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Xxx123xxx:
.This is what an idiotic teenager will do, what is the point of this line of action?

Is only idiots like you that can detect one

virginprincess:
Babe this your advice no follow at all, don't forget this your advise can lead to domestic violence.

My dear, it takes madness to correct nonsense

If my advice can lead to domestic violence

The abuse the guy is giving her is worst than domestic violence because its killing her emotional state

Truthteller2020:
i read one thread on this section where the op claimed to have dated some guys she never loved.according to her she only like the guys.And she is a mother of one..So my people what's the difference between like and love? I want to be sure if it's like I like my girl,maye I have been decieving myself that I love her

Love touches the heart and have feelings
While like stops at the corridor of the heart and can't get to the heart because the heart only accomodates love

PUSSYHOE:
women want men to control themselves, stay faithful, masturbate than let konji control them. the question is how will the female gender survive when we have ratio 3:1 female to male in the world.


it is a fact women live off men, they are generally Lazy and if they eventually work it is for them not for the family. women money is theirs men's is the family's which women run.

Any thing that doesn't limits a woman's in life, gives her the wings to fly above the sky

tayeloveme4rel:
pls help a friend,brother,son,and also nairaland lastborn to quit his wierd behaviours and actions

All you need is self discipline

correctyourself:
Your advice is similar to petrol explosion, do a compression you would understand what I mean.

There is nothing to comprehend

Is the guy still learning etiquette

For how long will one be tolerating such nonsense all because of marriage proposal?

Danyyyyyyyyyyy:
So we've been together for some months , almost a year now and well my current financial state is making me have doubts about our relationship, he's also not stable according to him but a lot of times I doubt that even if he was he probably won't tell me , or he'll leave me to do it all, I don't demand anything from him he's not my dad, I loved him so I always try to act like a grown woman even when I need help, but after losing sooooo much money in a scam I'm so broke that I barely have money to eat , he knows this but he didn't do anything to help , that's how I've been living like I'm single , I do every thing for myself but it's not been easy, do you think its okay to let him go and focus on me? Because I really don't understand his role in my life anymore, or should I try to wait while working and see if he's different in the future

If there is love existing between both of you then keep watching him

If you know that you are not having any feelings

Just go your ways

He couldn't give you any financial help because am sure he doesn't have either

MarvelouzB:
I have been dating this guy for 2 years now and oh yes I really like him, we met during my NYSC through my cousin who is a friend of his, he do come visit me during my service year, he has a good job in Lagos and he is doing well on his own. Recently, he proposed to me and I accepted, we are making arrangements for him to come see my parents. But I noticed recently that he has a bit of temper which doesn't last and he insults me a lot at ease, I told him I don't like it, he apologised but he does it even when we are having a normal conversation, recently he insulted my parents on one of our conversations and I was devastated, I hold my parents in high esteem and I can't imagine myself with a guy who has no respect for me or my parents. He chatted me up but I am yet to reply, and I know he will apologise, should I accept his apology and continue with the wedding plans, I am scared for what the future holds if I finally get married to him. I need some opinions please

You know what, whenever he insults your parents, return it back multiple times by insulting his own parents

If he bashes you bash him back

Let's see how far this will go

Marriage proposal has never been a guarantee that your happiness is assured

soulstalker:
Good morning romancelanders, this is not right section, but i need more opinions about this thread.

December 27th will complete one year in which my dad was buried, and according to friends and family, i was told we should have a remembrance party in his memory.

I am the 7th born in the family, but the closest to my dad before his demise(none of the kids have access to his properties except me).

Now the families are tasking me big, i mean a whole 500k from me alone for the remembrance party(despite the fact they know my financial state, which i was scammed a huge sum of money months ago and i also just ventured into some business, and the registration for my 2yrs old son school by january). So my question is, why are they planning so much for the remembrance? Why did they bill me that much? Or are they possibly passing a message to me because of my dad's properties? But fact is me i don't have such amount of money on me talkless of contributing that amount? Pls ur sincere advise is needed..

