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earTHMama:
And there will be more this year. Thank God for opening their eyes.

amen. olabs we are waiting for your testimony in Jesus name

JeSoul:
Lady and others who were a bit mystified by my last response, from a strictly biblical perspective, let me break it down (though TV01 already did much justice to it):

Marriage between Christian and Christian = Biblical & Good

Marriage between Christian and non-christian = Unbiblical and bad

Marriage between non-christian and non-christian = Fine, since they're not followers of the bible, they're not bound by its laws

Marriage between 2 non-christians (fine), then ONE converts[b] DURING [/b] the marriage = Fine, as along as the "unbelieving partner" wants to stay. Which is the situation 1 Corinthians 7:12-16 is speaking about.


Lady,
you say the bible doesn't explicitly say "don't marry a non-christian. Just out of curiosity, how do YOU interpret the verses below & what is your interpretation of "Yoked together"? :

2 Cor 6
  Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said: "I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be my people."

  The CEM version puts it this way:
Are light and darkness the same? Is Christ a friend of Satan? Can people who follow the Lord have anything in common with those who don't? Do idols belong in the temple of God?

many thanks

busybein:
see what coming?

this question

busybein do you want to get married to a moslem? or are you presently enjoying a moslem man's bulala?

i was feeling someone was going to bring it up though not that crude

o boy

olabowale:
@Huxley: « #3 on: Today at 10:44:26 PM »
Huxley, please go to the "Questions about the Qur'aan" thread you started. Let me deal with my girl, *Osisi* and her feable threads. Demonic, christian, yes or maybe. But maniacal Islam? No.

We will meet in our continent, someday. But please defang yourself of the European madness before going home. I dislike seeing crazzzzzzzzzy persons.

didn't mom and dad teach you to respect other peoples wives if your religion teach you not to. you are such a small minded person. why resort to these kind of insults?

you are a disgrace to nigerian men

book marked

ok rest in peace now bros. save some money and try another girl. well done

sienna, leave this type of threads alone. naija people dont like being told they are wrong even when the blind can see their folly.

Missy B:
Oniranu!!
You must show ur flirting skills everywhere.

good question

mazaje:
busybein do you want to get married to a moslem? or are you presently enjoying a moslem man's bulala?

busybein:
all of d above

did you see this coming?

olabowale:
@*Osisi*: « on: Today at 09:37:22 PM »
If Islam is "not the word of God", is Christianity ever is? Which God ever uttered it, except Allah in His Book, the AlQur'aan? Now, let see if the human god, Jesus son of Mary ever uttered the word Christianity? No. Let see, if Eloi the One Jesus cried to ever uttered it in the New Testament? No. Now let see if yahweh or Jehovah ever uttered it in the Old Testament? No.

Intersting, neither was Jew or Judaism uttered as a religion, either. *Osisi*, look in the Qur'aan, you will see in many places where the word Muslim was uttered by Allah.

Yousef, if there is a real person behind the statement, except the empty rhetoric of propaganda, needs to study. he should think for a moment, what if he is actually (and I know he is) wrong in adopting a new faith? Instead of beginning to learn about true Islam, he used the political novice of his people as a collage of his religious Ignorance.

Yousef, *Osisi* and the anti Islamic website masters, what happens when you die and you see "in reality, in true belief, the real position" Jesus as no more than human prophet to the Children of Israel, alone?



I hope you will take a lead in this case. Use the verse to forgive Awolowo, your best friend, (lol) who is the archest of enemy. See the remnant of Islam in him made him a better Christian? He was willing to forgive a people who have been tormenting his people for more than two times the years he had been alive on earth. And the suffering of his people in the hands of the Zionists, who imprisoned him has not let down. Instead it has increased.

You, a Nigerian, not suffering personally or ethnically from the hand of dead Awolowo, any longer, but your hatred of him, okay (dislike) is still deep. I am certain you did not participate in the war, nor did you suffer as a child at that time.

