₦airaland Forum

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It is nothing new. Almost all the Igbo states are conquered. Fulani people have taken over strategic bushes in Igbo land. Boy was I shocked?

They finally installed Hope in Imo State and the people kept quiet thinking it is political. Hope has shown in words and action that he will welcome them in Imo as the new frontier. I love how everyone is acting like it is none of their business. Sooner than later it will be everyone's business.

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Exc2000:



Jude is a demon... Greedy old man

I hope the royalty is enough for him and his children till he dies because he still remain a talentless leeech

I wonder why some artist don't read what the sign up to, such a waste of talent


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You think music industry is a charity organization. Sit back and think of all the great artists that went into oblivion. People who understand the industry and go in prepared are never disappointed.

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LinLinGentle:
Disclaimer: I AM NOT A SAINT AND MY WIFE IS NOT THE DEVIL. I HAVE JUST BEEN UNFORTUNATE TO BECOME A VICTIM OF MATRIARCHY WHICH MANY MEN SUFFER ABROAD...

I have been hustling abroad for a few years while wifey was working in Nigeria and living with children. Marriage has always been turbulent and we even almost got divorced after I travelled out. We somehow worked on our issues with the help of pastors, family and friends, and after a few years of ''roughing'' it abroad to pave way for them, I finally succeeded and my family arrived a few months ago.

I used to be hot tempered, but I have had enough time to gain insight into my inadequacies and reflect on them. I am now significantly calmer due to the determination to make my marriage better and as per ''abroad levels''. My wife on the other hand is fully taking advantage of me and the environment we find ourselves in. First thing she did on getting here was to cut of my entire family. She said she doesn't want to have anything to do with any of them anymore. She has also not been too keen to kickstart her career, as all she does is endless picture taking and editing for social media hyping. I know this might be due to the initial ''euphoria'' phase cos she is coming abroad to a big house, big car and having no limits on most things we used to manage back in Nigeria, and she thinks things are bread and butter. You would never think for a second that she is a married woman if you check her profiles on social media!

She has become even more toxic person than she ever was in Naija. Now very bossy, never backs down, always the attacker, ever ready for a fight, lazier, always on social media, communicates with me as little as possible, embarrasses me in the neighbourhood with the constant noises from our house, and finally her threats have now tripled! Madam is now so fierce that I have become the house chicken. Just within a few months of being here o! She tells me that she will show me for all the ''gra gra'' I used to do back in Nigeria. Friends advised me against bringing this woman here but I no wan hear word as per responsible family man wey I dey claim to be.

The popular threat is usually ''I will end your career''. I wasn't taking this too seriously initially, but she then started following through with the threats by constant calls to the police and other services, making spooky and baseless career ending accusations and allegations against me.

I have never been the one to first lay my hands on her, but I have spilled drinks on her before when she attacked me. My wife now gets very physical without having any element of self control, fear or restraint after the simplest argument and sometimes, she damages things out of anger. She does this so often and never hesitates to dare me to do my worst.

I discovered that she has signed up on dating sites and when I even caught her chatting about sex to a particular guy in our area, she said that it was all my fault. She did not apologise for this. She even referred to it one time after an argument that if I am convulsing like this over just a sex chat, she's waiting to see what I'd do when I see a man on top of her.

My productivity at work has declined significantly and I am now on the verge of depression. Neighbours called the police on us one time after a lot of noise from out house. She accused me of domestic violence. The police had to separate us and I was stuck at home for an extended period and could not go to work due to this. I am now being investigated for domestic violence, which is a serious crime as madam wants it and I have had to report the situation to my company! The whole thing is so messy that I am scared that I have not seen the worst yet.

I am so afraid of losing it all and returning to Nigeria broke cos I spent my last card and even racked credit card debt to bring them here hoping to pay off gradually. I still have a few years to get my citizenship and if I lose my job now, that is the end for all of us!

For now, I don't know what is going to happen to us, as this woman is so determined to cause great and irreparable damage that could ruin our lives, just to get back at me and she is being cheered on by her family and friends.

THE SITUATION IS SO MESSED UP!

UPDATE:

Divorce has now been filed. I also recently got lucky as I was able to secure a restraining order when she messed up again and hit me daring me to do my worst. I called the police and made a proper case and she was arrested. She has been banned from the house for a month. The police advised me to talk to my lawyer and extend indefinitely if I want to. I hope to get this done ASAP. The law here does not only protect women but also protects innocent men. All you need is patience and wisdom. Thank you all for your ideas. Still several hurdles to cross but I am on the winning side for now.

