kodab: Hello good fellas on nairaland ,me and dis girl meet last month, although I lie to her I'm single,I told her I don't have a girlfriend so she believes me,so we start our relationship journey , last week we had our first sex although she told me that she's still a virgin and I said okay ,but I was surprised when I dip my fingers into her vagina ,I didn't any blood so I was confused,but she feeling pain badly,so I romance the hell out of her ,I insert my dick but I remove it quickly because I'm not wearing condom,so like 1 week time again ,I had sex with her I didn't Bleep her but it's only kissing sucking nipples and fingering,so yesterday again I just dip my dick but I didn't cum inside her,but today she's now telling me she's feeling dizzy, please what does she mean
Agozskey: Hi guys, I know u guys will banter me... I accept any form of insult tnx... My girlfriend and I have been together for a year now and the relationship has been great, so we usually have unprotected sex buh I make sure I don't release inside her buh as God may have it, we found out she was pregnant and I wanted to keep the bby buh she didn't want to keep the pregnancy, so we decided to abort it, which we did with the help of one of our friends (girl). The first week wasn't okay, because she was experiencing pains everyday, due to the abortion, the second week seemed perfect no issues, she wasn't feeling anything at all. This week now all of a sudden she's exhibiting symptoms again... And she has not seen her period, meanwhile we've not had sex since... I don't understand again, I'm not really ready financially yet, buh I'm a bit okay buh the problem is her family, She's just 19 and I'm 22, pls any advice... Thank you
Stop all this gambling with her womb before it gets destroyed by careless abortions
Is either it was not properly terminated
It could actually be a twin pregnancy and the other still intact
May be she will later have a miscarriage because the process of pregnancy has been altered and may affect other things
Just take her to the hospital for proper diagnoses
turmacs: My BF has been away for almost a week and he's going to be away for 3 weeks... I'm currently alone in this house and I don't like masturbation, I've done it Once and swore never to do it again...But now, how do I satisfy my urges without him? I don't plan on cheating but this thing is really not easy...I really miss that big fat Penis ramming back and forth against the walls of this kpekus, firing on all cylinders Ladies please help me with tips to overcome this konji apart from self service,lemme nor die here
Nothing much, next time follow him to wherever he is going and be ready to pay for the lodging depending on how many days he will stay so that you will have him as you want
Sotechsweetpie: Good day everyone , I need your advice on this. I started using this 4real whitening lotion for the past two weeks now and I notice some changes on my face! Changes like face peeling and some spots on my neck .. I need advice on what to do ? Moreover I got it from a cream vendor that I told I wanted to maintain my skin.
Stop it out rightly and allow your face to return to normal
Then look for a creme to be rubbing after birth
Apply simple make up and your beauty will come out
You have a good complexion already so don't destroy your face with all these bad mixtures out there
Once your face gets burnt that's the begging of your facial problems
Ghotze: Well, during my study years in the university, i came across a school of thought that discouraged building your own house - depending on some factors - because you may end up utilizing money that would have been used for other investments to build to a house when you could have rented a space and saved to grow your money. It is said that the landlords who rent out their houses may never recoup their monies spent on that housing project. It makes alot of sense but still the factors would have to be favourable for you to choose an option of either to rent or build your own house. what do you think?
I will look for a location where I can afford to buy land and build gradually
After building I will attach a boys quarter and put it up for rent
When it gets to the point where I can no longer afford rent or when I am getting old, whichever that comes first, I will move to my house
baloney: Sudden dizziness nairalander, how do I get rid(cure) of sudden dizziness & bad nervous conditions, & I will appreciate if nairalander can post practical comment based on experience.
To be very enough, hv try visiting the health institution, it seem like am been pilling up unnecessary file paper works .
Nairalander what what what!!!!!!! Am still in shock of this situation/condition, infact am not liking it at all..
You are going through a medical issue
Try and check your BP and if it's above the required numbers then see a Doctor for proper medication
Please am thinking of going into Poultry but unfortunately I don't know much about it but a friend though anyway but I just want to know if anyone here would advice me if the business is a good one and as well educate me on how to go into it and how much is needed because am actually thinking of starting with like 200 birds.
Thank you.
