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Mhistasaints:
I've been married for four years now, and it seems my wife has become a stranger.

We've been having issues from the first year, mostly on different styles of life.
I am a guy who loves managing resources and very focused on achievements because I was born with a silver spoon but lost it due to the death of my father, I never wanted to experience the same thing as I did when he died.
She on the other hand is comfortable and okay with what she has, not too bothered about achievements.

I've been calling for management of resources for a while but she's the type that grew up in a very comfortable home and knows not how to manage resources.

Another issue on my part is that, she does not really care about how she looks and that's one of the things I care about.

I lost, or should I say resigned from my first job due to pressure and things became hard. I had to sell some of my landed properties so we could survive.

I got another Job and in six months, I made millions. We lived well until I wanted to chase my passion in banking again.

Got back into banking and to cut the story short, I met one lady where I was sent to. I loved her. I wish I had met her first honestly. In a year, she showed me a lot in the kind of woman I wanted. Then I lost my job again, this time because I wanted to go for youth service.

I got back home and I told my wife the game plan. I bought foodstuffs for at least two months and went for camp. In less than a week, my mother called me and was angry why I left my wife and two kids hungry. I exeated camp immediately and came back home. After investigating, I found out she sent the food to her mother who is an associate professor, without telling me and while she knows out conditions.

I got so angry. I wanted her out.
I considered things because my second child which she had by force is just 5months. She had the baby because she stopped taking contraceptives because of advice from people that if she has a male child for me, I'll stay.
After much, she can't leave, because who will take care of the boy?

Yesterday, she read my messages and discovered I was having an affair and wants to leave. I told the lady off this morning but, I still loved her.

I can't allow that. Even if she does, she has to wait for the boy to be at least a year old. Remember she was the one that wanted this baby, not me. Now she wants to leave the liability for me?
And I can't allow my kids to grow with her because I don't want them to learn such lifestyle.

What should I do?

If your joy is outside and you know how to handle both in and out

Then you are on top of your game

Dont let anyone determine your happiness

Meritjoshua:
My mom narrated how her husband(my step father) ran away leaving her with three kids. She is now working in a private h institution tho she isn't financialy boyant yet. She keep telling me to forgive her that she didn't delibratly leave me. She tried to brainwash me but i don't give a Bleep coz i didn't receive any parental care from her and my dad.
So my question is i do i cope coz my dad, step mom and the rest of the family didn't know that she has been calling me. I'm just afraid because it might cause issue in the future. I don't want to hurt my step mom. I don't want to snub my mom and l don't want to tell my dad about her. What do i do?

Keep everything secret and sort every one privately

Tayorshd87:
From a friend though


Am the last born in my family and there are too many ups and downs and wahala in my family because it was a polygamous home and my father was one of the man I mistakenly ever met on earth and unlucky for me he is my father 😭😢
So how I wish I should start my life with my own fresh lineage from my wife and children. Like I don't want to be part of the father tree again.

I gave birth 3days ago and I don't want my son to bear my surname 🤔 I want my own name to be his surname so my father lineage will be cut off
☹️

Please is there any future implications in this decision?
Or rather something bad behind this decision??

Thanks 😌

You have every right to name your child or children any of your three known names

It has no documental implications

It has no family implications

Its your choice to do so, so far your wife is consented to that

So go ahead and name your children surname to be any of your documented name

As a matter of fact, they can bear your two other names as a compound name, excluding your surname

Assuming you are Mr Kojo Peter efe

They can bear Peter Efe

They can bear Peter

They can bear Efe

It will be idle if your wife bears same with your children

Meritjoshua:
I applied for political science in unilorin during 2022 Utme but i was transferred to social work early this month.(it was due to their slow calendar and the strike)
i felt bad because social work sound lesser than political science. so my question is which one is better between the two?

