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siofra:
Do I call him out or ignore him?


How do I handle this like a true alpha lady?

Ayietim:
Before you reach the point of no return on your decision to seek a divorce, consider your children.

Your children may never forgive you for the rest of your life.

The roots of their concealed hatred for you, would be the deprivation of true love, real happiness, reliable security and blood bond relationship that only the togetherness of biological parents create.

segunpraiz:
From my observation in this recent year 2022 we just got over, I discover that the number of people who died from road accidents are much more than any other form of death such as diabetes, HIV, seizures and the likes. My question now is should one avoid traveling by road which most importantly involves long distance. I however understand that some of us have to travel to and fro in order to take care of our needs. Should one avoid long distance journeys

IngrateWifeKids:
Having a Nigerian Wife and Kids in the UK is worse than slavery

Here is why

You will toil to make life comfortable for the so called wife and her kids (they are her kids in the final analysis you are just an expendable sperm donor) and she will still turn those same kids against you and get you kicked out of the family home or voluntary leave to keep your sanity, dignity and freedom.

She will engineer your departure from the family home once she starts receiving single parent handouts from the family hating british system

in the UK, the societal pecking order is children first then women then pets (cats and dogs) before men.

You've been kicked out / forced out of your children's abode and lives (at times by the UK police who will believe anything a woman tells them about her husband) and there are still demands on your finances by the UK system to pay to your kids or you feel obliged to give them some money even though the so called children are selfish and self centered and as dangerous to you as their mum an the lot of them (Mum and kids) are as ungrateful as Bleep. What the hell !!!!

Is it even worth a man marrying ad siring kids with a Nigerian woman in the UK or is it an exercise in futility and all round LOSS for the man on all counts ??

99% of Nigerian women in the UK are like this and God help you find the good 1% amongst these animals in human skin called UK based Nigerian women.

Let me stop here and I hope I have at least helped one man to at least avoid the dangerous trap of marrying a Nigerian woman in the UK or having kids with a Nigerian woman in the UK.

Men you have been warned

NUFF SAID

Afodot0022:
Happy new year nairalanders. This year is favor for us all. I need advice o my people especially from people that have been in the same scenario before.

I am having an issue in my marriage which is taking my peace this moment. My wife got a job at the correctional services of Nigeria which is formally know as prison service as a warder like 2 years now.

At first i never wanted her to do the job cos i knew the job will be demanding and will cause friction at home but i decided to let her go for it just to keep her busy and also to get small support from her cos it's not easy for me shouldering all expenses.

After she got the job, I noticed my wife changed in character and attitude and also in integrity, example like lieing and also having an I don't care attitude which she doesn't do when she was not working. Well I thought maybe the little exposure she start having and people she is minggling with are those influencing her. I never take consideration of it. The job is so demanding that she works on shift, at tmes afternoon and night shift and this has caused alot of issues but I decided to be an understanding husband and ignore, I supported her in chores of the house and also take care of our two kids when she is gone for work.

My mom also stays with us making it easier for me to navigate and take care of the home while she is away at work. It happened that we had serious issue of infidelity from her last year that i saw her chatting with one of her old friend and notice they were having an emotional affair. I was angry when I found out and sent her parking from the room we share together.

Honestly my intention was to send her away from the house cos I was furious and disappointed that despite all I have been doing for the family and also for her, she could pay me back in such manner, but because of pleading from my mom, I decided to let her move her stuff to the sitting room and we stop staying in the same room cos i needed space and also to heal from the heartbreak and disappointment.

During those time for like 4 months we had serious issue and living apart and doing things separately, but still in the same flat, I only give her money for my kids feeding and also pay their school fee cos have already made up my mind to move on.

During those period she went ahead to rent an apartment in the barracks where she works and never informed me. It was after she had paid for the apartment she told me and informed she will be leaving to her work station and reason is for her to reduce stress and also expenses.

When she got the job then, it was so stressful for her cos the distance to kirikiri to where we stay is very far and also she spend all her salary on transport, attimes she uses the house upkeep money I gave for tfare when she is stranded. She doesn't have time for me nor the kids cos she will be so exhausted when she returns back from work.

So when we had misunderstanding, I think she saw it as an opportunity to move to barracks and also to reduce her stress and also expenses. But what annoyed me is she never carried me along when she was processing the apartment.

Now the misunderstanding has been settled by both family and have decided to forgive her and give her a second chance cos this was her first time misbehaving. She has always been a good wife from the start but don't know why she turned this way of late. Now the issue is that, i don't know what to do, initially i told her to resign the government job which she accepted to resign, irrespective of her not having any new job or business to fall back on if she resign. She will be at home idle and dependant on me. Not that this govt job she is doing is helping financially at home cos she entered the institution with SSCE cert and poorly paid that bfore the month end she is broke and spend all on tfare, but because its a govt job and also she can grow in it and also become big in it in future, I decided to let her continue the job but she still wants to go to the apartment that she rented cos it has start reading.