You need a first hand learning experience on what goes in and out of poultry
You see that bird called BROILER, is the most fragile bird to keep
They are not as strong as others and just ordinary heat, you will wake up one day and see all of them stone dead
I will prefer you go in for turkey too, the local one has the ability to withstand all weather conditions
They grow impressively too and they consume the same amount of food like other birds
Then Noilers are ok and still better than broilers
Anytime we had an argument with my wife, she utter some words that I can't even tell that to my enemy...."I am tired of the marriage", "I am always praying for u to die" " I always pray something terrible should happen to you" and so on....
I am Muslim, we are married three years ago and blessed with one child, I can't stay for a good one week in my house peacefully without having misunderstanding with her......i am depressed, worried, always thinking.....
If you are very sure you have never used such a dirty word on her and she is using it on you freely
Just send her home to her parents for a refresher course in marriage
And if you are already tired of her just consider giving her a threat of pulling out of the marriage like a separation maybe that will touch her to change her attitude
nkemjacob2: Let me share few stories A lady and I were having a conversation. We citing an example of Ned and Regina Daniel case; she jumped into conclusion that she also do the same if she has opportunity. She said she won't marry for love but will be comfortable if a man who is wealthy can pay her bills.
I was speaking with my others guys and I one of them told me. He is not ready to marry/settle down he would just pregnant a lady foot the bills of the girl and the baby he is achieved.
I don't want to emphasize more on the countless failed marriages we are having in our society.
Do people value d importance of marriage these days
As it is now, marriage has changed from what it was originally
People view marriage from different perspective
So just choose your own dream of marriage and actualize it That's all
Over years, I understand that in their culture, they practice casual marriage, where by Once you are pregnant for a man, it's automatically that the man is your husband and you are his wife
This unrecognized system have made so many children to be wandering about because they neither belong to their mother or their father family's and as such, the child doesn't really belong to any where
They should practice their marriage like other tribes where proper marriage rights will be perform so that the woman will remain in her husband house instead of giving births to so many children for different fathers
That was why she was able to manipulate all these men
Pastor137: Good day Nairalanders. So for three days, I've been having constant headache like someone is hitting hammer on my head morning and night. Been on some painkillers but they have little or no effect.
Treated malaria and typhoid last week. Please what could be the problem please as It's really affecting my productivity at work.
Headache is a sign of so many things in the body
It could be BP It could be stress It could be worries It just be anything
So try and check your BP or run a general medical test
If it's will be too expensive
Take a week break from work and have some rest at home
nickyvil: And one more thing, we will have a proper documentation at the police that your daughter will be staying with me. I don't want a story like, they kidnapped my daughter cos something like that was reported of recent. I have to be on a safe side.
Just involve a lawyer and she too will involve her own lawyer to avoid issues of child theft
MALIGNANTHost: Good morning NLers, This is a new relationship less than six months and a long-distance one.
The guy confronted his girlfriend whether she's having a male bestie and the girl acknowledged.
The girl said that the bestie is even the one making her dreadlocks.
After the chat, the girlfriend made it clear to his boyfriend that she would rather break up the relationship than for her to leave the male bestie as her bestie has done for her what no guy including the current boyfriend can do.
What's the way forward please
The way forward is that, she prefer her bestie rather than her current boyfriend and she is not ready to loose her relationship with her bestie
So, the guy already knows that Its left for him to walk away on time and leave her with her bestie or remain in the relationship and be prepared to accept nonsense outcome
IconicR: Seriously I've seen more marriages of uneducated couples lasting very long than the educated ones, what could be the reason for this?
The non educated ones don't have standards so they accept any thing that comes around and don't usually argue because they are not educated enough to start arguing on what they don't know about. They plan on what they nerd to sustain each day because of their financial capacity. Inflation and economics situation is not what they should be arguing about because they don't know the indices
The educated ones claim to know everything and already know what they want base on their class and levels So they will always argue because each other knows what the other one is upto
So when they don't accomplish any target it will be a subject of arguments why it failed and they will blame each other with valid point and still go back to put it right They are conscious of the economic situations and don't want to drop from their standards as it will affect thier status So their will always be an argument because one claims to know more than the other
BItt: I had this girl I met in year 2020 during the covid period. It was hard to get her. She was much younger and had more attention.
During that period I was out of jobs and was struggling. I hardly had enough to take care of myself but she did not trouble me much. She was in the habit of buying things for me no matter how little it was. I was also reasonable enough to buy her more.
At a point in 2021 I got a job in another state. It took a while before I could save up and asked her to come.
She's asking us to get married but I am trying to explain to her what I am earning is not enough to start a home yet. Apart from that what she has is an olevel and some business she does online. She is still dependent on me for alot.
