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This is not real. Even the facial looks is too matured for a new baby.

The red flag is obvious.
The complications: He's thinking marriage because you are comfortable but 2+3 children from different father and mother to live under one roof is difficult.

I'm a naija man and I live in naija. I don't know how you guys do it over there. I find it odd for a matured man to be constantly asking for money from a woman even if the person is your wife.

Again your system is weird. I don't know how a pastor can be brought into a dating relationship. I think that this was staged. FYI I'm a pastor too and my members can't bring such to me. I can only handle APPROVED courtship.

Conclusion: run na dem oooooo.

@Winneygirl
Make your own money.
E get why...



@me
What is the why?

Is the baby healthy? Some babies start working early while others start late. 16 months delay isn't much.

Simple.... what worked for A might not work for B. Be yourself.

I have personally noticed that cutting corners does not favour me so I made up my mind to go through the mills to get what I want.

It might be slow but step by step they are falling in line. Some people move so fast and crash while others are slow but consistent in their upward movement.

The choice is yours.

How are you sure that he hasn't made up his mind to marry the person that he wants to marry but want you only for bleeping.

He might sleep with you and start comparing and still find his ex more appealing to him for marriage.

Don't be desperate!!!

falcon01
Omoh this are the kind of people that I have no problem with if they are turned to women and have a sex reassigment surgery.


@me
You better thank God that you have that tiny thing between your two legs. Make sure you use it responsibly.

Don't mind them. They want to eat the elders' food but they don't want to do the elders' work. That's why they refused to get married.

The government should make premarital sex a capital offence and you will see wedding happening everywhere.

@BetBuilder365

man has fallen so low that it is now hope and encouragement dey expect from pastors instead of Power and might, real spiritual power.


@me
Go and read the language of the prophets in the Bible in difficult times. Romans 8:28. What language is this? Is it not encouragement. A preacher's message must attend to people's needs for salvation, hope, correction, exposition of godly principles. It must not instill fear or hopelessness.

There are atimes when someone has lost every hope and about to give up. Some might have even contemplated suicide. But a sound message from the pulpit will just make the person drop all of these. Majority have turned the experience to testimony.

You talked about spiritual power and might as the purpose of pastoral message. I will say partly no sir. Power comes through the indwelling of the Holy Spirit - Acts 1:8. Pastoral work here is to lead you on how to encounter, retain, work with and operate the powers of the Holy Spirit.

When a pastor prepares his message he must seek authority from the Holy Spirit, look at the times, the circumstance, the spiritual need of the people etc.

Can you be preaching prosperity in a funeral gathering? What anyone in Nigeria needs is hope and encouragement to weather the storm. Pastor Adefarasin's message does not fall in this category.

This is not the language expected of a pastor. In hard and difficult times pastoral language is expected to encourage and give hope.

Anyway what would you expect from the feel-good pastors. The real soldiers of the Lord in this nation will not speak in this language.

@dealslip
My exact question.


@me
This is not fake. In 2009 lmdgp awarded several massive school projects assisted with world Bank loan. The company I worked for then was awarded lot 1 comprising 5 units sited at fazil Umar high school, st Francis primary school all at iwaya. Onike girls junior high school and igbobi high school.

The buildings were massive. The contract value was #.7b then. We had done about 80% before the loan was terminated. I was directly involved in the supervision. They are part of the projects that I saw that have been completed.

The projects were pure class. Almost like a tertiary institution blocks.

@WorstWanderland
which alone are you talking about?


@me
I mean once the child is not behaving well these are the type of words that will be coming from the father.

It's not necessary for any legal adoption. The biological parents are known and alive. If you marry the mother you automatically become the step-father. If you live with him and train him the option becomes his if the biological father comes calling. Hence you are married to the mother if you treat him like your biological child and nothing is done to remind him that he doesn't belong, he will not go to the father.

Adoption is only possible when the parents are not know. The mother (if you marry her) will play a crucial role.

I don't know where you came from. You don't behave like our blood.

Pastoral life is a hard life. Full of challenges and temptations. It's no ice cream to marry a true pastor.

You might have all the luxury but you might not enjoy it. I have a direct experience.

@folabayo
No ex for now.


@me
If there is no ex for now it means that you are on for now.

The greater part of the pressure of the family is on the father. For a responsible father he neglects himself for the good of the family.

When the children start being independent, they care more about the mother and less about their father.

@Esther880
.Good day Nlanders....
It feels so bad despite have the required certification to get employed in Nigeria, but nothing is forthcoming... I graduated with 2.1... currently a chartered accountant member, writing my final diet, but over 7 month now have gotten no job related to my Field of study....
Plz kindly assist me with referral, my parent had spent a lot on this and also I have put in all my effort in achieving this.... I lost my dad the day I passed out from NYSC in jos, so disheartening but God knows best, please am not begging for money but a job, plz give me a trial... Thanks you can reach me via my email

Oluwatunmiseesther@gmail.com


@me
Look for Ican membership yearbook either soft or hardcopy. You will see a list of practicing firms. Start applying and/or visiting their offices. With the effort you have put in you will get an offer.

The pay outside the big firms might not be high but it will give you good experience and connection to commerce and industry.

Good luck.

@adg98
Money
Kudi
Owo
Igho
Ego

@me
This is no excuse. Money no dey money no dey but una dey bleep pass married people. Simply say that you are eating elders' food outside marriage.

The truth and the truth is this:
Both sexes are avoiding or very lukewarm about marriage because they have free bleeping. I'll call this part time marriage.They bleep more than the married ones. Some even cohabit.

Deny them bleeping and majority of them will quickly get married not minding all the excuses they are giving here.

A lot of them both male and female cannot hold konji for one month. Mtcheeee

@DICKstractor

Buhaha government no reach you side



@me
But you dey bleep. Simply say that you are in part time marriage.

@folabayo

3_4yrs diff.
Few years bck, once u tell me u are 30+ I de japa
I don mature now sha ;


@me
The more matured the sweeter.

Ladies that are lefties are tough to deal with. They are too commanding. The only male partner that can work is a softie.

Konji nwan kill the woman. Woman of man cannot die pretending. Welcome to the outer world. I pity the husband. He must do all the do that she didn't do while at convent.

@folabayo
I never get experience with 30+ guys.
I no de pass my boundary.
Well am here to read and learn.


@me
What is your boundary?

Okafor's law kwa!!! Nothing we person no go read for nairaland.

@Muna4real
What do you think about this guys? How can a guy end a relationship ( he initiated the break up) but still sends money (without asking) and shows concern? It just looks like he's an elder brother, or still in a relationship without seeing each other. When asked why he still cares,he says" that how I am. I'm just naturally caring)

I don't understand. Is there a hidden motive? As I type, he's planning a Gift for my birthday. I no send am message oh!


@me
Na this kin thing you go dey like. He still remembers how sweet the Apple was and he is simply paying maintenance fee for future enjoyment.

Once the story starts with......"so I met this girl", don't read any further. Na one of those little children thread.