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Fmartin:
I am dating a lady, and we are about to get married. She's already carrying my baby.
I have taken her to my parents. I have never taken a lady to my parents before. I have seen her parents too, and have communicated my intention to marry their daughter.

The only thing holding me now is to get things in order before paying her dowry.

The main problem now is that we keep having issues, coz, she's always making calls with her exs. i have confronted her on Several occasions, we have had fights, physical fights as well.

She told me she dont have the guts to tell them to stop calling her. She can only keep playing them till they walk away.
I told her i dont have that Luxury of patience. She has to choose between me and her exs.

Now, the issue is that she's pregnant and I have already taken her to my parents, they all like her.

I would have broken up if not because of the pregnancy. Coz, I wouldn't want to leave her with the pregnancy like that. To make matters worse, She have a kid out of wedlock. Though the father of the baby and her are not in good terms.

I hhave told her to stop making calls with her ex, but she seems sturbon.
She's ready for me to Change her sim card but I want her to use her sanity and end things with her ex in a boldly manner rather than hiding under the guise of changing sim. I have registered a new sim, but It's still with me, I have not given her.

Am confused, I need you guys advices for way forward.
No think insult, coz I gaht over dose.
Peace.....

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Do you think it is going to get better after marriage?

Playing with fire!

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all4zionlover:
Honestly I'm going through so much here. I'm losing it. I feel depressed, so much fear, unhappy and lonely. My husband's gambling habit has removed love and affection from our home.
He quickly finishes any money that comes to him. Either salary and anything in bet nija and concentrate on asking me for money. I'm have no job, I'm buy little things and resell. My capital is not even stable because all the financial expenses is on me. Yet he doesn't care. He keeps malice with me for not giving him money and not coming home to meet food.
This year, I have decided not to keep food for him so long as he can not bring money for feeding, for the children he claim he love and upkeep.
I've endure for too long and I'm getting fade up.

All my actions and his behaviour really makes me sad.
I have no love, respect for him.
I excessively worry for upkeep, school fees, bills, things we don't have at home. Everything is on me.
I'm so stressed and lonely. I feel I need a shoulder to rest on maybe to cry.
I'm so sad because our two sons are too attached to their father and I'm scared of their feelings if I decided to divorce their father

My first son wouldn't even go to bed until his father return back from work.

Have you been in this kind of situation?
What did you do? How do people survive this kind of situations?

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List all the qualities he possesses that made you marry him so that others will learn.

Love alone cannot keep marriage. You walked yourself into a mess. You can walk yourself out of it. The day you look in the mirror and start taking responsibilities for your life is the day you will start living.

After wedding and dancing comes marriage

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Your leader is whoever they presented to you as a leader. No special skills (coughs) necessary. Have you listened to any of her speeches? Heck! The other woman hustled her way into NDDC chairmanship position. I can guarantee you that if APC picks BBN Angel, funds her and present her as a woman leader, all of you will start worshipping her

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The audacity!

Ihedioha abandoned his people after the loss and migrated to Ghana. He didn't mount any opposition in Imo State even with everything going on there.

Like Atiku, time for election, he returns to Nigeria to vie for an elective position because it is his birthright.

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There is nothing spiritual about fasting.

Fast for your health.

People have been brainwashed to believe that the reason they sleep and wake up is because of prayers and fasting. There are millions of people who sleep and wake up everyday. An occurrence in life is a game of probability which is why poverty, illness, bad luck affect prayer warriors at the same rate it affects normal human beings.

If it is by prayers and fasting, Nigeria would have been the best country in the world. But on the contrary, prayers and fasting have been used to entrench laziness.
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Akwaokukuo:
I am in abroad already and whoever I get married to must join me too so that we both stay here together as a husband and a wife.
I only want to check my options first before delving deep into it

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Abroad could be anywhere. Be specific if truly you need some advice.

Most importantly, what do you do for a living?