Yesterday, I took her out to an eatry and when we got back home, she suggested we took a Blood oath. Blood oath that neither of us will leave each other. How do girls get to know and believe all these stuff?
She said we will pierce each other's left thumb, press it against each others thumb and say the oath. I don't know if it works but I feel strange about doing it.
If you like, loose your guard because of a woman
If you know that truly you are not capable of raising a family now, let her know that you are not ready for marriage in the next 10yrs and you want to let her know that incase she has any one coming for her hand in marriage, she is free to go
You have to let her know on time that you don't want any careless pregnancy as you can't afford to father a child now
For her to talk about blood oat actually means that she wants you to commit yourself to her for life
Who does that?
And yet some people will say that women have fish brain, when I know that an average woman knows what she wants from any relationship and will definitely work towards it
Bekeey: Good day my people. No long story, 2days ago, I got some money that someone meant to send to my account 30k for the job I did for him. So I decided to send the money to my wife's account. Could you believe that for past two days, my wife have not discussed such transaction to me. I expected her to tell me that night the transactions was made that she got some money she doesn't know the sender. But to my greatest surprise she has not disclose such to me.
Please, what should I do and what does that implies?
I am planning to confront her tonight once I got home from work. Or should I hold on for her to consume the money and later mandate her to pay me or tell me what she used the money for.
I'm just confused why my wife couldn't discussed such thing to her husband. What should I do please my people?
You have not told us the real reason you sent that money to her account and you want her to respond to that amount when you know that she already told you what she need money for and the amount needed to settle whatever she needs the money for
Assuming she requested for 150k and you sent that 30k, mind you she is already beefing for you, so she is expecting you to say something for sending money that is below what she need and you are expecting her to comment on a low alert
Well both of you know what you are doing
If you know that, you are supposed to be appreciated go ahead and ask her
Am sure her silent means alot and you know very well
So don't come here to paint a picture of an ungrateful woman
When a woman is on silent treatment, something is wrong along the line
NVera: Good day everyone. With the unbelievable increments in almost everything in Nigeria, how does the poor survive? Most people were complaining when petrol was #200plus, now it is #600plus. A bag of rice can barely be purchased by the average family, some people are being paid peanuts as salaries, they are barely surviving. With hope they keep believing things will be better, but the price of basic things keeps skyrocketing as if armed men are chasing them. How do people earning #20,000, #30,000 per month survive? Some families with 3 to 4 kids, how will they survive? The cost of daily transport alone is killing, do our leaders ever consider those living below par, how they survive? The poor are getting poorer, everyone is complaining, people are frustrated, most people can barely see what to eat.
The poor among us, what should they do? Because with all this it's just like they are saying the poor should go and die.
Funny as it is, no body will die out of hunger
The poor are already used to hard times and they already know how to survive this harsh condition because they are floating already since they don't have a standard
The rich suffers it more because they already have a standard and are finding it difficult to fall below standard because of class and position in the society
So in all, we must limit the number of children to two or three no matter our income
Then we can adjust in other things that bother on family
In my own case and for the past 10yrs now I and my hubby have cut down our expenses through combine cooperations
I have three children so I already prepared for it
For going to about two months now, I don't drive my car again to work but just to church
I don't go visiting people anyhow, we can chat or call unless when needed
I don't run Gen again at night, once we take dinner by 6/7pm, you are free to go to bed and if it must be on, just 1hr and you do whatever you need it for immediately
I regulates electricity at home because of prepaid meter and my husband makes sure we don't on unnecessary lights
I cook and store in the freezer to avoid going to the market all the time
I eat twice a day to save cost
I stopped watching tiktok because of wasting of my data
I un-installed candy crush because it sucks my data
Honestly, I have to cut down on so many things and still willing to cut down or more
With the above, I am not really feeling the harsh economy though because I have already cut down my cost of running my family during Jonathan's regime and am use to it before this shege Promax regime
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Cuteness4real: I have to join the forum to share my current situation. Maybe I can feel more better. I've always been an offline reader.
I'm a single mother of two. So far, I have been able to saved 300k. My house rent of 260k is experiring next month, my first son is entering secondary school in September. I'm getting too worried on how I'm going to meet up. I'm into buying and selling business, some times, one may not sell out for two to three months. right now, I don't want to scatter this money Incase I can't gather it back before ending of next month. I don't want to default in paying my rent. Moving to cheaper accommodation is not an option. I love this particular apartment because the environment is lovely with nice neighbors. We're like families.
