₦airaland Forum

Our native farmers lack sufficient support from the government! Local farmers too would do well given the same resources the Zimbabwean farmers have. Ota farms is a success after all!

The only time one quotes 'privacy' is when the matter at hand is something you don't want your spouse to know.

I really think a couple should know everything abouth each other and not hide things from themselves (except when planning a beautiful or naughty surprise ).

and how do you know this.  he wants to engage in three-somes or swinging relationship but that doesn't mean the relationship is over.

It's not necessarily over the minute they start bedding other people but it will still bring about the death of the relationship. Either he gets so into this new babe with the sweetest p***y or she finds this new guy(s) got the sweetest d** k or their new partner(s) gives everything (not just s*x) better than the old partner. I bet they won't want to tell each other the new 'temporary' partners are better. How will this man feel 2 years down the line when his GF's bedded a number of guys? Will he still want to marry her? Will she want to marry him knowing that he can't control his desires for other women?

Open relationships don't work for most people, especially where one partner is the one who really wants it because his/her low morals and uncontrollable urges.

Borrowing the words of an earlier poster, the relationship is at 'quarter to ending'. You both agreeing to an open relationship really means you can exit the relationship at any time.

And when you say you can't stick with just this lady, being unmarried, what happens when you get married? Will you be loooking for your wife to agree to an open relationship; or to agree to you sleeping with other women while she doesn't do other men; or simply cheat on her?

Anyhow, bo ti wu ni la n se imale eni!

Marriage, like love, is not old-fashioned! Yes, there are many examples of people who have failed at it around us; yet there are also many examples of successful ones. I love and enjoy my marriage; I love the example set by my parents; and I learnt from the unsuccessful marriages I have seen around me.

There are many decent men and women out there who are not afraid of commitment; who are prepared to honour the other person who chooses to spend their life with them.

Many marriages fail as a result of DISHONOUR! Honour your partner, and you won't cheat on them or abuse them in any way. You would love them and seek their well-being at all times. Same thing applies to the society at large; Honour the next person! And like an earlier poster said, you can grow to love someone; that's how arranged marriages worked in those days!

Marriage; the union of a man and woman till death do them part , will never ever go out of fashion!

My last experience with them was in 2006 when I was paying some money into a friend's bank account. The female teller was very very very very rude. I couldn't help wondering why she was taking out any frustrations she had on me and whether she thought sitting behind that counter was the best position she would attain in life. I had known since that time that GTB wasn't my kind of bank.

As regards UBA, E be like say I get about 600 Naira for there. Opened the account because I got a UBA cheque but when I saw how backwards they were and how they charged money for making a withdrawal from a branch other than the one where I opened my account, I comot all my money leave the minimum balance (in 2005), just in case i get another crazy UBA cheque! 

This is the black couple who have amazed medical experts after their baby daughter was born with white skin, blue eyes and blonde hair.
Benjamin and Angela Ihegboro's daughter, Nmachi, has flummoxed genetic experts who are unable to explain why she looks they way she does.

Doctors say the white-skinned newborn is not an albino,

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1296159/Black-British-couple-birth-white-blue-eyed-blonde-baby-girl.html?ITO=1708&referrer=yahoo#ixzz0uDaidT4n


AND


http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/news/3060907/Black-parents-give-birth-to-white-baby.html

I don't know how their system works but I think it's crazy that you go to your bank and they refuse to give you the information you need and which they hold! What happens if you lose all your cards or web access information? Would their response still be the same?

Could be looked at if it means more accountability of our leadership to the citizenry but we've got to sort out the electoral system! We need free and fair elections first!

Let's wait and see how it goes! The city will maybe get built and investors make profit; or it gets built and ends up like the current Dubai situation; or it just turns out like that floating hotel!

If it is successful and Nigerians can get jobs with the new businesses that come in , great! I did however watch the documentary about the city and there was promises of letting foreign investors bring in their own employees from their countries! It is a good thing to build a 'glitzy' megacity but when are we going to 'build' the people? Not talking about the rich who are gonna get richer off the back of the contracts and all, talking about the poor majority. We can cover the whole of lagos with skyscrapers but it won't solve the problems we need to take care of.

For now, na for here I siddon dey look o!

I have two friends who are married to oyibo, like myself. Our parents haven't disowned us yet o! My parents are open-minded and always told me they were happy to have an in-law of any race or tribe! Unfortunately, one of my husband's sisters was against the marriage at first (reason being that i am Nigerian) and almost split us up but she now knows I ain't going nowhere (unless I want to - lol)!

