

Unless you are in love with one man that has been telling you sweet words

Islandlady:
Good morning Nairalanders! Have got this pressing issue, I need your advise on.

There is this business friend to my dad, who is in his early forties, he once asked me out for a relationship but I declined because he his married with two lovely children

So I have been on vacation from my job for some weeks now, so I decided to spend time in my family house
so three days ago he brought this job offer to me that I should be his new secretary since his old secretary have relocated abroad, I told him I will get back to him

Pls guys I am just confused and scared, I mean this man once asked me out and me being his secretary means we will be close to each other, I don't want any case of rape or sexual assault from him

Plus his new job salary is almost ×2 of my present job salary!

Could his intentions be pure or could it be that I am overreacting or reading too much meaning to this

Should I accept the job offer from him or not!
Pls I need your critical advise

Apart from him offering you a job the salary is twice your previous job, if you want to date him, you will or you may not, it has nothing to do with the job offer

He the job and face the job

If he makes advances on you it's your choice to accept it or not

If you are discipline, prove it to him

If you are free to date any man no one can stop you

But when you decide to date him, don't date at lost date and gain

NijaDueprocess:
Please I needed help to evict a stubborn tenant. After I left the country and handed over my property to a lawyer, a tenant has refused paying his rent for almost two years without reason. The matter has been in court for almost two years without success. The court keeps adjourning the case. The tenant refusal to pay the rent has pushed other tenant to start owing too. Please kindly suggest the best way out of this situation.
Location of property: Abuja.

Five then quit notice to renovate the said apartment and after the expiration if the said apartment, get a bricklayer to start general renovation work on the walls and a carpenter to remove the bad roofs if any and doors of the entrance apartment

But since you already handed it over to a lawyer, am surprise you are still asking what to do

Alternatively, ask the lawyer what the judge will take to end the case as it seems the other tenant who's case is in the court has been paying to keep prosponing the case and subsequently adjoining it matter till further notice

sollolucci77:
So if you find out that your child stole something from you...you'll buy him a a gift for that abi?...did you read what I wrote at all?

How do you buy a gift for a child that has done something wrong abi are you on tramadol?

I think you are poor in reading and comprehending

Am done with you

God has already saved her for tbge fact she recognised uoir voice and happy to see you

People should stop traveling anyhow unless it's a must do

Now whatever she is travelling for can't be achieved again

ewa20buredi100:
Hi everyone,
I have been a Chemistry and Mathematics teacher for years now.

Then I met a friend who is a retired Government officer. He took interest in my kind of person and promised to link me up to opportunities that are better than teaching.

He called me yesterday and I went to see him. He presented two job opportunities before me;
1. A shopping mall manager (at Ring road in Benin city)
OR
2. As an assistant manager with a Private firm that supplies passport booklets to Immigration officers. I will be working directly from NIS Headquarter.

He gave me a week to make up my mind and choose an option

Please my questions are;
1. Will it be wise to dump years of teaching for these new opportunities?

2. Are the opportunities viable and worth the transition?
Which of the two options should I go for if I were to choose?
And what benefits does one stand to gain?

Thank you

I will appreciate if you go for the second offer

The organisation handling that is called IRIS you will make it if you are not deprate but you must be discipline with the discharge of your duty as its all about engineering and data storage which you must do with trust because it's a security network thing

sollolucci77:
Get him a gift?...I hope when you have kids they wont turn out to be what I'm thinking

That's nit an issue

Buying biscuits when coming back from an outing or work is not a crime

When he does well at school, you buy him ice cream because of a good report card is not a crime

Children need to be motivated and gift is one of them

Taking children for an out is part of it

Unless you are thinking other wise

siofra:
Please how do I do it?

I don't want to hit the child but I want the child to understand that what he is doing is very bad.

Do nine year olds appreciate dialogue?

Would the child change as he grows older?

Constant counselling

Get him or her a gift

Promise the child some things any time he tells you the truth

Be friendly and keep things that he will steal in his custody

Milli10:
I had this girl who was once my girlfriend. We dated for seven months, and what we shared and had then was magical. On the sixth month of our relationship, she told me she was going to travel to our neigboring state, Owerri and never knew when she was going to come back

I granted her wish, but when this girl came back a few weeks later, she became the opposite of the girl I used to know and love. She would promise to come visit me in my house but would fail to come.. This continued for days and I got tired of the "incessant promise and fail". I had to give up on her and move on with my life

It's been three years since I broke up with her( yes I broke up with her cos I thought she herself had lost feelings for me that's why she never wanted to come and see me again), and in between those years, my friends told me she's married cos they would see her baby bump when she was pregnant..

Just last week, she sent me a friend request on Facebook and started telling me how she has missed me and would like us to meet again. I checked her Fb profile, I got to realise she's got two kids, and in a relationship with the man she was pregnant and delivered for.

This girl has been on my neck, looking for ways to see me again. She says she misses me everyday and wants to have sex with me, and guess what folks? I'm gonna give her what she wants in full package regardless her marriage or single mum status.. I don't give a f**k what people have to say. I'm gonna give it to her how ever she wants it cos myself, I have missed her t***. "Who never f***ed up, should pls don't bash me"

This your response on what you want to do with her is just funny

I don't want to blame you because she requested for it

Enjoy yourself

How am I even sure she is with the man and what if she is not getting satisfaction as you do for her

I can't advise you on this matter because she is the one asking for it

Sanguine:
Hello beautiful people.
It's my dad's birthday in a few days, and I've been racking my head thinking of what I could get him. Nothing I think of seems to match up.
And then I thought nairalanders would be of help here.
I'd appreciate ideas.
Thanks y'all.

What's his age, does he value phones, if yes get him another phone

Does he drives a car, if yes, take his car to a filling station and fill the tank for him

Is he a lover of food, ask mum to prepare pepper chicken for him store it in the freezer and let him enjoy it with his favorite drinks for one month

You can Transfer 50k to his account and ask him to buy a gift for himself on his birthday