What she suggested is she coming home every weekend to attend to the kids and return back afterwards. While she is gone back, it will be my mom and myself that take care of the kids of 5 and 6 years and my mom is old and don't have strength for such stress. I don't think that will be easy for me as man cos I also work as well and don't have that much time.

My decision now is for her to take the kids with her to the barracks to stay with her and will also change their school, i will be going there when i have the time to check on them. I can't change our present location now cos the place is closer to my own work and the apartment is almost rent free reason why i decided to stay put cos its not easy with rent in Lagos.

The problem now is that if i allow them to go, at anytime, they might sent my wife to enugu for 6 month to do her mandatory course and there will be no choice, the kids will be back to me and will also start changing school again which is not good for the kids. The job has been like a curse to the family rather than a blessing.

Should my wife resign the job and get another job closer to home so she can have time for her family or i should let her go to the barracks alone or with my kids and will be visiting them once in a while even though i as a man i have needs aswell and dont know how that needs will be meant when she leaves. I am just in a dilemma now and need an advice expecially from married couples and those that have experience such or couples that live apart due to work or something else. Pls pardon my typo errors.

I will appreciate frontage from the mod for more inputs.

Zerofarm:
Hello Nairalander,

I need your suggestion and advice because I just acquired 7 hectares of land for plantain farming in ekiti which will be planted by February next year, the place is secured and free from bandits or herdsmen but everybody is telling me to do relocation instead of farming even though I’ve invested up to 4 million naira into this project because I love Agric….

Please which one is the best advice for me right now as I know how I can make it big by planting up to 10,000 suckers of plantain on this land and get the return in a year, is there market for large production of plantain?

Mods please help me to push this to front page as this is my only option of surviving

Lade18:
Recently met this single lady of one. Been the one footing her bills and sending her daughter (5yrs old) to school. She told me She wouldn't let us have sex until she sees I'm committed and reality love her. Although, that's not the reason I'm talking care of her daughter, I just naturally love to spend for people I care about. Just recently, she's wanting to know how much I give my mom and why I'm the one sending her money when she has a shop and making her money.

Yesterday, she told me I don't love her enough. That, if I can open a shop for my mom , then I can do more for her. But I wasn't the one that opened the shop for her, I just supported her.

Now, we had sex for the first time last month and has been denying me sex since then. Yesterday, she came around and I initiated sex, she denied. She told me if we're ever gonna be together, I should learn how to be a man. In her world, being a man involve me cooking, laundry, take her out, and clean. I told her that's cool. But I don't know what a woman will be doing in a House if she's not working while I'm the one footing her bills. If I ask her this, she would get angry.

My fellow men, why are the requirements for sex getting on the increase these Days? Is that they way it's supposed to be?

Emma44:
Please, my eyes and urine is yellowish in color for weeks now. I need help

jeslom:
So I met this fine lady on instagram. We have been talking for a while . Today she seem to ask more bout me. I wouldn’t usually lie. Thing is . She is rich and young, she just bought a house in Lekki last month . By my instagram it looks like I might be doing well, but na just nice pictures i get. My brothers I am just a freaking tennant in Ajah, and not in a Behind part of Ajah. Ajah is like the hoodlums if you are staying in the island and she is abroad based actually .
Deep down I know she is asking these questions to see if my class match . Tempted to just play the lying game to her now. Yet to reply her message.
I was usually better with girls when their richer than me . But that was when I was with a non Nigerian. But Nigerian rich girls can be different. Do I just lie or say the truth

Bvlgari:
Happy 96years old father welcomes his 72years old son home for the christmas and new year holidays.

Sprays his son money in his excitement

Source;

https://www.instagram.com/reel/Cm5PjUMp5rr/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CB2pB0Cjcgk

sorextee:
First of all, are u alright?
U married while u were still in ur dads house.
U born first pikin still in ur fathers house.
U born anoda and u still wan bring am come him house.
Ur mum is paying ur child's school fees.

This goes back to my first question. Are you alright?

Let's assume u really crippled and got no hands.

