₦airaland Forum

Alwaysachick:
Good evening ladies in the house,

I have a friend he is every good thing but overbearing. He kept that part till we started dating. I don't have issues with a man wanting to be a man but when he does it to the extent your opinions don't count again and if you do otherwise even when you are right, it gets him angry. Shouldn't it be a thing of concern?

I've been feeding his ego but I think its getting out of hand. The relationship is getting serious but my fears have started building and im beginning to ask myself if I can cope??

Please help a sister, what can I do to stop this? Married women in the house with husbands with such traits how do you cope?

Should have have learnt from my parents but my father is the exact opposite and with my observations, his dad is also overbearing his sisters at always complaining.

Profprom:
Why blow your trumpet before leaving? Whether you leave or stay we have been surviving in this country and we will still survive with or without you. Better luck else where

PrecioussB:
Source: http://www.absradiotv.com/2020/06/25/father-of-three-defiles-his-3-year-old-daughter-at-33-area-near-onitsha/

mansakhalifa:
Nonsense.

Typical Nigerian mindset speaking.^^

Islie:
https://dailypost.ng/2020/06/24/mans-suicide-attempt-at-ogun-river-in-abeokuta-aborted/

UDOKABESTLUV:
A Nigerian man has been confirmed dead after falling off the 9th floor of his apartment in Indonesia while hiding from immigration officers.

The Nigerian man identified simply as Chike, resides at Gading Nias apartment in Kelapa Garden Central Jakarta, Indonesia. It was gathered that he tried to escape after being told that immigration officers were on their way.

Other Nigerians who reside in the apartment rushed him to the hospital where he was confirmed dead this morning, June 24.

Here is a video from the scene of the incident Obtained By below;


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z7uHIqSjXyY

https://www.instagram.com/tv/CB0OAF2jKWq/?utm_source=ig_embed&ig_mid=AB2D59F8-C823-4FFB-B13D-E4C100C315AC

Saneesk:
So nairalanders I need your humble opinion on whether there's high chance of marrying someone with the same age as you or even more than you some said it happens but 1 in a million.

foleskay:
You know the type of emotional pain one would suffer after realizing the child he had raised up to 7 yrs of age is not his. Its a phycological trauma. Not easy to bear.

mrgoodd:
The couple involved in the Murder/Suicide incident in Victory Park estate in Lekki, Lagos state on Sunday, June 21, They planned to get married this August 2020, The duo in person of Chris Ndukwe, 39, Olamide Alli, 25, were said to have been dating for over 7 years. The couple has a seven years old son and then had a second son three years ago.

Spokesperson of the state police command, Bala Elkana who confirmed the incident said;
“It is true. Homicide detectives have sealed up the place. They have commenced investigation. The corpse of the man and the woman have been moved to the hospital for an autopsy.

Two kitchen knives were found there and two bottles of Sniper. The woman had injuries from stabbing while foams were coming out of the man’s mouth who is suspected to have taken those Snipers.

Source: https://leakers.ng/photos-from-the-lekki-couple-murder-and-suicide-scenes-disturbing-photos

azmanaty02:
Nawao

But why must women always cheat in relationships?? Can't they keep their ass down in one place??

Bamo2020:
Nice submission, salute ur experience n exposure.





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When you romance a woman or put her in a romantic mood, she squits

That squiting lubricates her down and stimulate her to get prepared for sex

When she climaxes which normally happens during sex or masturnation, it means you succeeded in making her have that heavenly feelings

That is the major task of a man, that's why you see a man doing extra work on a woman before penetration

Once you can't do that, some one else will do it for you

Women sex nerves are not as automatic as men

Our state of emotions determines if sex will hold or not

But for men, it can be triggered by any thing even alcohol

In summary, when women are squiting, it's like when a man has an erection

When a woman climaxes, it's like when a man is ejaculating

Theirs are homogeneous to that of men

Bamo2020:
Experience plenty, I hail ooo.









