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mariahAngel:


Wait! hold on...

I thought faithfulness in marriage is an obligation and not a choice...

O di egwu!

So you want her to shed blood from her eyes to make the husband believe and trust her

Odiegwu

farous:
I have severally educate my Househelp on the dangers of making or answering phone calls in the kitchen when cooking using Gas cylinder and that she should never try it but desist from it to avoid explosion.

Unfortunately she seems to pay deaf ear over it as this morning I saw her answering calls right inside the kitchen while cooking using the Gas cylinder and I was so upset that if I had not hold myself and control my anger I would have used an object and beat her mercilessly.This is a family with children and I don't want to give devil chances.She is so stubborn that most times (not only this Gas matter) telling her not to do something is like pouring water on the stone and such attitude upsets me.

Please what should I do?.

Send her packing or wait for disaster to occur

Aliyos80:
I was married 4yrs back without knowing the man is mentally ill, everything happened just in a rush from our first meeting to the marriage its self just happens in 2months time and we just meet once face to face, the 2nd was during wedding time (it's my qadr and I accept it wholeheartedly)
I was treated very badly by him I was beaten up many times he slap me in any misunderstanding I suffered alot in those 8months, before my parents got me separated from him after learning he is mentally unstable from his family, though he didn't divorce me untill after I spent another 8months in my parents house saying he loves me he will not divorce me, my uncle threaten him of going to court before he handed the divorce paper to me.
now I really want to get married, but am very afraid of been married again I use to feel why would I go back to that terrible life but deep down I feel I want my own home, my own family, I want to see my own children
how can I overcome this please

The earlier you change your mindset the best for you

Start by having a boyfriend and watch the relationship blossom

missjo:
Hello all, as shown in the topic, what I need most in my marriage is trust.
My husband does not not trust me, he's extremely suspicious of me. At first, it was flattering seeing him show his insecurities by being protective and wanting to know where I am and who I'm with all the time. But I can take it no more cos of the way he keeps mentioning specific names of men he thinks I'm having something with.

To give you a bit of context, this is a summary of our marriage.

By the time I and my husband met, I was in a relationship with someone else. He didn't mind and we clicked mostly because we were classmates from way back. I instantly fell for him and it was easy for me to fall in love probably because the relationship I was in at the time was on shaky ground, we were always fighting.
I found peace with my current husband when he showed genuine interest and we developed our friendship, and that led us to where we are now as a married couple.

Now I'm not stupid, my mind tells me that perhaps at the back of his mind, he feels that if I was able to leave my previous relationship to be with him, then I can do the same to him. This is what I'm thinking, but I also believe there's more to what may be going on in his own mind.
Missing his calls always becomes an issue, he has this attitude of calling me on video immediately after I tell him where I am and then he would insist I pan out the camera angle to show him around.
He has gone as far as mentioning the name of two coworkers of mine, and makes jokes that insinuate I'm having a secret affair.

I love this man, and I would not cheat on him. He makes me swear and make promises to him all the time and frankly, I'm tired of swearing for someone who just won't get that he's got me and won't lose me. It's gotten to the point that his continuous suspicions of my coworkers have made me start noticing them in ways I shouldn't have. I honestly started watching them more just to understand why my husband would ever assume I can be interested in them.

I want him to trust me, I need his trust, but I have run out of things to do on my own. I was going to suggest couple's therapy to him, but I'm so not ready for one of his long speeches.
I just want to do all I can to build the trust and if it don't work, then I can be bold enough to suggest therapy as a last resort.

Don't go and over stretch your self trying to prove to him that you are innocent of his lack of trust

He is the one having trust issues not you

Just be faithful if you want to be

They should be shot in the knee so that it will lead to amputations and that ends their robbery activities

stopthecycle:
Hello Fam... I've recently heard a lot about Ijaw women and their gift for "setting wombs" through massage for ladies who are having difficulty conceiving. I've also heard some "testimonies" by some who employed their service. I wanted to recommend them to my sister but not sure yet. All her scan results show nothing is wrong with her or her husband but just wanted to be on the safe side...

