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mariahAngel:
I want to ask you some questions...since you're encouraging the op to "confront her aggressively"

Is a wife obligated to eat with her husband everytime? Is it part of her duty as a wife?
Must they eat together everytime?
Is it by force?

OK. Let's flip this around and assume that the op is a female who's complaining that her husband now prefers to eat with his mother, instead of her...
What do you think would've happened to the op? FIRE AND BRIMSTONE FROM THAT'S WHAT! for daring complain and "come between mother and son"

Now, women be gushing like "awwwwwwwwn! He loves his wife so much, he wants her all to himself" abeg! abeg!

Truth is, the op is irrationally jealous and possessive, and shouldn't be encouraged.

I am not speaking for the Op, but he has more to say

For such things to be going on, there are more to it

adenigga:
https://m.guardian.ng/news/leah-sharibu-gives-birth-to-second-baby-in-boko-haram-captivity/

Better than being slaughtered

Just go for original LG products and experience peace of mind

Go to any fouani stores that's where they sell their products themselves

Funmilehot:
Good people of NL please with the present hardship and economic downturn of the nation I humbly seek ur advice.

For a couple with two kids who unfortunately only one partner shoulders the responsibility and only a salary earner of 110k how much of a budget nursery/primary school should the kids attend considering the income.

Presently my two kids attend a private school of 60k per term aside text books so I cough out roughly 150k a term for the two of them including text books.

Is that too much considering my salary?
Are the fees OK for my salary?
or should I withdraw them and go for a lower school.
Range of 10k, 20k, 30k, 40k 50k? Ur opinion plz.

Ur counsel really matters cos things are not easy these days. Prices of every commodity keep rising but salaries remains d same.

You know that you have only one source of income, you have to adjust somethings because cist of living is higher than salaries now

First of all, during long vacation, change school for them to school's of below 30k

Let your wife get a teaching job to support you

Your house rent must expire and it has to be paid

Help yourself, forget about what people will say

You are the one that bares the burden

starM:
I and my guy accepted to no sex before marriage but I think very soon we will do it. I am a virgin but he has slept with other people before me so he does things to me that makes me weak. We accepted kissing and he is actually the first person I have ever kissed but when kissing he touches my breast in a ways that makes me seriously wet and also touches my vj to the extent that he licked my vj the other day. The only thing left was penetration which made me feel very bad cos it took me days to reconnect to God and have my prayer life back. It seems he knows my weak point and he is using it against me. I can't continue to feel filthy and guilty.

Has he proposed to you, if yes has he seen your parents to fix a date for introduction

For how long are you going to wait till wedding day

How are you sure the marriage is coming so soon

Every woman's breast is her turning point

He giving you head, mean that he knows the game very well

It's either you give in to his game or you avoid anything that will make you guys stay indoors alone

He can still break your virginity and still marry you

But am not really sure if he his set for marriage

Just guide yourself

MANDIPUTIN:
"The truth is that when a man is making money, all his plan is to give his wife the best, but when a woman is making money, she will only think that she don't need a man."

If the man she is staying with is not making efforts to struggle too, of what use is he

Lifeo3008:
Things a so hard generally for me. I was working in the bank before I was retrenched. I had a 3 bedroom flat that was 90% completed. I had to relocate cos I got another job of 68k monthly. I have a lot of debt hanging on my neck that my salary cannot even accommodate. I have been trying to sell the house for the past 10 months but could not get buyer, the only person that even want to buy it at a ridiculous price of 3m since November has not been able to pay. Presently, I have not been able to pay my 3kids school fees and exam will start on Monday 22nd of March. My debt is around 600k. Most times I felt like eending everything. But wen I remember my kids I backed out cos I love them. Thins are getting more complicated, I have not travelled to see my family for the past 2 months. I use to check them twice in a month bf cos I can't relocate them with me due to financial implications. I can't even call cos I have not been able to send feeding money to my wife. Am so confused and tired of this life. I just feel like ending it.
Anyone that sees me will think all is well. Already am 46yrs old.

