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don4real18:
So a father and child is a soft bond, right?

Lol in some cases it is actually a stronger bond especially between father and daughter.

Maybe i didn't drive home my point well

Etinosajay:
I'm sorry but this is a civil discussion, so please treat it as such. No insults pls

When you mean her child, do you also mean it's not his child too? Or by her child you mean, the mother owns the child more than the father does? Or perhaps the mother has rights to the child more than the father does??

No the bond between a father and child is strong also. I was actually looking at the fact that the child has been with her and suddenly she is meant to release him to stay with his dad.

Since the parents are not together, it is better for both of them to share custody but not one completely letting go of the child

eneyoduke:
Local dog from sai bubu farm

Lol...it looks like a Chihuahua dog. They are small and not pretty and they never grow big.

uniqueboi:
Which kind mumu 50k experience be that now? Imagine how village people dae romance person destiny o.

If it is a bank, he should better romance the 50k job because working in a bank can take away your joy and life.

Even a couple that are both working and have a child still need support support not to talk of a single mum fending for the kid alone.

As a mother; she cannot just release her child to Whizkid. It doesn't even make sense. Mother and child is a strong bond.

You are a patient and really nice person. However you should have drawn the line from the get go. Having a tv in her room is unnecessary plus even connecting dstv.

Calling you or coming to knock on your room door because she wants to watch tv is over the top. Calling you for a meeting is unbelievable. How did you allow it be this way?

You might have to ask her to go because cutting back on all the liberties you have given her will be a problem.

Fierce11:
See.. i don't want you to have a bad day.. But you deserve any 'tantrum' that hits you.. Bye ma.. Goan baff that your baby Of a creature

Have a bad day? You gave yourself a bad day. Did you see me insult you in all our conversation?? No. You called me hoe-ish, pained, ho, hopeless but i never for once insulted you.

And you seem to love my adorable baby or why else would you keep bringing a defenceless baby into the conversation? As a way to irk me? It aint working. One day you too will have a baby of a creature ...or how did you put it?

In all of this, you ended up sounding like an emotionally charged person not able to control his emotions and converse like a mature man. And you managed to validate the topic of discussion.

Have a good evening.

Alexgeneration:
Perhaps,you'll mature on the day of your funeral, all you spew is just hate against the male folks because you suffered some heartbreak.


Please,grow up and stop breathing foolishness.

I don't hate men. And i do not mean all men. I have modified my post so that i do not generalize.

And you funeral talk is a good attempt at a joke. Nice one

Fierce11:
Yes.. I pray your daughter would possess the xylem that'll foster her emotional maturity.. I wouldn't want her to be a dull Ranting ho like her mom

Are you done? Or you want to keep whinning and throwing tantrums?

Twyse:
Hyprocrite! Like you are a virgin or something
The likes of you cheat without reasons
We know you

Why are you having a seizure? You want to have sex? As a matter of fact go ahead.

Whether i am a not a virgin or i cheat on everybody and on myself join doesn't solve your problem. It only makes you feel better to spill the trash

Fierce11:
If i type what i have in mind now ehn, you'd just cause me to be banned for nothing..
Women don't possess the catalyst that gingers emotional maturity. The reason why most of y'all are pained, hopeless, vile, aggressive, hoe-ish online ranting hypocritical feminists.

Apparently i was right. Any more foul words you want to add?

You want us to advise you in how to enjoy your sex life with a woman you are most likely to dump?

People are really bold about premarital sex these days and even seeking advice on how to enjoy it. Issokay

Lol no wonder. Many guys who claim to be mature are always here whinning and weeping about one thing or the other...ladies are scum...Nigerian girls this and that...i will never love again.

Just suck it up and move on already.

Ladies are obviously more emotionally mature than men. Many men just have a tough exterior and mushy inside.

Not all men though

Emma1Oj:
Most of the pple that wedded in church, na their marriage they even crash fast fast compare to those that did court n traditional wedding. so abeg na who the borrowed oyibo life styles done help?

Really? Where did you get this statistics?

Abeg they should go to Ansar udeen or one of those Muslim schools where they can even wear the full ninja costume.

Soon now they will enrol in a Christian Secondary school like Redeemers and be trying to impose their hijab.

93Miles:
May I link you with a lady who works there?

Miles you know someone in this place and you won't link me?

