Cooolme: I've not experienced such before tbh, I grew up being loved and very bad at this detachment game y'all claim to have (learning tho) but someone you Video call, talk with for hours just stop communicating with you totally when you know you did nothing wrong, it's weird now. In this case it's not a friend or partner rather a very close relative you have a strong bond with. I have time on my hands though, it's my grumble not yours.
You don't get it. People everywhere go through so many serious challenges and because of this, may start having trust issues. That's understandable. So give her some space. It's not a bad idea.
Mandela27: that's the problem,I don't have any business idea online...I wish I could see who would help teach me how to make money online except for betting,am not good at it
So betting is now an online business? Little wonder people put money in MMM.
Iagos: I boarded a bus from Ajah to Oshodi and noticed an unsettling driving behavior from the driver. I suspected he was sleeping, I recorded a video and caught him dozing off while driving on the 3rd Mainland Bridge. Concerned for my safety, I chose to end my journey at Oworo, prioritizing my well-being to avoid potential risks.
Only God would save us. I once entered a bus from Benin to Lagos N500 2006 around 5pm. At Ondo state the tire had issue and entered another bus N300 from Ondo to Lagos around 6:30pm. The driver was sleeping. But we got to Lagos 12:30am on Saturday. I trekked a far distance to my friend place as there was no vehicle from Berger to Akute and slept until the next morning and continued my journey home. Only God would save us from dangers seen and unseen.
lecoeur: While growing up, sometimes my father takes me out with him and during those times he teaches me certain things that a man should know. Thing is, something happened I can't recall but that thing made him tell me he preferred my younger brother to me (We are 3 boys tho), I even noticed it because he took him out more and bought things for him. I was this kid that's so quite, reserved and always on my own and he never liked that. On the other note, my brother is very agressive have this agbero type of behaviour lol. My dad fell ill and I took care of him both at home and in the hospital to the point of his death I was with him, I didn't take what he said to heart and he never apologized but I did all that because I loved him very much, I saw him as a hero, even the person that he preferred wasn't interested in taking care of him as much as I was. I totally forgot about this whole thing until this my younger Bro accused my Mom of been bias towards him which is true but as the first and oldest son I always stand for him whenever that happens because I know how it feels. Please I urge present and future parents to do better with hiding or avoiding this favourite child thing, it's not really ohk.
How does that affect you. It doesn't matter. Just aim to be the best and be there for your parents!
Nazgul: Bro, no woman whom you married and take proper care of would just wake up one day and abandon you at the airport. Even if she's Satan's daughter.
There's an unsettled grudge in that home.
I repeat don't judge. Women can do certain things and you would be surprised.
kevwemike: bros u try, in my own case i collect my children, and I have been the one taking good care of them bços my x wife vow to mk my life miserable but now I have move on and I and my 2 children we have great peace
Stevenbright: You would have clarify it in your main post. But still, if you have more, you can make it bigger than the 15K because things are expensive now.
Although, I know you are trying to make it tight to ensure she doesn't have extra to spend on herself.
That 15k can't take care of food for three children only excluding the wife for a week not to talk of a month!
slimjohn2k5: 15k monthly? For children, not child? In this economy? You are the problem in the marriage not ur wife. You either increase the money or hustle more
On a normal day, for 2 kids and my wife if they are not around and I can afford it, the minimum is 20k a week.
edunaragold: my first wife from imo state did same to me,them will never agree u spend a dime on them,they praise family and see you the man as useless,if u can't provide,.woman nothing dey do them ,
Only God can save us from toxic women. And most people believe the negative impression they give about you. Only God would reward sincere men and give them financial capabilities to overcome such, because without money, you can't succeed or remarry a better person.
Nazgul: The man is very foolish. How can you be brutalizing your wife and not expect any kind of reaction from her? Like you beat her every now and then, and you're planning to relocate to a country where the rights of women are seriously protected by the law, and your relocation doesn't give you goosebumps?
Even Joseph in the Bible whom his brother's sold into slavery, when they discovered that he was now a powerful ruler and invited them to Egypt, they still met him secretly and pleaded with him that their father's dying wish was for him to forgive them. They knew what they did to him, and quickly apologized so that if he nursed any plans to deal with them, he'll abort immediately.
This is what this man should have done man if he was wise, he should have called his wife privately and beg her for forgiveness before she travelled, if possible kneel down sef. Let her use her mouth and tell him that she has forgiven him. Cos when you treat people badly, and the tables change, don't expect them to overlook what you did to them.
Besides, I don't even know how some men feel beating up a woman who can't fight back. Like you'd just keep punching and punching her, until you're tired or she collapses? That's horrible.
