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Ersther:
What an odd hour to converge

That was my thinking too and coming out in such hour means they are well prepared for even the police

Why not seek police approval if actually they are on a good mission

Middleborn:
I'm a married man, been married for 3 years. I'm happy in marriage with a daughter who is a year and 6 months old.

Before I met my wife in August of 2018, i was in love with Rita, a beautiful and intelligent lady. I'd known her for some years but I've never been free to pursue a relationship with her, I was engaged to another, but it didn't work out. So, by April 2018, I broke up with my fiancee. I wasn't so affected by the break up cos at that time I had understood it wouldn't have worked out between us. After the break up, i ran into Rita and we hung out. I realised to my excitement that she was sweeter than I imagined. She was a beautiful soul and we kinda fit hand in glove. The problem was, she had a boyfriend and she wanted so much to end up with him. Now, she would prefer me to him in many aspects, but he was rich and I was, well, just there. That didn't stop her from giving herself to me. We made sweet love many times, mostly in my place. I was so in love cos for the first time I met a woman who loved love making as much as I did. Everytime, we had s*x raw. She was on daily pills. We would gist after making love and get aroused again and go on and on. I felt jealous each time her boyfriend would come to town and she has to go visit him. Once she consoled me by saying when she has sex with him, she's thinking about me. The thought of her being with him broke my heart, but she says to me "just enjoy all this while it lasts".

This carried on until August, at this time I realised I have to look for a girlfriend, someone I would get married to. So one time she came to my place, after we had s*x, I told her about some girls I planned to approach. She picked one for me her name was Angel. She said I should try that one. (Angel is my wife now). So I got to know Angel, asked her out and she said yes. During the early part of my relationship with Angel, Rita and I were still fu*king. Once, we lodged in a hotel and slept over, the s*x was mad, so sweet, at the time, I hadn't had it that sweet before. After then we would make love only twice before her boyfriend proposed to her suddenly. Even if I was determined to pursue the relationship with Angel, I was jealous she was engaged. But a week or two before the engagement I noticed Rita was unhappy and frustrated and I asked, but she waved it off. She got married on December 22, 2018 and I became more serious with Angel and got married to her in August of 2019.

Rita gave birth to a baby girl in July 4, 2019. This left me thinking, she was pregnant before she got married?. We hardly talk these days because Angel is a jealous wife. She doesn't like me to keep in touch with my female friends. So Rita and I talk sparsely. The thing that convinces me even more that her baby is mine is that, my daughter who is 1 year 6 months, she was born 15th of July 2021 looks exactly like Rita's daughter born 4th of July 2019. Both are carbon copies of my mum and younger sister. I think she knows and has refused to tell me. But why would she hide it from me? I don't even know what to do with this knowledge. This is my story. What do you guys think?

This is very dicey

If you demand for a new DNA test and it's positive, Rita husband will reject the child and reject her

Be ready to accept her and the child and marry Rita

If the test is negative, you have already created a wond that won't ever get healed in her marriage because of dragging such to her husband face and hearing

Are you well prepared emotionally for the out come if you should take any of the actions you may be thinking of

Just give them time and keep in touch with Rita, you guys will get to know the truth one day, either from Rita that is if you ask her or by circumstances

Roboclopp:
Something happened to me that till this day, the memory holds me. Basically, I was wrongly accused and humiliated in public even though I was trying to speak for myself.

Ever since then, I’ve been quite distant from everyone around me. People think I am snubbish, etc but the truth I realise is that the trauma just keeps coming everytime. I can’t shake it off.

Also it is so bad I just don’t know who to trust to open up about it. But i still feel it.

I wish i could really explain this to someone, but trauma is real.

Honestly, I can’t find a reason to still be alive because the incident around the situation broke me completely. I ve managed to crawl myself slightly away from it, but honestly, every now and then i still feel this heavy weight on my chest that I have to pull out . I can’t explain it, but I wish this never happened

Any advice

You are actually sinking into depression and you are not even making any plans to come out if it

Becareful before you kill yourself because no body believed you when you said the truth

If you die, no one will feel your departure

So unchain yourself from the shackles and relocate to where you can start another life

Mode4:
My father did something very painful to me today and i want to remove his name from my names. I want to know the legal implications of doing so and what it will cost me. Not like he trained anyone of us. My mom trained us with her meagre resources. I live alone m and i am an adult.

