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BUSHYANUS:
She has broken up with me
She says I stay too long at the toilett
but I only spend about 45 minutes at the toilett. I begged her but she says no . Don't you think she is unreasonable?

You stay long in the toilet because you use your phone there, it's a habit we all have formed

Let her go before she finds another fault

Cashsteady:
There is this woman that lives close to me.. Her husband hasn't been around for awhile now due to work, so the woman is always at home with her children, she's a full house wife tho.. This woman has one friend in my compound she always come to play with so through the woman in my compound I knew the woman, anytime They are having a conversation and it happened to be something I'm also very interested in I will join them..

I started noticing somethings in this woman, this woman will come to my compound when nobody is around maybe during week days when everyone would have gone to work and kids will be in school.. this woman will come pretending to look for her friend that lives in the Same compound with me knowing fully that she's not at home, she will stylishly come to my place wearing seductive dress and ask me if I had seen her friend even after replying her she will still use style to continue the conversation to the extent that I will have to let her in my place and after she starts making seductive move like opening her laps so I can see her pussy and stylishly adjusting her boobs to seduce me until I Bleep this woman she no stop oo.The woman should be in her early 40s cuz her boobs were still intact not saggy at all very sexy, I enjoyed banging her sha

She has blood running in her life not water

You guys tried

sapphiere:
Why Do Civilian Women Always Taking Part In Decorating Military Officers With Their New Ranks?

I've always want to ask the above question. I'm curious to know. Please if you have an answer to the question kindly drop it in the comment section. Thanks!

During such decorations, you are allowed to invite just one person of your interest

The person could be your wife/husband or your relations at heart

When it's your time for decoration, he or she would be called to join and decorate the other side of the rank

Most times the left side

IamBroke:
Even me I'm guilty of this.. especially as a broke ass niqqer I find it hard to Toast girls that are financially stable.
One thing about them is that..they are so confident when talking to you.
You can't even use money to get them.
Most of them are so disrespectful because they have money..




Lalasticlala
Seun
Mynd44

Inferiority complex is the only reason some men dares such ladies

A man full of pride and ego can't cope with such situations

Your pictures are lovely, what's the cost if the third picture, the cream colour dinning

fati2001:
please ma help me post and hide my ID.
I have never done this before and i really don't know how to start but i just have to because after much calls from my husband step brother and his wife. I think I have too for the sake of my kids.
Was leaving happily with hubby and kids. Mil came with the story that she's sick so from there she started leaving with us. In less than 6months my house turn upside down, September 12 2018, I couldn't hold it but to leave because the fire was too much. Was bleeding with 7 months pregnancy.
I passed 2months in the hospital without hubby asking of me or the kids.
My parents was all I have
9months pass no labour, my mum went to all the church she knew and so assignment was Carry out yet no show. 1year pulse, labour start I deliver my son.
Mil bring in another woman for hubby.
I moved on and face on my 3kids, a lady that knew how happy my home was, came and advise I follow her to her church. At first, I never wanted to but with much talk and visit I later follow her.
So many things was seen.
I went back home and told my parents, my mum said, when I was pregnant, that was what they said but she didn't mention it to me because of my condition.
But thank God I have delivered so what's the way forward, I laughed and say nothing..
So 2019, I heard that the new wife has left, mil chase her away.
Hubby never called to check on me or his kids but life continues.
So today, hubby late brothers wife and Sept brother wife came to my house to know my plans towards my home. I told them nothing because my mind is out of that home.
Hubby late brother wife now remind me of her encounter with mil before she lose her husband.
Of which I know very well.
After much talk is as if they brought back my spirit because i have never for once reason hubby oooooo
So we went to church today, samething, they told my mom and I some years back, was the same thing the woman of God is telling us and hubby late brother wife confirm it and said is true, that is what killed her husband and chase her away but she never mentioned it to anyone.
Mil is behind it, she's married to her son's, when she's done she'll kill that one
2 of her children is late and from what they have been telling me is that hubby is next.
Yes am a leaving witness, hubby do make love in the dream, we went to TP Joshua and he was delivered.
Still that same year mil come.
Now they said mil has eaten dip in hubby in the next 2 years from now he will go like others.
That I really need to pray
But I don't have the spirit to
Please mothers in the house. I know there's nothing God can't do
God is here, help me out with this prayer.
I don't want hubby to die
But let God show him Mercy and save him from the hands of the wicked.
Sorry for the long post

