omodaamola: Dear Nairalanders! What's your take on this?
Dropping empty offering envelops in Church, is it bad? I can say that, it is not a crime that you go to a place of worship on Sunday (Church) without offerings (money you drop in offering baskets).
Modern Churches now use branded envelops to take their offerings, once they give you, you must drop it....It is even written on it 'Do not take it home'. Some churches even go as far as giving more than one envelops (regular service, not on a Thanksgiving Sunday).
Nairalanders, if you worship in a Church that you dance forward to drop these offering envelops, and you are probably on a budget to give once or you don't even have at all. What would you do? Drop an empty envelop? Is this bad?
It best you don't stand up to go for empty offering
It's left for you and your God why you can't reserve what you will give for offering during the weekend spending
sapphiere: Passers-by reportedly seize rifle from drunk policeman identified as Garba Salisu today, at CBN Junction, close to Abuja Police command Headquarters.
Hannania: Good day fellows, i know this damsel since we were little, i admired her since then. When i was 10, they moved from us and I've not seen her for over 13yrs until last year.
When we met again, the feeling of affection grew even bigger. This lady posses every meek trait i like in a woman. High IQ, crypt understanding, lovely and most of all purpose driven.
We've just started dating two months back, but lately, I've realised that at this stage of my life, it's a building process with no room for "love". Thanks to God, everything is working in my favour, but i have to let her go to finish my building process.
The question is, how do i break up with her ? I've made up my mind to do so either way, but i'll love to hear a soft landing.
Cc: RoyalRoy
Please advocate this to front page Thank you
You wouldn't have just started an affair you longed for and just 2 months you want to break up
Anyway, she is not holding you down
Just let her know that you want to stay away from relationships
But bear in mind if you pull out and hook up with another lady, then you are not telling yourself the truth
MondayUche: Amen even God self has abandoned me to suffer. Cos only the prayers I and my daughter fires every morning and night alone, at least for the sake of this littke kids he should just forgive and open ways for me.
God is planning big for you and your family, give him time
MondayUche: My mother is an aged sick woman in the village even struggling to hold herself. My younger brother is there with her. I'm just tired of this life already. Thanks any way. I'm just getting almost the same reply from everyone and I still give the same reply in my previous posts. Na person whey wear shoes know where dey pain am
MondayUche: Good morning to you... I am a single father of 2 little kids 2 and 4yrs old. My wife left us on the 5th of Sep this year 2020. Things have been so hard for me no work nothing is moving not at all. I have cried and done so many things even helping some car dealers here in NL to repost and resell their cars so that I will be giving any amount once sold. I have been struggling so very hard to survive and take care of my family. But nothing nothing is working out to date. My wife decided to listen to her friend's advice and left since till now. Since then the load became so heavy and worse on me. My kids are not going to school even the lesson they used to go which is 14k per month for their both I couldn't afford that now I'm always at home with them. I can't even go out to hustle now I do back my son while loading blocks in a truck at a block industry here and the pay is very very low that I will work all day and go home with just money for indomie for the kids. So I have been crying for an assistant from NL family to assist me I want to start up an indomie cooking business here it was a brother who told me about it and since then I don go make all the information and with this, I swear down my kids no go hungry and suffer again. At least before January by God's grace, I will be able to save enough to put them in school or even a lesson. Please if you can check all my other posts I have been crying for a long I know what I am facing at times kids' sickness, all they need, etc which I can't even afford to take care of.
I understand you at this point but pls believe God
You can send your children to your parents wherever they are and put them in public school so that you can sort yourself out it's more difficult as a single father to handle children and not so difficult for single mothers but they have the ability to manipulate things because they are mothers
Sleepaway: Why don't they listen when a relation or someone in their close circle tells them their kids are spoilt. But once an outsider says it, they tend to take it more seriously.
What's the reason? Is it lack of trust or just a normal thing?