I still prefer social worker to political science

With social worker, you can work in the hospitals and old people's home as care giver abroad

Dickcap:
Good morning Nairalanders
I would like to seek your advice. I'm presently working at a farm company where I hold the post of Assistant Manager. Forget the position I hold oo cause the salary is less than 60k.
Due to the harsh economy, we are currently facing, the CEO said he does not have the power to pay our salary again and that we should find a way to generate income to pay our salary.
It won't be hard for my team to generate income to pay salary but we would have problems with the CEO cause he's the kind of person that loves taking over any money we make from the farm

In that case, you can resign only if you have another option

Then try the second option and if you generate income, let's see his sharing formula

If you are not ok with it, just simply resign

Humblelion1987:
Good morning nairaland family, please I have a serious issue which I need your advice.
I met my fiancee 1st March 2022 and everything clicked, within few weeks, we are like people who have been together for years because we share many things in common, we are birthday mates, we like the same food, we are practically like twins. I work as a Key account manager in charge of my region in one of the leading multinational company here in Nigeria, why she works as an RN(registered nurse) in one of the top private hospital in the state I base too. I will be 33yrs by September while she will be 25years the same date and month. We are supposed to get married by May this year because am ready and she is ready too, but the parents have been frustrating me, one that am not from there state, we passed through that phase and fixed our traditional wedding next month, the mum and her people now came up with another issue that she must travel abroad before getting married, even when I have tried convincing them that I can't prevent there daughter from traveling even after marriage because I have been nursing same ambition too.

When I met my fiancee, she has been doing bad in her ihealth exams not until I came into her life. I have purchased the form three times in a space of 6 months plus her form for CBT and I do practically everything for my woman. Since we met, she doesn't touch her salary, she doesn't stress herself much about house duties, both washing, cooking and other things because as a bachelor, those are the things I enjoyed doing. I love her so much and she love me too, but am totally confused on what to do as the parents have said point blank that she can only get married when she travels to UK.

She had a serious fight with the parents last night and the mum even called me and told me that if I can't abide by there rules, I should forget about there daughter. Am the only son and my parents are not aware of the situation.

I don't know there problem because as a young man, I leave in a comfortable bungalow, drives good car outside my official car and equally employed one of her siblings on a temporary project am running for my office, which they both earn 60k monthly.

Please I need advise on how to go about this as I have two options in my mind. Should I move on and forget all the money I have spent so far or should I stand by my fiancee who loves me so much and finish the fight?

The problem here is your fiance and not your inlaw to be

She is the one to practically fight for this marriage if she actually wasn't the marriage to hold

So as it is now
I think you need to give her a break to sort herself out with her family

In that break, just move on, but still communicate with her if need be

Her parents wanted her to go abroad that was one of her reasons going in for nursing

So for her getting married here in Nigeria means that there plan's won't work

As an only son, you don't need marriage by conditions

If she really loves you, she will come back to you and her family will invite you for the marriage rights

If she doesn't love you, she will go like a wind

PatEinstEin:
Most Nigerians especially Igbos see the idea of moving back to their hometown as a defeat. If the City (for instance Lagos) becomes very difficult, I don't see anything wrong in relocating. There are people there afterall.

What are your thoughts on this?

If you move to overseas and later decided to relocate back to Nigeria

Are you progressing or are you retrogressing

talented321:
I see'' because many men who are married still masturbate
Anyways''' thanks

You are welcome

Danyel1z:
Most time when I lay on bed to sleep, I'll prefer to put the pillow on my head instead of the laying head on the pillow. Na pillow go dey on top my head instead of my head to be on top pillow

So far you will still have a good sleep with it

talented321:
Nah'' i don't think so'' reason is masturbation and sex has different feelings, because some men who are married still masturbate'' how will you talk about that?

I am not a man and can't speak for them

Newton2024:
Both

Dey play

Biodex58:
But why some women dey like this??
Manipulation mentality and they like to control.

frozen70

I think every woman falls into this category

I guess is nature

Did you remember how even manipulated Adam to eat the apple

Supremedrizzy:
Hi everyone, I have a little issue that I would appreciate your input. With the economic situation on the ground presently in the country it looks rather unnecessary to bother you guys with such a trivial matter but I still implore you to read through and give me your kind submissions. It's going to be a long read, please kindly bear with me.

I've been dating my girlfriend for over a year and six months now and while it has not been a smooth sailing we've manages to always sort our issues. I lost my major source of income about two months ago and even though I had our little side gig it was tough for me because the job constitutes about 80% of my income.

My girlfriend was staying with me while she was working on her project but my job loss affected the relationship because I was broke and to a slight extent extended the aggression to her. I stopped caring about her or giving her any attention because I channeled all my time into getting another job. This resulted in us having lots of fights now and then and to make matters worse she discovered she was pregnant.

With the situation of things breeding a child was a no-go area for both parties but then things were so difficult that I couldn't even afford an abortion then. During one of our arguments, she angrily told me that my nonchalant attitude toward her was making her seek attention from guys outside because she wants to be happy.

