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Christ! How do you even cope? 12k salary, which isn't even guaranteed, sometimes probably after working for 35-45days or more aaand then the deductions..

No, man.. That's crazy, you can't keep doing that to yourself.. Start making strategic moves to quit that hell of a job, please start now.

Haha lmaoo abobi shey you wan dey jonze me ni

Angel Gabriel, bring the holy cane!!

I don't intend to make this long.. OP, thank you for this mind-blowing piece, omooo I been think say na literature section I dey, had to check twice lol

Hmmm this marriage matter, I don talk tire o.. Spec doesn't necessarily read one's physical features, for people who truly know those attributes that are indeed instrumental to a happy, healthy & long-lasting relationship, beauty(male/female) isn't all there is.. Misplaced priorities everywhere, nobody is saying "oh don't marry a tdhfb guy or fbatt lady", we're saying "are y'all looking at the bigger picture, at the same time?", "does he/she possess qualities that will further sustain the relationship in future?", "if not, how can you help them be on the same page with you?, are they receptive?", these & many more are things that should be put into consideration before saying "I do" except sey na play play una dey do sha.. Peace of mind is everything abeg, na spec oninown sef, underrated sh*t, even in work environment.

Banana & groundnut

OP, before going for any event/function, please and please eat to your fill at home to avoid this kind of situation & embarrassment in future

As for your friend, he & his family members are the "chief organizers", they decide whatever & however the ceremony will be run.. It's only right to acknowledge and regard people for taking out time from their busy orr not-so busy lives to grace your event, gatecrasher or not even if na purewater haba.. In the end, my opinion(yours & others) wouldn't change anything sha so jejely eat at home before going anywhere.. Stop being petty and answer your calls, don't make it seem like you went to the burial ceremony just to eat some wraps of iyan ati obe egusi tell him you've been busy, ask him how the event went, thank God for successfully laying mama to rest, tease him that you came for mama's burial and didn't get even purewater na wa oo, o ma so fun e pe ko maa binu, iwo na maa binu shogbo? It shouldn't cause bad blood between you two, just laugh & get over it.

Babygirl, I wish there was a manual to these things.. I really wish

In recent times, "love" is the most used word, grossly misconstrued too.. Lies and deception have become the order of the day, we're all woke afterall lol.. I don't intend to make you feel worse than you already are, no dear, not at all.. Just as AsherAmari has said, please stop worrying your pretty lil head, stop beating yourself up over this Ngoo.. Just keep being amazing, do you, love you, pamper you, you matter, you're enough, you're beautiful, you deserve all the good things of life and more, don't let anybody make you feel less than a Queen okayy

Your knight in shining armor is not sooo far away as it may seem, you both will definitely cross paths soon.. Don't dull your shine hun

Jerrick:
God! You talk like you knew what really happened. Your comment is spot on and I’ve never read a comment on this topic as close to what really happened between us as yours. Sorry but are you a psychologist?

Well, I didn't study it in sch.. Safe to say, it's inborn then

You're indeed a clown lol..

While I'll agree with you that any form of breach in communication between two or more parties who are in a mutual relationship, sows seeds of doubt, a cause for concern.. The right thing to do is to call the attention of the party(parties) involved, as the case may be.. In this context, you did the right thing by expressing your displeasure, you went way overboard though.. It shouldn't have gotten up to that(your attempt to fool her, consistently chatting her up & what not), that consistency shows that you really do love her, you're hurt but then you just want some form of closure before breaking up with her..

She does love you though but I can't say I know why she ignores your chats or her late replies(not just minutes, many hours later).. You both should've really talked about it yh cos if she can reply a "random stranger" relatively faster than she does to you(her supposed boyfriend), there is something wrong..

Oh well, if you feel the breakup will make you feel better, then by all means go for it.

Lol I dunno but I feel she kinda sounds like a weirdo

Why does she feel the need to be friends with your wife? Why can't she ask your wife directly for it? Have they interacted one-on-one before? Maybe admiration orrr I dunno(we humans are really unpredictable) but without mincing words, I'd say your wife has the right to decide whoever she would like to interact with and she equally has the right to know whoever you give her contact to, be it family/friend/whosoever.. So I think you should tell your wife, not like seeking consent yunno maybe like a friend suggestion, tell her more about your friend, how you both met, how cordial you both have been & good qualities she possesses, any necessary info that will get their friendship to a good start, smooth, jolly & a lasting one.. Leave the bonding to them, they'll figure it out themselves

I'm trying to resist the urge to type "**'** *** ** ******* *****".. Shora fun obinrin sha, oluwa a wa pelu e.