Have any of you had experience with these womb setters? Please share...

Pls don't suggest or creat non existing problem to your aunt and her husband especially as doctor said that they are OK

God time is the best for children

JeffreyOraz:
So, good day guys, I was rubbing funbact A on my face because someone told me it removes acne and pimples, I rubbed it for like a month or two and saw my pimples were still re occurring, so I stopped and just used that methylated powder.
Of recent my younger brother and mother told me I was bleaching my face and my younger brother also told me my face is lighter than the rest of my body and I checked and saw it was true, my face is lighter than the rest of my body especially my neck and it makes me feel uncomfortable around people.
All I need is advice, should I buy another funbact A and rub it on places like my neck till they reach the same skin tone as my face?
Or is there a cream that can darken my face?
Abeg, I don't know what to do, somebody should help me

Pls don't rub anything again on your face

Leave those pimples they will run away from your face

Just stay away fro foods that triggers it, like grand nuts and butter

Rakeem10001:
Hello guys, my name is kosi and I've been struggling with anxiety since I can remember, it causes palpitation, trembling and sweating and it is always embarrassing when I'm in the public..pls health professional in the house what do I do..I visited a hospital last year the doctor said it was lack of glucose (I can't remember) something like that, I just laughed cause I know its not it but I decided to try the treatment, after 30k spent and two days drip with no result, I only ended up with a bad head ache, only for the second doctor to come in later and suggested I see a psychologist

Pls health professionals in the house, what should I do

It's your mind that is playing a fast one on you

You have to relax and stop anything that triggers your tension

Start with that

If you are living with people who are causing you pains move away from them

Stop yourself from getting tensed

senatepresido:
Straight to the point, I have been invited for an interview at Consolidated Hallmark Insurance Plc for the post of a Client Relationship Officer, please I want to know if this is a marketing job/Insurance sales because I am not interested in any marketing job...
anyone with useful information on this should please help out.

Thanks in anticipation for your response

Every thing about insurance is all about marketing
You go Waka tire and you will be paid on insurance

plyz:
Thanks allot for this...I actually applied one of the universities here,jus waiting for the admission list an hoping it favours me. really appreciate ur input.

Thanks be to God for the experted favour
Now you can use the money and shop once that is done

plyz:
Thank allot for your input was planing on going back to school but sometimes I feel am let behind ND there's no time again for me

See you have to make that move, once you get to 30yrs of age, pride will not allow you to further and that us another way to get frustrated in life

Education is not everything but don't think it's not meaningful

plyz:
a) am based in Abuja
b) I stay with my elder brother
c) am 27
d) was a 3hundred level student had to leave school 4years ago(didn't finish cuz of the issue). so I can say am only having my ssce cert.

Why not go back and find out how to solve this school issues

Unless you entered with bad results or backyard entrance

If you are willet start school afresh pls do

It's worst being a drop out

Just believe in yourself and hold on to God

mabeni:
My wife didn't serve me food this night because we had misunderstanding. Everything happened in the presence of her mom but never said nothing.

She didn't ask me what was happening and never asked her daughter why she didn't give me food.

I intentionally went to the to kitchen take Garri to drink...she saw me and still not said nothing.

She came for omugor

She could be the gentle type that wants to mind her business without interfering into her child marriage, so far you have not reported anything to her

If you have a complain about her daughter, tell her and watch what will be her reactions

GloriaSabipeepz:
Would have love to go in details but no one likes long story. So i met this fine lady back in ma 300l days she was a fresher based in ibadan, she has almost everything, beauty brain bum bum n smal breast. Short story we fell in luv and til today its my favorite experience, well she got married 5yrs ago but honestly ave avoided her all through but she keeps beggin me i should not leave her even though we are in separate state, that she has no friends, shes lonely, married life is not how she thought, the husband this n that. Honestly i feel for her but what can i do? Should i be there for her or make i japa?

