₦airaland Forum

sonofthunder:
This argument is very shallow. If that's the case, then why is it so difficult making the husband NOK?

Wait till you marry then direct your wife to make you her next of kin

No big deal

We are ok with what we choose

Forexmax:
Dentistry or pharmacy in Nigeria? How lucrative and earnings?

Pharmacy pls

How many people are having Dental problem ?

OVB123:
I have been reasoning, having traveled to most state capitals in Nigeria and seening how underdevelop most capital cities are, it is pertinent to state the list of the most underveloped capital cities in Nigeria by geo-political zone:

(1) south east - Umuahia (Abia state).

(2) South south - Yenogoa (Bayelsa state).

(3) South west - Ado ekiti (Ekiti state).

(4) North central - Lokoja (Kogi state).

(5) North east - Damaturu (Yobe state).

(6) North west - Gusau (Zamfara state).

What is your opinion on this rating? Please no insult guys.

You see that No 2
They are just behind interms of development

I was there and I saw things myself

They just love clubbing that's all they like and the youths there are behaving as if government is taking care of their future

Too lazy to hustle and struggle

Light777:
Both of you need some schooling..lol

Husband and wife should make each other next of kin

You won't understand untill you are married and have kids

That they are the next of kin doesn't mean they are in possession of any documents

Their power and authority starts where we stop

Look at Queen of England, Charles was next to the throne but never reigned untill his mother passed on

Holluwhakemmy:
Gbam 😆

Lol 😂,
Don't mind that guy, he made me to release the other side of me

vickydevoka:
I love this. But why are ladies now fighting hakimi? This gender self the confuse me like dy/dx

The way we were brought up in our own time is different from this generation of 1990/2000

They are a different set of generation

Majority of them doesn't wasn't to struggle or support spouse, they believe it's going to be a rocket science but by the time they realizes that it's not what they think
So many water must have passed under the Bridge

seanery:
That is if u are hardworking.
Not all these liabilities wey full everywhere today.

I am a super mum who fits into a man's shoe, it wasn't easy but God made it easier for me

MadamExcellency:
Children can't be your next of kin. It's only a child out of many you have. And if anything happens to you what becomes of other children you have?

Property next ok kin is different from monetary next of kin

thatigboman:
true talk. NOK doesn't inherit shishi. Who is in will does. If the person dies interstate, the court determines.

obynokoko:
Your husband should also use his children Incase if you decide to marry another man tomorrow.what is good for the goose is also good for the gander

Both of us are using our children as our next of kin

I brought up that idea and he welcomed it

Read the post thoroughly you will see where I mentioned it

Evolutionlove:
You should connect the dots.

I meant 90% of Nigerian Men are all the same.

So you can see that it wasn't peculiar to women alone, men too are guilty

gfelo:
i thought a lady can never got this type of sense

Lol

ogbe88:
The truth is@Frozen70 u talk/respond to issue in a matured way.

Secondly, your views always differs/unique from other people on this forum.

Thanks dear

Evolutionlove:
I'll Cap it at 90%.

90% what

Evolutionlove:
There is nothing to improve.

He just told you the bitter truth.

95% of Nigerian Female Gender are all the same.

Is alright
What about the male?

OBTOREPA:
I would've loved to see your pic. You speak smart.

Lol 😂

Tayorshd87:
God bless you for this dear
That's such a woman i have a a wife now ..

Lol 😂

Offwarp:
See matured answer from a matured girl. See, if u don't marry a loving caring husband that means there is no God. Aswear, ir ans is the best of best for the OP. Moreover, na ur type we dey always should 'good girls are scarce '

Thanks dear

Entanglement:
in naija there's no difference in dating a girl or a woman!
Both of them are mentally deluded

You need to improve your sense of reasoning

E get why

badmuskamal:
I concur on this this
[Iquote author=frozen70 post=123181496]

There is a great difference between dating a girl and dating a woman

One is inexperience and not really matured to understand that loving a man is different from making him her 🏧, she doesn't want to understand that you struggle to make money and you are not expected to spend it anyhow

The other is very matured and understanding
Knows that loving a man is not making him her 🏧 but loving him for who he is
She equally struggles to get or make money and depends less on him

Thanks dear

Nahunger:
You are a different breed, you are definitely not in the feminist gang of jeon sifiora iyaebe and one other black thing that hate Nigerian men lol

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 You are very funny honestly

MoneyMustBMade:
You're right

Thanks

Makakween:
Thanks for the advice if you have read by previous posts you would have understood this,my dad is late and my mum is sick,yes my elder sisters are aware of what I am going through although I don't want to be a burden but I have no choice cos it's either there or here.

But can you just take a break from child bearing to get something doing as the person that you are bearing those kids for has no agenda for you and them

bukatyne:
😃 😀 😄 😁 🤣 😂 😃 😀 😄

Laugh my dear this guy wants to see the negative side of me that's why i am loading it for every of his silly mention on me

thesilentman:
Because we live in proximity-same town, she wouldn't quit checking up on her daughter virtually every day or at least every other day.

