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ADURA123:
Good evening fellow NL members,
My story may be long but pls endeavor to read to the end so that you can make proper suggestions or advice.

I have been married for more than 10yrs now with beautiful kids, my marriage is one that many Young guy will wish to have, but along the the line I don't know what happened things begin to nose dive. In the last 6yrs I discovered that I struggle to make love to my wife, she will either tell you ohh, she is tire or she don't like sex much..this I have endured for all this years with no cheating.
Her qualities are
She can cook
She can keep the house clean
She can manage resources
And she is accommodating to my people
In all this years I have never cheated on her, proudly saying it coz my dad warned me of cheating on my wife rather I should divorce her and go for another wife.

My qualities are
I work and earn like about 700k net a month.
I give feeding allowance and personal total of 100k a month while I invest the rest on a project which she is aware of.
I don't drink or smoke
I don't keep late night
and I am the best friend to her and my kids.
Honestly having talk to her for over 5yrs on this issues of love making and she refused to change, then I have decided to yield to my dad advice and ask her to leave...she is not aware of this plan, but trust me it will hit her.
I allow her to do little job to have her own finance is not as if she contribute anything in the house, but she is claiming stubborn, I love her so much, it will hurt me to cheat on her, something I have not done since I got married to her.
I plan moving to a new place in February, and she doesn't fit into my plans.

My decision between now and December is
1 Avoid asking her for lobe making
2 Continue taking care of her so she won't suspect anything
3 when she comes close I avoid her.
4 February I issues divorce papers and give her like 1m to go get her life back

Is there anything more I can do for her?
Advice me pls...

Wow. Thanks for sharing this.
Your dad was a very wise man. What an elder sees scooting down, a child/youth may not see even climbing a treetop.

Cheating on a spouse- adultery or fornication is a deal-breaker and it comes with a lot of consequences.
You wife may actually be psychologically or emotionally drained by some issues. You should try to address that primarily.
Cos women truly love sex especially when they enjoy it with their partner.

Don't be proud to ask her if there's any complaints concerning your sex life, if you still indeed want to keep your marriage and I hope you do.

Ultimately, I perceive you're not so religious/spiritual.
Kindly make God your priority and Christ the Head of your home. Every thing else works practically starts to work itself out because God will be in control. And a lot can change in 3 months. God help you because you're a good man, a rare type in this generation.

Israel5:
I have just been informed by neighbours from my house in my home town that my tenant was burnt to death by people in the environment. They almost burnt my house too but for some interventions. They ransacked the entire house, burn any item they could find, cutting down trees and pulling down doors.

He was accused of stealing and selling children. Four children have been reported missing. He confirmed it, only that they can not be recovered. That was before they meted jungle justice on him. He was survived by a wife and four children. The family are in police custody now. All his properties brought out and set on fire.
As I write, I am in shock right now. I can't travel there. All the while this devil told me he deals with Rice and other food items. He usually comes to Abuja to sell his items, asking to visit my house but for some reason I refused to let him. I have never him physically though. I thought he was a good man, how that he helped secure the property. It was after his death yesterday, I got to find out that he rented other rooms to some students and was collecting rent. Unfortunately, the properties of these students were burnt too. Not my problem.

I have contacted a property lawyer, and sent him there. He confirmed the incident, but asked me to sell the entire property.

Is that the right call? Seeing that the people see the house as bad omen now.
Please what do I do? Am I going to be implicated? I don't know the devil.

How do you release your property without due diligence of who occupies it?
Even if you contracted it out to property agents, that property agency must be

You should ask for forgiveness other wise the blood of those children can be on your head crying for justice because it is on your property.

MatrixReloaded:
All this self acclaimed pastors that will setup a batcher and call it church.
Little do the gullible followers believe he was called rather you will only see poverty illed mental individual seeking for diving intervention from him to support there means of livelihood through church 100 naira offerings donated by gullible members.
Miracles ain't working In church anymore cos where u seek for miracle is not where u find one..

You've said it all.

DIVINEEVIDENCE:
A woman (wife) who gives me no reason to suspect her of immoral behavior, especially cheating, whether platonic or emotional cheating.
I hate infidelity with all my pancreatic bile.

A woman who I can make wet without stress.
Who lets go and involuntarily releases all sorts of fluids when we do the do every gaddam time.