One thing though, I wonder how this son of the Hamas leader, in Israeli jail got hold of the Bible, all by himself, instead of Torah of the Jews? The story is very suspecious. But anyways, thats is his problem. But I must remind you, Hamas is not a religious organization, rather it is a political one. A friend say a documentary title, The palestinians or the people of Gaza. I am not sure about the name, but his statement about the report was that the Palestinians are by and large not really religious, or observing Muslims.

In the documentary, the Adan, and later the Iqama for prayer were made, the populace continued in whatever they were doing, without paying attention to the call to prayers. The people playing cards continued, the smokers carried on their smoking, and whatever anyone was doing except those whose heart there is faith, he continued in it.

I, Olabowale, hence still will not be shocked to see you in Hijab, with your whole family hurrying up for Salah. Just like the many I know who left Christianity or Judaism and others for Islam.

so you now know the difference between political people and religious people. they really say a day is a long time in politics.

ChinenyeN:
No. It wouldn't work out for me, unless she is willing to learn to cook before we are married. If she isn't willing to learn, then I will find another wife-to-be. I like food, alot (I'm not a fan of eating out. I was raised on home-cooked meals, and I will die on home-cooked meals). I can cook pretty well myself though, but I won't marry a woman that cannot cook as good, if not better than me.

life as we know it is changing fast sir

TOYOSI20:
@ Topic

Ummm. . . .thats a little weird though. . . .well maybe the car just came in freshly from the wharf i guess,

more likely. that is what we suspect too.

Nimshi:
You did right by having the payment slip with you. This may have been a mistake on the part of the bank teller. All's well that ends well. The lesson shouldn't be forgotten: always have a record of the transaction.
.

more a take away without missing than mistake. it happens especially when paying cash in large amounts. cashiers take the money and record lesser amounts

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danbasco:
I don't believe in 'death sentence' talkless of being the executioner. Wats the point killing the criminal when a dead person feels no pain & with no opportunity to show remorse. The criminal condemned by the law can be given life incarceration with some outrageous punishment that will make him feel the pain ®ret for the rest of his life.

Nairalanders, what do you think?

so more people to work and feed criminals. although i personally dont support death penalty, i would say it was a deterant in naija. the lawlessness we have now started after its suspension.   i know some people are coming to say lack of jobs.  that is not true because naija always had high unemployment

Busy_body:
If he has his own wing of duplex in the compound, and if his own pocket cannot stretch to afford a property in VI or Ikoyi, then why not

good for you. your long throat na only VI and Ikoyi dey stretch reach

chuxy12:
@poster
welcome to the real internet world where 80% of the so called marketers marketing one product or the other are chronic trained and sophisticated liars. my advice to anyone dealing with them is to tell them to furnish you with proofs of their trade or ttransaction.
incase of sending money ask them of their client based and call any of those clients closest to you to verify their claims.

as if they can give you their own or a friends number to call.  most of them have better web sites than legitimates businesses. they are con artistes

Cayon:
after reading this thread I feel bad inside

I am 27. Guess i should start panicking or just say yes the next time he ask

Thanks fyahsoul for digging-up a thread over three years old. Geeze!!!! Haven’ t you heard the saying "[b]Let sleeping Threads Lie[/b]"

Peace

how could he make you feel guilty if he let it alone. didnt know you were only 27. tot u waz 40something.

Sea~Goddes:
honey i already found him and i have him under my wings

y the face face na na the truth i de speak oo and i will advise u to do the same oo

goodluck enjoy it

good you know what you want. may you find him

Sea~Goddes:
unless my hubby is really broke, but then i wouldnt marry a poor man so it is a no no for me

HABA EVEN POOR FISH DEY YOUR SEA NA. have mercy on our brothers na

Hangmen wanted!
Only 4 in the whole country
• Nigerians apply secretly, assured of veiled ID
By PATRICK ASONYE, PAUL OMO OBADAN & BIDEMI OYELADE
Sunday, January 4, 2009
•Photo: Sun News Publishing

* More Stories on This Section

Are you keen on a job? Do you have a killer instinct? If you do, then this job suits you! It even gives you the legal authority to loop a noose round the neck of fellow human beings, and snuff life out of them.

