Farid24224: Please I really need help...I came from a Muslim family...My parents are strict, respected and religious. I have two siblings, am the only male...Our Parents suffered alot taking care of us from both strangers and within our relatives..We currently stay in Kaduna.. About 3 years ago, my Elder sister left the country to Turkey to study and she spent the rest of the years learning the language and working...My sister is someone everyone admire, she is joyful, respectful and really intelligent..Our Parents really admired her the most compared to me and my younger sister..She never did anything that made my Mom sad, she is a child every Mom wishes for.. After about a year after her departure everything changed, she's no longer that one's happy girl we knew...We don't talk frequently no more and she's no longer active on social media like before. I never suspected anything..Till when she got an accident a day before Eid..My mom became sick due to the tension and the problem...Both my mom and sis are suffering from BP complications. Then last week after my 20th birthday she was pressurizing me that she really wants to tell me something alone and I should never tell anyone about. I took it lightly but finally reached out to her today and then she told me she was pregnant..all this while and she has already given birth for her boyfriend...He's an Arab...I felt this cold compression on my heart, I couldn't say anything...She told me how she suffered a lot during her pregnancy...How she attempted to kill herself multiple times and that the accident she had was actually a suicidal attempt..She even wanted to abort the child but she couldn't because that's murder and she was convinced by her boyfriend and his parents.. During her late pregnancy period she suffered from life threatening situations to her and the baby due to depression and stress..She later gave birth to a girl..Her boyfriend's family took care of her during her postnatal period. She told me how she suffered and had her baby removed from her to save both their lifes...That when she was moved for operation the thoughts on her mind that what if she dies, what will she tell God...The baby was born prematurely and spent 90 days in an incubator..She told me how painful it is to give birth without mummy knowing about it all this while..How is she going to tell our mum that she's a mother...After the trust, the pain, sacrifice that she made to take her to school... Coupled with our mom's health... Please Nairaland brothers and sisters..Am just 20 years old, I have never felt this immatured and helpless before...Am feeling scared and shaky and haven't eaten anything today...How can we tell our parents about what happened..My sister is 22..Am sorry if I typed some words wrong, am just so tired..
Mods please I beg you!!
let your sister tell her own story by herself
yes you are worrier as brother thats OK but she open the legs herself its her story to tell
Nigerian woman sends husband packing after he called the UK police on her for threatened to kill him
A yet-to-be identified Nigerian couple were the center of attraction in their community in the United Kingdom following a misunderstanding that ensued between them.
A source who shared the video reports, “This man brought his wife from Nigeria to the UK. He trained her in the university so she can obtain a better paying job as they have kids.
irregarless that the wife is wrong in threatening to kill hubby, you laws would protect the wife by her remaining to stay in the houae with kids especially, but the laws wont protect her from threating to kill, its upto the man to press for charges but its also tricky on the man this is the mother of his children. The chance is he wont press chances he would most likely advised to move alway while they sort out their issues
And for his own safety he should move away otherwise he will be framed for such things as rape
All needs is go to local coucil and explain that he is now homeless, he will accomodated through council via charity organisations
expansion1: How should a wife show respect in marriage as husband and mother in law always complains she is proud but she is trying to stay at her best and keep quiet mostly. However everything she does she is referred to as Proud. Thank you for commenting.
respect is very complex especially im marriage when both husband and mother in law demand it
eg some mother in saw see is as being disrespectfull when a daughter-in-law answered back or change the environment according to her taste
For husband is the same, some men are good at commanding or doing this their own way, when wife suggest something its seen as being disrespectful
respect is given through your deeds is not demanded
Helpout12345: True but the fact still remains no one should throw their marriage out just because of allegations or suspicions alone.
