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James4358:
Should her family carryout their threats, Are they spiritual side effects to marrying a corpse? am already in a relationship that w'll tie the nots in no time. Does it mean i wont get to settle down if eventualy i perform her marraige rites? To be sincere,. Av seen comments here suggesting we forced her. We never did. I lived on my own while she was with my boss. She was certainly of a legal age when she accepted to do this. My boss took care of her parents and her salary was very impressive. She was given an appointment into the correctional service where we work as compensation. I never knew what went wrong because i work in the north central part of the country. Currently am planing to travel with her corpse to her home town fro lagos. I already sent an advanced party to meet with her family to help calm their nerves. Am only 29yrs old and has never had such an experience before. Family men & ladies, how do i handle this situation?

It's just unfortunate

You recommend a house keeper who is a minor and out of pity, she took a decision to donate her kidney out of love and human kindness to her boss

Well you weren't the one that killed her

She didn't die of kidney failure as no prove of that

All you need is to plead with her family nit claiming any rights that she chose to do so by herself

Dobt go there to argue with another

Go with few elders who can talk for you

If they insist you marry her

During the marriage right, tell them that you meant well for their child but she died for reasons known to God

When it's time for burial, when they open her coffin, speak to her that you meant well for her and death came and too her away

You don't need to say am not responsible for her death because you can't even say what killed her

It has no effect on you if you do marriage rights

After every thing, yo to God in prayers to separate wgat you did and have faith in God

I put mine besides my pillow but it must be in flight mode

nyiamfrank:
I'm sorry if the title doesn't match, but here is the story.

Yesterday Sunday, I was in my boss's house as I am working with him as an aide. While the boss was yet in the bedroom, his wife walked towards me in the lobby with a black polythene.

As soon as she heard the sound of the bedroom door open she quickly threw the bag and its contents to me and signaled me to hide it and I did just that. They are no CCTV cameras anyway.

Throughout the day, she never had the opportunity of telling me anything until they dropped me off.

As soon as I got home, I opened the bag and discovered it was 73 bills $100. She texted me to confirm the amount and I told her 68 because I know she didn't count it and I have already siphoned 5 notes.

The boss will fly to Abuja by 10am tomorrow. I am confused, too many questions on my mind right now.

Should I tell the boss, what will happen to their marriage?

Should I keep quiet, what if the boss finds out, what about my job? Moreover, I must confess, the boss has been excellent to me.

Should I japa, what if they report me to the police that I did the stealing, that is why I ran.

Your candid advice, please. This will go a long way in helping people who may find themselves in my situation right now.

Meanwhile, this is not Biafra, Oduduwa or Arewa issue, please be guided.

I will advise you keep sealed lips in this first deal

Watch out for the second one and thats when you will bring the report to your boss

It's better to be faithful to your boss than playing a hide and seek deal with the wife

Fear women with their plans, they don't play a game that doesn't favour them

Delpeiro:
I know it might seem too early to start nursing this feeling but each day the signs keep coming.

I dated my wife for like 3 years before we marry. All this time she base in another city with her family while I based in another city but she do visits like twice each year.
While we were dating there is so many things that I saw in her or will I say she made me saw her that am not seeing again.

One, am this guy that love to help. Like am this type that have this dreams of helping the whole world(women and kids) if it is possible. While we are dating she made me see her like like mind , she share her dreams two of running NGOs for women and children, adopt and train orphans e.t.c. but to my greatest surprise now she is very very opposite. Most annoying is her dislike for kids coming close.
We share dreams of having large house with families always around but now she kick against every idea of anybody coming around, her family included.

Two, She made me see her like this ambitious and industrious lady, running couple of businesses then.
I remember having a fight with her because I said she will finish giving birth before talking about business or work when we marry. To make greatest surprise now that we are finally married she don't have this push nor the zeal to do anything, infact she kills every move to started up something for her.
In less than 18months of our marriage I have started two businesses for her she run it down .
Infact the first one never even start, I gave
her money to go buy her machines, she dn't buy them and money I didn't see.
Her excuse was that she is not interested in what she was doing before that she want to go into business.
Late last year I started for her another business myself, order the goods myself. That business did not see 31 Dec .
Is so painful because I planned of starting couple of businesses with her help and care in 2 or 3 years so that I can resign my work and come back home fully (My work take me away for most part of the year) , but it seems I dnt watch before jumping.
Right now am in the middle of the road not knowing what to do.
I don't know if this is sign of laziness/her style , fear of failing or just that she needs time.