Pls, what's your opinion/suggestion/advice on this?
What kind of business can you advise me to quickly do to add little profit before ending of next month, so I don't go empty after paying my rent? What's your opinion/advice/experience on sending a 9yrs old child to a government secondary school? Because, if I can't afford our desired private school, I might send him to government sch. Matured mind pls.
If at nine year he is intelligent enough to enter JS 1and can stand or match with his peers in JS 1
Send him to public school and after school engage him with a lesson teacher
sholay4star: With no visible house on sight, the bee will just fly around then land a deadly sting, we've chased them from 2 hives so far, any idea of what can be done? Sadly, I'm always their target.
Is there any iota of true love when a couple is making love together and the wife places her two hands to cover her breasts so that the husband could not have access to them and also put her face away to avoid kissing her man?
This is about to cause separation in a marriage. Opinion please.
Is better they are separated than this half meal being serve
Emanodimo: With below comment, your first opinion contradict your further statement Both of you don't usually communicate as couple and discuss together on family issues thats why he didn't care to ask you what name to put on the land and you didn't ask him what name is he putting there
If only she has met the first condition To be honest, if the money he use in buying the land is his money only, he has the right to write any ones name, he can even choose to put his mother's name as he so wishes
We have couples who leave together yet don't discuss issues like this for reasons best known to them
So many couples are not relating as expected yet the ma still carry out his responsibilitys at home but both if them knows that there is no synergy
The main issue here is that the man bought a land which he informed her about it
So since he didn't include her name Did he give her the documents to keep Did he keep the documents at home
If yes then no issues If no, then e get as e bi
But so far the man is still living they both owns it
Ijelenwanyioma: I am legally married to this man and we have 3 sons together. Recently he purchased some land which he actually told me about but when I checked the documents of all the land I only saw Mr(his name in full) and not Mr & Mrs (his name and surname) or Mr (his name ) and Mrs (My name ). This really gave me great concern and when I asked him, he told me it doesn't really count because the properties also belong to my children. Later he started accusing me that I am nursing ulterior motive in my heart and maybe I want to take over the properties which is blantly lies. I just want to feel ownership of the land too
Please am I overreacting on this issue truly or my husband is planning something behind me ( maybe remarrying)
To be honest, if the money he use in buying the land is his money only, he has the right to write any ones name, he can even choose to put his mother's name as he so wishes
But if you contributed a percentage to the money, thats when your demand will be authorized
Now the real issue
Both of you don't usually communicate as couple and discuss together on family issues thats why he didn't care to ask you what name to put on the land and you didn't ask him what name is he putting there
However, so far he carried you along before the purchase and after the purchase he has done what is expected of him
What next The next thing is to start discussing ideas on what building plans he has in mind
Is it for private or For commercial
This are the issues you have to be sharing with him, that will bring a synergy to both of you
As far as he is still alive that land belongs to you and him, But I can't really say what will be if he is not there
If he had wanted to actually involve you, he would have handed that land documents over to you, whether your name is there or not Just for you to keep it for safe keeping since you are couples
But there is a limit to what you can drag with him over that purchase and if he doesn't give you the documents to keep or you don't know where he kept the documents, then he must have given it to his family members to keep
So may God keep both of you alive to build and live there peacefully
Just relax and keep loving him ans take care of the family together
He may not even have any hidden agenda But you can't really tell
Yes you have three boys for him, you are not in his mind and can't say what is in his mind
BscHolder: Good afternoon guys. For all users of fairmoney lending services I don't know if I'm the only one that noticed fairmoney is quite stingy with loans. I have been using their services without defaulting for once..
So recently I was owing a certain amount while the due date for repayment was approaching, so I used all my last resources to pay off the debt hoping to get another loan so I'll use the proceeds of the loan and survive till 1st week of next month as soon as salary is being paid but can you imagine immediately I paid off my loan and applied for another loan, the response I received was that I am not eligible for another loan. Grossss! I was so disappointed, waited several days and kept applying and I'm still being given the same response.
I went to their page on facebook and met numerous users complaining why fairmoney hardly grants money these days to their customers I mean those customers with good credit score. Out of frustration I tried okash and palmcredit for the first time and still couldn't give loan. I'm just tired and disappointed. Fair money can disappoint.
