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netherlands:
its functioning, but no sim though. I think you have a good point about the ipad.

Just keep it as a spare, you me et can tell when it will be useful to you

HazardMan:
It was around that age that my mum stopped bathing me.... Not like i couldn't bath myself but sometimes she will feel like doing it herself, especially when it seems i will be going late for school or any other occasion like church...

Being a man that you are, it's OK but the question is centered on girls and because of the constant abuse on a girl child, that age she is already developing

AlexF:
Just recently (last 2 weeks), my girlfriend broke up with me and gave no tangible reason, we have been planning to get married. I kept pestering her for the real reason she broke up, she just keep on saying the relationship is not going to work out.
Just yesterday evening, I asked her again, she said she broke up with me cause my best friend always beats his wife and I would also end up beating her when we get married. I don't know how she got to know my friend beats his wife, but does that mean I would also be hitting my wife when we get married. I have never been a violent person, I am so disappointed with her, we having been dating for long and she doesn't know who I am.

To her, the relationship was not a serious one and may not lead to any where

Let her go as she has decided to

What she gave you as excuse is to just give you an answer that has no question

netherlands:
Please do make an input here as parents.

I gave my four years old daughter my old phone to be using, no Sim card though, yet I still ponder if this is proper. Should I take it back or let her have it?

What do you think, as a parent?
Thanks!

There is no need for that now, if you have an adult at home that stays with her, you did rather give it to the adult, she will know that it belongs to the house but in the care of the adult

If call comes in, the adult picks and if you want to speak with her, the phone will be given to her

I think what she needs now is an Ipad with downloaded children games and nursery rhymes

For the fact the phone is not working makes it worst because she will not like having a non functioning phone and will use it rough

By the time you give her a good working phone, it will be used roughly too

Pgmama:
I live in a quiet residential estate though not serviced its okay in the aspect of noise,that is iys an unwritten rule that everybody have a low sound generator and people hardly on it.

Then came this people,how they chose an office very far from the mainroad for their office is surprising,my problem now is their generator.the noise it makes is out of this world,its as if it gets worst if you close the windows.they actually knew that the place is a residential area and still rent the building.

Pls i need advice on how to go about this,none of us in this area is finding it funny,our kids hardly sleep because of the noise,my neighbour an old woman that is hypertensive is finding it difficult.thankyou

These is a noise pollution that is not necessary in a residential area

Have you guys brought the notice to the street chairman

If yes, he has to tell them to get a sound prove generator

If he is not taking action, then the ministry of environment in Alausa will be the last option

If that old hypertensive woman should be In the fore front of the report and complain, they will take action immediately

People of that age doesn't need any thing about noise in their old age at all

To me, the best age should be from two to five years and in between these age, the dad can scrub all parts of the body but she should be the one to was her private parts

Places like breast face and the vagina with the bum bum

It should be taught to her that it's her private parts and no body should wash it for her except mummy alone and herself

She will learn to grow up with it

HazardMan:
In my own opinion i think 10-12 is okay.....

That's a risky age for even any one to bath her daughter

That's a secondary school age, haba

Can't she find her bearing by taking care of her bath

Ctorch:
Breaking Ondo Youths commission road on behalf of the Governor..

According to the youths, they commissioned the road 'due to the busy schedule of the Governor'.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BZGZY0l3S7U

Source: https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=864598924033509&id=475203649639707&anchor_composer=false

What a lovey way to attract the state governments attention

Confusedgirl869:
Hello everyone. This account is created for this .

This issue has been bothering me a lot and I am very confused on what to do.

We have been together for more than 2 years now and we hardly have issues, infact we are a perfect match or so I thought.

I am 26 while he is 35, we both working and I never disturb him for money, I take care of all my needs myself. He is very calm and peaceful, doesn't hit me and I really admire him a lot. I on the other hand is also good, hardworking, not materialistic and all that makes a good woman.