As with James Bond in the epic series - 007 - you are licensed to kill. Here, the people who do this kind of job are called Hangmen! That’s the type available right now. The pay, it has been touted, is “good”, but it requires guts, courage and boldness. Beyond that, however, you have to possess a degree in Criminology.

Around the country’s prisons formations right now, there is a dearth of Hangmen - professional executioners, that is. Which explains why there are hundreds of condemned criminals awaiting execution at the moment.

Only last week, 27 of such men on death row in kiri-kiri Maximum Prison alone, dragged both the Lagos State and Federal Governments to court challenging the constitutionality of keeping them in the gallows for periods ranging from 10 to 24 years. No date has yet been fixed for the hearing of the suit filed at the Federal High Court in Lagos.

But if you ever imagined that most Nigerians would shrug their shoulders over the suggestion of taking a job at the gallows, here is a shocker. Sunday Sun learnt at the weekend that there has been a deluge of applications by Nigerians who have suffered unemployment for years.

Justifying the need to hire more executioners, a source said: “The Service is in dire need of the services of Hangmen. Right now, there are about four hangmen in the country. Their services are needed now, more than ever before. Imagine how many condemned criminals are in the cells as we speak, so they are needed.”

Although the job is usually reserved for serving prisons officials, Sunday Sun however learnt that somehow, outsiders got wind of the vacancies, and are already showing interest in the job; even lobbying to be hired.

Ideal situation
A source revealed that Hangmen are usually serving Prisons officials, who double as executioners. They are never publicly acknowledged in the latter category. Nonetheless, they are believed to be “well remunerated”.

The veil over their identities, a source suggested, is to protect them from odium and public ridicule.
“Yes, they are our colleagues, but I can’t honestly point at one person and say, ‘this officer is a Hangman’. We do not know their identities. So you might just be sitting and chatting with a colleague without knowing that he is a Hangman. That’s the way it is,” the source said.

Confirming what the source told Sunday Sun, the Prisons Public Relations Officer, Lagos State Command, CSP Ope Fatinikun said the Hangmen issue is an in-house matter, which must not be revealed to outsiders, even among their colleagues. He further said, any prison warder could be appointed a hangman because it is part of their training.

The PRO said the identities of hangmen are usually kept under wrap. They are only summoned to the gallows when there is an ‘assignment’ to be done. Even then, they usually wear masks.
What is curious, however, is the criterion attached to the job: They must be graduates of Criminology.

Psychiatrist’s opinion
So why would anybody want to do the job of a Hangman?
A Principal Clinical Psychologist, Federal Neuro Psychiatric Hospital, Yaba, Lagos, Mr. Ajirotutu Omotayo, said: “a hangman must be a hard-hearted person who does not have emotions for human lives nor have value for live. Such a person must be someone who takes decisions without looking back; thinking that the convict must have killed unlawfully, therefore killing him lawfully is no sin.”
Mr. Omotayo further argued that for any person to do the job of a hangman, he must have gone through a period of apprenticeship, understudying other, adding that they must take a thorough counseling and psychological therapy.