I dunno but I suggest you go for an ultrasound scan as soon as possible

Ah ahn na wa oo, won fe pa omolomo nitori small chops.. Puff-puff eelo, spring roll melo, samosa melo ati orishirishi nnkan.. Ti o de fe pa eeyan bi ti e, haaa shogun laye ni?!

Well OP, as the matter don be laidis.. I suggest you get your own pole and connect your light.. Please & please steer clear from that man & his family.

OP if you(she) really wanna know, there's only one way to find out.. She should go run a test, blood test preferably.. She can even buy home pregnancy test(pt) strips, 50naira own sef dey.

RIP Legend

Hmmm lemme understand you.. Is it that she wears skimpy dresses, clothes that reveal so much skin and the sorts? Orrr she actually moves around the house naked, like stark naked and does so every opportunity she gets except there are "guests" ofcourse? I know some couples love to bare it all whenever & however they deem fit, largely depends on the individuals though..

But stark naked around kids moreso children of this 21st century ahh, you do not even know half of what they know, half of what they hear random people say, before you even talk one dem don talk four, most of them care less about the sign language you communicate with them in public places.. Una dey try justify this thing sey pikin wey wan spoil go spoil afterall una follow dey where una mama & papa dem dey dey naked kinikan kinikan, even if oo I can tell it was an unconscious something lol abi dem dey intentionally call all of una plus una siblings, "oya oo my children comman sit down and watch me remove my clothes" orrr "all of you should comman see me naked oo"?? Shey dem dey talk dah wan ni? Oya lie noww smh I no go talk those ones wey dey peep when dem papa & mama dey do kerewa for night, then for morning/afternoon dem go rush go tell their friends make dem do mummy & daddy style, as per game na Na true sey pikin wey go spoil go spoil but habaa is dat why you should be comfortably naked around (your) kids, o wrong nau..

It is child abuse and in saner climes, it's not easily swept under the carpet.. Even those parents that are like "ees eet nor me dah gave birth to you, what are you covering? You're covering your body from me ke, c'monnn remove dah hand".. As for your friend's wife, I hope she keeps the same energy when people (be it her children school authorities, family acquaintances or whoever) calls her attention to it & the potential damage her actions may cause.. I sure know she won't like to see her ass dragged for child abuse sometime in future.

Ah I'm not sure I've unconsciously dialed a "wrong number", you need to see how I count & double-check, digits by digits, before dialling(much to the amusement of people lol). I'm also aware that sometimes network diverts calls but it hasn't happened to me sha

Asides from the fact that I don't usually answer calls from unknown numbers oh well except it's a consistent caller.. On few occasions, I've had some "wrong number" calls though but no be everytime e dey happen so e no too dey vex me laidat.. You see all those spam & promotional calls(Airtel, Glo, etc dah year), na dah wan dey make my blood boil lol add am join this NIN long talk wey MTN dey give pesin esp if you're making the first call of the day, you no con get enough credit & the number sef dey switched off orrr e no dey go.. After dem talk NIN finish, dem go con talk "you get 1min remaining" sey make you recharge, na dah time dem go con tell you sey the number no dey reachable or e dey switched off, habaa all those plenty talk, ko necesstri na

AlphaBeta130:
Chai, dem don occupy the chance.
kedu mgbe m ga achota onye nkem

Ndo, onye nke gi na chokwa gi oo.. Ekperem bu na unu n'abu ga achota onwe unu, mgbe na adiro anya.

Hmmm I wouldn't know how seamless the procedure will be in 4/5yrs time.. It will depend on the institution, department, also non-teaching personnels you'll come across..

I'd say the earlier, the better.

I understand how bad the economy is and how everybody is trying to find a niche lucrative enough to fit in, all in a bid to make a living..

I won't mince words in saying CS is the future, the world is going digital, literally everything has..

I know what comes to mind when you see all those CS job ads on Twitter & other platforms (kaiii babanla owo leleyi).. Aje, owo yen tun wa enticing noo be lie but the Koko be sey "are you ready to do all it takes?" It's good you've been watching stuff on YT, probably you're quite familiar with some basics.. Prosper, it really doesn't just end there, you'll need to learn, practice & practice some more.. I believe your determination, hardwork & consistency will eventually pay off.. If you have a laptop or know someone who could help you with one, great, otherwise you could make do with your smartphone pending when you can get access to a laptop..

