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calmandwild101:
Good evening NL,this is my first time posting on nl,so don’t mind my grammar and my typo.
Straight to the point, we are four in numbers in our family,am the second born to my father while am the first born to my mum and the only male child in the family.My immediate younger sister and the last born have been having issues for years now. I was in kaduna during the covid when the last born called me and reported her sister to me that she embarrassed her in front of her fiancé back then.she snubbed him when she took him to her to introduce the guy to her but she gave him attitude and the worst of it all was that she referred her as half sister to the fiancé which the last born got annoyed but kept cool abt it. When I heard abt the whole I faulted her that she shouldn’t refer to her as half sister.since then they have been having loggerheads,sometimes they settled but later on they go on beef which I have talked to both of them but to ni avail. My mum was diagnosed with partial stroke which really need our attention and care,after we took her to hospital for healing but no result,we had no choice than bring her back to my younger sister house after a week we moved her to the last born house because we are not comfortable in her (immediate sister)house with her own family.durring those periods of been with them I talked to both of them to settle their rift because it would affect us all but yet no result.i kept mute for a while abt their issue.Then one day I talked to my immediate sister’s best friend abt her and the last born issue,she had talked to them but my sister is the main problem because she asked her what was the last born offense to her.she couldn’t give any tangible reason the same reason she gave me is the same reason she gave her friend too. She said doesn’t respect her much.shes isn’t friendly to her,(NB: their shops opposite each other and they do and sell almost the same thing and they are both doing well) and the last born claim she greeted her but she won’t answer.to cut the long story.i ordered both of them to settle their rift or else I will not relate with anyone that go against my word.My immediate sister go against my word when her sister still greeted her but she snubbed her. When she chatted me concerning Mum’s health I asked her had she settle the rift with her kid sister, she responded in a rude way and I cautioned her to watch her words since then she ignored me totally.she doesn’t reply my chat,my calls not even birthday wishes.what do you guys think I can do. Sorry for my long write up and don’t mind typo as well.

IkeIgboNile:
This is the first topic i have created since i joined this forum.
For a while now, my mind has been restless, i haven't spoken to my father since i left his house on January 5 2023. We had an argument and i left some days later. I wasn't angry when i left, i just wanted to give him space and find my own way as a man. Though I'm his first born son and his exact replica but we are so different and share very different views.
Some days ago, i called him and was very angry at me and ended the call before i could say anything and he has refused to pick up my calls since then.
I really don't understand why he's angry at me or why he's not taking my calls but i have decided to stop calling him and let him be.

Please any positive advise,will be greatly appreciated.

hardbody:
So you want to sell a problem to some other person abi? You sef think am.

Labragadaya:
I bought a 2002 Toyota Camry as my first car in October and for the first 2-3 months the car performed pretty well.

However lately, from January it has been one problem to the other.

From overheating to coil problem to spark plug problem and others.

The recent issue with the car is that the car doesn’t hold slow anymore.

That is the car goes off at slow speeds. I’ve changed coil, changed spark plug, ringed engine twice all to no avail.

This has caused a huge hole in my pocket as I’ve even had to borrow to pay for some of these repairs.

Just yesterday in a bid to resolve this issue, I took the car to another mechanic and he told me my engine block had washed and that even if he grinded the valve the holding slow issue won’t stop. I inquired about the cost of replacing the block and purchase alone was close to a 100 thousand. I’m just tired and frustrated, I need advise, do I sell the car or do I repair this?

Is this mechanic trying to extort me. Experience car users please advise

randymirrors:
Really appreciate your feedback.

randymirrors:
frozen70 for your attention.

obembet:
By Emeka Ugwuonye, Esquire



Source: https://twitter.com/EkeDavid01/status/1654367215406272512?t=FDQoJF8xE7GBzI2j3492Lw&s=19[/quote]Thanks for this insight, now I understand what transpired

Bedotfarms:
It became a thing of concern to me when she sent me a message after more than a decade, that 'she had forgiven me' because I'd forgotten the whole thing, even she telling discussing with my person.

