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Temmybabs12:
Am so hurt though, yes I said it but I was joking, Oga kuku use that opportunity; now the guy has gone far o don’t even know how to bring him back. In his words “you asked me to get myself a girlfriend” I was joking about it, which woman wants to see her man with another woman.
These men though; I asked him “So if I asked you to put your hand inside fire will you, he said woman naa fire?
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Letter to you dear husband God will Jude you except I have been unfaithful to you.

Dear single ladies you better calm down in no go dey rush marry oo. Ain’t a easy ball game out here men,

Sorry Sis, you have jammed a cheating husband, always use condom with him, and when you are trying to conceive, insist on a thorough test for STIs. Don't bother raising hell, no one can change him. Protect yourself.

He should stay away from home naw, I only pity the woman who married him.
How does his sexual activities affect our economy in any way.

divaluvmiz:
@All. Thank you. It was too much on me last night because I couldn't sleep, different thought going through my mind, so, I decided to share it here. I felt better.
I'm sorry I can't reply everyone comments.
Someone suggested I change location, thanks. It's a nice idea.
Another person asked if I have a skill or bussiness idesl. yes I have a small scale business I'm managing. The problem is, I've not been able to develop it professionally, because every time I save little thing to improve, I'll be faced with paying school fees and many other expenses. So it's hard for me to work it out.
It's like I'm trying hard to pay school fees and buy food stuffs and I keep repeating the same process.
To the person that said I'm wallowing in self pity, it's not true. The shoe I wear, you wouldn't understand it.
It's easy to say everything exactly the way they are here and feel better since it's faceless

Why don't you beg your parents to take your child in, you will be able to move forward financially and then you might find someone who won't walk out on you. Carrying your burdens alone can make you burn out from stress.

NgwalandAbia:
Another foolish Nigerian gone because of zoo University full with immoral act by the way where is our medicine students now that we need them for coronavirus solution

You need Microbiologists, Biochemists, Medical lab scientists, Medical researchers and Biotechnologists. Medical Practitioners are needed for prescriptions and management.

danilmo:
An average educationalist can analyse u with ur online comment. Divorce at slight provocation most be a comment from a social Media teenager. Im sorry U might b matured in age but ur comment is underage.

When in any of my posts did I ask women to 'divorce at the slightest provocation'?
When did beating up a woman become 'slightest provocation'?
Mr social media adult, Mr adult comment, face your life and stop fouling up my mentions with your disgusting mindset.

danilmo:
Whatever u mean by trauma, ure on ur own, I shaa know we went back home to celebrate my parent 30years in marriage graced with different academic professionals. They do this every 5years. If this is what trauma of domestic violence has brought to my family, I think I ll love to b in my same family in my next life. In fact my mum ll marry my Dad 100times in her next life..


I'm sure ure a teenager hovering around the fantasy of social Media

Ahhhhh, I remember, everyone is a teenager once they don't agree with your opinion.

danilmo:
If my Mum was my dad punching bag, I'm very sure she ll want the same punching bag in her next life..

That old punching bag of 20+years ago is now the the wife of a Great Public Speaker where special honour and preference is always accustom to her in any occasion dad speaks..U think those things comes without sacrifice abi..Show me one sucxesful family where the Man isnt agrresive or chest in the early days of marriage..

moreover
That old punching bag of then has helped her puncher to nurture Doctor(s), Engineer, pharmacist, and co-graduate.


what we are saying is unrepentant domestic assault. not wen hubby does that once or twice even beg on top , and the next thing in ur mind is divorce. baba.. those early period are one of Men weakest point where he needs the wife to be with him.. Go and divorce na, we have enough court, and ready to redivorce in case of another one in ur new marriage.

All this ajebo ladies self thinking with their buttocks.

Interesting, I hope you know that success is not sexually transmitted.

danilmo:
Anyway, ure right sha , I'm just talking base on what I read from social media ladies who are bent on divorce at slight provocation, meanwhile most of the workable marriage today, none of them is perfect, I just to give my own parent into it. meanwhile most problem is from men , our wahala too much, if not aggression it ll b cheat, it is on d woman's discretion to make it work, u divorce him on discretion , within a month another Lady is in ,Who is doing who?

watch out , we ll have so many single mums in few years time compare to single dad..

lastly if u can't tolerate Man's wahala, don't marry man. Marry something else or stay single instead all this divorce.

There are more single moms than single dads because custody of kids naturally fall to mothers. For every single Mom, a single dad is lurking somewhere, or did they manufacture the babies on their own?