The situation that you are is very complicated because your husband has not bothered to know what's going on and as a matter of fact, he will never believe you

Just guide yourself and prepare for the worst

You and your kids are of importance to you

If your mother in law wants to eat her children and her children are not seeing what you are seeing, won't you just hand it over to God

Francis609:
My wife gave birth in November but we lost the baby 2 days after. What shocked me was when my younger brother sent me a voice message of what they had discussed about my wife and my mum was not remorseful, she said she is not happy that the baby has died she wish it was my wife that died in the process and the innocent baby lives , he recorded her without her knowledge because he didn't like what she was saying.

I immediately called her and play the voice, I taught she will be sorry for what she said, she didn't give a damn. She said she is not an hypocrite, she never like my wife and she can't pretend. I cut the phone with a broken heart even taught she never like my wife she could have at least show forget about the hatred and show her some love in this difficult situation.
My step mother has been taken care of my wife I am grateful , my mum has never bothered to call to know about her health and I haven't call her either. I disowned her. I don't hate her but I don't want nothing to do with her anymore because she is a disgrace to womanhood.

Please advice me if am I in the wrong

Don't go the way you are going about disowning her, she is not just happy you married her and she could go as far as making life miserable for you guys

You need to visit her without notice to find out why the hatred on your wife, there must be a reason

Until then before you will know if the hatred has an under tone

What a handsome man, may his soul rest in peace

sisisioge:
Wow! I swearit, I used to think Ajah people are the low cost islanders o. Didnt know life is expensive there too. But how do you get to work on the island without stressing?

I leave in my own compound at ikorodu then retained the flat I left at mainland

Then I shuttle both but stays more at ikorodu on weekends and holidays

I have a very comfortable compound that gives me absolute peace from noise

lekki1444:
he is tired of being second class citizen in oyinbo land. is that not enough reason ?

Well he will survive in any way so far it's Lagos

zedegit:
Looking at those that married before me and the type of wives they ended up with which leaves nothing to desire.

I begin to wonder if indeed marriage is for me. Assuming I make enough mullar tomorrow, should I marry or should I shun it and live a single life?

This is my dilemma.

Don't ever be scared of marriage

Marry your heart desire and whatever comes out of it, you weather the storm

firac:
I know this sounds pretty lame, but i noticed i cum early with my current girlfriend than my ex, it's kinda embarrassing knowing i wanna give my girl a lovely time ,am i end up not lasting, i took the risk of even banging my ex to ascertain the issue, guess what, i lasted well,unlike my main girlfriend , what could be the reason for my underperformance ...

Probably there is no synergy yet between both of you

chris4gold:
Nairalander plz come to my aid. seun, lala and other moderator, plz help me

So sorry for what happened to your mum

Pls if you reside in Lagos, take her to Igbobi hospital, the cost will be less

Private hospital costs more

In the main time, you can get her a wheel chair to move around, it cost about 40k for new one though the Tokunbo will be cheaper

BoyOfNaija:
Greetings everyone,
I don't know what it takes to have a God Father or someone More like a father to you, but I want it.

My father is late, when I was at 7, now am 17 years and I want someone to be like a father to me, I want my dad's bro to be like a father to me, he's 35 yrs old. But how do I let him know? Should I go and ask him I want him to be like a father to me? Or should I tell him I want him to be my Guardian. I just can't do this all alone.

Make up your mind and start coming close to him, create that relationship and he will understand why you want or need

Talk with him often where necessary and seek advice from him when needed

But before you start discuss it with your mum and hear from her

Some uncles are good while some are bad

Study him very well before you start relating wit her

uvie66:
I intend to relocate to Lagos this year after over twenty years in London and was wondering if I could survive on 100k a month. No accommodation cost included as I have a house already. Just living expenses for I and my wife.