Of all the children your late dad had, how come you are the only one in charge of his properties

Well I think they all mean to get at you this time

Have a close meeting with your siblings and find out why the hug amount, that's if you guys ate relating well

Anoymus:
I have a girlfriend I am meaning to propose to during the festive period, she's everything I want in a woman except few exception which might be a hindrance to the proposal.
Gist is, my babe is a graduate but lack of work made her to learn fashion designing, she's done with the training and she's very good with what she does.

After marriage, I have told her that I'll assist in her business, I'm planning to get a bigger shop space for her and equip it with modern day machines, tools and tailoring materials goods to help make her work lucrative. I'm budgeting about 1.2-1.5m for this.

The issue now is that, 3 days ago, I asked her what her role would be if eventually after marriage she gets the shop, equipments and all, where she would come in in terms of responsibilities in the house. Her reply was she doesn't want to assume any responsibility and that it's my duty to cater for the family and she can only help & I shouldn't make anything compulsory for her. So many thoughts came through my mind. One of it was that, where the proceeds of her investment would be going to if I should shoulder all the responsibilities in the house knowing fully well that she makes money.

I rang my mum and told her of her response, I was shocked that she backed her saying that I shouldn't have asked her to foot anything in the house that it was my sole responsibility as a man to cater for my family my wife inclusive. My dad too, same thing. Even told my gf mum about it too , she giggled and said I shouldn't have asked her n that it's my duty to provide for my family. They all sounded foreign to me. Or am I the one not understanding?

My question now is, why invest that kind of money in her when I'm not sure of getting little or nothing in terms in return help to run the family. That sum of money could get me 4 brand new bikes and 2 neatly used Keke Napep for transportation business. I'm sure I'll be getting returns from these investment weekly or monthly basis.

I don't want who wouldn't have any sense of responsibility at home after investing in her, even if she's covering 10% or 5% I wouldn't mind. Mere helping doesn't go down well with me, she might have and decide not to give out. I rather not invest at all and expect nothing from her.

I don't know if I'm the one over thinking this things or my parent and her mum aren't seeing things from my perspective or am I being inconsiderate?

Criticism, Insults and bashing are welcomed. Thanks

Having read through your post

It's obvious that you are looking for where to invest and get a return or who to invest in and get weekly return to run your things

You were being forward asking her what her roles will be just because you are getting the equipments she needs but you have forgotten that the return on investment is not automatic

As a man, you have your responsibilities to do at home and that involves providing for your family

If you are lucky she makes her own contributions without being reminded then count yourself lucky

But when you are trying to be smart with that, trust women, they can detect anything from mere questions

So if you want your wife to carry your family, then be ready to be her puppet

CalliDora1:
Please i want to have an idea of how long after being online friends with someone is ok to meet in person.

I asked this cause some men like to rush things by asking to see you few weeks after getting aquainted online abd making it look like you're the one delaying or you're not serious. And I'm not one to be in hurry to meet in person as I want to be sure area is cool and calm on the persons part and also be double sure of what he really wants and if he's for real.

So, how long is one suppose to let it linger on for before finally giving it a shot?

This is very urgent and important. Please treat as such. Mature responses only.

Thanks.

The time frame to meet someone can't be calculated

Men especially wants to meet a lady they have not seen but been chatting with

The next thing after meet will surprise you

But be discipline with yourself, just be guided

Chinyerelove:
I know there are dozens but not sure which ones are good because we want him to go to a safer place , not a place where he will be neglected. Thanks I will google it

You can't seat at home and conclude that one motherless home will neglect a child non of your family members are willing to keep

Mind you, is either you give up the child for adoption or you register the child with the motherless home and pay monthly up keep

Last option, take that child to your mum

Kriss216:
At 17, your sister don dey open legs

Is rape the same thing as free sex ?