Three, Sex life . She is totally a diffrent person now, like it is just too boring to make love to her now unlike before.
I have discussed it with her to know what changed she said nothing . Though she seems happy in and out because I make sure I treat her like a queen even though am just trying to survive
It doesn't look like she is lacking anything or not happy with the marriage
Less than 18 months into the marriage making love to her is just for purpose of procreation.

Last but not the least her money management is scaring.
You give her money to keep next time you ask about the money she can't give account of the money nor point what she did with it.
I don't know what to think , though I trust her very much.
But my confusion now is I came across two transfers she made to this particular guy in just Feb while trying to use her phone.
I check her call log and notice that she is in constant communication with this guy. I check out the number on my whatapp and Facebook.
It happens that this guy, which she saved with one funny name in her phone, is a guy I knw his name becus it always come up . Infact in one of her visits while we are dating one day she spent close to 1hour plus with this guy on phone with me right there, I confronted her she told me that the guy is her ex friend but her good friend and colleague and that he is married with kids.
I don't know if it is a good idea to confront her again with the alert and constant communications with this guy or lay low, play along and monitor things.

She acted to he the kind of woman you ever wanted and pretend to share your dreams with you simply because she wants the marriage to be so that the real her will come out

All the whole time she pays you visits, she did all she does with pretense to keep you glued with her

Now whatever you see in her life is her real character

You showed her love and care and she is taking you for a fool

This time around you have to change towards her else she will make you a slave boss

Stop giving her money as you use to do because she is too lazy to labour so she won't know what it takes to struggle

For the time being, you can take her to her parents to stay with them for a while as you have to do so without her permission or knowing

Her parents will call you to renegotiate on the way forward

I hate women who can't help themselves neither their husband in the family front

Amazinggirl95:
nice one tnxs...is it normal for a man not to give his wife upkeep? Cos I remember when I was little my father gave my mother her upkeep money and she contributed nothing in the house ,same with my married sister,if you marry a man that don't know how to take care of a woman, na suffer...a caring and loving husband is what i wish myself and every woman out there,you will be happy and at peace and you will be able to give your husband peace

Some men for obvious reasons refuse to be responsible

It's a problem he has to deal with abs accept anything that comes out that way

When a man can't take the responsibilities of providing for the family and the wife took it upon herself, if you are God, who will you bless, of course the woman, then in such situations the man becomes uncomfortable with her success

Though only stupid men reasons so

truthsayer009:
If poverty is what the wife wants and they are poor, isn't this a win-win for both of them?

She is happy and he is happy, a happy family.

I never knew that poverty makes one happy

MrJavaS:
I don't really understand how females think but since she considers me as just a friend why would she be offended that I'm with her friend.

The friend is much prettier and classier than her

Am sure you don't like rivalry

That's what she doesn't want too

So if you can do anything on secrets best for both of you

MrJavaS:
Guys hear my matter patiently

I was very close to a course mate of mine since 100 level (we are now in 400 level). I used to be interested in her romantically but she wasn't reciprocating so I gave up. She said herself that she considers me as just a friend. Then one day she posted the picture of her friend (in a different department). I saw the picture and said the girl is beautiful. She then said that if I like the girl she can give me her contact.

I said it's a bit inappropriate but she still gave me the contact (but said I shouldn't mention her name). I went ahead to chat the girl up but she ended up blocking me on WhatsApp.

I went ahead and further tried to convince the girl that I'm not a threat to her on telegram. That I'm a close acquaintance of a friend of hers. She went on ranting that her friend shouldn't have given me her contact without her consent. I told her to please not be angry with her friend.

Later I explained all that happened to my coursemate (who gave me her contact) and since that time she has been cold towards me.
I told her I'm very sorry for my actions but she insisted it's time we part ways.

What should I do?

Please don't mention that I should focus on my books. I'm very serious academically and I've maintained a high CGPA for 4 years. But still life is not all about academics.

She giving you her contact was to try you and you fell into it

She has assumed you betrayed her

Give her time to come over it and when she is done, simply maintain your platonic relationship with her

No one knows tomorrow

DSS1335:
Hello dear Nairalanders!

I seriously need your input on this issue at hand.
I converted a garage where my late father was buried to a well designed self contained apartment.

The project is about 95% complete and I am unable to proceeds further which is the tiling of the veranda and painting due to paucity of fund. So I put it up for rent 2 months ago. A lot of people have been coming and they all showed interest in paying the money to enable me complete the job. Some ask for my account number to pay but all of sudden, they change their mind and never came back. The agents are equally tired as they can't really understand why the change of mind.