I felt a deep intrusion on my privacy so yesterday I summoned the gut and asked her if she didn't have a house. Before she could reply, I told her, 'learn to stay where you belong! I did not marry daughter and mother!`
She has since disappeared into thin air.

This evening am thinking whether i bleeped up or not.

You only passed a message to her but with out courtesy

Maybe later in the month you pay her a visit with your wife to check on her and you can get some provisions for her

I want to believe that she will learn to stay in her house untill invited

GeneralKoko:
For me it has been data and eating out. Too much snack and Cho Cho Cho has taken all my money. How I blew 30k in a week when I'm not earning is still a mystery.

Apart from food, I control all spending to avoid being broke

blacksam01:
truth i bitter that why it pains u

You are the one that is pained for the fact that you will be hated by your wife

As your mum hate your dad, it runs in your family

Deal with it

Makakween:
Good afternoon,I really need your sincere advice on how to go about towards regaining myself, gave birth just 2 days before induction day,ever since that day it's been one form of talk or the order talk from hubby,he refused telling his family about my pregnancy like I said earlier and now that I gave birth to a female he's been threatening to leave me to myself that's my fault. Now like this I have been hearing voices of people I know even sometimes of my phone ringing, these voices keep saying nasty things to me although physically I get these gossips on a normal...he practically stop any form of omugwo and is asking me to bath myself and my baby cos it's a normal thing,I have been feeling deezy and inability to breath properly,but I was put on drugs which I am taking, the voices are so real,I also forget where I keep things,I am a food for gossiping and this is wearing me... now I think of ending it all,is it because I am scared of anything?.

At this junction I know my life has taken a drastic step,cos I don't understand anymore, told his sister about me giving birth to a girl, the next thing she did was posting pictures of friends and families that recently had boys on her Whatsapp status and of course mine,and she never for once called to congratulate me neither, always supporting their brother,he had already told me earlier that it's better to give birth outside. I'm not bothered by all this only bothered about my kids, it's better to be single than suffering in the name of marriage, although I don't want to be a burden on anyone I have no choice, the laughter I hear is really affecting me and his daughters attitude makes it more worse. Someone called me recently and asked for me to explain how I was feeling and not hide anything cos if I die nobody would know what killed me.

Since he has decided not to train the girls and treat every issues about them with contempt, can't even show them off and always insulting them for not being male, it would be hard for me but I would try my best, since he said I should work to train them, I just need to wait here 4 to 5 months so my baby is big enough for me to leave and never look back... At this junction please it's obvious I can't kill myself with being a puppet to someone who doesn't value me. I want to thank the few people reading and commenting I really appreciate your words mean a lot as it quenches my burning heart. God bless you immensely 🙏🙏🙏.
Ahnie
Frozen70.
God bless all of you for your comments you don't know but you are saving a life somewhere 🙏🙏🙏.

Am so sorry for the depression you are passing through from giving birth to females, who are God's gift, to staying with an ungrateful man who doesn't appreciate those little angels
He doesn't want to accept the fact that he is responsible for the gender of any child through his chromosomes

At this point, you have to be very strong Wether you are prepared for it or not

Where are your parents, are they aware of your bitter situation
Pls reply before I can go further

blacksam01:
u were sefish with ur thought....thinking break up from the beginning...

all those are excuses sha..what i know is that Naija wifes all hate their husbands

I never knew that your mum hated her husband

And it's possible your wife will hate you when you marry

fastseo:
why is it that those that talk I'll of Peter obi always end up somehow

Lol
Na him head they catch them

Kobicove:
You suppose know say na Igbo and not Ibo!

We use both

One for English and another for broken English

HappyPagan:
A few years ago, one of the branches of Winners Chapels opened on my street.

It didn't take long for them to set up 4 loud speakers outside their church. My quiet mornings became filled with their cries to God to have mercy on his people.

I struggle with insomia, and I'm a light sleeper. Imagine how the quality of my days deteriorated, waking up angry and possed, the gruntings from the Head Pastor's throat banginge ear drums every morning.

I confronted them on many occasions, but nothing seemed to work. I then had the brilliant idea to make a video recording and upload to my Twitter account. I tagged their Headquarters and their main account, asked them if Jesus was wrong to ask them to pray in cupboards, quiet and away from the neighbors.

I also went to all their social media pages and made an asshole of meself..... Gotta say this year, I noticed they have moved their speakers in... I rarely know when they have services, and my street is no quiet as Bleep again... Even on Sundays.

Have you had a similar issue? How did you solve it?

At a stage I became use to it and at times I won't even know it's on

I only feel it when I want to make calls or receive calls

riverbird:
From her attitude she's trying to move on.....

Ok naw