₦airaland Forum

chatinent:
But in whatever you are doing in this life, don't ever fry plantain before doing stew.

Shokoloko:
lol, what do you think happens to kids of women whose breastmilk cannot come out? Or who lost their mothers, or were abandoned at birth?
The newborns drink water from day one and they survive

Beremx:
Sign of dehydration. Please give him water to drink everyday. Avoid giving him strong antibiotics to avoid stories that touches the heart. I am talking from experience.

Klass99:
It will be interesting to see the feedback from married men.

One of my colleagues in the profession we belong to (not a work colleague at the office) said before marrying his wife, he studied her to know if she was the sort of woman who could handle things well in his absence. Whether temporary or permanent absence and he felt satisfied she could, it was one of the reasons he married her.

Your question is one of the things I worry about and fear for women who wake up one day, after two children and start insisting they want more with hubby. At the back of my mind I keep thinking........do these women understand that two children will be easier to manage, than three or more if their husbands die today or tomorrow?

Why can't they think of themselves as the 3rd or 4th child they want so badly? Because they will still need to feed, clothe and shelter themselves too, as a parent, if or when hubby dies nah. It's unfortunate that in Naija/Africa, we would rather say things like God forbid, it is not my portion! Than think strategically and plan carefully for these things.

On the other hand, widows tend to be resilient and they seem to do well by their children when hubby passes. Making lots of sacrifices and denying themselves things in the process. But, the suffer head no be here o! That's why I keep saying the fewer the better.

temitope27:
did I hold ur peace

Ayanwukoma:
Am not a davido fan.


But even deaf and dumb dey hear of davido good deeds several year's he has been in the game.
He noi dey fake am.

God bless him indeed!

artimisfowler:
Lol
Well, we all make mistakes, don’t be so quick to judge my dear. I don’t know if you’re a virgin or have never fallen over a man stranger or not, in that moment of weakness and you let it take over you, that sinful pleasure beats us all, it happens to the best of us, including myself. I’m not the one to cast a stone on others. But there’s a presence which overcometh that ruthless power, the of lust and that is the presence of Christ in us.

CUMIN:
Are we to mind our business till our society collapsed like America black community.

temitope27:
A boy care for his younger sister than the opposite sex does

JaySterling:
His money don dey finish

True true

Wizkid or Burna Boy would never do this

sgtponzihater1:
Very good point. However I speak about modern marriages.

The last good marriage was 26-35 years ago. From then on women have changed for the worse. Feminism, ego tripping, and wanton carelessness have taken over.

Safe

sgtponzihater1:
She told me as we have a house. We need CCTV with motion censor, and a burglar alarm. I called 3 companies for quotes.

The fairest quotes was 560k. She said let's take it as it's a good bargain. I stalled on this for one week and she kept telling me its a good bargain let's call them and pay. Keep in mind she was saying let's pay. I told the company we'll go for it and they gave us a date to install. I asked her to send a contribution, and she told me blatantly that she did not budget for that. I payed the 560k.

2 weeks later I heard her on a call to her friend about expenses. She was saying how we are spending so much. She told her friend "we just bought a house, and furnished it, so I am so broke now". One kobo she no contribute oh.

Tell me marriage is not a scam

To be continued.

Favfables1:
Kikikikikiki
She say na nairaland answer...

I dont know the kind of family you grew up in, buh in mine, every adult has already be made to understand that actions have consequences....and we're taught that before you make a decision you must reflect on the pros and cons of it..... because last last, when the consequences show up, we will not help you to bear it... We will advice against it and support where possible, but if you still decide to go through with it...then that's on you...

So if she has decided to be a baby daddy for a man, then that's her wahala.... But she shouldn't get angry when she calls anyone ((me specifically)) for diaper money and nobody ((I don't )) pick up

Klass99:
If a Nigerian woman does even half of this in Nigeria, you people will still turn around to call her, a desperate evening newspaper who wasted her youth and is looking for a man to trap in marriage.

The story teller didn't mind that his wife was 5 years older than him, because relocation to the United States was involved. But, if it was back home in Nigeria we all know how the story will go nah. His relatives and friends will kick against him marrying an older woman and one doing better than him too, for different reasons.

Can you see what I am talking about? The thread hasn't even gone beyond first page and the second person to comment is already dissing Nigerian women.

I saw the other thread but I didn't comment because I was tired. But, three women I know personally who earn better than their husbands, who have been very helpful and supportive to their men, have been left by these men to continuously handle family responsibilities that are originally theirs to handle. They have not behaved like the story teller in this thread.

JONNYSPUTE:
....Lol. The truth is that I do have such thoughts sometimes. Like how old age wan be for me.

Chapii:
I wasn't against EndSars protest all I am saying is reports should be holistic. The govt messed up also the protest degenerated into an unmanageable situation.

Davash222:
Na people wey get brain dey think.

Favfables1:
1[b]. Depends on the agreement my sister has with the man...if she's fine with it, then she has my full support[/b]

2. Awesome point... With the way things are going, I'm honestly considering this

Truvelisback:
At that tender age, 4yrs difference is a enough advantage for the female child to beat the 4yrs old boy. She is just too weak for allowing her 4 yrs old brother to beat her. If i were ur friend, i would be beat the female for been weak. After beating her thorougly(this will make her heart to be hardened to beat her younger brother), i will reset the match btw she and her younger brother again. And i must make sure she beats him mercilessly while i watch them to know whether to hold the fight or not. If she cries, i will do the same method again. Note: This will make her to be strong and able to challenge other kids outside.

JONNYSPUTE:
....Nice observation. Nah only men dey old abi? Lol

Chapii:
You did recall how bad the menace of kidnapping and armed robbery was before the setting up of SARS? I know people that have been killed my brother was also a victim of kidnap in 2014 but I don’t know anyone that has been even harassed by SARS let alone killed.

AfroKnight:
Veiled threat.

It depends on the kind of wife you marry. If you marry a much younger self-centred woman you will be alone in your old age and she will decide how much of your own wealth you would have access to. It wouldn’t matter how well you treated her.

Your children are your best bet. You have the opportunity to mould them into caring individuals who would have compassion on you when your time on earth approaches an end.

Barrister026:
Smile

That will make me come off as been greedy, don't you think.
What will people think when they hear it.

"If him wife cook, na him dey go devide food from pot"


It's not mature