If there is allegation or suspicion, the other spouse needs to try to investigate further and get some evidence or confirmation of the allegations or suspicions before throwing their marriage away, because the allegations might not be true.
true but like i said who is claiming them to be allegations
we can argue all we want but without information from directly from the people we are involved our views are pointless
Remember this is being reported by a 3rd party , who can was only feed 3 ways 1 by the allegation circulation 2 the women involved 3 cheating husband
getting your source from those 3 can make one biased
Helpout12345: The question is "based on allegations only"
Should spouse divorce based on allegations only.
the question is who is calling them allegations
is it the man or other women involved ?
those two can use the word to dismis any further questioning
The wife can have more suspicions becoz she lives with man she knows him better than anyone maybe she has seen change in behaviour in him eg spending more away from home etc
None of here can, really help with hearing the story direct from the wife, she can tell us tge finds that support her reason to think to divorce
SeaTrade: Most men today out of impatience or looking for shortcuts to a good life make life long decisions based on their current realities which is wrong. The whole concept of poverty and looking for a support system has plunged men into picking spouses they can't be truly happy with for a long time and then start being bored,lonely and frustrated at their prime years because they married for the wrong reasons. Women now know this and are weaponising it and are tricking guys into lifelong unions under the guise of support systems,backbone abilities,etc...which most times isn't exactly true because at the end of the day,women will be women and will expect you to cater for them regardless and that support you went into the union for,you won't see it or if at all you do,it will come with so much abuse and emotional trauma. Funny thing is most times, after a while,good fortunes will smile on you and then you start regretting why you went into such an arrangement for reasons that have become so meagre to you based on your new reality but alas,you can't change it no more and you'll die with that regret and not enjoy your marriage! My advise to young men is; Marrying early no be achievement,take your time,achieve stability first so that your choices won't be influenced by trivialities(money,status,etc...) Marry who can be your friend and someone that'll make you happy for a very long time. Marry who will trust your leadership and naturally let you lead due to her trust in your abilities,no be who go come dey fight with your decisions. Marry young women because while the older ones seem good now and have their lives together that is tempting you to jump into what she have built,think about old age bro.Think about your FIFTIES!!You go fit? Take her prime years and enjoy it to the fullest,that's mostly the greatest gift a woman can give to you. If at all you want to make compromises because of status then I suggest you go for women that access to them will give you what your previous and future generations will never achieve,no be because you see 300k salary and second hand 10 Yr old Honda you jump go carry your mama mate dey call wife weh fear no dey gree you to call her that where people dey Make una use una head and don't rush,go out there and work so you can marry who you want and not due to circumstances. Peace.
were have been ? its actually women who have been doing it for donkey years
the percentage of men doing is very less as compared to women
Helpout12345: I don't think the OP reported his wife to the pastor as per the pastor should scold her or something. I think he went to seek advise from the pastor as his spiritual leader and someone with lots of years under his belt as a married man.
Nothing wrong in seeking such advise in as much as it doesn't get to the point that its only the pastor that the woman will respect before she behaves well in her home.
Back to your question OP, a wife shouldn't not force food choice on her husband and vice versa.
You know your home better than us. You know if truly your wife is overwhelmed. If she is truly overwhelmed, then you can help her out in one way or the other to get what you want to eat.
But if she is not overwhelmed and just being lazy or imposing her choice of food on you, then you must stand your ground until she understands you.
well seeking advice and reporting are two different things for now lets blame the wrong to use as english is most people 2 nd langauge
But its common thing among africans that are good at reporting our spouses instead learning to solve issues within our self
we programmed to able to talk your spouse direct to solve serious but quicky report or summon meetings. No one understands your problems and its dynamics that yourselves 3rd parties are be invited by both paries agreeing than forcing one
jaksmillioniar: Am arguing with my college in d office.i told him my experience. My wife does this thing day makes me angry.when got married newly she obey in that angle.if i give her money to cook she cook what I told her. But since she born she does diffrently. If I drop money and expect soup I see something else, why cook beans when I wish to eat soup. She claim is breastfeeding dat she stired and body pains even when my mum visit she never cook but gave her second hand food. Now baby has big No excuse but she still do d same damn thing.av reported to my prophet because it paining me and I dont want to get mad.and do what I dont want to do.my friend say dere is coming nothing bad. Is dis right to disobey and disrespect wat ur hubby wish.
you are still a boy hence you go and report your wife to a pastor when you can speak difrectly to your wife.
Its doesnt matter who decides what to cook but if say i want this and if its there or the money is there to buy then it should be bought and cooked
If all about respecting each other's wishes and also wife cant not cooked the food that has been requested who going to cook for him?