So after thinking of our relationship thoroughly some weeks ago, I realised that there is really nothing stopping us from getting married this year or next. I decided to hear what he has to say because he never talked about us being or getting married. I also noticed that whenever he sees or hears about bad marriages he felt lucky he is not in yet. This always makes me feel bad because I know myself. I also wasn't a fan of marriage before I met him because of so many bad men out there, but everything changed when I met my guy, he is what I want. The very first day we met, the first thought that came to my mind was 'this is my him' I don't know why I had that thought being our first time meeting.

Anyways, few weeks ago I decided to ask him what his plans are. Are we in on a long thing or not? I got the shock of my life when he made me understand that he doesn't want to be tied forever, he loves his space and the way nobody disturbs him. That he only wants a baby mama, he wants me to be the mother his kids but not in marriage. I was mad and I cried for days. He was even sounding like nothing is wrong with being a baby mama, maybe not but I just can't.

Well, I made him understand that I can't be a baby mama and it will also be hard for me to move on with another person. I've bonded so well with him and all that. And I also hate jumping from one man to another. I told him to talk to people who are in successful marriages and stop looking at the bad ones. Today when we were talking I asked him about it and he is still maintaining his stand on the mama.

I don't want to give birth to kids that have 2 homes, I grew up like that(it took me lots of self discipline not to become useless) and wouldn't want that kind of life for my kids, I want them to grow with their parents in ONE house. At the same time, I don't want to lose my good man and relationship.

I need your opinions please.

If you believe you can't leave him and start another relationship with another man, you have to dance to his tune

But if you know pretty well that you don't want to be a baby mama which I agree with you then it's time to think twice and leave

He has his reasons but especially he loves his freedom so his type may not take marriage serious

Marriage restric freedom from men and commits them to the relationship, not all men likes it

shawnfamous:
Maybe this man just wants to be part of the problem by force. but it's a good thing anyways

Lol @ part of the problem
Funny you

[quote author=Felalucky8 post=90521125][/quote]Any silly action can affect love

Love doesn't want any hurt for what so ever because it's gentle and soft

Sermwell:
We had to settle a serious quarrel in my compound today between a lady and the guy she's dating! It's actually a serious relationship because if not for the covid-19 pandemic, they would have been married!

The guy claimed that his woman came to visit him without pre-informing him and the lady was screaming at the top of her voice that she doesn't have to call him before coming.

Some of my neighbors were in support of the guy and I feel it's not right because I'm also dating someone, and we visit each other anytime we like without prior notice!!

Some of my neighbors think otherwise!!
please I need your opinion. Do you think it's wrong to visit someone you are dating without prior notice??

We have different categories of dates

Dating with intension to marry

Dating for the fun of it

Dating for companion ship

Dating for part time

Dating because of availability

If they really want to wed if not for corona, then she doesn't need to inform him, besides if the guy doesn't have a side chick, it shouldn't be an issue

Men always wants to eat their cake and have it

johnrix:
I have friends that love their women, but show little respect behind their back. I have a suspicious eye on love

OK, but why showing little respect behind their back when he can as well show it in her front

Does it mean that respect doesn't worth giving

See, respect is respect anything less is no longer respect

BAZ001:
Chai this number heavy

But how did corona spread from Lagos to other states in Nigeria despite inter state ban?
Could it be that the virus was already in Nigeria before February?

With all wike actions & demolition of hotel Rivers no gree slow down.

One corana patient is enough to go round the nation

realtalk19:
Thank sis. Well said

Thanks dear

One thing about advice is that, if you are advised, you think over it
If it's a good advice, you take it and if you think it's a bad advice, you forget it and stay away from the person who gives you such

Love is what keeps marriage

If you love someone, you will respect him or her

Simple

realtalk19:
We are just two tenants in the compound.

I met my neighbour in the compound when I moved in and as such was friendly and nice to her in every way.(she is a stark illiterate that has a ghetto,razz mentality and upbringing)

The landlord shuttles btw Nigeria and italy because his family is based in Italy.

My neighbour has a husband that visits often.

I am a single mum and I have a nanny for my kids so I can work .