Incandescent:
What if your mum had died in the process of the beating. Just maybe your dad would have remarried and life would go on while your mum would be resting in peace.

Morale of my analysis: learn to consider issues from every side not just from your limited lense of experience

Abi o. Instead of him to go into therapy for the trauma of witnessing domestic violence at such a tender age, he is here glorifying Stockholm syndrome.

danilmo:
Take it from me, her husband will most likely not embarrass her ..

Who does that to a reasonable wife?, few.

Moreover, my dad once beat my mum once in their early days , then we were young , just once..if she has divorced my dad cox of beer parlor analysis of domestic violence, she will b somewhere else I can't fathom. Today she's happily celebrating 30years in marriage and thanking God for how far the've gone with Joy + healthy promising children/grandchildren to show for it..

Ladies of today, make una calm down, Social theories and marriage are two different thing.. ask ur mum. she's ur best teacher.

So, if a man doesn't have a punching bag, his wife should stand in abi

Abeos:
He must also make sure he scores quite high too in post-utme if he choses FUTA because as at when i did mine then, even with my 290 from jamb i wasn't admitted because i scored 60 in the post-utme, i complained and was told only post-utme is considered regardless of your jamb score as long it's 200 above. I don't if that has changed though, this was in 2009.

It hasn't changed much.

Etteanna:
oh how nice you self if you me sex ask your family

I fainted ooooo

Mrshape:
He his in SS3, they might change the age of university admission to 15 years in Nigeria because youths starts at 15 now in Nigeria,
So I don't see why a youth can not be admitted to the university

Try FUTA naw, they will most likely admit him/her

At least they won best dressed

These people have started

tstx:
So we can confirm now that the virus kills BLACK people.

Rip to the dead

The virus finds it difficult to spread in Africa because our air has low quantity of water droplets. It can kill anyone once it enters the body.

Nnemuka:
You see how everyone is politely asking you to take your time, dont rush, marriage is not a do or die affair etc... especially females. Nobody is pointing out that you are a MIDNIGHT NEWSPAPER, who might be needing energy drinks to stay ontop a woman for 2mins atleast.

well reason I am saying this is that I came across your post calling someone's girlfriend an evening newspaper but here you are, earning poorly, living in a self contain at 35, yet nobody is attacking you.
At 35 you should quit being silly

Busted

24kmagic:
By lonely you mean single?
If yes, then I don't think that's the problem.

I mean he has no close friends, so, he's trying to get the friendship benefits from neighbors. This is not about his relationship status.

24kmagic:
It means You too de run your mouth.

You can't just keep quiet for one hour.
When you're around, the whole compound or neighborhood will know that you're around.

I'm currently battling with one now.

Problem is I can't even tell him cos he's way older.

But dude talks too much.

Once he's back from work, the whole compound will know that he's around.

He'll even go as far as calling out people from their rooms to come out just so they could talk.

A 40+ years old man

He's lonely

Tife556:
I was at a party today with my bf ..it was his cousin's wedding... After everything and it was time for food at the reception... My bf was greeting some guests and the caterer sharing the food brought me rice...I just took a spoon and behold I saw a woman behind the caterer saying the food isn't for me.. I told her am eating already I can't release the food anymore... Then she began shouting at the caterer before I knew it..people were gathering and I politely told her to leave the caterer alone since she made a mistake but she faced me instead....I was furious and we rained insult on each other..my bf had to drag me away from there...
He took me outside and said all sorts of things to me , even called me a glutton without knowing what really happened...And he said he was tired of my eating attitude and needed a break ..The painful part was when he said all the food I eat goes to waste without it showing in me..I was really hurt and I left there angrily...but I was really ashamed because his mum was there....
I admit I eat a lot but I just can't control my urge for food...
I don't know if I should be angry or apologize to my bf ...
Someone pls help me

We have a shortage of clinical psychologists in Nigeria. Please watch "Surprise Me", a movie, a lady dealt with compulsive overeating in it, her therapist said some interesting words. Good luck

pocohantas:
I agree with you OP.

You don't want to know how much I love my dad and only brother. These are the two men that have supported me every step of the way. I can't imagine one FOOLISH husband saying they shouldn't visit or stay in our house or even thinking he comes before them.

It is my father first, mother and siblings, my kid, before my husband.

You can always get another husband, but never another family.

A father is the only man that will spend on you without asking for submission or anything.

My dad reigns supreme in my heart. I can take a bullet in the head for that man, but NEVER will I attempt it for a husband. You see how much I love him?

For that reason, he can come live with us. All my siblings can come, alongside my husband's own.

One big happy family.