So my Late Dad's younger bro came to me after family meeting saying that I have desecrated the resting place of my Dad, that his spirit is very angry that is why I can never ever rent that apartment out. I should just cancel whatever intent I might have had and bear the lost and move on. Its either I stay in there or my younger sibling occupy the apartment, alternatively he and his family can stay in there as their won't be any problem.

I am the eldest among 5 siblings, my Dad died same month I completed my NYSC 11yrs ago. I have been leaving in a rented 1bedroom flat with my wife since 2013 after marriage, this money paid as rent is enough for me to execute tangible building on the vacant plot of land I bought in the city. After the birth of my 2nd child, I decided its time to return home as the head of Dad's family. As I have been acting in that capacity from town. Prior to my return, I have expanded, renovated almost all properties owned by my late father and rented out. I thought it wise to remodel the garage where he was buried in so as to shore up the total assets in the estate rather than space being empty and useless. I have expended all I had on this project and now seriously broke. Our estate is located in a very good serene and developed area, standard self-contained apartment here is N200k, 1bedroom flat is N350k. None of the properties has at anytime being unoccupied beyond 1week after the previous occupant vacate.

Now the solutions to this challenge according to my uncle is that I must appease to my late Dad's spirit for forgiveness and I must kill a goat and provide hot drink through which it will be done before anybody could accept to rent the apartment if not all the money expended on the project is a waste. Every others persons corroborated with his idea except I. I don't really believed in those superstitious tales that there is a spirit that survive after a person dies. My younger brother even came to me to tell me that my Dad appeared to him in dream, he was very sad and angry that I desecrated his resting place at the time I commenced the project by excavating the the top floor during the laying of bricks. He advise I should listen to my Uncle if not I will never be able to rent out the house.

My late Dad was a member of Jehovah's witnesses so also his children but after his death they no longer attend meeting but I personally maintain a strong link, that is why I am unperturbe about all these things because Satan's tactics are not unknown. Why he was alive, I know he does not believe in anything about the spirit of a dead person neither does partake in anything requiring any sort of sacrifices because of his faith in the bible truth.

So let me know what you guys think

CharlyG1 pls your attention is needed here sir

I think you did wrong renovating a garage where he is supposed to be resting and also putting it up for rentage

You shouldn't have done that and must put a stop to it to avoid any future effects

But if you say it doesn't matter, then expect more problems

farous:
Please is it possible there are some married women that will be happy or prefer that things are not going on well with the husband since they got married,that the man being in poverty circle and struggling and stressfully to fend the family than being rich.

If such type of women exist,please what can be the cause.

You have to open up and explain exactly what made you have this kind of mindset

Your question is quiet unhealthy

If your wife is happy for you to remain poor

Find out what wrong you did to her in the past

JOSCO7720:
Good evening to all my wonderful people. Pls, i want someone who can help me out with how to go about it. My wife went to Abuja since on the 6th over a government appointment but all of a sudden changed immediately when she got to Abuja. However, She raised an issue over my past mistake to file for divorce which her parents really supported. I hv done my best to bring peace with my families but all my plea proved abbortive even up till now ; as in i'm being depressed now�. I"m dying but i want help in this regard; before she left me, she normally used my phone to log in on facebook but the password was not saved but showing notificatns when i do try to log in which i knew she was communicating with some men but really wanna kn what she is up to via her inbox. Can someone with internet wizardry help me to get access to her facebook account without hacking account? Pls, mind u, im staying in lagos. Thanks

It's seems you are after her secrets chats rather than how to reconcile your with her

I will advise you stop monitoring her activities and find a way to reunite with her

I want to believe that it didn't go well with you people and she has to move on with her life

If she is gone for good, simply leave her to go

When next you marry focus on your woman and marriage not suspecting her

jmoore:
He is my stepbrother. The first child.

My father disowned him.

I am talking about someone that keeps saying it openly that our father will die. No reasonable father will stay in same compound with such a son.

He made attempts to drag properties while my father was alive.

My father died recently. And the burial plans are ongoing.

My stepbrother obviously scared could not enter our compound to say what he wanted. He was led by two village members to come and deliver his message.

He complained that he is the first son and therefore has the right to be informed about our father's death.

He also said the burial will not hold without his consent.

This is someone that wants my father dead, so why should we inform him?

My father had stroke in 2019 and he didn't care to come and make peace.