I took her statement with a pinch of salt because relationship-related matters were the last thing on my mind then. We later made up as usual, the next day she asked me if I wasn't eager to know the guy she was talking to, and I told her that I didn't care.

She kept mentioning it till I had to inquire about it, she narrated how the guy was someone she normally talks to online about our problems, they met once in a restaurant and the guy asked her out and she was contemplating accepting him because of how I was treating her blah blah but asked him to wait a bit while she sorted out things with me. He would only call her only when she flashes him and she always delete their chats she continued.

I waved away the matter because I had just gotten a new job though with much lesser pay than the previous one but I still channeled all my focus on my new job so I didn't want any distractions. A week later we had a serious fight that led to me asking her to leave, and even flung her things outside. She insisted on staying till I took care of the pregnancy. I reached out to a friend that owned a pharmacy store and he promised to come around and take care of the stuff.

While we were waiting for my friend she kept exchanging voice notes with the guy telling him how he was free to call her anytime he wants now because she has broken up with her guy. The guy on the other hand was apparently excited and couldn't hold his joy, he kept repeating how that day was the best day of his life because he had been waiting for her to break up with me. He immediately sent her money when she requested for tp and later offered to come pick her up from my place.

I think it's worth mentioning that I found out that the guy was a banker and was relatively more well-to-do than me. He allegedly drives an RX 350 while all I had was my leggediz Benz.

I ignored her initially but she kept rubbing her nonsense on my face in a bid to pepper me including telling the guy that she loved him after she got his alert. I deliberately made a few calls to other ladies telling one of them whom she knows that I was ready to be with her now and concentrate on her. She flared up and started screaming on top of her voice to the girls hearing that she was pregnant and all. She later started dragging my phone to know who the caller was, she found out it was someone she knew.

She chatted the girl up and began to slander me through voice notes. It was resulting to insults so I had to leave the house for her because she was beginning to get on my nerves. An elderly neighbor came and spoke to her while I was away so she called me and started apologizing blaming her actions on pregnancy hormones. I went back home and forgave her after asking her to end anything she has with the guy.

We didn't have any form of intimacy the following week because my libido was zero. During that period she was still in communication with the guy, answering his calls discreatly and deleting chats. I complained about her fishy attitude and she said it's because she didn't know how to tell the guy that we were back together and I also threatened her that I would reciprocate what she did to the lady that I called if I get hold of the guys contact. She decided to go home for a week to attend a relative's wedding and while she was packing I noticed she was packing almost everything. I remarked on it and she mumbled an inaudible response. While she was packing I farted while rushing to the toilet and she started scolding with loud voice. I got angry and told her that I couldn't wait for her to leave so I could have peace. She fired back that she would never come to my house again. I gave her tp and she left. We both knew it was breakup. Just before she left she got a call from someone the guy referred her to for a job. She called the guy thanking him and promised to see her that evening.


Just three days after she left, she chatted me up that she still loves me and wants us to get back together. She revealed that she couldn't develop feelings for the guy no matter how much she tried. The guy had been at her beck and call, buying shawarma and pizza for the whole house and using his car to run errands for her but somehow she still wants me. I asked her what she intends to do with the guy and she said she would open up and tell him everything that evening. I said okay.

She later called me that evening to narrate how she opened up to the guy and the guy was furious at her for leading him on and trying to get back to a guy she said treated her like shit. He ended up smashing his Samsung S2somthing on the wall and left angrily. So that was how we made up again.

She came back to the house days later so we could take care of our unfinished business, but I discovered she still had a soft spot for the guy. She always gets upset each time I use the guy to catch cruise the way she does to my female friends. She claims the guy was just a nice person to her and didn't deserve the things I said about him.

She missed his call one morning and was restless, said she was inquisitive to know why he called because he hadn't been online probably due to his bad phone. He chatted her up once night and they chatted for hours with the excuse that I was working on my laptop and was ignoring her. I worked throughout the night and slept around past 5 in the morning only to wake up around 8am to her talking to the guy in the kitchen. I gave her a stern warning to stop whatever rubbish she was up to with the guy again.

Her birthday is next week and I gave her 20k manage it anyhow that she can, I initially promised her 25k but had to reduce it because I had to send and urgent money to my mom. She later told me that this same guy was offering to bake a cake for her birthday. I told her that she likes complicating issues for herself since she would be celebrating the birthday in my house how is the guy supposed to give her the cake or is he going to bring it to my house? Of course she had no answers.

