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Abeg which one is likeee app bayi, na real wa oo.

Kaytixy:
Just stay out of premarital sex and save yourself from being accused of rape

Very lasting solution simple. Is it not someone that has sex they will accuse of rape.

But everywhere sex sex sex

dreZilla:
It always start from dysfunctional parenting and penultimately ends there. I took my 16 years old son in 200 level phone unaware last 3 weeks. He challenged me that what do l need his phone for.... A threat to reset his brain function with a thundering slap made him to unlock the phone for me to gain access. I checked everything, l mean everything. Though my findings were not so shocking (far below what l had expected or feared) but he still had a week long counselling session and l still disciplined him with certain restrictions and warnings. Our generation is producing weaker and morally bankrupt kids(generation X or the millennials) and it is our fault. Not the overpaid teachers, not the overpriced schools, not the irresponsible government, not inadequate societal policies or codes of conduct..... Its on us! 'Satans' are been groomed under our watch..... And we are busy chasing money to finance it.....

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Good one jare papa.

Some people will say it's child abuse now, has a right to privacy blehblehbleh.

Abeg parents should use whatever method they deem fit to raise their children at the end its only the family that will bear the brunt.

GloriousGbola:
Does this society provide a proper framework for children?

If you turn on any Nigerian TV station will you see any content for children?
Is there any musical artiste that sings songs for children?
Outside of.school books are there any local book series for kids?
Are there any movies made for children?

So already from the beginning you have a society where children have no local media. Everything is media for adults.

Go to eateries what are they playing on their TVs? Channel o booty videos

Go to your average kids party what are they playing? Jolof wind your waist music.

Children every where are saying you are doing well.

There are no local laws or legislation in place to ensure family friendly media or Internet is available.

No one in leadership positions cares about children

Open your dstv. There is PBS, cbeebies, da vinci kids. These are public channels in their home countries. Channels made specifically for children's education, upbringing and values.

Every one is abusing the parents, but everyday on this platform I interact with several youths who have also been failed by society and their parents.

Anyone asking to see the video is a product of this society
Anyone who casually makes excuses for rape is a product of this society
Anyone who casually defends any kind of fraud is a product or this society.

The children who cannot dance Skelewu or recite it are the ones considered strange. The children who are blank when told 'you are doing well' are the nerds.

So yes society is also part of the problem

As an African you should know this.

That is why we have the saying

It takes a whole village to raise a child

Sadly you are right ooo.


Even if you go to parties in schools if you see the kind of music they play and children whining and dancing ehn, all these their Yeye end of the year party. the annoying part is nobody sees anything wrong with it. The children who just jump up and down in the form of dancing are sort of looked down own. The day a school in my area had their party, the kind of music blaring from the speakers was terrible.

We don't even allow kids to be kids any more oo.

We expose them to terrible content and those who are not exposed to it are seen as not woke.


Parents protect your children oo.

My bike customer was telling me one day he won't be available that his children were going for interhouse sport (they attend chosen church group of schools so they had a combine interhouse sport, all the Lagos schools met at a particular location for the event).

He said he would have to go with them that he can't leave two of his children to go like that, he said there were busses and all the teachers were going but since his wife won't be available she will stay with the youngest baby and he will follow the other two and watch out for them they should be aged 7 and 5 around that range.

I smiled when he said so, not that he didn't trust the school system, he wanted to take extra steps for his children.

bukatyne:
As in, very very stupid parents.

A case that all parties should have taken their learnings and scrub off the internet (if possible) and move on.

I don't even know why this was publicized, the school should have just informed the parents what exactly happened (not hiding details and threatening the children not to talk) and suspend them as they have done and therapy for the children should be done to



The school had its own negligence because the boys and girls are not supposed to be in the same room, wait sef in our own days boys and female sleep together in the same room and nothing will happen Na.

2 children having sex phew Nawa, this is so terrible oo. What exactly is the mother fighting for negligence or rape? At least she saw the video (I did not) did it look like rape , at least those that watched it have said its 2 children having sex.


The Mata sef taya me.

Modified:I have seen the video, it wasn't gang rape. Two of them were having sex and this is terrible jeez, children, heck they were even disturbing the other boy that wanted to sleep, jeez this is terrible.

Even the other children there sef are being influenced, how on earth did she get into that room because it's looking like that was a boys room.

People should stop displaying their ignorance online abeg, the whole thread is on Twitter,

Even the press statement is even wack ( they made it sound she demanded the sum of 10k dollars) because she has pursued the case legally to some certain point with the help of an association - zanzibar female lawyers even the 10k dollars was an amount the lawyers came up with as compensation. The owners of the hotel said she should sue the security company that they are not liable, they were not ready to pay the 10k dollars.



Her hotel was changed and she even stayed a bit longer.

The whole thread is there with voice notes and watsap messages aarh.

She left when she didn't feel safe anymore which was a very smart move if you ask me, its better to move to your own territory.

It's a good thing she didn't keep quiet even if it's a year later.

As for the Tanzanians mocking her Na them Sabi, some even said she was paid to dent their image. Loool. Yeye people.