If you can maintain an online relationship with her, that's nit a bad idea

She may be lonely despite she is married

She just need a friend to keep her going

By the time you start gisting, she will open up to you

Two of them should be prepared for death by hanging

No pity for them

CsRockefeller:
I just got matched with this young female doctor, though I'm older then her with just 2 years. She schooled outside but currently doing her NYSC here, at first I was told she read psychology but later in found out it is Medicine.

It's been 2 days already and we only talk in d evening, then she drops the call with a promise to call back so as to attend to clinic matters.

She's actually cool, simple and very friendly. I'm not in any way ruffled as to her profession when compared to mine but I'm thinking of just slowly letting everything go before I get neck deep in.

Have you been in this situation before? What do you think is the best way to handle such?

Yours is a match make date

It's up to you to know if the feeling is there

Doctors are very proud people, so be willing to humble yourself so that you guys can match well

She is already made, so bear that in mind

Lunomall1905:
I almost get my self killed each time I go and to drink

What should I do .

You are the problem and you are the solution

Stephen4800:
I just created this account, last week my wife told me she hardly gets butterflies whenever I touch her, just wondering how

The love between both of you us yet to get connected

It's either the love is not there or it need to be activated

Look deep the problem and solution is their especially if you guys have pending issues, it does affect affection

Babymuchendu:
my girl friend called me yesterday, crying that her husband destroyed her simcard and told her to go and get her self a new one.

mind you the marriage is just 3 months so is it proper,

for me the action is bad.

He destroyed her Sim card because he lost trust in himself over her

He should also destroy the venue or places he feels they are meeting and also destroy her pussy

He just wants to die premature death

JovialJune:
I honestly see nothing wrong in having it all.

My dear, if you are satisfied with the one you have, one won't think of getting it all

Though I like her way she was open about what she wants

I think she wants freedom and to enjoy life

If the husband can step up his romantic game, she can still remain there

The men outside knows how to handle women more than the ones inside with them

This life is not balance, you just want to have it all

Adukpe19:
. Ouch! You started so well but ended so poorly!

The last paragraph is where you detect it poor

She is not a virgin so what's the big deal

kufman123:
Thank you for responding and sorry for replying late. Late me answer the questions accordingly.

1) I'm in my final year 4/4
2) I'm a student of Cross River University of Technology (Crutech)
3) I'm studying Urban and Regional Planning
4) For my session school fee (final year)
5) My father is late while mum is still alive struggling to even provide food for the younger ones. She is a pretty trader.
6) I sponsored myself to this level with the proceeds from my evening/night business. I run road side food business in the night where I sell rice, Indomie, beans etc in students area. But the business has really suffered since lockdown last year. To make matters worse, Calabar is still under curfew at night. This has crippled so many night businesses and mine is not spared either. You can make findings about all these.

Thank you for your time as I expect good reply from you.

God will be with you and you will not be put to any shame

But like I said I needed prove

Even if it's a penny am giving you, it will serve a purpose

For the fact that you have gotten to your present stage, you will definitely finish the race

Pls can you send me a copy of your student ID card this moment, just cover your name and matric number

I will be waiting to have it before midnight

Frankraj:
I have really fall mugu , I meet this girl early January this year like like play like play she bill me house rent I gave her cos she said she loves me . As time goes on bill keep coming until the money I have sent her go to N125,000. Now she nags at me because I said I will send money again . She doesn't pick my calls anymore she only picks when she like . My brother I thought I can find a single good girl in Nigeria but right now I can tell you that there is no Good girl in Nigeria. All of them are tifs and scemmer
A girl asks you for financial help and you help her she takes for a marga or a full

So you are that cheap to get money from or you are just Mr Nice guy.?