I am not afraid of him because I can definitely handle him physically.

I want to explore legal way of stopping him and probably one of my wicked uncle who is supporting him from anything concerning the burial.

If the kins men can't handle him. Make arrangements for the military presence on that day, I didn't say police ohhh

Use the military, go to the nearest army cantonment and make enquiries, you will be directed to the appropriate authority and the cost to pay

They will give you army and there presence with put sanity on that day

This is what you have to do in secret

They will arrive a night before burial and go the day of burial or the next day depending on your timing with them

But make sure you feed them very well

Do this secretly

londonbanks:
It's not just the fact that she forgot, it's that she's not invested in what we have. I've taken her out on a couple of dates where the majority of the time she was on her phone and not being receptive to my feelings even though I asked her politely to put it away.

Whenever she wants something from me she uses words like "baby" but soons as I send her money it's crickets from then on. Anytime I text her during the day to see how her day is she doesnt reply back and even when she does its "good" or "okay", quick short answers and doesnt reciprocate by asking about mines.

The birthday was the last straw because I had texted her few days ago and she completely ignored me until the day after apologising but only because hers is coming up in a few weeks and probably doesnt want to burn that bridge. She'll forget my birthday but will post on her stories constantly about other people wishing them theirs. It's clear at this point that she's been using me for money and doesn't care about me. Its always the ones you least expect.

Anyways I appreciate anyone who took the time to read this, your input will be greatly appreciated.

It's obvious she is a schemer, you may end up becoming her meal ticket

LifeOfTrigga:
e wife and her family dey nairaland na why e come here dey beg

You are funny

Amazinggirl95:
My married friend is in need of an advise, I trust I can get one from here,matured folks pls advise.

The tales goes like this
My friend married with pregnancy, u know all this pregnancy marriage with belle,they have been married for 5 year with a girl child expecting another one,her happiness level in the marriage in a scale of 100% for the past 5 years,she has been happy only 10%,her husband don't give her monthly allowance,he send her money when she wants to buy anything like foods stuff ,children school fees ,house rent,she cant boast of a wrapper for herself as a married woman,as at last year his total earning a month was 450k mwhere he is working though they cut down the salary to 150k,pending when things kick in d company,,she doesn't know how much he has
he is not open with that info,the man's family doesn't like her and anytime he goes to the family house and come back ,his attitude changes towards her, money for herself no way,their communication level is zero ,this his character towards her has made him unattractive to her,like when he wants to make love to her she detest it,most of the time he doesn't talk to her in the house,when she tries to raise discussion he doesn't answer her,he comes back late at night,and does not discuss his future plans or plan of the family with her,he once called her a prostitute in public one evening in a bar around their place when she went to call him home(his family members doesn't come to his house,she suspecting he says bad things about her to people cos he's this person that paints himself good outside while inside is nothing to write home about,she a graduate no work, she is learning fashion designing with the hope to set up a tailoring shop,though her mother gave her some money to set up herself ,she pregnant for the second child but she don't know if she should shift from this man for her sanity sake or remain ,or report him but to whom?pls help ,what should she do?

She doesn't need to report her man to any family member

She seems not to be contributing nothing at home and that alone can make the man to see her as a burden

If she is bold enough, let her travel home to her husband family to find out what she did wrong that made them not to love her

Besides, the family never wanted their son to marry her but she smartly took inn and feels they have to accept it that way, they too feels they can't relate with her

Alternatively, she can talk to the husband and find out what she does that is making her unhappy in her marriage

Lastly, find out if she us being stubborn, you can't be contributing and you are proving stubborn to your husband, he will have his ways outside his home

godsplan123:
I am doing everything possible to save my son now even if I have to sell my kidney am losing him please don't let me down brothers.

Why not give that child to any of your relatives to live with and put him in public school

Does it mean that even your wife and her family are not helping out

Dirkcoyt:
thank God we have brighter women in the society than weak minded people like you.

The future is female can’t be achieved if people like you champion it

Which of the content you read made me weak, or were you reading with a weak mindset.?

spider112:
To cut a long story short, I bought the land at Ifo, Ogun State. I have the family receipt, and the deed of assignment. After hustling to build the structure, it now remains roofing and finishing.

However, I heard today from the family representative that a son of the land seller wants to demolish it to build a church. I'm also a christian, but this is quite surprising.

Once again, I only have the land receipt and deed of assignment. Also, I have spent over 2million naira on the structure.

What should I do to be on the safer side?