Na so

gracegrace668:
Madam say the truth. You were not expecting your "husband" that night. Your moves were been monitored unknown to you and it was simply left for you to be caught red handed.

When it gets to a certain time, male guests have to leave the visit for another day or go back if they are already around. You were cheating on your husband, your stories are not adding up.

What kind of nonsense are you typing, this man didn't pay the woman's bride price, he didn't marry her legally, he married another woman legally while stringing her along, he abandoned her for SIX years to cater to children alone. He is not her husband. He is the intruder here.
It's the woman's fault though, she should have cut ties with him a long time ago.

eldest:
You are wrong
In this case now you might have to choose between your son and your husband which is an experience you might never want to have.
I believe you should give your husband some time, treat him nice and beg him, he might consider

The child's future is more important than the man's ego. I prioritize children any day anytime.

[quote author=Vyvyanvyvy post=87405793]I know his people and family house because I stayed with them when he left for Italy. I left the house when my daughter was 2 weeks because of the maltreatment I had received from his mother and sisters. I don’t know where you guys are getting all these informations about not knowing my children father house or people? [quote]Your child's well being should be your priority. He is your blood. If you live to old age, as your first son, he will be the one to handle your burial. Order your life and leave a good legacy behind, if your husband wants to walk with you, good, but if he doesn't, you focus on your own life then.

Ikem11:
Don't try this advice cos you end up divorced having 4 kids to raise alone.

Maybe jump to another man and find your self in bigger mess than u are now.

Just keep begging your husband and try tune him into accepting the baby staying with you people rather than disobeying him.

While doing so, try getting in contact with his father cos this your story of not knowing his people or having contacts with him is a total lie.

Go back from the rot where he used to stay, his friends... U can't tell me u stayed with a man n had 2kids with him yet don't know how to get in contact with him

She's already alone

Vyvyanvyvy:
Thanks am thinking of going there this Sunday

No problem

24kmagic:
Wait, what?
What did you just type?

What you saw.

Very simple, travel to your brother's place, pick up your son, bring him home.
If your husband is a sensible man, he will only leave your child's upkeep to you without raising hell. Good luck.

Nice

ifeteminikan:
The Male Biological Clock

We often talk about the biological clock in a way to let women seek to procreate after reaching a certain age.

What about men?

Researchers have now found evidence that women are not the only ones with a biological clock: that of men starts in the mid-thirties.

A French study carried out from 2002 to 2006, on 12,000 couples undergoing fertility treatment, indeed shows that the chances of pregnancy begin to weaken from the age of 35 years. This probability becomes much lower when the man exceeds 40 years. Moreover, previous studies had shown that natural reproduction than assisted were more difficult when the man was over 40 years old. It is likely, in fact, that DNA defects in the sperm are responsible.

https://totalgiver.com/male-biological-clock

I told them naw, they won't listen
aseni nse ara è

made2fit:
3 years ago, my husband and I bought a landed property, built and moved into our our home. All through the 9 months it took for us to buy and build, we kept the information to ourselves. We didn't inform our family. When it was time for us to move into the house, which was 60% completed then, I told my siblings about it. Their response and reactions were shocking. Instead of congratulating me, they reprimanded me that I was keeping secrets from them. Their grouse was that I didn't tell them I bought a land, didn't take them through the process of building, didn't even drop a hint in our Whatsapp group. They were acidic and bitter.

True, I was expecting a mild reprimand concerning why they were kept in the dark; but I was really unprepared for the backlash that was unleashed. On my own money! I was deeply hurt and I cried. My husband had to comfort me. Mind you, my siblings are all doing well. If they really wanted they can as well sacrifice and build their own homes. Anyway, we moved in. No one talked about it again. Everyone ignored me and my new house. It took a whole year before one of them came to visit. Another sister of mine, didn't even bother for a longer time, even though she visits the area around every now and then to see her in-law.

All that is behind us as time as healed all their "hurts". Everyone visits and everything is fine . Now, I bought another property. Only this time it is close to around my mum's vicinity. This property was a very good deal, couldn't ignore, and I intend to use it for commercial purpose. I intend to be as discreet as possible. But my fear is that if my mum find out from outsiders, or artisans, , she'll be deeply hurt. If I tell her, she"ll want me/ pressurize me to tell my siblings, which I do not want. I don't want anyone to kill my joy, as I'm unsure of their reactions. How do I go about this?


NB; I'm second of six siblings. I have not always been rich. In fact, I was the poorest. God opened the way for us about 6years ago.

Madam, don't tell them until you've completed the structure. Do it two more times, then they will accept it as your character. The first time is usually the hardest. Congratulations.