Nonetheless, he said, “no matter how fat their salary, the psychological effects are bound to be there, which varies from one person to another.”
Considering the unemployment situation in the country, who, in fact, would agree to be a Hangman?
Ordinarily, this is not the type of job, as Sunday Sun found out, that most people would be proud of. Which explains why, those who bought the idea, declined to have their names in print, let alone give out their photographs. Conversely, those who expressed disdain for the job had no inhibition whatsoever giving out either their names or photograph. http://www.sunnewsonline.com/webpages/news/national/2009/jan/04/national-04-01-2009-01.htm

Hangmen wanted!
Only 4 in the whole country
• Nigerians apply secretly, assured of veiled ID
By PATRICK ASONYE, PAUL OMO OBADAN & BIDEMI OYELADE
Sunday, January 4, 2009
•Photo: Sun News Publishing

* More Stories on This Section

Are you keen on a job? Do you have a killer instinct? If you do, then this job suits you! It even gives you the legal authority to loop a noose round the neck of fellow human beings, and snuff life out of them.

As with James Bond in the epic series - 007 - you are licensed to kill. Here, the people who do this kind of job are called Hangmen! That’s the type available right now. The pay, it has been touted, is “good”, but it requires guts, courage and boldness. Beyond that, however, you have to possess a degree in Criminology.

Around the country’s prisons formations right now, there is a dearth of Hangmen - professional executioners, that is. Which explains why there are hundreds of condemned criminals awaiting execution at the moment.

Only last week, 27 of such men on death row in kiri-kiri Maximum Prison alone, dragged both the Lagos State and Federal Governments to court challenging the constitutionality of keeping them in the gallows for periods ranging from 10 to 24 years. No date has yet been fixed for the hearing of the suit filed at the Federal High Court in Lagos.

But if you ever imagined that most Nigerians would shrug their shoulders over the suggestion of taking a job at the gallows, here is a shocker. Sunday Sun learnt at the weekend that there has been a deluge of applications by Nigerians who have suffered unemployment for years.

Justifying the need to hire more executioners, a source said: “The Service is in dire need of the services of Hangmen. Right now, there are about four hangmen in the country. Their services are needed now, more than ever before. Imagine how many condemned criminals are in the cells as we speak, so they are needed.”

Although the job is usually reserved for serving prisons officials, Sunday Sun however learnt that somehow, outsiders got wind of the vacancies, and are already showing interest in the job; even lobbying to be hired.

Ideal situation
A source revealed that Hangmen are usually serving Prisons officials, who double as executioners. They are never publicly acknowledged in the latter category. Nonetheless, they are believed to be “well remunerated”.

The veil over their identities, a source suggested, is to protect them from odium and public ridicule.
“Yes, they are our colleagues, but I can’t honestly point at one person and say, ‘this officer is a Hangman’. We do not know their identities. So you might just be sitting and chatting with a colleague without knowing that he is a Hangman. That’s the way it is,” the source said.

Confirming what the source told Sunday Sun, the Prisons Public Relations Officer, Lagos State Command, CSP Ope Fatinikun said the Hangmen issue is an in-house matter, which must not be revealed to outsiders, even among their colleagues. He further said, any prison warder could be appointed a hangman because it is part of their training.

The PRO said the identities of hangmen are usually kept under wrap. They are only summoned to the gallows when there is an ‘assignment’ to be done. Even then, they usually wear masks.
What is curious, however, is the criterion attached to the job: They must be graduates of Criminology.

Psychiatrist’s opinion
So why would anybody want to do the job of a Hangman?
A Principal Clinical Psychologist, Federal Neuro Psychiatric Hospital, Yaba, Lagos, Mr. Ajirotutu Omotayo, said: “a hangman must be a hard-hearted person who does not have emotions for human lives nor have value for live. Such a person must be someone who takes decisions without looking back; thinking that the convict must have killed unlawfully, therefore killing him lawfully is no sin.”
Mr. Omotayo further argued that for any person to do the job of a hangman, he must have gone through a period of apprenticeship, understudying other, adding that they must take a thorough counseling and psychological therapy.