You are yet to give us your reasons for relocating

Odiriance4all:
Thanks so much , ajah is really becoming something else , the overrating is just too much, you can't just get value for your money

That's exactly one of the reasons I didn't buy a land there, I bought my land at ikorodu where I can afford a living and I am living good here, though I work in the island, life here is like am on vacation, no tension no stress

At least I can get my food at any market on the mainland

I have choices on where to buy what I want at a known price

At Ajah, you pay extra for everything you buy because it's assumed that you are all rich

Odiriance4all:
My house rent has expired this month end, and I want to park out from the house to a bigger apartment since the one I currently stays is relatively small for me as I just got married. But the price of the apartment in ajah is too expensive , so I am thinking of moving to ikorodu to reside since the price is relatively much cheaper compare to the island.
Hope this is a good idea, I work in the island , Victoria island precisely and I do normally go home weekends

Ikorodu is a good idea, it will help you to settle down and start looking for your own home by buying a land there

It's not easy living in that Ajah because its either you ate starving to pay rent and make name that you are living there or you pack out entirely and live within your reach

People see those in ikorodu as low income area, funny enough, it's over populated too

The human crowd in ikorodu has made its development to be fast

I wish you good luck

Loyalqwin:
thank you for reminding me.
I can't keep her much longer I need to make sure she get some help before I send her off she's too small for what she is passing through.

In as much as you care for her, pls locate her parents and let her reunite with her parents then you can be visiting her there to gift her whatever you have

tabithaola:
Pardon me if this sounds funny but its my reality. I lost my mum on the 5th of February and I can say life hasn't been thesame since then. My mum was both parents to me even though my Dad is Hale and hearty. She's a definition of a TRUE mother. She's more than the world to me and the love I have for her can't be quantified. She singlehandedly trained my siblings and I which ofcourse came at a price of sacrificing all within her reach to ensure we turn out great. God granted her request because we are all ok in our own little way. My mum laboured so much and paid her dues as a mother not just to her biological children but to everyone around her. She died at the age of 75 do I won't say she died so young but she left when she should sit back and enjoy all she laboured for.

The thought of having to live with this reality is heart breaking for me may be because I'm her baby. I couldn't do without hearing from her in 2 days and same is also applicable to her. My children are the only reason I'm still holding on and I hope what I'm experiencing isn't depression. Kindly advise on how to forge ahead without her for those who have experienced the loss of a dear parent or loved ones. I'll be reading the way out of this unpleasant reality. Thank you.

Ohhh dear, so sorry for the loss

You know what, she will not be happy to see you sad over her demise

She is very happy wherever she is and pray to God to accept her soul, that's all she wants from you

She needs to rest in peace and your worries over her demise may not be what she wants from you

She was a wonderful mother and don't think that it's time for her to enjoy that was when she left, she left when it was God's time for her to leave

Simply mourn her in which ever way you want to and there after be happy for her forever.

May her soul rest in peace

WestAfricaan:
But what about the child? Is the father not supposed to atleast know the whereabout of his child

The child belongs to both of them but because of her age, the child is better off with her mum and the father has the right to the child, even if it means making arrangements for venues

Chiminemine:
Hello guys please I need your help...I think my younger sister is heading towards the wrong path and my mom is only making it worst....

And I also created this thread to know if a 16 year old girl should be given a phone of her own(in Nigeria)...

My sister has started being so interested in boys alot and That pisses me off. A few years back when she was in school, is warned one of her so called boyfriend's who she was kissing back then and doing all sorts of rubbish with(except sex).. Now my parents made her drop out of secondary school at s.s.s 2 to write neco which she passed so she can gain admission into university ( fast)..


For some time now she has been using my mom's phone to facebook and do other stuff which I don't know of.. one time she begged me to use my phone to logging her account which I accepted.. after she was done, she forgot to log out so I took a sneek peek into her account and holy sh*t almost 85% of her friends were males... Her inbox was filled with messages from boys.. almost all of the had to do with relationship and sex related nonsenses... I was really mad because she's too young for all this bull sh*t...

