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[quote author=windman post=85832761][/quote]I'm sure a lot of people have given you advice, what is her mother doing about it?

Women hustle ooo, make dem no dey smash you in front of your sister

farous:
Honestly I never dream that such can happen but that's how I see it and I feel guilty over everything.

Have your wife talk to her sister and apologize for what happened. Next time get a guest house when visiting family for the holidays, or is that place remote?

windman:
Hello everyone,

My little cousin in her early 20's just got pregnant for a guy we don't know. She was about to purchase this year's UTME form before this ordeal.

She ran out of the home for 2days now after my Uncle threatened to deal with her (the normal Nigerian parents way). Although, she called my elder sister with the guy's phone that she's safe because her mobile phone is in the house.

My Uncle has strictly warned us not to allow her into the house because he can't live in same house with my pregnant cousin. He doesn't even wants to know her whereabouts because he is really mad at her for becoming pregnant outside wedlock.

Good people of Nigeria, please what do I do??

Where are her parents?

Ryda:
She's the Baby mama and Ooni is what?

Baby Daddy

germaphobe:
If we come out to talk about all those hanties that did one or two to us or rather with us when we were still minors, do you think women will ever complain of tape. But as a man even from tender age the society has taught us how to endure and shut up on some things.

Women are busy fighting back and speaking up.
You men should speak up too, you will find support.
I heard of a guy who became promiscuous due to the sexual abuse he underwent in the hands of a female cousin during his childhood, he didn't speak out, when he contracted a venereal disease as a result of his lifestyle, the cousin is unaffected.
Please find support. Silence is harmful to your health.

CHoccolaTE:
Some women write like that Michelecarbide because they want male approval, I understand where people like that are coming from so I no even send them. There is one such woman in family section too.
Just ignore her, na male validation she dey find.

Thanks jare, she has been ignored.

CHoccolaTE:
Some women write like that Michelecarbide because they want male approval, I understand where people like that are coming from so I no even send them. There is one such woman in family section too.
Just ignore her, na male validation she dey find.

Thanks jare, she has been ignored.

iceybux:
Ohk Woman Are Thinkin They Polygamous Too Abi? Mayb They Should Also Start Payin Groomprices Too And Organising The Ceremony With Their Money Too Includin U,until Then Wil Take Ur Quote Serious Aside That Ur Statement Is Just Baseless

It takes strength to go against the normal way people do things, any man who is strong enough to face shame should ask for Groomprice. Who knows, someone might be willing to pay. Women have been facing shame because they don't like the way things are done, let's see how many men are bold enough.

Michellekabod2:
@saintmary let us agree to disagree ,if you find nothing evil and vile in the rogueness of her language and paint me night-black then I dont think you deserve a conversation with me. You trio have judged me,made unfounded accusations et Al
You are a hateful and repulsive fellow
Keep cheering yourselves as Amazons,time will indeed tell..

Bye!

Do unto others what you want others to do to you.
If you want to throw insults, get ready to take the same. Bye.

Michellekabod2:
can you see how bias you are? You turned a blind eye to the insults heaped on me and made it seem like am the villian /oppressor. The " taming" I referred to was her rudeness and sauciness towards me,not of her expression of herself.
You turned a blind eye to her vulgar words and applaud her(or rather yourselves) as being " bold" and "intellectual".



@lilmissfavvy doesn't know me or what I stand for and made baseless accusations of me based on assumptions of my stance.

I guess she will be the first female I have to have a banter with on romance section.

Everyone comes up with his/her truth no matter how offensive it is,if you don't agree with the person they call it silencing their truth...they can offer rebuttals to others but when you offer a rebuttal to their post you are seen as villain resisting their "truths".

Do you need me to remind you that you were the one who quoted LilMissFavvy first, she asked you to face front, then you heaped such horrible insults on her on top wetin?
You said she was not fit to live among humans all because she stuck to her opinions.
How evil are you to wish such on someone who has done you no wrong
I don't know any of these ladies including funmisticqueen2, CHocolaTE and Margy, but they have showen LilMissFavvy support which suggests that they are truly females. You on the other hand seem to be a male imposter, who would go to the extent of wishing evil on someone who called out males for their unbridled and unscrupulous cheating.
Once again kudos to LilMissFavvy for holding her own against such vicious, hateful opponents.

LilMissFavvy:
Thanks. I have never seen michellabod2, caushioning men to stop their mentality of having a right to cheat on their wives, but whenever she sees a female airing her views to condemn it, she engages the female, I don't know if she is a male behind a female account. But I would be glad if her likes can let me be In peace, that's all I want.