Always understand what you read

Wyry:
Nigerian girls are useless.

Really and you keep going to them to make your miseries worst

danilmo:
how can u b advising him to follow his heart ??
his heart is on tasting another pussy . he has already done that before with guilty conscience but looking for who ll validate it officially with reasonable (stupid) excuse..

forget his story, I'm a man, wen we want to to d irresponsible act we know how to cook up one stupid story excuse..

if she want to initiate his wife to other sex it's not by force and not a one day thing, from d old mission style , from there to legging up, to standing up nacking before u know it they become a sex stylist for thereselves..

I dont have any advise for op since his mind is corrupt already d day he tasted that side chick, he ll still go for 2nd round, just a sex demand call from that chick is a done deal..wetin u wan tell him again..

Lol. Men Sha. lol

If you understand his plans, you will agree with me that he is hell bent on cheating on his wife with that other lady

So he only came to inform us that he can't resist her and even the guilt he felt was just temporary and he is following the detate of his dick not his head

That's why I said make sure you don't get another woman pregnant

Then I know his heart is made up, so let him follow his heart

Even if you advice him not to, he has tasted it before and wants to get more

Food wey person never eat no dey hungry the person

Verysmart101:
Look the mans condition wont remain d same again.All OP needs is to discuss with him on d way forward after d marriage,if he's to learn a basic skill fine,i bet you planning is all he needs.

So since you suggested that after marriage she should discuss with the man on what he can do

Meaning the lady should use her money and sponsor her marriage or you skip that part

No one says the man s condition will remain the same, did you read where she said he is making efforts but nothing is coming in

Well, marriage shouldn't be in the man's mind at the moment that's why he is not talking about marriage but the marriage issue is from the woman

Men should at least get something doing before going into marriage

There is dignity if the man is contributing to his marriage

If you are married to a ma and at a stage his income drops or he is not making any progress, that one is different from getting married to a man that can't afford even a bride price

EdoFirstBorn:
Well I don't think any man is intimidated by a successful woman

Why would he be?

There are such men
It's because of complex in the men

Ochason:
A friend needs your advise.
My wife and I are having issues for over six months now. We live in the same house but she does not sleep with me or barely speak with me. And that is because she found out my indiscretion in March. I have been married for four years now. We were both virgins when we married. So, she is my first and I hers. Along the line, I got tired of having s*x the missionary style and wanted to try new things to spice up our life.
That was when my wife shocked me and refused to try other s*x styles like doggy or oral s*x. I was very disappointed but I love my wife, so I did not bother her. She say doggy style is painful for her and oral is against her beliefs. But,as a man, I desire these kind of exciting ways of making love and I watch films and I really get aroused seeing other people do it. One day, I gave two ladies from my office lift after work. I noticed one of them was trying to be close to me…I used to give both of them lift.
Then, one day, only one of them waited for me cos she could not find transport. We closed late that day and on the way, we got talking and it was getting interesting. I asked her if she was in a relationship, she said she just broke up with her guy. She wanted to know why I asked her and I said nothing just curios. However, she went further to say that she likes me and she wish I was not married. I smiled but then she also went ahead and said she miss her s*x with her boyfriend. All these, I know she was telling me because she wanted me. I told her lets hangout. She agreed. I took her to a hotel, paid the bill. That night …it was wild. All the imaginations I had wanted with my wife..I had with her…she was wild and gave me all the styles. For the first time,I felt I made a mistake marrying my wife.
That was how my affair with this lady started…until my wife noticed I was not bothering her again for s*x. She checked my phone and saw messages between me and this lady. She went crazy but I told her she pushed me to it. That her refusing doggy or oral pushed me to cheat. This almost broke us up but after much counselling, we agreed to work things out. My wife agreed for the doggy but not oral. She maintained its still a sin. Even the doggy,she just make me loose interest cos she will be behaving uncomfortable…not enjoying it.
I decided not to bother her again. When she noticed I am quiet… she will start making trouble…saying I am selfish and all I want is s*x and I don’t care what she feels. I don’t know what is so strange about a man wanting doggy or oral from his wife.
This is one reason a lot of men cheat on their wives. Side chicks are ready to give what the married ones don’t want to give. I feel so bad but since the situation is not getting better, I been thinking maybe its time to end the marriage.