Because of mother's live for their children, biological, it's difficult for them to see the wrong in thir children and still accept it from the public view
If you want to tell a mother about her spoilt child, do that in private but I'd you do it in the public she will react
When you do that in private you have clip her wings to react any how
MondayUche: So many promises and failures, disappointments in all my life... I am just tired of this life already I have cried and cried and cried but nobody really wants to understand and listen to me. Thou I get more harsh comments that are even adding more to my depression. One thing some people don't understand is that the table can turn at any moment. No one prays to be down all we need is Grace and Favour to stand fit. Please NL family listen to my cry please I beg you all client the link to read the post Pls https://www.nairaland.com/6270963/please
We met in 2005 while i was in secondary school and he was working in a bakery then, we started dating and i saw him as a man with vision because of his leniency and a very bright man. In year 2007, he got admission to pre degree in the university , i was at home ans i later got admitted into polytechinic for ND program in 2009. i came back from poly in 2011 and started looking for IT placement while waiting for for It placement i lost both of my parent and became an orphan. a month after my parent death i was able to get placement in a bank and that how i started the IT, after one year i was to go back to school for HND / Direct entry, luclily i applied for the two and got admitted but i consider who will finance it since i have no parent and my siblings are not capable of sponsoring me, i dont want to be a burden on anyone even if i am to start the programme with the little saving i have while doing IT but it wont be sufficient to see me through. so i took a tellering job in a bank and thats how i left our house and rented an apartment very close to my office then. I started living alone and he almost done with his study in the university too about going for NYSC, anytime he is in town he always stay in my place, then i was transfered to another branch of the bank which made me move to another place that is more comfortable and he always joined me. He proposed we take the relationship to the next level and ask if we could start our life in this small apartment and i agreed since i know he was a serving corp member and things will get better. thats how we started life in 2015, had our introduction in my brothers house in 2016 and got married in 2017. He served in Lagos and he tried to secure job in lagos but he was able to get a menial job which he is not comfortable with, until sept 2018 that he got a job with a telecoms in lagos. meanwhile, i couldnt concieve on time not for about 2 years after the wedding but later concieved and gave birth to a baby boy in june 2019. when he got the telecoms job he felt a little relief and comfortable staying in lagos and stop coming to ibadan to see me like he always did before. he several complains and he said i need to move to lagos.
I tried to persuade him to be patient with me and allow me to finish a degree programme i put in for in UI at least to get the certificate and start a better life if i get to lagos. he wouldnt listen, his attitude changed towards me in the house whenever he is around and i became cold too.
One faithful day, i was sick at work and went to the hospital and i was given injection and they told me to come the following day for the remaining injection and on getting home that night i met him in the house, i wouldnt know if he is coming around or not because he has stopped talking to me at all not even on phone and i dare not call him, he wouldnt pick up. so, i met him in the house and the following morning i left to working after preparing my baby food and little sister staying with me tp take care of my baby during the pandemic period. getting to work i took permission to go and get the remaining injection at the hospital and get some rest at home, on getting home i met his two brothers in our compound and i entered but he has locked the bedroom , he ran out and i ran after him to give me the key to my room to get some rest . he told me i cant access the room, i forced myself into the room andi discovered he has started parking stuffs , he has removed the matrimonial bed, unpacked the all the clothes wardrobe, i was surprise as i dont have the idea of what is about happen. I called his father, i called my brother and my big sister too too and they said they are on their way to our house, he came in and heard i was talking to the father,his father called that he is not coming again that we should both should come and meet him in his house. i called my brother back that my father in law commanded me to meet in his house and my brother said he will join me there he left the house before me with his brother but i was surprise i got to his father house before him, he later met me discussing with the father and later my brother and big sister joined us . his father insisted i must move to lagos with him now or nothing and i made them understand i have to seek permission and get approval in my work place before i move. as we are discussing my husband stood up and said he is going that all stuff in the house has already been moved to lagos as he was speaking. he left and we started calling him but he will not picked , my brother sent him atext to return stuff that belongs to me as he cannnot forcefull take me to lagos but he didnt answered, i went to police to report and we were advised to arrest his brother that helped him pack the load while none of us is present there. The police arrested the brother and the DPO said they shouldnot release him until he brings my stuff back to ibadan as i dont know his new address in lagos, he brought at the third day and thats when the brother was released, alot of mu stuff got missing and he refuse to bring some back from lagos as i was advised to let go some stuff. since then he stopped communicating and the next thing i get is a petition from his lawyer and he is seeking for divorce.