Males, and all proponents of patriarchy, both males and females have an irrational fear of bold women. They are comfortable with coy, cowering, simpering women who will gladly lay down and be their happy doormats.
Ladies like you and I are the odd ones out, we are the "Feminists". We are not their favourites because we challenge their lazy intellects, we make them feel that there is more to the simple little boxes their parents and pastors have constructed for them- make money, get a pretty, barely legal child to make your wife and start popping babies because that is why you were born!
They will do everything in their power to silence you, they do not like dissent, they will not leave you alone. You need to brace yourself for that.
They will target you, watch out for you.
Don't get scared.
This is how you can take advantage of the situation, build strength, you can draw strength from opposition.
Aim high in life, that is the essence of feminism, opportunity for women to become all that they want to be without suppression. They will stop insulting you when your life shows brilliant results.
Good luck

Skepticus:
My kind of bîtch.

Testosterone pumping!

Testosterone+formalin= gonner

What's the use of brute force and few guns against a whole country.

Wow, I came late to the party. LilMissFavvy, I sight you. I may not agree with you on everything but you remind me of a dear friend of mine, so passionate and fierce, but one of the truest hearts I've ever seen. Kudos for sticking to your point.
Michellekabod2, you may not agree with LilMissFavvy but no one needs to be tamed, she is merely airing her opinions, whether they are wrong or right, she doesn't need insults. In fact, in your bid to apprehend her behavior, you ended up resorting to unsavory means.
Like she said earlier, women are only learners, men are the masters of cheating.
As for the topic on ground, my question for the OP is "what does he hope to achieve?". That will inform his decisions about what to reveal and to whom.

Ejebleje:
Na im be say you go see only one man with like 68 rings for hand

My chest oo

EMPEROR48:
This babe at my office always come around we joke and play, I decided to take her out and spoil her a little I never knew I was about causing the greatest plunder in my life, after going to the cinema and all that, then I decided we go to the other room that was where my problem started, she ask me immediately how much will you pay? I was shock, I told her to relax my second problem I should have settled before we entered, later she said I should give her money I gave her and she said it's not enough, she started shouting and embarrassing me in public myy God am still in shock how I was treated by a supposed friend never knew she was a LovePeddler, please always confirm prize o because no more decent girl in this country again o she started behaving like a mad dog I was so shocked that I can't even think straight again i had to share my bitter experience what a bad thing to do ... Girls are bad

You people come on Nairaland to call all girls love peddlers, yet when they fulfill your prophecies, you say girls are bad. You paid her for s3x with movies and what not, yet, when she asks for balance, you start ranting.
Serves you right.

victorian:
Don't mind the men, as if, if they were the one they will give their kidneys.

Most Nigerians are so hypocritical .


For me? I ain't giving shit!

What kind of wedding present is that?

Alot of. Men will jakpa! They won't even divorce. They simply disappear into thing air, while their families will tell the ailing wife to go meet her own family, she can't come and destroy their son for them.

Is it not men again? And naija families?

Let's stop deceiving ourselves.

Can you imagine, on this same Nairaland, a woman made a post about how her husband is in the process of leaving her because she had pueperal psychosis as a result of a child they both had together! He didn't care for her during the ordeal, he dropped her off with her family.
They don't want for better or worse, yet they expect it from their own wives. Hypocrites.

I have experienced this countless times.
Nowadays I just alight from the vehicle and get another one. Imagine a woman who had to carry two kids on her laps apart from the one she has on her back, the tfare was 100 Naira.
Get another vehicle.

Ariza:
jeeezzzzzzz see how fast she connected the dots . All these things are normal things we do on daily basis nah. I want something spectacular, something out of routine. I've searched and searched but got nothing! Sigh!... This is tiring I swear!
Thank you for your wishes and help but if you got something else please let me know.

Google a service business located in his area and order something nice for him. Make sure they tell him who sent it. No fall hand o.

Luckyzil:
This is not a human stem cell transplant, STC30 its a stem cell product that works on cells.
STC30 helps to trigger your own body stem cell to produce that cell that is been needed by the body for cure or healing.

Well done on trying to answer my questions.
Doctor's supervision?

lawanson2k3:
What of in the situation whereby the environment the child is living I'd not conducive for her. They are like 8 people living in a shop owned by her grandfather, the grand parent, like 4 of their siblings, and like 3 grand children. The shop was demarcated, a portion is being used by the grandfather as tailoring shop , they are occupying the other half. Even the apartment doesn't have TV or DVD, they go to neighbours house to watch TV. I'm not cool with this, cos I feel the little girl can be a victim of sexual abuse. I'm confused right now. Pls I need your contributions.

What do you have? I mean, are you financially capable of creating a conductive environment for your child. A place of your own, stable job or business, access to good education for her. You have two options: Get a lawyer or beg the mother. And how are you sure she will not get molested under your watch?

Wickedtruths:
Any woman that says this is a big fool. If she doesn't improve herself, how can she be useful to her husband.

Just wait for those threads. You'll see plenty. A woman was even calling the labor room "favour" room.

TheRedpillguy:
You make it seem like sleeping alone is a bad thing. No I wouldn't want anybody breathing in my ears, thank you. Or he can go to cityoflove. Com and order a brand new girl every night minus the BS.

Sleeping alone is equal to singlehood. Being single is a good thing, but ending a marriage of 6 years based on hotheadedness is just plain stupid.