There’s nothing I have not tried. I gave her books to reach, videos to watch…even paid for an online coaching class for her to watch but she still maintain her stance. I really do not want to divorce…I cannot bear to see my children go through this but if you were in my shoes, what will you do?
This has drawn me and that lady close. I am getting tempted to continue the affair with her…I really do not wish to…but my wife is being inconsiderate and I really feel she does not care about me as much as I care about her.

Please advise me…its almost end of year…I cannot continue in a marriage where we hardly speak to each other or enjoy s*x with each other…if she cannot compromise…I will continue cheating cos divorce is not an option…

What else can he do?

Every one that cheats have a good reason for cheat

Just because you weren't able to enjoy yourself and end up as a virgin, is the main reason why you are desiring for it by all means

You know what,
just follow your heart but try to avoid getting another woman pregnant to avoid you having a divided home and divided interest

Extra marrital affairs is like gambling

GreaterFuture:
Is it Possible for a Person who is not a Dr, has no kind of Professional training/experience and has not Passed through Medical School to be able to Read and Understand an MRI Scan?
Even though he is very smart, Educated, well read etc. Is it Possible at all, if we want to be very honest.

The answer to this Question is important to me Please. Thank you all in advance

Some medical reports are readable and clear enough for an educated person to read and comprehend

That doesn't mean that he has explained everything therein but was able to translate what the outcome of the result is


Besides, when you are asked to do a medical test, it's expected of you to take the report to whomever that asked you to get the test done

Slyzen:
Thanks. She doesn't need those things. I want to give her something memorable that'll have her thinking of me for a long time. As someone suggested up there, maybe I'll get an artist to draw a portrait of both of us together. And I also hope she'll say some blessings

At that age, they no longer have the ability to keep things that gives that gives them memories because of dementia and they do have bad sights to see the clear pictures

At that age, they appreciate what goes into their mouth as they now depend on people to feed them

At that age, they are closer to see their creator

Though, you can follow your heart

Manas40:
thanks for the advice I really appreciate

You are welcome my dear sister, it can only get better

MrTAnonymous:
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Women in the Nigerian military can be very nice, beautiful, lovely and good in marriage and I can be a witness to that as I know one who is happily married with kids and still love and respect her husband, other men included.

Military ladies are not wicked, ugly or bad, don’t judge all of them because of the few you have seen in the street or video maltreating people. Get to know some of them and you will be glad you did. You might also fall in love with them because their beauty is just the same as those model you admire very much on TV.

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Incase you don't know na me talk

Only men who gets intimidated by women achievements that are not comfortable having relationships with such women

mariahAngel:
Was that necessary?
Why does one feel the need to show who owns what?
Would you say the same if it were your own brother?
Are you contentious?
Why not tell him to prostrate before her because she's Eze nwaanyi?
That is how division in the family starts unnecessarily...

You can do yours as you wish and accept how yours will treat or identify your wife when the time comes

obeycian:
I have having some thought about this and I would appreciate if you guys could shed more light about it.
My elder brother's wife is way younger than I am, and I HV been calling her by her name. Is it appropriate to do so? Or shud I add a title before name whenever I am addressing her?