I told her to put the guy in his place and explain things to him, let him know that she's spending the day with me but if he's okay with bringing the cake to the house then fine. I saw her list this evening and noticed cake there so I asked her what was the outcome of her discussion with the guy, her mood changed instantly and she said that after explaining everything to the guy, he was upset and said I should handle everything myself and started ignoring her. She made a comment that the guy always responds to her online, but he's ignoring her now. It was obvious she was hurt because the guy has withdrawn the attention he was giving her.

I've asked her several times why she came back to me if she had feelings for the guy but she doesn't give me a concrete answer. How do you guys think I should navigate through this?

Please I am sorry for the lengthy post and any typos, I wanted to add most details for better understanding.

They play
So you are actually aware that your baby in the womb is actually being fathered by two men

Hope you are very ok with that

Honestly you are a weak man

That woman will continue to play you till nothing is left

talented321:
Thank u for the beautiful writeup'' but those women who uses this gadgets might problem with husbands? like cheating, sometimes tired and vice versa? Because some women love that masturbation more than normal sex,
Samantha123'' Royalroz come and explain more o

For any woman practicing such, means the husband has failed in that aspect
So she does that to help herself out, instead of the other way out

Newton2024:
Can daily sex with my wife makes me lose weight? Is sex an exercise?

You mean marathon sex or pleasure sex

Karen2024:
I have been housing my boyfriend for months now... meaning he's squatting with me. This useless good for nothing guy brought in another useless lady to sleep with her on our matrimonial bed, he had the guts to cheat while I tame my desires to have taste of other men. Should I send him packing? I'm still contemplating...

If it's possible that you have not made up your mind on what to do with that guy

Then wait till you find yourself in a situation where you will cry till day break

lavylilly:
From DM

Never mind
Enjoy what you have and probably get her pregnant anyhow

Once it gets to you that you have had enough children then you will definitely find a solution to either get a family planning for her or you find a way out

Because the problem here is about you

talented321:
To the doctors, women and men in the forum is there any disadvantage or side effect of women masturbation?. Because i have heard times without number that men masturbation causes different effects' but i harldly hear about our sisters or women masturbation has no side effect?

I believe the only effects of female masturbation is that
When she gets satisfied using that method
When she gets to orgasm with mere handling

What else does she need a man for

Most women that masturbate need little or less from a man

They can still be on a relationship and still perform the act especially when her man can't really satisfy her

She may only need a man when it's time for procreation

In another words it's a non medical effect act

pradoyeep:
There is this beautiful lady one of my siblings sent her pic to me. I and her sister have also discussed about her too, and I have started chatting with her. She looks beautiful for marriage, and may be a good wife, but this where one of the problems is.
Her same sister is married, but has tried seducing me at different points before. She told me verbally to do certain sexual stuffs with her, but I declined.
Now please reason with me. Assuming I marry this beautiful lady, what is my fate in the marriage if probably her sister seduces me continuously. What if the sister visits and stays in the house for weeks, and does seductions. Again, I don't know if this beautiful lady will have same attitude as the sister..

Should I forget about them? As me entering into such family may not be safe.
This is a real life stuff, and not a tale.
Kindly advise..

The issue here now is about your self discipline

Let her flaunt her self on you as much as she wants

Just maintain your stand

Where you can no longer help
You bleep her as thats the only way out

If she is married then she should hold herself and respect her marriage

Bigheart007:
I have been dating this girl for like 2 years now. When we started dating, she was a private school teacher. She was always complaining about the job being too stressful and the salary not worth the stress. I was always supporting her financially the best I can to pay her rent and feeding. In January this year, We agreed she resigns from the teaching job and come live with me while she searches for another job.

For over six months she was living with me, I was catering to her every need as she was jobless. She was behaving all good, humble, and nice. I felt we were a perfect match. I even went to see her family to collect the marriage list and we planned on a wedding around November.

Recently, a relative of hers who has a level in Government asked her to send him her Curriculum vitae to get her a federal job in one of the ministries. I was so happy for her. From the look of things, she might be earning more than me.

To cut the story short. Last Saturday I gave her money to go to a computer center and scan the necessary documents for her said relative for the job. She left the house around 10 am to do that, but when she came back around noon, she was entirely a different person. When I opened the door for her, she just walk past me without a word. I asked her if she succeeded in sending the documents, but she ignored me. Next, she started complaining about how dirty the house is and why I didn't sweep, clean, and cook something she will eat when she comes back. She was just walking up and down the house angrily. She said I should better start learning to help out with the house chores as I wouldn't expect her to do it all when she starts work soon. She even threatened that she will get her own house when she starts to work as she doesn't want me adding to her stress.