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You are a victim of your stvpidity.

Go to Nigeria and marry another one and bring her over. You chose not to learn from the mistake of others.

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Zuriel23:
Really?
The speed at which Mr President has been signing bills into law these days, it seems there's hope that he will soon sign the amendment of the electoral reform bill.

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I am worried that he may unwittingly sign his resignation letter.

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Seuntek:
Good afternoon fellow nairalanders. Please advice me a viable business i can start with 300k. I am a private school teacher and I'm not ready to quit now until my business can sustain me. I work 7 to 5pm. Thanks my dear fellow nairalanders.

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For the fact that you are asking means the N300k is gone even before you start. What works for A may not work for B. Look around you for the answer you seek.

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TallNigerian:
Hello Nairalanders,

I will be 30 years in a few months and I have never felt so much unease as I do right now. I work with one of the federal parastatals and I am currently on level 10 going to 12 next year. I have a Master degree athough it is not exactly relevant to my current job.

The problem is that my organisation uses the Ministry salary structure and my monthly net is below 80k even as a level 10 staff.

I am not married and I am academically inclined. Asides having a Master degree, I have over 8 professional certifications.

I have been trying to clinch a transfer of service to a better parastatal where the remuneration is better and where my knowledge/experiences as a science graduate will be better appreciated but it has been a bit difficult.

However, just before the COVID-19 episode in Nigeria, I got the right link for a transfer of service to a better parastatal but the process got stalled with the COVID-19 palaver.

I have 4 siblings who are Canadian citizens and they have been on my neck to migrate. I never took the calls seriously until this lockdown period. My siblings are arguing about the uncertainty of the Nigerian economy post-covid and advising me to seize this opportunity to migrate and start a new career over there?

My question therefore, "is it wise to stay back since I have gone quite far in my public service career and just wait for the opportunity to transfer my service to a better paying federal parastatal OR do I migrate to Canada and start a new career?

Your honest inputs will be highly appreciated. Thanks!

@CrazyMan @1forall Please I need your help in pushing this forward for a wider view. Thank you.

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Currently I spend 25% of my time in Nigeria and the rest in US.

My advice: Move. Don't look back. You are single and it is the best time to take risks. You will adapt easily to Canadian life since you have siblings there who can guide you properly. Good life doesn't have to be flamboyant.

After this coronavirus pandemics, who knows what Nigeria will turn into? I had always gambled against Nigeria and won each time.

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MelaninSkinGirl:
Studies show married men are happier and live longer than their single/divorced/widowed counterparts. Single/Widowed/Divorced men are more depressed and suicidal than their married counterparts.

On the other hand, studies show that Single women live longer than their married counterparts, they also retain their figures and beauty longer than their married counterparts.

These studies show that the main benefactors of marriage is the Men. Make of that what you want!!!

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The weakest point in a debate is starting with "Studies show". What studies? Conferring authoriry where it doesn't belong to hoodwink half-baked minds. Who did the studies? What is the reference point?

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kikake:
Gov Uzodinma oooo...

More grease to your elbows.

Remember, we are waiting for your action on what you earlier promised to do: asphalt for the urban roads in Orlu and Okigwe.
There are more than twenty urban roads without asphalt in Orlu but with houses fully built on both sides of the roads.

Imo needs a second modern town, or more, for its people to build houses and settle.
Success is yours.

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Ihioma -> Amaifeke ->Umuna.
Umuna-> Eziachi
Umuna -> (pass Kalamazoo's house) - >OwereEbeiri -> Okwudor
The potholes-ladden roads from Njaba River to Akwakuma.

Orlu roads are mechanics' best friends. I believe Hope will use this first term to do initial gragra to win people over. If the Supreme court re-elects him for 2nd tenure, he will then sell Imo State to the highest bidder.

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LOL.

8 times is just about right. It is common but the headline is misleading only to those who don't understand how the application system works.

You apply to as many schools as possible and see which ones accept you.

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icetrimz:
In fact, I'm writing this with pidgin so as to carry the street along. so I invite ma babe come house today, the babe too cool, silent and has this innocent look and all. As she enter house, the first thing wey she ask me be say make i go buy her pad... i swear i shock.

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You forgot to buy a sack where she can keep your manhood. Obviously you don't need it.

A man who has disciplined himself over women has solved half of his problem here on earth.

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Ndubuisipaul1:
At the age of 25 I was mocking a man that got married at the age of 33 I told him that he married too late. Now am 32 I don't even know when I will get married because of lack of money.

