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mekaboy:
And most times when you start paying, you think you are in love. When you look back at how much you have spent on the girl, you cant let you. You keep paying and being hopeful.

All this would have ended if you asked for sex immediately she asked for money.

The one that likes you wont block you or stop reading your messages because u did not give her money.

The bolded should be y'all major concern.. Actually, there should be no pressure whatsoever.. If she asks for a particular amount of money and you do not have it orrr you don't intend to give her, simply tell her you do not have it.. If she's moving mad about it, ignores you or cuts communication with you, it's safe to say you both don't complement each other and should not be in a relationship.. She can as well continue on her quest, while you do the same.. I don't get all these money exchange for s.ex talks honestly, shogun laye ni?!

Do not date out of pity, do not marry out of pity, do not be in any form of relationship out of pity.. Do not put yourself in that situation, it will end in hot premium tears.. Been there, done that

"Just gimme a trial", "Oya try me, you won't regret it"..laughing in ekun egbere(pls don't ask me how, t for tenks)

Lmaoooo wahala this redditor get time & strength sha.. If only we could send memes on there, maybe I'll hit their(dunno the gender) dm with that "be calming down" meme lol

If you no fit reply me with "okay", "ok", even "kk", abeg abeg just leave me on read, maa fi "k" da ile ru.. But if you maa get coconut head, shorii just be prepared to sleep there with your "k", shingbain strength ah no get.. Ti o ba ji, ki e pe mi lori aago

I will never understand how people find foot fetish sexually exciting lol but it's really a thing in the western world, they're quite big on it.. Infact, it gets even crazier than this, just pictures of well-oiled feet could get the volcano erupting and then there are footjobs too lol

Se.xual fetishes & fantasies, oddly satisfying to alot of people.. Oftentimes unconventional but to each its own.

Hahaha OP suit yourself; call it quits.. She has actually made it quite easier for you, send her just one breakup sms that ends with "You'll thank me later"

kendological:
Everything you said is on point, thanks.
You sound like my elder sister, she has always told Nancy that she will know my value the day I wash my hands totally away from her, which I have already done, I feel pain within me when that girl(my niece) rejoices in my presence, because I know when she grows up, her mother, possibly her grand mother will turn her against me.

Don't worry about them pitching your niece up against you in future or poisoning her mind about you, do not worry about that at all.. For the now, they can't and they'll get pissed most esp your sister.. They'll fail, no matter how hard they tried, why? You see, little children are just like an open book, so adorable with their precious heart & incorruptible mind

You'll be surprised at how they read different human expressions, genuine & fake, likewise animals.. Children of her age can tell when someone is trying to ruin/pollute their perception about another, they can smell foul play from miles away lol.. They love attention, as well as people who gives them attention & spends time with them, no matter how little, they appreciate it a whole lot.. When they build such a cordial bond with anybody, it's often very hard to make them think otherwise about that person, infact they'd even go as far as confiding in him/her while asking to know how the hostility came about, those little FBIs haha.. They are quite rational, in their own way..

As a matter of fact, they should actually be worried about how bad of an influence they are to the growing child, they're highly toxic for her.. Just keep being a good uncle, God sees your heart and in the end, that's all that matters.

Is it still the same girl from March 16? Hey c'monnn, don't be such a pest.. The young lady has shown her displeasure, it didn't matter if you apologized or not(this is an example of a situation where saying/showing that you're "sorry" doesn't just solve/cut it)

Come to think of it, she broke up with you, been giving you cold treatment, ignoring your calls, dude she doesn't even want friendship orrr you checking up on her.. She didn't "miraculously" pick your call, she just wanted to put a stop to your incessant calls.. While it was fulfilling to hear her speak, I bet she was so irritated.. There are no mixed signals there, no be yellow, no be orange, na shombo red with "abort mission" boldly written on it..

I actually find it hard to believe that you've gone this far, wrt your current level of education(I resisted the urge to type "grow up, son" ).. It's indeed great, now you should start thinking of life after NYSC, your career path and your future.. You will alwayss have se.x, you will.. So stop losing focus over it!

After reading your story & deducing some more from your replies..

