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what is her reason for not letting you know?

i think we were here before somewhere else - female bankers thread.

it is a buyers market out there. nigeria is a morally bankrupt country where anything goes. i am sorry to say dont be surprise to hear the the senior hajia herself can be bought by any highest bidder. it is a shame to see people defend this stupidity in the name of religion and northern region

busybein:
david answer me naaaa.what is money wtout solid satisfaction

davidylan:
Uncle - Major General of the Nigerian Army and former vice president
Father - President
Husband - Governor

Haba . . . the girl na correct chic! Nafisa, if you have a sister abeg recommend me o.

bro david seeing this is in vogue now we can go ahead with our shoping list. ma father inlaw will  get heart  attack with the justification some are making here.

this is shame by even nigeria standard. where is funmi and karmamod when i needed them

busybein:
y I'm i even arguing sef,what of pretty bianca ojukwu wey marry man thrice her age

this president daughter no even reach bianca ojukwus fingernails when it comes to beauty

why must this so called fine people misbehave sef

supply and demand na

you! you be rafindadi. how u take fish that one out sister nwando. they want to retain the national cake in their family

davidylan:
I wonder why we have so many divorces then . . . didnt the boyfriend/girlfriend claim they were oh so in love?

Seriously i think a lot of people have no idea the amount of work that a marriage entails.

blessed are you for knowing these things. marraige is the hardest work you will ever do that is why many dont make it. if saying i love you was all sufficient

knowing naija until i seee DNA i wont believe the girl is the dad

titajack:
Naija men 4 away!!!!! D way most of una dey fear we naija babes wey dey Away, na so we dey fear una.
U guys tell all sort of lies,just to scr*w a lady here,when all u want is a naija base chic, well y complain when d naija
base chics tell u all sweet lies to get ur ring ,name and money. Me, myself & I know from one mistake & people's
experience,that Naija men away r just liarswho want to break hearts of we away but wnt to marry naija base
sisis.

you lot are as bad as one another. it is rat on a rat world

Kuns:
If you see the Car (Bentley with driver and all) Adeboye is uses in LOndon, it will feed over a million starved children in Africa somewhere.

Church is a very good business, so what do you expect him to say?

ops he is in london

are u in love with poverty as an idea or u are just jealous u are notthe one riding the car

Afam:
Who should be careful not to overcharge? The owner of the inverter, the generator or the inverter that should ordinarily come with an inbuilt charge controller to prevent overcharging of batteries?

you people. happy new year and new light

chaircover:
Your husband was wrong to give the go ahead for you to stay in his sisters house knowing the type of sister he had.

Generally speaking it is not a good idea to place two grown women in the same house anyway and the fact that they are “strangers” makes it more difficult & gives rise to strained relationships.

It is sad because had this all ended amicably, this could have been a good opportunity for your sister-in-law to redeem herself as it seems that she is opinioned to be the black sheep of the family.

Nethertheless all is not lost and it is your job to build bridges with your sister-in-law and then try and bring your husband round; us women have a way of bringing peace to volatile situations – “a post heavy good meal & post good sex discussion whilst he is still in cuckoo land” strategy may be required ;)

dont know what to say here

You will all feel better once this disagreement is all cleared up. I am sure your mother & father in-law aren’t happy knowing their kids are not talking to one another. [i]

some actually take sides because the wahala starts from their stupidity and ignorance in the first place

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most women manufacture trouble.

ima1:
you have no idea how much i resisted, i told him i do not stay with in-laws, it got to the point that we were arguing everyday about this, and to stop the argument i decided to go, it was a very big mistake on my part which i absolutely regret, i have told him i am never staying with your family again even if it means i have to sleep on the streets. i would rather go back to my father's house when i will be welcomed. sometimes i think i should just leave him because i don't have the strength for all these family wahala, in my own family, if we fight it doesn't last uptil 1 week before we start talking to each other again because we are really close, i am honestly tired.

you dont want to bring this war near home. your husband said dont call pls dont do at least for now. this lady is already angry no matter what you say it will not enter her head. you also said she is hounding you with phone calls how can you be seen calling someone hounding you?

it is always good to check out the family before you enter but you are already here so no bail out.

like i said earlier if you can pray please pray.

