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Phenomenal16:
...sister nwayoo kwa

My dear Ike gwuru

As if she has been several hurt

Babaj145:
This girl know how to chop life Abeg eee..this Ned really know how to take care of his family for real..no bad belle between all d wives..everybody know their place..

Once a polygamous man can take care of his family and provide for everyone of them without abandoning anyone

The wives must cooperate else she leaves

edoman2016:
My friend is a masters degree holder from UK university and he owns a supermarket and bakery in Ikeja. He wants to marry an illiterate lady. This lady did not complete secondary school. She is a hairdresser.

My friend introduced the lady to his parents for marriage and his parents rejected her. They told him they will never support his decision to get married to the lady. That the lady is below his class. My friend has asked me for an advice on the issue and I think I support his parents' decision. I believe the lady must have charmed him.

What advice do you think I should give him?

Why did he start a relationship with some one he knows his parents won't consent to

Let him simply tell him that he pregnanted someome and her parents insist he marries her

coputa:
The child(ren) in question does not have it smooth especially from the man,as he does not see the child(ren) as his own,and this is sometimes resisted by the woman which often lead to break ups.

It's difficult to separate mothers from their children

Very difficult, even real men knows that

So she has to move with her child

I will welcome them and that will be the last time I will ever see him

Then I will tell my daughter the danger in having an irresponsible man as a suitor

If you want value for your money then a foam you will use for life

Get cuts foam orthopedic, it's around 60k for the size you mentioned

yankison:
The baby won't suck from breath when she gave birth ,so I had to get a breast pump but now since over 4 days now she couldn't pump up to half feeding bottle .. please what do we need to do to increase the flow of her breast Milk .. science and traditional

There is no way the baby won't suck from birth

The baby must have sensed that she is not lactating and they don't like sucking without success

Pls switch over to formula and let the breast be feed when it's with fluid

She can be taking beverages and pap it helps


Bear in mind that small breast lactates more than the big breast

Learn1:
Good day to you all.
I’m not really happy typing this but I seek your opinion. I will be done with nysc very soon and I don’t know what the future looks like. I come from a family full of cultist and smokers. Infact I’m not regarded. Everyone is a yahoo boy. I’m a yahoo boy myself but intend getting a legit job after service. During this service year none of my siblings called me on phone even though I passed through a lot. Recently I asked them to give me an advice of life after service after as they have been there before but nothing sensible were they able to tell me. I feel bad because this are people I suppose to look Up to. But life goes on. I deleted their number not long ago.

My plan after service is to go back home get my certs and cut all available way for me to be reached by all family members and relocate to a new place where I don’t know any body and start life. I don’t think I belong with them because even looking at me I’m like a complete opposite. I intend staying in a church if I get to a new land before I find my footing.

Please advice me.

Take it easy guy

They are living their own life so you have to fashion yours

What kind of advice do you expect cultists and smokers to give you

Just form your own life amd be ready to take responsibilities of your action's

You don't have to cut them off, you will be the one to be affected more not them

If you really want to be decent, you can be decent amd live a decent living

Just find your bearing and keep the secret of your success with you

If you cut them off and any thing happens to you, you will be like a lost ship

Relax, don't show your displeasure on them, just be smart about it and enext they ate hearing from you, its the results of your success that will be speaking for you

coputa:
When a man sees a woman he likes,he proposes to her,engages her and then marry her.But some men have the desire but the fund is not there,this has lead to some women with financial strenght to foot the bill of the marriage. This does not last long,as the woman always bring the issue up at the slightest opportunity,unless of course the man pays up,he will remain in bondage.

If a man can't sponsor his marriage and the wife does that

Is he expected to Lord her, what do you mean by living in bondage ?

