Rtk4: Our last son just clocked 2years just a week ago and my wife is insisting that he starts school by September, so i told her i don't have money to enroll him in a school by September. I also let her know that the basic age for a child to start school is 3years. I sighted example of alot of people within our vicinity who also waited for their children to reach 3years before enrolling them in school. She still maintains her stands and i also maintain mine. Though he is so wise above his age but i don't have money for that now. He can count 1-10 already.... Please guys what is your take on this?
Start school at two years is very ok Assuming you have the money it won't even be an issue
I think both of you can make a search on the school you want him to attend
Consider proximity to house
Then whatever is the total cost, honestly you have to pay from your pocket
So that one day she will not say she was the one that started paying his school fees when he entered school as infant
She can be taking care of the snacks and lunch box that's very ok as the sharing formula will go round
But bear in mind that She will start planning to become pregnant for another child once he starts schooling
Are you ready for that or you guys will argue that one because of finance Remember the more children more spending
Daddyseun1: Due to the news on front page the man that beat his girlfriend till she died.
This almost happen to me, GOD saved me. Last week my wife is ON, it started on Sunday so by Friday she will be Done,
At 5am on Friday I touch my wife, she quickly punch my hand away, it annoyed me. I tell her what was her problems. She says she's feeling pain. I reply her, it's now you will feel pain, but when u are asking me for money, u won't feel pain on your body.
That's where the problem started. She said all she as been asking from me. I haven't done any one.
That's where I get mad at her, I told her to pack her things and leave my apartment. I drag her bags. She push me away. I land her a slap, she was holding her face down, she get angry and started holding me dragging me on my trousers she didn't listen to whatever am saying. I land her a punch on her face,
This girl fall down, her breathing size. I run enter kitchen, carry water pour for her head continuously, bfor she came back me think say she dey act for me,
After 2days we settled I now ask her why do you act that way, she says she doesn't know when it happened
I have learnt my lesson, I will never lay my hand on her again.
Guys don't TOUCH/BEAT woman again. Na mouth them get. Them too fragile
If this is real, you are a very violent person who doesn't need to live with a woman
Am not justifying what she did but your actions shows that you are violent and doesn't know how to handle women
Just thank God that you escape going to prison because assuming she died, you would have been in prison by now
You dont need to be told that women and their mouth are 5&6
NEXT time control your anger because you may not be this lucky again
Elistho: Straight to the point, last year during the ASUU strike, I decided to learn tailoring. I'm a fast learner so I told myself if I can, I will be an apprentice for just six months, regardless of how good my boss is to me, I'll leave and establish myself.
The relationship between my boss and I was just what it was, no extreme closeness. Irrespective, he was Knowledgeable, we would discuss religion, lifestyle, politics, share little food, etc.
I was just 5 months in the apprenticeship when the strike was called off and I left for school to continue studies, gladly. Because I was tired of learning already, I can say I grasp fast, I currently sew now.
Hitherto, I came back home for holidays, been around for a while. Even though my boss shop is nearby, I don't go there to say "Hi", if I see him on the road, I immediately try dodging him, don't know if it's obvious to him.
Not like I'm proud to go to his shop or greet him when I see him. I'm just the mind your business type and i don't know how to start a convo with him as we're different personalities, so I prefer dodging him on the streets which is always a success.
The bone of contention is, I keep seeing him in my dream world. It's always one pattern of dream, me going to his shop to look for him, he's not always around. Never have I meet him around in the dream scenario, I always meet his wife or aide, I would ask where he is. Sometimes, he would come while I'm going, or sometimes I go to and fro fruitlessly.
I'm beginning to think it's a bad omen on his side, maybe through the dreams, I'm being told he's not fine.. or, what could that mean? Why do I keep going to his shop in my dreams when in reality, I will not near there.
Pragmatically, I think business isn't moving fine with him, he's looking bad than before. Or, does it mean spirit of backwardness in my sewing, I rarely have deals, but it's justifiable because I don't know much people.
I just want to sew to survive, not like I ever dream of being a tailor, I'm a law student so I'm not bothered. Why do I keep going to his shop in my dreams?
