₦airaland Forum

Nat404:
Hope you're easy to get along with?

Only with people that have sense.

Kobojunkie:
OP, I will not mince words at all for you. Your parents are not called by God but by their own delusion and ignorance. For if they were, they would not impose such unrealistic expectations on you to begin with nor allow anyone else to.

When you know this, then maybe you will start to see the situation in the right light. Your parents don't truly know God of the Bible... they are like the pharisees and sadducees of old, only they carry the bible around and pretend they know Jesus Christ. What they teach are the doctrines and traditions of men which Jesus Christ warned are instead lies and an abomination against God and His Truth. Those lies keep people who listen to and heed then from following God's very Truth - Matthew 15 vs 1 - 14 & Mark 7 vs 1 - 13

Jesus Christ is God's New Covenant agreement which He promised since Abraham, through His prophets, to Israel and to bless the nations with - Jeremiah 31 vs 31 - 34. And as part of His New Covenant, God decreed that He alone will Shepherd His sheep - Ezekiel 34 vs 1 - 16 & John 10 vs 1 - 16.

God did away with all the administrative ideas of the Old Covenant Law of Moses, and instead chose to set Himself up as sole Teacher, Head, Master, Authority, Shepherd, guide, Helper etc., in His New Covenant- Matthew 23 vs 8 - 10.

God also ensured that unlike His Old Covenant Law of Moses which was was an agreement He made exclusively between Himself and all those who have the blood of Jacob coursing through their veins - Deuteronomy 30 vs 15 - 20, His New Covenant Agreement, Jesus Christ, would instead be between God Himself and individuals - whether gentile or jew. What this means is that in Jesus Christ, no longer do men have need of middle-men or go-betweens - Matthew 26 vs 28-30 meaning that anyone who is saved has no need for any man but Jesus Christ.

So those who call themselves pastor's, men of god, priests, GOs, Pope's, etc., who set themselves up as teachers, shepherd's, masters , authorities over God's sheep are nothing but frauds, thieves who come to steal from God's sheep, to kill the fat of His sheep and to destroy His flock using His name .

Now you may ask then why did Jesus Christ train His apostles/followers/disciples out to do. Well, the answer is very simple. Jesus Christ trained us and sent us out to teach the New Covenant Law, the Gospel of the Kingdom of God, to those in the world - the unsaved. - Matthew 28 vs 16 - 20 & Mark 16 vs 15 - 17 & Luke 24 vs 46 - 48 . The people in the world, they are the ones we are swent to teach the New Covenant to and once they belong to Him, our mission to teach them ends since then they are no longer of the world but of the Kingdom of God.

Are.you a Jehovah's witness

Timekeeper:
Man's side? Probably yes bcox they aren't really familiar wth the woman unlike the wife siblings Dt knows her in & out...

But ladies shud accomodate their in laws

Inlaws should also accommodate us as family members and not let us feel like outsiders.

Romanoff:
Even in fighting back, your child can get killed.

Many of us here were bullies, it is a very bad behaviour and if has messed up the mental health of a lot of kids.

It has nothing to do with boarding schools cause even day school children get bullied.

It has to do with failed parenting.

I think parents should also be held accountable for the behaviours of their kids.

Even on this forum...many bullies. It's not only in schools.

We went for a 40th birthday party and took our daughter along. The sons of the celebrant were bullying my daughter. She's friendly and wanted to play with them. They kept pushing her away and laughing.

I had to take her away from there and told her not to play with them. She was about 2yrs old plus and they were around 4 and 5. Very young bullies.

Nat404:
Hahahahaha. That's so funny. I guess you've got a sense of humor, huh?

Nat404:
No decent woman picks something from a man's house without informing him.

The only thing I would have picked from a man's house without telling him is his heart.

Nat404:
No decent woman picks something from a man's house without informing him.

I'm only using the words the op used to describe her.

Either she's a decent and homely thief or there's a mix up somewhere.

Go to her house; except you don't know where the person you are dating stays.

luizpippo:
First time I experienced it was in 2013, I went to supervise the building of a hostel in Ibillo, I felt someone like an old woman approach the window, then the experience started, I was screaming Jesus inaudibly yet the presser pressed me to its satisfaction

The worst experience was in 2019 when I went to supervise a renovation at Ekpoma, I felt the walls of a standard room closing in on me, then the pressing started, it was the longest and scariest I ever had, I woke up and felt probably it was the clients nephew who threatened me when I first got there that was behind it

I always seem to know when it is about to start, if I am fast enough to lie on my side, I can escape it, lying on my tommy makes it lesser or even does not happen but lying face up seem to be an invitation

Thanks for this information @ the bolded.