When you take his name away from your name, will you drain his gene, DNA or blood away from your life

Will you change your village

Will you form a one man squad kinsmen

Forget about his identity and plan a life that will benefit you and your future children to avoid a generational routine

Take good care of your mum and reward her very well

As for him, just behave as if he doesn't, exist so that you won't act in a manner that he will curse you or bring problems that you too will regret because of your actions on him

After all you don't get to see him every day

Because the way you are reacting, you fit cause more problems for the family because of him

Move on with a better life plans

Time will heal all wounds

Enoch07:
This is one side of the story, I need to hear the other side.

So far the other party is dead, the story from the other party side is useless because it can't be measured with the death of this woman

ThoughtOfYou:
One woman is enough trouble already much more two

Honestly

kwinanitaa:
Is cicamon the same thing as breadfruit?

They look similar in appearance, but breadfruit is called ukwa in Ibo land and it's edible, but Is either cooked as beans or fried as grandnut and eaten with coconut

But cicamon is eaten like normal fruit with sead

JustANairlander:
Why is her relationship always in the news

That's the kind of life she wants
She always bring herself to the public

viyon02:
Please house, can some help with the English name of this fruit

Is called cicamon

dre11:
https://www.vanguardngr.com/2023/01/woman-dies-after-falling-off-husbands-motorcycle-on-way-to-church-in-ogun/

Nlfpmod

It a very sad and unfortunate situation

A helmet would have saved the situation

Then for him to carry three people on his bike me and that the woman was not seating properly or probably was no holding any part of the Okada and a guard to stop her from falling off

She could have died of shock and maybe she was hypertensive and may not have been taking care of it

I don't believe the man killed her on purpose, what will he gain for the fact that they were even going to church together and this wasn't their first time

One thing that was I hate about Okada is that, only the rider has a firm grip on the other passenger is holding nothing

Lekan239:
Hello guys I want to set up a business for my wife. I want her to start a business for the family in case of raining days. All the funds I earned last year, my building project gulp all of them.

I already bought a car and build a mansion but my account balance is weak, I'm working with a Contract Firm that could end at anytime.

I'm thinking of investing 3m naira for starter into any business of her choice. I'm confused if I should give her all the 3m once for the business or to give her 2m first and keep increasing capital as the business progress.

My family really needs a business right now, something that we can fall back on incase the contract got terminated sooner than expected.

I want her to start something now while I continue saving more money, because I have the vision of starting a muti million naira business.

You need to find out from her on what she wants to do

If it's business, what kind of business does she want

After her choice is made, she must go for training trade to understand the nitty gritty of the trade because every trade has its own secret

Then after the training, you can start with 1ml

Then watch the progress of the business and if it's progressing, tell her you want to add more capital so that the turn over will be high

Meanwhile, keep advicing her on how to be prudent and accountable

If you are getting what you want then you add more to it and expand the business for her

Pelumi444:
I've been with my girlfriend for sometime now and during sex she claims I don't know how to romance and that i put my dick in the wrong place even if my penis is in her vagina. I've tried so much but the sex is getting boring every time.

What do I do, I'll love if someone can help me on a thread on how to go about romancing my girlfriend. I'll appreciate it, thanks

I think you need to ask her to tell or teach you exactly how she wants you to treat or handle her when it comes to sex and romance

Some ladies wants it their own way

spartoo:
You didn't answer the question. He's asking if it is necessary to cut a child's hair when they clock 1, or is it an unnecessary superstition?

Read my comments again and again
The answer to his questions are there

Piptocoin:
[color=indigo]Reality tastes like Alomo Bitters. I am not in the way of the Op seeking his heart's desires, but when he has sailed too far from the shores of truth he risks being lost in his imagination. Whoever attempts to fill the vacuum of his desires must by no means have a heart of leather knowing that mothering three step kids will drain such lady empty of her emotional reservoir and make her feel like an "upgraded nanny" rather than a wife. TheGoodAmerican has a point in his suggestion but that is not a constant. The Op is asking far too much and I'm sure he has not thought this through. You have also expressed the less admirable but significant aspects of his search. That notwithstanding, I wish him luck in his endeavour.[/color]

You have said it all

Father254:
Please if she is from Kenya and you Nigerian can you boldly take those children back to Kenya and your wife ?
How would you feel if she doesn't come back with your kids?