@bro david. you see why i call them out-laws? strange brethren

chaircover:
It is very easy to call people you don’t want to speak to; just ring up and say hello and ask after her kids, job etc and wish her a wonderful day.

All this can be said in 60 seconds and you have done your bit. It is on record that you made the call. Eventually you will find that as time goes on, bridges will be built and you will begin to start liking her again but you will just learn to keep her at arms length.

You are not being fake or anything but just doing what you can to build bridges and having a cordial relationship with new family members you have gained as a result of your marriage to your husband.

As you know you can choose friends but you can’t choose family so it’s best to male the best out of a bad situation.

In a nutshell, what I am saying is reach out to her & be cordial towards her but keep her at arms length.

Diplomacy with your in-laws is essential for a fulfilled and happy married life.

thanks for this.  forget being right for now.  under no circumstances call no police they will magnify it into something else back home ask your husband to handle the situation. switch off your phone and calm down if you want to still stay married this time next year.  family trouble is always something a young person like you cannot control.  learn next time not to go into peeps houses to stay no matter how close.  if you can pray for God to intervene

for all that you know they could make it if they truly love one another and work at it. good marraige is hard work.
my pa/ma inlaw were given 2yrs max because they had 20yrs apart. they just done 37yrs last october with 7 kids. you never know if they are willing to pay the price they may make it. they only have to work it out now and buy the one way ticket of no return

kokonets:
@kemisuga

Hi i am just trying to be friendly why are u declining me ?

the one u add before what did they benefit apart from belle.  freindly ke?

oga, did they expell you from this church or one of the sisters dumped you? you seems to like them a lot

steve49ja:
I missed the part where you guys got real intimate,
Did you guys have Vitamin X?
Do you just want him for booty call?
Do you have someone else you're dating? i mean you're thirty and 6 years is alot of gap, your kids would ask alota qxtns and their friends will make fun of them.

why? most kids are used to old papa and young mama in naija.

Nigerians would  have been queueing for visa to go like they do for malaysia and even Hungary

OMO IBO:
you see this right here? thats what i hate about these church going naija girls.
why do you need to take ur matter to pastor? why not take it to God?

chill boy. not everyone has your level of confidence in hearing God. little samuel didnt know Gods voice one time. we dont all have that level of relationship. at least she is going to church and not some mullah or bablawo.

kudos to you my sister. some peeps would have had the boy for breakfast with no question aske. who no like better thing.

sistawoman:
I don't think he is opposing his own post just debating the post of;


He is asking her to back this up with facts.

He simply said they are smart and beautiful but she said they have the highest % of all of Africa.

debating what? where is the debate

felifeli:
Chinese are the one of worst scammers in the world (worse than Yahoo - yahoo) and never send money to them by Western union or else say goodbye to your money. Worst you should do is use Paypal otherwise do straightforward bank transfer even though it is more expensive. That is my two kobo for you .

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seconded

fellybabe:
@okpor123    do u really need to post ur pic??

thank you. WISDOM

MrCrackles:
Nawa for all these idiots wey still dey apply
Una no get sense at all

U ARE FUNNY MAN

Bukie:
My dear, I was in ur shoes. I tot u were telling my story. people won't understand. It's  difficult for them to understand that u didn't really do anything wrong. It's  difficult for them to understand that all u want is companionship not sex. I found a male friend. Funny, online. He fulfilled all my fantasies, companionship, advice even romance. Then he fell in love and started asking for more. That is what will ultimately happen. If u get a male friend, he mite b undemanding initially but ultimately, he'll ask for sex. You mite have fallen in love too and u mite give in to him so as not to loose him.

Can u live wit the shame of adultery if caught? Can u live wit the moral burden, guilty conscience if uncaught? Honey, adultery is a loose loose situation.

Ur case is less complicated. No issue for him. Even if u have for him, please don't believe d crap about sticking it out for the kids. My mum stuck it out for us and she died a violent death. I'm sure if she's left when it was soo rough I'll probably still have a mother. Even d bible supports you leaving him on grounds of adultery. If u r waiting on "marriage is for better or worse till death do us part" I'm sure it'll be sooner rather than later and believe it, it's  going to be ur death (God forbid) that will part you.

Most of these NL are unmarried. So it's  easy to sermonize. Let them come back 5 years into their marriage(hopefully to a man like him)and preach.

