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UDOKABESTLUV:
Why Abandoning Poor Baby, Is It Fair Please?

Maybe one local tiktoker did it! Wants to continue flexing!
I may be wrong o!

imustsaymymindo:
This is true. Any sensible man would see the opportunity in the restart and freedom.

But trust many men to make the same mistakes again and get into the same loop even after bouncing back.

Sincerely!
In all honesty even in "happy" marriages there's a lot of trauma, but because BOTH couple are will to work on the positives then they can stay together....it's not easy!

pansophist:
Someone sent me a channel to watch. It was a channel of matchmaking in Lagos. The rule of the show is simple. So a group of single men will line themselves up, each holding a balloon.

Then a single girl will walk in. The guys that do not find her a good romantic match will burst their balloon, while the guys that didn't burst it will determine if she is also interested in him. This is the link to the video. You can also check the channels for numerous videos of this kind.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vLazdwW3MyM .

The matchmaking is sad to so many extent. If this show represents matching in Nigeria, then it only goes to show how low our value system has fallen. Few things you will observe when you watch the show.

1. They judge themselves in a few seconds extremely negatively when a lady/guy walks in, even without speaking to each other. Reasons for rejections are a combination of vain things like height, skinny, appearance, shoes, clothing style, and vibes (what does that mean?).

2. None of them have a reasonable job. Almost all of them are influencers, content creators, entrepreneurs, social media marketers, cream sellers, business analysts, etc.

3. Character was never a reason for rejection. As I said earlier, rejection started even before they spoke to each other. They rejected the other base on their own prejudice. Participants were rejected because they wore slippers, didn't dress to their taste, etc.

I mean, a person that wears slippers today can wear shoes tomorrow, slippers are not permanent. How can that be a basis for rejection? One guy was rejected because he has gigolo vibes. Lmao

4. The participant didn't even consider personal virtue and character as the basic eligibility to have as an individual, and their potential match. Insults were just flying everywhere. You hear things like small deek, you look broke, you can't afford me, I am not your level, I earn six figures, etc.

There was one girl that rejected all the guys because they don't have big gbola. And she was asked how can she see their gbola? her answer was that it's visible from the trousers. Jesus Christ. (skip to 7.20)

5. They all have violence in hibernation, waiting to be unleashed on the other. I mean, you can reject someone without insulting them. Insulting them only speaks low of you. These participants even didn't care they are on camera.

Dirty insult just flying everywhere after rejection. It's so disgusting. I had to skip some parts because the insult was so raw and dirty. You hear things like you have three-inch deek, you are so dirty. You don't have a big yansh.

I have watched many episodes of the show, with hundreds of participants, and the theme is all the same. Low-class insults, judging and rejecting before talking, thinking what makes them a catch is the price of their outfits, their levels, high standards (which they confuse with high taste), and Instagram followers.

Naija.

Sincerely, the level of depravity is alarming! The hype for vanity is everything and evident! Gutter mouths spewing very bad English and dirty insults! Of course it springs from the mind, which means deep inside those looking for relationship already have the violence inherent! How then can a home be groomed when it's obvious they're not groomed from their homes!
It's shocking!

pansophist:
Smart man. You're looking at the bigger picture. That's awesome.

I wonder why women with kids thinks that there are high value men lining up to wife her up after divorce. Also, men ain't stupid.

They saw what you did to the previous, and know that it's only a matter of time, you'll repeat the same. At best, she will be a public fork material, that's all.

But I guess that's enough for ladies that does this. Reckless sex, a bad home, kids who grew up without their father, and her karma is in the future because no matter the lies she inject into the kids, they will grow up to think for themselves and see her for the demons that she is.

No peace for the wicked.

Game, set, match! Say no more!

I just think the joke is on the women. You take her abroad, she begins to give you attitude, you charge up and prep for the showdown knowing full well she's going to throw you out.
You lose kids and fortune, but not your spirit, pick up the pieces and move on....
Guess what? Now she's in money! She has your kids, plus child support! BUT, ONE THING! She loses dignity and now men will only use her to pass time, she's definitely going to seek gratification that's where her mental torture will start...she becomes a field mattress, no permanent boyfriend, her children see her being used and dumped, she can only try to explain but not for all time, chores will double, she's alone caring for the children, school runs, emotional support, work, and all...
Her friends and advisers no longer have the solution to her crisis!
The children will surely want their dad someday, no matter how long it takes and how much poison she's injected into their minds!