Now I dey look for urgent cash to use hold body till 1st when salary enter. Cc frozen70
You registered less than a month ago Now you are calling @ frozen
Mellow85: I'm a young man of 38, there is a lady I'm dating but unfortunately the girl is afraid because my dad is having relationship with her mum. Her mum is a single mother and my mum is dead. She is afraid because sh felt she would break her mum's heart if she could know. But d plan is not to flirt and leave each other but to marry her properly. W both have this huge feeling for each other. But I told her it's nothing, it depends on myself and her.
Pls hope it's not a bad thing if w both marry due to do relationship of our parents..
Pls house I need contributions to ease my worries..
Thanks.
Why is she scared of her mum
Is your dad planning to marry her mum
Well in this case, make sure her mum supports and give her full consent to the relationship if that's the case
Once her mum is against it, just forget it
Fear women for they can go any length build or destroy things
guobe: Most of the single girls have a boyfriend in Nigeria they call all the time and the boyfriends are even on monthly dollar stipend. The boyfriend in Nigeria have girlfriend or girlfriends as the case may be.The boyfriend in Nigeria knows that girlfriend abroad has a boyfriend who may be a white guy as the case may be. The boyfriend in Nigeria may even advise his girlfriend abroad to get pregnant for the white guy abroad so as to have papers. The white boyfriend above is not ready to have kid with the Nigerian girl and makes love to her always with a condom. The boyfriend in Nigeria advises her to leave the white guy and go for another white guy as this present one is not ready. She refuted the advise and the boyfriend in Nigeria blocks her.she begs him to unblock her that she can't live without him. It's a hell lot of a messy triangle. God save somebody's daughter.
Farthing02: I’m on the verge of proposing marriage to my girlfriend whom have been dating for 2years now, but the issue is the frequent quarrels we do have over everything.
She disrespects me a lot and this sometimes lead physical confrontations .
This is making me contemplate to secretly call her dad to inquire why he’s separated from my girlfriend's mother, because she was raised by her mother alone alongside two other sisters and the man is happily remarried with other grown up kids.
I really would love to inquire why he left her because they are really bitter against him due to the fact that he neglected them according to what the mother once told me.
I think you should mind your business by not asking any questions relating to that so that you will not create problems for them because you will leak your conversations to your girlfriend and if tomorrow you guys don't fet along She will blame her dad for spoiling her marriage plans
Besides all you want the man to tell you is already what you may have known or have been seeing
The real issue is If you want to marry that girl and be ready to tolerate her, then go ahead
If you don't want her and can't stand her attitude, let her go on time
Dont keep her for nothing then later you walk out of the relationship you may not find it easy after all
Trying2BeStronG: Good evening guys. All I am about to say right now is true and based on what is currently happening in my life. I am a vibrant 28years old guy, completed school, has worked good jobs over the years, spent some couple of years abroad also.
However, something seems to be killing me deeply which is BETTING. I started since the inception of bet9ja and have grown over the years to become a staunch addict. I am so addicted to the extent I constantly used my salaries and even went to the extent of taken several loans to play bet. I try to balance between my salaries and the debt I owe.
I left Nigeria and travelled abroad, all through my stay abroad I could not save a dime due to betting even as I was earning a very cool salary. Recently I came back to Nigeria and I arrived to stay at my parents place for like 2 months and you know what, I came back with barely nothing . I have now taken my addiction to an extent of even taking money from my mum and sister's bank account to fund my betting lifestyle only for me to lose all this money with no means to refund them back.
. Tonight my mum called me to talk about the money and I truly felt so bad, we all know how sharp the words of African mum can be. I don't know what to do anymore, maybe I am being possessed or I am having a spiritual attacks I can't really say. I just can't get it straight anymore.
Honestly, I have been feeling depressed and having mood swings recently to the extent of even contemplating suicide but I am trying to stay strong. Instead of committing suicide I am planning to leave the house without notice and move on with my life somewhere else. I have failed my Family woefully .
You dont have any spiritual problem The problem you are facing is your life style and the habit you formed from betting and nothing else
You need a girlfriend who is very organize to help reset your life password
That is if you will be willing to take corrections from her and be ready to make a change before it will be too late
Corn247: Hahaha .. Greedy fool, just because you want to live in Lagos.
All igbos and SS ethnic groups will be displaced off their gas and crude oil lands within 10 years. They will wipe you all out if you fail to leave since everywhere will become no man's land.
Romance › Re: I Don't Know Maybe She's Pregnant Or Not by frozen70(f): 9:43pm On Jul 23, 2023
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.. Greedy fool, just because you want to live in Lagos.