Many of our Nigerian girls are not married because ,we guys don't make money on time to marry them. Am 32 no girlfriend ( because I cannot sustain them ) and no plans of marriage , and you are blaming the ladies . Will tree marry them?

Meanwhile I am a professional photographer, and videographer.

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How come those men that live in slums do get married and have children?

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Acmepreneur:
This my guy is not serious at all.

I used to tell myself change is the only permanent thing in life bla bla bla. And I really believe that once you take the right steps, you can be anything you want to be. This made me to be very soft with people.

When I started dating my Boyfriend, I really was not choosy or judgy. I accepted him without a second thought. I'm not the type of lady that actually do all those lady stuff, I'm a very serious person and I don't play games at all.
My BF is very cool, like not bad looking, normal behaviour etc and I like him a lot.

I'm a very ambitious person, with an extremely big dreams, my boyfriend is also hard working, but I'm not seeing any future at all with his career/prospects/life. When I say I'm with big dreams, it's means I'm working on discovering (new innovations), planning big business that would compete with top brands etc. I'm that big in dreams.

My children is also very important to me, I don't plan for their sufferings at all.
I'm an introvert, I find solace in my aspirations, dreams. I have books I work out those formulas (I mean how I would execute my business plans), I research a lot, think a lot etc

Our fight now

Since day 1, I do tell him to do this and that. I really hate company works, so I would tell him to have savings, and be building something sideways where he works. Also, I wanted him to do Masters, since he said he would love to travel out, he's always saying he hates Nigeria bla bla bla. His dad also wanted him to do Masters, but he's in the crew of Masters is a waste of time, and he can't do Masters in Nigeria bla bla bla

Baby try this business, he would say he doesn't have money, he needs 2 million to start a business etc.

Meanwhile, he doesn't have money to travel out of the country to do Masters, nor 2m to start any business. So I would tell him to manage what he has first, and that would propelled him later, but he likes to talk like illiterates that Masters is meaningless.

Meanwhile, while that is true, those things are just like investment, you don't know when you will see an opportunity to use your Masters certificate, and since he studied computer science, I told him that it can even help him get a job outside Nigeria when he leaves, that it can be useful there. I understand the situation of the country, but not having masters doesn't mean you will get a job as well, so why don't you just have it.

My bf would shut me off, and also his dad, the dad even asked him to take job at the federal university where he works, but my bf said he can't work in that place, this is a federal government job o, he would say the salary is too small and people there already knows him, because his dad is in a big office in the university.

So it won't seem like I'm disturbing him, I went quiet, but might chip it in in discussions, but I don't fight him on those things. He works in a small company, and he rose to the position of a Manager, he spent all his time in office, the little time to waste with his friends. It's a good thing but I'm not comfortable with that, the pay is about 90k, which is not enough for his expenses, also he's the first born.

Fast forward to last year, his dad died, it looks like a film trick to him, he now have to take care of his siblings and mum (mum is nurse, but retired long time ago, her pay is little because it wasn't normal retirement). Everything I was telling him finally came to pass.

He rented an apartment with His friends, he later hated it, and said he wants his own, he went to rent an apartment of 600k (he gathered it from different places and he borrowed), which I really hate and we fought on that as well. Because he could have used the money to secure his life in a better way, since his complain when I told him to start a business is that he doesn't have money bla bla bla

He will not apply for better jobs as well
He's practically doing nothing to grow, and would say he hates Nigeria and he would like to leave, but he can't even apply for scholarships or even google schools.

So this 2020, Jan 1, I started fighting him, that I'm not going to continue with him like that, that he should go apply for MSC, start a business or just do something. He now started saying that he has responsibilities which are his siblings, I told him this is the nonsense, he would do till the year ends, we will fight and later resolve it.

He won't even talk about it, or get reminded, he makes me feel Hus boss is using him. I have told him several times how he would be used and dumped, in fact, he makes me say negatives sometimes, and that's because I have seen people that get dumped while working with companies and they fall back to grass, my mum won't even accept him because he works in a company, small company, not cocacola or big companies. My mum hates company works like shits because we've heard and seen people falling to zero due to company jobs.

The problem
1. He says I'm disturbing his life, and not allowing him to rest

2. I'm not happy with him living that way, with no future, no investment, hes not building himself while working, hes not doing courses, not learning any skills, and I think its too risky.
His current salary is not enough for him, not to talk of me collecting part of it. But he gives me money though, has not been more than 1k, 2k and data subscription which I really appreciate.