I missed the first of such women already, will never looseguard a second chance.

And I'm gonna marry a virgin, even if it brings the sky crashing down.

Clearly you're not a virgin.
Is it not unfair that you want to marry a virgin?

jmoore:
Due diligence, because you have the skills of FBI to spot criminals?

Do you know some criminals travel outside their domain to commit crime?

Bros, kindly answer pls, if it were your daughter, would you?

Jackson619007:
Bad road, bad engine, bad driver, one of this caused it, tho accident happens, hope no one died!!

Well said.
It's been a while I passed there but I suspect it is a road-worthiness issue. That's the implication of the corruption in VIO and most institutions in Nigeria. The more reason we should pray for and also cooperate with this present administration.
Most of the trucks and vehicles on the road are accidents-waiting-to-happen yet they usually are issued these documents.

It's God that protects commuters in Nigeria, especially in Lagos.

jmoore:
Because criminal is written on the face of the tenant, abi?

If you were to hand over your daughter for marriage, will you simply hand her over to any man simply by judging his looks?
Will you not do your due diligence and find out about him?

Why will you have a property and not be sure to at least do some due diligence?
Otherwise you're not worthy of that property.

dangermouse:
Do not sell your property because of this incident. If the compound is fenced and gated then lock it up for the mean time.

Not your fault that u rented to a criminal.

Renovate the house later and rent out only this time proper vetting needs done.

How is it not his fault that he rented out his property to a criminal?
How can you abdicate him of this crime?

Even if legally, he is not liable, he is morally liable.

LewisHamilton15:
Last week I proposed to my long time girlfriend and fiancee and she accepted me.

We discussed a whole range of topics and we are convenienced that we can live our lives together. But one thing we disagree on is the issue of house: she said we must build a house together before settling down but I suggested we tie the knot and live in a rented apartment before planning to build our personal house but she insisted we must build.

She said we will contribute money to build together, she won't leave me alone in the project. She even suggested withdrawing her savings of #250, 000 so we can buy land. I have the money and apart from my daily hustle I have other side businesses that springs me money occasionally.

I want to settle down as soon as possible but she cited the problems that comes along with living in a rented apartment. I really wish to settle down but this lady won't agree.

I don't want to cause problem between us so how do I go about convincing her?

It's a good suggestion but you have to assert that she can't insist on having "her way or no way."

Funkyswagzz:
Its either you guys don't know tinubu's ideology or you seem to ignore it. When tinubu gets hold of power he never let go. No one says he's not gonna go anything buh what people are preventing is his method of governance were he seize power to himself and embezzle as much as he can.

Kindly back up your claim with facts.
Anticipating your reply. Thanks

Ladyclara002:
💕 Share your most unforgettable romantic moments in the comments below! Let's spread some love and inspiration. 💑

1. Gifts.
It's difficult for a Nigerian lady to spend money on a guy.
So when a lady willingly wants to spend on me, it is a major green-light.

2. Also one who is genuinely interested and supportive of my success.

The irony is that I found these in an inappropriate relationship.

This is actually what Love is. It is best when it is mutual and not one-sided.

Who loves more is who gives more.
That's why it's important to be sure who you love is worthy of your love.

Rayban25:
Tinubu and his minions just disgracing everyone. I love the hosts reply.

Lash am with the truth

It is easy to identify Tinubu as one of the problems of Nigeria.
But give him time, he will also come to respect him as Nigeria's prestigious President Bola Ahmed Tinubu.

preciousee17:
Have you ever been open to the idea that The Lord can plunge you into deep deception...?
A deception so deep that you may end up realizing only after death!

You disagree? Well I agree, just like this man's message:


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k0W2svdpSs8?si=yRTgLY95LnHt6WRr

I'm so blessed to come across your thread. This is the truest and most humbling Truth.
Grace multiplied to you.

PrinceOfLagos:
The UAE didn't lift visa ban on Nigerians as wrongly reported yesterday.

Tinubu and lies are inseparable

If FFK has announced it, then so it is. probably all that is left is the due dilligence and bureaucracy.

happney65:
No be APC thugs disrupted voting in those polling booths? Infact the APC should not be allowed to contest in the rereun sef.