If you know you can't be responsible for what you should be and a woman does that, the best thing is for you to be her mumu botton and if you respect yourself you gain more

You can't be a witch and be a wretched person at the same time, haba ❗

bjprodint:
Happy birthday omotuyi Ayomide Sunshine Nneka.

you came into my life aftera still birth and two miscarriages.

i wish you long life in good health and prosperity.more wisdom and understanding babe.i love you.
my babe is 6years old today

Happy birthday to you my angel

WILLuKPquiet:
Hi guys and Ladies,

Is it right for a lady during courtship to come on a visit without helping the guy in any house work?.
Cooking, Laundry, Washing the dishes, Sweeping etc. She just comes plays, sleeps and leave. Just like dat.

If they eventually marry one another, is it worth it to help such a lady to do same chores as your wife?


My own take is this,
During courtship, the house chores are the guy's responsibility. To take care of his own house remains his job. Therefore, it is not compulsory for the lady to help out, because she ain't marry the guy yet and the guy has not paid her dowry.
But a lady from a good home should know it is necessary for her to help her fiancé out in the house chores. Though, it is necessary but not compulsory.


Now, if the guy in question eventually marries the girl and after marriage, she wants him to join her in the house chores to prove his love and care to her.
Now, it is her responsibility and not the guy's responsibility too. She is the wife.
It is only necessary for the guy to help out but not compulsory.

Does she deserve it? Now that it is her own duty too, to do those things as a wife?

My take is, she does not deserve it at all.


What do you think.

A meat you will not eat, don't share it with your teeth

What you can accept in courtship, accept it in marriage

[quote author=kizit22 post=90745351][/quote]You don't give up in situations like this

Keep praying, help is on the way, God knows your family predicaments

As it is now find your bearing first before you start thinking of your siblings condition

Be hopeful after all, it was not your grace to be a graduate but God's grace

coputa:
S*x is important in marriage,it is among the oil that lubricate every marriage,but too much of it becomes boring and kills the partner slowly,especially the man,each time a man releases semens,his life gets shortens,it even lead to postrate.that's why majority of men with more than two wives do not live long

So if each time a man releases sperm, his life gets shortened

When a woman birth a child what happens to her own life ?

The issue here is if you as a man is with a woman that wants constant sex, if you can't stand her look elsewhere

Same thing is applicable to women too

Marry the person your strength can carry

Many have gone like that

Since washing the pot is the issue not even the food, let them discard the pot after eating so that they will not get to washed the pot and it will help them to stop cooking

Jezking:
Hello, please I have a friend with a problem and need your help urgently.

Hey bro, it has happened again. Dad tried to beat mum again today and I stood up to him for the first time. I told him if he tried it that I would deal with him, he was in shock at first, then he told me to do my worst and continued beating mom. I then looked and saw a hammer, then I took it and threatened to hit him with it, but he ignored me completely.

I then came closer to him and he didn't flinch, then I actually hit him. He fainted briefly and after waking up, he has been threatening me that he'll call police by the time he fully recovers. He said he can't raise a tiger in his house. If I'm a tiger then what is he?

He might take a few days to recover, he has a serious injury to the head (bandaged and sewn up by my mum, she is a nurse) and currently under drip. I actually didn't mean to hit him, I just wanted him to stop hitting mum. Mum says I should apologise but I can't, because the truth is I'm not sorry. I feel like if I apologise, he is going to do it again.

Please what should I do? Should I run away from my father's house? I'm only 16 and I don't know how to live in the streets and don't have any friends here either since we only moved in shortly before the lockdown.
My friend please help me...

P.S: Rather that troll, just jejely scroll and pass; nevertheless, I need your honest opinions. He is following this thread so please be responsible, he's just 16.