In a situation like that he has to bear the situation in whatever ways it comes out while living with her

jimmychang:
You are the fool bro.The senseless bro who think he is modern or wise but will never realise why our ancestors locked their wives inside.I bet you haven't been in a serious relationship all your life.The same white people you are copying,go to reddit and see the white men suffer for this same freedom

Give your wife too much freedom and watch her give into her temptations and blame it on you.If you can't control your woman or curb her excesses you go see shege.

Bleep her well in the bedroom as If say na you Bleep pass for the whole world.

khalids:
And what if her parents self no send you....

You leave her there
She will be ashame of her life staying there when she becomes a burden to them

Pojomojo:
Is it good for a man to request for a 50-50 in relationship?

As a man do you want a woman to bring 50+ to the table but don't expect them to be the NECK

Once you expect much from your wife, be ready to tolerate nonsense from her

efelicity:
She don't let me rest

she storms into my room at any slight chance.

The husband somehow managed to know that his wife flirts around me, he warned me and threaten to stab me if he ever sees his wife around me but this woman refuse to desist from disturbing me, how do I do?

Pack out

Buskynwa:
Good day guys,please i need advice on this disturbing my mind for quite sometime now
I'm the only son of my father,although my mum remarried after he died when i was still a toddler so i had a father figure althrough my childhood
Now, i want to continue my father's lineage and dont want to disappoint him wherever he is now by not extending his lineage. I'm in my late 20's and i feel like something might happen to me (you cant rule out death as a reality) so i want to get married and have children on-time, im not that buoyant though but i'm comfy enough to afford some basic things in life.
I need advice on how to go about such situation and can i possibly get married and still scale up the financial ladder?
insults are welcome though as per nairaland tradition
CC:
Caveadullam
Ubunja
Justkatty et all.

I think you need to trace the route if uoir biological father is let them know about you and you have to establish a relationship with them and if truly you want to continue the lineage of your father

Then the issue of marriage is, when you get a woman you want to marry, let her know the situation on ground and both of you can work towards a successful family building

Meandmycrew:
@Op with this your attitude you dont need a wife, i would advise you get a nanny and a side chick, who knows after 3 more kids from the new wife you seek, she might even run away again leaving you with 6 kids to cater for. Think about it and work on yourself!

oakson:
I am in my early thirties. Dark and handsome, average height, witty, sporty, spontaneous, resourceful and lover of good dreams. Based in Lagos, a Christian from the southwest(tribe is not an issue to me),Father of 3 and comfortably doing ok above an average Nigerian. Need a working class or financially stable , educated lady that knows what it means to love and be loved!

I think your concern and interest now is to focus on how to look after your children and their future

Since their mum is no longer living with you guys, you have to play double roles

Searching for a financial stable woman shows that you can't even take care of those children needs

You really painted yourself as a good looking man, if that's what you are, then you don't need to advertise yourself

Forget about being in a hurry to get another woman

Go and arrange your self properly because you may have a bigger issue when another woman comes in, to fit into the shoes of trying to be there mother

RenegadeX:
I am a young man of 25. I am a newly admitted student of pharmacy in a south south federal university.Now my mates are in school but I am somewhere doing menial jobs to gather money to pay school dues. I have paid acceptance fee now left with school fees, accommodation and other expenses.

My parents seem lackadaisical towards this admission. But they were encouraging or pretending to encourage me. When I broke the news it was written all over their faces that they were not happy. If they do not want me to go to school I wonder what else I should do with my life because I do not have a skill at the moment.

A bill was passed recently that enables students get loans to pursue tertiary education and pay later but I think it hasn’t been implemented. Where do I get funds to fund my education even if it is a loan or should I just forget about school and look for some skill to learn? Please I need advice from matured minds only.

Congratulations on your admission for a good course

Pls don't drop out yet because you are going into a journey that will build your future

As it is now, if you know that your parents can afford your education but they are non challant about it, you have to visit your father and mother relatives who are capable of talking sense to them

Let them intervain and also assist in training you in the university

This is a decision that requires a drastic approach

By the time you go round something must happen

But if you know that your parents can't afford to train you, then you don't have any options than to sort yourself out

LILTJAY:
https://www.lindaikejisblog.com/2023/1/husband-allegedly-beat-wife-to-death-over-loaf-of-bread-in-anambra-2.html

This man knows that he can't provide for his family yet went ahead to have 5 children

Now the stupidity and stubbornness in him made him to eat the bread she bought as food for the children, since he can't afford ordinary bread, we are not talking about the provision that goes with the bread

Let him face it and rot in jail

Yinkaolola:
Hey guys,

So this guy from Kedi did a full body scan for my mum with a machine called Quantum Resonance Magnetic Analyzer, and said she has low/weak blood circulation, weak digestion, etc.