Talk to people who you think can assist you financially no matter how small it is

You didn't mention what put you to such amount of debt

This is where you need your wife to rarry round her own family to assist you

Don't get depressed it leads to BP

Once you are gone others you are struggling for must survive

Life is fun if we can manage what comes around us

goodman41:
Since my mother inlaw came to my house my wife no longer eats with me but her mother. Please it's normal? or I should confront her about it?

Thats how lack of love and interest starts in marriage

Confront her aggressively because its not supposed to be so

richmond500:
u don't know childofdoom, he just wanted attention.
He isn't begging and if u offer to help, he'll snub ur message.

He is just having fun with this thing

May all the fun he gets happen to him in reality

gabazin080:
firstly I am a carpenter and furniture maker. a friend on the the next street called me to come fix his door net. on getting there I stripped the clothes I wore from home to my working cover-all. I put my clothes with my pulse inside on the chair in their sitting room.

few minutes later I wanted a cold Pepsi, on getting to where I dropped my clothes, I realized #500 was missing from my pulse but I thought maybe I left it at home. I went outside to get the soft drink and I met my friend's 11 year old daughter drinking yogurt with snacks.

I asked where she got the money from and she said her dad gave her the money. I asked his dad if he gave her money to get something and he said no. that's when I told him #500 was missing from my clothes I dropped in their sitting room and I went outside now and saw her daughter drinking yogurt with snacks.

he then begged me to forgive the girl and returned my money, he told me about how the girl has been disgracing him in the compound by entering people's room to steal. she steals from the parents too and in school and will later say its one spirit that used to tell her where people keep their money and to go and steal it.

he claimed the problem is spiritual and has gone to some pastors and alfas but no changes.
the thought of the little girl's problem never left my mind till I finish my work there that day that's why I brought it here, ask u guys if such thing could be spiritual and what can be done because he is tired of beating her everyday with no changes

I don't think is hunger, ifsa bad habit formed and was not properly checked or controlled and it now lead to this

She needs constant counseling and little pocket money

Rhodaogunpeju:
Why are our Nigerian Men so insensitive.

I'm naturally a chubby lady with curves and I remember vividy how my husband used to praise my physique and say I'm his spec. According to him skinny girls are not his type.

We got married and I have given birth to two kids and I added weight a little, plus we were living comfortably so the good life was evident in my life and body.

The church we normally attend, the pastor's wife has 5 kids already and she's much older than me but she still looks moderate enough with little or zero stomach fat.

My husband seeing this woman has constantly been telling me to try and work on myself, this man literally wants me to be skinny, when we married I wasn't skinny, the blow was when he compared me to my Pastor's wife, saying I have just 2 kids and I added weight while our Pastor's wife has 5 and she's looking like she never gave birth.. I cried and I have been crying since..


It hurts so much .. It makes me wonder if this man still loves me?

You can reduce your weight if it's possible and if it's not possible simply ignore him and his choose of you being slim when he already knows that you were chubby

Just ignore that part of him and keep moving because you will be pregnant again and will still have birth weight

husseinaaa:
I met this guy 2018 in my Madam's tailoring shop while I was learning as an apprentice.

He usually comes around, he talks and jokes with everyone in the shop and we are all free with him after sometimes of showing good behaviours towards us.

To cut the story short, one day he asked for my phone number that he wants to be communicating with me, so I told him I don't have a phone I am not working yet, I am still learning and he smiled and promised to buy me a phone, which I told him if it's not just a gift he should not buy but if he wants to dash me for no reason like having intention of relationship or sex etc he should. Then he said he just meant to buy for me as a friend and I thank him.

So few days later he gave me 50,000 to buy myself a phone and I collected it and appreciated it.

So we communicate normally but just as a friend.

Last month he started asking me out, I told him am not ready for relationship because the kind of suffering and stress I pass through to survive totally made me lose interest for anything like that, he got angry and told me to send back his 50,000 to him or I should accept him. He is threatening me because he knows I cannot afford such money to pay him so I told him to give me time, I will refund it just to avoid problem but he said no time will be given that either I should give him my virginity or if I don't pay before next 7 days he will destroy my life, either by jazz or attack.

