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headboyprince:
IAM not joking. each time I talk with her on phone or in person, I must have a terrible bad luck the next day.

sometimes my laptop will develop a very serious fault. or my light will have issues.
sometimes I will fall seriously sick after talking with her

I've observed this for quite sometime. there was a time she took my original national ID, and I went to do sim welcome back with the backup, and they refuse to do the welcome back for me.
I had to collect it from her before they accepted.

she's always quarrelling me and never listens to me.

I don't want to accuse her of being a witch because she a fervent born again christian.

please what do I do?

For now, just don't let her know much about you

Greet her once in two weeks and be brief

Avoid much contact with her by not going or travelling often to where she will see you

Go into prayers for God to reveal more

Don't accuse her yet until you have a prove

BadRadio:
What is the primary goal of every woman in their pursuit of happiness. You may say its relative depending on personality preferences or lifestyle... perhaps !

But I believe there is one universal goal that binds them as one in their pursuit of happiness.


What is it?

Having her own biological child

Joetttimua1811:
Good day all I just decide to bring this here to seek matured advise, please don't mind the errors in spellings and construction. I also request that this be taken to FP. It should a bit lengthy but I will try to be brief.

I have been dating this girl since 2011 Feb precisely, though I started asking her out around November 2009 and she finally accepted in Feb 2011. I know you may be wondering why I persist with the long time of refusal, well the answer ain't far as I will not want to go into much details but she's one of the best when you talk of women she's everything a man will want. Let me leave it at that. Upon her acceptance in Feb 2011 we started cos I already met with the mother during the period of asking her out because of gifts I use to buy for her the mother asked her to invite me over

On getting to the house the mother asked me what my intentions are towards her daughter I told her I love the girl and will want to marry her. The mother said well seeing me her spirit accepts me but it's left for her daughter to accept cos she told her she's not said anything to me, she said if her daughter accepts me fine she can't choose husband for her daughter but then all she wants from me is that I the take good care of her daughter and another thing is that the father wants her to go to school to which I agreed to wait for her. Mind you she just finished sec school then i was already working and ok and the age difference between us is 4 years.

By May of that same 2011 I traveled out for an assignment which lasted for 9 months and I returned by January 2012. All these while we had good communication and the relationship was one everyone would wish to have. She eventually got admission that 2012 mind you upon returning back from the assignment I went for we would've done our wedding but there was already an agreement that I wait for her to graduate. I wasn't afraid cos I so much love and trust her.

She was a good girl in school most of her mates and seniors I've spoken with always attest to that. In fact one of the ladies I spoke with said you're lucky to have one of the best. I can vouch for her on that. I wasn't the one that sponsored her education but then I supported cos monthly I send her pocket money and whenever she's in need of anything am always there both morally emotional as the case maybe. I do most of her assignment for her even though we're far apart I just send to her mail and she prints and add cover page.

The relationship was ok no issues all these while, fast forward to 2017 when she graduated and was to go for service, I told her it's time we start our marriage plans she agreed and by March 2018 we did our introduction. She was still serving then, and I started troubling her concerning the wedding to discuss it with the father. In fact during the introduction we requested for list for the marriage proper to which the father said they're going to get back to us.

I continue calling the father he wasn't forth coming cos we're not in same city and base on our work we don't move freely you must obtain permit. When I noticed the father is not forthcoming I had to use the money at hand to complete my building. Now the father's excuse has been that he wants her to get work before she gets married hmm.

I said well let me just give them time since I was able to wait for her all these years the remaining won't be problem. It continued like that till last year I became angree and I told my woman that your father has been insisting on you getting work before you get married is it what you also want?? The major problem I have with my woman as things started getting bad was that she's always like"my mother say, my father say" and I was like at your age 28 you mean you don't have say about your relationship?? She became angree that am talking to her anyhow, she sent me all sort of insultive messages to which I didn't reply any.

But then I was already thinking of leaving her, cos aside the fact that she couldn't make decision on her own she wants me to relocate and live in same city with her parents. And I know if that happens the mother will definitely be in charge of my home cos there's nothing my woman does without consulting the mother.

When she saw that all the messages she sent I didn't reply she started begging that she was just pained about the whole issue I forgave her and we continued but it wasn't as it use to be and when I noticed things weren't working I told her that we should part ways since she can't convince her people for us to get married while she looks for work.