I used to have it a lot especially during pregnancy. I heard it happens a lot during that period. I have had it a couple of times when I wasn't pregnant though.

The experience makes someone so helpless and unable to move. I read that trying to move your toes brings you out of it. I tried it and it helped bring me back to consciousness.

redcliff:
nigeria is not better but there are asoects to suffering, some are very abstract and some are superficial, oyibo suffering na abstract. until you reach there you go understand, no be something wey them dey explain person lol. that said, i wont stop anyone from going because after you pass that abstract, life becomes better.

My people that have gone there have achieved more in their lives than all the years they spent here. So I don't understand what you are talking about.

Life is not better here except you are from big money. If you are on salary or trying to run a business here, the odds are against you because the government and economy works against you.

I don't know anyone abroad that wants to come back because of hard life. The ones who experience that are the ones who went there through illegal means.

redcliff:
omo abroad is not what you think it is esoecially if you are keaving for the first time. you may regret

So Nigeria is better?

1. Annie
2. Commando
3. The Last Dragon
4. Burning Train
5. Mother India
6. Ye Vada Raha (Sunita)
7. Ghost
8. Sholay
9. Last American Virgin

NaWa4Lyf:
one of them indomie generations spotted

That's what you are telling yourself bec you cannot imagine that there are people in your generation that they didn't bathe outside. Or was bathing outside what marked our generation? Bathing outside?

Omniman:
people have to learn to organize and keep track of the places they applied to...

Create a data sheet with the following table

Name of company:
Position applied:
Date of application :
Description of company (optional):
Address:
Remark:

With these data you can help yourself and help others too

And they can stop disturbing Nairaland everytime with questions they can answer themselves.

Mercychen:
My dear, thats my fear. The same people pushing and saying she should go and implicate the school will still turn around and call her wicked for killing an old woman after begging her.

My hands are tied now because one someone apologizes, I won't have the mind to retaliate again. Also when I stand to preach, my mind will keep judging me for not being able to forgive when God almighty forgives us all our iniquities.


Thank you.

Before this update thread, I was all for making sure the school gets punished. But knowing that the owner is a 98yr old woman changes everything.

It would have been hard to go ahead with disciplinary measures against the school with an elderly woman(98yr old) pleading for her school.

I do hope the teacher gets to pay the medical bill from her salary and that she doesn't touch any more children.

So he can give beggars. Why didn't he tell them to go and hustle.

Mariangeles:
The thing with most Nigerians is that they lack compassion.
They'll rather blame than empathize.


She's brave.
Is her husband HIV+ too?

Especially if it's a lady @ the bolded.

I'm not really sure if the husband is positive too. But you know that as long as they take their medications, the viral load very low and they can marry someone that is negative, and the spouse won't catch it.

Funny thing is that she doesn't know that I know.

djblue007:
Dear Nlanders!

I am currently running three jobs together here in Ogun State with one of the jobs ending this December of not extended. The three jobs give me roughly 90k/per month without other benefits.
early this month I attended an interview with a popular NGO online, the outcome of which I just got notified today 30th November, 2021 to resume work on December 2nd, 2021 with 100k pay. This job is based in Niger state capital. They need me to accept the offer by replying affirmative o the notification mail before sending my contract letter.
I am in dilemma here. Hence your good advice is needed. Please note that I am still in Ogun at the moment. Thank you.

NGOs are good places to work with greater prospects. Find out about the security status of Minna and go for it

He came down from his car and joined me in the keke napep I entered. In fact, he had my full attention after that.

I was the "seer". Always mistakenly seeing naked guys that I was always treading carefully. But unfortunately, the guys were not trying hard to cover up.

Mariangeles:
It is not really about where she comes from.

How many people living with HIV in Nigeria can come out and boldly declare their status and how long they've lived with and been managing it?
People like her give hope to those living with HIV that they can keep living.

Stigmatization in Nigeria won't allow them come out. Just see the comments on this thread. Most of them don't know one can live a normal life with HIV.

A good friend of mine is living with HIV. She's married with 2 kids and it currently pregnant. So it's very possible.

