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kayperry:
sell that to a boy less than -18, "Compliment works like magic" literally any amount that can give you butterflies in ur tummy is an equivalent(value) of compliment.
A woman's existence is base on what men think of her, that why women spend so much on parts that are of interest to men
Thanks to you there are two kinds of fools those comparing sex dolls to women and those in love, pls where do you belong

I belong to Jesus

Well...there are two types of women...those who base their existence on a guy's compliment and the ones who don't. Go figure!

AdeOri99:
Very few women have a touch with their spirit, most of what they got to offer is their body, if a woman can't offer me more than her body, why shouldn't I replace her with a doll.

You must be a human to be worth be regarded as one, not a sec toy, women should stop presenting themselves as intimacy gadgets, they should also provide the support they are meant to provide not nagging and fighting their men.

What I hate the most is if someone I care for fight me senselessly, it will be an unending battle because I will make sure it never repeat itself, either by subdue or detachment. Fighting me is like working against me, and if you, which I regarded as mine fight against me, it leads to setback.

Most women contribute to delaying the progress of their men because they always fight them unnecessarily, if you can't trust me and ask me questions, we are not meant to be. A relationship that lacks communication is dead, but most women, even though they have mouth, they won't communicate with their partner, they will rather victims themselves, live in their ego and made dangerous decisions.

Foolish lots, why do you have mouth if you can't talk and defend your right through communication, why fight with me with stupidity, I will just discard you.

You have a lot of complaints and faults about women. What about you? Are you faultless?

With all your complaints, have you bought a doll yet?

Ishilove:
What does this suppose to mean?

The sex doll was not submissive

advanceDNA:
Lol...anti -women campaign...Exactly my point....
U women don’t want to agree that the way men talk here is largely based on their experience with women offline and online..

Do men just call women prostitutess for no reason
Do you call men cheats and scum for no reason??

. but u guys just whine about some evil campaign to attack you....

the world is just generally a bad place, if you can’t see that.. then all you will see is that the world is against you..

Women especially on this forum do not whine half as much as you guys here. And you guys are not saints. Your flaws are plentiful.

With all the bad experiences women have had with you guys, they are more mature about it. But you guys are beginning to sound like a broken record with your wailing.

One person will open a thread to bash women and many of you will join the band wagon like flies following poo. How many times do you see ladies opening threads to do that?

kayperry:
Thot you were curious as to why men pick women over sex doll, turns out yu & ur sistas are just craving for compliment dunno about other guyz buh me can't afford even one

Compliment from who? You or the other guys here? That's not worth anything nau. Our worth isn't based on what you guys think. And comparing women with dolls is something only fools will do.

kayperry:
When economist postulated that "price is key and major determinant forces of demand & supply did you think they were joking. 800k to 2k, where mere indomie & egg could barter for sex, i shame for women

2k for what? So you get a woman to live with you for a lifetime. Please explain.

Quim2:
LOL, kindly elaborate cos I really don't get you.

With more than 4 access roads linking it to major highways it's still inaccessible to You?

I used to be a regular visitor at festac a while back. If you work on the island especially, it ain't easy. After passing orile traffic, you meet Alaba/suru Alaba, mile 2, etc.

Anything that involves going to that axis means that it is very important.

I remember how guys used it to troll girls here . They went back to their "Nigerian girls".

Festac...not easily accessible.

folake4u:
Pic 1: I was fascinated at the stones on the rails, and so I decided to check them out.

Pic 2: I was very bored while waiting for the afternoon train and I saw this Fulani woman weaving this, I really liked it. She appreciated me taking pictures of her work.

Pic 3: I arrived Agbor Railway Station at 6:30pm

Fascinated by the stones? What made the stones fascinating?

BluntTheApostle:
A few weeks back, my niece brought a man to me and introduced him as the one she wishes to marry.

Her father died while she was about 15, and I have been the one taking care of her, through school and all. So, she sees me as her father.

Alright, so she brought this young man to me. I have nothing against him. He is finishing up a master's degree, and even though he is not into anything really specific (he is a hustler sort of a person, combining different jobs), I do not have a problem with that. He appears focused, and really hardworking.

