₦airaland Forum

Mood11:
How you are feeling right now is exactly how guys feel when a lady they don't want to marry forces herself in.
I suggest you go and see his family and do small things on his head
This one is Nylon Bag husband

She should do small thing on his head like this bah?

Badboyklaus:
I'm happy that she is doing well... Meanwhile, i lost my mum on Christmas day.

So sorry. What a way for Christmas day to go. Accept my condolences.

You were supposed to start with the capacity of the 60k and grow gradually as you make profit. And not venturing into a 1m business with 60k.

That I was sleeping with/dating my boss/branch Manager.

GboyegaD:
Dinner:

Pounded yam and efo riro and okra soup.

Okro and efo riro. I have missed this food section.

Brownshoe:
no o, myself don't know what i do with the money.

So you collect the money and throw it away?

You don't have to try to change her. When no one is available to help her do every single thing, she will adjust.

Skyview01:
I wish i could upvote the guy 1000times

The people that keep creating threads and criticizing marriages do not know that they could be the problem. It's people that make a marriage, not the certificate or the house.

Kobojunkie:
Abeg, go hide under a rock somewhere and stop stalking me!

You that already live under a rock. Stalking you? Don't flatter yourself. You don't like the truth being said about you. You'll just try to wriggle your way out as usual.

You have to grow thick skin. Most of those guys that bash can't even approach you in person. So they take out the frustrations in their lives on girls here. In real life, nothing.

Been here over 10yrs, if they like they bash from today till tomorrow, that's their problem.

Bait

Kobojunkie:
Look, so long as it has to do with churches, they are all rituals, no different from what your babalawos and soothsayprs will serve you.

Kobojunkie, the church hater. Any mention of church is food for you.

Guy you talk too much. How can they even respect or rate you with all this your plenty talk and back and forth.

Patented:
Marriage is not the problem. People are the problem. Marriage is just where the problems that have always existed manifest in some of their ugliest forms. Marriage removes the facade and reveals real character. You marry a nonsense person you will see nonsense. If you are a nonsense person, marriage will show your nonsense

The truth is a lot of people are just horrible these days simple. Marriage does not make them horrible, they just are.

So much sense and fact in one post. Apt.
People are the problem, not marriage.

Yeah, usually share food to all my neighbours, one is Muslim while others are Christians. I didn't receive because I went out after sharing.

Soon these couples will plaster IVF on the children's foreheads wherever they are going, so that Nairalanders can rest.

akpunda86:
Good morning fellas and compliments of the season. Some are happy some are not but we all thank God for life.
Happy Christmas all.

Well fellas sincerely wish I have the power to terminate my marriage I'm fed up 200%.

Is Christmas season of love all families stay together but my wife left home to her villa to see mum, yeah is a gud stuff going home to see parents, but if well planned. We planned after 25th she can go at least stay with the kids, suddenly she said she wanna go, I let her go, just yesterday wanted to eat, our helper said no soup in freezer, Kai I have to go buy soup outside. Today 24th, I'm gonna go to market to buy soup stuff.

It is very painful. I regret getting married cos in this season any sensible person knows families gonna be together. In fact kids need to enjoy it as we did during our time.

Salad we can't do, not that I don't have the money but I can't do it.

Her mum I told I'm not against ur daughter coming to see you, but she has to put her house in order first before embarking on a long journey.

Makes me regret a lot of stuff marrying outside my state, infact one can remarry, my spouse no go pass Enugu/Anambra.

Her mum sick, going see her I'm not against, my kids all crying all day long mummy mummy, I try pacify them.

Every December Na stress. It is true it is women that are mostly good in taking care of parents though we guys also do our best, but my wife has 3 brothes all married, as it is Xmas none of the wives is around so the daughters fall on.

I'm not writing this long epistle just that I feel bad as I don't know wat to do, sexually I gain noting from her, financially she doesn't support, it is only challenges she brings to me. If it continues like this, I'll leave the house for months 4 her and let her brain reset.

Despite what everyone is saying about you not being able to take care of your kinds et all, I think it was wrong for your wife to abandon you guys this season, and to do it without leaving food.

I can't imagine leaving my husband and kids and travelling, and not to talk of during the festive season. For me to on a trip without them, we would have agreed and put some plans in place.