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EgunMogaji2:
This is simply a case of negligent firearm storage,

Many of you in Nigeria should hope for responsible gun ownership. Then police won’t drag you into bush to fleece you, armed robbers won’t write letters to you that they’re coming, UGM won’t force you to close your source of business or thugs forcing you to hand over your voters card.

I’ll rather have the U.S. system with its collateral damage.

Please don’t abuse me as I’m an elderly person.

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It is always better to have a gun and don't need it than need a gun and don't have it.
One mishap out of millions of gun owners and people will start wailing.
Car ownerships are not banned because one car had a fatal accident.

The problem with Nigeria is that every honorable ideas end up being abused
because by all definitions, nobody is in-charge in the country. Law enforcement only exists on papers.

I hope you are feeling better.

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Abi1985:
Because yahoo boys hack businesses bank account and steal millions e.g Hushpuppi Ponzi merchants intention from beginning is to swindle and deceive so they steal or con. Churches need the money or gifts from offerings and tithes to run activities ; the church intention is not to scam people and at the same time, no one should be force to give or feel pressured or guilty to give. Giving should be done from the heart freely and cheerfully.

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Free will indeed. When celebrity pastors are threatening people with hell fire for not paying tithes. That's more of coercion using bestowed authority than free will. I guess 3 private jets are used for church activities when only the scammer and his family have access to it. The university they built, many contributors cannot afford to send their children to the school. It doesn't help that they fire pastors and close down branches that are not "profitable". So much for God's work.

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By the time these foreign religions leave Africa, there will be nobody left to tell the story.

Even the traditional religion has been reduced to naught.

There is God. But considering the Nigerian situation, there is no way any of these worldly religion is an access to God.

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Citypro55:
While the masses are dying with abject poverty

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What masses? The same masses that are following Oshiomhole and other (ex-)Governors up and down to push them back to the Senate even after they had enjoyed life as a Governor.

Don't ever feel sorry for the Nigerian masses. They deserve everything that befalls them.

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Are those wicked people not Nigerians?


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The back of a black cooking pot is difficult to clean. But it is possible. There are many people who benefit from the chaos called Nigeria because corruption is already a culture. They are fighting tooth and nail to maintain the status quo while employing the poor masses with empty promises as usual. The same impoverished masses will vote them in and turn around to start wailing. Many people are way too impoverished to have anything to live for. So insecurity, fuel scarcity, unemployment, no light,kidnapping, police murders, etc do not bother them until it happens close to home.

Nigeria needs to be saved. But are Nigerians willing to save Nigeria while everyone is faithfully hoping that it will get to his/her turn to loot?

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emonkey:
Will a murderer go to heaven because it was his body that sinned, and his spirit is innocent?

Will a prostitute go to heaven because it was her body that sinned and not her spirit?

Will an armed robber go to heaven because it was his hand that used gun to kill and rob people and not his spirit?

Will gay people go to heaven because it was their body and not their spirit that is gay?

Does what the body do not reflect what the spirit directs it to do?

Please confuse me a bit more.

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Will you go to heaven with tattoos?

Tattoos are on the body. You are the one confused.
Prostitutes, armed robbers, murderers, etc will be judged based on their actions (as you noted) and not their bodies/physical attributes and aesthetics.

Or do you mean--Will those who tattoo their bodies go to heaven? In that case, who knows?

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officialwdhtv:
Man constructs and drives a weird type of vehicle and guess what guys, it is surprisingly very fast


https://www.instagram.com/reel/CnI66vTvbap/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=

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Wait until they show up and start calling him Elon Musk of Nigeria. If you dare point out how unsafe it is, they will accuse you of jealousy.

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Ednut03:
Yeah. There are Nigerian Men in America who has not had a decent chance at sex for years. The only chance at sex they get is when they visit Naija once in a while. You ain't even getting a white chick to talk to you or give you her number if you ain't ridiculously good looking, dress well and speak really high.