It also doesnt matter how many times you have told her keep on stamping your foot eg dont eat the food tell her straight that am not eating becoz thats was not the food you asked for. Eventually she will get it and respect your wishes
this is no different from wife asking hubby to buy her eg a skirt and hubby goes buy a t-shirt
Finally this of this reporting her to your prophet you made your prophet the high power in your house instead being yourself
Stop thos stupid thing of reporting your spouses your indirectly saying there is another high power in marriage, the high power should be yourselves and no one else
Wittyglam: This is going to be a 5mins read I hope so.
A friend of mine (Daniel) has been going through a tough time with his mom and girl friend (wife to be).
Wahala started when Daniel informed is mom about his intention to get married. Only for the mom to find out the woman he wants to marry is a single mom of two(kids). All hell broke loose.
Daniel’s mom has begged him to quit the relationship and kill the idea of marrying her but Daniel has refused and told is mom how much he has struggled with relationships, this is the only one that has made him happy and given him peace of mind. Daniel’s mom is more concern about the issue the kids can cause later in life, Daniel already told the mom how they have tried to reach out to the father of these kids but he wants nothing to do with them, since he already has a family.
The kids are bearing the name of their mother’s dad and once they get married the kids are taking his name. Daniel becomes their biological father automatically.
Daniel’s mom doesn’t want this union. She’s already threatening to commit Suicidal and it’s getting to Daniel as he is not willing to loose is mom and he is also not ready to let go of the love of is life.
The girlfriend has asked him to end the relationship but he’s not ready to. I don’t know what to tell him.
I need your help.
At the end of the day, I have gotten a lot of advice from here to tell Daniel. I will just show him all you guys said and hope he makes the best decision. Thank you all.
the story sounds like a nollywood script
but let me expose, a common thing in africans this fear of raising another men's child/children
Most africans take s child as an investment hence raising another men's children is viewed as wrong investment. hence fear they will go back on their father etc, in reality is even they go back you would have shown the kids what is love etc and they will pass it on one day
Point of correction you dont became automatic biological father by adaption but you became the legal parent
It was wrong for Daniel to contact the father, his wife to be is the one who should contact the father and agree or disagree on future of the child. Then Daniel steps to support the wife to be her decision on matter.
As for Daniel's matter its a complex issue most africa mothers prefer a young daugher in law they have huge control over her etc its hard to control someone who has been marriage before or has kids. they know what they want and direction
The other side mother in laws want a daughter in law that brings honour to her etc, a mother of two doesnt appeal for such honour
Softboy001: Some people are so wicked and inconsiderate, about 2 months ago in July I packed into a smaller apartment. A room self con. I was broke and going through hard times. I decided to cut my cloth according to my size.
My neighbor that was beside me, was a single lady too just like me a single. But it was obvious she got everything cut out for herself well, giving the way her room was and the way she was putting on Gen.
Now like I said, things was hard for me, I could bearly eat. And it was still 10 days before they pay salary. I was hooked. Nothing on my hand. Where I was working, I won a bag of rice, as one of the best staff. But I didn't have gas or anything in room. Alot of things happened to me. Story for another day. I just rented the room. It was empty and sleeping on the floor. Hunger wan finish man. I was just there with the bag of rice. So I decided to sell it. It was 25kg rice. So many people came to buy it. Some were saying 12k, some 13k.
When this my unfortunate neighbor heard that I want to selling, she came to beg me to sell it for her. 2 of my neighbors actually came. 1 said 12. But this my neighbor said 11k. But because a room was closer to mine I decided to sell it for her for 11k. Just because of neighbors. I gave her the rice. Give money turn to problem. She first gave me 5k. She said she will send the remaining in my account. And then that was it. Since then if I call her she will not pick, if text her she will not reply. She has been avoiding me.
It's been 2 months now, money I no see, am a very gentle person why I remained calm. Hoping she will pay. How do I handle this situation without it turning to quarrel
something doesnt make sense or you are just a slow thinker for real why bother text or call when the person is just next door ? wait for the person by thier door or bang at her door midnight
knowhowk: Why Would a Right thinking Woman Turn Children against their Father ?
The Home Could be Hectic and Frustrating , Some Men tend to Leave the Home and decides to Live in Isolation .
What Could be the Reasons ? My thoughts Apart from a Human Ritualist Father , Murderer father trying to Kill .I don't think there are other reasons good enough for a Woman to Turn Children against their Father .My Opinion..What is yours ?