So it's not about you not knowing how to take care of your kids alone or cook for them. It's important that she went to see her sick mum but she should have made plans before leaving n

Chopchopfine:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8vB1HeX6wrs





Vegetable soup is enjoyed by many. It's one of my favorite soup and it's quite affordable.
It can work with your budget and it is very nutritious.
I budgeted #1,500 for this soup and it turned out great!!! Although I didn't buy dried fish because I had one left at home. I also didn't buy seasoning(maggi) and I had some left over palm oil at home, I just had to top it.

Vegetables
Ugu N200
Scent leaf N100
Water leaf N100
Meat (cow meat) N500
Cow skin (kpomo) N150
Crayfish N100
Onion N50
Palm oil N100
Garlic N100

Pepper and tomatoes is not on the list. The palm oil and fish you have means the soup is not 1,500 o.

What is garlic doing inside vegetable soup. Then you have tomatoes, scent leaves...is it efo riro, edikaikong or the soup is just confused. .

Some people are the only ones that can eat what they cook.

It seems he was spoilt and pampered growing up as per the only son and last child. Just imagine you adding part of your own allowance to his own. You see that you are not helping him.

He set money on fire, called your father a SIMP and deflated his tyre. You guys have a spoilt brat on your hands and you need to stop feeding his attitude.

He needs tough love. Let your sister cut off the money she's sending to him. Let him go and make his money as the man of the house.

He's not trying to find a job because there's plenty money, even available for him to set on fire.

You people have to deal with the monster you created. A spoilt adult is much worse than a spoilt child.

Pumpumking:
I added milk to rice last week and i enjoy it when watching a action movie, Rambo.....they calllit rice pudding sir!

I mean rice that will be eaten with stew or sauce.

Bola146:
Haaaaaaaaa... Salt and onions are enough please

Onions in white rice?

OP so you mean all married women cheat to raise money or the ones that are in need have to sleep around to raise money. I'm not understanding you. Please expatiate.

kunmisola:
If I can come back to this world, I will choose to get married to this same family I am married into and also have the same mother-in-love. She is a selfless person who put other people's welfare ahead of hers. When I gave birth to my daughter, I had to stay with her for 9 months thereabout and if you see the way she took care of me, it is as if I came out of her bosom and even after I left to go back to my husband, she call me every single day. Mama lodidi, you are the answer to my mother's prayers for me to have a good home and a good family and I promise to be the daughter you never had.

Wow! I'm teary

SmartyPants:
You know what I meant.

What viable job openings do you know of for a man of his profile -- fresh ff the boat, 40 years old, no university education (no stated skill either), with no western work experience?

If you know of such openings it would be good to share so he can decide if he wants to do that kind of work.

And if you don't know of such openings, maybe you shouldn't encourage him to waste his savings?

So he should waste his savings in a country where nothing is working?

salesman82:
Let's use the birth of snakes or a mouse having babies as your baseline for the description of a miracle. It's still the same process of the formation of a baby, just different animals as per say. In your own view, the formation of a baby in a hamsters belly is a miracle? The act of growing taller in humans which is a natural occurance is a miracle? You sincerely lack the foundational basis of an education and I'm not saying that to be insultive. It is because if people like you that Christianity in its beauty is mocked.

Knowing the level of meetings is very important. You go to certian countries and try and pull off this nonsense description of a miracle as one, you'll be arrested and stoned by the locals who are looking for any means possible to discredit the gospel


You forgot to add the term supernatural not natural or man enabled to your description of a miracle. IVF is not an extraordinary event +
(You just shot yourself in the foot)

No shooting of anyone in the foot sweety.

Life is a miracle in case you don't know. So IVF doesn't downplay it.

salesman82:
You don't know what a miracle is young man or woman. It is an event that is exceptional to the status quo and one in which circumstances are changed beyond the results of a natural outcome which is common to all. In a miracle, a result is achieved by supernatural means which supercedes the outcome had it been done through natural means. Millions of animals across the world had babies yesterday on earth, that's a natural occurance. A miracle would be a child dying during the process, prayers offered and that child comes back to life. Using your own version of a miracle, you using the toilet is a miracle because a few have problems and need a fecal management tube. You're speaking to someone who has organized some of the biggest meetings on earth in Christendom.