I got the insult I have never gotten the whole of my life from her because of this decision, my thinking was that if I say that to her she may see reasons to try convince her people about us but I got insults upon insults, though I have been told before that I think she's a gentle girl, we may have dated that long but I don't know her. I didn't believe the message but with the insults I started giving the message a thought, mind you she's not a flirt oo, it has been a long distance relationship all the while but then I can still vouch for her cos of the family she came from.

The reason for this write-up is that, since I left her I haven't been able to love any girl, I am not an ugly guy and not too handsome but I am that guy that girls always want to come close to I know of ladies that have said to me I wish I can have you all to my self, I have met ladies that ordinarily I should've gotten married to even as far back 2014 but no matter how you try as a lady to come close I will always tell you I have somebody I want to get married to and they'll back off.

In fact one lady confessed to me that she loved me the moment I told her i am not married but I have a serious relationship that will lead to marriage soonest, she said even married men lie about their status just to get what they want but she loved me cos I was being sincere. Now even with all these people around me I still don't feel or love the way I do for my ex. I don't know what to do.

I still think of her and I don't seem to see any other woman and feel anything for them as I feel for her and recently I feel I want her back. What do I do

You have tried and patience with all these delays

Go and visit the father with a family member and discuss with him that it's time you conclude your marriage plans with his daughter or you get on with your life and look else where

His response will lead you to your next line of action

husseinaaa:
please this is my account number 3169843727 husseina Ibrahim first bank help me in anyway please

Look you better calm down before people will take advantage of you

Stop being paranoid about the sewing machine stuff and go to the rich ones on your street, meet them and explain your situation


They are the one that sees you and knows you better than we

They are the one that knows the that you really need a sewing machine

Sending account details here just like that with out prove is likely not going to work out

If your family members can't help you, your street members can be of help

mezico96:
Virgin my leg
The madam is even pregnant

Good for them, don't be surprise she will go to her parents to have her delivery

Ochason:
My name is Jolade (not real name). I am 26years old , just finished my HND, awaiting service cos my school had some issues and so we are delayed. I decided to get a job in the town. My friend told me a new restaurant was opening around August last year and so I applied. I got a job as sales.
The IT manager was transferred from the restaurants head office in Lagos. Lets call him Vincent. Vincent is a very handsome guy. Every girl had their eyes on him. He was also very intelligent and friendly. I usually just say hi to him, that is all.
After some weeks, he called me to say he has been watching me. That he sees that I am a decent girl and he would like for us to be friends. I wondered why me of all the girls in the office? He just said something about me is different.
Dating Vincent was a secret because of office policy. But it was a very nice relationship.. He genuinely cared about me, always checking on me…asking me if I was ok…I tried to fix my off days with his own duty off days . We spent alot of our free time together. He was very surprised I was a virgin.
Vincent spoke to me about my future, he seemed very interested in my welfare. He talked about his future plans with me and I was really happy to be in love with such a smart kind and ambitious man. I felt God had answered my prayers.
All was well until towards end of December last year. Vincent all of a sudden started giving me attitude…and before I could figure out what happened, he sent me a message that we should break up with each other. I was not myself…what did I do? I kept asking him,he said nothing at first but he later confessed.
He said he does not want to pressure me but that he had s*x with someone else. That he feels bad for cheating on me cos he knows I want to keep myself. So, he felt it was best to break up with me. I cried and cried cos I thought I could not live without him,….I called in sick for several days cos I was an emotional wreck for days.
One night, I took matters into my hands. I went to his place and begged him to give me a chance. I was ready to give him my virginity. He deserves it…he has been a great guy to me and I am helplessly in love. I told him he can have me cos I cannot bear to loose him over my virginity.
Vincent made love to me. A very painful experience but I guess that is how first time is for some girls. I was happy again. Things were going to be like before with Vincent. But alas, something else happened. I started getting into trouble with our manager in the office. This woman started picking on me for flimsy reasons. She insulted and humiliated me at every opportunity.
I shared my concern with Vincent. He promised to talk to her. I wanted to move in with Vincent during the December period but he said his brother would be coming to visit him from Lagos. So I decided to surprise him with food on Saturday after new year. I made fried rice and chicken.When I got to his place, I noticed his windows were opened but door was locked. So, I went in through the back door,from the Kitchen. I dropped the food in the Kitchen and went to the bedroom. That was when I saw Vincent and my manager having s*x.
I ran out…heartbroken and betrayed. I could not believe I was naïve to give myself to someone who was playing me. Now, I understood why the manager was always picking on me. And the worse is this manager is married with children.
Vincent has been begging me to hear him out. That he is only sleeping with her to get something from her. A car. She promised to promote him and give him a car if he slept with her. He showed me their chats….its just s*x cos her husband is not satisfying her. He said its just temporary…that he wants me to be his wife…
Getting to work two days later, I was fired. I knew this manager was only trying to silence me. I was so angry, sad and upset. Vincent asked me to calm down that he will help me look for another job. This woman took my man and my job away. I want nothing but to revenge her.
I want to expose her to her husband and on social media but Vincent is begging me that he may loose his job if I do anything stupid. Now, I have been mocked and betrayed and abandoned…why should I care if Vincent is fired? I am sure he is still sleeping with her cos she has not given him the car right?
Even though I love Vincent…I think the only way for him to show me he loves me is to leave that woman and even resign from that job to be with me or he is lying to me and I will expose both of them, their affair. I will even write to our head office that Vincent took advantage of me, lied to me and caused me to loose my job because of his affair with the manager.
My reason for writing you ma: please help me share my story. I want to know what people think is the best way to deal with this matter. Do you think Vincent is telling the truth? Will he be with me after he gets the car? I know he cant marry her cos she is already married…should I be patient and see what Vincent will do after he gets the car or should I go ahead and expose them the way I want to?
Please advise me. I was fired unjustly and on top of that…she is stealing my man when she is supposed to be happily married…I cant just sit back and do nothing….

