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Meritjoshua:
I made a thread about two months ago about my white garment girlfriend and how she conolised my diçk.
I'm fed up with her but she doesn't want me to leave. Tho my gbola is now working perfectly but that was after several apologies.
I am planning to move on with my life, i wanted to turn a new leaf but she's admant and refused to let me go. What can i do?.
I'm tired of the relationship because she is obsessed with s£x, juju and over religious. She can't do anything without her prophetess.
What can i do to free my self? .

You have to draw yourself closer to God to be able to withdraw yourself in any way you choose to

Stop anything sex and romantic actions from her

Start going to churches to fight that battle with prayers

Alapogentle:
@frozen70 ma pls don't forget me

I think you are so much in a hurry
Pls lets forget about it

Kylekent59:
All the guys allowing a woman sleep over in their houses.

Imagine an innocent man allowed his girlfriend to sleep in his house for the night only for her to fall I'll that night and died.

Who would be held responsible?

Autopsy will determine the cause of death in this circumstance

But in a situation of this current topic, he actually killed her and can't deny that with her corpse in that condition in his house

Alapogentle:
mama pls I'm relying on you abeg answer me 😭

Send your account

iwillnevergiveup:
When a girl you are not that familiar with, but you both are neighbors and on speaking term starts bringing you food what does it mean.

So far you are a matured man
Whatever meaning you reason out of it,
Is exactly what the message of her serving you that food

The ball is rolling play it or stop it

peretei2024:
My fellow Nairalanders,

Tell me why I must forgive my daddy and my Late Mummy.

I was 4years while my elder Sister was 6years when my daddy and my Mummy had a serious misunderstanding, so few weeks later, my daddy was transferred to Kaduna from Lagos being a Solder ( who knows I he was the on that requested for that).

On one fateful day, my Mummy went to the market to buy some stuffs in the Market, then here com my Daddy's younger Sister( Aunt) with a vehicle. She forced I and my elder Sister to the vehicle and moved is straight to my Daddy's village in Ondo State. We cried, cried ,
and cried but our tears couldn't saved us.

Finally we landed in a village where there is no light, no hospitals, no good schools, in the hand of strange people we don't know.

Remember I said we were moved when I was 4years. Now at 5years in the village, daddy never visited, mummy never visited, so I had to start tapping Palmwine just to raise money to start my Primary school in the village. After a year or so, I was able to get some money to pay for my Primary school. I decided that I can't continue with this Palmwine tapping at this year, so I work hard and raise some money to start selling bottles of kerosene to sponsor myself from Primary to Secondary school.

When I was in JSS3 , my Elder Sister got pregnant for a guy out of frustration and betrayal from the path of our Parents who abandoned us for years. Our Uncle in the village who never care about us , informed my daddy that his daughter is pregnant for a guy ooh, then my daddy said the guy must marry her . Finally the guy agreed, then my daddy who never visited us for over 15years came down to the village because of the money he will collect.

After marriage rites, I was taken to Lagos by my elder brother.

Note: my Mummy whom I never see for over 15years knicked me out of the house after spending just 1week with her in the house. Her complain was that I believe like a bush boy.

My elder Sister is still married to the guy in the village and she can't even express herself in English, and this is a lady that was born here in Lagos.

Tell me how I will forgive them after going through hell because of selfish Parents.

My mummy died 4years ago but I didn't even know where her grave is because we were never in good terms and till tomorrow, I will not forgive her not even my daddy.

Sorry about such emotional pains you passed through form a very tender age

As for your mum, forgive her for she is already gone and you need to free your mind and be happy

As for your dad who is still alive, just leave that man first

Find your bearing and stand well

A time will come when he will looks for you

You will serve him the same way he served you

SamuelAnyawu:
What's the specification?
Manual or Automatic
5kg?

Please I want to go with your exact suggestion

This particular one is manual which is easier to operate and repair incase it spoils

Those automatic, the repairs are always done by expects

I will not recommend you go for 5kg because you will still use it as a family when you have children and the capacity won't carry you guys

But then, go to their sales outlets and see the tub sizes then decide whether to go for 5kg or 6kg or 7kg

Get what you want once and for all

DECENTBWOY:
Good morning nairalanders, I know its too early to post this but this issue has been troubling me for a while now.
I can't sleep, even if i eventually do, i can't stay asleep, for example if i sleep by 2am, i will wake up by 4am and thats it for that night.
It has been going on for months now, and i hardly sleep in the afternoon too..
If you observe when i made this post, I slept around 3am because today is my birthday, i was answering calls and chats from well wishers, now i am up again around 5, thats why i made this post, i am fed up...