Same apply to a woman and it's even worse. Men are thirsty, unlike Women, and she might get sexed and few attentions until the sex lasts. But she's not going to get any commitment if she doesn't match the beauty standard. So, she will be lonely too. Nigerian Men are still better positioned than her. And her woes even worsen if she's above 30. They rarely get white men. No they don't, because Nigerian women also fall short of the look And beauty standard

And if you're in dating app as an average black man (you're bleeped if you're ugly), you'll, 90% of the time be swept left over.

Hence, many Nigerian guys are frustrated and won't talk about it

Don't believe the stupid lies we peddle on here about white woman loving black for our dick game. It's a lie. If you ain't 100% attractive to her, your dick game doesn't matter. You need to be tall too, because their men are really tall. You can't be 5"9 and be expecting any reasonable result scoring a white chic, it ain't happening

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Of course, it is always the society's fault.
You carried your victim mentality over to Canada.
Your problem is not everyone's problem as you tactfully generalized it to be.

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How would she progress when religion preaches that everything in life is vanity. It numbs the spirit of enterprises. On the flip side, they managed to convince their people that it is no longer vanity as long as it is given to a pastor or church. Now who is deceiving who? It boils down to mental reprogramming.

Religion is not bad but anything good that enters the hands of Nigerians are grossly abused. Technology? Yahoo yahoo. Awards? They hand them out like candies. Beauty pageant? Too many Queens. Honorary Doctorate degrees? A dime a dozen. Religion? One wonders the version of Islam that UAE, Qatar, Saudi are practicing compared to Northern Nigeria. Other supposedly Christian nations are flourishing while Nigeria remains a poverty capital of the world even though they practically live in churches.

We are the problem!

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emonkey:
Tattoo looks like an undeniable sign of worldliness and not paying heed to God's words. The bible says in Leviticus 19:28, "You shall not make any cuts on your body for the dead or tattoo yourselves: I am the Lord."
What do you say?

Don't insult me I am only showing you Bible.

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Does the body go to heaven or the spirit?

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RightChannel:
The day, period and time is the same only the calendars differ, Gregorian and Julian. Should I enlighten you more?

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Enlighten us on how Jesus was born on December 25th. Don't just vomit what was fed you.

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Abi1985:
Since the time I was born, I have never seen a pastor carry gun and force person to give offerings or tithe.

So why are churches getting bad rep? No be by force to give, if you do not want to give, then do not give. After all, na your own money, so it is up to you to give or not to give. If you feel pressure or you are reluctant to give, please do not give at all.

If they talk sow a seed of 10,0000 naira or 50 naira, and you do not have or you do not want to give, do not stress yourself at all. Give what you can give easily and cheerful and if you do not want to, then don't.

Pastor can use words to persuade someone to give. At the end of the day, it is up to individuals to decide to give or not. So leave the Pastors and let them be.

If Pastor fly private jet, well good for him. If he use body guards, good for him. The body guards are getting paid and the private jet is not free.

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So why is EFCC pursuing yahoo boys up and down? Afterall they didn't put a gun on anyone's head to pay? We should be celebrating Ponzi scheme merchants too because they only convinced "investors" to pay. In all cases, yahoo guys, Ponzi merchants and pastors are asking gullible people to pay and expect rewards they know that they cannot deliver. They then turn around and live big on people's sweats. That's why they are all fraudsters.

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oluwasegun007:
How is someone able to mange over 100 accounts..


Haaaaa

Corruption in the land of balabluuu


Mexico drug Lords dey learn.

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The people with wealth in Nigeria are quiet.

The ones on social media making noise are just there.

There are many like him undetected yet.

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Elvictor:
A slave will always work hard to worship his or her slave masters

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Nigeria is the worst slave camp in the world.

Look around you. It is extremely difficult to free a slave who doesn't know that s/he is a slave.

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irunoko:
ok so it's good to be a criminal as long as you are low key.is that your point?

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It is not a question of good or bad. There are many criminals out there in the world today. Low key is good whether one is a criminal or not.

Have you noticed that all those socialites and Nigerian "billionaires online" have gone low key in recent times? It took the harassment and extortion of a few of them by the police in 2021 for them to borrow small sense.