Was there any form of freedom from him where your boss prays for you before leaving to celebrate your freedom
He must have seen you or caught you on several occasions that you think you were smart enough to dodge him and he knows all you are doing
I. Think you need to visit him and greet him then over time, you will find out if he is having any hidden or unknown issues with you
kobobay: I Was Wrong on Noiler Chicken Breed One of the wrong information that I have given in the past is whether Noiler chicken can hatch their own eggs. I answered the question based on my experience with Noiler chicken, but the more Noiler chicken I have, the more I lean from them. And out of 10 Noiler chicken that I have, only 1 of them is sitting on the eggs while the rest will just lay eggs and leave.
Maravilla: Please doctors in the house, for some weeks now my 4yr old son has this recurring boils on his back and armpit, when I burst them, it brings out a pus like substance and form a sore. I went to the hospital, the doctor said it was a bacteria infection and I was giving some antibiotics, yet so far no tangible results. Please I need your assistance
There is something like this called alefo in Yoruba land
It usually occurs before one year of a child, so I guess he escaped it that time and now it's time
Go to those selling Agbo they will treat it
But don't use native medicine together with English Medicine
RabbitGuy: Some of the leaves are extract and the liquid is mix and given to birds... But birds can actually eat like the turkeys, they love the water leaf, plantain and banana leaf etc
RabbitGuy: All the leaves above are good for sale livestock Generally, Many farmers don't know much about the importance of this leaves and only give just one of it alone to their livestock
Pls do you mean poultry and turkeys can eat these leave including pawpaw leave
SultanOfPuna: Religion has turned my mother into a shadow of herself. Ever since our teenage years my mother was not the churchy type. We are raised Catholics Back then she was active and bubbling.
all of a sudden my mother left Catholic faith and started messing around with different churches. This has cause countless rift between us, my dad and elder sister have done everything possible but my mum is too brainwashed by these Pentecostal pastors.
How can someone be attending Christ embassy and winners chapel?? I Heard she wants to join mountain of fire but changed her mind. Everytime church, church, church Yet she never gain anything from it I have been sending her money for her for upkeep since November last year only to come back home February this year and discovered she donates everything to different churches
I feel she might have a mental disorder and I don't know how to save her. She literally spends all the money in church donation tithe and all those craps. And those pastors always calling her to come for one program or the other. I don't know what to do
Relocate her to any of your female sibblings house if she is married
Get a new phone and a new simcard and remove the simcard she was using before
jidowu84: It's so painful to write this here cos I am feeling very bad right now. I don't know how to deal with this matter cos it's actually driving me crazy. He is a very wicked soul for sure but his wickedness ought not to affect my family. Kindly advise on what to do. Leaving the job is inevitable but no job in site as an option for now
You have not said anything that will give us a clue on what advice you seek for
So tell us exactly what the problem is between you and him ans how it started before it got to this stage and point of no salary
Am sure there must have been a problem between you guys
ritaprincess: My boyfriend's birthday is on the 19th of this month and I am planning on getting him gifts as I always do every year. I plan on buying top and jeans with sneakers,then perfume with cream. I have bought everything except the cream. He uses Palmers cocoa butter for men. I have searched many supermarkets in owerri and I can't find it. The only he is using is about to finish and I know he will appreciate it a lot if I buy it for him.
You can tell him you want to recommend his cream to your brother and ask him where does he normally get his own
Clashhh1: Hope y'all having a good day? I've got a question.
I've been single for over 5 years cus my last relationship was hell on earth.
All these while I've had this girl who used to be my mate back in secondary school. We got along real good but she made it clear she doesn't want any relationship with me cus of reasons better known to her and wants just sex anytime we meet.
Lately we met and she's wondering why I'm still single then later said she's gonna link me up with a friend of hers who she sees as a daughter (God mother as them call am).
The said girl is beautiful no doubts and she's already done all the talking to my surprise. She gave me the girls contact and said I should just contact her and we probably won't see as we used to.
Now my question is, what could be her motives for that. It's really confusing.
She is not confused, she is actually with her senses and she knows what she is doing
I actually love what she did because she alone has her reasons why she doesn't want to have a committed relationship with you, rather she will prefer to introduce another better person
Well she is not a pretender so right from time she told you what she wants so that you won't complain when it gets to this stage
So to me, in another words, you are not her type of man or she may not be the kind of woman you want and she doesn't want to start what she can't finish
Controversial Nigerian crossdresser, Bobrisky has given updates on his recent butt implant in Dubai. He said the surgery was successful as he shared video of himself on bed recuperating from the surgery pains. Another video captured him as he struggled to walk following pains from the surgery.