When she was tired of using my mom's phone, she saved money to buy one 6k phone which after sometime, I destroyed out of anger because she was feeling like she is now grow up and all type of those nonsenses... Now she has started looking for a job, going from one place to another on her own with the help of my mom and her phone looking for somewhere she can be working to get money to buy a new phone (I think)... Someone that is about to enter university In some months time...and is supposed to be facing how to study and pass jamb.. because of the job she's looking for, she some how convinced my mom and dad to let her start going for night jamb lesson from 6pm-9pm...but I know that's not her only reason..

The most annoying part is that each time I'm beating and warning her she would start to ask me if she is a (small pikin) And my mom would be backing her

Alot has really happened in our house this past few years That I think she has been learning from... I'm the first son and she's the second.. I have warned her that I don't want to see her with my mom phone again... Guys please what do I do??

Weldone for your efforts so far

I think it's time to seat your parents down and tell them all your observations on her and you have to also let them know that if she is not being disciplined or controlled, she may go out of hand and that means that things will get out of hand

If they give you authority over her, then good and pls put her right

If they are silent over your reports, just ignore them all and keep observing them

I want to believe that you guys are yet to do the proper marriage and so, she is free to walk in and out of the relationship same is applicable to you

tommie1:
I have an issue bugging me and I need some serious advise because I have been very indecisive so far.

There is a lady I'm seeing. She came to my place a few weeks ago and we had sex, first with condoms and later without condoms.

However, I gave her some money to get postinor when she left for her place the next morning.

That morning, I asked if she got the drug when she called to say she had arrived home and she said "yes".

I called her again that evening to ask if she had taken it and she said "yes".

A few weeks later, she called to say she is pregnant.

As I later found out, at least according to what she said, she took the drug the next day after arriving at her home and not on that day she told me she took it. She gave some flimsy excuse as to why she did it but it does not matter anymore at this point.

At this moment, we are considering removing the baby.

While I have been very indecisive, she has agreed to go with whatever decision I take and has spoken to a doctor who will do it this Friday.

However, I am unsure as of this moment if I want to go on with this because even though I am done with uni, I do not think I have gotten to that point where I can shoulder more responsibilities.

I am self employed and somewhat financially okay but not in a way that I can take care of three people, particularly a baby. I was okay as of 2019 until COVID came and turned my life upside down last year.

And believe me, I was really glad I was not married as of last year because I went through hell. Serious hell. The lockdown finished me.

I am slowly recovering (very slowly) and still trying to figure my way out through life and rebuilding what I lost but I am afraid that having the burden of a woman and baby at this point may derail me.

And I really do not know who to turn to when I am unable to provide for the both of them.

What do you guys think? Do I go on with this or just let the baby be?

You were more concerned about removing it than telling us more about the lady in question

My question is, do you love the lady, as in you don't mind her having the baby

Or you guys just had sex and it resulted to pregnancy

Well, in as much as am against abortion, think twice and seek her opinion

Ask her questions like, what if she keeps the child and you guys never married, how will she feel

abigail11:
I have been dating this guy for 8 years now. My relationship with him started since my university school days.

Ever since we graduated and started working, I have been expecting him to propose to me, which he didn't.

When I confronted him, he said he needs a tangible source of income first before he will marry me.

His current salary is 60k, yet he doesn't want us to go into marriage now.

I personal told him that we can manage what we have and plan our life together since I'm also working. But he said no, his reason is that he doesn't want us to suffer.

My problem is this:
1. Time is not on my side
2. He want to make millions before he can marry me, what if it takes more years to do that?
3. I'm ready and he is not ready.
Please I need advise. I don't know what to do.

My dear sister, it's obvious he is not ready to settle down in another eight years, meaning he will be using you to satisfy himself and once you become pregnant, you are own your own

Pls make up your mind and look elsewhere,

Your time and his time are not in the same speed