No, the matter has not gotten to that level.

You didn't see anything suspicious in the chats so why not talk about the chatting how you are uncomfortable with it simple.

You even said he's ugly

Feggie3:
You are unapologetically mad!! Men like you should be stoned to death!

This person haff vexed. Some comments makes one wonder the sanity of some people on this forum.

Na real wa.

All of them both the boys and girls were suspended.

Chris land is guilty of negligence that's all.

1. They should have separated the rooms for girls and boys.

2. They owed it to the parents to infrom them exactly what they did not just saying improper acts. Were the parents told the exact reason why they were suspended? that's where the cover up comes in.



Parents, parent your children very well with whatever method you deem fit oo, if it's not to give them a phone do it, if it's not to watch TV do it oo if they need brain resetting abara do it oo.

Whatever method you know will work do it oo, ignore the naysayers Na your pikin. Watch their friends, separate them from those friends you are not comfortable with. Train them to be content and never allow other influence them.

Also I don't even think it's safe for children to attend boarding schools any more sef, they learn so many bad things there. If your child is under your nose you can easily spot changes and address them quickly.

Pray for them too, pray that children with failed parenting stay far away from your children. Pray they will never meet friends they will never be able to resist their influence.

Before one pikin will go and give the parent international disgrace.

The OP is a Tanzanian I guess, you guys should leave him.

How is an attempted rape in an hotel room by a supposed staff a personal issue.

They are even claiming the guy is not their staff but that of the security company, who will now take responsibility? The hotel or the security company?

Is the hotel not responsible for whoever they allow to get access to their property.

How is it not negligence on the part of the hotel?

Mindlog:
Why should a property inherited by a woman from her father be registered in the name of the man she is married to, what happened to her own name?

I was beyond shocked when I saw that post.

KiNg0G:
if your daughter married in the future and after her demise, her husband decides to sell the inheritance you left her and just to flex anyhow without minding your grandchildren u go like am?

some of you need sense refill

It's a very valid question.

Gospel2Day:
Why are some men so shameless that they want to inherit what belongs to the family of their wives?
The property is not what the wife worked hard to acquire.
She inherited it from her parents.
I think it is an irresponsible man that would want to inherit such property.
Can you see why families don't want to let their female daughters share in their inheritance?
Because they know their husbands will acquire the inheritance.
As a responsible man you should have enough dignity and self-respect NOT to touch any property that your wife inherited.
That is covetousness and stealing by stealth.
Shalom.

Loool this is another angle to this matter, family inheritance that is expected to be handed down to the next generation is not to be sold.

Whatever the result of the autopsy (because now they will not say if beating can lead to a medical condition its only the medical condition they will state for us). He should be charged for domestic violence. At least there are testifiers, the most important are that of the children.

pocohantas:
It is written over the post. OP knows his father’s side-chicks.




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Thats what a lot of people don't understand, once there's another woman, a love child, all those other addendum the game changes. drastically.

No wonder she doesn't like you guys. You people still carried this ' I wonder what killed my brother' mentality to a white woman. Men no longer die of natural causes in Naija, it's the wife that must kill him

She's a bastard and yet she's your brothers son.

You guys should go sort yourselves out jare.

Mindlog:
The properties are not exclusively his father's as long the woman has surviving children, all will have a share.

A landlady whose 4 flats building near ours in Lagos, inherited the said property from her father. She was married and had 3 daughters, the eldest was in SS2 when she died and her husband had 2 kids outside during their marriage. She knew she wouldn't survive her health challenge and was smart enough to have a will done stating their 3 daughters as the only beneficiaries of the building excluding the husband.

After her burial even with the husband already knowing that the building belongs to their daughters, he came to make noise at the property even came with his own padlocks. The police from Area F had to be called in and had him taken away, the maternal relatives of the girls had to fight to discontinue the man being in custody of the girls to avoid stories that touch the liver as he regards them as his rivals

Nice, the fact that he had two children outside influenced this decision.

In the OP's case I even suspect the parent were not really in good terms sef. We don't know if OP is the fathers only child, this might be a factor in all these dragging.

Kobojunkie:
Where? When ?

https://www.nairaland.com/5731810/husband-doesnt-want-son-come


I love that thread because it exposed a lot of things about we Nigerians.

Chochocho people will never rest, Nawa.

Them go talk sha.

You expect K1 to be faithful? Na wa for some women sef.

Naso, it's the society we are in.I am not shocked.

It's easy to say Nigerian women this and that.

Lots of husbands sleep with the maid, sisters even step daughters and the wives will cover up for them because of what will people say. Too much randy men that can't control their peepee around these days, that is the real issue. If not I wonder why you would sleep with your step daughter.

Blame the men who can't control them selves not the women who try to keep their marriage whatever the cost. If you hear she divorced because the husband slept with the sister or maid, you guys are still going to blame the wife anyway so they would rather suck it up and make the little girl who is the victim get all the blames.

It's a very bad orientation but its the society we are in.