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The issue of urine like liquid could be that her bladder was close to full

Every woman squits, it depends on if she feels the sensation or not

The squinting is the wetness down there, some feels it while others don't

That's why men who knows how to handle a woman, do inset fingers to feel the wetness before penetration

ElZackzacky2019:
Hmmm... This matter serious o. I used to wonder if female children from toxic or pained single mothers would ever love their husbands. Their mothers seem to have poisoned their minds about men from infant

Naijaarchive:
this your advice enh.... It true sha mother and daughter b taking op for a ride....

dre11:
https://punchng.com/wife-damages-husbands-genitals-over-alleged-infidelity/

simplexity:
Firstly I will like to apologize for any errors made while typing, and I am seriously in need of ur advice and criticism.

My name is Stanley(not real names) married for 4years with two Lovely kids both female with d eldest at age 4. Trust me I cherish and love my family. I am a graduate while my wife dropout from the university cause of some money issues her single mother had while she was sick. After our first child I made sure she got admitted to a polytechnic and thankful she just rounded up her N.D all expenses paid by me, with high hopes of Getting admitted for her HND.

The problem started after our first child, my wife attitude towards sex changed totally, she would never let me touch her or play with her, calling her pet names will usually end in quarrel, I spoke with her her severally, pleaded and beg her most times but her attitude never changed, she made me feel like I met nothing to her, yet she will always fight with me whenever ever she suspects I have a girlfriend, fights with any female that comes close to me through calls or chats, she even went as far as beating up a lady that needed my help thinking I was dating her.

Fast forward to recently, her mom who is a single mother relocated to stay with us, and during her stay we had some misunderstanding about money issues, (note both me and wifey are gainfully employed in the ratio of 10:4, but 60% of wifey salary goes to her mom while she spends the rest 40% anyhow she likes) during d money issues a frd of hers came and told both of them that she see saw me flirting with a lady. And without hearing my own side of the coin my mother in-law rained curses on me , reported my to all her family members and left my house angrily, two days later my wife took our children and left my house while I was in d office, I called about her where about and she said she won't tell me and she said I will hear from her family soon, her mom called a family friend saying she will sue me.

It's been one week now and I don't know the whereabouts of my kids.

Should I report to the police or what?
Note I have apologized to wife for the crime I didn't commit yet it seems they want a bigger pound of flesh.

Please kindly advise me caused am depressed and confused

nams77:
Mature comment as always

shestrong:
Sorry but sex and romance cannot heal a depressed person pls..
Love of family and friends can help..
visiting a therapist can go a longer way..e.t.c
But only time heals all wounds.

cdm4live:
I know in no way am I entitled to what I am about to say but just have to say it.

My brother and his woman has been staying with me for about two months. I know she hasn't been feeling comfortable and has been saving a lot to get her own house.
I won't lie, she has been of help in terms of food and I really appreciate her for that.
My earning in my job is quiet low, just that I have not being able to start a side business basically not knowing what to sell.

Last month, my bro told me the month for their rent is remaining 10k and that I should help. That was my last 10k and won't be having my June salary for obvious reasons. I had to give them the 10k. But things went south and they couldn't get the house. I couldn't ask of my money either because she has been contributing to the feeding.

Last week, on Monday or so, I called someone lootheseg for a job for me and he said the job is available and that I should get him 30k.

I asked my brother if they could assist and after discussing with his woman 5k was brought out. I ran to work to the person who collected the contribution we are doing and he could only offer 5k.

I called the man telling him I have 10k at hand and that I am hustling the remaining. By then I have called on my junior bro to assist although he agreed but couldn't make the transfer that day.

Next day, I got the money from my junior bro and hand it over to the man. He told me other people have taken the position since I wasn't serious.

I am just angry within me but decided not to confront my bro or her woman.

Meanwhile, as I tried taking my cloths from the wall hunger, my hand touched on a shirt and I field money on my bro's pocket. I didn't bother checking that day I just went for in search of where to borrow.

After two days, I was tempted to check, the money has reduced in volume but in 500 notes.