Your Kind advise will go a long way. Thank you
My dear, divorce is not a death sentence
Grant him the divorce and be free from trauma life is too short for anyone to determine your happiness
Forget about what people will say, some one must be used for a story to be told
Leave him with his conscience and move on with your life
He will get his reward in a bigger way
Just tell the lawyer to go ahead but you have to keep the custody of the child
That you are an orphan doesn't mean your God is sleeping
H0711: I was staying in d village wiv my parents and younger broda, my first broda is married with kids and my elder sister is also married with kids so it was only four of us at home. I was working in a saloon I am a hairdresser , make up artist and was saving money to go back to school because my parents couldn’t afford to pay my fees . I was so happy in d village then 3 years ago my broda lost his wife in Abuja a month after giving birth to d 3rd child , after d burial d children came to stay in d village wiv us , my mum and I use to take care of them , they started school and my broda use to send feeding money every month and he paid all school fees for the whole year then d following yr Xmas he said he want the children to go back to Abuja because he is not happy wiv d school system in d village but that wasn’t true because d school which they had attended it is one of the best private school in our village , my parents agreed to let them go but I was angry when my mum say I should go wiv them to take care of them ., I refuse because my broda is very stingy person he is making money but his own parents have never benefited from him, my mum is selling food in the market people in d village mocked her that she have a rich son but she is still living in poverty just because my broda doesn’t care about us. I told her I wasn’t going anywhere because I will suffer there but my mum begged me for d sake of children and she said my broda promised to send me to school in Abuja I told her it was a lie but she insists he will do it which I agreed but I wasn’t happy only did it for my mum because I love her a lot . D day I left d village I cried like never before because I knew I will suffer in my broda house and it has been 1 years 10 months in Abuja and my life is worse than hell. My bro doesn’t care about me , for 2 years I haven’t bought any new clothes still wearing my old clothes I came with , he doesn’t give me any money for my toiletries, he doesn’t want me to work , all I do is to take care of d children , cook , drop and pick kids to school , clean d house nothing else . My cream has finished since June and i have been using johnson baby lotion d cream d children use and I have been having rashes and acne because d cream doesn’t agree with my skin and have asked him for numerous times for d money but he keep telling me he doesn’t and want me to wait till he get d money and I ave been hearing d same song over and over. He doesn’t drop any money to me he gives d money to his secretary she is buys whatever we needs in d house and I think they are sleeping together too because she is d one managing d housekeeping and I don’t get a kobo , I am like a maid here I am suffering a lot .Anytime I complains about him to my mum she keep telling me to pray and endure I feel like she doesn’t care about me and want me to still suffering for d sake of d kids but I am tired and have stop complaining to her. I reported him to his best friends and business partner he promised to talk to my brother and he gave me 20k to buy my stuffs and promised to give me more but he has started talking dirty to me and asking to sleep wiv me and I warned him to never talk dirty to me again or else I will report to his wife so he blocked me , I am tired of everything in this house and we are travelling to d village this December I am planning not to return back to Abuja if my parents forced me , I will drink sniper and end everything , I rather go back to the village and continue with my job and helping my parents than wasting my time here for nothing , I asked him to buy me a good camera so I can start YouTube channel with make up tutorials but he refused , I have already opened d YouTube account but I don’t have any videos yet because I don’t have a good camera. Please advise me what should you do if you were in my shoes please I am waiting for your advice
My dear sister, you are just being used by the entire family to build your little cousins and your own career is in hold till only God knows when
As you are preparing for Christmas, make sure you pack all your belongings and play along you don't need to explain anything when you get home
Once it's time for them to come back to Abuja, seat your family down and let them know that time is going and you ha e not achieved any for the past two years
That you will like to stay behind to sort yourself out
You don't need to present it harshly or in an embarrassing manner, just simple polite manners
And once you say that stand on your feet and don't move your ground
If your mother wants to go with them, she is very free to do so
You have to plan for yourself and your life because you are not a priority to your brother
Worst case he won't send money to you that alone will prepare you to struggle and face your life
butterfly55: Please, I need your positive comments. I'm the only son of my parents after six girls. My mother pampers me a lot and guard me like mother hen. She always want me to be near her. She always want to control my life, choose what I should do and what I shouldn't do. What I should wear and I what I shouldn't wear. Anytime I disagree with her intensely over her control of my life. She will cry and guilt talk me into accepting her own ways by telling me that they looked for a male child for a long time and later God bless her by giving me to her after many years. She will remind me how her husband parents looked at her like she had failed before God bless her with me. All my elder sisters always support her controlling of my life. My dad supports her too. All the school I went to, she make sure that it was close to her, from primary school to university. After my first degree, I move to another state to pursue a second degree in law. She supported the idea because the university which is in Calabar is near to the state where my family stays. They stay in Uyo. Now I'm in year three and since the lockdown, I have began to learn things like barbing and driving which will not be possible if I'm still near her as she believed that she and my dad will find a job for me at Uyo when I finished my schooling. To cut the long story short, she don't want me to do anything apart from schooling and after that I have to come back to Uyo to work. But I have different perspective, I want to establish my own businesses like barbing and fishery. Currently I'm learning barbing but she has began to nag me about when I'm coming back to Uyo for Christmas since school will not resume this year again. She said my sisters and my dad are also worried that I should come home and be with them. Please how do I convince her that I have become a man, that I have ideas I want to develop? How do I convince her that I will not be home for Christmas without causing any family quarrels? Please advice me, help a brother out. Thank you.