My dear, this is your first heart break and there could be more, do ig you revenge on them that means you will revenge on all broken relationships

Just leave them and leave revenge for God if you can

mezico96:
Good day cuties and gentlemen of NL

Lemme just go straight to the point

I attended a friend's traditional wedding last year December and after all the stress and struggles to settle the bride price, the father of the lady forbade she stays with the husband until after their church/white wedding which is two months from now

So guys, is he right to say that?
What is your opinion?

The father is right until the whole formalities are done, especially if she is a virgin woman

DEmejioba1:
I got married in 2018,since then I have been battling with some unimaginable experiences with my wife even when I thought I married to a religious lady.

To cut the story short,

Prior to our marriage, things was not so good enough for me but because of age consideration of both of us we decided to wed with the help of our families.

The first thing that happened which caught me thinking afterward was that during our make up to wedding,my wife insisted that she's receiving 50k dowry which she knew I wouldn't be able to get it just shortly before the wedding. I told her that there is no way I could afford it then that she should reduce it may be to 20k, she said I should not worry that things will be sorted out. A day to the wedding she told me that when it's segment for dowry collection that she would pronounce that she had collected it. I said no problem. Since then I have not been able to pay it because she wants full cash. Now, any slide misunderstanding she refers to it.

Secondly, immediately after the marriage,I was left with 60k which I thought we would manage to get a room and a parlour apartment for a start, just to do according to my pocket in my present rent house. But my wife insisted that we should let 2 bedroom flat at 100k but knowing fully that my source of income would not maintain it couple with other obligations that I would be discharging. She said, she would lend me 40k.
Thank God I was able to pay her the money. But still thinking over wasteful of almost 50k,while 150k can secure a land for bulding house in my area.

Thirdly, few months after our marriage. We were having misunderstanding and I carelessly said if the marriage can not work it better we go our separate ways, my wife holds on this statement and continue saying that she just need me to say it twice more and the marriage is over.

But I used to think over all these with other ones that I cant write, then, I ask myself if truly she loves me or may be am with wrong person.

What is your thought about this?

The issue is that she is just crazy fellow and is always wanting you to enter her troubles

Left for me, suspend the dowry debt and think twice if you are very sure this marriage will work

She is pushing you to accept and do things you can't really afford and will not even do that same thing to support you and where she does, she does it as a debt on you
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So ask go to direct you, it's not yet late to end it, if that's the only way out for you

After all you have not paid her bride price and they will not refund any bride price to you

Eniobanke18:
Thanks for this piece. I hope that the Op could act on this. In addition, I tell men close to me to learn to assist their wives with house chores and raising children if they do not want their wives to age faster than them. @ The poster, do you have a househelp? If no, do you keep the children busy when your wife is doing house chores ? Do you surprise your wife sometimes by helping her out with some house chores or even take your family out to eat sometimes in order for your wife to have some time to rest . Think on this and act.
To women, Be deliberate in getting rest. House chores no dey finish. Close your eyes sometimes to some works around the house and take some rest. You will get the work done after waking up. If you can afford it, get someone who you will pay to come around and help you wash some clothes probably on weekends. Stress kills and causes one to age faster. Shalom

Honestly, you have summerized the solution in one page

Onyxunlimited:
Another angle. Some women do this if the husband cheated on them when they were younger or if he maltreated her.

