₦airaland Forum

Acidosis:
I think the right question to ask the OP at this point is whose idea was it to invite the godmother. I'm beginning to think that the wife was not involved in that decision.

I think so too.

And who exactly is the wives Godmother?

Chidiesta:
I am a woman. I will take her away from her soon I will call my sis tommorow to tell her that I don't have anymore money to send her and I want my daughter to go and stay with my friend so she will put her in a cheaper school she will cover the expenses until I get back to my feet This is the only way she will release her because she will not offer to cover the expenses for me.

Sounds like a good plan. At least to save your friends head, now that she feels money is out of the equation she would release her.

GloriousGbola:
You can't be booked automatically because you may have sold the car, or grounded the car. However, drive that car through alausa and you will get your ticket straight.

thankio.

It's all about interests

I don't think I have ever seen my husband watching ball.

Once a while when Nigeria is playing we do try to watch if we scroll to the station by mistake , even that one sef he's doing something else.

I personally can't wrap my head round the passion and zeal people have for these clubs, more like an obsession if you ask me.

What I don't understand is why people try to bully others into liking what you do? Na by force? It doesn't make a man lesser if he doesn't watch ball.

GloriousGbola:
One of my guys had his wife's brother staying with them. Na so one day the daughter casually said the brother put his hands on her vagina when bathing her.

She didn't even know what was happening ; she was just telling how my day went.

Wowzerfull, one of the reasons it's good to always encourage children to give an update of how the day went,

One will get to hear a lot of irrelevant things like who peed on the body in school, who did this and that but the day anything strange happens that's how they will say it.

pocohantas:
She is not cray. Even me wey be adult, I no trust any and I don’t hide it. Highest you go vex, but better safe than sorry.

pocohantas:
Everybody is a suspect where my kids are.
It is either me or their dad. One parent must be present 97%.

My cousins wife told me years back that the only adult male she trusts with her daughter is her father (things were not even this bad then) I felt she was cray but now I understand her better.

We4all:
Yeah, I was going to mention that but the probability of being molested by blood relatives is usually lower. In this scenario, gambling comes into play. Her best bet in terms of protecting the girl from predators would be for her to stay with a male blood relative.

No it's not most times kids are molested by people/ relatives close by- Aunty, uncle, neighbor. Even a male blood relative is a prime suspect.

Chidiester forget all the blood is thicker than water nonsense people are throwing up and down, family most times can be one's greatest problems, they will milk you and squeeze you dry.

Your sister is a terrible person, you are paying for her sons school fees and even sending feeding money and she still had the guts not to pay your childs fees wwhen you sent it, she knows if she says she hasn't paid hers you would be forced to send another. She's very manipulative, she should have been greatful she has a helper but no.

An outsider might even do better,she would see the payment of her sons fee as a sort of payment, but family lailai always very entitled.

And that no video call is a very big redflag, if you feel your friend will do better move your girl out, if you have to pay your friend pls do and have peace of mind.
The only problem is someone who can do that to you can do much more worse to your friend, since they will see her as the one cutting off their money supply and desperate people can go to any length even family.

Maybe if you can get a good recommendation of a boarding school(I am so scared of boarding school these days) then she goes to your friend for holidays.

I am so pissed.

I don't doubt it, those POS guys process quite a lot daily.

Acidosis:
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The dicey part of love is that you can't even feel loved by a person you don't love. There is no such thing as I feel loved by him but I don't love him. How can you feel loved by someone that typically upsets you?


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Haba uncle he doesn't upset her now,neither does he irritate her, her major issue is she isn't feeling all the mushy mushy feelings (which can also be deceptive and has not even helped the OP in previous relationships) and she's slightly taller than him, she never mentioned he's short, just that she's taller.


Juliusdaughter I have not read any damning thing about him from all you have written apart from you being slightly taller and you are not attracted to him because of that. You feel loved by him abi ehen give him a chance, seems you are a Christain pray about it. You never can tell he might be the one that will cherish you and give you peace of mind.
Marriage is hard enough having a terrible partner is not an option.

LASU shouldn't even dignify him with a response.

There's a level of decorum an educated person is meant to maintain.

blackpanda:
Many of u can never work in public sector where we take shit on a daily. Anger and frustration can easily plague u if u don't take care. Shouting onbyour boss is a deathtrap

Real death trap

Slymonster:
Only when the camera captures it.

Okay thanks

Sarsaproko:
Bro the comments here are shocking...Walahi nobody can fix this country.. See people wey dem wan rule o..They are not ready to sacrifice at all

You find it shocking? seems you don't know the mentality of an average Nigerian.

I also think nobody can fix this country until the people change.

We like doing anyhow and want to continue doing anyhow

My own question is if your car papers expires are going to be booked automatically or until camera catches your plate number?

If you don't drive your vehicle till the few days after expiry that you renew nko?

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We complain about everything.

People will build houses/ business centers without parking spaces and residents / customers will park on one lane of the road causing traffic.

Karleb:
Pampers isn't even so expensive but if you remove pampers money from N100k, you might eat your food without fish.

People deliberately going into poverty and bringing in innocent child to partake in it.

If I were God, I will not forgive both man and his wife.