I only wanted to know what's hurting her, to assist where needed.

Hitherto, I've gotten matured responses so far

Bedotfarms:
It became a thing of concern to me when she sent me a message after more than a decade, that 'she had forgiven me' because I'd forgotten the whole thing, even she telling discussing with my person.

I only wanted to know what's hurting her, to assist where needed.

Hitherto, I've gotten matured responses so far

Bedotfarms:
There is this my Ex we dated for more than six years before she finally ended it immediately after orientation (service year). The dating started during extension days in our final year, secondary school.

We literally went to the same secondary school and University.

So many things happened during our course of being together:

We had many differences mainly and only on men. I was a big time simp then, was insecure with temperament issues in the relationship.

The complexity of the insecurity became clearer when she confessed that she dated someone while we were apart.

I lived in the South-West while she stayed in the Northern part of the country.

While together, she aborted three times for me. I was 69% true to the relationship, I loved her so much then and I really wanted to settle down with her. My family knew her and vice versa, including friends.

Like I stated, she ended the relationship and I accepted it in good fate, even though I wept.

What will I even have done since she initiated it. it was more like I shock to me.

After more than a decade, I was surprised to hear from my sister's hubby all the bad things that happened between us, that she aborted three times for me, that I beat her in camp, etc. That I went ahead to toast her friend (this is true but like she was 6 years in marriage).

I've tried arranging for meeting with her and husband but it never worked, for us to discuss and that I may apologize sincerely to her, since she still took it to heart.

All she kept saying she had moved on and sebi I have moved on too?

Please, what can I do in this situation?
My wish is for us to meet, and discuss intensively together.

sonjohn994:
Hello Everyone, Please I need your help, I have been having been depressed and Hypertensive all because of this issue. Please I will appreciate if I can get help from here before I die in silent .

My Ex wife packed out 2019 when we hard misunderstanding and she took my 2 kids with her, since then have not set my eyes on them.
We talked on phone for some time while I kept begging her to give me the opportunity to at least contribute to their upbringing of my children. But to my greatest surprise all her family disagreed and asked her to relocate and change number. All the family that I have their numbers did the same by changing their lines too. I have not been a happy man since then.

Please I will appreciate if anyone can link me up to any organization that can help me. The last family I spoke to did not change line, She only blocked me and she is the one I have been sending money to until I requested to see them. She said if I cant stop asking to see them I should stop sending the money . and i have to stop sending money into her account.

Please Nairalander Help a Brother.my Investigation trace them to IBAFO. The woman owns a school around the area and they attend her school. Please anyone that can help to link me to right Authority should pls help.

Thank you and God bless

RTID:
A guy I met on Facebook added something to my drink on our first meeting.

I think It's time to share my experience so nobody falls victim again.

Ladies, you need to be careful. This guy was very active on my wall, commenting on anything that concerns me. I loved his vibes.

On his birthday, he wished I hang out with him even if it was for 30mins. Because I don't like meeting people, especially online, that decision was very hard for me. After several thoughts, I accepted because it was his birthday lemme make it beautiful for him at least.

I told him not to pick me, I will find my way. I arrived at the restaurant, One thing I do each time I arrive at a place is to observe my environment very well.

I could recognize him quickly because he looked exactly like the person on his DP. Another guy was seating on the driver's side discussing with him.

So I dial his number, he came out of the car and saw me. So we entered the restaurant, I gave him the present I got for him.

He offered me a lot which I declined. I hardly take things on a date, hang out, or meet except we are close enough in real life.

I noticed his unhappy face because I declined all he offered, I felt for him. So I decided to take a bottle of coke. he ordered something for himself.

While he was eating, the waitress over the counter called his attention and dropped the bill note containing the transfer account details. I looked around, there was no other waiter in sight, so I got up to pick up the note.

I came back to my seat and noticed my drink bubbling. You know how it is to drop something inside a carbonated drink. So he quickly requested the bill note to do the transfer, a means to divert my attention.