For everything you are doing with your family, you must consider them especially your mother if not, she will develop heart break and you will be the one to suffer it more because you put her through such
She sees you as her light and life, pls try and play along
You don't know how much she cherish you as her only son even more than her husband
You are the reason she is living happily
Don't be surprise at their protection on you
You owe her a duty to be calling her every day or alternate days
You have to for the time being be close to them and that doesn't mean they will be the one to decide or design your life
The same eyes she sees you the day you were born is the same eyes she will be seeing you
You can only have a little break once you get married and have children that will keep them busy
Mind you she will still influence your marriage along with your sisters so bear that in mind
You have to travel to see and be with her this Christmas if yih want her to be happy
Failing to do so, be prepared to blame yourself if she breaks down
If yih feel you want to pack out the you will have to present to her a woman you want to marry and lucky you if they accept her without rejection, then after marriage, you can now pack out
Pls like I said, play along with all of them for national peace at home and for you too
Give her grand children and she will have less time for you
If you must pack out, pack close to your neighborhood so that she can access you pls
Nazgul: Exactly...I'll tell him this...he should just impregnate her and ask her to move in. By the time she remembers marriage again she would be nursing about 3 kids...sense will not kill you.
Babara1994: I'll be turning 40 next tomorrow, but my fear is that I'm a lady and I have no husband at my age. I had a couple of failed relationships in the past (I must admit my greed and pride caused it).
I really want to know the age menopause sets in and what signs do I look out for, as I'm already consigned to child adoption later in life. I'm really scared. No insults please.
Since you were able to fault yourself for your failed relationship, that's a good way to recovery
Forget about menopause, let that not be your stress now
Focus on starting a relationship that you can manage or handle preferably, look for a widower if you can't get an old Batchelor
No marriage is sweeter all have more of bitter taste
There's this guy in my office (a colleague) he's been in love with a girl for quite some time now. In fact they were supposed to get married this yet but due to the covid 19 Lock down and how cash suddenly vanished from everyone's account, he and the girl in question decided to postpone the marriage till Easter period next year. (March/April)
The guy in question says he wants a low key wedding which is understandable, no thanks to the high inflation rate of food and other commodities, but this his babe wouldn't want to hear such.
He was just telling us now that his babe is saying her friends would be coming from PH (she schooled in uniport) and she intends to do something presentable. That one of her friends who wedded earlier in the year, her wedding was the talk of the Town. And she wants theirs to be just like that.
From what he was explaining, the girl in question is just interested in having an expensive wedding just to show off to her friends not minding what it would cause her supposed husband...very selfish of her if you ask me.
I just asked him to talk to her about it...cos I was very careful so I won't say anything that I would be blamed for later in the future.
Ladies should understand the current situation in the country, if you want an expensive wedding please show commitment by contributing to it. If you don't have the finance for it please manage the one your guy is working towards.
There's more to marriage than a one day wedding...the guy even told us that if she continues to insists he'll just call the whole thing off. I just calmed him down and advised him to talk to her about it.
What do you all think?
Am not against an expensive wedding so far she will be the one to sponsor it
If the guy can not let her know his budget then he will have a bigger problem setting his family
He can as well go and and start having kids until she is ready for wedding carnival
Blessynene: So I got two Job offers within one month, with a big and smaller organization but both salaries are the same.
I accepted both but started with the bigger organization, and in less than two weeks am almost breaking down from stress. The workloads and deadlines are unbearable though you will grow career wise.