Dongreat:
Wiz is a deadbeat dad, like it or not. One is an accusation but two is evidence. Two of his baby mama are complaining of the same thing; not being there for his kids, no child support, and only their if he wants to play paparazzi. It’s no allegation but fact that the dude is a deadbeat dad and he’s on a self destruct mode.
His destruction won’t be from the second baby mama but the third. Yes the jada P. lady as she ain’t stupid to ignore what’s going on. When she see a sign of wiz sour behaviour or if she Catches wiz cheating then he’s doom and will pay bills that will send him back to Surulere.

Ps: look at the boy reaction on stage with his supposed dad. That will tell you that man ain’t a father. A kid of his age will even dance, hug, and smile sheepishly if he has a strong connection with his father but boy just smirked. SMH.

Ojuelegba to be precise

kollinzgee:
this is the reason I hate most naija babes they are lazy too lazy they will just say to themselves am beautiful and sexy I don't need to work men will pay my bills. am sorry for u sister u don't want to face reality most rich men don't marry liability do u know broke guys spend more than rich guys but it's just for sex share.

No offence intended...i want to ask a question.

Do you have sisters? And if you do, is this the mentality they have?

A guy that only has a TV and mattress to his name will sign prenup too. lol

The prenup does nit include the riches you get after the marriage. You guys will share that onr

technicallyrich:
aunty there so many good guys,but very hard to see a faithful girl,i know how many girls i have dated and still sleeping with their friends as a game and these girls have boyfriends.
i have channeled all the love i have myself and i became narcistic.and i now have peace of mind.
I advice anyguy falling in love to be extremly careful because Almost all the women i have seen cheats but they only accept if you catch them red handed.ask guys that have made it in life and they will tell you how easy and cheap women are.

Bros you are a guy and you don't date guys so you cannot know. You are only speaking from your limited point of view and i tell you that they are so many many unworthy guys. So many heartbreakers that know they don't want anything serious but they string the lady along...so many guys that only want sex and dump her when he is ok.

You don't have monopoly of bad experiences as a guy. Let some ladies sit you down and gist you, you will understand that it is not just the ladies.

My former colleague dated a guy who borrowed a large amount of money from her and abandoned his studio and absconded till today...over 1m. Another colleague dated a guy for over a year only to discover that he was married and his family lived outside Lagos that is after she dated a guy that got married 2 months after they broke up.

That's just a few. Guys are also liars, cheats, gold diggers and gigolos. Let's not be bias here.

technicallyrich:
when you are in love that person you love technically control your life.for example if you have an issue it messes up your day,week or even months.that you could use to chase money,u spend it moody.
I am very emotional for a guy and when i love a girl i do it with all my heart,i nearly killed a girl i love in my undergradueate days with beating,the girl cheats like like a dog and i love her,wheneva i catch her,i always beat her.
seriously i would never love a woman again in my life

You will never love another woman because of one woman? She is obviously still in charge of your life.

I never allowed any useless guy affect me that much. I always believed that there was someone good and i was right.

Don't worry you just joined NL and it is still shacking you. You will come down soon. That is how theupsetgirl calmed down.

Everyone has a right to make their choice. Why are guys not bashing girls that want to be with "broke guys"?

You guys makeit sound like it is wrong to be with a rich guy but very right to be with a "not rich" guy. And not all rich guys are yahoo boys. Let's stop the beefing.

Is it everyone that will date a guy that doesn't have money? Who will date the rich ones? Even guys these days look for ladies with money to marry instead of the broke ones.

So let everyone marry who they want...poor or rich and face the consequences of their actions.

Wilfredpat22:
Compare the ratio of men wanting to scam ladies to women. A average Nigerian man hustles for his pocket and with his hands

We hustle with our pussy. Even the loan you are talking about, we get bannged to get it so where is your point?

I know you are not really ok mentally from your comments. So i will pass.

2buffagain:
I won't hit him back.

But he is banned from my house from that point onwards.

If your mum slaps your wife, is she banned from your house from that point onwards too?

mmadu5:
MY DEAR IM NOT RICH NOR POOR I EVEN PAID FOR WHAT SHE ORDERD AS A GENTLE . I COULD EASILY DECIDE NOT TO PAY . YOU GIRLS SHOULD REALLY STOP DEGRADING YOUR SELVES LIKE THIS ,

You guys will select a random girl on SM based on sexy pictures or whatever yardstick. When she now messes up, you come and cry foul. Do you know if she is just on FB waiting for a mugu to chat her up?