You have a lot to learn
When a women is hurt and dislikes you she will manupilate the kids to do the same
Shokoloko: Even if his wages are garnished so that his employer is forced to keep a portion for child support, the Canadian government will NEVER pay garnished wages into an off-shore account. And the wife must have a social insurance number to open a Canadian bank account. In summary, there is no way.
you have jumped steps
How can they garnish over case that is nigerian?
Nigerian i mean, the crime (broken law was done in nigeria) nigerian courts would have ruled and the ruling would only apply within nigeria
if the woman would be with him in canada with kids then canadian laws apply
Please am writing to inquire if anyone knows the process to follow a selfish & disloyal spouse (hubby) who wants to immigrate to Canada without carrying the 3 kids and wife along.. what can the wife do in this situation to at least fight for her kids rights and make sure he provides for them before leaving and even after he leaves, the wife doesn’t want to suffer alone for the kids upkeep.. is there any option for her to fight this??
Legally nothing you can do to make sure he provides before leaves, he can not be put to law to crime he hasnt committed yet (not looking after his children) based on what you have said you didnt say he failing to look after children
Then even after he leaves, he will be in different country, lets say he wont be sending money and maintaince summons are sent to him do you think he fly back to stand in court in nigeria ?. Canada wont do anything to him over a maintaince case in nigeria
You just have to have faith that he will remember his child and u
king4afric: Arthur Eze evicted his Nephew Prince Olise Eze and his family from their Abuja family home to the street without rumours and yet he is being celebrated as a Nigerian Billionaire what a shame .
You have the same mentality with nephew who got kicked. Only a stupid man will stay forever in someone house without building your own
Yes the man is billionaire but doesnt relatives should live off him, a wise men would seek help to have his own castle aka home
So, I had a baby with a girl in 2018 in my final year in school and I've been trying my best to keep her and the baby. (I created a post here then too).
Fast forward to last year I went for NYSC in Gombe and she got admission into the university. I returned for holiday last December, checked my girl's phone and saw that she has been seeing another guy in the school. The messages I saw broke me ehn despite all I do to please this girl still I forgave her (I was thinking it was cos of the distance that's making her see another guy). She promised to leave the guy bla bla..
When I left for Gombe, I noticed she has gone back to the said guy again. I confronted her and she said a lot of things to me. Bad things. I was perplexed knan. I never believed this girl can do and say such things. She outrightly told me that ive not married her and she can see any guy! She blocked me on WhatsApp.
Ever since then I've been sending upkeep to her mum who is taking care of the baby.
When I returned, I tried to make things up again cos I don't want to be having children with different women. But she declined and now her parents are supporting her.
Still, I do send upkeep. I've never missed a month. The thing is I'm sincerely tired of everything. I want to leave them with the child and not do anything with them again
When I get a job and be comfortable again, I might return cos they're milking the little I saved and its affecting me.
What do you think I do?
PS: She is still with same guy
You are mixing things here let me break it down for you
1 you had unplanned child while at skol so you were forced to be by her because of the child 2 You are doing your part as the father to look after the father and you take as the girl must loyal because of that but you arw forgetting that it wasnt really love and decision which made you have that child but mistakes of teenagers
3 as long you havent made the move to really marry her she can date whoever she wants regardless that you look after your own child
Separate those points you find the right direction
Militant1: I'm not really bothered about the sex infact I am used to it already... I just need at least 7 hrs of sleep everynight
the same 7 hrs sleep or rest is the same your wife needs. Being a mother at home is also a job and its something you can not take a day off from.
If your couldnt cope with only one child why did you went head with 2nd without finding solution to her not coping with one child ?
i am but i have seen how tiresome kids can be and this on top of other duties the wife has to do. Post natal depression is much very common in the west becoz its each man for himself. In africa its there but nor much noticed becoz of two things 1 cheap labour you can have a maid 2 there is always a distant relative or someone coming to help so depression it not really picked
Our women alson need few hours of break and help
Your wife is showing signs of despression, look at this, with your work after 8hrs you go home and rest whereas your wife cant take break from being a parent its 24/7 job on top of that she has to meet your needs
Sitdown with your woman ask her whats wrong, ask what is overwhelming her
Kobojunkie: Good that someone else is paying attention to other things too.