My dear, it is insane and unhealthy to be married and be seeking companionship outside. U have ur life don't throw it down d drain. Leave d idiot and start a new life. that is what I did.

sometime i wonder why bad things happen to good people.  good to know there are people like you around here. thanks

newel:
Hi,

I'm not a specialist in counselling but I really understand you. But I could help if you're willing to talk. Send me a text on 08023049863 or niyi_fat@yahoo.co.uk. It is well my sista.

i know this is an old thread. do some of you guys know the pain you cause people like this woman and how to respect her feelings?  i have the feelings some of you think she is fair game as if the pain caused earlier is not enough for one person.  you all want to put your head into her life and mess her more than she is. God have mercy on us all

this boy like pain

dreamvent:
Her parents has been married for 35 years. I always believe you are a product of your family when it comes to your character.

you are right it is very difficult for most people to understand.

sexyLeamon:
they want mumu that why they go home to marry.

lol I do not really think so, I guess they think women in Africa are well brought up

marrying them has opened many peeps eyes they believed a lie which is very dangerous

heaven hold all the secrets that time willl tell. why buy a one way ticket to hell when God has freely given you this opportunity of a lifetime of peace and fellowship with Him in heaven

does anyone remember these songs?

i am going higher yes i am
i am going higher some day
i am going with Jesus to stay
going above the shadow
into presence of God
into the presence of Jesus
i am going higher someday


i am going i am going home
heavenly home
will you come with me i am going to heaven

OMO IBO:
this comment falls flat when you attempt to reconcile it with the threadstarters post. before you kill me, I'm not saying its wrong.

you are no longer a private property ones you are in the public eye. if you want a private gathering and u r in the public eye then go to a secret location or better still keep the invites to a minimum

along with every right comes responsibility. all these silly boys with their oturugbeke camera wont use sence now before we start hearing different stories

ell77:
I don't agree that most rich girls are too lazy to boil water. Anyways whatever happened to substance i.e. what's in the heart? There are wicked rich and poor women who cook and don't cook. I don't believe money is that important when looking at a wife - character is. But having said that of you have to choose I wouldn't go for poor - why would you go for a woman simply because you think she will be grateful for the acquired wealth - remember human beings are insatiable so its better to deal with a woman who already has money (atleast a little) so that you know she values you for you - if a freak accident happened and you lost ur dough - you know she could not only support the family but would still be there.

Think about it . . .

brilliant mind. i dont know why people link wealth with laziness. you use more strength and brains to make money than stay poor. what is wrong with employing people to cook for you if you can afford it? most of you are employees do u see anything wrong with that? i like that word insatiable. most people wants you to apologise for being blessed. it is notthe money but the voice and character you give your money. if you want wahala, deliberately look for "poor" mentality woman and enjoy.

*Toyinrayo:
Lord, grant me richness in health. . . .

and health i say. what was your old ID ma'am?

NL @ what it does best. well done girls  but please leave this bobo alone. 24 is too young. if you feel unsettled about it now you are probably right. if you feel you must date him dont rush into marraige plss

davidylan:
That's false. It simply shows the man is a pragmatist who is prepared to look well before he leaps. There are several things to consider when marrying a woman with kids that wont necessarily be a problem with a single female.

1. why is she singe? Divorced or widow?
2. if divorced . . . who was at fault?
3. what is the custody situation with the kids?
4. how much of her ex-husband is going to be a factor in her new marriage?
5. Family - how will they react?
6. Finances - are you ready to cope with 4 kids who arent yours financially?
7. Your wife from day 1 will be sharing you with other kids that you don't have an emotional connection with just yet.
8. are the kids going to be living with us? Who disciplines them?

Reality has to be faced when it comes to issues like this. Its not about limits on love. All these alice in wonderland tales of "love conquering all" does not exist in the real world.

david you definately changed your diet. you are so old these days it is unbelievable. is this just from hanging out with funmi, topup, karma and co? you a better man my brother. God bless you. you remember we were here in another thread

yommyuk:
i sent GTB an enquiry note on their website via the contact form 5 weeks ago. uptil now no reply.

big up for customer service naija style !!

trust naija peeps

Siena:
My pick of the 2 cars you originally mentioned, would be the Audi, for the reasons I posted earlier.

siena you and Audi's are best friends

wedding is a private event. who called the journalist