When I moved into the compound ,I met my neighbour and her sister(and child) who stays with her just for company because she was the only tenant before I moved in

Initially out of a free minded spirit,we chat a lot and discuss experiences but don't do in and out gossips .
She was free to ask for things and I was always willing to help.

As time went on I noticed immediately the landlord travelled my neighbour and her sister changed completely and started acting strange towards me .
At a point I tought I had offended them and I called both of them personally to sort tins out because I don't hold grudges but even at that their strange behaviour continued.
They started seeing me as a competition, they taunted me most times expecting a reaction in return but instead I kept my cool and never fought them and kept being nice to them.

Sometimes my neighbour and sister give evil stares, laughing hysterically whenever I pass or show up and gossiped and tormented me at every opportunity. I endured till the landlord came Bak from his trip and they switched back again to their fake niceness and acted like all was well between us.

My neighbour is not working and also a full house wife.

She did everything to tanish my reputation before the landlord but the landlord already observed my kind of person and cautioned her concerning her behavious towards me. Since her plans of pitching everyone against me wasn't working, recently the landlord travelled again and as expected she switched and started her nasty gossip and taunting towards even to the extend of greeting her and she wunt respond, she make some false statements of faking my looks,not good enough to look good etc.

I decided to stop greeting her since she doesn't respond and completely cut her off from my mind.
Immediately I made the decision of minding my business ,my neighbour and her sister started their gossips and was also angry I didn't react to all they have been provoking me with but instead I ignored them and cut off completely.


How best can do you think I can overcome them maturely without any physical contact or exchange?

They are fools, just be careful with them as you have been and silent is the best way for them

If you are their senior greet then and if they are your junior don't greet them unless they greet you

If you have your way, just pack out

Envy can make people behave as if you are intimidating them

TimmyEEE:
My elder brother has a girlfriend whom I can call his fiance , because our parents know about it and they are getting married very soon

We live very close , his girlfriend's parent house is directly opposite ours,so she comes to our house virtually everyday

It happened that last Sunday , the girl, her younger sister , her mum , and my mum had to come home together after the Church service. Both mums were carrying bags , her younger sister collected from her own mum. Courtesy demands that she collects the bag from my mum not because she is her mother-in-law to be , but she is also well older than her mum. She didn't collect the bag from her.she once did the same thing and I heard my mum reporting her to my dad.she does other things that show she doesn't have respect for my mum

This one she did last Sunday got my mum to report her to my brother and I was even surprised that my brother couldn't even say what I expected him to say. He was like " she(my mum) should have called her and correct her rather than coming to him"

They ( my bro and his girlfriend) went somewhere together on Sunday and they came back later at night. He actually told her about what my mum said.when they got back at night
, they both went inside the room before she could even come out and beg my mum( she didn't even kneel down)

Since then, my brother hasn't been talking well to my mum.I wonder why.

Also,I expected the girl to come and beg my mum to show she was actually sorry , but she didn't even mention about it

I'm really pissed off right now
What do you say about this please?

Some ladies can be naughty and if their men are weakly, it makes it worse

lalasticlala:
Source: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kudirat_Abiola

Today makes it exactly 24 years since she was assassinated. Thread inspired by Officialgarri

Very strong woman who gave her husband the support he needed to get to the top but those evil people refused

Lincolnburrows:
Biko what do you mean that government has reduced burial in anambra?

Google it pls it was in the news last week

If truly he is not from their lineage, then its now assumed to be a political appointment to put even an Igbo man there

It's because of the money they are making from sales of land there

Assuming that's a water logged and swamped area in one local village

Who cares if a calabar man and and his dogs rules there

Does it really mean that no good wish is coming for this to end soon

Am just confused as no one knows what and who to believe

TheRealProphet:
https://www.vanguardngr.com/2020/06/i-told-my-rapist-god-will-judge-him-if-he-does-not-repent/

What a horrible experience at that age, not even yet a teenager

ChizzyBuna:
I love her to the moon and heavens but one thing has been bothering me.
Her dad is a native doctor but she kept saying her and her mum are both christians. And they live in town while her dad relocated to village since 2014

Now today, were speculating how our marriage will be. She said she can never marry without her father's blessing. That she is the Ada and that's tradition.