Exactly my points

When men treats women bad, they tend to forget and that's when the women starts working on them at the later stage of marriage

And they use all available means within their reach

xperienced:
Another Julius Berger. It's not possible as long as he's not using precast materials.

This is a bungalow

All the materials he needs are just available

The most important thing is his money, man powers are also available on ground

LoyalHustler1:
Hello nairalanders, i want to know if i can build this type of house in three months.

All funds are available and Money is not really a problem, i want to know if it's very possible to build like blocks of flats in three months, i am even thinking of two months but i was told it's impossible.

Pics below

If you have the money, one month is enough for you to build and pack into it

sunshinemi:
I am presently in a relationship that is a little less than a year old. My boyfriend introduced me to his mum a few months back. She seems to like me and i call her often on the phone. My boyfriend and I both work with different oil servicing firms, so we earn good salary. My first visit to his mum, i gave her expensive fabrics and simple jewellery as gifts. This i did out of courtesy because my boyfriend lavishes money and gifts on me, so i felt that i could as well show a little love to his mother. She really appreciated them.

Without the knowledge of my boyfriend, i send recharge cards often to his mum. Minimum i text is 5,000 naira worth. Sometimes, i text more. However, she never calls back to thank me. She sends just a text or sometimes i will call her to confirm if she has gotten it after not hearing back from her.

Things took a frightening dimension some few months back. I called to say hello to her only for her to tell me that she needs money and i should send money to her. I was shocked because i know my boyfriend takes good care of her. What got to me what that she insisted on a particular amount and told me that she ''will pay me back'' when my boyfriend gives her monthly upkeep money. Of course, i told her not to worry. She then made me promise not to tell her son because if he hears, he would be really upset with her. I told her that i will keep sealed lips.

She has done made the same money request for different sums about three times after this.

The annoying part again is that she still expects me to send credit to her. It is so bad that she sends me texts requesting for recharge cards.

Two days ago, she did this again and i was so upset and i sent her just 1,000 naira worth and i explained to her that i just got back from a vacation abroad and i was a little low on cash and besides i told her i would pay her a visit at her place before the end of the year (i intend taking along with me as gifts to her bags of rice, things i got for her from my trip abroad, money, etc). She did not call or text to confirm she got the credit. When i called her, she said she had gotten it but she did not say a single ''thank you''.

This really hurt me because i have my own expenses and i also have a mother and i cannot imagine my own mum doing what she is doing.

I am really sick and tired of her extorting attitude and i am at a total loss on how to put a stop to it.

For goodness sake, her son is yet to formally propose marriage to me.

How do i put her in check?

Thanks.

You have done enough for her and this year is a time you stop making yourself cheap to her

Her types are ungrateful by nature and have nothing to offer

Reduce call times with her an d if possible limit it to once a month

She is smart, she knows you want her son that's why she is using that to make you her meal tickets

What if tomorrow it doesn't work, will you take back all you gave her

I think you should focus more in the relationship that's what matters to you now so that you can see clearly where the relationship is going to

Don't give her more than 1k recharge card

Don't send any money above 10k she did not give you money to keep for her and don't even do it regularly

When next she calls and demands, tell her your family needs your support and you need time to sort things out

If you don't take charge now you cant do it again after marriage because by then it will be more problematic and people will blame you for being unnecessary to good to her

Start saving if you don't have financial plans

Jmw2kblogposts:
YES! i didn't make errors in the topic!

That woman is nothing but a manipulator, liar, cheat, fraud and a dick rod bitch!

My life around her is like hell, she only cares about herself and she always want to be the only one comfortable even at the expense of her children! She would mock my late dad just to just get whatever she wants.

Its better to be orphan than to have this witch around your life. I wish she died instead of my dad, i would still appreciate nature if something happens to her today and she dies off. A quick death is better cause i wouldn't want any more wastage of time.

