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Realism as a worldview will always best idealistic worldview any day, anywhere and anytime. Kudos to China.

God reigns forever.

Imperfect state of a homo sapiens makes your question itself invalid. God/creator/Allah is the perfect being. Therefore, God is the author and finisher, he can neither be created nor uncreated.

I don't see sanity in any human being that denies his imperfectability. Meanwhile, one's acknowledgement of his imperfection renders all credal, revealable and dogmatic religion in particular and any other form of religion meaningless.

The presence of subconscious makes every homo sapiens a spiritual being. This validates the importance of spirituality and rubbishes any importance attached to religion.

@OP

Believe you me, until you find out what constitute the ambiguous word "love" to you, your problem will persist.

Obviously, they're pallies and has mutual fairness as the bond that holds them together - many others are. But certainly they aren't friends literally - they may claim to be notionally.

I still insist that friendship isn't a lesser form of love (erotic or mother love), its only different from love because it has no observable biological necessities. For instance, a friend is s/he that can walk into your bedroom unannounced without no one feeling repulsive. . . . Don't tell me that such can happen between these two here if they aren't dating (friends lays no boundaries but pallies directly or indirectly do).

Friendliness isn't friendship, just as closeness doesn't equate to loyalty. I don't see any sane and sound person - especially an adult - having more than one friend at any given time, least of all one that's in a romantic relationship or marriage having someone of an opposite sex somewhere as "best friend."

DocHMD:
How serious did you take Diplomatic Uwazurike's struggle? The movers and shakers are the PEOPLE not the "homoerectile" buffoons and scumbags parading themselves as politicians. You can lament all you want Cry till you quench! Kanu's followership keepa soaring.

Stay on your fuckinng own! Simple message!

I wonder what's so difficult for small-minded and foolish people like you and your ilks to keep off my mention. I don't associate with an inconsequential entity like you.

Next time look for your mates to pick on. I don't need your stupid opinion to validate my submissions. Now vamoose.

Why treat a matter on the surface instead of treating its root cause. Many people don't understand what friendship is all about. Informed people never termed everyone that cross their paths as friends and as such don't give them the privileges that are meant for that special one person that deserved the friend tag. Closeness for instance neither equate to loyalty nor friendship. . . . And I don't see friendship where there's no mutual loyalty.

Friendship is never a lesser form of love (erotic or mother love), it's only different from love because it has no observable biological necessities. So, I don't see reason why someone of adult age that value his/her peace, privacy, time and happiness will have more than one person - either a boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife - as a friend at any given time.

Friendship is different from friendliness and closeness. Being friendly and close with many people and extending fairness to them, irrespective of gender, isn't a bad thing. But to be friends with more than one person - especially someone you have no romantic connection with while still in a romantic relationship with another person is insanity - it's a mark of unprincipledness.

Meanwhile, a friend is one whom at minimum shares same ethical philosophies, personality type and economic ideology like you.

People have been keeping frenemies as friends since time immemorial.

TundeHashim:
I've said it on several occasions that I'm NOT against Kanu's struggle. However, the sh*t I won't take from him is the continuous insults and propaganda he uses. WTF is wrong with his handlers and supporters? is the average supporter of his so dumb and foolish? Thought ibos infer that they're more sophisticated than the Yoruba folks, but this Kanu sh*t confirms their abject stupidity and total lack of reason. What still baffles me his how a huge chunk of an entire educated and literate group would submit their thinking faculty to a mad man...I'm still stunned!

Kindly shut up. Never you ever again dare pick on a whole tribe just to spite a group within it. Not every Igbo person is an IPOB proponent.

Only small-minded people like you are tribalistic. In fact, I don't see any difference between you and the IPOB proponents.

HoluwarTohbar:
You are 101% wrong.

I wonder who told you that I care about opinion of a small-minded person like you. Kindly vamoose and look for your mates elsewhere to pick on. I don't join issue with people like you and your ilks.

It's unfortunate that parochial people like Nnamdi Kanu and his ilks has over the years continuously misinterpret what the press in the era of IBB government termed "homosexual government." That phrase was a metaphor not literal in meaning. . . About 99 percent of government positions then were occupied by men. There wasn't anything like gay cult within that government.