Poor rejected man will start afresh, seeking gratification isn't going to be a big deal, less physical trauma of house chores, nagging and children issues to deal with, just get another job and run yourself a little, few years hence results will begin to manifest....
Unless you bury yourself in self pity and unnecessary depression....or...

Unless you were deliberately wicked to her then karma will visit you...

My humble opinion...
Let the women continue..
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Auxtan:
Redpillars will say na simping

But walai, I miss my ex so much o

She was a very transparent girl. My only relationship ever, lasted for close to 4 years.

I wish my next will be as transparent as her.

Lastly, how can I get over her?

Quickly get some nice clay from any river of your choice, mould any feminine figure that fits your ex, write all characters she had and exempt the demanding aspect... you're good to go!

Kakamorufu:
They no wan learn at all. The elders too are just looking. Such a shame

Mostly they're elders by age, not in wisdom and authority....it's a big shame

deeway200:
South South should have been the most developed region if not for corruption. Even their activists are highly corrupt

The real definition of every man for himself!

Bukky001:
Was she meant to abort it? She was already pregnant before the first child got missing

Classic!
Prevention is better than cure! Nobody suggested any abortions here unless you have that in mind...

thesicilian:
May just be an "innocent" poisonous insect that bit him, not everything is spiritual.

The mindset of an average African is usually that someone is after me always... negative vibes remain our bane!

brain54:
And here I was thinking it takes 9 months...

For a pregnant woman to give birth!

Yes, definitely she was pregnant before she lost her baby. My pain is seeing helpless people helplessly placing themselves in hopeless situations!! Back to back o!

Clicked:
Person lose pikin, you go dey find husband. Did she tell you her husband was missing? 🙄

Not judging here but let's know why hubby isn't mentioned at all... remember he's supposed to be the guardian of the house. Pikin come loss, never reach 6 months she born, she no dey feel for herself?

YoungLionken:
Congratulations but I'm more interested in the whereabouts of the little daughter. What could have gone wrong ? God abeg o...

Any news about her hubby?

ManirBK:
true talk bro but some were given half bag of Rice and half bag of Millet or GuineaCorn thats not fair why not full bag!!

I sympathize with those who didn't get full bag, maybe it will be their turn next time around...
Enjoy yours.

worksmart:
Peter Obi is not my choice for president although I cannot imagine he can perform any worse than the unfolding disaster that is Bola Tinubu. I can never support Obi because he performed poorly when he was governor for 8 years in Anambra. We should be looking to make current Minister of Works Sen. Engr. Nweze D. Umahi the new president.

I support you on this. Umahi for president! Tough as nails!

phosky:
I brought down dollar with my power, Abido Shaker” – Odumeje

Chukwuemeka Cyril Ohanaemere, popularly known as Odumeje, proudly claims to be the only pastor to use one of his abilities, Abido Shaker, to bring down the dollar.

In addressing the congregation at his church during a ministerial service, the clergyman mentioned this. Eyes Of Lagos reports,
odumeje powers abido shaker dollar
Odumeje.

He mentioned that he had vowed to use his power, Abido shaker to bring down the dollar which was fast gaining value over the naira.

Odumeje noted that he was true to his word, and has since used one of his many powers, Abido Shaker, to bring down the dollar.

He further mentioned that no other pastor in Nigeria has been able to successfully do that other than him.

Odumeje added that he will still bring is further down, after which he will handle the presidential seat.
Check out reactions that followed …

nwaoke_ocha remarked: “E go shock Una say na only this man amongst all the pastors for naija go make heaven”

__tobe_ penned: “No pastor try that kind!!! Ride on pastor!! Next one na Dabush Kabash! That one fuel go drop to 30 Naira per liter 😤😤😤🤣”

https://eyesoflagos.com/2024/03/25/i-brought-down-dollar-with-my-power-abido-shaker-odumeje/

Undiluted one, 5litre! Go on prophet, bring down the price of diesel

Zico5:
And none of his brothers could rise up to help him, but can blow money anyhow to show off. Too bad

Don't worry "befitting burial" is better than being alive and be attended to!

chariisGRACE:
No, what they need is orientation, teaching them to eat and drink wisely, and ditching that YOLO mindset which I believe prompts one not to save for rainy days like this.