Calm down, go to them, talk politely with them, worst case, they will ask you to add money to the present land so that he can go else where to get another land that's if the entire family will be foolish to allow him have his way that's if its not a family trick

It's cheaper for you that way than to relocate you deeper inside to start afresh with another cost of building

Just settle with them amicably and if you are paying back to them to save your land, py in beats while you continue your project

Xilsbridalhouse:
I’m in so much tears right now!!!! Look at me just trying to do my business, and I just got scammed! Oh God tried to stop me but I wasn’t conscious enough!

It started with my card being declined and I reached out to Zenith bank on Twitter. I was told you add up a number on WhatsApp to chat with their customer care. I did and everything looked professional, honestly I had no idea that I was about to be scammed!

The scammer asked for my card details which I told him no, but he assured me that he is not a scammer. I sent it, but the card still didn’t work so I transferred my money to my dad’s account hoping to use his card, but the customer care kept disturbing me that they want to help me resolve it. I had to beg my dad to transfer back but he kept forgetting to transfer back and I was pissed!!!! I kept calling for hours till he finally did tonight and the customer care wiped off my account after I sent the OTP codes to him foolishly, thinking I was chatting with their staff!

After my account got wiped off, it was then I realized the mention on my Twitter was from a dorm account on Twitter!

I am in so much pains guys!

Scammers why did you do this to us?

Tell me, if something bad befalls your family will you be happy

I take all the blame...I have always been a security conscious person, but today .....


Please learn from my mistake.


I’m in so much tears right now.

Pls take heart, it was a lesson learnt in a hard way

God will provide more for you

Obaseki500:
I have never been this confused in my entire life...

I have a girlfriend that we have been dating for 6 years now... We are not married because I was not stable financially but now things seems to be much better and next year should be the year....I reside in Ibadan so she came in last year after her education to get a job, she's a nurse and we were staying together up till now.

Sex has never been an issue between us up until December last year. We sleep on the same bed and we live in the same house but we have not had sex since December 2020 till date. She's right beside me as I type this message. Each time I go close to her, she tells me I am not entitled to sex because I have not paid her bride price. I just could not understand the sudden change in her attitude towards sex when wedding is next year.

She also locks her phone and even WhatsApp. Now, I am beginning to have doubt about marrying her.

Your first step is to ask her to get her own accommodation

If she ask you why, let her know that since you guys can't have sex till wedding, you want her to stay on her own and that doesn't mean that you are not dating but it's best for you guys to live separately and start living together after wedding

If she is wise, she will understand it

Naijaepic:
This opinion does not apply to professional chef, bros

You are free to give him the best advice not reacting on mine

Op understands what I mean

Nodeydopass:
Good evening nlders, I need your input on this situation I'm in and I'll appreciate if you can help with your honest opinion.

There's this girl In my street that I like and will want her to be my girlfriend. I met with her about a month ago and I told her I wanted to see her and discuss properly with her and since then, I've been trying to get to know her on WhatsApp (she gave me her contact) but this girl is very boring on WhatsApp. I literally had to bring up ways to make the conversation going but it always end with some awkward silence as she usually reply with short answer or even abbreviation.

So I decided to have a proper date with her and I scheduled a day and time. I picked her up at her place and we went out on a "date". Throughout the date, it was me just bringing things up and she was also making attempt to flow along and the conversation was going smoothly, tho I was the one bringing up topics et al. The date was cool, interesting and even whenever she had to do something outside that we had to go together, she held my arm all through and the physical contact was unhindered.

Then we came back from date and she asked for my picture and I told her I don't have any but I'll take one the following day but she said I shouldn't bother. However, since that day we went out, she hasn't even called me or even message me on Whatsapp even though she's online.

Tho I like this girl but I believe the feeling and the communication should be mutual and shouldn't be always me chatting her up all the time, so I let her be. I'm really thinking about her but I don't want to contact her. I feel she has to make an effort too. or am I being too unreasonable?

Some people are boring while some are lively

She may not be boring but at the same time not an extrovert as you are

If you think you can cope then the ball is in ur court

HappyCanadian:
Hey guys,

I met this Canadian girl online we started talking, all was casual till we vibed well and she developed massive love for me. Each day she confesses how she liked me, think about me and all that. The thing is that she is taking it too far thinking we are dating or maybe I will marry her but I never asked her out we have just been friends.

The girl respects me, does anything I asked her and even promised to assist bring any member of my family to Canada don't know if she is serious though.