Nonetheless, he said, “no matter how fat their salary, the psychological effects are bound to be there, which varies from one person to another.”
Considering the unemployment situation in the country, who, in fact, would agree to be a Hangman?
Ordinarily, this is not the type of job, as Sunday Sun found out, that most people would be proud of. Which explains why, those who bought the idea, declined to have their names in print, let alone give out their photographs. Conversely, those who expressed disdain for the job had no inhibition whatsoever giving out either their names or photograph. http://www.sunnewsonline.com/webpages/news/national/2009/jan/04/national-04-01-2009-01.htm

Live in your father-in-law’s house?
By GIDEONOPARINDE
Sunday, January 4, 2009

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Photo: Sun News Publishing

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OLAFENWA SADE
I can, depending on the duration of time I would have to live with them. If it will be for a long period of time I won’t be able to bear the Change in attitudes, because when you must stayed there for a longer time, you should start expecting some changes from these people. But you tend to get more respect from your in-laws when you don’t stay together.

MRS. USEH
It is not advisable except there’s no other alternative for me. Who knows, my sisters-in-law could use that avenue to get at me. For example, it could turn out to be a privilege for some of my husband’s siblings who earlier objected to me marrying their brother y to have their pound of flesh back and to prove their discord.

But if an alternative, comes and we get an accommodation, we would gladly relocate.
Secondly, I would have little or no privacy to myself because, they would be monitoring whatever I do in the house.

AKINWANDE OLAIDE
In my own point of view I would say yes. I can, so far it’s a big building and provided we don’t live in the same apartment.
Secondly, it depends on how close our relationship is, but the only weakness I have is my gentleness; I’m the shy type and I might want to take the whole trash from my husband’s younger ones. But on a good day I would advise my husband to build his personal house instead of suffering in the hands of either his younger ones or his parents as the case may be and instead of wasting money on house rents. But I believe there’s no interference with my in-laws so far we don’t live together in the same apartment. So, living with an in-law would be taking risk because it could either work out to my favour or the opposite. But as long as they don’t give me problem living with them, I think there’s nothing wrong or bad about it.

OKOJI LILIAN
It’s a bit technical, but if we have not got our personal home before we eventually got married, I think before I would decide whether to live with his parents or not I will study how close I am with them. If there’s a good relationship between us but we are boxed to a corner and left with no other choice to make rather than live with them, it’s well and good but I will make sure we don’t see the offer as a permanent one.

OLORUNISOLA BUKOLA
I don’t think we can be as poor as not being able to rent a house rather than living in my husband’s family house. At least we should have made proper plans before getting married. Some things must have been put in place before getting married, like shelter, food and other basic amenities or needs as the case may be.
Although atimes, things could change in the family which could warrant the entire family been displaced but in that case, care must be taken. As a lady, I know I wouldn’t have married a guy whose parent or family I don’t find comfortable being identified with. But so far I love his family; I don’t see anything bad living with them because, I believe they should also see me as their biological child too being a good parent. Once I have a good mother-in-law, I believe the problem is minimal because they are often the decision makers when it comes to issues like this.

MRS. AJALA
I can sincerely agree to live with them provided my in-laws are accommodating, kind and lovely. But if the opposite is the case I will send my greetings from a distance.

HELEN EJOIRO
It depends on my father-in-law. If he has a large heart, I would live in his house with my family but if he’s repulsive I will have to seek an alternative.

PAULA EDDY
It’s not something negotiable to live with my family in my father-in-law’s house. We could go for a visit and return home as decided. I can’t even live in my parent’s home let alone living in my in-law’s house.

MRS. LOVE
I would say yes and no. Yes in the sense that it was due to some conditions far beyond us to handle pending when we would get our accommodation. On the other hand I would say no, because I won’t be happy squatting in someone else’s home when I’m suppose to live comfortably with my family in my husband’s house, In which I would be happy to welcome which ever visitor cares to come around.
If we live in my father-in-law’s house, my parents would find it reluctant to visit me, likewise my friends and to crown it all, we could be restricted sort of. Our privacy could be curtailed alongside.