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UrPapa: You need to act bro. This is cheating of the highest order. You should not look away from this act and make sure he’s prosecuted First report him to soldiers. Let dem give him a very good beating Then after, you can call the police so they take him to station for further interrogation and beating From there, he’ll be charged to court and sent to jail
May your child do this to you and may it favour your family
Hardtotrust: I am very very angry right now. I couldn't sleep last night. That is why I'm bringing this here this morning before I do something very bad. A father should be after the growth of his son and not after ruining him.
Please you guys should help me look into this matter. I understand that it was a matter of life and important concern.
I'm seriously struggling in the city to eck a living for myself and do the little I can for my family also. My father was a petty trader who hardly can provide adequate for the family. Some of us who come from a very poor background would understand this better. I mean coming from where absolutely nothing is kept for you. No support from the family and nothing, nothing and nothing. You are the one who die and same you would have to pour yourself water to come back to life. You, you and only you.
I buy fast consuming products and supply to people and make some gains from there. Sometimes I hawk the products. I was able to save up to N150k. Around May this year, I went to the village and bought some rubbers of palm oil and store them to sell around November/December and make gains.
Last week, I got a call that wind pulled off our house roof in the village. Since they are using small torchlight phone, I didn't get to see how serious the situation was. Even though I didn't have money, I sent N15k to help fix it. My father later called me and complained bitterly on why I sent just 15k, that according to the carpenter, that materials and workmanship would cost N65k. In my mind, I was just like, does this man even know how I survive here in the city?
For two nights, they didnt sleep in the house as the wind pulled off the rooof.
On Tuesday, I learnt my younger brother was being operated of Hernia. I know about the hernia but was under plan to raise money for it. And I knew there was no money to settle medical bills for operation. So I was shocked where they got the money to do operation.
As I traveled down yesterday to see them, dear Nairaland friends, all my rubbers of palm oil has been sold and the money spent on fixing the roof and paying for the medical bills for the hernia operation without my notice.
I am not taking this kindly with my father who engineered the whole thing and I want to arrest him to refund my money.
That is my life investment and it took me so much to raise the amount. Due to how things are now. I even wanted to sell two rubbers to invest back as the business is facing challenges now.
What should I do here to recover my money back? If I have another money, I would over look it but that is my life investment of my labour.
Pls for God's sake, bear what has happened and don't take any action that you may regret in the future and before you know it
You will be reminded of this incident and by then it will be too late to apologize
Hence forth stop keeping things within his reach
Once again for posterity and for your own benefit Move on and forget about it
westlius: This weekend I had to go see my wife to be church that I would love to get married in there church, I went with a bottle of Drink (my mother inlaw told me to go with it). When I met the pastor omo the requirements pass bride price 1) He said we must get him a wine and an envelope. (Wine 2k cash 5k)
2) We would go see his head pastor with a Wine and envelope (Wine 2k, Cash 10k, transportation 5k)
3)I will pay for the marriage certificate he has forgotten the cost (My estimate 10k).
4) I will pay transportation for someone to go to Benin Edo state to get the certificate and register. (Estimate 30k from Porthacourt)
5) 5 men of God will come with there wives i will cook for them, I will give his wife money to cook ( I heard its 50k)
6) I will inform the church people i want to marry i will bring a cartoon of malt and 2 carbin biscuits (6k estimate)
7)I will give the pastors transportation and thanks for coming (Head pastor 20k/second in command 2 persons 10k each (20k)/ the last 2 Persons 5k each thats (10k) total 50k for thanks for coming. Pls who knows the procedure for church weddings. Thanks.
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As if all these will guarantee a happy home and blissfull marriage
Anyway if you can stand the requirements go on
If you can't stand it, wed her in your church
If that doesn't work, follow your heart and advise yourself
ahnie: Nne Ka anyi kwu eziokwu,okwa ifu marriage the man and his wife is as good as gone,the man's mental health is almost gone and there's no love lost between him and his wife.
Secondly she extended her madness to his family, imagine locking her kitchen and starving the man's mum....it's not cool.
I m afraid if the man hasn't taken this decision of running away by renting his own house,he would have beaten or even murder the wife.
You can see he has fallen outta love with his wife,and his only concern his his son,he has the backing of his family to separate from his wife
Men are slumping and dying lately,it's because of issues like this.life is fragile abeg.