Let your mum assist you as you ask for forgiveness from dad

Let your mum avoid anything that will make her receive any form of beating from dad, if she can't walk out of abusive marriage

I am not blaming you for your actions but next time you witness them, draw mum out of his sight

If he never recovered from that shock, it's assumed you killed your dad.
How many people will you explain to that you were saving your mum from his beating, that's if you don't rot in jail

Some women can tolerate nonsense from their husband sha

Hildagirl:
Please I am currently 8 months pregnant and I just want to know how mothers deal with this. My stomach is filled with black stretch marks all over, they’re not manageable. They look disgusting, I’ve added so much weight and this is making me depesssed. I’m a young woman in my early 20s, what have I done to deserve this? Why do we have to go through all of this just to bring a child into the world. This is affecting my self esteem and mental state. I cry every time I look in the mirror. What can I do about these horrible stretch marks, mothers in the house? What can I do about my low self esteem? I just can’t take this anymore.

You are just giving yourself headache for nothing

What do you mean horrible things

You think motherhood doesn't come with a price

You have to choose to pass through it with joy, irrespective of how your body changes

You are having low self esteem because you reduced yourself to it

Are you aware that, that your body that you are crazy about may not be the same again after child birth, if you don't have the money and strength it takes to recover from child birth

Just ask God to forgive your words

Naira235:
Hi Everyone,
I have been paying high money for childcare here in UK and its giving me a second thought. My husband is a medical doctor and I work as a nurse for half days in a week, so we don't have to work all day and time to be financially okay as this is our first child and she is just 8 months old.

I can only afford to sponsor one person for MSc and the person has to be assisting me in childcare as a compensation.

I have a younger sister whom I am 6 years older than, she is a graduate but not currently working. She is a spoilt child been the last born and I am the first born. I found it very difficult to control her as an elder sister while in Nigeria. She is a graduate, and she is tired of Nigeria, she is also a burden on my parents as she has been living and feeding on them. Most times I send them money she spends 80% of it for herself and she is been treated as a pet been last child. I am afraid I won't be able to control her as my sister when she comes over.

I have another lady, she was the daughter of my boss where I was learning Tailoring in Nigeria. She and her mother were so respectful and caring. They are very poor and have no support anywhere so I am thinking of inviting her over for her MSc abroad and to also be taking care of my child for few days in return for her school fees.
Note : that is aside from their 20 hours work per week allowed on their student visa, so they can also work and have money.

The childcare is just few days in a week from 8am to 2pm. And I am hopeful it won't affect their studies.

Who is the right person to invite? Please I need your advice . Thanks all

Your sister would have been a better option but you don't have a firm grip over her because she was spoilt by the family

Just ask her what she intends doing and sponsor her

Your boss daughter is another good option but your family will reject you if you should pick her

Just assist her to stand well

In the absence of non, take your sister and manage her, it's still to the advantage of your father family

I will advise you still pay a token to be with anyone doing shawarma for at least one month

So that as you learn the theoretical aspects from here, you also learn the practical aspects

Every business has its own tricks

Well the grand children belongs to the both families but more of their father's families

You and I knows that, children are more taken care of being with their mother's family than the father's family

If the father insist on having his grand children in his custody, let it be, the other families can still extend their charity to them wherever they are

My happiness is that I did not read where it was stated that their wss an abuse or violence from the late husband to the wife

After all, when the children grows, they will trace their fathers family

If he insist let him bury his daughter

Righteousness89:
If people understand that all these dramas do not affect the Dead body , they would stop all these drama and Return dust to its place

Honestly ❗

nnadychuks:
Even the normal wallpaper that comes in rolls require glue. It doesn’t necessarily mean one is superior. This is self adhesive. It doesn’t require gum. Also you can’t paint it, meaning it doesn’t get stained with dust or colours

Alright thanks for the analysis

At op
Pls talk to us and share your budden with us

No one is free of life tusle, non dear

jasent:
Not everyone passes through depression abeg..Don't mistake sadness for depression.. Op talk to me I have experienced depression I knw what it feels like.

People passes through depression in different ways

It's now depend on which way one is

Living and surviving in this country alone is depressing

Chummynoni:
same with me. i need a counsellor to talk to. i am near pre-marital depression..my number o9o204one344two

What do you mean by premarital depression when you can still walk out before the ring is put on

Ariza:
No it's something you can fix yourself, self adhesive wallpaper are easy to use. I've watch a lot of videos on YouTube.