Now the offer for the smaller organization is still open and am tempted to resign from this one because of the workload and take up the less stressful job.
Please I need urgent answers so I don't make any huge career mistake. Thank you my fellow nairalanders
If both salaries are the same, go for the other one that has less stress
Stress has contributed to somany health challenges in today's human life
OMOJOHN001: I feel pain in my heart down to my stomach whenever I swallow food or even once in a while without swallowing anything. Even ordinary water I feel little pains. its started about a week ago.
what could be the cause please?
It could be Ulcer, it could be BP
But I want to assume it's ulcer, try and take Gaviscon syrup to calm it done, it's about 2/3k by now and if that's too costly try and take omeprazole and Gascol or any antacide
Once the pains starts, take it for two consecutive days
As we grow, our body system reacts to every kind of food we eat due to the artificial seasoning and the rest of other spices we consume
durubennie: My Friends Sister Poured Hot Water On Him Due To A Misunderstanding (graphic)
My friends sister is following a married man, and the married man's wife knows about it, and she has threatened to pour hot acid on my friends sister.
My friend now had to talk to his sister about it, so it all boiled down to this. They had a strife and she poured hot water on him.
I do not know the kind of home training parents give their daughters today and this generation of girls are becoming promiscuous and wayward. This is so sad.
Thanks be to God that its at the back
She will definitely get what she wants from the man's wife, its just a matter of time
jaelz: So I decided to ask this question here because I have a lady that is overly demanding, I mean I tried pegging my monthly spending for her at 30,000 Naira per month including her hair, light, data and cable TV subscription plus one or two outings and hangouts. But I noticed she never seems satisfied with my little efforts as she demands unimaginable things from me like buying her iPhone 12 and etc. Guys pls how do you control spending on your women and how much do you spend on them monthly.
nonslike: Dear NL, Please these issues of paying wife salary after you have paid for most of the expenses for running the household etc . How much percentage of your salary should go to your wife as salary even after you have opened a business for her . Please women and men can give their opinions thanks
It's not about how much to pay to your wife
It's about combine planning with you and your wife
If you have a wife that is prudent, both of you can plan with what you have to achieve success at early stages of marriage and enjoy life at late stages
But if your wife is not economical, just plan ahead and let her know what you want to do and don't give her the room to spoil your financial plans due to her own selfish reasons
hashtagged: I have seen guys do very stupid things like sending all their money for their girlfriends, nightclubs and prostitutes when they can't even do the same for their mum's. Isn't your mom supposed to be the most important lady in your life, until you have a daughter? So guys do you really love your mom's as much as you think?
Guys loves their mum and that doesn't mean that they won't give their girlfriend what they trickishly demand from them of which their mum will never trick on them
But try to raise hands on their mum and you will see the beast in them
Binarytimes: My girlfriend is beautiful but she has lot of issues. First, she likes engaging in activities that she can not finance by herself and then drags me into it. One time, i was duped because a guy promised her big ambitions if she apply for his pagentry show which she did with my money even after i objected it, she had to cry to make me agree only to find out later that it was a scam.
Ever since we started dating, we have been eating out, she doesn't cook and she always like being right at all times ..
She complains about being tired when i asked her to do anything including washing my clothes, even sex. She would complain when we want to have sex and the funny thing is, sex is the only thing i see that she offers. She doesn't even sweep the house except on rare occasions. I wonder how a girl would be comfortable in a rough environment.
So, i was going out and told her to watch some of my sandals. One to be specific, since i wanted to match my outfit that morning, it was around after 11 and she was still sleeping, she refused washing them that she's tired. I had to do my things on my own, and while i was taking my bathe, i reflected on everything. We have been dating for like two months now and what the hell ?
I told her to take her dirty clothes out of house if she doesn't want to wash them, because i won't even dare wash anything for her. Then finally, i followed her to her place to take some of my clothes that i gave her a week before to wash which are still unwashed. She was even frowning like she was right and i did wrong.... Deep down, she thinks i would call her to come.
This is an official breakup because i have to put my life in order.
What your take on this ?
She is just a parasite Leave her to look for her own host
Christianity Etc › Re: Is It Bad To Drop An Empty Offering Envelope In Church? by frozen70(f): 12:45pm On Nov 29, 2020