Anyways he has until January to find something doing, if he has skills, he might get something. Once he's back on his feet, he and his wife can iron things out.
Don't ever judge issues or take sides based on what you read online or what you heard. Leave the judgment to God. You maybe surprised that the man is innocent of the accusations.
ahnie: I said it on the other thread...women don't just dump their husbands like that,she must have endured his toxicity for years.
We masked our feelings n hatred alot and always wait for the right time to strike, underestimate a woman at your own peril.
Immediately I read the topic,I already knew our bobo was a toxic Person who must have dealt massively with his wife...some naija men and toxicity.
When you start hitting on your wife she channels all atom of love she has for you to the kids and that ends it all,she may be giving you her body,and patiently waiting for you to slip then she strikes.
If it were me....I would do same to him no hard feelings.
Women do worse. They even claim to have been beaten by their husband with evidence when such never happened. I'm speaking from experience. Only God would reward everyone and not a media trial which women do to get sympathy.
Iscoflexxman: There might be a mistake from the hospital where the baby was delivered, the mum needs to undergo DNA to ascertain if she is the biological mother.
What is the likelihood of such mistakes, leave film, the likelihood is very low. Even women that give birth through CS are awake most of the time.
englishmart: 69% of first sons are a product of paternity fraud. If I didn't look exactly like my dad, I would have secretly conducted a DNA test. Women are pretentious cheats. 99% of them are too smart to be caught.
We men only claim to be smart. The day, week, or month, a husband cheats, most women are somehow aware no matter how hard he hides it. On the other hand, for a woman, most men would suspect but not be 100% sure.
Kenosky1: OP please update us on the outcome of this event and what happened subsequently. We will be here to follow up on the soldier's reaction and did the wife reject the result of the genotype test On a more serious note, paternity fraud should carry a minimum jail sentence of 20 years for both the woman and the man who impregnated her. Imagine paying school fees and taking care of another man's child for all these years, this is very unfair.
But some men sha, how will you have a child without critically looking to find some resemblance from your family... nose, mouth, ear, complexion, hair, size of head. My grandfather, on his sick/death bed called me and said, 'son never trust any human being because the world is evil'
On resemblance, it's difficult but possible. Why some of us may be sure of ours, others may not.
Athena6: Last week I created a thread talking about how my japa plans have been crushed due to the increase in dollar.
Many adviced me to invest in dollar, this was the advice they gave me months ago but I did follow through because I wasn't sure. My last thread hit front page and 90% of the comments were advising me to invest in dollars, one even quoted that in the past 10 years, the dollar haven't fallen but it increases every year.
One even called me a weak minded person and I am scared to take risks. After everything I thought to myself, since so many people felt this dollar will keep on rising, maybe I should invest afterall life is all about risks.
Well guess what, dollar have decreased, I invested 3M in buying dollars and now in today exchange rate. I have 2.6M now and I either cash out now or hope it will increase.
Right now, I am very angry. Those giving me advice should come and contribute the 400k for me o
Another thing, do you think the dollar will increase or should I just cut my loses. I am so tired 😫
If you come online and listen to advise online, you take full responsibility for your decision. I have nothing to say on this matter.
Nisland: Haaaaa you remember me again.my wife dirvoice me 9 years ago.and am still single till now but this year am just getting back to myself and for another spouse.its not easy my brother I face so many chanlleng.
I feel your pain. I understand you perfectly. It's not easy moving on.
How do you cope with your life after your spouse failed you and took the whole matter to the worse level by seeking for divorce?
I woke up everyday of my life in the past nine months thinking about this man. I heard he has moved on in Lagos, while I am still here bothering myself about him. This is the only man I have ever known in my life. He just left without looking back not even to check on his son. What can I do to forget him totally?
I am down emotionally and it's affecting me.
Kindly advise.
As long as their is a child linking you too up, you won't forget him. But you can move on, even without a child, no one forgets the other person. Just move on and feel less guilty even if you are the one at fault.
How on earth are you sexually attracted to a woman with 4 kids? You are tasteless bro. Haha.
I would like to advise you to go find a job that'll better your life. Don't let a low life personality determine your future.
Try to read about successful people and emulate their journey to success.
There are lots of beautiful/elegant girls outside there, even outside Nigeria you will enjoy. Not someone a man has to turn to rags.
Think bro, think.