Bleep HER!

Your case is like that of a person who got so angry because of what his enemy did to him and drank poison expecting his enemy to die

Just plan your life and leave your mother because if you keep dwelling on her attitude, you may not move ahead

Old age will pay her when the time comes

omojesu202:
thanks for your input.
you're not far from the truth.
I told my brother to ask her what his offence was but he said he won't.
I'll have to call her.

Your brother will not ask her because he feels he is the man and will not reduce his ego to ask her, whereas he doesn't know that its a piled up of unresolved issues

Feel free and ask his wife then get someone that is very matured and friendly with them to come and solve the problem for absolute peace, if untreated it will get a stage of depression for him

nnewa:
In my part of Nigeria, when someone greets you, he asks after the members of your family including your children. As I was passing through our street a lady I am conversant with greeted me first, asking after my children. As I reply her, I'm expected to also ask after hers. I became confused cos I know she's yet to conceive and have a child (in fact it's been long she's expecting her own child/ren), cos asking her may seem as if I'm mocking her knowing that she has no child yet and if I didn't , it would also be obvious that I didn't rerun the greeting cos she's seen to be barren.
Please readers how can I answer back without eliciting ill feelings or in case of next time

Simply ask her how are you doing

omojesu202:
It is no news that most marriages are collapsing.
Mine is just two years but I also see signs of collapse.
What's happening in my brothers marriage is painful to me because I know the financial investment and sacrifices he puts into it. I don't know what he did to his wife but she has turned his children against him.
imagine that you cannot tell your 20 years old first son to wash your car like 7am, the mother will tell you that you should allow him to enjoy his sleep. Not once, not twice and not thrice.
This is the children you'll go hungry and borrow money to pay high school fees to make sure they go to good schools.
It is painful to me because I knew when he was paying 200k per term each on three kids while his basic was just 300k.
Now the firstborn and secondborn will disobey him on ordinary washing of car just because he can no longer meet up.
Please how would you handle such issues?
You might just hear that a man killed his wife and three children in the news. That would not be our portion.

From outside, she has been a good woman but she didn't blend the children to their father. They nature of his job takes him on transfer always and not stationed with his family but regular monthly visit is always there.

The truth is that, there is a cold war going on between your brother and his wife over an unresolved or untreated issues and the only way she can make it pain the husband is to instigate the children against him in such manner

If you can approach her, have a heart to heart talk with her and don't be surprise there are issues that wasn't properly handled

Even if you ask your brother he will say he did nothing because he may have forgotten

If you can get the truth its definitely from the wife and then you can mediate for them

No marriage is sweet they all have bitter taste

setobaba:
Good morning,

I’ve been thinking and watching on this for few months now, I notice my wife is no longer the damsel I met and dated. She will be 35 in few months, and we had only two kids together, so why she suddenly start looking older than that age is what I don’t know. I’ve seen ladies and colleagues of her age group still killing and rocking it, and going with the trend of fashion and lifestyles, No my wife won’t try to take fashion serious anymore. She will just wear any random cloths, not minding the occasion. You all won’t understand me on this, as In she use to be in line with all these before we had our first child. She’s not going through any stress, we living okay enough to be well fed.
So what’s happening?? Men, do you also feel like this? I mean those married for 5-10yrs and over.



A story of a young man who got married 11yrs ago

11 yrs in a life of a woman with child bearing is enough to change her personal look if only she is subjected to all kind of home front wahala

If you think you guys are OK, then you get it wrong check out the following questions

Do you have children that makes noise and makes her scream over them

Does she works, as in does she gets up as early as a banker, prepare the children for school and then prepare their meal and prepare herself for work

Does she goes to market after work or weekends, then come back and goes to kitchen to prepare meals and at night you still make advances at her and she still gives in to your requests and still wakes up the next day to repeat the same cycle

Does she contribute financially to the home affairs and other areas

After reading the above questions, if she does all this that's exactly what is weighing her and making her look older than her age

The above duties can be shared let her just be doing the bed stuff while you do the rest, you will also looks exhausted and stressed

Seat her down let her share the house chores and let's see if things will change for her to appear good looking

Lastly, every month take her for shopping at leat three outfits a month including night wears let's see if she will not look hot since you like them looking hot

Vevejoy:
Plesse forget the errors and focus on the content.