Yes he is feed up with her But then let him inform her family so that it will be official
That means it is like being separated but not divorced unless he wants it to be a divorced matter
GorillaApp: The woman's family is aware. He suspects the mother of the lady is in tacit support of her daughter's attitude( because I also suggested he talk to her family too)
There should be an open challenge, from there he will know if her family is in support of her attitude and if they are in support of her attitude, Good and fine they should take back their daughter and end it there
But if they are not in support of her attitude then you deal with the situation as advised above
You dont know what she already told her parents
She may tell them nonsense to paint his family bad
But whatever the gathering will open all doubts, truth and false about the whole issue
NonsenseRubbish: This will just open the door wide for the next wife. Stay in your home and try to fix your home if you still value it and then you decide.
Has he not been chasing other women
Did you read where she was asked to apologize to her man for asking him why he took her personal effects out of her room to accommodate the ones he us bringing
So she should apologize to her husband because she asked him why he was bringing women home
See marriage is not a do or die affairs
If you can't cope just move on, life doesn't want you to start killing yourself for just marriage
GorillaApp: Truth is that the dude has already taken the action. Pls mods don't take this to front page.
I have this dude staying in the compound behind my house. We weren't friends in the beginning ( I no even Sabi hob nob for my area) but we got talking and became a bit close when I got to learn that he is from my region.
We went out this evening for a drink as we usually do some Sunday evenings and after a couple of beers, he opened up that he is leaving the neighborhood. He is married with a son and works but he is moving out alone. I never really suspected he was having marital issues because he seems a very decent, knowledgeable and calm guy from his outlook on life. The wife also seems like a nice person.
Here is the issue. Dude is the first born and has lost his dad few years back but the mum is still alive. She lives in same city somewhere else but mostly stays alone as the other children are grown and has left home.
The wife hates seeing the mother and the other siblings whenever they come VISITING. She always raises hell. ( Note that they don't cause any trouble of any sort) This guy has talked severally to the wife but she has remained adamant to the point where whenever the mum or siblings visits, she shuts down the kitchen and the man has resorted to buying food from restaurants.
he opened up that he has gotten a flat somewhere and furniture will be coming in by the week. He is moving out alone. His only worry is his son. He loves the boy so much and he is worried how the son will take it
I feel unhappy but he has already taken his position. After telling me( we talked for hours) , I was in a pensive mood as I really don't know what to tell him. Not that it will change anything as he has committed so much financially. He bought every thing again from scratch
Let me call two ladies who are objective enough and balanced in their opinion to weigh in on this issue.
Cc: frozen70, ahnie. Your opinions are needed
Honestly this is hard because him getting another apartment means that he may likely get another woman who will be in and out of his life ans before you know it, his family will push him to pregnant that woman ans they will welcome her with open arms just to spite this current wife
At the end the dude will now be having two women in his life and the one outside will keep trying to pull him down since she can't have him alone
The one inside may not really know the Genesis of her coming or even if she knows, she won't know a lot about it so she may not be prayerful to protect her man
So if anything happens to his second family, all eyes will be on the first woman, even if it's a coincidence
I think at this stage, if the man really love his wife and wants absolute peace, let the man invite her parents wherever they are and invite his own family
This is because when a woman is acting naughty, it's only her parents or family that can bring her senses back
These family gathering will give everyone the opportunity to open up all they have kept under their sleeves and apologizes will be made from where the fault is coming from, even if from your his siblings or from your wife
Am very sure that some thing positive will come out of this reconciliation gathering
Then they can all move in to the new apartment
But if the man is very sure that he is done with the woman, let him trick her home to visit her parents and both of them will travel to see her parents, when they get there he should tell his parents that for now he is done with her and the marriage because of her attitude to his family and anything he can mention
That alone will even shake the roof of that house
After that report, he should just leave them there and go, they will look for him and if they successed in wining the man's heart, she is coming back with a condition that she will take a reconciliation move with your family
So anytime she fixes date and inform your mum to invite others that's when the reconciliation will take and her parents will be in attendance
After this she will humble herself
I purposely didn't ask what she did to them But for all of them to be having issues with her and she locks the kitchen when they are around shows that she is just being naughty and crazy and that should not be encouraged
Omihanifa: Veteran Yoruba movie actor, Dayo Adewunmi, popularly known as Baba Sule Suebebe, has apologised and is seeking forgiveness from those he has offended while growing up.
He made this appeal in a live video with an Ibadan-based cleric, Agbala Daniel on Facebook which was shared on Tiktok on Sunday.