Even to date a woman with one kid, ask yourself sincerely if you would be ready to train that one kid for many years, not to talk of 4 kids with her husband still alive. The Op is terrible.
advanceDNA: Shebi u are in love..... And she told u she doesn't love her husband and her parents forced her and mumu u believe all her revised standard version of everything.... Ehen!! go ahead naa... Ngwanu!! Love conquers all things naaaaa
Just know that weda she leave her kids with her husband or she pack them come ur house...... u are taking care of 4 children and a woman insensitive enough to leave her husband and kids because of what she already has and can even nurture.....
My own is .... Women are only sweet when they come and go, seeing them once in a while ........baba . u see ....once they pack into your house... Ur eyes go soon clear with a very rude shock when u see the principality in them emerge....
He believes the woman until he realizes that the husband is just looking up to God and the four kids, that's why he didn't end the marriage himself. As he is already fed up and she's doing him a favour mentioning this for the third time.
SIXTEENTH: Please abort mission, I repeat abort mission!!! There are lots of single female out there and how sure that she will stick to you immediately after the breakups with her said husband because as she did to him same faith await you ahead, she claims he didn't satisfied her to the core yet she bored 4 kids, don't you see or read the signs on the water?
The Op doesn't know that he can't satisfy a woman that has 4 kids in bed and according to him, they've not done it yet.
GanagiBitrus: I think the man made a very big mistake by revealing such secret to a girlfriend, not even a wife. &he must have at least had idea about the kind of person she is.
That's why I say let's keep praying. Some women do comprehensive research on their men before going into a relationship. She may have an idea on the guy history even before he started the relationship with her and he obviously was aware of the inheritance knowing fully well who his benefactor are.
seunmsg: If you are knowledgeable about the capital market, you would know that most people that invested heavily in the market between 2002 and 2008 lost almost everything to the market collapse that happened between 2009 and 2010. His father lost everything even before Buhari became president not to talk of Tinubu.
Not true. He should tell us the company his father invested in. Sound stocks a lot of us invested in in 2005-7 the share price may be less or half the price of then, but the dividends paid into account over the years is obviously more than the amount we bought them. Some we actually lost out as bad investment, others the value is less than ten percent of what it was worth then. In life we gain some, we lose some. What matters most is we move and look for new money to be made.
Farid24224: Guy leave this your mindset...There are girls out there that are not harlots... Not much, but there are!
Especially those in the North here
Not only in the North, every where. I married first as a man at 27 years as a virgin. If a man can marry as a virgin, few women can. And women from all races and tribes.
[quote author= post=126609680]That is to say : make una carry una wahala dey go.[/quote]That's the simple fact because only a few people earn as much as that.
Would that be an idea for Austria? Once again, Central European countries are looking north, and once again the Swedes are making people sit up and take notice with a solution. The income requirements for migrants have been doubled. In plain language, this means: Anyone who earns less than 2,322 euros per month has to leave.
Wahala! You go explain tire. I no know wetin dey make people japa. Dey should continue. We dey here dey wait dem!
bentenny: OP you are the cause of your problem! Your wife knows your weakness is sex hence she has weaponized it to her advantage! Sorry ohh However,you can do something to change that! Sex is to a man what attention is to a woman! Deprive her of attention and she will assume you are getting the s.ex outside which will make her jealous! This will make her get suspicious and she will try to know who the imaginary woman is! At the end,she will be the one to arouse you for sex! Never beg a woman for se.x!
All you just said doesn't work that way unless you haven't married such a woman!
orohbirodeysmel: Nawa o...they did a nice job, sapa too much...but killing people no follow..
How I wish they fit come rob Zenith Bank for Agbor road, Benin City throw money enter road for us....( but make them no kill anyone oh) that Zenith Bank do me shege during Emefiele change of naira notes...
Rtk4: I give my wife #500 everyday to cook for the house and yet she complains, it's really annoying.
Do you know that the #500 is even too much because there's everything a woman need to cook in bulk in the house. Meat, crayfish, Maggi, salt, seasonings.....
I mean everything. All she buys is things we can't buy in bulk which is tomatoes and pepper. Please guys what's your take?
Here in the north all these perishables are too cheap, she just steps out of the house and buy them from women selling just in front of our house.
Before some people start saying I'm stingy, you must also know that she doesn't lack anything. I give her pocket money and also buys her anything she needs as far as i can afford.
Why are you cooking everyday, get a fridge and cook in bulk. You spend 15k and feel it's much. Just like you mentioned, I spend at least 30 to 40k once in two to three weeks and I know fully well that if my earnings increase, I would increase the figure. Please don't see her as complaining. Follow her to the market and see how she likely price things beyond your imagination. I do get annoyed when my wife is pricing and saving me money.
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No be say some no go like help but 78% of Nigerian girls of this GENERATION no sabi cook..