I was dumbfounded by her sudden change of attitude. We had a heated argument like we have never had before. She said so many hurting words to me that I can't say here.

I'm beginning to have a double mind toward her as it regards marriage. I feel like she just showed me her true color. She is yet to get an employment letter for the job and yet she is already acting up and looking down on me. What would happen when she now gets an employment letter to resume the job?

I'm confused about whether to continue with her or if I should end it all for my peace of mind.

Well I won't say end the relationship

Just allow her to keep exhibiting her real self

Let her get the job first

Let her pack out if she wishes

By then you can take a proper decision about her

Meanwhile you made an error asking her to stop her job and pack in with you

There was no need for that as she is not married to you for you to go to that extent

naptu2:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sq6zkBPF1J4



https://www.channelstv.com/2023/07/24/enugu-govt-seals-shops-observing-ipob-sit-at-home-order/

This is a wrong move

Why not send the security officials out every Monday so that people can have confidence and go out freely

Then when those idiots comes out to stop them from their daily activities you shoot then to deat immediately

People can only come out if they are sure of their safety

georgeakins:
Lazy Ndi Agbero full Onitsha, the cursed region.

Olusholamcleo:
I just passed the place now, it's as bubbling as usual, they didn't clear anything....probably they did that around 7:30am

And went back to their office and they came back again

So it's difficult to put a stop to it

thorpido:
Who is the 'their'?
Think and talk like someone who is educated o.
How does some people's indiscretion become 'culture'?

Swear you don't know them

They will definitely come back to trade there as they have no option despite they pay daily fees for selling there

jackmrandy:
There is a friend of mine whose girlfriend ended their relationship due to irreconcilable differences. The girl refused to listen to any advice and always believed her opinions were superior. The main issue that caused the breakup was related to relocation. The guy wanted his girlfriend to move to the same city so they could work and build their lives together, remaining close to each other. However, the girl was adamant and still expected him to cover her expenses.

Interestingly, the girl's brother is currently living with the guy in the same city and apartment. The brother claims he has nowhere else to go, lost his job, and the only other relative he had in the city hasn't been able to accommodate him since January due to one or two issues. Out of kindness, the guy allowed the brother to stay with him while he searched for work. Now, since the girl has ended the relationship, it has been over 7 days, and she hasn't attempted to reach out to resolve the situation. This has left the guy feeling suspicious, wondering if the whole situation was a setup from the beginning.

The question now is whether it's a good idea for the guy to end ties with the brother by asking him to move out of his house, especially since the girl has made it clear she's not interested in relocating to be with him and that he should move on with his life.

For those who have experienced similar situations, how did you handle it? Any advice or personal experiences would be greatly appreciated.

The issue here is just funny
Let him not use the action of his girlfriend to treat the guy

The girl friend was never serious and no one knows her plans

So she should be left the way she has put herself
Meaning that he should ghost her too

Now to his visitor, he can tell him in two weeks time, he wants him to leave the house and if he intend traveling home, he would give him transportation

With these he has tried for him and if the girl friend gets information of this, she may start coming to the guy

Then that means he is using the guy to host her brother

Well if am the guy, he should just end the relationship at this point if he knows that he can't stand her dramatic life

SPAMBOX7:
We being dating like 7 months now and she been all good, zero red flags till recently.
So what happened is she had a fight with her sister and she called to hear my opinion. I told her it's a family issue let them settle it amicably.

Omo na so this girl sent me a message on whatsapp that she doesn't blame me.
I was like how? What did I do?. She didn't answer. After like 30min I called and she didn't pick. She stopped picking my call.

We was to meet that day so I told her I don't understand her behavior so there is no need for us to see again.
Na so the girl just replied with "wow nice, have a nice day"
"good bye".

Note that she's never displayed this type of behavior before. Maybe she was only pretending all this while.
But since then we haven't spoken to anyone it's been over a week now. So recently she changed her dp to one guy.

This na person wey never put my pic on her dp before. I'm thinking she's just trying to get on my nerves or play games but since I am not the type that play their games I'm thinking it's best I just block her and move on.

Anyways guys what do you think about this?

No need to block her, it hasn't gotten that point

But at the same time just ignore her with all her drama to get your attention

Dont even chat her up

Time will tell

specialjude:
Thanks falcon 01. The issue is convincing this person to even love themselves. The more you try to talk them into loving themselves, the more they seem lost.