Shame no even catch u to type all these things?

sqlPAIN:
My wife just gave birth to my second child of recent and has been in the hospital for almost a week. Yesterday I went to the hospital to bring her and the new born to the house after a long stay at the hospital but to my greatest surprise, my father refused to allow us into the house. He had even already brought out our belongings. Me and my dad have not been in good terms since I got married to my wife in 3 years ago(even before then). He has been on my neck for years now, constantly and violently reminding me of how I should have left his house year ago and go live on my own, constantly throwing insult at me, telling me how I'm a disgrace to him and men in general, saying he regrets birthing me. I'm constantly letting him know that I'm not yet ready financially to stand on my own but he wouldn't listen. We've had countless fight turned physical because of this issue. Yesterday was the tip of the iceberg for me because I'm planning on arresting him... He brought out our belongings and my first child, saying we would not sleep in the house. We were all outside from morning till evening, I had to go beg a neighbour to helpe accommodate my wife and new born for the mean time. I'm currently typing this from a friend's place. I'm planning on arresting him because how can someone be so wicked and heartless to your own son.

benjackugo:
https://twitter.com/BenHundeyin/status/1607736310055456768?t=iu58enPYoSxjSA4Vs8oQmw&s=19[/quote]I think it's time for the IGP to make it mandatory that Police officers must go to school to upgrade their educational standards to BSc

Those who doesn't want should remain in their rank and retire there or go to school acquire educational knowledge that will make them understand that they are in the force to protect human lives and properties

BonPatrick:
Please I need your advice, my girlfriend is acting unusual recently, I do all the calling and chatting she never get interested to call or reply me anymore, this woman I'm talking about has a child for me she met me when things where good unfortunately things change I have been jobless for two years now we both have suffered together to raise our child but her sudden change is what I don't understand recently. I call her to know what's going on she said to me that can I see the handwriting on the wall, she said this repeatedly. Please my people I'm doing everything possible to have financial life because I don't want to miss this woman I really love her.

Stillwhites:
It's getting to a year now that my wife began starving me of sex. Honestly I can count how many times I sexed my wife in the last two months and in most cases I initiate the engagement.

She sometimes complain that I love sex too much so I have to endure days without sex. As I type, it's morethan a week that we engaged in adult activity. I contemplated seeing another lady but it's against my Christian faith. How do I handle this situation?

frozen70:
Christmas tree is a symbol of Christmas same with Christmas decorations

It reminds you of the biggest celebration around the world and it beautifys your home

Greattestman:
My mother has been threatening to commit suicide if I won't leave the house for her and her husband to be (my step-father to be). She gave me ultimatum of some days so I decided to call my uncle in the US and told him what was happening, he advised me to leave and get another house and he promised to pay my rent.

Two days ago he sent me 300, 000 Naira and I paid my rent 50, 000. I packed in today but my mother doesn't know my house and I'm planning to cut my mother off my life.

I seriously miss my father.

EastAlchemist:
Lol mumu

DenreleDave:
I want to ask this guys. If you are working for someone in an organisation, informal organisation at that.

If the boss decides to sell the company, is it legal, morally or and constitutionally right to inform the staffs of the potential sales?

Should the boss just sell the company and care less about any decision the potential buyer decides to do with the staff who were unprepared for this?

Bradford111:
I can't let that phone go no matter what

Novemberaura:
How do one cope with sleeping on the same bed with a partner who snores? Is it every fat/chubby lady that snores or is mine an exception
It's frustrating when you don't get enough sleep in the night, it afters your productivity and performance during the day


Those who have long term partners who snore how have you been coping, how do you manage to sleep?please help a brother out cuz I am tired already

Zeal0000007:
madam power I hail u, it's your type that encourages men to hit women , women of ur type, so u fit get sense, but I'm aren't like that, pls if u have nothing to tangible to contribute next time just read the story and move on, u mustn't contribute thanks.

Bradford111:
Waking up this morning I texted my gal but was surprised to be replied with a “let’s end it” text was trying to ask her what the matter was but she didn’t explain..
So I accepted my fate, she doesn’t know I got her as a friend or TikTok so I chatted her on TikTok and got her to tell with what the issue was…
She told me on TikTok about she suspecting me to be talking with girls on my WhatsApp and she has ego issues
That she hates apologizing as she is not used to that but being with me she always apologizes when she is wrong that it’s hurts her…
I wanted to try and beg her for we to come back but hearing this thing from her has killed my thoughts of that
Am thinking of taking back the phone i bought for her and move on as is almost the starting for a new year
Am I doing the right thing
Please I need advices from my learned people here


I will upload screenshots of our conversations

Zeal0000007:
baba na advice I needed especially now that I'm down, not to cast stones.

chariisGRACE:
He uses a basic phone - this tiny itel phone.

He has been fantasizing about owning a smartphone

nailcapuzzi89:
Your suggestion is brilliant.

You sound really great.
Nice one.

chariisGRACE:
I've want to gift my father something, but I don't know what's best for him with my tight budget of 20K.

Android phone (used showglass phones)
Suit (my money no go reach)
A pair of shoe (He doesn't really need it)

Aside these three things, what would be a suitable surprise gift to him?

Opinions and insults are welcomed

Nlfpmod seun

Spray:
My month old baby always shock from sleep... Mummies/daddies in the house, what could be the cause to this and possible solutions please