All the woman kept on saying is words of like competing with me. She wanted to rent a self-contained, buy gas, television and all.

Really, I always keep quiet while she says all these. I earn peanut at month end and still attend part time in polytechnic.

I just feel like saying this here to free my mind a bit.
Like I say, I am not entitled to their money but I am just pissed.

Please, pardon my errors and sorry for the lengthy post.

mekuso89:
Don't mind the stupid teenage adult

JONNYSPUTE:
....Yea,from history,they all married from our community.

mimimile93:
Good day my Nairalander family. I hope you all are fine. Sorry to bother you all. There's something giving me sleepless nights lately.

Firstly, I vowed never to have anything to do with women after the setbacks I had in the past.
Somehow, I fell in the arms of a woman again. This time around a good woman.
She loves me more than I love her. She has being my backbone lately.
She really helped me a lot. She was always there for me when I was arrested. She is the first woman ever to spend money on me since I started dating.
She value everything I give her no matter how little it is. I bought her a wristwatch on her birthday and the wristwatch is less expensive compare to the wristwatch she use. But I was surprised she abandoned her expensive wristwatch and started wearing the one I bought for her.
This girl has done more than enough for me. When the pandemic was severe, I stayed in her apartment all through and she took care of feeding and all.
We plan getting married. But here is my concern.

Her family!
Her family hates blacks and they have no reason to like a black person.
I only visited her family twice and the way they welcomed me wasn't really good.
I once talked with her younger sister and asked her if she would marry a black man. She said never. That even if the black man is richer than Bill Gates she will not marry.
Her sister hardly reply my chats on Line App.
This my girl loves me but my problem is her family.

Friends I am very confused.
Note: The current work I am doing now I got it via this my girl. She is everything a man needs. She bought me a car last year.

JONNYSPUTE:
....Good morning folks. Sure we are all good and managing the effects of pandemic well?. To God be the glory.

This is going to be long because I will want us to read and understand it very well before commenting. Reason is because any decision taken is going to affect both myself,my immediate family members,extended and the entire community.

I have been thinking about the way forward since December last year.

It happened that we lost our king(Eze) 5years ago and the community has been in turmoil due to the inability of the elders to select a new king.

Reason is that it is rotational between my village and the other village.

My village is now supposed to bring out the next king and my compound has been told to bring out somebody to be crowned as a king.

I never envisaged or dreamt of becoming a king in my life because.
(1) My father is still alive.
(2)I'm not the most senior in the entire family.

But then,the elders met me last December and told me that the diety in the community has selected me to become the next king and that I have to pick another wife from the community before I will be crowned.

I told them point and blank that the oracle is mistaken due to the reasons I mentioned above but they are not taking it.

Now everyone in my village is against me for refusing the offer and saying I'm doing it be cause I don't want to hurt my wife which is true.

Now my question is,What do I do?
Should I damn the consequence and pick another wife and be crowned a king in other to make my community happy or should I forget about the whole idea entirely and allow the community sort themselves out?

I'm confused here. N B. My wife is aware of all this.

Thanks.

Lalasticlala,please bring this to front page cause I'm no longer myself. So many sleepless nights and selfish advices from the elders in my community.I really need to hear the truth from people I don't know.

Imogenn:
Hi guys

I’m 3 months post part, meaning I just gave birth 3 Nearly 4 months ago. My child is fine, taken care of and I’m coping very well with motherhood.

My problem now is I added 25 kg during this pregnancy. I’ve lost some but I’m honestly still very fat. On top of that I have this dirty looking black skin in result of this pregnancy. I’m just feeling so ugly I want to know how I can lose this weight and lighten up my skin tone. Let it not be that my husband will start looking outside ahbeg lol. Not just that but generally I look disgusting. I am not happy with myself.

Mothers in the house how long did it take to lose your baby weight? And please I need advice on how to get back to my normal self. And also tips to get rid of this dirty black looking skin that I have. I want to glow.