Paying your niece's school fees shouldn't be obligatory, her mum & dad should be saddled with that responsibility.. Your dad should ask to meet with the man, all members of your family should be present as well.. Y'all need to address this issue, he should make known his intentions, lay them on the table so y'all can move forward, what exactly does he want with your sister? Most importantly, why has he been found wanting in taking up full responsibility of their daughter, what sort of father is he? If e do anyhow, make una give am anyhow, deploy strict measures if need be.. Your parents should put their feet down, how can they turn a blind eye in this kind of situation? It's the way they handle(d) things that he has the guts to do as he pleases/feel as though "anything goes, nothing dey shele".. Question their acclaimed love for your sister, is that the best life they'd want for her? How come she feels superior to them? Was that how y'all grandparents groomed them? They should put a stop to this madness now, clip those wings now.. Imagine having a growing child around her, what sort of role model, what values, what morals will she portray to her daughter? Your parents should really sit up, they've been putting up with her excesses for too long hence she feels so comfortable & sees nothing wrong in her actions.. She should go find a job, anything to settle some bills & take care of her child, no matter how little, that fulfillment is second to none..

Focus on your purpose, self-discovery, career & life in general.. Doesn't mean you won't help out if you can, financially or otherwise, if they seek your advice and you have one or two, do tell even if they don't take it, it's not on you.. If your sister can't see that you've been nothing but a good brother to her then she could as well crash & burn lol I didn't quite mean that but she seems so irredeemable gosh.

In line with what WoundedLamb has said.. I'd say you should not come in between them at that point in time, let them trash it out themselves unless you are called upon ofcourse.. That way, you get to hear them out, try to calm them down and then subtly give your own opinion(how best you understood the situation), try to ease off the tension as well..

When you & your spouse goes inside and you're 100% sure that she's calm and all, you could tell her where she missed it or got it wrong and then help her understand how she could've handled it better.. I, for one, won't be mad but it all depends on the individual.. You know your spouse better than we do, if she wouldn't want to hear about it after it's been resolved publicly then please don't bring it up again, you could find a way to tease her after many weekss, months orrr not.. While stating your opinion, be as neutral as possible, so as not to be seen in a wrong light which often leads to disrespect.

Why on earth did he not let the girl in on his plans of wanting to have a child before he clocks 30? Omoo see as pesin pikin turn labrat wey dem dey use do biology practical; Title:-To determine man's reproductive ability & potency..This is just me crying over spilled milk ni..

Aww how sweet of you to help brainstorm ideas for him, your reward is moving towards the packaging stage

Just to add to what has been said, I support Kelvin30286063 & mddavid contributions

I'm sorry about the recurrences, negative effects & psychological trauma.. One, I hope you do know that when one's spouse is taking treatments for any form of pelvic infection, it's always advisable for his/her partner to do the same(get treated) whether he/she is experiencing symptoms of the infection or not, also there should be no sexual intercourse until they've both finished taking their medications. Two, I do hope you both take y'all medications judiciously, please don't discard them whenever you feel the symptoms have "gone", ensure you finish the dosages. Yeah, there should be an overhaul of y'all undies & briefs, get new ones(cotton preferably) and if possible change your beddings too.. Failure to do all that leads to recurrences so you both keep reinfecting each other again and again and again.. Also ensure proper hygiene, soak in antiseptic (warm water, if you like), wash and sundry them, the heat from the sun further kills those harmful microorganisms.. I could go on and on but I'll stop here, please google more about this.. I'm quite certain you must've heard or read about it somehow though

For the now, I know you both must be really tired of going in and out of different medical facilities for this cause.. I may not know all the symptoms she's experiencing, however, I do suggest you both go to a good laboratory, she should ask to run a pelvic scan, if it is confirmed that there is an infection, there will be other tests to further identify the type of infection as well as the causal organism(s).. The test results should be taken to a doctor and only then will the treatment be prescribed.. Orr even better if you both have the privilege to meet a renowned Pharmacist(one who did study Pharmacy), do ask he/she to help interpret the test results and proffer the right medications to combat the infection.. I hope you both find a lasting solution.

Please run around for money & rush her to the hospital asap.

Monday-Sunday, 8am-9pm

Christ! How do you even cope? 12k salary, which isn't even guaranteed, sometimes probably after working for 35-45days or more aaand then the deductions..

No, man.. That's crazy, you can't keep doing that to yourself.. Start making strategic moves to quit that hell of a job, please start now.

Haha lmaoo abobi shey you wan dey jonze me ni

Angel Gabriel, bring the holy cane!!