I relaxed as if nothing happened, I started bringing on topics for discussion so I can take a little time before I leave...

He noticed that I wasn't taking the drink anymore, he urged me to take the drink so he can order more. I told him I was satisfied already. He persisted but I told him I was badly belching already. I told him never to worry, that I will pay for the drink.

So I brought out my phone and faked a distress call. After pretending on the phone for up to 5 minutes. I told him that I will have to go and that the people I left before coming are on my neck.

I begged him to permit me. He told me that he didn't like what I did to the drink he offered me, he can only be happy if I finish up the drink.
I took the coke, covered it, and told him that I will finish it at home. I patted his back, still, he was protesting.

He escorted me out. He told me to join them so they can drop me off. Thanks to God, a bike Just dropped somebody. I mounted on the bike.

While the bike man was driving out, he moved to the car where the other guy was waiting and was telling him something.

When I got to my place, I went to the messenger to thank him for the drink. I could no longer see his account. Everything was white. I called the number he gave me, but it was no longer going.
Up till today, that number never connected again.

You need to be careful with all this “when am I seeing you, I'll like to meet you..” most of them are not genuine. No matter how close you are with anybody here online, please be careful.
They can do anything to have you!.

It's true that 99% of people following me here, do not know me. They have never met me before but I so much value them. I appreciate these friends of mine on this space.

Dainy1:
Will you retaliate or how can you handle a situation where by you and your partner live together under the same roof, but each time you fall sick, you're always alone, she/he pay deaf ears to you? You drive a long distant in middle of the night all alone to get to the hospital for urgent treatment, yet no single remorse from your partner.

How do you handle such situations?

MrNotAgain:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lTNVf7qzyZM



Source-

VIDEO: Empress Njamah’s Ex-Lover Taken To Court

Nicholas Jack Davis, the ex-lover and blackmailer of Nollywood actress, Empress Njamah, has been taken to court in his home country, Liberia.

A video shared online by the Liberia National Police captioned, "LNP Forwards alleged… pic.twitter.com/pTNbiqErNC

— Punch Newspapers (@MobilePunch) May 5, 2023

Earlier thread: https://www.nairaland.com/7666020/george-wade-empress-njamah-ex-fiance

IyaebeTheGreat:
He's always laughing , sign of a very wicked man

Christistruth02:
Who released the guys name because the UK is still protecting his identity

Mitchy49:
After you have caused them pains, agony and troubles?.
Bro, you're on a long thing. I really pity Ekweramadu and his family, especially his sick daughter. I pray God to heal her. I'm willing to Donate my Kidney to ensure that she is fine. Of this is the only thing I can do for humanity and wipe her tears, I will do. Let someone tell Sonia that I am ready to give out my kidney to her. I wouldn't take a dime. I wouldn't. God be with the Ekweremadus family.
Nairaland, pls allow God to touch your hearts to help me. Ulcer has reduced me to nothing. And Hunger has escalated it. Things are just so bad with work. Pls help me with anything u can pls

Iamicekid:
U and ur parents are mad, with all the money they have stolen, for them to go through the legal way of organ donation they don’t want to cause they will spend atleast half a million dollars upward, they want to cut costs without caring about the boy it will affect, they deserve everything, dem heartless to the point that the boy they wan steal him kidney, dem no fit do 2years visa for am, Na 6months dem do, they wan use am send am back make him come dey suffer while unna go dey enjoy

Makakween:
Good evening nairalanders, right now I am experiencing mental and emotional trauma,I don't know what to do about it anymore,is it now wrong to support with the household welfare,I have deprived myself of basic needs just because I don't want to be a burden on my husband but yet even at that I think was just an excuse to justify the fact that he's an heartless person. From my present state till today if I ask him for anything that is needed he will always say there's no money,if he gives monthly money he would always ask that I use out of it for something he needs and he would pay back but nothing like that instead it's one insults to to the other.