MRS.OLUCHI
Yes, I can, provided it was due to one problem or the other. It’s better to live with them than being homeless. Though, I don’t wish to be there for a long time in order not to give room for any surveillance or monitoring from either husband’s parents or his siblings. I believe later we should get accommodation and get away as-soon-as possible.

ALHAJA AHMED
There are circumstances we seldom go through which is far beyond our human control. In such a case, if there’s no any other alternative left, it’s better to embrace such an offer but, pray for God’s favour before moving in there with them. For me it is not bad but alongside I would be praying for my husband that God helps him that we get solution without delay.
Our being there is just to get a place to lay our head and our determination to scale through the hurdles of life will be the utmost.  http://www.sunnewsonline.com/webpages/features/wiveslive/2009/jan/04/wiveslive-04-01-2009-001.htm

another one

MyPeace:
another wahala with UBA, l recently paid in 30k into my a/c. could you imagine my follow Nairalanders that only 20k was credited to my a/c. How do l got to know, u may ask. l withdrew some money from my account and the wrote my balance as usual. Am not yet a millionaire , so l have my balance even when am sleeping . l went straight to the customer service desk and complained that the bal they wrote is not mine, she cross checked her system, still the same. l told her the last payment l made was 30k if thats the case my bal shoud be so so and so. she asked me whether am sure of the 30k, and ordered me to bring the payment slip. Thank God l still have the thing in my office, l rushed brought it and gave to her, after all said and done, they apologised and wrote my real balance. So you got to carry your balance for head ooooo

this is the naija factor in banking. the cashier took 10k and paid in 20k. it happens all the time.

Another gov set to marry Yar’Adua’s daughter

By Jackson Udom - 04.01.2009

Governor Isah Yuguda of Bauchi State, will be getting married to the daughter of President Yar’Adua on January 24.

The bride, Hajia Nafisa, is the second daughter of the president and she is said to have been dating the governor for some years now.

The first family, had in 2007, given out the first daughter to the incumbent governor of Kebbi State, Alhaji Usman Dhakingari at an elaborate society wedding, which was attended by people from all walks of life.

http://www.tribune.com.ng/04012009/news/news7.html

topup:
[color=#cc0066]At the above reply. . or maybe the mother in law of the wife told him (her son) to do it. . which I have heard before.

Anyways, it's not okay to beat anyone, because you are causing harm to someone.

Bad tempers are what cause this, and I think everyone MEN & WOMEN should be forced to understand the importance of controlling your temper so that you never act out on it, not to be rash, to be coolheaded instead, responsible adults.[/color]

never over until the young old lady sings. you are surely the tops

sdbaba:
From my experience, some ladies/women are just trouble makers, and they take the fact that their men will not lay a finger on them for weakness on the man's part. they end up exploiting this fact that in the end they begin to take the man for granted.

I once over-heared two ladies in an eatery discussing this issue and one was saying she deliberately gets on her husband's nerve and nag him to nuts because that way she can know whether the man is seeing another woman, saying that when people are angry they say the truth spontaneously. I tell you I was shocked to my marrows over-hearing this. So in the case of this lady, would her husband be wrong to beat her silly one day just to teach her not to toy with his feelings?

There's another one I witnessed where the woman started the quarrel for no just cause, the man being sensible enough picked up his shirt to leave the house but the woman had locked the doors and hidden the keys as soon as she noticed the man went in to pick his shirt to go out just to avoid her nagging. The woman ended up in the hospital and still got blamed for starting the senseless quarrel in the first place and preventing the man from going out just to ease off his anger.

The truth here is that, some women just like being beaten as confirmed by a lady who once told me that she enjoys sex more after she and her man had just had a fight - can you imagine that? The poster did not tell us what was the cause of the quarrel but for a man of God to have supported the man, I think she must have gone beyond bounds.

grow up sir. never be small enough to hit anyone. personally no one is permitted to raise his or her voice against me. in my book anyone who excuses nagging and violence is a certified lunatic. they are both forms of abuse. never permit it and dont do it