Please can you guys suggest a very strong sleeping tablet for me? I really need to sleep and stay asleep, i mean lock everywhere up, eat, take the tablet and sleep a very deep sleep, a kind of sleep that i will not know what is happening around...

Please help a brother, i don even begin de slim like who them de squeeze blood commut for body....

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO MY HUMBLE SELF BTW...

Happy birthday to you

You dont need any drug to make you sleep not even at this your youth

Learn to take care of yourself

Pamper yourself and give yourself what your body need

If your job is stressful then find a way to manage the stress

If you are having any issues that is bordering you, is either you solve that issue and let go what you will need to let go

Or you confront that issue once and for all

I want to believe that you don't have any medical conditions

But your minds must be put to rest of whatever worries and your state if emotion must be at optimum level to get that perfect natural sleep

Once again don't take that sleeping drug it will trigger a more problems

Alapogentle:
ATM I don't have anything tangible doing, finished nysc not long ago. Last year I lost my savings due to my carelessness and I'm yet to recover from it

But you can't remain like this naw

Just go round you will see posters for job so far it's not a toilet cleaning job

Some Federal jobs application is online why not search on them

Alapogentle:
I've seen situation where nairalanders help someone when dae contemplating to kill theirselves due to hardship more than 5x,,, someone should just help me with money to eat I'm willing to work for it na hunger keep me awake now

What do you do for a living

As in what you do that has been sustaining you before now

Is it that you went broke or you don't have something tangible doing

Kumta:
Greetings.
I was born in the late 80's precisely 1987. I reduced my age to 1990 when I was about to start my undergraduate program, thinking I will be able to serve when I graduate. But because of the corona and ASUU strikes,I couldn't graduate as planned. Now if I need to reduce my age again so as to be able to serve. Please my people I really need the money for the service but I am equally scared of the implications of age reduction in the future. Because now that they are writing date of birth on NYSC certificate,any date of birth that I use to enter camp will be irreversible and I will have to neglect my diploma and advanced Diploma certificate plus my years of working experience. I am so confused,I wake up every day with a different decision on this issue,I think of the negative effect that this may bring in the future because I don't know what tomorrow may bring,and then I think of how this allowee will go a long way in supporting my life in this hard times.
Please what are your thoughts on this. What will you do if you were me?🙏🙏🙏🙏

Its too late to Tamper with your age

How much do you think you are going to get from the allowee, have you calculated how much it will cost you to even prepare yourself for that service and all through

You should be talking about the fun of being a corper that you will miss

So just leave it the way it is before you do blunder to your data's

We now have a data base that you don't manipulate any how

infocentre:
I drive C-Class Benz and I can attest; it’s a strong machine and I hardly buy parts. However, it is known for more electrical faults than mechanical. I patronize car electricians (rewire) more and occasionally check mecho.

On the same vein, I've heard of some car brands like Toyota/Honda having less electrical but more mechanical faults of major components such as engine or gear. So, which do you think is worse and more financial drain per your experience?

I prefer mechanical faults than electric faults in a car

Those rewires are the most expensive and inexperienced people who sees themselves as car repair lords

I just hate knowing that I will need their services

Serendipity2023:
Is there any scientific reason why I have diarrhoea ("purging" each time I eat Nkwobi, Isi ewu or Abacha?

Is it the potash or pepper?

Is because of the potash (akanwu) used for the thickening

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GreaterFuture:
What's the best Solution to Mosquitoes in one's House
Serious mosquito music singing in my ear at night, don't know how it came or where they are from

Get a mosquito net on your bed

Put net doors in both entrance and exit doors in the house

Put bet door in all doors incase it's a two or three bedroom flat

Any mosquitoes that gets into one room will be stucked and won't enter another room

LewisHamilton15:
My uncle promised to help feed me, house me and pay my bills. Then I was fresh out of the University. After my service he promised to make way for me to secure a job with the Federal Government.
I was doing a petty job which I stopped while expecting the one he promised.
He kept sending me money when I didn't secure the job. I called him last week and lamented about a pressing issue but he angrily ended the call. He sent me text that I should move into his house to help his wife do the dishes, laundry and other home chores meant for women and I am 39 years old, how can I do this kind of work? My problem is that the woman may begin to control me. What should I do? Move in or not? Lest I forget, he said he will not help me for free again.