So here's my issue.

I've been married for 6yrs and it's been a blissful journey- of course with minor issues here and there but nothing to worry about until May 5th 2020 when I'd say things turned upside down.

We live abroad and struggled to have kids but God finally blessed us with a beautiful daughter in Sept 2019. Child care being super expensive here, we wanted one of our moms to come help us with the baby when I return to work after my maternity leave. So on the eve of our wedding anniversary which was the 4th of May last year, I asked my husband for the say 10th time about beginning the procedure of bringing a mom over to help since I'll be returning to work. He asked which mom and I said in my exact words; "of course my mom" because I know that when a woman gives birth, her mom usually go to help her. Did that change our story? My God, marriage has been one hell of a thing since that day.

My husband said I am selfish, disrespectful, and want to dominate him. He said things will never be the same again and since then, my marriage has been a stress zone.

My husband is numb to my feelings. He's been ignoring me, I've been a nag I'll admit since tue incident last year. I now talk alot and mostly complain about everything whenever we are together. It's sad and I've actually had conversations with myself to ignore him and stop nagging but I continue to do it, I need help on how to shut up and observe.

I can cry from now to die kingdom come and this man wouldn't be moved. He cannot shift his stance because of me at all. He does whatever he likes and disregard everything I say. E.g before this crisis, we had an appointment to see our Dr to start trying for baby number two because the Dr's advised that since we just had a baby, it's best to try for another soonest given that we had challenges conceiving the first one. This man cancelled the appointment with our Dr and has blatantly refused to start trying for a baby right now. He says when the time comes he'll let me know. Up till now the time has not come despite the fact that delaying may impact our chance of conceiving again. What a life!� � �.

Also, he has decided that no parent will come and I'm back to work already. My poor baby who use to sleep till 9am now suffer in this winter getting up at 6am to be dropped off at daycare all because her father is angry and want to make sure he doesn't do anything that will make his wife smile. He'll rather spend thorns of money paying for daycare even after I've told him that I don't mind his mom coming. Mind u, I have a very good relationship with my inlaws, especially my mom inlaw so it's not an inlaw fight.

The worst of them all is that despite living abroad for 17yrs, this man believes so much in native doctors to the extend that I can't even explain. Infact it's something that I've always fought him about and talked against. I've even complained about it to his family. And guess what, when I talk against, he tells his native drs who of course has ignited the fire in our home. Can you believe that in this chaos this man took me on a vacation in August last year that he wanted to clear his mind so we can start a new chapter and be happy again only to tell me that I have been trying to use a charm on him in the past months thats why things got rough. He said the 3 women I am using appeared to him but he is stronger ����. I am laughing because I felt pity and ashamed for him. How can a grown man be this vulnerable to suitsayers? I have never in my entire life visited a native doctor for myself not to talk of going to take a charmI didn'tvisit the native drs when I was strugglingto have a baby and this man thinks I'llvisit one now to charm him. Wondering y he will even believe such a thing. Infact I don't even know any native doctor. So when he said that, I told him that if I had known that his change of attitude is because of this stupid reason, I would not have fought for my marriage like I did. Of course I got so mad and told him a piece of my mind. I am even ashamed of telling people that despite this man's exposure he consults native Dr's in Africa more than even the people in Africa. Infact if they say yes that's what he listens to. He has even paid a flight from here to Africa because a native Dr told him that his dad who raised him to be the man he is today is trying to kill him and he should come for protection.

I decided to tell his mom about the accusation. His mom told me she scolded at him and warned him never to say such nonsense. Well I just pity him and I'm praying for him. But truth is I regret my marriage to him because of these his believes. I just don't believe in divorce and don't even have the heart to move out I would have done so. Mind u, I am 100% independent so it's not an issue of being scared of surviving alone.

Well one Sunday night as usual I talked to him like crazy and he said "all he wants is for our relationship to work and he will put in his best effort with support from me. I said I want same and will put in my best effort with support from him too*. This happened around september and things have been like normal on and off since then.

I have a few worries which I'd like you to advise me on the way forward.
- My husband is heartless. No matter how I lament, cry, beg, approach him nicely. Infact no matter the manner in which I bring up an issue to him, he doesn't get moved at all. He stays on his stance and doesn't care. How am I suppose to live with a man like this. He goes mute when I try having a conversation with him.