I don't intend to make this long.. OP, thank you for this mind-blowing piece, omooo I been think say na literature section I dey, had to check twice lol

Hmmm this marriage matter, I don talk tire o.. Spec doesn't necessarily read one's physical features, for people who truly know those attributes that are indeed instrumental to a happy, healthy & long-lasting relationship, beauty(male/female) isn't all there is.. Misplaced priorities everywhere, nobody is saying "oh don't marry a tdhfb guy or fbatt lady", we're saying "are y'all looking at the bigger picture, at the same time?", "does he/she possess qualities that will further sustain the relationship in future?", "if not, how can you help them be on the same page with you?, are they receptive?", these & many more are things that should be put into consideration before saying "I do" except sey na play play una dey do sha.. Peace of mind is everything abeg, na spec oninown sef, underrated sh*t, even in work environment.

Banana & groundnut

OP, before going for any event/function, please and please eat to your fill at home to avoid this kind of situation & embarrassment in future

As for your friend, he & his family members are the "chief organizers", they decide whatever & however the ceremony will be run.. It's only right to acknowledge and regard people for taking out time from their busy orr not-so busy lives to grace your event, gatecrasher or not even if na purewater haba.. In the end, my opinion(yours & others) wouldn't change anything sha so jejely eat at home before going anywhere.. Stop being petty and answer your calls, don't make it seem like you went to the burial ceremony just to eat some wraps of iyan ati obe egusi tell him you've been busy, ask him how the event went, thank God for successfully laying mama to rest, tease him that you came for mama's burial and didn't get even purewater na wa oo, o ma so fun e pe ko maa binu, iwo na maa binu shogbo? It shouldn't cause bad blood between you two, just laugh & get over it.

Babygirl, I wish there was a manual to these things.. I really wish

In recent times, "love" is the most used word, grossly misconstrued too.. Lies and deception have become the order of the day, we're all woke afterall lol.. I don't intend to make you feel worse than you already are, no dear, not at all.. Just as AsherAmari has said, please stop worrying your pretty lil head, stop beating yourself up over this Ngoo.. Just keep being amazing, do you, love you, pamper you, you matter, you're enough, you're beautiful, you deserve all the good things of life and more, don't let anybody make you feel less than a Queen okayy

Your knight in shining armor is not sooo far away as it may seem, you both will definitely cross paths soon.. Don't dull your shine hun

Jerrick:
God! You talk like you knew what really happened. Your comment is spot on and I’ve never read a comment on this topic as close to what really happened between us as yours. Sorry but are you a psychologist?

Well, I didn't study it in sch.. Safe to say, it's inborn then

You're indeed a clown lol..

While I'll agree with you that any form of breach in communication between two or more parties who are in a mutual relationship, sows seeds of doubt, a cause for concern.. The right thing to do is to call the attention of the party(parties) involved, as the case may be.. In this context, you did the right thing by expressing your displeasure, you went way overboard though.. It shouldn't have gotten up to that(your attempt to fool her, consistently chatting her up & what not), that consistency shows that you really do love her, you're hurt but then you just want some form of closure before breaking up with her..

She does love you though but I can't say I know why she ignores your chats or her late replies(not just minutes, many hours later).. You both should've really talked about it yh cos if she can reply a "random stranger" relatively faster than she does to you(her supposed boyfriend), there is something wrong..

Oh well, if you feel the breakup will make you feel better, then by all means go for it.

Lol I dunno but I feel she kinda sounds like a weirdo

Why does she feel the need to be friends with your wife? Why can't she ask your wife directly for it? Have they interacted one-on-one before? Maybe admiration orrr I dunno(we humans are really unpredictable) but without mincing words, I'd say your wife has the right to decide whoever she would like to interact with and she equally has the right to know whoever you give her contact to, be it family/friend/whosoever.. So I think you should tell your wife, not like seeking consent yunno maybe like a friend suggestion, tell her more about your friend, how you both met, how cordial you both have been & good qualities she possesses, any necessary info that will get their friendship to a good start, smooth, jolly & a lasting one.. Leave the bonding to them, they'll figure it out themselves

I'm trying to resist the urge to type "**'** *** ** ******* *****".. Shora fun obinrin sha, oluwa a wa pelu e.

I dunno but I suggest you go for an ultrasound scan as soon as possible

Ah ahn na wa oo, won fe pa omolomo nitori small chops.. Puff-puff eelo, spring roll melo, samosa melo ati orishirishi nnkan.. Ti o de fe pa eeyan bi ti e, haaa shogun laye ni?!