At 39yrs, how do they want you to cope with this new system

I think you need to talk with the wife to beg her husband to assist you to find your bearing

At that age you can't really do such jobs when you are not a small boy or secondary school leaver

YinkaOlusesi16:
Most men like to show they are financially stable all the time but Why do they find it difficult to ask their women for money when they are broke?💞😍💘💔💓❤️💋

Well some men wants to respect themselves especially if they are not too close with their wives and you are asking her for money

She may change it for you

LewisHamilton15:
Often I pray to God for a very submissive lady.
I have prayed and searched but all I saw were beautiful ladies who are also good but were either not the type I need or my spec. I wanted a girl who will not keep her social media from me; who is sincere ; knows how to prepare dish; keep house clean; respect my people; show me her income; hardworking; born again Christian; and most of all respect me and my family members. This girl is not a normal girl on the street. She's completely different. Not
So I started dating this girl for the past seven months and the reason I spent so much time was to study her. I wanted to know if she truly she's who she claimed to be. I sometimes deliberately hide money and say I have nothing, this lady will run either give me her last savings or run around to borrow if she doesn't have money. This lady has satisfied all I wished and have passed all my tests.
I'm glad I have finally gotten the woman I dream of.

With all you have mentioned, for a woman to survive you is even more difficult

I wish you good luck

Offpointng:
Don't Sanwo olu thinks reducing bus fares will compel people to giving up on the trekking commission they've embarked on and return to entering vehicles thereby returning traffic back on Lagos roads??

We can't have a Nigeria with able bodied people who are agile and are too lazy to trek

Meaning you were so satisfied that people are going about on empty stomach and still treck to work

Always think twice before making some statements

The situation in the country doesn't need negative statements

But words that sooths the common man

UnfairLife7:
beyond tuition fees, text book and feeding, there are other expenses these students spend on

Accommodation, assignments that might require printing, practical for science courses and other miscellaneous. It's not easy for students now in this country

From the tone of the OP complains

That guy wasn't truthful

We all went to university and we know when one is acting funny for school stuff and excessive demands

Fkj2021:
Honestly the children doesn't give him any money again because he will use it to buy drinks.

That's a way of stopping him from excessive drinking

A friend of mine wants to marry a lady, base on his assessment he believes the lady is decent but he also believes a broken home cannot breed or produce a responsible adult.Guys and ladies can you marry(lady or guy) from a broken home.what are the criteria or excuse that can make you insist or continue a relationship that could lead to marriage with an individual from a broken home.

No one wishes to be born into a broken home

Most broken home never saw it coming untill it go to that stage

No marriage is guaranteed that it will stand or break

Circumstances can lead to any nonsense in marriage

So, tell that your guy to access the lady by the kind of heart she has not kind of marriage her parents have

Even the guy can't even say if his marriage will escape that broken home experience

Fkj2021:
I have a friend whose dad Promised not to leave alcohol till he dies.

Short story:

The man was diagnosed of diabetes and high blood pressure. His children made sure they treated him even when they are just coming up in life. Everytime, immediately the man takes his medication, he goes out to drink alcohol which neutralises the medication.

The issue got worst and he relocated to the village. Before he went to the village, the man became very weak, has amnesia and passes his faeces on his body.

The children became tired because the man doesn't want to listen to them. It is anytime he drinks that he wees on his body but if he doesn't drink, he is normal although not strong.

The children became tired and are planning on letting him be. Whenever the man is taken to the hospital, immediately he comes back, he takes alcohol. All effort to stop him from alcohol have proved abortive.

What do you advice?