It should be between Labour and other political parties. Dude should appeal the judgement and if a rerun should happen the APC who caused non voting in those polling booths should be removed from any new election because if a rerun with them happens as this is what they want. They will so rig that guy out heen,he will so cry like a little child

P.S. The APC and it's whying bitches who cry and puff about online abuses won't say anything about the violence and the attempt at defranchisng voters in the Eti osa region but it is online comments that will be giving them erection

Yeye people

This will be a win for Banky W, God-willing.

9jahotblog:
Are you his God niii. Indefatigable Senator Dino Melaye will win the upcoming November 11th governorship election 🗳. Stay tuned. Senator Dino Melaye is the people’s choice in Kogi State

Let's see how it goes.

9jahotblog:
Congratulations to Senator Dino Melaye for this great award. Meanwhile, check out Senator Dino Melaye dimension of worship in his sitting room singing gospel minster GUC song.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3UhdoKV6xGk?si=ZLqVJYYxUWNIFXl_

I am simply observing Dino Melaye's political career.
He did not start well but seems, he just might align well like FFK- God knows best.

He really insulted and dragged BAT during the campaigns- his judgment go hard o. Unless he genuinely repents.

brain54:
He should have written the university…

To correct that mistake all these years.

I remember how a minor mistake I overlooked on a document cost me big some time back.

As a politician he should have known better that It can be used against him… that day has come!

This is the lesson this whole case is trying to teach us all.
That even Universities abroad can also make mistakes.

In this case, gender error.
I hope the CSU also makes the necessary correction in public view and follow due process like PEPT did so that Atiku and Obidients will finally let our President rest. Also waiting patiently and anticipatorily for the Supreme Court to also preside justly on his Election Victory as well.

Whether they admit and acknowledge him as their president or not, the Nigerian constitution has adjudged and acknowledged him as the President of the Federal Republic of Nigeria.

God has indeed remembered Nigeria and will vindicate his elect in Jesus name. Amen

Racoon:
False! There is nothing that happens under the earth that is outside the purvey of the Lord God Almighty. He allows humanity to use their conscience to fear him and do what is right. However, He will seat to judge everyone according to every deeds done with their given sound mind and conscience.

Thanks. Grace multiplied to you.

AmandaPrecious:
1. There are many more factors that influence a mother's attitude towards her kids after childbirth besides the method of delivery or whether it was painful or painless. I already mentioned these factors in a previous post. A painful delivery can NOT, on its own, bestow a "sense of responsibility" in a woman after said delivery.

On the bolded we do agree. And I never disputed this.
You simply do not want to agree that mode of birth is also one of the factors.

It is difficult to sift through your intelligence because it is tainted by so much insults and pride.
You really need to choose to honor others and you'll be fine.

Acekidc4:
Enjoy your Winning Sir🤗 Congratulations Once again Sir🤝 All eye on the Judiciary blackmail Tactics have finally Lule Pi 🤭🤭Big Shame on Flat Skull!!

This cracked me up. Lol

AmandaPrecious:
Illiteracy and religious fanaticism are a deadly combination. No wonder you have the mental capacity of a vegetable. Enjoy 😂.

With all your intelligence, yet you call me illiterate?
You see clearly that Intelligence and Wisdom are mutually exclusive.

And yes, the same way you're a fanatist of realism, so am I of Christ.

All the same we may end up being friends but only if God wills.

lexy2014:
Offpoint.

You claimed that



How then is this possible?

How does this name change "seems to be rightly done at the rightful time" when you claim that "Any one can change their name and nothing changes"?

I just realised it's you "Mr Offpoint"
Next time I will be more straight to the point.

And I will not remember you as Mr Offpoint next time but Mr Straight-To-The-Point. (See what I did there?)

If indeed you're interested in learning from each other.

AmandaPrecious:
Well, I don't think belief in God/s has absolutely anything to do with your own inability to grasp the crux of this simple discussion. You are only trying to shield your medical incompetence with the pretense of having access to knowledge beyond human cognition. Nothing about you is remotely special my dear. You're just another dumbo who refuses to learn the basic distinction between factual claims and mere speculation.



Even with your acclaimed belief in God, you falter in spelling basic words. Is that the fault of your God, or due to your obvious intellectual deficits?



Probably more than you, at least.



If wisdom consists of making blind and unverifiable statements about things I couldn't possibly know, then yes, I'm far from wise.



Lol. Here we go.



And there's literally no way your explanation would even begin to make any sense unless you could define and demonstrate the existence of "spirit".