There is alot information missing we need to know when he started to notice change, what events had happened and have a clue to might have triggered her to who she is now.
Every change in person is triggered by something or a reaction to something
Militant1: I will try to be brief and straight to the point.
My wife stays up late (11pm -12 am) every blessed day.... That's the problem.
We live in Lagos and have 2kids, 3yo and 8 months. My wife was working before but left the job when she gave birth. There is a job waiting for her when the baby is 1y6mnths, therefore she is a stay at home mom.
We live on the mainland but I work on the island so I live home as early as five. In our house we have all the amenities you can think of; 24 hrs light (NEPA plus inverter), running water, gas, 2 washing machines etc to make a home 95percent comfortable but my wife can't seem to cope and it started when we had one child.
She doesn't wash my clothes, my office shirts and suits are given to dry cleaner to arrange while my other laundry I do myself every weekend with the washing machine.
When I get home by 7pm or 8, that's when she now starts rushing to bath the kids and prepare dinner, so we eat by 9 or 10. Before the kids play play and play, by 11pm we are still awake. Sometimes I go to bed by midnight and have to wake up by 4am to go to work again. It's impacting on my health and my work. She will sleep by 12 am and wake up by 8 or 9am the following day.
I have tried to beg and appeal to her. If I eat out and come home to just sleep, she go dey vex. If I just come home shower and sleep the kids who have passed their bedtime will be playing and when madam is ready to sleep they won't agree to sleep. She will beat them, guess who they will come crying to- daddy that just started sleeping and has to wake by 4am, I will now pet and pet till 2am before kids sleep.. I have advised her that kids have a bedtime(8pm). When I man up and off the tv by 9pm and tell everyone to go to bed, she says I am disrespecting her. She reports me to her mum.
Worse still our sex life is horrible... We have sex like once in 2 month.. At 35 I am in my sex prime and can Bleep everyday but she doesn't seem to care about me because she is always tired am I pity her so I don't demand sex so much.
I fully understand stay at home is not easy and I help her when.
I tried to create a schedule for her.
Wake up by 6am By 7 she suppose don clean finish By 8 breakfast should be ready for her, kids 9-10am bath herself and the kids 10-12 do any other stuff in the house 12-3pm rest, watch movies, chill 3-5pm... Do whatever she likes 5pm boil water and bath the kids 6pm she don bathe and bath kids 7pm... Food don done... Everything dey freezer 8pm we eat By 9 everyone goes to bed and we knack 1hr
I throw the trash every day Na me dey go market buy foodstuff On weekends I clean the house I wash my all my clothes I provide all the finance in the house I satisfy her on the bed when we naka. She begs me that she's tired I buy her gifts, drop 3k for her everyday Why should we have a house help when she is a stat at home mum (for now)
So what's the problem..
Mothers, are my demands too much? Mothers, please when do you close your kitchen and go to bed? Are you still awake by 11pm every blessed day. Am I crazy?
Please advice me.
I have begged her, pleaded, shouted, done everything. Sometimes I intentionally come home late (10-11pm) thinking that the kids have gone to bed but my first child will be watching cartoon.
Please advice me. I am going crazy, Lagos is stressful
can you tell us how she was before you had kids ?
did all start after having the 1 or 2nd child
i sense a bit of depression post natal or something
PROBLEMSOLVER27: Why have guys now adopted the pattern of making sure the lady is pregnant before paying her things?