So non of them can keep this man indoors without him getting out to drink

If he the stubborn dad type
Let them leave him to follow his way and end it quickly for himself

What kind of problem is this, who even gives him money to drink eve and he can't afford his medical bills and follow up drugs

Mcheew 🙁🙁

Chukwudiajibo:
How do i persuade my Ex girl friend get Married, we broke up in 2018, uptil now she haven't gotten Married, when ever i see her with a guy i feel Jealous, the only alternative for my heart be at rest was her get married, she was the only woman i broke up with, and stay for that longer period without getting married, all my Ex's got married within 5months to 1year of breaking up with them, i feel much better when i break up with a girl and the girl just get married, since i broke up with her 2018, i have Never Answers her calls, neither reply her messages, the girl realy Loves me so much, uptil today she's still Loves me like Madness, she begged me for forgiveness but to no avail, she experience alots of things when we were dating, I break up with her after she cheated on me, no woman on this planet will cheat on me and live with me, i sworn never to talk to her, for 5yrs now, i cut off all communications with her, no more Love between me and her, all my concern is for her get Married, i will be the Most happiest person on earth, because am the best in the world, the girl realy miss me like Madness, any woman that cheat on me, i will hurt such woman till Eternity, uptil today, she's feeling the shock of break up with her, she never expected break up because we are engaged.

You are forming hard man for nothing

What do you mean by any woman that cheats on you, you will hurt her till eternity?

Who do you think you?

Are you up to those men who doesn't even know that their women cheated on them

Anyway go and marry her and stop pretending that you are feeling for her

eglobalcafe:
Good evening guys, please I need some advice, my wife had pcos then that she couldn't get pregnant and now it's almost our 4th year in the marriage, after doing 2 ivf I told myself not to do it again because the money was not there and adoption is not my thing. So I was worried because am not the kind of man that like polygamy.

Now after we stop the ivf my wife started taking supliments and now she's pregnant after 7 months of taking the supliment and now because of my wife condition I decided to have a side chic who I can marry for the sake of children because it's not easy after 6 years between me and my wife and we are 4 years in marriage, so now as am talking to you my wife and my girl friend are both pregnant same month and from the scan results my wife might likely give birth to twins because two sack was found in her.

AND now I love both of them so much and I don't know what to do now. My girl friend is two weeks pregnant. Am not a bad person but I feel bad hurting my wife but the condition is not easy for both of us that is why I went out for another woman. Does it make any sense to abort my girlfriend pregnancy. Because even if I want to keep both of them it won't be easy for me to have two women pregnant for me at the same time. I wish it's different time I would have allow my girlfriend keep the pregnancy and my girlfriend really loves me ans she said she needs the pregnancy too.

Atleast am doing financially okay because I can feed both if them but how do I handle this kind of situation.

I have been having sleepless night because my wife can nit give me children at that time and now the blessings are here please advise me.

It's won't be easy to keep two women and it's not my thing but what do I know. Guys help me no insult please, if you ask me why can't I be patient the I will say am my mum is old and am the one taking care of my mum. And am 35, years now but if I don't what I did when I grow old who will take care if me? This are the quei asked myself daily before going ahead to impregnated my girl friend. Please advise me

Should my girlfriend abort the pregnancy?

Hello,
Just relax and enjoy the multiple gifts that is coming to you

Pls don't abort your girlfriend pregnancy because you needed it while you were sleeping with her

What if your wife wasn't pregnant yet and your girlfriend is already pregnant, will you want to terminate that pregnancy ?

Now your wife is pregnant along with your girlfriend
Welcome both pregnancy's and start planning how to look after those kids

As it is now, your girlfriend will be a single mother
Untill she decides to get married to another man, that's when you may have custody of the child and be partially free from her

But till then she and the baby belongs to you
If you wish you can now keep her as a mistress

Back to your wife, keep the secret away from her till she gives birth, then you can inform her
If you inform her now, she may get emotional and loose the pregnancy, that will be very divastating to both of you

Time will heal all this wound

ublight:
I recently had a business deal go South and millions of naira went down the drain. A contractor I had brought on board for a project had absconded with money, and my partner's felt since I contracted him, I must have been aware of the move, especially as I did not file any report to the police.

I was arrested on Monday and taken to the station for questioning(actually the police head quarters in the state). The police can be so brutal when interrogating (that's a story for another day).

I was later taken to the office of the commissioner of police for the state.

You would not believe my disappointment. I was expecting to see an agile, fit athletic man that can run around, draw out his fire arm to engage in any hostile situation. (too many Hollywood movies right!)

Anyways, I saw one fat, pot bellied, more of a politician looking man. He was relaxed on his somewhat of a rocking chair.

To be honest, I was not expecting much from him (I had judged the book by the cover).

He interviewed me for less than 10 minutes, but his wisdom in those few minutes could be likened to that of King Solomon in the Bible.