3. I can't introduce him to my family because I want him respected. Truth is I don't know what he would say to impress my parents because I'm not even impressed with him. And I want him to be superloved and respected. I believe in first impression would last very long. He has introduced me to his family and all friends

4. He never ask me about my own life, aspirations, advice me etc, I'm always the one to do that. Yesterday he had the gut to tell me I'm not caring because of just two days of not showing care

5. Corona has turned his company outside down and he's highly affected. Just like all what I was telling him finally happened, and he has nothing to fall back at. He has a car,

6. I can't marry him or anyone this way, and I'm getting old, though and I want marriage next year. He said he wants too, but I can't marry him like this. And I don't want to get to late twenties, and he breaks up and I start looking for husband, people would be thinking maybe I have a problem that is why I'm yet to marry, they won't know that its him that caused my delay. Plus I have a very high esteem, so I would hate to be desperate for marriage with a man or be the one to be wanting marriage so much in a relationship

7. Right now, we have temporarily break up, so I'm asking if I should break up or make up? Because he was saying rubbish last night

Note: I'm not a fan of dating and rubbish, I love him very much and I don't want to leave him at all. I don't think there's any man I can date as I do not like dishonesty at all and 95% of men are dishonest. My BF is very honest and good I'm every other aspect

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Is your destiny tied to him?

Keep wasting your life with him until you hit 30 and be stuck in misery..then you start looking for an unlucky man to offload your miserable life on. The only light at the end of the tunnel for you is that militant feminism will alway be there as a backup plan. Hate men and take no responsibilities for pitching tent with a loser(by your own definition). It is his life and he can live it whatever way he wants.

Work on your self-esteem.

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It is a matter of semantics.

Some call them investors while others call them undertakers. Either way, Nigeria will be screwed pump and dump style. Hyping up Nigerian debts so that smart money can dump on gullible fomo crowd and bail.

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Even if you impose a monkey on Imo people, those hungry elders will pledge 100% loyalty. That is why Imo State indigenes that claim to be highly educated always end up with dingbats as governors.

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Tobinrobin:
It seems ritual killings are very rampant in Ogun State & apparently thriving

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Shameful that this is the only way they think they can grow to match the developers. Because they got caught, they wont be called Otunba.

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The office of NECO chairman has always been hot and slippery.

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meetme01:
Your wife needs your unreserved apology. You need remorseful which is through your attitude. Let her know you are deeply sorry.

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No apology necessary. At least not now. She is testing his limits. She already knew there would be repercussions for her actions even before she started. Stop treating women like infallible angels. Treat them like humans.


Only apologize when everything has been settled. Be quick to apology and you have opened a pandora box of psychological blackmail henceforth.

NB: I can translate women into plain language.



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He has the right to kill the man immediately he caught them but not a second after...highly technical scenario. But even at that, the law will still drag him around before he could prove crime of passion. Is it worth it?

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You are not meeting the job requirements.
If the environment is hazardous to your health, then quit. The boss has expectations and your health limitations is his profit limitations.
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Voice dey high and the guy still want climb ladder.

Some people sef.

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Hunchogee:
pls read the article again thanks

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The only way it could be powered for 24hrs is with a generator. Knowing our maintenance culture, I give it till the end of this governor's tenure for everything to pack up. Remember all the fanfare about Tinapa?

We love to build new things. We don't like maintaining existing structures.

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Make dem give Obiano make he drink first.

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Paying of salaries on time shows that the employer has unlimited reserves. Nigeria is damn if you; damn if you don't.

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Yenefer:
Criminals Nobody cares about PDPs opinion besides their wayward and Directionless suppoters

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LOL.

You believe that this is PDP vs APC. Which one of them takes care of your family?

Tomorrow you will start looking for nonexistent palliatives. They should lock Nigeria down for 6 more months.

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Biggest challenge: Electricity.

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Fool me once, shame on you; fool twice, shame on me.

Slyfox35: On a second thought, it could be that it is your destiny never to live long and enjoy the fruits of your labour. Everyone's prayer is for God to expose frenemies. Some people run away from friends but here you are running towards a confirmed enemy. I don't think God himself can forgive you for wasting the brain he gave you. With your issue, I came to admit that village people are real and they have opened your case. There is no other plausible explanation for your stupidity.

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slyfox35:
Best friends or closest friends as some people term it is quite normal in the life of 80% of world population, I had one too.

We grew up as teens together, matured as adults together, he came to our house always and ate all his meals with us. My mom was really nice to him when she was alive. He wore my clothes and never returned them. I did not ask because my parents always provided for me although they were average citizens.