I dont think its matter of making sure but girls are just giving out sex and girls think it is the responsibility of the guy to make sure that she wont fall pregnant
If you do a study you will find that most college and uni girls who are sexual active dont use female contraceptives but give the responsiblity to the guy to wear a condom. Therefore the full responsibility is now on the guy if it burst there is a high chance of her getting pregnant
Then finally most guys are forced by tradition and culture to do the right thing aka marry her, this would be now a rush rush becoz she is pregnant
Testiebobo: Am a kind of a person that does not know how to hide my feelings, especially when am hurt. But my mom on the other side takes every little so serious, and she is a kind of person that is professional in lashing insults on anyone. And anytime i try to proff her wrong she will say" YOU ARE SO PROUD AND ARROGANT", and these words gives me alot of headache. Pls i need your advises on what to do next time she repeat those words
1 usually people who are arrogant dont even know that there are so you might be
2 old generation usually dont want to be corrected by someone young hence the label you such
3 old generation want to be obayed all the time, dont give you time to express yourself
Cuterboy: Women tend to pick offences when you try to do DNA. A man will want to preserve his family by not breaking the trust
DNA test mininum people required are 2 the child and father/mother in most cases its man being accused as the father or wanting to know if he is the father. So the mother is not really needed as in her samples
in case of the father wanting to know without spooking the mother, he goes with child thier DNA are match to find similarites and he gets his answer without the wife knowing
When a women get involved most its cases of may be a child being stolen or swapped babies
then ni the event that a child (you are now a grown) wants to know this would be an opening of a can or worms for parents. generally it would be through ill treatment you got when you were young etc or may someone is claiming to your father while the person who raised is claiming to be your father the hard part it puts your own mum into the centre of the storm all you ask the people who brought up go for DNA test
Juliusdaughter: Thank you. I am not big on sex too, if I want it then it has to be with someone I am attracted to. Our sex life will suffer if I go ahead
You are only thinking about your self you might not be big on sex but your partner might be meaning sex will trigger many issues eg he expects from you as right in marriage and you are not kin much. That might lead him to find it outside
Family › Re: . by ZIMDRILL(m): 7:00pm On Aug 28, 2022*. Modified: 8:17pm On Aug 28, 2022
CaptMarvel: Attraction is important my dear. It will be difficult to be intimate with someone you are not attracted to, and that could be the beginning of the ending of the marriage.
I remember when I was in a relationship like that, we could be walking to somewhere and I'll be at the front why she might be behind lolz, its crazy you know and that's what even break the relationship.
But most importantly, Have you prayed concerning him, whether he's truly the one for you?
Don't just look at his pocket or his work, all those ones can pack up at anytime. But if you have confirmation from God that he's the one, then go ahead with him, all you need to do is to pray to God to make him look very attractive to you, I'm sure you'll be surprise at what God will do, you might not even want him to leave your side again lolz! I wish you all the best!
you nailed it on the attraction part, it is the attraction that makes want to make love your partner and if its not there from the begining, then you are in trouble becoz marriage or just leaving together has expectations and regular sex is one of them and if you dont feel attracted to your partner it would be a big issue
if your partner is not attractive to you, you have higher chances to cheat with someone you find attractive People dont know that, sex is painful especially for women if she is not attracted to you it means she would be dry down there, eventually she will hate sex and eventually not like to be touched by the same person who was marriage material who is now hubby
you nailed it on the attraction part, it is the attraction that makes want to make love your partner and if its not there from the begining, then you are in trouble becoz marriage or just leaving together has expectations and regular sex is one of them and if you dont feel attracted to your partner it would be a big issue
if your partner is attractive to you, you have higher chances to cheat with someone you find attractive
People dont share relevent information to young one or those wishing to marry. sex becames painful to woman if she is not attracted to the person, she would be dry down there the more she has dry sex the more she will hurt and hate sex
Sex start in the mind (being triggered by attraction) the body gets ready through different parts and precum is produced down there for easy penetraction
if you take out the attraction that woman will suffer and usually the other partner has no idea him he wiill just wanting his regular sex
And the woman will start finding excuses becoz sex is painful
ccjoe: I haven't been able to sleep since yesterday. I'm a promising young guy and still in school and this girl is my bestie in school. We do it regularly and without condom, I never knew it will end like this. Pls i'm just an orphan and still very young.. I need advice on how to handle this situation now..
##Mature minds only and no insult pls.
when you were having sex, you forgot that you are an orphan, student and young
Am you did it regulary without a condom abd expected a different result
besides condoms their are losts of contraceptives that might helped u and yo girl what mature advise do you want from mature people ?
Francisanointed: A friend of mine told his friend that he is behaving like woman wrapper, simply because he always assist his wife with chores. For instance, if the woman is cooking and washing plate,the man will voluntarily sweep or wash his personal clothes. His wife once told me that her husband usually assist him with house chores before but he stopped because people advice him that is not traditional. As a Christian, I feel one should voluntarily assist your wife with chores. Though some women tend to use this avenue to "make it compulsory thing" which ought not to be so. I think men or husbands should assist their wives in housechores. Assisting the woman doesn't make you man-less but it shows that you truly love your wife.