Their must be a reason for that person to luck up himself or herself without love

Even as you love that person, are you getting the same live back to yourself

Whazar:
Well Mynd44 I know it was you and you did it for Moh247 or so

I am glad I kept to my promise of not creating another moniker while the ban last cos I had time to grow my Twitter account and learn more tech skills


Missed you guys

Welcome back though it can be hurtful but you did well not creating another account and use that opportunity to develop other areas of your life

IconicR:
Someone I know is secretly dating her cousin's husband, the said man was responsible for this lady's new job and she works directly under the man , same office and everything.

They all work at the same place but wife works in a different department, the annoying part is that this lady is far older than her cousin, a divorcee who is yet to remarry. I saw all their love messages to each other but they've not had sex because the man was complaining that she claims to love him but they have never made the love. I stumbled on all these when she asked me to take a picture of her with her phone and the love messages of that man came in, I quickly exported all their chats to my phone and I saw everything, I couldn't even sleep that day because this aunty is the last person I ever expect such deadly snaky habits from.

Now whenever I see all of them together I cringe, knowing fully well what's secretly going on. The thing is bordering me and I feel I should exposed them before they commit the abominable act of sex

Though from their chats she has resisted all kinds of moves from the man aside their exchange of love words. Another side is that this aunty and the man travelled together recently and came back the next day but from their conversation it doesn't look like anything happened but I don't know if they slept in different rooms.

Aunty has always told the man that she won't do anything with him that will hurt her cousin but the man keeps pressuring her. So my own is I'm so uncomfortable keeping this secret , I'm so tempted to confront this aunty that I know what she's doing but I'm still holding myself back.

What do I do please because I can't promise of keeping this secret and minding my business, I just can't.

Please how do I go about this?

Honestly, I think you should just mind your business and save your head

They are adults and what's the essence if confronting an adult who already refused sleeping with him yet

Just leave them

1stbest:
Please between this three power bank which is better?
Transparent power bank 30,000mah
Oraimo 30,000mah
New Aga 30,000mah.

All are almost the same price.

I have used New Age the 27000Mah

I used it for like 2/3yrs and it's starts dropping, nut initially it was good

Now am on Oraimo 20000Mah

No regret so far

I don't know anything about transperent power bank

Ilekokonit:
I see relationships or marriage as a form of bondage for men

When a man is single, he is as free as a bird with no care in the world. He can come and go as he feels like and he is not carrying the worry, thoughts or responsibilities of a woman on his mind.

The minute the man loses guard or gets sucked or drawn into a relationship, alas, the above freedom disappears gradually to be replaced by a life full of drama, mind games and utter foolishness / bullshit that the new woman WILL bring into his life.

For one, he is no longer carefree as he will start trying to please the so called woman either in little ways or big ways.

He can no longer switch off his phone to get some peace as the woman will accuse him of cheating.

He can no longer decide that he wants to go to a beer parlour and come back home after midnight as the woman will be disturbing him with phone calls.

Her responsibilities big or small suddenly start weighing on his mind and even if she does not ask him for help directly, the fact that she has mentioned her problem to him means his mind will start working subconsciously on trying to solve her problems whereas his own problems many o.

And the funny thing is that these ignoramuses think they know it all and their folly is soon exposed when you are telling them the truth and they think you are lying maybe because they are unrepentant liars themselves.

I'm personally beginning to think that there is NO NEED for a man to ever lay up future problems for himself by getting into a relationship with a woman be that temporarily or in a marriage.

Life is just too short for a man to deal with the CERTAIN DRAMA and ENERGY / RESOURCE DRAIN that a woman WILL bring to a mans life.

Marriage is for a man to have a continuous family of his own and that doesn't stop him from his freedom of any sought
In other words, marriage doesn't cage a man

Then the real act of marriage favour's women because she has birthed a child for the man

So his wife and his children eventually looks like she came into the marriage and brought her friends(children) to be entertained by the man

frozen70:
Congratulations in advance
Dey play

kodab:
no mock me abeg I only ask for help because I'm having pity for the girl because I don't wanna denied her the pregnancy if not I no go dey ask good fellas on nairaland for help

You dont want to deny her the pregnancy

From all your naration,
What makes you think that the pregnancy is yours 🙄🙄

Just leave that girl let's see the out come of this arborted coup

DNA will prove it