If truly he is dead, may his soul find peace.

It is better that he is dead or dies instead of that organ transplant that they're planning to do.

These guys eat anyhow. You'd see them down lots of sugar, alcohol in movies. Who knows how much they take behind the scenes?

They don't need God, they need a mental recalibration.

You have said it all...
No judgement, but once saw him downing bottles of gulder 🍻, he'd get up go use the washroom and return...no control over what they eat or drink... you've advised well..

[quote author= post=129046266]Source: https://www.google.com/amp/s/punchng.com/ekiti-man-to-die-by-hanging-for-killing-wifes-lover/%3famp[/quote]I want to know if the man was expected to hand over a medal to the lover for a job well done!!
Anyway, why fight over a wife who's decided to collect elsewhere? There are many others ready to marry him self...now hangman's noose is his portion! Tragic!

Succezcard:
Guys, try read the first paragraph of Chapter one of CAMARA LAYE'S 'THE AFRICAN CHILD'.
Kid is probably oblivious of the danger he's (got himself) in.

That book!! I won as a prize almost 40 years ago! I'll find it and read again!

LocalFARMERS:
God bless you too. I like patriotic Nigerians who always pray for our Soldiers, who lay thier lives to fighting Bandits, terrorist, Robbers, Kidnappers etc

Same here brother!

spartachico:
Nice one, because you can't bring your frustrations from home or elsewhere and pounce on an innocent kid. Since the I showed up, it's only the headmaster that gives out punishment to the puppil not teachers taking law into their hands.

And peace reigns!! Good!

spartachico:
School teacher sef no do quarter of this my son, dem feel ham for body.

I tell you!!
My daughter that's very quiet was flogged for the sins of others and bruise marks showed on her hands, my presence alone with the look of thunder sent the teacher over the fence in a flash! I insisted the man be sacked...and during the next PTA I raised a motion all corporal punishment be stopped... everyone agreed.

Usmanovic95:
He has committed a crime no doubt but it is the inaccuracies in the report and evidence tendered that makes the whole thing laughable. There was a time a friend of mine was arrested and we mobilized some people to bail him out,the police in charge of the case wasnt friendly with negotiation,he got angry and charged at us that he will get us all arrested and charge us for possesion of igbo(indian hemp) which he claim he had some in his office,we just behaved ourselves that moment.Police will always compound to your already compounded problem,just pray you dont have issues with them.

You're right my brother. I'm just perplexed that with all the tales of police planting things just to accuse guys, someone will still with his eyes wide open be part of being around dangerous weapons! Why draw unnecessary attention to oneself! He will blame joblessness, Tinubu, Buhari, his parents, his ancestors, even those he doesn't know!
I'm really pained! Waste of youth!

Usmanovic95:
Badman still get mind pose like an upcoming artiste . It's either he is been framed or he knows his sponsors will get him out in no time.His countenance shows he doesn't even know the gravity of the acclaimed crime filed against him.

One pump action and one double barrel was recovered from him, but una do parade with all the gun for police station 😅

He has no excuses and everything that he gets he deserves! Even if they plant atomic bomb on him. He claims they belong to a friend, he's aware these are not supposed to be in civilian possession...so he doesn't have any business being around such!

Ofodirinwa:
high voltage ignorance.

Gaskiya!
33kva voltage ignorance!

As usual, the first casualty is TRUTH!

danzaki63:
Where have you thrown the humanity in you? irrespective of the woman political inclinations. what is important is helping your Neigbour.

You know, he had to tell this so as to ease his pain and allow himself feel fulfilled!

Quodseverismete:
I have santus sanutorials.

Na comedian him be.

Please is this supposed to be some kind of tutorials? When is the class starting?

CountinBlessins:
What a tragedy!!
But why don't our artisans use safety equipment like belts helmets etc?

An electrician must be using safety gloves , fall belt and helmet plus safety boots and glasses.

Why risk your life this way.to work for a client without safety equipment?

We see those safety equipment as "waste of time" or "e dey delay me"

BALLOSKI:
Why it's better to bury the dead immediately.

Those doing the "embalment" - I don't know how they look at women from that point upward

Sincerely I'm against keeping bodies for long periods. Unless for police cases, else it's always best to bury as quickly as possible.
You needed to see what those guys where doing to the woman's body...one glance was enough!