chii8:
A nine year old with that horrible and untidy writing? And if you hear the amount of money his school fee is ehn?(he has even started abbreviating thousand to 'k' sef

It is always easy to criticize other people's children, right?

truthsayer009:
WTF is this man, please remove your wives post please.

Wife?

armyofone:
For me - come with a career/job. Don't buy into marriage proposal until you have a career.

Simple.

crackhaus:

Na wah oo.

Didn't you already say it was ONLY good character and support you had to offer before you got married?

If you had something else, talk na before accusing me of jumping into anything.

Lmao...

I don't know how these women do it but I've always believed that a woman should have a source of income before marriage. A man or woman who cannot take care of their kids is worse than an infidel! How you just go to man's house expecting him to take care of all your needs is beyond me.

Wahala

NigPatriot:


Go reread what you call a "simple statement"

The summary of what she said is women hustle but most nairaland men still come here to act as if all the women they've met are leeches. She made that statement because of the man that said you won't find mothers like that these days. So what is wrong with her post? You said it reeks of feminism. Is feminism a bad thing that it now 'reeks'? What is it about feminism that scares men that makes you use it in derogatory ways?

NigPatriot:


Feminism as a concept isn't bad, but the idealism many ladies have coined around it; using it to backlash men, amongst many others. This rationale has made me realise most of them don't know what feminism actually is.

So the simple statement she made makes you think she does not know the meaning of feminism as well?

NigPatriot:

You stink feminism from your post.

And what is wrong with feminism?

frozen70:


He is not yet a man

Which man changes women one's he gets salary

He lure women with money that shows that he is not yet sensible to start a relationship

He gives his money any how to women one's he receives salary

Look those women he is dealing with have seen him as a mugu

So any woman that comes to him will keep seeing him as a mugu

God will help him to pregnant one and he will learn to climb the mountain in a back ward step

Just live him, experience will teach him the way he will understand better

Impregnate

Ifeelsad:
I've had this recurrent skin issue for about three years now. I've used everything usable both creams and drugs but its not going. Its getting worst, its on my face, breast, neck, all over my back even on my stomach. I don't know what to do again I'm tired

Please has anyone had this kind of rash
I'll like this moved to the front page for more views because I'm getting frustrated and my husband is getting impatient

I use dettol or izal to bath and I bath twice a day sometimes 3 times depending on d weather so I won't say its uncleanliness

Go to the hospital!

And sons?

LilMissFavvy:
I'm not saying adoption is a crime, but the suggestion I gave is not a bad idea to use as a cover up after a miscarriage.

Cover up what exactly?

egopersonified:
Adopt and don't pretend you gave birth to the child. The lagoon is still open to anyone who doesn't like it. As long as it's legal and the baby is fine, the only thing you should worry about is when and how to tell the child.

Op please take this advice. There is no shame in adoption.

nextstep:


The same thing that makes you uncomfortable if a 5 year old calls you by your first name without adding brother, uncle, sister, aunty...
By that same logic a 45-year old would feel funny being addressed familiarly by a 25-year old in the office context.

The workplace is not egalitarian (unlike a friendly gathering of peers) - it works best with a hierarchy - so as to avoid conflicts over disagreement in business execution. After all, owners of the business (and their representatives) have different responsibilities and ownership than workers, management, etc.

In some companies, everyone is addressed by their first names.

Duggedised12:
A good and safe bleach is what i will always advice.


There is an unwritten rule about beauty standards even the bible referred to it too. Being of "fair " skin is more attractive.

Songs of Solomon 4: 1, 7 ,songs of Solomon 6:1 .

The fairer the more attractive you are to men especially those in high society. This is a beauty standard that has been on for thousands of years, and its not going away soon.

1) Fair in that context means "beautiful' not light skinned. Please do not mislead the public.
2) So the God in the bible you speak of has no reason for creating people of different complexion and races?
3) So your aim in life is to be attractive to men and that's why you will change your skin colour?
4) What is a good cream?
Don't worry. We all know you cant answer these questions. Change your mindset.

nahzyla:

Abeg ignore that person, I doubt it's a woman sef. See her drawing conclusions way I no understand sef

$ Don't be a coward. Mention me and say your mind. I'm a woman and so what?

satowind:
Have been in nairaland since the first year till now, different Monika and today I am finally first to comment. I dedicate this trend to all those that are not deceived by religion, ethnicity, race, tribe, politicians and always seek knowledge and are always unbiased in judgement. You guys are the real MVP. As for the op try and summarize next time, we don't actually have time.

After being on nairaland for donkey years you still spell 'monika'.

Iamgrey5:
All I am going to say is do your thing get Mulla and don't bother us with nonsense when problems come.

Ladies only marry/date for three things or a hybrid of these three things which are

1) Money

2) Looks

3) Character

But mostly for money

Everyone of these things can change or Fade. So marrying because of any of these things cannot guarantee happiness or otherwise.

So just do your shit

And men marry for which things that don't change?

Pinkie2018:
so the ladies that got married while in school or the ones that got married immediately they left secondary school are now beggars or liability. Who told you I'm marrying because I need a man to shoulder my responsibilities. I just want to settle down now Pls. Who even told you I don't have handwork or I won't get a job after school. After this year I won't be 24 again..... Time Waits for no one. So the man that knows I'm in finals and decided to marry me is a fool abi. I'm hope you won't get to 30 before a man comes to marry you.

You asked for advice. I gave mine. You don't have to take it. Only think about it. You also don't have to be rude.