Naaa!! Bumboclat me no wan hear dat!!!

How can a strong Catholic like me allow a native doctor to bless my marraiage?
This got me thinking that she is lying about not being part of her dad's fetish stuff.
To make it worse she is the only daughter and if my parents find out about her dad chaiii it won't be funny.
I really really really love this girl..she is the one everything is perfect just that her dad is native doctor
What should I do?
I'm I making a big deal out of the whole thing?

This one weak me

Trade with caution, if you want to pull out, use your head not your mouth

You can develop a nasty attitude to allow the relationship to fizzle out

If you want to marry her, you can go ahead but the thing about traditional matters it is a that your child or any child from her family may be the next dibia in future

Mosetgg:
Good evening Nairalanders.

I am an old member of this platform but I decided to just read comments and learn without registering after I left for sometimes.

But this issue has been bothering me for a while now which made me to register again.

I discovered that whenever I wanted to made love with my fiance I find it very hard to penetrate inside her vagina, though she was a virgin when I met her.

The first time we decided to have sex, I did it from the back and having believed I disvirgin her after that first "sex" which she also told me that I did disvirgin her because of some flesh she said she found dangling in her vagina after the 'sex'.

For like 3 months we've been making love, I normally 'enters' from the back any time we made love because she do complained that spreading her legs in the missionary style causes her pain a lot thus I settled to do her from the back.

Each time I insert my thing, I know there is something wrong because I always felt I am only rubbing my thing on the surface of her vagina but her buttocks deceived me to think something is entering something.

Recently, I intentional told her what I've been observing and we truly discovered that I've not been entering inside her vagina at all, she has just been enjoying my thing rubbing the surface of her vagina while myself because I was also doing it from the back, I was also thinking I was entering the glory land.

Now, after the discovery, she was confused and she said she's not sure if a woman should have a deep hole where a penis such as mine should enter, I was shocked by her level of knowledge about sex been a twenty 23 years old girl she is.

I have to play her porn videos to convinced her that a vagina should swallow up or at least accommodate half of someone's penis before she believed me.

We then concluded that she's still a virgin all this while.

My ordeal, I tried all my best to disvirgin or enter her vagina for four(4) days we have been together, my brothers, I could not made any hole o.

I used different styles and videos to convinced both her and myself that there is a hole we must create, and I even have to tell her that I had had sex before with my ex and there was a hole that accommodated my penis.

For the four days we were together I couldn't see any hole to create nor find anyone in her vagina, I later turn it to joke to her by telling her that I am in the season of ultimate search looking for hole to at least calm her down from fear.

When I checked her vagina it appears firm and somehow with a very small hole which I couldn't penetrate through. She has all the features of how a vagina should look like externally but penetrating hole is missing o.

Please, has anyone here experience such thing like this?

What did you do to solve it?

Am I still the one failing to properly disvirgin her or she does not have any hole that can hold penis down there?

Please Mr/Mrs holier than thou that will comment face your front to avoid crashing into canal of no return.

Thank you.

Only a medical doctor or gynaecologist can unravel what it is

habsydiamond:
the major reason is lack of communication among the couple. if there is communication among them, they will understand eachother very well.

That's true, lack of communication has brought lots of problems in marriage

laosy:
I was going through normal trends on Twitter today, but a story got my attention on postsubman timeline about the story of an husband who got angry when he found out that the wife didn't put her name in the documents of the land she bought. The woman gave her reason that she hasn't gotten any kid for him hence she's still liable to be kick out of his house when things turn sour and moreover the man didn't contribute a dime in the money of about #7.2million.