Well OP, as the matter don be laidis.. I suggest you get your own pole and connect your light.. Please & please steer clear from that man & his family.

OP if you(she) really wanna know, there's only one way to find out.. She should go run a test, blood test preferably.. She can even buy home pregnancy test(pt) strips, 50naira own sef dey.

RIP Legend

Hmmm lemme understand you.. Is it that she wears skimpy dresses, clothes that reveal so much skin and the sorts? Orrr she actually moves around the house naked, like stark naked and does so every opportunity she gets except there are "guests" ofcourse? I know some couples love to bare it all whenever & however they deem fit, largely depends on the individuals though..

But stark naked around kids moreso children of this 21st century ahh, you do not even know half of what they know, half of what they hear random people say, before you even talk one dem don talk four, most of them care less about the sign language you communicate with them in public places.. Una dey try justify this thing sey pikin wey wan spoil go spoil afterall una follow dey where una mama & papa dem dey dey naked kinikan kinikan, even if oo I can tell it was an unconscious something lol abi dem dey intentionally call all of una plus una siblings, "oya oo my children comman sit down and watch me remove my clothes" orrr "all of you should comman see me naked oo"?? Shey dem dey talk dah wan ni? Oya lie noww smh I no go talk those ones wey dey peep when dem papa & mama dey do kerewa for night, then for morning/afternoon dem go rush go tell their friends make dem do mummy & daddy style, as per game na Na true sey pikin wey go spoil go spoil but habaa is dat why you should be comfortably naked around (your) kids, o wrong nau..

It is child abuse and in saner climes, it's not easily swept under the carpet.. Even those parents that are like "ees eet nor me dah gave birth to you, what are you covering? You're covering your body from me ke, c'monnn remove dah hand".. As for your friend's wife, I hope she keeps the same energy when people (be it her children school authorities, family acquaintances or whoever) calls her attention to it & the potential damage her actions may cause.. I sure know she won't like to see her ass dragged for child abuse sometime in future.

Ah I'm not sure I've unconsciously dialed a "wrong number", you need to see how I count & double-check, digits by digits, before dialling(much to the amusement of people lol). I'm also aware that sometimes network diverts calls but it hasn't happened to me sha

Asides from the fact that I don't usually answer calls from unknown numbers oh well except it's a consistent caller.. On few occasions, I've had some "wrong number" calls though but no be everytime e dey happen so e no too dey vex me laidat.. You see all those spam & promotional calls(Airtel, Glo, etc dah year), na dah wan dey make my blood boil lol add am join this NIN long talk wey MTN dey give pesin esp if you're making the first call of the day, you no con get enough credit & the number sef dey switched off orrr e no dey go.. After dem talk NIN finish, dem go con talk "you get 1min remaining" sey make you recharge, na dah time dem go con tell you sey the number no dey reachable or e dey switched off, habaa all those plenty talk, ko necesstri na

AlphaBeta130:
Chai, dem don occupy the chance.
kedu mgbe m ga achota onye nkem

Ndo, onye nke gi na chokwa gi oo.. Ekperem bu na unu n'abu ga achota onwe unu, mgbe na adiro anya.

Hmmm I wouldn't know how seamless the procedure will be in 4/5yrs time.. It will depend on the institution, department, also non-teaching personnels you'll come across..

I'd say the earlier, the better.

I understand how bad the economy is and how everybody is trying to find a niche lucrative enough to fit in, all in a bid to make a living..

I won't mince words in saying CS is the future, the world is going digital, literally everything has..

I know what comes to mind when you see all those CS job ads on Twitter & other platforms (kaiii babanla owo leleyi).. Aje, owo yen tun wa enticing noo be lie but the Koko be sey "are you ready to do all it takes?" It's good you've been watching stuff on YT, probably you're quite familiar with some basics.. Prosper, it really doesn't just end there, you'll need to learn, practice & practice some more.. I believe your determination, hardwork & consistency will eventually pay off.. If you have a laptop or know someone who could help you with one, great, otherwise you could make do with your smartphone pending when you can get access to a laptop..

About the hub, you can check & ask questions in the Programming section of this forum.. You can also get online certifications alongside, some are free while some are paid for.. I'm sure you'll get the help, guidance & info you'd need.. Good luck Prosper!