Bad to who ? you or other people if it works for you, go for it
Sonofgoodness: I am not too financially bouyant yet to start buying her clothes. She has glo sim card she is using. The MTN her ex is using is still working though not Registered
Ok let me ask were they living together that she had lots of cloths there, thats she really need to collect.
Sonofgoodness: My girlfriend and I have been dating for a few weeks now. Her ex has been begging and sometimes forcing her to come back but she refused. She fears the guy because he is an angry and sometimes do beat her while they were dating. Her ex has called severally in my presence and he usually shout and sound rude when trying to tell her to come back. My girlfriend is a girl that is easily afraid. Since we started dating,he has been luring to come. At first,he said the girl should come and collect her sim card, another time shoes and now clothes. She wants to go and collect those things but she ask for my permission to go and take her things. I gave her three conditions Which is 1. She must record all their conversation when she gets there 2. She must collect all her things that very day because I will never allow her go there again 3. She must go with someone. But you know these can't work. What should I do? No insult ...
if i was you i was going to show the girl that i am better man than the ex
1 get replacement sim card
2 buy her new cloths to replacement the one's at the ex's place
3 Test the ex if he is serious about returning the the things (an okada will come and pick up the things) chances that he would be mad are high
menacity: My gee long distance or not a cheater is a cheater . Under one of my family friends nose they were servicing his wife. Bro leave it ,shit happens mehn . Bro just cut off
i dont dispute that but am saying its open opportunities
Kennedyli: I have a female friend who's single. She's a good person, but I noticed an unusual closeness with this man, who happened to be married.
She says the man was just a friend from church and they had nothing going on. She said the wife was suspicious at first; but the husband explained to her and now they are fine.
However, I noticed that they call each other everyday; which was okay. I warned her to stop allowing the man call her, especially at night. Which she promised to work on.
I was trying to check something on her phone, when I noticed that not only was the man just calling her. She calls him close to midnight, sometimes, repeatedly until he picks.
My question is, can or should a lady have such relationship with a married man. Kind of a married man bestie who she go places with and calls in midnight?
wrong to who ? you or the people involved ? in your case the wife accepted the friendship so let it alone
this case has proved to you that some people accept it and some dont case closed
Soulflai: I have to open a new account so as to be anonymous as possible.I shouldn't have brought this here but the emotional bargage is too heavy for me to move on in.My marriage of 2 years is about to crumble. I met my wife in Kaduna Southern part in 2017,our relationship had been a long distance one as I base in Lagos while she also work in Kaduna, but we eventually married in 2020.The bone of contention is the issue of her ex.That point we are dating,I always caution her cut communication with the guy,she will do it by deleting the number,but later I will find out they're still relating. Last month,I purchased a new phone through easy buy,and I had to give her my own.So on the process of reinstalling Whatsapp on her phone,I retrieved all the backup Whatsapp messages7 which left me devastated.The chat history with her ex really left me broken.On multiple occasions after I paid her dowry,she met with the guy and they had sex.Multiple times pals!Even after marriage,when she is 5 months pregnant,the guy still had her with my baby inside her! I am really broken pals,I confronted her on this,she started crying that she will cut communication with him.The guy even send some money to her account on difference time this year.This is the height of emotional damage.I am just leaving each day just to find my leg financially.I am trying my best,but it is not enough. Lastly,I called the so-called ex on phone to cut communication with her,the guy is in Kaduna I think while we are in Lagos.She also blocked him all avenues likewise.My decision now is that any time I discovered any form of communication between her and the guy,it is over with the marriage.I think she is not really in to me like that,which beg the question while she married me in first instance. If am your brother,what advice would you recommend?I only choose to be lenient because the kids are just too small to have their parents separated early.If not,I would have sent her parking!.Right now I am just not happy with life afterall.
1 long distance relationship are never safe, they usually create opportunities for such 2 she said "she will " meaning she make the decision whn to cut communication meaning until then she will be still communicating 3 its pointless to talk to the guy he is not there to serve your needs or pay respect to you. 4 it is not the guy's responsibility to keep your marriage intact but both of you (you and wife) so it is the responsibility of your wife to her part unfortunately she is not so deal with her than wasting time on the guy
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