Anyway save that money and send to your mum, she needs it more and will pray for you even

What's the price pls and how do you dispatch or where one can get it

kufman123:
https://www.nairaland.com/6387767/4-years-school-going-dust


Good evening all. Please I'm very sorry for disturbing you all. I opened the earlier thread seeking assistance for my school fees but yet to get any positive response. Not like I'm trying to act entitled here. I'm not please. I'm only appealing. I understand so many questions will arise such as, why new handle? What did you do throughout the lockdown period etc? I'm able to boast of part of the school fees as at today because of the lockdown although part of the money I raised during the period went into personal development like learning some skills. The skills have not started yielding yet. I'm not asking for the money to be paid into my amount but the school own. I don't need to touch the money at all. Please help me. As a final year student, it's a directive from the school authority: "NO SCHOOL FEE, NO EXAMS" and the school is very serious about it. Enforcement is 100%.

Finally, I'm open for any form of scrutiny to ascertain my authenticity and die any thoughts of me being a scammer . Any form at all.

Thank you very much as you come to my rescue at this eleventh hour in the pursuit of my tertiary education . I'll forever remain grateful to you.

Contact: 070 6061 1811

Anyone seeking for help must remove pride and shame

What level are you

What's the name of your school

What course are you studying

What's the exact things you need money for

What about your parents or are you an orphan

How have you been coping before now

Just answer this questions with prove of documents before midnight , I will request for your account number and make transfer to you

JovialJune:
See them talking on behalf of women,

A lady will tell you not to use condom, y'all mumuishly do as told abi? Ode.


Modified
Nl has become something else, its like there is a deliberate smear campaign against women generally, cos I don't understand how this nonsense thread will be on FP, why?

They don't have much to do than to be digging deep into women's world as their lives revolves around women

PT37:
To be sincere,I haven't oh.I am scared they will elaborate it and start asking for money I don't have..

Pls help yourself

Life has no duplicate

Worst case go to chemist

Daddyejima4:
My life turned upside down on 17th April 2017 I lost my wife from child birth complications, she gave birth to twins girls.
Prior to her death her mother and elder brother carry her out of my house in my absent, she was 6 months gone.
Her mother said that her prophet said I want to use her daughter for money rituals and she will never return to me
I have tried everything to talk /meet her all to no avail
I went to nnewi to her mother house on three occasions but I couldn't meet her, her brother chased me
A week later on the 17th April I received a call from my mother in law tenant to informed me that my wife has passed since a week ago which is 12th of April.
I couldn't believe it and I rushed to nnewi to find everybody in tears
I asked my mother in law why did she do this to me, she said I wanted to use my wife for rituals and she took her away from me because she wanted to save her so how come she died
She held me in the neck shouting at my face to bring her daughter back or else she will kill me too
Some elders intervene and pleaded with her to leave me and was asked to leave immediately that they will inform me about the burials and everything
I didn't even get a chance to see my babies
I tried to contact my wife's twin sister about the burial and how to see my babies, she lied to me then block me
To cut the long story short I didn't attend my wife burial because I was given the wrong date which was two weeks after her burial
On that day I went with my parents and other people only to find out that the burial was two weeks ago
My mother in law wasn't anywhere to be find only the tenants who were present
Have been tying to get in touch with my babies to no avail even taugh she has returned to her house and I have been there three times but she refused to meet me
Its coming to 4 years now that I have never met my twins babies who will be 4 years this April
She is living alone without them, i have no ideas of my babies whereabouts and I heard from people in her hoods that one of my twins is in Abuja with my late wife twin sister and the other is in warri with another sister.
I don't know how to contact any of her sisters nor their husbands because I don't have their numbers
I have since remarried and we are blessed with a 3 months baby girl but I will never forget about mh twins babies, I want to take care of them
I am thinking to report her to the human rights so she can bring my babies back to me because I have been patient with her for 4 years to no avail, I will not take it easy with her anymore. I want my babies back. Your advice will be appreciate please

I think you have to start by meeting her family members with your own family members

Look fir people they respect in their families

There must be a problem you didn't handled well until they took their daughter away from you

By the time you have access to the family just let them know that you want your children to be with you and you are willing to give them free access to visit your children anytime

That you want to train them and sponsor their education

If they refuse then you move to human rights

But remember that despite they denied you access to your wife during her burial which you don't have any idea of how she was buried

You will still go to her grave and wish her a peaceful rest