I just don't know what to do I need advice.

Simply return the phone to him and abck yourself up with prayers

exsodus:
I honestly don't know where to start from, but all I can say is that I'm madly in love with my boss at the office. I always think of her any time I see her pass by.
Sometimes I think I should just walk up to her office and confess my love for her but I know this might cost me my job. Please advise me on how to get her attention and also convey my feelings to her

If you think you are man enough to approach her, even if it means you loosing your job then shut the shot

OlayemiAshraf:
Her husband deserve 100 lashes of kokobo

How do you think this one has any husband she is just a crazy girl, simple

Rogosa:
Me: Why din't you try to stop these before getting here?

@He: Bros, I tried! The issue has been going on for the past 5 years and I tried my best to prevent this occurrence by not allowing the two to see as much as possible.

Me: Talk to your wife. Take her for a treats. Tell her about her respects, boundaries etc. You can only have one mum ooo and at the same time, you should know how to balance the relationship between two loves of your life. Wisdom is profitable to direct. Make her apologise and let bygone be bygone....
I hope I did well.

You did well

Seat her down and talk to her about the importance of respect

Let her know that your mum also gave birth to someone like her and she should see her as her biological mother

Tell her to apologize to mum let peace reign

If she continues to torment your mum, don't be surprise if your mum goes extrem to make sure she leaves the marriage

And she will do it in a coded way of which no one will suspect her

drinoayo:
Musician Charly Boy has revealed why he is usually naked in his music videos and social media posts, Igbere TV reports.

Born Charles Oputa, the entertainer shared a throwback picture of his father former Supreme Court Justice Chukwudifu Oputa on Instagram on Tuesday, wearing only a pair of underpants.

He wrote: .

https://www.instagram.com/p/CMe4pcgJNJf/?igshid=1r0ey72bw0x1v

The septuagenarian started his music career in the ‘80s and is also known for his stand against bad governance.

Also known as Area Fada, Charly Boy has led several peaceful protests in the country.

No I know that it runs in their family, from grand father, to son Charly Boy and to his daughter who is practicing Lesbianism

Creazy set of family

WalexyWWE:
Hello guys, what a sigh of relief. Thanks to nairalanders for your advice. For those who haven't been following this is the previous thread link

https://www.nairaland.com/6460802/girlfriend-just-scammed-me

So after what happened yesterday I couldn't sleep, I hardly blinked throughout the night I was looking for all the possible means to get back to this girl and get my money refunded.

The mistake I made earlier was calling her her freinds to ask wether she was with them. Apparently she was with one of those girls but she lied. Early this morning I went to the police station bribed two officers (10k each) and told them I would be needing thier services for some few hours.

I don't care if I spend more sef. I started checking all her freinds house. Started from her best freinds place I caught up with her after about 6 places.

She has spent out of the money she has 54k left with her I took it and I took her phone as well(11 pro max). I don't care what happens if she refunds my money she can come for her phone.

She couldn't say anything, neither could she beg. I figured out it will take a long process going the legal way and she might have spent the money before all the evidence I put up against her will be ready.

Thanks to everyone who contributed I know have her phone and half of the money if she dosent show up within a week I will be selling that phone I swear. And luckily for me all the evidence is there on her phone. She has been mocking me and telling some of her freinds how she stole my ATM card. Victory at last.!!!

Waooo victory for you

I think you have to be careful with your surroundings this time around

If she comes begging, first of all ask her to give you your remaining balance

After that, take her to the police station to write under taking that she committed so so crime with you and she wants to promise you that she will never have anything to do with you

GrandFinale2021:
ordinary eyes how? kindly explain exhaustively

I can't explain what you don't understand

QuinModah:
We were not infact we have been extremely lenient on this tenants from the word go

OK naw, this time around they need to be screened

DrFunmisticGlow:
if she abandons the children for him, will you go to his house to help take care of them if he decides to toast you?

Ndi ara!!