If you are a working class person, look to that circle and pick a serious minded lady that you have something in common with and not an "i never chop".

This trend is not peculiar to "Nigerian ladies"...even the guys are looking for ladies to scam. Ladies that would put their jobs on the line and collect loans for them and then they disappear.

Tamarapetty:
So this man is actually married with kids already? And madam linda get mind open leg for am. Issorai. . . Shebi it's not a crime for ALMIGHTY LINDA?? Congrat

And she said she asked God fir a child and He gave her. She should stop roping God into adultery and making it sound ok

meobizy:
If you like your children I suggest you keep them close to you at all stages of their development. A word is enough for the wise.
Since most of the people you know sent their kids to boarding house I will advice you pay attention to the amount who return back home and pick the day-student option.


The fault here is still his parents.
I hate it when people see children playing with younger ones being a crutch. In the real world our friends come in different age ranges. My friends who are 31+ have friends who range from 26 - 40 in age. I will open a thread to address this issue but this anti-intellectual forum will only watch it sink into oblivion.
The main thing is your nephew has friends, his parents should encourage it and stop trying to make him a loner.


Why don't the parents then commit suicide since it will create the ultimate test of independence?
Teaching a child independence is easy. Having his own room which he maintains himself will do more for him than any boarding school.


At what age did you enter?
My younger sister went at 15 and enjoyed the experience because she begged to go there.
I went because my father saw boarding house as a big deal. It influenced my thinking. On getting there at age 10 I saw it wasn't all my old man envisioned. The African americans who were sent there to get hard by their Nigerian parents likened the setting to juvenile detention centres [prison]; a place known for instilling anti-social behaviour in growing teens.
The independence you keep preaching, when you see the child comes back and detaches him/herself from you emotionally you will regret it in the long run.

I entered at age 10 and i learnt to cope and it turned out to be a wonderful experience.

I love my children and they will go to boarding schools. I don't need to keep them close to make sure they develop well. A child that will be wayward and rebellious will still manifest it in day school. It changes nothing.

There are so many children in day school that didn't turn out well even with their parent's imput. I believe in bringing them up well and instilling the right things in them and allowing them be themselves while i pray for God to look after them. If i notice that it is not doing them good, i will withdraw them.

I remember some neighbours i had when growing up who were kept under close watch from primary to sec school while we were sent off to boarding schools. By the time the two of them entered Uni, they just turned lost it and overused their freedom while it wasn't new to us.

The suicide option is not necessary...well except you want to explore it since you brought it up.

About my nephew...there is nothing wrong with playing with younger kids as long as he doesn't start behaving and thinking like them and forgetting his age.

We have differences in opinion and that's ok.

meobizy:
Everyone has their opinion. I will advice you not to choose the boarding house option.
The only person who can teach a child independence is the parent. One can't force it on the child. The six years of primary school is not enough, the children can still pick bad habits even at the age of 16. For female children it can go as high as 21/22 but that's a story for another day.
I honestly thought I was the only one with my view until I joined a Whatsapp group comprising of my old classmates. 90% or a little less of them [~88%] share the same view.
If as a parent you don't/can't teach your child something then neither can someone else.

I still know a lot of people that will ready choose the boarding school option. Infact, my nephew resumed on Sunday and a lot of children from friends and family friends choose the option. And i even intend to send my boys to Nigerian Military Sch in Zaria

For my nephew, it was inevitable because he just refused to mature...always playing with kids half his age and acting so dependent on his mum especially. Parents teaching independence is not as effective as them learning it on their own.

I am a lady and i went toa boarding school alomg with my sisters and it was a learning experience for me

HazzanTazzan:
What if the wife called her mother a slut and she slapped her... there are very extreme things a wife can say to provoke her husband and a MIL...

No one is saying the slapping is right... But what if it was done based on a reaction to a very extreme statement made by the wife ...

Or you just don't care what the wife did? And whatever she did doesn't matter ?

But why do you guys imagine the worst from a wife? Why would she call her MIL a slut? Why don't you imagine the worst of your mum?

What could your mum do to your wife that would make her be called a slut? Or don't you think your mum is a human being that can provoke someone? Or she is given a free pass because she is elderly?

Slapping will still be termed as domestic violence and if reported, the MIL will face the law.

kennygee:
Shaffy Bello is also another eloquent actress, if only she'll leave bleaching creams alone.

I love love love Shaffy Bello

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