Earlier today after a tireing day I decided to go the roadside,as I walked through the place there's a bar there I saw him drinking someone who doesn't have money,he pretended not to notice me I just walked pass the bar,on my way back he had left I was so pained I just can't say but my heart has been burning me seriously and I needed to speak to someone. Yes most of you were right to call me soft,I don't mind any support whatsoever cos I need to get drugs and other things ahead to boost my strength cos I need it, It's obvious I can't depend on him and I think he's acting this way cos he knows I don't have a supportive family. Because of the whole stress I have been booked for induction and it really getting at me, your comments help to keep me lively...I will drop my account if anyone needs it I don't want anyone to think otherwise please,🙏🙏🙏🥺 have a nice day, your comments and advises are greatly appreciated thank you.
Frozen70
Mindlog
Iyaebe the great

ebukajay184:
A member of the Oodua People's Congress (OPC), Rafiu Akinwale, has allegedly killed an Akure Prince, Adesoji Adesida, in Ondo State, IGBERETV reports.

According to report, the incident occurred at a funeral held at the Dome in Akure on Friday, April 28, 2023.

Akinwale, who also came to the funeral, was reportedly beating his girlfriend over an accusation that she was exchanging phone numbers with another man.

It was gathered that an attempt by Adesida to prevent Akinwale from beating the girlfriend did not go down well with the OPC member, who out of anger, reportedly pushed the prince. He was said to have slumped.

An eyewitness, who spoke on condition of anonymity, said the victim was rushed to the hospital where he was confirmed dead. He further said that the suspect has been arrested by the policemen at Ala station in Akure.

Confirming the incident, the spokesperson of the State Police Command, Funmilayo Odunlami-Omisanya, said investigation was ongoing on the case.

She added that the suspect was still in police custody where he was being interrogated by detectives.

A cousin to the deceased, Prince Stephen Adeyinka Adeyinka, also confirmed the incident in a Facebook post on Monday, May 1, 2023. His post read;


https://www.facebook.com/515736302/posts/pfbid0z7pGfm6Q4KhyyxmT7VgJyiK9jt7zPgjn3KwbZJyRjRwopTFhSiJZXJn227mRiMsxl/?app=fbl

https://igberetvnews.com/1444319/opc-member-pushes-ondo-prince-death-funeral-akure-photos/

Brokeness:
I just checked it up on Google and can't help but thank you profusely. The drink is something that I think a female would appreciate and love to take. I just wish it was around 2 or 3k, I'd have gotten it for her but it around double of that. Sad.

Any idea of a another thing with a lesser cost pls?

winidinma:
Thanks it came

kyber:
So there is this guy of mine who has been squatting with me now for a month now with his girlfriend, my intentions were to squat him for a week with his girlfriend till he finds a place to move into.

Now it’s been a month now he doesn’t seem to make any movement and worse part is that he and his girlfriend won’t let me have my private Time instead I’m the one who gives them time to have fun.
His reason for being chased out from his uncles house is bit unclear to me. I’m now seeing this guy to be very cunning.

I went out to look fora house for him since he said he couldn’t find one, so I found different spaces for him comfortable able enough but he said he doesn’t like them that he hasn’t seen his taste.

I don’t know what to do right now and I’m tired, they have been contributing little to our daily meal .

Please what do i do to systematically drive them out. But they don’t have anywhere to go to

Did I do wrong by Accommodating them?

Please you guys should help me shook mouth

Notorioustroll:
My girlfriend said I can cheat and go scot-free.
That she will not dump me even if she discovers I have been cheating. This got me upset. Please what does this mean?

beekind:
I am a 38 year old Nigerian American citizen dating a 26 year old Nigeria girl.
I grew up in Nigeria but travelled out to the USA when I was 25 years old, I am a citizen now and doing really well for myself.
I met a beautiful and godly Nigerian girl on facebook and we have been dating for some months now we are now thinking of marriage, she is in Nigeria while I am in the USA.