Abeg pampers is now expensive biko

Every shit the pikin shit worths at least 80-100naira when you divide it when buying a pack. Now use 4-5 in a day that's at least 400 naira daily, multiply by 30 days. Its a major money consuming factor for babies.

If one earns 100k and at least 10k is going for pampers alone that's a whole lot of money from the salary.

tensazangetsu20:
Honestly people should know the societal expectations of their gender and work towards it. Men and women aren't the same. I had this friend who was broke and unemployed she got married to an American citizen and is in the USA now how many of her male counterparts who are broke and unemployed and have nothing to do will see such.

Women are valuable just by being women.

You do have a point.

These issues (the main thread and the ripple threads) are quite sensitive, there are lot of variables, lot of factors and very few people acknowledge truths on NL. I just feel everyone should do what works for him/her.

tensazangetsu20:
Guy men are judged based on financial strength just as women are judged on sexual purity and body count. It might be painful but a broke woman in society's eyes is way more valuable than a broke man. Women are born with value men have to build value.

Interesting post

No comment

Omo mercy's thread is shaking so many tables ke.

More threads will still be created

pocohantas:
You can very well desire a life you can’t earn yourself.

Sexually reckless men desire virgins.
Old men want young women with agbalumo breast. So don’t come here to talk in the nonsense.

The only problem is - DO THESE RICH MEN WANT YOU?

The answer to that is YES. A rich man would very well marry a broke woman. As far as she has the top things men want in women - YOUTHFULNESS, SUBMISSIVENESS and CAREGIVING. Maybe other things he personally desires.

If men hate broke women so much, they won’t be storming Moremi Hall with KFC for 200L girls.

If men hate broke women, the late Ataga wouldn’t leave his executive wife to go get killed by a 300L girl after smoking loud.

It is on this same Nairaland that we all agreed that working women are not marriageable.

Please pick a stand already. Stop changing your arguments all to attack women.

Men would continue to marry these broke women. Logout and face reality or better still, allow these rich men speak.

Thank you!

You have a solid point.

cococandy:
They want high maintenance girls on low budget. There are girls who are perfectly okay with 30-40k. But those types of girls don’t get their attention. They are not pretty enough. What they want is a girl who wears 200k hair and 500k purse but completely achievable with 100k salary. The logic is not logicing

You Gerrit.

Every opolo get him size but lailai some would always want what they can't afford.

Acidosis:
You guys won't end this 100k matter anytime soon

It wee never end, no be Nairaland.

Is this not the 2nd or 3rd counter thread.

The matter is a very sensitive one

pocohantas:
Even the Northerners he is talking about, they marry early, but they don’t mind to divorce and remarry thrice before they are 40. It is normal to them and one of my greatest culture shock in 2021.

This life no get manual. A good partner is blis. Women should be realistic about their expectations, ensure they are indeed desirable and wait.

Exactly at bolded. I just don't fancy all the generalizations, I can't even remember any male in my immediate family getting married before 30years and non was a single father before marrying does that now mean we don't have Yoruba guys getting married before 30? lailai, I have male friends who did and it was not even because they got someone pregnant or something.

yemmit90:
Not wrong sir, I still know 2 around who are 33yrs and 35years respectively who are looking for a man to marry. Besides, Yoruba women rarely stay that long(above 30) except the ones with exceptional bad luck or being coursed. Majority of 30+ Yoruba girls you see around are single mothers.

Kindly read what I responded to, it was the northern and southwestern men not the women he was referring to in the part quoted.




Now Since you now mentioned the bolded where did you pull your statistics from.

I personally do not have any single lady above 30 who is a single mother either as a friend, relative or acquaintance, except single mother by widow hood which doesn't count here.

Also responding to your post among my clique of friends most got married over 30,so your analysis that Yoruba women rarely go above 30 before getting married doesn't hold water. I can as well say most Yoruba women get married above 30 which would be totally wrong.


Issues like this do not require generalization and statistics without thorough research. Ones environment, exposure and a lot of other factors come into play

Are there Yoruba women that get married In their 20s- yeah
Are there Yoruba women who are single mothers and are above 30 yeah
Are there Yoruba women who get married I their 30s - yeah yeah

Boliboli760:
Just wanted to give an update on the thread.I was able to stop breastfeeding in June, I gave my child fresh milk ,cerelac and solids as alternatives. I tracked my ovulation in July, funny enough i never did anything with hubby during my ovulation window but did something before and after. Found out I am now pregnant in August.

Congratulations maam.

oldienavie:
Infact at 30 years old, 85% of south western/northern men are either married, single daddies or divorcee. So a woman at that age has less than 10% of men available to her.

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I don't know about the northerners but for the s/west your analysis is wrong.

@30 years?

You can give him a chance,
it's just the cycle of life, things like these happens.

Kindly ignore some posts

Prof Dapo Asaju, I remember him from his days at Lasu. Very disciplined man man.

The peeps that did it initially underestimated that swamp, in all honesty that road was not supposed to be due for any repair yet, Igboelerin and ishashi road done by CCECC around the same time is still standing.

Finally we can drive pass again.

The question on my mind is how many Nigerians between ages 25-40 earn 100k monthly

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