So I brought it here on nairaland to know what you guys think about this. Check screenshots below;

Women take such decisions base on the fact that most times the husband does not have her interest at heart

In her own case, she is yet to birth a child and she is very sure that one day she will be asked to leave because of the absence of children

So she us trying to secure her future in case it happens, she will not be losing on both ends

In other words, she doesn't know her faith in that marriage

ZeroShenanigan:
I'm above mid thirties, finished NYSC 2015 and i just secured a government teaching job after spending more than 3 years teaching in private schools. I met my wife earlier 2019, she was in her final year in school, we dated throughout the year and planned to get married after she graduated. She graduated and we make a move for our introduction, then we suggested to have the marriage before she go for her Nysc so as to enable her serve in our home state as I already have a rented apartment to start a small family.

As we were planning for the marriage, we were also planning her NYSC. She was required to have a medical certificate for the NYSC which of course required blood test including genotype. She came back with the result of her genotype as AS. That was the only time I remember to take genotype issue serious. Even if I have some little knowledge about it before, I decided to research more about it on the internet and also met some of my friends who are medically inclined. I came to realize my own genotype test is also important at that moment. I might have done the test in school but I didn't pay attention to it usefulness so I don't remember the result.

I don't usually fall sick except for normal malaria when there is mosquito bite, never had a drip line in my body for once, never slept in a hospital bed, I don't have any reason to take note of my genotype or blood test.

Her results then prompt me to have my own test done too which came out to be AS also. By these periods we have convinced our families to choose a date for the marriage so that we can have the wedding before her NYSC. Marriage is to hold in a week time when I got my own genotype result.
From my further findings about AS and AS couple, I discovered how risky it is for their offsprings. I tried to explain to her but she turned a deaf ear, she alleged me of trying to break her heart at that critical period. She reported to her sisters they tried to blame me but I make them all realized it's not my fault because throughout my visitation and introduction to their family nobody has ever ask us about genotype. I am an orphan, I don't have any closer family to guide me except for my sisters who can't wait for me to get married because of my age, they also had never thought of it as well.

My wife sisters gave us some examples of older couples who were both AS with only one or no sickler among their children. My wife also made a threat of killing herself or she kill me if the marriage didn't hold. She even suggested we proceed with the marriage and break up after few weeks of marriage because of the shame that may follow if we stop the marriage or maybe she was desperate because of the marriage certificate, I don't know. I maintained my stand of backing off the marriage but she reported to my sisters also. Her sisters and my sisters later tried to encourage us to go ahead with prayers since we have chosen the date. We were advised not to disclose our genotype result to anyone again because people will discourage us.

Even though I was skeptical about the marriage, it later commenced with less spending because the Nikkah was held in a mosque and a tent for refreshments.
After the marriage we tried to talk about it, and she told me, she was afraid, may be she was pregnant before the marriage that's why she insisted on going ahead with the marriage. She also revealed to me that she was not happy with the decision as well, means she also know the implications but she have to avoid the shame of stopping the marriage after inviting guests to the occasion.

During these period genotype before the marriage, my love for her reduced drastically because of her desperation and her refusal to understand the risk we are about to take. I tried to avoid pregnancy from our first month of marriage but I later gave up and she conceived immediately. Now she is closer to her delivery. We hardly talk or play together inside. We only discuss about feeding, maternity and things to get for the coming baby.
I discovered we quarrel over little things that can be over looked by lovers. I'm not happy in the marriage, I spend most of time watching TV or stay outside all day because of unresolved issues.

I'm planning to arrange for a divorce after she delivered the baby because this is my first baby and I would love to have 2 or 3 kids more. I can't take the risk of allowing any of my children to be a sickler.
Advise is needed if my plan for divorce is a good one and do I stand a chance of loosing anything?

Your stand was good at the initial stage, you had a firm grip of your decision until your sister and her sister teamed up to wash your brain

The she too, she knew the implications before the wedding and after the wedding she realised that it was a nasty decision

Just wait until the birth of your child
Before you can take any decision

As for your non Interest in her yes its obvious that she lured you and your mind isn't happy about it anymore

When women and men are desperate for marriage, it leads to so many errors