Speaking in both Yoruba and English, the actor, who had recently appealed for urgent financial assistance on social media, said he spent his money during his hay days frivolously, noting that he had no one to caution or advise him then.
Suebebe called on Nigerians and those he offended to forgive him, especially the women he has offended.
He said, "Pastor, I have stepped on so many toes, especially women because girlfriends are uncountable, so I cannot know who I offended or didn’t offend.
“I dated someone outside the country who has given birth to a child, but I haven't seen both her and the child.
“Please forgive me and pray for me, I was ignorant then, I am now a changed person.”
In a video shared on the Facebook page of clergyman Agbala Gabriel, the Yoruba actor was requesting support from his fans, both within the country and abroad, to rescue him from his current situation.
Suebebe expressed his distress, stating that despite working as an actor for decades, he has not achieved any significant financial stability, revealing that he does not own a house or a car and lives in extreme poverty.
When i say that it's easier for you to offend men ang go free than to offend a woman in a way that breaks her heart and kill her emotions and believe that nothing they happen
Some men will be living a senseless and stupid life all in the name that you are enjoying yourself
At the end all such life will start affecting such a man at old age not even as a youth
A woman has a child for him and he never cared to see the woman and the child
Besides he said he has offended so many women and he can't even count on the girls he offended too
Now he is getting close to his grave and wants peace of mind because he is not happy with his bad life
Well only those people and God can forgive him
Pls lets stop giving people pains while we are still active some pains are not easy to wipe away because of the tears it produced
Unyimekelvin: I posted here somedays ago,how my aunty is searching for a husband with a good character but don't want to change her own character..
She such a harsh, aggressive being; i have ever seen on this universe 😕😡😡 She said i hurt her feelings with those posts nd she's not gonna forgive me...
she even cursed me,by saying i Will not have a peaceful home when I get married...😡😡😡😡 She has blocked my number.. She said I'm judging her nd she's not cool that!!
I need some advice please, should I apologize to her or let's it slide!!🥺🥺🥺🥺
I'm a bit nervous but I was doing the right thing now!!!🤔🤔😳
Aunty Helen, hope you are seeing this.🤞🤞🤞 ✍️✍️🤞
You wanted to help in your own little way But your aunt has her own attitude that have kept her unmarried
Inform your parents about this and don't keep it away from your parents, they must be aware
Then you go to her with any of your parents and let her know that you meant well for her and apologize to her if she is not happy about your move and ask her to forgive you and withdraw that curse
There after, stay away from anything about her and her life
Even if anyone brings her matter to you, tell the person that it's her private life and you don't like talking about people's private life
I think he is referring to the block work up to complete roofing, where he will use local workers and he will be the engineer and supervisor of the job
Then the finishing which involves the painting, plastering, windows and doors, tiles and electrical fitting, plumbing and toilet fittings are actually not part of it
Fineman2: I am a 30year old lady. My husband and I got married in 2021 and I traveled to the UK earlier this year to give birth to our first child. My husband could not join me due to his work and businesses but he has been with me through the journey through communication and it never felt like he was not over there with me.
I decided to make my come back a surprise by arriving a week earlier than I told him. When I got back, he was not home. All clothes and traces of me were gone in our room and home. I later found out that my items were locked in one of the other rooms. In our matrimonial room, I met some ladies clothes and underwears. I am a plus sized lady while the items I met belong to a slim lady. When he got back that day, I confronted him and questioned what was going on.
He said that he wanted to renovate our room and that he mistakenly bought the wrong size of clothes and underwears for me. In my continuous attempt to make sense of the situation as his own clothes were still in the other side of the wardrobe and only his pictures are all over the house, he started shouting, called me all sorts of name and stomped off.
He has since turned everything on me. His friends, brothers and mother are in support of him. They asked that I apologize for asking him such questions. Another thing one of his brothers said was that he is entitled to 4 women.
I felt my world shatter infront of me. This is the man that I have sacrificed so much for so that our marriage can work. I have cried to the extent that I feel sick. Do I apologize for peace to reign? How many times will I have to apologize for what I didn’t do wrong? Should I still stand on my grounds to find out whose items I met in our home? I do not know what to do. Please advise me
You know what, just gather yourself and take the things you value in that house and go back to your base
Allow the dust to settle down
Then with time, we will know who will apologize to each other
Your sanity is the most important thing for you now because of your child
Romance › Re: Please I Need Your Advice On This Issue Causing Problem With My Wife by frozen70(f): 1:17pm On Jul 16, 2023