Don't you dare cheapen a miracle.

Even if you have organized the biggest meetings of angels, it doesn't concern this conversation.

Miracle meaning:

*an extraordinary and welcome event that is not explicable by natural or scientific laws and is therefore attributed to a divine agency. (Can you explain how a baby grows in the womb?)

*a remarkable event or development that brings very welcome consequences.

*an exceptional product or achievement, or an outstanding example of something.

Receive understanding!

SmartyPants:
What sort of options would you say are available for the unskilled freshly landed migrant male at 40?

Did he say he is unskilled?

salesman82:
No wonder the country is where it is. Lame explanations and reasons are given. Some other person (might be you was ranting about how they know three people who have tried IVF. Let's look at the financial status of most Nigerians. Almost all Nigerians cannot afford IVF as a lot live on less than a dollar a day. The chances of the average Nigerian on the street knowing a person who has done IVF is almost zero. What that means is that the only person majority of the masses will see, is someone who climbs a pulpit, erases the part where they had IVF and replace it with fasgin stories and so on. That's what they build their perception on and that is false. They come up to testify how they have not had a child for twenty years, how they prayed, they remove the part of help which is available (fertility drugs were most lily used in this case and hence four kids at once). Think outside your small circle when you type, it's a global world with global audiences and the need for a global solution to problems. When a real miracle occurs, we can talk. As I said, I've seen more miracles than all of nairaland combined (it's just my role in life).

You are just beating about the bush.

Bringing forth healthy babies into the world is a miracle enough. The fact that it was IVF is unnecessary and doesn't lessen the miracle. Those that need to know will know because it is not a secret.

TimeTraveller:
You are civil in your comments, I go continue to respond.

Bra, nobody is discouraging anybody from coming o!
Nobody dey contest with anyone here o!
You come, or you no come o, church go still close!
Oyingbo market no dey take attendance.

Listen, the sad fact many here won't tell you is that many of you back home are relatively better, aswear.
If your loved one is in a good place and discourages you from coming, that isn't very nice.
But most times, people say these things from a place of love.
The guy is 40! That's the age many people return home.
If all you want in life is cold weather, electricity and cheap coke, come.
But, again, I didn't ask the guy not to come. We have to provide balance to our advice.

I wish him all the best.

You should visit Nigeria and stay for 2months. Then you'd really understand the current situation. The income of many people is not proportional to the cost of living. Basic things are no longer basic.

SmartyPants:
A 40 year old man with no tertiary education? What work is he going to do?

There are so many opportunities for people of different levels in many developed countries. Even my friend's mum that is in her 60s works when she visits her daughter in Canada. Information is key.

salesman82:
Let me summarise this incident. Without IVF or fertility drugs, there would have been no baby. That applies to over 95% of cases. Sarah and Abraham didn't have IVF or fertility drugs to share their kind of story. It is time people stopped twisting their story to match Abraham and Sarah own. No IVF and Fertility drugs, no babies.. Not one of them when describing their events to the wider world tells the full tale and that's misselling and misleading in worldy and Godly terms.

Let me use your words and add to it.

All the world needs to know is that a couple were blessed with babies after 19yrs of waiting via IVF or fertility drugs (YOU FORGOT TO ADD THAT PART WHICH IS MISLEADING OF THE PROCESS AND A LIE BASED ON THE GOD CHRISTIANS SERVE).

Without a womb to carry it, there would have been no babies. It's still the woman's eggs and the man's sperm. Fertility drugs or not. Or can the fertility drugs work on a dead person?

Without God to keep the babies healthy and alive till full term, there would have been no babies. Fertility drugs or not.

God is still to be praised! Didn't he make sure the mother and children came out alive? Or was that the doctor's power? Sp because it's through fertility treatments, God had no hand in it?

TimeTraveller:
To be honest, that money will finish in a month abroad if my guy no dey careful.
I am not saying he should stay o, I am just laying everything out for him.
To put things in context, I live abroad.

Las Las, make e follow him heart.

It's typical for some of you living abroad to discourage people here from relocating.

Ok...a few questions...

Did your own money finish?

Did you come back home?

Is the quality of life better here or there?

Is food expensive?


As you stay there, is it impossible to make more than 20,000 dollars in a year?

It's not like the op will just go and sit down and be spending without working.