These things happen o! God have mercy on us! Most times the victim is young and naive, or older and stupid!

Ever told you about the time I was defining 'WET DREAM' instead of 'WEATHERING' at a quiz in JSS2 or JSS3 at the boys hostel in front of some 200 fellow students! The senior asking the questions was so shocked! I quickly gave the correct definition and luckily many of my mates had no idea what I had first defined! Bet my ears were clogged from reading too many (adult) books at 13!

Yerima (and any other man of his age who would sleep with a 13 year old) is clearly a paedophile! It is even sadder that he divorced a 15 year old to make way for the 13 year old wife! If he is not stopped, he would be marrying a new child-wife every couple of years! Who knows how many child-brides are hidden away in purdah - God have mercy!

He should not be seating in a senate that passes laws which he believes does not bind him but binds every other citizen!

@post

It is enough reason to end a relationship but of course their is the matter of 'forgiving someone you love'.

Get it stamped at the Nigerian High Commission in London!

I recollect my grandmother(of blessed memory) talking about women who divorced their husbands when I was in my early teens( She was in her 60s at the time). She would say ' , j'awe ko oko re' meaning ' , divorced her husband'. Initiating divorce proceedings somtimes brought the men back to their senses where family intervention had failed. It's not a new thing! Ekiti women have been doing it for quite an age! Marriage is not a do or die affair! These women were not even educated but they knew what options they had.

While some women will leave their husbands because they want to be with someone else, there are those who leave a marriage because they can no longer endure continual physical, sexual, mental and emotional abuse.

The days when a woman stayed in a marriage regardless of degrading and inhuman treatment meted out by their husbands are fading away!

I would not encourage or put pressure on my friend, sister or daughter to remain in a marriage that puts her physical, mental and emotional well-being at risk! No way! Orisa ti o ba gbeni , ! I would also on the other hand encourage them to leave a marriage on the basis of problems that can be solved.

@Poster

Very uncomfortable situation! If your suspicions are correct, he has not done this because he is Nigerian, such acts are not peculiar to any nationality!

I suggest you get proof of what happens in that 'room'. Use a recorder, baby monitor or a spy camera.

If u wanna be crazy, wait for them to start 'their father and daughter' session and then call the police. He will have a lot of explaining to do about sleeping with his 'daughter'. He will to come out about who she really is!

Once you get proof, talk to a lawyer.

Get 'father and daughter' out of the house immediately! Don't forget to change the locks!

@poster

Try a site like www.afro-introductions.com!

@ Topic

L'aye atijo! These days, your own life/future/destiny is in your own hands! If you find yourself in an abusive marriage, get out of it! Adulterous husband, let go of him before he gives you HIV!

Your life is in your own hands!

@snowdrops

Risk being harassed and forced to part with some or all of your hard-earned cash or even worse lose it all getting robbed on your way from the airport. Up to you, mate! Calculate your risks!

Thess things happen and unfortunately the airport and immigration staff who are there support an guide passengers cause problems for passengers who do not 'appreciate'(bribe) them. I got the 'the photo doesn't look like you' story when I travelled for the first time too but didn't give any bribes.

Last time I left Nigeria, airline staff asked me to 'drop something' but I said I didn't work and was just a full time housewife.

My advice is :

1. be confident
2. ask questions
3. don't be too friendly or too cowardly
4. don't take too much cash with you - I personally don't take more than £100 and some naira to cover porter needs and a taxi fare if my family is not meeting me at the airport. Get friends or family to book your hotel in advance to cover our first night at least - if you will not be staying at home.
5. Send the money you'll need in Naija to your Nigerian bank via bank transfer before you leave for Naija or get someone to send the money to you via western union or wire - A few extra bob expensive but saves a lot of hassle.

Discourage corrupt officials by saying 'no' when asked for a bribe!
If you don't do your bit to stop corruption, it won't stop!

This is hilarious! I can't resist laughing at those retrogressive minds!

becomrich, why should we join Benin Republic?  How do we know it won't be a case of 'from fry pan to fire'? Why not stand alone if we are gonna split?

70 Million Northerners my ass! We will one day have a true census in Nigeria. Insha Allah!

Not a very good idea ,

It would have been nice for him to get 1 year for every million/ billion he stole - NOT TO BE SERVED CONCURRENTLY! That will send a very good message out to all his likes.

Physical/Emotional Abuse!

Whatever is good for the goose is good for the gander! Chikena!