However, the problem is that he does not have a place of his own, and does not appear to have any plans in that direction.

So, last week, I asked him a whole lot of questions, and it appears like he would be marrying my baby, and she would live with him in their family house. Other families living there include the man's aged parents, some uncles and aunties, and their children. He was not specific whether aunties or uncles included blood relations and their spouses. I didn't press him on that.

Now, I have also sat my niece down, and had a chat with her. She is only 20+ (would be 21 in June). I tried to be as neutral as possible, but I may have been too blunt sometimes because she has been defensive, including accusing me of not wanting to fund the wedding.

Her mother reasons with me, but the girl has become deaf. She doesn't want to listen.

My point is that the wedding can be put on hold till the young man makes a firm decision on accommodation. All this: "I will consider it; I am considering it; it is a part of my plan" is not conclusive at all, and I don't want her to go and start her married life under the same roof with so many people.

The man is 30 (although he looks older to me), and I am beginning to feel that he is manipulating her.

What do you think?

Which of you has experienced living in your husband's family house? How was the experience?

For me, I think of it just like living in a polygamous family, and it makes me uneasy because this girl is too young, and too fragile.

Your opinions and experiences are highly welcome.

It may be all that I would need to reach a decision concerning this knotty issue.

What she needs is tough love. Allowing her go ahead with the wedding and even funding it is against better judgement. You can see what is waiting in front better than her because you are not blinded by love.

And let her understand that if she gets pregnant to force your hand, she will go on and live with the guy till they can save money for their wedding and apartment, with no more support from you.

Mariangeles:
That culture is common among the Yoruba people and you know that.
Don’t make it seem as if it is unusual, or that there is something wrong with it.

If she says she’s ok with it, then she can cope with it.

Unfortunately, it is the op that she will run to when trouble starts. By then the blind love would have expired and her eyes will be open. It is then that she'll see what everyone has been telling her.

The problem is that at her age, most people fall hard in love and lose the ability to reason and think clearly. She needs the guidance from her uncle and mum.

A 30 year old man that is still living with his parents and wants to bring in a wife to a packed family house is a red flag.

Zonefree:
As a lady, before you answer NO, endeavour you're staying alone and your parents are not staying in a rented flat at their old age.


Thank you.

But after marriage, the man doesn't move in with the woman. Besides, don't you guys always speak against ladies who live on their own?

Biglittlelois:
Has any of you gone to see her and the kids to know how they are and their welfare? Have you all enquired physically to check and see if the business is thriving and not going under, especially in this harsh buhari economy? Cos from the way you table your complaints, all you guys just do is call for money and nothing else, is that what in laws are supposed to do to your brother's widow? Has any of you enquire if there is a problem or even asked her why she hardly pick your calls? Bear in mind that she is all on her own with the business and children and I can imagine the pressure on her to keep everything afloat and going cos no one is finding it funny in their businesses and jobs these days

If the questions I asked above is not affirmative or positive, even I will bullshit all of you if I were she, you cannot play the sick mother card to a widow for monetary gains if none of you show empathy to her plight and her state of living with her kids alone, so do the needful and bring her close to you, she will change.

Very valid questions. Are they just concerned about the money they get? Have they asked how she and the children are coping.

They probably believe that since their brother was their money bag, the wife should continue from where he stopped. If they had the power, won't they take everything from her?

Biglittlelois:
Didn't want to mention the bolded as a probability before peeps will focus on vindictiveness and revenge as her excuse for ignoring them, then capitalise on it as ways of women to in laws.

I'm even shocked that most comments from guys especially, are not even going in that direction. Because they are always quick to label the woman as being bad to inlaws.

Your sister inlaw should give your mother a monthly stipend, and should be able to help with your school fees

It's the African thing that all the family members depend on one family member that is successful, including the father that is supposed to be responsible for his children.

What of a case where the brother didn't have a business? What if he was on a salary that was able to take care of his siblings and mum, but now, he is no more? Who would you guys depend on then? Would you allow your mother die?

I hope you people were not mean and disrespectful to her when your brother was alive. Were you the kind of inlaws that stepped on her toes in her husband's house? Because i believe that if the relationship between you people and her was good, you wouldn't be here reporting her.