- I have a weakness of talking alot which I acknowledge and I'm doing my best to work on it though I'm yet to change completely. But I can say there's a huge improvement. Infact I'm able to walk away now.

Can a marriage really work out out without a compromise from both parties? I feel like I am compromising alot but this man is doing whatever he likes. In all of these he doesn't cheat but has abused me physically 4times in our 6yrs of marriage which I'm still pained about. The worst abuse right now is emotional abuse and I've told him so several times.

We use to be an exemplary and happy couple up till this may 2020. What will you do in a situation like mine With? With a man like my husband who I'd say lacks empathy and a concience how do I deal with him? His mom said she talked to him but I don't see any difference.

I feel miserable right now in my marriage. Since I got married this is our hardest hit and unfortunately it got prolonged probably bc of his native Dr's who told him I am using a charm on him which he believed.


Help me out please

Stop being in a sober mood for the mere fact that no man deserves to be died for

You dont even know if the spirit in you is affecting the demons in him

There is nothing God cannot do in this life

If you think you still want to be in the marriage, go into prayers and stop crying for him to see you cry for God to arrest his stubborn spirit

The idea of your mum coming is over sing it as a song for his own mum to relocate down to you people

Don't worry much about your child, other people's child are in the same day care and they are well taken care of, so push that away from your mind

When praying, do that behind his view as you don't know what made him to frequently visit a harbalist when he could as well remain faithful to God

You don't know how much he has committed himself to spiritualism and don't come and carry what you did not prepare

For the time being stop reporting him to his mum because she doesn't really have a firm grip over her son

Your life is more important than anything both of you are dragging for

Let him practice his traditional and harbalist life in as much as you can't bring him out and as well it doesn't affect your own life

While all these are going on, prepare for the worst, if it happens that you have to pack out, "you only live once". You won't be the first or the last to get separated because of emotional abuse

You must build your emotions Wether you like it or not

When next he accuses you of using native means on you, just say "oh lord I thank you for you are the only God I serve"

Assuming you are staying in niaja its a different thing, you are abroad so use your head well

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Oluromantic:
That one no stop gossip, backbiting, slander, asking for urgent 2k when flow finish o. You say respect women. Make women respect themselves. When they do, respect will approach them without asking for it

And you came out of a woman and still going through a woman

Respect yourself naw, haba

Jmw2kblogposts:
I came back home from work one afternoon to do something real quick, from about a mile away i could hear a feminine cry.

When i got into the house i met i met my two sisters eating lunch, the elder one was trying to console the younger one who was crying. I asked whats going on and at first they didn't want to say anything obviously because its a WOMAN'S THING. I had to pressure them into telling me because i had to help out somehow because my sister was shedding tears profusely!

They finally told me she was going through her monthly flow, i was heartbroken. Why do our young girl have to go through this torture on a monthly basis??

RESPECT WOMEN!

It's normal for done women to go through that especially at their early age

May be, she will out grow it

Next time let her take pain reliever

Pls take heart he has gone to rest, he will not want to see you in sober

Omokrireno:
I'm a student, i run my expenses without a single contribution from anyone.

The thing is, i am into drugs, tramadol and it takes money from me, about 4k daily. I can't even stop it for reasons best known to me. I also have a serious girlfriend that thought i have graduated because i lied to her when we started dating thinking it would be a one day fling.

Plus, she stays with me in school too. That's an extra on my expenses.

Currently i feel loosed because i suspect she is cheating on me where she is now. Being far away for like a month now, plus she doesn't want to come over until God knows when....

Same girl have had 7 abortions for her ex boyfriend that lives in the same town with her, where she is now... She had a pretty ugly past, lies upon lies, she even slept with her married boss at one time.

She just want me to trust her blindly. I don't know what to do. I feel like i have no one in my life and that i am all alone. I don't feel hooked with her at all but still, i feel like i have a loosed life.

Whenever she is around, things become very tough for me, everything suddenly freezes strangely. She even attested to it. Whenever she is not around, things start working well for me. I'm not being superstitious, like i said, she attested to it.

I don't know, maybe i am just depressed or something.

If you don't take time you may go sinel

What are you doing for a living that will make you keep a woman just for bleeping her after taking drugs

oluwasijibomi:
HI ..
My name is Bomi and i find myself been attracted to older women. I mean big women with between the ages of 45-55. with stretch marks and and saggy boobs fat bodies etc. As I type this right now, I have an erection just thinking about these women right now. i need one to just satisfy I don't need money or anything. I just need to satisfy a matured woman 08062994396. i dont even care about those of you that will bash me here na ur concern.
matured women are beautiful and need satisfaction too and i love them.