Some weeks ago my dad asked me to do some tests and send to him, (He is a medical doctor), I did them, turns out to be fertility tests and all was perfect.
I just told him about my fiance and my plans to get married in some months time and he said she has to do fertility test before he can agree to the marriage.

This was very shocking for me as he insisted that it is his position, I haven't told my fiance cos I dont know how to and my fiance is scheduled to pay my parents a visit for the first time in Port Harcourt in 2 weeks time.
My fiance is from Delta but lives in Portharcout as my parents while we are from Port harcourt.

My dad has said if I cannot tell her that he will, what do you guys think ?

Honest advise please and admin kindly push to front page for wider advise.

Thanks.

Lance008:
To be honest am not happy with the new trend why will you marry and divorce in less than 2years
Do the couple actually knew the financial stress they put some people just to make their day a big day for everyone
Some relative don't have money but they have to borrow to buy clothes so as not to disappoint the couples
Please guys if you are looking for a lady to be having sex with daily better go and have a sex with benefit gal and not marriage
Marriage is bigger than just sex, marriage is a bond between two people
Nowadays relationships last longer than marriage

winidinma:
My menstrual cycle is currently overdue, and I have used pregnancy tests on three separate occasions, but all of them yielded negative results. Despite this, my period has still not arrived and has been delayed for two weeks.

Please I need sincere and reasonable replies

fadilaMaikiriki:
Hello all!

This is the backstory:

Sometimes last year ending, I attended the burial of my boss' mom. This burial ceremony took place late last year. We first of all went to the church, then from there we proceeded to the home of the woman. During the course of the burial proceedings in the church, I mistakenly sat on my phone. There was a lot of sitting and standing. So, in one of the many sitting 'downs', I mistakenly sat on my phone that was on the pew. My phone was affected. It went bad, but not so bad though, just a little ink that appeared at the bottom of the phone. The phone screen didn't crack at all, just the ink that appeared. I didn't like the fact that the ink is there, so I decided it's better I get another phone. This phone was bought for me by my boss, when he heard the story of how my former phone was snatched from me while on transit. He felt pity and gave me the money I used to purchase this one I'm using currently. The phone is just a year old, not upto two years, until this incidence of my phone going bad happened.


Why I stopped talking to him:

About last week or there about, I asked my boss( Although, I no longer work with him. I worked with his mum before she passed, but he's the one that pays my salary then), to
please get me another phone, that the one I'm using is so bad. When I sent the chat, he said he'll get back to me soon, maybe he was busy. So, he later replied with this " hello dear, I've been looking, but not lucky yet", something like, I've forgotten the exact thing he said. I don't want to open the chat again because it will make me view some pictures/videos or messages he has sent me on WhatsApp, because after I got that reply ( though I don't know what he meant there) I stopped chatting with him or talking to him. He has sent some pictures/videos and messages on WhatsApp, but I'm not going to reply, at least not yet.


The thing is, I don't like what he did. This is someone that can afford hundred of the phone. Someone that has lands here and there, houses with tenants here and there, plus other businesses fetching him cool money, someone that has about 4 Porsches, Benz, Range Rover, lexus and other cars in his garage. Then, you now ask the person to please get you a phone that the one you're using is bad, and then you're getting this reply, (even though I don't know what the reply meant), as a person how would you feel?


Did I do the right thing ignoring him? Did I do something wrong by ignoring him? I need your opinions/ suggestions. This will determine if I'm going to reply or ignore him. He sent me some videos/pictures and messages on WhatsApp, but I'm yet to open them or reply them. He doesn't know I'm angry with him.

Please, I would appreciate your input on this. If you're in my shoes, what would you do?

Thanks!

madridguy:
During our parents era, our fathers are really Alpha male not we men of today that it is only our middle leg that we can boast of.

abobote:
Pls don't take this advise

vickydevoka:
Pregnancy makes current young Nigerian women behave anyhow because they think they are untouchable. My mama no misbehave for once. I fit swear

Killbillz:
That wasn't necessary tho... Enjoy ur day