Try and be in his shoes and see how Ara ga agbagi big time

Would she be the first to do that

Will he be the first to have his mother look after his children

So the man should go and kill himself

Onye Ara di ka gi

Bigdik70inch2:
Oga Ooo........
Why wud u jux leave school without formal permission

You think it's ordinary eyes.?

osazsky:
if he gives his own mum 20k for his children.after 1 week his mum will start nagging..except she is rich or has rich siblings prob nor they finish

That's not true, a mother's love is different from a wife love

The mother will even be there for his son and grandchildren

obinnawhyte:
I know you're the type that goes after and sleeps around with men especially on your street just to prove that you're a woman and equal to men that also chases women.

Now you can clap for yourself and I encourage you let your family and even your girlfriends know about your courage sleeping around just like men

Simply because your father was never faithful to your mother, you now see it as a norm

Follow his foot steps and invest your entire fortune on women pussy

That's where you came out from and there is nothing wrong if you end their

Prospertochu:
I got my girlfriend then now wife pregnant, I wasn't ready for marriage. My plan was to take care of her and my baby while she stays in her father's house, her mother was fine with it as long as I take care of my responsibilities, but everything changed when the scan confirmed that she was carrying triples, her mother said I must marry her because there's no way her daughter will still under her roofs with 3 children.

I pleaded with her to give me sometimes to find my own accommodations because I was living in my father's family house after his demise I stay with his siblings while my mum left with my younger sister.

My mother in law refused saying I must do something fast because she doesn't want people to mocked her that her daughter has gotten pregnant out of wedlock not just with one baby but 3 so I managed to save enough money to get a place for our own but her mother refused saying I must pay her bride price first, I didn't have any more money so i have borrowed from friends and added to the money I had to pay for her bride price. It wasn't a big party just something small, I took my wife to my father family house where we are living now with our triplets but things hasn't been easy for me, taking care of 3 children it's not easy, I am grateful that I am rent free but household bills are killing me.

My wife and I are always arguing because she keeps asking for more money my salary is 55k I use to give her 20k monthly, 10 monthly to my mother and I use 20 and save 5k she said the money wasn't enough that I am stingy, I now started giving her 25k she is still complaining about the money not being enough. I refused giving her more she started staving me of sex and foods. My family are tired of separating us fighting almost every day, my uncle has asked us to leave the compound because we are disturbing there peace and I had to beg him to forgive us that ur shouldn't be happening again and I cautioned my wife but she is threatening to abandon me with the kids. I have told her to do her worse because I am tired of her madness. I wish I never married her in the first, all I could've do is to take care of my kids and let her be I know it's too late now to change the past but what should I do?

Don't let her madness lead you to early grave

Leave her to do her worst it's either she goes with the children or leave the children behind and go

You can't still to please her, never you can not

I pray she leaves the children and go, just move them to your mum

How does she want you to cope with that little salary yet contributes nothing

This time around be prepared for the worst, let the animal in you come out

She just want to make life unbearable for you

obinnawhyte:
while you make think you made sense, I think as a child you can't compare your mother having a man friend let alone sleep around with some random guys just because dad did whatever thing to a father sleeping around even while mum is an angel to him and does everything.

my point here remains that there's nothing to justify why a married woman should sleep outside her husband, if I lie ask the children

So you made sense by saying that there is nothing justified about it, meaning the married men that sleeps around are cursed, ok now I understand

Mumben:
Seen. May God bless and replenish you abundantly. I really appreciate. May ur family never lack in Jesus Name Amen.

Thanks for the wishes and prayers

If a married man likes, let him cheat and if a married who likes, let her cheat

Once both of them knows that they are all cheating, no envy at all

When they are tired they will sort themselves out

Mabizeka:
I hope women listens to this legend. women should never leave their husbands no matter what. remember that whatever he does outside his pric must still return home to your waiting arms so allow us to do as we want

What goes around comes around

Mumben:
God bless u Sis. 2283176287 E Lilian.N Zenith

Sorry for the delay, I have sent the gift to your account

Trust in God and all will be fine

tigook:
I will not even penetrate at all. Thanks so much boss.

Is not as if you won't penetrate, lol, just give her up to seven months but try and Make sure that you are giving her a good romance that will calm her nerves down

Some women gets Hot through out that period