And this quote has been debunked numerous times already.

1. There are many more factors that influence a mother's attitude towards her kids after childbirth besides the method of delivery or whether it was painful or painless. I already mentioned these factors in a previous post. A painful delivery can NOT, on its own, bestow a "sense of responsibility" in a woman after said delivery.

2. If you had taken your time to make actual research instead of making blind assertions like the spirit-filled illiterate that you are, you would find that in many cases, painful childbirth can actually have adverse effects on a mother's relationship with her kids=>

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7504903/#:~:text=A%20negative%20childbirth%20experience%20may,a%20weakened%20parent%2Dchild%20relationship.

Notice how I use actual evidence to support my position rather than falling back to unevidenced subjective opinions or spouting gibberish about divine knowledge or revelations lol.



Based on the aforementioned points, this claim here is totally false.



If this is what you really thought my argument was from all the posts I've made so far, then it just means that your level of comprehension leaves much to be desired.



Quit whinging, untwist your knotted up panties and stop getting emotional. I haven't even touched you yet. If you knew the kind of person I was, you'll realize that by my standards, I've been very merciful. My style is to disentangle spurious arguments from dummies with ruthless shellacking and putdowns. What you are seeing is just the tip of the iceberg.



You know, it wouldn't kill you to admit that you were wrong on your claims. Instead you want to drag the issue even after getting debunked over and over. That's the mark of a prideful dumbass with no intellectual integrity.



Soft boy. Don't let the door smack your face as walk out, tail between your legs.

I avoid people who insult me because I could become the source of their punishment.
First, that they are not in Christ or reject the gospel means that they are already condemned.

And they will only keep heaping more curses on themselves. Unless in fact I am wrong.

John.3.16 - For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.
John.3.17 - For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world through Him might be saved.

John.3.18 - "He who believes in Him is not condemned; but he who does not believe is condemned already, because he has not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God.

John.3.19 - And this is the condemnation, that the light has come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil.

lexy2014:
Offpoint.

You claimed that



How then is this possible?

How does this name change "seems to be rightly done at the rightful time" when you claim that "Any one can change their name and nothing changes"?

You can change your name and nothing happens because of so many factors;

-Spiritual forces.
-Your revelation of that name means little or nothing.
-the name itself means little or nothing.

I know it is the right time because I also know that God has remembered Nigeria in this time and season.

Like I said, my opinion based on my personal revelation.

lexy2014:
You didn't answer me better. You claimed that



How then is this possible?

How does this name change "seems to be rightly done at the rightful time" when you claim that "Any one can change their name and nothing changes"?

My point exactly.
You're more interested in being right and having your way, than the answer to your question.

Which was why I chose to answer you the way I deemed fit.

An answer doesn't have to answer your question.
Even silence is an answer.
If indeed you were interested in the answer to your question, it has been answered.

Have a blessed day sir.

lexy2014:
You haven't answered me. You claimed that

How then is this possible?

I don't have to answer you the way you desire. I can choose to answer you the way I deem fit. Hence I had answered you.

But because you probed further, I decided to answer you better and satisfy your persistence.

lexy2014:
That isn't what I asked u.

If you claim that name change doesn't change anything, what then makes the name change "seems to be rightly done at the rightful time"?

I've already answered you but you still didn't understand it but let me try to explain;

1. Name is significant. It is the identity of a thing/person.
2. Names are also prophetic.

People can be named according to the circumstances around them. Or named prophetically.

The name you bear and the revelation of it you carry says a lot about the Spirit you carry.
More importantly the name God calls you is the real you.

Thanks.

lexy2014:
That isn't what I asked u.

If you claim that name change doesn't change anything, what then makes the name change "seems to be rightly done at the rightful time"?

It's not about what you asked me, it's about if you have the spiritual understanding to understand my explanation.
Otherwise I go explain tire

lexy2014:
If you claim that name change doesn't change anything, what then makes the name change "seems to be rightly done at the rightful time"?

Cos I am a believer and certain things cannot necessarily be explained.
God has remembered Nigeria basically.

lexy2014:
So you mean name change is what will make nigerias league become a top league?

Not necessarily the name change. Any one can change their name and nothing changes. But this seems to be rightly done at the rightful time. My opinion.

sojisenai:
Osihmen. My man.

Honestly he is on fire.