Yours is weired, why not go out and get them, they are every where

Is it not your life?

jeesprecy:
You people should come and help me contribute to this topic o.
Please contribute wisely o.
So a friend’s boo asked for a break cause of a disagreement in their relationship.

He says he needs time to breathe and she’s confused.
Mama will be 26 this year and a lot of
People know about their relationship already.
She loves him so much and he loved her too.

What should be her resort?
Does it mean the end?
Should she expect all the love and fire and relationship goal thingy back?
Should she move on?
How does she move on fast?

Is she is desperate, let her play the fool and the matter will be resolved

macnino399:
Good day all, please I need advice from anyone who has been in this situation before.

I'm a 23year old finalist in one of the south eastern Universities, for some time now my parents (especially my mum) has really been on my nerves complaining how my mates are making it while I'm just here doing nothing, honestly speaking I've been trying really hard to get a source of income on my own but it has been all futile, I could remember in my 100&200level days I wrote 4 different scholarship exams but couldn't get any, even last year I've applied for several online teaching jobs but couldn't get any, I was so frustrated that I even had to do menial job(serve mason) but the workload was so tiring that I had to stop it, right now my mum can't let me rest, she complains about everything I do, if I go out, if I eat food, virtually everything and I'm tired.
I can't wait for school to resume so I'd go and finish my school in peace.
Please how can I handle this situation, should I keep ignoring her or should I leave the house to school(though my school hasn't resumed yet).

I'm really tired.

Just simply ignore her some women are like that so that she will not push you to take a harsh decision

We do naming ceremony after birth with family members

If you want to witness the Yoruba version, come to church when the child dedication will take place

We are not party Frick like the owambe people

demmymoney:
Men are polygamous by nature

We don't wife hoes and whores

I never knew your dad had a hoes as a wife who gave birth to you and you now keep going to LovePeddler to sleep with them

Anyway it runs in your family that the males in your family have hoes and woes to be with

kalu61:
I'm not disagreeing with you but you cannot totally blames men's nature. That's how most men are wired. Sex for men is never same for women.

I'm not against who cheat or remain faithful, let everybody bear consequences of their actions and stop crying.

If your man cheats, cheat also. That's no big deal there. It's equality.

I Agree with your last paragraph

kalu61:
You can agree with me that Promiscuity is partly men's nature

What is good for men is also good for women

What you don't want others to do to you, then don't don't do it to others

Like I said any one is free to be faithful to his partner or cheat on their partner

It's their business not ours

yazga:
Good morning Anonymous,

My former wife allowed her colleague at her work place, a widow to influence her decision and separated from me due to my poor financial state then; that was four years ago despite my plead and several pleading from our family friends and my family members for her not to do so. l heard stories of her going out with men after she left me. It was very painful but God see me through.

Now l met this young single mother, a year and half ago, and through her uncle she helped and established me in business. l am now getting blessed with money, l now have a good car and am building my house almost 95% completion. l have really move on and things are really getting better for me. l will be getting married in a month time to this my single mother lady. News fly, they say.

Suddenly, my former wife surface from nowhere and want to come back to me. claiming we were not officially divorce. l don't have any love for her again in my heart. She's desperate to come back into my life again because of my good financial state now.

What should l do, my church and its doctrinal teaching is not helping matters.

ls it a must, l should take her back?

What about my helper of destiny, the one l now love and want to marry, what will be her fate in all of this?

l need your advice Familander - Anonymous.
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I don't think you should abandon the current woman for she has been the one that brought you back to stability

Go ahead and marry your new wife and if your former wife insisted that she is going no where, leave her let her Stay wherever she wants to stay but definitely not in your house with the new wife and make sure she doesn't lure you to sex by any means

You can also go to her family after your marriage to return the bride price if any and declare your intentions to move on

If they refuse, let them know that when she left you the new wife took you in when you were giving up hope of life

You have to be in the same page with your father's family if not, someone can be used in your father's family to negotiate her coming back and if such happens, let them know that it's not going to be in your house and she is wherever when wants to be on her own

Your ability to resist sleeping with her is your key to be happy with your new wife to be