Ayofaks:
University of Ibadan...Recte sapere fons

Finally a UIte

IME1:
Thanks thanks a lot
Imaima1 from the original thread

Remember we only want equity and true peace not confrontation or insults

Apologies

You Muslims should be content with your own things. You built your schools, be content with them. You can as well wear hijab and the long robe in your schools. You can even teach the Qur'an instead of regular school syllabus.

But no, you must try to covert and dominate what belongs to Christians. Focus on building better standards of schools and send your children there. Don't always cause trouble in Christian schools.

Very indecisive and confused human being. Keep complicating your life.

There was a thread here asking men if they would like to marry a woman like their mums. So many of them said "no". Meanwhile, we all know how they sing their mother's praises here.

So what's going on now? Is it because the op is a lady?

Fans take some of these things too far, more than the celebs themselves. In some cases, 2 celebs are pitched against each other as rivals/enemies. In real life, they are cool. It's the fans that always instigate and fuel the competition.

Esthered:
The OP did well mbok. We the owners of the soup pride ourselves with our cooking prowess but food blog we no get, YouTube channel nko, you no go see us but na comment section we full.
We don't own big restaurants too, Calabar kitchens that manage to exist is not always up to par with standard amala joint. I'm not a food enthusiast but if I were.....
I think we should always learn to appreciate people like the OP that put our meals in public spheres like this or open a counter thread to educate the masses if we think we do it better. Idoho easy, yak itang apaniko. Amenam OP.

But instead, they are running round this thread like headless chickens looking for what is not lost. Throwing words like insolence and sacrilege around instead of appreciating a job well done. A nyad esit tutu.

neuf:
what village are you from??

Just forget it. You don't know how afang is made

pocohantas:
Better buy higher education.

Who doesn’t know that leaves shouldn’t be overcooked? Mtcheew! We like it green indeed.

Even at that, it is not like edikaikong that you can put off the heat as you add it, afang takes longer, or else you will chewing raw leaves. These acclaimed Nairaland chefs are something else.

neuf:
do you put full leaves in your own soup?

then you need a lot of tutorials.

Afang leaves that are cut into think slices and blended is what you're calling hard.

smh

You don't know what you are talking about. Even in the village, it is not cooked that way. Seems you learnt from a Portuguese chef.

pocohantas:
I don’t know what your brother wants from me o. Help me beg him abeg.

Mbok i know how many boys my father had o. He's not part of them.

neuf:
Your last step in cooking Afang tho... You either add the blended afang leave immediately you take the pot of the fire or you put in and immediately off the heat. Either way you don't put the afang leaves and allow it to cook on fire.

Our people would have given you a earful of how you just killed the Afang leaves. It bothers on taboo really where I am from

Chai!! Nairaland ehn!

Are you talking about edikaikong or afang. Afang leaves that are hard, you bring it down immediately? You guys should stop already.

All of you have just been trying to discredit this soup. You all acting like your egos have been bruised. Who taught you to bring it down as soon as you put the afang?

ButterBurger:
are you an hired killer sir

Go and eat ewedu that you are used to.

pocohantas:
There is nothing poor about my afang to waterleaf ratio. Waterleaf is an exaggerated leaf, once it enters the pot, you would start looking for it. Blended afang is a huge mopper. It has a way of spreading and absorbing whatever water the waterleaf produces.

Also, afang soup thickens with the speed of light. Give it some minutes after removing from heat and it would start thickening.

Too much afang would also give a bitter taste. So balance is key to avoid ripping the soup of its sweet taste.

Where is the picture you wanted to go bring from the internet?

I really can’t see anything special in these pictures you posted. Maybe you can point me to whatever message you are trying to pass with them.

It's just paining him that someone from a different tribe did "his soup" justice. He's just looking for loopholes up and down. Soon he will say that is not the spoon they use to turn afang.

spiceadole:
With unshelled periwinkles, it's no longer Afang soup.It may be Okazi but definitely,not Afang soup.
T for Tenks.

Really? I've never heard that. You mean with the shell on it?