Lyydia:
There's this guy that we have been dating for 6 months, we love each other very well and we plan on marrying each other.

Here is the deal, we plan on no sex before marriage due to personal reasons. I don't ask for money also, we do cuddle and kiss sometimes. But not sex!

Of recent, he has been acting strange and wants to go beyond our normal cuddle level. I cautioned him about this and he promised to change! But he still does this.

Yesterday it happened again as I got furious and asked him to leave.

Did I overreact? I called, he has not picked up since yesterday.

My dear, majority of guys are dating girls for sex, don't you read Nairaland topics?
You better face front and don't allow anyone to pressure you into s3x unless that is what you want.
There are many fishes in the ocean.
Heads up: Males can sense desperation.
Giddy up and build your life to make your dreams come true.

LadySarah:
Answering wife for nothing. Where is her own money she made while with her husband?

Just buying clothes and following the latest trends without any investment yet still sagged the gatrman.

If your husband brings the children for you, can you take care of them?Just chill till when they will start asking for their mum. That's your reward for infidelity.

Men and their hypocrisy! If the man was caught with the housemaid, the woman will be told to beg, find out why the help was his choice and pray against evil but the tables are turned, instead of him to forgive then up his game in the other room,she is in the streets.

That is your reward when you show ur worthlessness in a union.

It's a lesson to other women, keep answering wife, don't build yourself while he is doing his. ALOT OF THEM CHANGE WHEN BETTER KUDI ENTERS.

I said something like this on a thread about working wives and education and marriage. They didn't like it. Some women were saying its their choice to be popping babies without improving themselves. Well, they won't come and live my own life in place of theirs after they have made a mess of it.
Well spoken jare.

Your story is not real

TheRedpillguy:
Yes she is a single mother. Judgment passed and rightly so.

We know you are only trying to console your friend. He will be the one to sleep alone tonight. Not you.

victorian:
My dear, don't mind those men o.
They want to make my life miserable, so they can have total control on how I receive money. So I can be at their mercy in marriage. Begging for money to buy pant and bra with other little things. So they can say don't u know I'm a salary earner? You are too demanding, wetin sef! Or Wait till end of month or til next two months, they've not paid us our salaries.

Mehn I can't live such controlled financial life. I have been working for many years without anyone controlling my money for me, I can't start living such controlled life at this level of my life. I paid for some new set of bags last week with my credit card, on Jumia. I know how happy and fulfiled I felt paying for those bags. The joy is immeasurable

But at last i saw the best of them all towards December last year and thank God he doesn't have such selfish archaic mentality. He's a free spirited guy like Myself.

The old man said, that's how most Nigerian men are and it's a pity I'm used to hustling and fending for myself. Although some women would gladly accept such offer and he knows I really don't want to stay at home just eating, drinking and fucvking.
He said I should dry my tears and God will give me a man who understands me and accept me for who I am. I shouldn't worry, I should keep praying for what I want. That there are some men who want their wife to work and attain greatness, mine will not pass me by.
And he was right. Mine didn't pass me by.



It's good for a woman to know what she wants and be patient about it especially choosing a life partner.

One of my female friends last year said, Vicky, why dont u just accept one of them, and lie that u will close down your company, but as soon as he marries u, you go back to work and whatever he wants to do let him do. At the end he has married you.
Las las he will give up and accept u and your work. I said I don't have strength to quarrel and fight early in marriage. Abeg I can't deceive anyone because I wan marry. If they can't accept my work alongside me, then it's no use, they can go and marry women who loves staying at home 24/7, gisting and watching zeeworld and telemundos

Very good decision. You will enjoy it later in life. Cheers

don89:
That is always the problem with single mothers, they always go back to their baby daddies for sex, because they have shared blood and the blood is running inside them ,making them attracted to their baby daddy.

Didn't anyone tell you that the v!gina is a self cleansing organ? After s3x, if there is no egg available, the s3men dies and is flushed out by the uterus after a maximum of 6 days. Which blood are you sharing?
Ohhhh, now I see why a lot of guys are dispensing their s3men all over the place, they thought those women will come back for s3x

don89:
That is always the problem with single mothers, they always go back to their baby daddies for sex, because they have shared blood and the blood is running inside them ,making them attracted to their baby daddy.

Didn't anyone tell you that the vagina is a self cleansing organ? After sex, if there is no egg available, the semen dies and is flushed out by the uterus after a maximum of 6 days. Which blood are you sharing?
Ohhhh, now I see why a lot of guys are dispensing their semen all over the place, they thought those women will come back for sex

don89:
That is always the problem with single mothers, they always go back to their baby daddies for sex, because they have shared blood and the blood is running inside them ,making them attracted to their baby daddy.

Didn't anyone tell you that the vagina is a self cleansing organ? After sex, if there is no egg available, the semen dies and is flushed out by the uterus after a maximum of 6 days. Which blood are you sharing?
Ohhhh, now I see why a lot of guys are dispensing their semen all over the place, they thought those women will come back for sex