Alright that's good, but am aware that it's called wall panels and it's different from wall papers actually

But why is it that the ones they offer in lagos requires gum, is it different from yours, thst should be wall panels

Which can be painted with different colours

I love your work and the price is affordable

Any time you are coming to lagos to do any job, pls notify me, I will need your service and give you the dimensions or measurements that you will require by feet

Ariza:
You are too far

Is your money that will bring closer to do it for you and go back to his base if he resides in Lagos, he won't do it for that amount

gbaskiboy:
Mr Reno Omokri the former aide to ex- president GoodLuck Jonathan. I always follow his daily nuggets on facebook and on twitter. Bbut i found this one so interesting. Fellow nairalands what do you think about his post about wedding?




https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=10221928792306229&id=1152008079



https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=10221929878893393&id=1152008079

But he did all that with his wife, let him reverse the ones he did before we can accept them his message

goodysb:
Hello Everyone, I met this girl about a month ago (same day her phone got missing) and we started talking etc...

She usually calls me every morning, afternoon and night (and I would call her back too) using her senior sister's phone... I would get her anything she wants, treated her well.... We would talk and I noticed how she was behaving and thought she'd be straight with me, so I told her I would get her the phone by month end...

Not that I couldn't get her the phone the next day but I just purposely delayed it (3 weeks) and when month end came I added extra week to see how she reacts and then I got her the phone but since I got her the phone she just changed and stopped doing all she used to do, I noticed and played along to see where she's heading to...

It's more than a week since I got her the phone and I noticed she hasn't changed... I thought about giving her a second chance and then she did something that annoyed me. I sent a very angry voice note and some messages but she didn't reply for about a day and I thought of it and noticed she was playing a game, so I said I would play along too...

So I acted dumb and called her to apologize that I said what I said out of anger (To me I really mean it) and explained to her that I listened to the notes and didn't find it interesting (I never did), so what I am doing now is I want to get what I gave her back because noticed a very big change and again because she might be telling her friends that I don chop this guy (which I don't like hearing), so after our argument, I already predicted that she'd want to ask me for something after two days and truly she asked me this morning for money to buy slippers of 4k... I didn't want to show any signs that I am aware of what she's doing.. so I told her.. let's be looking sha (which means I will get it)...

So I planned to play along and take her out of our environment to somewhere that's calm, so I would then collect the phone back from her and give her her sim card.

P.s. I predicted it might play out like this but wanted to test her to see... Could have gotten her an iPhone.

I would really appreciate you guys input �

My dear, you are too good a guy to collect a gift you gave out

That gift remains a memory in her heart even if the relationship ends

Just leave her to her conscience

Next time she requests for anything, simply tell her you don't have

If she is in the relationship for material gains she will prove her self

If she request to visit you, you can take the visit else where, maybe in a guest house

She knows her game but you have to be ahead of her game

By the time she discovers that she is no longer getting the goodies from you, she will be uncomfortable with herself

Just leave the phone with her, something you know that one day it's either she looses it or it spoils, that's when she will know your value

Real men don't recollect a gifted item

chatinent:
You are a good planner. Are you married yet?

Lol

mdan:
It's widely known that love alone, is not enough to keep a family standing. There are other factors contributing to a healthy marriage of which respect, loyalty, money etc are involved.

Now, in a situation where a wife earns more than the husband, will there be respect?

And if there is, how long can a woman keep up before she starts acting weird?

For the ladies do you think it's an issue earning higher than your husband?

There is nothing wrong in a woman earning more than the man

If the man has ever loved her before her uplifment, the man will enjoy and be happy about it

If the man is equally struggling, both of them will share in her success

But if the man is lazy and unappreciative and doesn't appreciate her

He will find it difficult to cope with her status