Les:
Are u chewing the fufu or u are swallowing it with the beans

Very valid question

Seun360:
I train my children to be tough, or you expect me to go make trouble in the child"s school just because big a little accident..?

Hell no.

Ok. When your child's teacher knocks his/her tooth off, just ignore and send him/her back to school the next day.

dettolgel:
The boy said he was beaten callously, the teacher said that was not the case. This is now he said I said case.

Without concrete evidence it is a question of your version or my version. That is why out here some schools have cameras almost everywhere for cases like this. There have been cases where parents blow things out of proportion and the teacher are punished based on one sided story.

There have also been cases where teachers lied and the child could only be vindicated by the help of hard evidence.

My sister just pray you don't have issues that will warrant you to prove yourself before the law. That is when you will understand that there is truth and there is also truth.

I understand that you are a mom and the instinct to protect your child is very strong. My point remains before you go in hard make sure your evidence is foul proof. I am saying it from experience (is not everything that I can post online) because what seems like a straight forward cases may turn out not to be.

It's this mum wasting time that I blame. When soldiers would have gone to carry the teacher tey tey and let her just sleep in guardroom for only 2 days. All this plenty talk is not necessary.

dettolgel:
I am not trying to and I am just trying to avoid a situation where you go in hard before considering all possible options only to look like either a trouble maker or a combination of a fool and trouble maker before the school.

Let me tell you a story that changed the way I approach issue.

Where I used to live in Lagos. A young child about 6 or 7 went to their neighbour's home to play. During the process he took a water color brush and went home with it. As a playful child he actually didn't remember where he put or if he actually went home with it.

The family he visited accused him of taking it which he denied and that led to name calling. When his mother got home he explained everything to his mother and she was mad that they accussed her son of stealing a common brush.

How much is the brush, of course she could afford it and they have numerous color painting brush at home. The whole thing escalated. It resulted to name callings between both families and almost degenerate into physical confrontation if not for the timely intervention of neighbours.

Later at night when the father of the accussed boy got home from work he was informed of what transpired. He called his son as usual to hear his part of the story. And his father asked him series of simple questions (according to him) that eventually lead him to go get his school bag. Behold the said brush was in it.

What happened was that when the child left the neighbours with one of the neighbours kid, they went to the accussed child home to look up something from his school book. While trying to put back the content of his school bag, he packed everything in including the brush without even realising it.

Infact his father is a very reasonable man. He apologise to the neighbours and made his wife to the same. While the neighbours did also for how they handled the issue.

A times things are not really what they look like which is why it is best to approach sensitive issues like this with caution.

Your story has got nothing to do with a boy that was beaten up callously and removing a tooth in the process.

Why were the teachers refusing to pick up calls and why were they trying to cover up for the teacher's act?

If the act actually happened, then the teacher and the school need to be punished appropriately.

Seun360:
Abeg, go to bed abi you think am a weakling?

What has being a weakling got to do with this conversation. It seems you are the one that needs to sleep.

Seun360:
Says who?

Says your response.

Seun360:
A 5yrs old looses a tooth that will grow new sets when he turns 7.

If you are not satisfied you can go call DSS sef.

Nonsense.

You don't have kids.

Divinefavour1:
Op, the deed has been done.

Try reaching out to the teacher in question in a polite manner.

Don't try to escalate the matter because it might not end well with the school's reputation especially if there's a massive widthrawal of pupils.

If possible, let go the matter and withdraw your ward if you must do that.

You must be a teacher, and a wicked one that molests and torments children to make such a senseless comment.

Which one is polite matter. Polite kee you there. What stupid reputation? Are you really ok at all?

dettolgel:
I am not saying that your 5 year old nephew exaggerated what really happened but I am not going to take drastic decision based on his side of the story.

One thing I believe for sure is that the teacher likely pushed him but;

1. It might not necessarily be out of malaise it might be a mistake

2. If the tooth wasn't shaking before that means the teacher will need a stronger force to get the tooth out in which case your nephew is most likely to end up with a cut or bruis in his mouth in addition to losing the tooth.

3. I would suggest that you hear from the teacher and warned the teacher to be careful around your kids that if such happens next time you won't take it lightly.

Extra observations :

Kids are very observant for your 5 year old nephew to have asked the mom to promise before hand tells me that your sister is likely full of drama and he does not want the mom to come to his school and blow things out of proportion. Correct me if I am wrong.

Are you a teacher? Sounds like you are trying to downplay and excuse the teacher's action.