Then the worst thing in my life happened. I lost both my parents within the space of four years.
Things turned downhill for me (orphans do suffer a lot.. Too much suffering for you to believe there is even God in heaven who takes care of the fatherless and motherless).

My friend travelled to an African country. He kept telling me to come over there to work that things are better there. I kept declining but after a year of constant pressure, I decided to man up, packed my bags and travelled to meet him.

Guess what? I did not stay up to 5 days with him!!!

His attitude changed by the second day, he yells at me at every given opportunity, from his best friend, I turned to his boy, the heat he was given me was so bad that when he leaves the house and he comes back, I get scared just by hearing his footsteps. I virtually turned to a nonentity to him. I had no money on me because the little I had left, he collected it when I arrived. I knew no one, I felt so miserable and alone and I started regretting why I left Nigeria.

On the fifth day ,I woke up early in the morning and shook him up. I don’t know what got into me (but I am glad it did), I told him I can’t stay with him anymore and I want to leave. He did not even feel bad about this, he did not think of the fact that I know nothing and nowhere in this country. He let me go.

I packed my bag amid tears and went into the street. Mind you, I had no one to call back in Nigeria... It was tough on me but as a naija guy and as God will have it, I did not spend even a night on the streets. I was shocked that a total stranger took me in, clothed and fed me. He taught me everything he knows. I worked for 6 months and was able to make 2 million Naira. This was like a dream to me (If you get money ehn, to praise God Dey sweet o)

I came back to Nigeria, rented an apartment, furnished it and continued working from here.

This so called best friend of mine saw my posts and pictures on Facebook and video called me to check on me (I guess his eyes did not believe what he was seeing) he asked me if I am in a hotel, I said no, I am in my apartment. He was shocked (me I nor keep any grudge against you) he told me he was coming to Nigeria and that I should please forgive him and forget everything that happened. I told him I can forgive but can’t forget.

What surprised me most are this exact words he said “my guy, if I come, na your house I go relax first abeg”

Now my fellow Nairalanders, I am asking, how should I go about this?

I have forgiven him but should I allow him into my home?

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Let him stay in your place.

Who knows? Perhaps your parents want you to join them soon. Why can't you people avoid unnecessary problem? Why tempt the same God that delivered you?

Some people deserve to be left the f@ck alone. By the way, don't stop posting your success online for monitoring spirits. I don't think you have learned anything in life.
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9isguy:
What’s the symptom sir ?

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Acute hypoxic respiratory failure. The patients have higher need for oxygen. The nasal canula we see or even simple mask will not cut it. You can tell there is poor oxygen exchange in the lung by the presence of patchy interstitial infilterates as seen in chest X-ray of the lungs. Even those serious to be placed on ventilators (breathing machines) are given the same protocol as ARDS. Most times the machines will be showing peak pressure because of poor lung compliance.

Fever, shortness of breath, fatigue put you under investigation but swab and analysis is the confirmatory test. Nigerian health officials are making mockery of Covid-19. The QC of their kits comes to question or they are being mischievous for pecuniary gain. It is one or the other.

ALL OF THEM HAVE THIS PROBLEM
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Bribery goes on in Nigeria all the time. How many can you prove? Everyone saw the video of Ganduje stuffing his babanriga and cap with wads of dollars and the powers-that-be waved it off.

The hasty attempt to pass the Bill lays more credence to Ugochinyere's claims. All of a sudden your Representathieves have your interests at heart. There is money involved because that is the only catalyst that spurs them to action.

If I may ask. How many people saw the evidence when Etete, Diezani, Abacha, etc looted the treasury? In Nigeria, money exchanges hands in the middle of the night when normal mortals are asleep. Did you see the raw cash the Chinese tried to bribe EFCC with? That's how it works. It doesn't go through normal banking process because the criminals have perfected their acts. It will be very difficult to prove and they know it.

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Covid-19 is not a scam.

What they are doing in Nigeria is a big scam.

There is one major symptom all Covid-19 patients have and it has not been given a single mention in Nigeria. There and then is when I smell scam.

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Since Buhari affects all, I am waiting to see who cracks first between the wailers and BMC. It seems like BMC folks are under severe economic pressure recently. They can't seem to find their voices anymore. I believe one more month will make them throw in the towel. It never ends with hyping a dullard.

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One thing about Buhari is that he has always been a figurehead leader just like Shehu Shagari. The second-in-command does all the work while he takes all the credit. From Idiagbon to Salihijo(PTF) to Kyari, he lets the professionalism of others mask his incompetence. However, I give him credit for pulling that off. The writer must be a good student of Nigerian history.

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