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Dalil8:
Weird how Andrew Tate being swatted for alleged human trafficking causes celebration from the left yet they’re still silent about Epstein’s client list.

Top G isn’t a human trafficker, but you know who is? Prince Andrew and the Clintons. They’ve paid women to be silent. Where’s the outrage?

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Well...you don't see Prince Andrew and the Clintons online running their mouths and drawing attention to themselves. That's why lawyers always advise their clients to remain mute to avoid self-incrimination. Andrew Tate got carried away by fame or do I say notoriety.

Where are those people cheering him on today?

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iHart:
how will you pay the students on top 30k bonus?

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You will be surprised at what N2k and a plate of rice can achieve. Afterall it is only 2 minutes performance.

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When people shout DV, there are some parts of the details that's missing. Can someone explain how this man was able to maintain his sanity after this revelation? If he didn't show these text messages and reacted whichever way suits him, the narratives will be tilted in favour of the wife by mostly dejected and frustrated people on social media.

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AngelicBeing:
You had good intentions and you planned your gradual movement to Nigeria but even at your decision to move back, l was not too comfortable but l didn't want to argue much with you, if you see what I went through all through the years l tried to settle back permanently in Nigeria, until l took a final decision to just continue to be a visitor, Nigeria don cast oo, several returnees were kidnapped and some were frustrated back to the Western world,

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Why would you contemplate moving to Nigeria permanently? That's just a fantasy for many until they return to realize that the Nigeria they left is way better than or still the same with the present Nigeria.

A trip to Nigeria is therapeutic. It reminds one of why they japa in the first place. Like a shock therapy. When you go back to your adopted country, you will appreciate it more like the first time.

Those who think Nigeria is fun are those who come in during festive seasons and stay for about 2 weeks. I dare them to move and stay 6 months in Nigeria.

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It is not only OBJ that's jealous of Tinubu. There are many of them. Many of them cannot pocket their States or adopted States. Many of them are too scared to be a drug baron with the unlimited resources it provides. So it makes sense that those who don't have the wherewithal will be jealous of the unremarkable life of Tinubu.

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They are bad marketers. All it takes is to hire random students every week to come and jubilate that they won! Then watch the shop fill up with gullible gamblers. To catch a fish, you must use a bait

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gasparpisciotta:
The state government through the attorney general should write the state assembly to expedite action on ensuring that all ritual related killings are rewarded with death penalty.

And that such trials be quickly dispensed with

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Really? Death penalty? Is there any day we don’t hear about ritual killings in Ogun State? That’s the ones that got caught. Do you think the State government is deaf and dumb? They know. The question is: Why are they quiet? It will be surprising to know the real beneficiaries of these ritual killings. Don’t think anyone is not complicit including the ones that you expect to make the laws.

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Aareakinwunmi:
Over expensive cars are sometimes unreliable, expecially in Africa.


They have many added features that are complicated and most times can only be computer controlled.

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Sometimes? Reliability is not a factor under consideration when purchasing those high-end cars.

There are reasons why they are not daily drivers. It is mainly for ego.

Moderately priced cars like Mercedes and BMW owners got it figured out. That's why those things lose values so fast that owners wonder if it is worth it in the first place.

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dniceguy1:
[b][/b]hey guys,
Although, we know that "life goes on " as they say, but some life challenges doesn't seems go with these rules,or let's say it does, but after some hurdles,
So, let's share our experiences as a 3rd class graduate.
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Mine is a little bit funny cos after one or two interviews with stories that touches, I think life is about to end,
Although, still in search for job WITH ZERO HOPE but I STILL thank God for his plans for my life.

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With the vast amount of resources out there in the world, if you fail to make it in life because of a 3rd class degree, then you are a certified loser. Some people who finished only Secondary school are thriving well. So what's the excuse? First class is not a guarantee for good life either. Your destiny is in your hands.

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He will be buried in a week.

Now compare that to some people that will leave family members in the mortuary for 6-12 months because they want to raise money to give it a befitting burial to impress those who couldn't care less.

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