But the thing is that I have my own spec when it comes to girls and don't intend marrying her..

Please how do I leave her without her getting hurt, as it seems am trapped

Note: I never asked her out.. attached is a message she just sent now and I laughed..

Make it known to her that, you like her and don't intend to go into love affairs with her

Meaning, don't demand from her and don't expect any favors from her

A food you will not eat, do t taste it

RedSquid:
Let's begin here lawyer. Why not?

Who told you am a lawyer, am sure you must have been monitoring my responses, you try

RedSquid:
Halleluyah

Why Halleluya.?

Kelvin3476:
WE ALL KNOW HOW MOTHERS ARE PRAISED THE MOST IN EVERY FAMILY.
EVEN ON TRADITIONAL /WHITE WEDDING MOTHERS RECIEVES SOO MANY GIFTS FROM THE GROOM FAMILY.
WHEN THEY PARENTS OF THE BRIDE ARE WELCOMED IN THE WEDDING RECEPTION ITS MOSTLY THE MOTHERS, AND EVEN WHEN THE FATHER IS COMING ALONG WITH HER THEY PLAY " NNEM NNEM OH, EZIGBO NNEM OH... " MEANING "MY GOOD MOTHER MY GOOD MOTHER, OH MY GOOD MOTHER. .." EVEN WHEN THE FATHER IS THERE.
EVEN CHILDREN BUY MORE GIFTS FOR THEIR MOTHERS TO THEIR FATHERS.



WHY ARE FATHERS MUCH CHEATED, BUT SHOULDER MUST OF THEIR KIDS PROBLEM UNTIL THEY ARE STABLE IN LIFE?

The magic is that nine months course every woman goes through to become a mother

It's had no substitute

ambient:
Pls,have they found the importance of junior waec because after taking junior waec I have not use that result and it keeps making me angry because I knew how many bags of water I sold just to take that exam.my problem now is that my housecleaner met me to help her with close to 20k to register her child for this exam.i told her that it is useless and won't stop her child from entering senior class,she was sad but I insisted that the money would be useful in feeding other kids she have(5).

Pls is junior waec now compulsory because it wasn't for me, should I give her then turn a blind eye when she comes for other wahala...lol... opinion pls.

It's a useless certificate yet must be taken

Pls give her so that she will be able to register for her son

Let's start with the northerners

IamBroke:
Okay there's this lady I met at a friend's place. She's free spirited and kind of nasty.

She's married with 3 kids but she's not living with her husband, reasons I don't know.

I believe she'd be 5 years if not more older than me but yet she calls me like I'm with her kidney...
I can't even believe the kind of stuff we do though we've not had sex but she's pushing me that way but that's one thing I don't want to do cause she's married and I'm feeling guilty.

I don't want to hurt her and I don't want to continue this stuff with her and I don't want to avoid her either.

So what do I do now?

Advise me on what to do please

If you can resist the temptation, keep interracting with her

As it is now, she may be separated from her husband and needs a companion

HooJoon:
Makes no sense! It's completely immature

Honestly

Oluolad86:
I need who will help me with this pericarditis, my legs are swollen please

What is pericarditis

Draslo:
I'm not going to bore you with an epistle.

We dated between 2016-17. We had a mutual break-up cause I went to Ghana for a bit (5 months. I needed a change of scenery). We spoke and chatted at intervals before we both ghosted each other. I heard she got married to a big shot Abuja guy in 2019.

Fast forward to Saturday evening this past weekend, I got a message on Instagram from her. Long story short, she opened a beauty spa in Abuja in December. She wants me to help her manage it. She knows I have my commitments in Lagos but wants to take advantage of the fact that I visit Abuja once or twice a month. She proposes that I can come only on weekends since my weekdays are almost fully engaged, ensure her books are balanced and she'll pay for my return flight every Friday. I asked if her husband is aware of who I am. She stuttered and I just knew he doesn't. She will pay well but it's not about the money. It's more like granting a favour but I feel she's got an ulterior motive somewhere. And me, I have a soft spot for her and my flesh is very, very weak.

Do you think I'm right? Or maybe I'm just being paranoid?

Modified.
I'm sorry to say but many of you reason like kids. I have no intention of sleeping with her. I'm principled never to sleep with any of my exes. Do you have any idea how many women are on this planet? What is wrong with the lot of you? I just find it hard to turn her down because she's such a good person.

My advice is if you can be discipline with your dealings with her on her job offer, then go with her

She needed some one she can trust and that person is you