Meanwhile, Okorocha been a government contractor, like most are even till today, didn't make him a fraudster. Although, I hold no brief for him but I must assert that he's one of the most conscientious businessmen I've ever known.

Nnamdi Kanu should adopt a more diplomatic approach in carrying out his agitation activities and avoid incurring the wrath of every movers and shakers of the society. This will be for his own benefits in the long run.

Of course yes, it does die both true and fake one's. The only way to keep it alive continuously is by both parties involved in a relationship to mutually retain, maintain, improve and sustain those good attributes - material or immaterial - that formed the bonds that hold it together.

True love (not fancy which is love also, but just a constituent of the true love) is ambiguous, it can't stand on its own without its constituents - especially good attributes. It's likened to money, it has no true value on its own.

Come people! A suya company can equally be qualified for a construction beautification contract. The company's article of incorporation will make this more clearer. I see no evil yet until the company's article of incorporation says otherwise. The project itself isn't a specialized one.

Average Nigerians and conceit are like 5 and 6. Almost everyone claims to be clever and intelligent in particular and smart in general, but in reality less than 1 percent of the whole population truly are.

Meanwhile, parochial notion of many also, that a company without an online presence in this internet age is automatically a "shell or shabby" vehicle for corruption is quite irritatingly appalling.

All that being said, I neither hold brief for Lagos state government nor the Suya company.

S/he who come into equity must come with a clean hands. A lady that's disingenuous, just like 99% of you in particular and Nigerians both males and females in general are, shouldn't resort to playing victim of hurt after she's defeated in her own initiated battle of wits. Disingenuousness isn't and can never be same as cleverness.

Most ladies do get hurt not actually by untrustworthy guys, but mainly by the more witty and trustworthy guys who always sees through their shenanigans from the first point of their relationship till the last point when the guy may decide to put an end to such a toxic relationship.

@OP

Don't allow parochial people to dissuade you. You can find a good lady anywhere, on this forum inclusive. In fact, there're a whole lot of responsible people, both women and men, on this forum.

However, it takes a discerning mind to be sapiosexual. In fact, if you're discerning enough - no insult intended towards your person and it's not yet late for you to achieve discernment - you would't have put up this post, instead you would use your discernment to pinpoint some ladies that intellectually tickle your fantasy and from their you establish communication with any of such ladies. Then take it up from there, by finding out whether you fancy her, and if she possesses other good attributes you need in a partner, because I know that intellect (either low or high depending on your preference) alone cannot sustain any meaningful relationship.

By the way, don't forget that he who come into equity must come with a clean hands. It's an abomination for a small-minded person to be looking for a noble class person for a relationship. For instance, a man of small-minded class that long for a lady of noble class as a partner need to honorably change his ethical philosophy first.

Reciprocity of goodness is the soul of any healthy relationship you see out there.

@OP

You have to first accept your shortcoming and address it properly. I mean, even though you asked how you can meet a good girl, but connotation of your message body shows that you don't know how to identify/differentiate quickly a good girl from a bad one. So, I will advise you to try hard to master yourself first and choose your ethical philosophy. I say achieve self-realization first. When you achieved self-realization, you will automatically understand the attributes you admires and expects from your potential lady. Believe you me, when you achieved this feat, it will not take you more than 2 time meeting with any lady to dissect her character, no matter how much she tries to pretend.

In fact, the best place to find a lady is on a forum like this, this is strictly for anyone that has thorough insight about connotation - discernment is a mark of intellectual maturity. Meanwhile, experience has shown me that many of you that do individually ascribed "good man" to yourselves are not literally good men. Being servile doesn't make anyone a good person, and no sane and ingenious lady would like to put up with a servile man.

PrinceMario:
You just said nothing bro about the question he asked bro.

Of course, I know that for a low ebb layman like you - my submission itself is even for laymen since I know that you and your ilks won't understand anything if I should make a formal submission - that my informal submission wouldn't make sense to you.

Business analysts just like conventional journalists, they're the theorist in practical business. They know everything within their business area of specialty/interest but unfortunately they lack insight about that same business area - they're at best described as speculators in business. A typical business analyst is what I term an articulate incompetent. LOL.

Well, my submissions above notwithstanding, they're important and integral part of every flourishing business out there. The insightful CEO's and COO do rely on their theoretical provisions to make informed progressive business decisions.