What the man lacked in looks and physique, he made up for it in his head.

I then realised that maybe he climbed to that position using more of his brains to solve cases than muscles.

I was really impressed with his judgment. To cut the long story short, I was released on bail. I'm to report back at the station on Friday to see how the case will proceed.

I can tell you that in that station, only the commissioner was civil, well mannered, respectful, lawful. Infact he is the embodiment of what the police force should be.

My question is this. How can such a commissioner be heading touts, imbeciles, uneducated morons parading in uniforms? Don't we have people like the commissioner who can be at the lower ranks?

Let me end here for now. Share your own encounter with any commissioner or police officer.

Any one in his position must be modest

He must be civil and must handle any case with total respect and regard to the person and the society

Others may be behaving like wild cats

But he must be very different from them and he has the final say to any matter that is brought to him no matter how sensitive it is

He actually represent the IGP on that seat and in that station

lovediehatelive:
So I decided to spend the weekend at my uncle's place because it has been many years I went there.


In the midnight, around 1am, I heard the television was on and I thought he forget to put it off.


So I went to the living room only to see his son of about 4-5 years old watching cartoon. I was shocked and asked him to go and sleep, which he grudgingly agreed.


Now, early morning around 5am or so, same thing happened. I want to the living room and saw him there.


This time he refused to go to bed.


I later found out that's how he does. I wonder if he ever sleeps at night.

The parents are not even bothered, but I'm worried. When we were growing up, who are you to stay awake past 9pm watching TV? Not to talk about waking up at night. Even in the day time you better not be caught idling away on front of the TV when others are busy.

This one just comes to the living room anytime he likes and puts on the TV.

Is this how kids of nowadays behave?

Let me not defend his action here

But I want to believe that when children are on holidays

They wake up anytime of the night to catch up with cartoon and don't be surprise you will wake up to prepare for work and see them watching cartoon

They usually do so during any holidays

Kokorokomaster1:
I have a girlfriend that Clam that she love me, but she has a bestie, she says that she is not dating her bestie, but she used her bestie picture to do her wallpaper in her phone, her bestie used to call her all the time and even send money sometimes when she ask him for money, she always find it hard to come and see, sometimes when she is coming to see me she will say that she is coming with her sister, sometimes when she finally come she will not spend a minute than she will go back home saying that her sister just call her to come and do something for her, sometimes if I complain she will send a screenshot on WhatsApp were boys are telling her if she is single and she will tell that she has a boyfriend, please I want to know who is the boyfriend she is referring to, it's me or her bestie, is she dating me or her bestie because she always ask me for money and to sub her

A very smart girl playing on you and her besties

Continue giving her all she is requesting for untill when you are tired you stop

labake1:
How long do I need to wait to start billing a guy after saying "YES" to him?

Whats the essence of the billing

Is it for feeding then it's not billing

Is it just to bill him and let him know that he deserves to be billed

Well you need to explain what you mean by billing

But if you are capable of taking care of things then sort it out, that's your confidence

Just watch him and see if he is the caring type

Despite saying yes to most men they pull out when the billing gets much

They are actually not ATM

colossus91:
So I currently work as a system admin in a new generation bank where I earn almost 500k while also having a side hustle that pays me 400dollrs monthly, I’m thinking of relocating as my sis and her husband have been on my case to migrate, I am in my early 30 no serious relationship just figuring if japa is the way cos my remote job actually pays me better if I’m here than leaving just need advice on this.

Since your income makes sense

Why not marry, settle down and start saving money for vacation with wife and children and then relocate them there to settle there

And once you sence that your job is no longer giving you what you want, you relocate and join them there

WarrenP:
Thanks sis

Welcome dear

WarrenP:
I just noticed he’s been inflating the amount he always tell me he needs in school. The thing pay me sha.

E no even send or pity me to know say I get my own responsibilities. Maybe he feel say I no need money for myself since I never marry or get pickin.

Family matter still dey there, that one na story for another day.

I know say a lot of people dey in the same shoe with me wey be breadwinners.

Abeg, how una take dey handle all these.

He will reap this bad attitude he is showing once you make sure he engages himself into any casual work during holidays

Remind him that his text book money comes from there

Then you are left with school fees receipts where you will see the exact money he pays

From your own end, you will know what to give him as feeding per month