Acidosis:
That was an improper diagnosis. Blinking cleans the eyes. Yawning too.

Hian this is more wierd, yawning ke, I can still understand blinking.

Framed:
Correct. I agree. The first man who went blind on my street where our family house is, was told by the doctor that part of his problem was caused by holding back tears over many years. Doctor said tears is a cleansing therapy for the eyes. I no shame that day the news hit me hard, grateful for my girl as well.

Really @ bolded first time I am hearing that oo

GloriousGbola:
It is an interesting story because this actually does happen. A girl goes to a guys place and if she does not put out, he becomes threatening/intimidating.

There is often an element of coercion in sex that we don't talk about. The other part of the conversation is that Nigerian chicks also expect coercion or force of some kind as part of the mating ritual.

This is why fellows who stop when they say no or protest hear later that the girl said they are slackers/ not sharp guys

The dynamics of the mating dance among Nigerians, particularly youths, are just fked up.

This is a sex game gone wrong.

Solid points ooo.

That coercion part ehn

Well something must have happened for her to tweet that, why didn't the boys want her to leave too, we don't even know what their intentions were.

In these days of ritual killing maybe she was scared as they didn't allow her leave, Most acts of molestation are carried out by people we know and trust anyways, maybe she shouldn't have wrote kidnap and rape.
'preventing me from leaving might have sounded better grammatically'

I don't blame her for raising an alarm, maybe it should have been worded more carefully, maybe just maybe, but stranger things have happened.

Either way Nigerians should let the police do their job, they no respond wahala, they responded wahala.

Something must have happened for her to raise that alarm though it might seem a false one and the police have said it's wrong full restraining after interrogation we should leave them to do their job ooo.

I feel it's better for her to get arraigned for wrongful information than actually get raped and those boys too arraigned for restraining.

Everybody head go reset.

alphanyx:
But na "me and you" dey dump that refuse for center of road under the cover of darkness. Yes, the govt is lax too with its responsibility and enforcement but the main koko lies on the the citizens to act appropriately.
Even when refuse containers are provided, we prefer shortcut along the road or drainage during rainfall. Where services are provided by refuse contractors, "we" still refuse to pay!
Abegi! Our own dey all of us body... as if say nor be all of us be the government we condemn.

You are right.

MARKone:
Why is it difficult for these governor's to effectively manage waste disposal in their respective States, I know Nigerians can be unruly, but these Governors travel to US and the Europe and see how those countries manage their waste disposal, or they can outsource the management and be paying the contractors as at when due. Are we going to remain like this forever?

Residents are meant to pay for waste disposal even if it's outsourced like we have in Lagos State. The PSPs in Lagos are paid by residents but the problem is an average Nigerian doesn't want to pay for services.

Ogun state should have copied the Lagos State PSP model,I heard Ogun now have PSPs though. though the Lagos PSPs might not be perfect but it's still working, the major issue now is getting payment from Lagosians

Not surprised at the pastors version, in fact I was almost certain she would never have told the pastor nor the wife and the reason is not far fetched. I am not even surprised some of her choir members and her own twin sister knew about it but they kept quiet because she was begging them. Same with music producer.

Besides if you understand the way church issues work, the pastors hardly get to hear issues like this except someone does tatafo, or the person involved talks to the pastor or wife directly everybody will know oo but they will just not talk they will just pim and hoping maybe the holy spirit will reveal to pastor forgetting that it's not all things God will reveal.

The one that is paining me me the most is how much he has damaged those children, to the extent that as close as they were to their pastor they couldn't speak because they fear their papa despite the fact they knew their mother was suffering.

If all these people had spoken against her wish they might have been accused of interfering in her marriage. Nobody wants to be seen as a home breaker either within or outside the church.


If you were close enough to your pastor to seek his help concerning medical matters and to link you to other doctors he knows why couldn't you open up to him that you suspect it's the regular beating or kick that is causing the chest wahala or even the any of the doctors who will tell pastor, the man named about 5 doctors he called for them, just mentioning that little information to either of them might have helped.

We Christians sometimes want to look perfect in the eyes of our pastors and the church, maybe she didn't want her husband to look like a bad person in the eyes of the church.

I do hope people learn to speak up and stop telling their friends not to take action.

It's good he came to clear the air because people are beginning to drag the church and even the marriage institution itself.

God will help us oo

Everybody knows that is a common problem with glo when it rains or the weather is cloudy.

It's aboki that picks up mostly.

The Mata no even reach to tear family apart.

ireneidiva:
How are the children accomplices? Please stop writing rubbish.

Accomplices indeed


When I read the OP I actually hissed.

koning:
For all we know, Fidelis Anosike could be Yuzedo, The Amunekeuto 1 of Banana Iceland. Since the relationship got serious he has disappeared from NL.

Yuzedo writes like a typical media man with a comical twist. Fidelis is a veteran media man. So it's possible.

I wish them all the best

Yuzedo come and confirm oo, I really hope it's true but I feel Yuzedo is far younger than Fidelis.

The guy really crushed on Rita Dominic from his banana Iceland mansion.