Personally, I can marry any lady plus or minus 7 years my age, so long as I fancy her and she fancy me too, and she shares same ethical philosophies, personality type and belief system like me.

However, @OP, I advised that you sort yourself out first before talking about marriage, because it's obvious from your submissions herein that you're yet to achieve self-realization.

A stone can't move itself. And I've never seen a genius who isn't ingenious. Also an innate aptitude that isn't shaped through action can never manifest fully. This is for destiny.

Meanwhile, the phrase "whatever will be will be" is only truest and potent after conscious maximum efforts has been put in place for whatever cause one's expectant of result on.

In summary, the course of a man in life can be altered.

BrainnewsNg:
You percentage is too high dear. I disagree with you

Actually, your opinion is inconsequential to me, because I don't need your validation to substantiate my pronouncements.

As I always say, I don't see love where there's no compassion. So, yes, your friend was right. Reciprocity of goodness is the soul of any healthy relationship - even though the reciprocity doesn't necessarily have to be of equal proportion.

99.9 percent of "born-again" ladies/people are mere hypocritically righteous.

I only sees God in a conscientious person. Therefore, I stand bold to say that majority of my asserted 99.9 hypocritically righteous born-again ladies are unmarried because they're unconscientious while the minority in this class aren't just unconscientious but also parochial.

I don't see love where there's no respect, faithfulness and compassion. Love never drains either of the parties involved in a relationship.

Therefore, a healthy relationship is one where the above attributes must be mutually possessed and meted out towards each other by two people in a relationship. Anything other than this means that someone is in a toxic relationship. The good thing is that sane and sound people never stays in a toxic relationship.

Governor Okorocha should stop taking coffee immediately and also reduce his alcohol intake. These are obviously the causes of the bloated stomach.

In the game of politics, the loser's will always have their say while the winner's have their way. She should stop acting like a neophyte in the game.

pocohantas:
She stayed
She stayed!

Was she supposed to go before?
I don't like things like this, makes it look like it shouldn't be the norm. We have lots of materialistic women around, but it's common sense and proof of loyalty to stand by your loved one. That's how it should be!!


She was also broke, and the guy stayed with her too.

Is she the only one that could have left? The guy can also hook a rich woman, do women think they're the only one with richer options?

She try, but na the guy try pass...

A fair you will always remain a better you. Kudos.

@OP

I'm just curious to know, do you guy's gain anything meaningful from recreating, modifying and recycling this kind of age long fairytale?

The only thing you changed in your version of the fairytale is the name of the victim and the fact that you're not the direct victim but his friend. Kindly find something productive to do with your time. Time is money.


This fairytale has been posted many times on this forum in particular and many other mass medias in general, for more than 7 years and still counting.

She has achieved the first step towards self-realization. Kudos to her. A human being's true journey on earth literally starts the very moment one achieved self-realization (it's unfortunate that 95% of the world population never experienced such luxury partly due to their love for superficiality). If she remains true to herself, within the next 3-4 years, she will experienced full self-realization. When this happened, about 98% of the things/people that matters to her at present will become inconsequential in her life and she will experience a true feel of happiness and inner peace - so long as she embraces diplomatic ethical leanings.

@OP

You have a parochial definition of culture. As far as I am concerned, culture isn't the way the dead lived and did their things, but how the living chooses to live and do their things. .

I'm too liberal for culture or any other trivial thing to inhibit me from marrying any lady that tickle my fantasy.

The way people throw around the word "God" is always irritating appalling to me. She didn't say anything meaningful since she didn't state her concept of God.

Within minutes. Mature and ingenious ladies sure pass. They never play hard to get - rudeness and pretense aren't their things - but they're always principled. Nothing can be more sexier than a principled lady. I always give everything on goodness to sustain a relationship with a such lady.

The major difference between then and now is that; while then it was intelligence over brawn and money now it's brawn and money over intelligence. Yet, this my generation can still do better - so, personally I have every reason to feel ashamed of my generation.

I agree with him in almost all he said expect the assertion that the military gave us unanimity through the 1999 constitution. As far as I am concerned what the military gave us as 1999 constitution is a mere coercion. . . I neither see unanimity nor unity in what the gave us.