Pinkie2018:
I'm a 24 year old lady and currently in my finals in a higher institution. My parent are separated since my early childhood. My dad remarried but my mum refused to remarry. Back in 2017, a guy came for my hand in marriage, my father was supportive but my mother refused outrightly even without meeting the guy claiming he's from Owerri, his house is a stone throw to us and saying he hasn't completed his house(Under construction then, 4 bedroom flat) and his job wasn't lucrative enough.
Last year another one that came back from USA came back to marry me, she refused too without meeting him claiming he isn't a graduate and hasn't built a house. That same year I showed her pics of the one in Malaysia, immediately she said she doesnt like him.This year again another one came, he is a business man living in lagos ,he spoke with my father and he likes him but immediately I called my mother the first question she asked me was "Has he built, if he hasnt tell him to go? ". I'm confused, should I let him go or go ahead with only my father's approval because I love this guy and he is taking care of me. His whole family like me, my sister, father, step-mom and other relatives are supportive but my mum is ever non bulging. I feel she doesn't want I and my sister to get married. Pls I need your sincere advice

You are 24 in final year? Marriage shouldn't be your priority now. If you get married when you have no job, how will you get money? From your husband? Every single thing you need he will provide? Are you sure you want to do that?

Over flogged topic.

Hubsolar:
Lols! Maybe whomever designed it wasn't well informed. Its possible for a non engineering student to say B.SC Engineering as against B.ENG. its nothing really

So you don't know that there is still B.Sc Engineering Your own case is entirely different.

Hamachi:
Does, that mean he cant help out?

When he has been that way right from time and she decided to marry him, how will he change? If she tolerated it from the beginning, that is how she will continue. How can someone not clean his house in one month and comfortably live inside?

nahzyla:

Wow...
Na wa oo...

And you're female.

You are asking because??

calgaryFriend:


There is no point getting into any discussion with you , looking at your response, it shows you lack the capacity to reason and iterate .
You quoted a bible verse to do what ? You are an example of a typical Nigerian youth, very lazy, mentally, physically and psychologically.
You are quick to quote the scripture without any intelligent analysis, an attempt to cover up your intellectual deficiency.

I am not your typical dumb Nigerian youth that you bamboozle with scripture, or an ignorant member of your fake church.

I asked the lady a simple question that she or neither you have been able to provide any response to...

How does celebrating/not celebrating birthdays become a factor of existence, and the question came up cos the poster write up that I quoted showed she considered her/her parents inability to celebrate her birthday to be a sort of anomaly or aberration.
If your parents cannot afford to celebrate birthday for you, its not a crime...

Very weak minded and entitled generation of youths...

She was just giving an example na. Where did she say celebrations are compulsory? Are you sure all is well with you?

nahzyla:
Op lightbulb story made me laugh I remembered my own that I have at home that will not do one single house work even if it starts inconveniencing him. If you no sweep him no go sweep, if you mo clean dust e no go clean am, he no even fit feed him own pikin.
In his mind it's women's work. I once traveled for one solid month and came back to meet dirty bathroom and black filthy tiles. He didnt wash it the entire duration of my absence.
I also contribute financially before anyone asks.

You knew he was like that and you married him. So you have to live with it o

Grace Amarachukwu? Really? Same name in two languages.

nlPoster:


In case your question is also for me, who you surround yourself with is very important if you have things of value and/or an inheritance.

Remember these are the people you'll be listening to and who would monitor you and all you have closely, pray for guidance and God's help to avoid pitfalls.

I suggested the op ask her relatives because this should not even be a question. If you don't know what to do about/with an inheritance you received from your parents, then something is wrong. At the very least, if your mind is doubtful, perhaps turn it over to a neutral company to manage legally and forward the income received from it. If you want, either register the business as a family one or turn over all or part of the money collected to your husband if you really trust him and there are no negating factors such as manipulators who dont have your family's best interests at heart.

My opinion, I could be wrong.

You have a point

crackhaus:

First of all, please list those places where married women can inherit properties.
Single unmarried daughters could be given an inheritance, but I'm not so sure about the married ones.

Is this happening to someone you know?
If so, where?

I'm interested...

So the single unmarried woman that got the inheritance cannot marry and come to nairaland to ask questions?

TheGiftedOne:
Smoking kills. Why do people indulge in self distraught? Say no to smoking.

Self-destruct.

franchasng:
You are now indirectly agreeing with the same thing that 99% of Nigerian women depend solely on men, directly or indirectly.....why can't she spend her mom's money


Why don't we hear Alakija's daughters sharing their mom's money too


You ladies should stop dragging this obvious truth and just work hard to improve and become valuable women to your respective men.

Stop arguing, just make a resolution from today that you will become a woman of value to any man you come across and not just a dependent leech who only collect collect and receive from men without offering any other thing to men aside sex, that's all guys here are asking for, is that too much to ask for

Madam your parents sent you to school right? Will you say it was only your dad that provided financially for you excluding your mom? Asides her dad's money, she is a dj and brand ambassador for pepsi. I'm sure that one pays. If you don't add value to the people around you, then you are the one that should change. I still stand with I know women who do things and women who have helped me. Change your circle! Bye!

franchasng:
NGO



So you don't know that NGO is the next crude oil bloc


They open NGO to get international donations for their pockets while they use a meager part of the donation to buy food and hire photographer to snap vulnerable people and share online to attract more donors to keep enlarging their pockets, pls you need to be enlightened about these stuffs.


Cuppy was made ambassador of Save The Children UK to lure her father and friends into making donations for Save The Children, Cuppy doesn't have a dime of her own, its her dad's money....how much has she made from DJ, in fact she has spent much more than she has ever earned, trying so hard to hype her failed music career

But she is giving out her dad's money right? How much of your dad's money have you given out?