I want to know if anyone has had experience with them and if their analysis was real. I have asked her to go to the hospital to double check. In the meantime, I need honest reviews. She is adamant about going to the hospital cause she said the drugs she has been taking haven’t worked.

I don't believe those people
I will rather suggest she go to the hospital and get proper diagnosis by professionals

ante56:
Thank you
No kids yet

Ok then relax and pray for the the blessings of God

Rechargeam247:
She works, she has businesses. The children are in the university.

She isn't cheating, just disrespectful.

Ok naw
Endure it

ante56:
What would you do if you are married, but your husband isn’t nice to you
Doesn’t show you attention, care or love but he has time for the ladies around him, gives them enough attention and care even though he claims he is not cheating
As a married woman who is lacking all these from her husband, is it okay for me to cheat on my husband?

Cheat or no cheating, it doesn't solve any problem

Focus on your children and build your self

A time will come he will need your attention and audience, by then it will be too late as your would have been more occupied with other meaningful things that needs your attention

Just take charge of your emotions and things around you
While he is busy chasing shadows

Rechargeam247:
Yes, take charge is the word.

How do you go about this peacefully.

NEXT time you catch her in any stupid act that is near to infidelity, take her home to her parents with your children

Tell them to train her how to be faithful and loyal, if they ask you what happen, tell them to ask her to explain

You will be sending allowance and if possible let the children start schooling there

Try this during holidays so that by the time she spent the holidays with her parents and you did not come for your children, her parents will know that it's no longer a joke

If her parents calls you, pick their call, listen to them ans if they invite you, tell them you will let them know when you are ready, that for now you need peace

By the time she sees that you are not responding her head will reset properly

Then by the time she comes back, let her have something doing
Either teaching or anything that will bring income to her, then let her face one responsibility at home, maybe children provision or whatever

By that time she will be busy with thinking on how to carry out her task

There is no time to tolerate nonsense

Bayonet40:
Good evening nairalanders.
Why do Nigerians believe that you must have to cut your baby's hair (especially male babies) immediately they reach 1 year?
Is there any theory here?
People have been suggesting that I cut my boy's hair when he reaches 1 year which is some days from now, he has much hair which I plan to maintain and keep in a good shape.

Is a thing of choice
The hair protects their scalp and the entire head from getting cold and hitting the head on thr floor when they fall especially at that toddler age or infant age

So I believe that by 1yr, the scalp have grown enough to with stand cold effects and the effects of falling and hitting the head on the floor

Rechargeam247:
Scenario:

You have a good marriage, you pamper and take care of your wife, family and responsibilities.

On this particular day, your wife wanted to travel for an event, you asked her not to go for this particular event, kindly note, she is very social and travels a lot, you allow her, give her the freedom she needs.

Now, she ignored you and travelled, what can you do to express your displeasure, get her to apologise and avoid a repetition of such?

Creative solutions asides sex or money should be proferred

Married men and women only*

To the women, if you were the woman in this scenario, what can your husband do to get you to apologise and make you not repeat such?

If truly you are married to her and you have been a respectful and responsible man
You should be able to take charge of your home and wife

If really she disrespect your order, then she is obeying some one else

Forget about apology, your concern should be how to take charge

You started by giving her freedom
End that nonsense by withdrawing the freedom

Obavoh:
This is how I’ve been sitting on the floor in the hotel room. I am dying.

You will just die for nothing

You must have sense bye force

Pheyie:
Good morning. The number can only be reached on WhatsApp and I do not have any message that has not been responded to.The phone number is 08066109494. Please confirm that you have the correct number.

Is the same number
The name there is akalaka ekwukoma
The message I sent in whatsapp haven't delivered
But since I can't reach you, I will forget about it

Braintaf23:
My neighbor has the most crazy relationship I have ever seen.

This man never stays inside the room with his wife, for every time his wife is around this man always finds a reason to leave the room and come sit outside. I don’t think they love themselves, I think they just did an arranged marriage just to get support regularly from their families, being than his wife is partially disabled in one leg..

But isn’t that exhausting? Living with a partner you don’t even like because of money from your collective families? They are both above 40 and the wife refers to him as “guy” that’s the only name she ever calls him.

From uoir narrative, their is am Interest that lead to the marriage

Be it materials or financial gain, both of them knows what they are doing

So don't pity them