Even if she is 10yrs younger than your present age, pls address her by either sister or Aunty before mentioning her name

She is already married that's enough respect for her, one day she will birth a child and you call her by her child's name

If you are living with them, do so, the house belongs to her and she knows best how to butt you out or allow you to stay with them

Manas40:
Good day to you all. I really don't know where to start from but I must begin somewhere,a toad does not run in the day time for nothing. I'm Peculiar by name, second daughter out of 7 girls. A native of orlu in Imo state. I have a feeling of not being accepted in my family,this started when I was little. My parents would curse me,mock, disgrace and even threaten to disown me in the presence of my younger sisters. I attended FGGC owerri and graduated in 2016,since then my parents have done little or nothing to put me in school. I read sciences in school and I'm very good in writing, reading and politics. My father is a civil servant in imo state whose salary is barely enough for the family,my mom had a major operation while giving birth to our last born in 2016. The operation left a serious injury in her that her business crumbled afterwards. well back to the main reason for writing this. Please I want to go back to school and I don't know how to go about it. My time is limited and I really want to see myself being in school. My parents are doing little or nothing to see me in school although they try in their little ways by assisting me in paying for my jamb and all that. I wrote jamb this year and to be honest with you I don't have that faith of being in school. Life has been rough and unstable for me. Immediately I left secondary School I began teaching in schools to help myself and my family. Ok I said to myself that since school isn't working out for me for reasons I don't know, maybe I can start up something doing but I don't have the capital to do so
I will like to know if it's possible to be adopted at my age. Am 22 years old, hardworking and brilliant. I'm tired of wasting my time waiting for admission,even if it's starting off a business I don't mind doing it. I stay in owerri.
Please I just need your help.

Pls take it easy you still have enough time to further your education and you can also do that while married

It will be very difficult to adopt you at your present age now because you will not be of benefit to the person considering that you are not an infant

All you need now is to be focused on whatever you are doing and don't allow any man to deceive you

You can still be teaching and do lessons for children who have parents and are willing to pay

Whatever you can get out of it save it and save enough to carry you on to enter school

If you loose your balance by not being patient, you will end up becoming a victim of circumstance

Calm down and slow the speed pls

Mandela27:
GET HER A YOUNG MAN OF 25 TO 29YEARS TO FUC.K HER,YOU'D BE HELPING HER BONES TO STAY A LITTLE BIT STRONGER..SHE WILL BE GRATEFUL,THATS HER FANTACY BUT SHE WONT TELL U

I don't think you were properly trained or probably you refuse to accept the training given to you

Slyzen:
Reasonable suggestions please.

When you get to town

Get her fruits like apples, provisions like Milo and milk, get her cakes and gala, get her sweetened cracker biscuits, bottle of grand nuts, Hollandia youghut the white one and small size of chi exotic juice and dash her little money

With 5000 you can get all these

millionboi2:
There are moment we got lost in our thoughts,and begin to wish so many things.

How do you feel when the thought of death cross your mind?

Whenever I remember about death, I do ask myself, why are we struggling on earth to acquire success

But I realize that if you struggle you get what you want but will leave happily and still die

If you don't struggle you become a nuisance and a liability to yourself and the society

Shamelessman01:
Se mojo charity

There is this man in my church. We usually come for cleaning together every Saturday. I noticed that when I see him on Sundays he appears like a very wealthy man. Not really because of his dress but his aura looks really rich like a big man. Then when he appears for cleaning on Saturday he looks so ordinary he also dresses well too. like some days he look like a big boss and some days he looks like spineless man. The reason why am concerned is I really want to know what makes people appear bigger than what they are. I have seen people that I use to rate really high from afar only to later discover that am even richer than them but they appear richer and bigger than me. What really make someone appear to be a high status person because have also seen people I looked down on only to discover they fukin rich.

Every thing is packaging

People now changes their looks according to where they want to go and who the want to appear to

Remember that personality matters, it now depends on how you are able to carry your self around

fineboynl:
not much just something that can go for a week. how do you want me to cook small soup. when I buy all the things and meats. it's should be much cheaper that way.

Well, what I mean to say is that, it's more cheaper for you to buy little and cook little considering the light issues until it becomes stable

There is no cooler that can preserve food for that long its either you warm your food as needed to preserve it or you freeze it