About the hub, you can check & ask questions in the Programming section of this forum.. You can also get online certifications alongside, some are free while some are paid for.. I'm sure you'll get the help, guidance & info you'd need.. Good luck Prosper!

Heard NOUN, dunno how true.. You can check the education section of this forum, or better still post this there.. Either way, I'm sure you'll get more info.

Edit: I just realized I unconsciously skipped the "Lagos State" part lol.. UNILAG maybe

AlphaBeta130:
o ga abukwa mu na gi?

Haha lol efe adirozi

OMG, this is sooo sad

Life is indeed infinitesimal.. Kamsi, may your gentle soul rest in perfect peace and may God comfort & strengthen your loved ones, Amen.

Not petty though..

He was very boastful, felt everything should revolve around him & quite disrespectful too.. Mbanu, oburokwa mu na gi.

Alot has been said already.. Marriage is indeed a beautiful thing & equally sweet when there is reciprocity of love but we all know that even that isn't enough to sustain a long-term relationship.. We should always try to be considerate & understanding, trust maybe(cos humans tend to take it for granted oftentimes than not, love too, in the same vein), respect(this can never be overemphasized), some level of emotional maturity(very important), sense of commitment & responsibility(almost same context with emotional maturity), ofcourse I won't forget excellent communication with God, and with each other.. Lemme jus stop there

I must say nice one franchasng, your authenticity is incredible

Gvnl, jaxxy, Adinije, gabicon, justhairs, Joejonah, femi4, Juliearth, Belexy95, franchasng Chukwuzobam89, lucky4west, Joydan95, DedeNkem, y'all have said it all.. Thanks for y'all profound inputs, it is indeed refreshing to read.

Young man, can you listen to yourself at all? Shorii you're not confused nnkankan, I feel sey na ment

So you know hell hath no fury like a woman scorned but na still you wey go carry Bazooka fire am for your leg, med oo

ImaIma1:
The best thing is for the fiancee to avoid going to visit the woman except with her man. What is she looking for?

But some women can complain sha. I remember my friends in secondary school. Their grandma (father's side) came to spend hols with them. The first day they made eba for her, the woman complained that it was too soft.

The second day, she complained that it was too strong. On the 3rd day, the girls boiled water and put the garri, bowl and turning stick and went to grandma "grandma abeg come and turn your eba" . The womam shock but she understood them perfectly.

Not everyone can stomach all that kind of wahala. Imagine they did that to their grandma. One MIL cannot come and stress them unnecessarily.

Yes o my dear, I love your friends dem way ooo.. Some women are like that, if I come across them, I go jus dey my dey.. I cannot comman kee myself oo

Your mum should be more bothered that she has 6 children right under her roof there and none of them could assist her with laundry but nooo she'd rather look for faults in your fiancèe and then tell you how she isn't the one for you

Omolomo went the first time, helped her with the laundry, even stood while washing, as per wife material 1000yards Mama still talk sey she no wash am well (to her own standard).. Sisi Iyawo decided to visit Mama again, this time alone so she can bond well with her dear Iya oko but she "apparently" forgot her "home training" at home and Iya oko isn't having all of that.. Matter don turn to "she DISRESPECT me ALOT" na wa ooo.. Naim be sey, in future, if something as little as not having same views with Mama, wahala go shele.. Today, your wife offended me o, tomorrow your wife offended me sha, next tomorrow your wife offended me ni, everyday your wife offended me ni sha but don't tell her o, she must find out on her own and apologize to me.. Edakun werriz the peace tori oloun smh I don't envy you at all at all.. Waiiit for the one that will pass all Mama's tests you hear, just don't be tired of waiting.

mkpologwu:
Thank your stars you didn't have me when I was younger. My useless friends those days dey go house to house to beat up big sisters who acted tough. We only loved and listened to those big sisters who were soft with us.

Bottom line is, some teens do better when consistently approached in a soft and delicate manner. Try being tough and loose it all.

Haha youdonmeannit, so you do follow them to beat up y'all big sisters? Kaiii una dey brutal o, where una dey get dah kain morale lol.. I wasn't tough o, I did overlook alot of stuff, I still do.. Infact I dey unpredictable, no be everyday I dey reason pesin mess^up.. Motto be sey "as you dey misbehave wen everywhere don green, soffry dey do am make e for no red for you"

Lmaoooo pesin don turn am to dating thread, im no even specify weda na lepa or orobo

OP na only dem dem fit answer you o.. You sef don talk wetin you dey find for dem body na, las las you can't eat your cake and have it sha

lecturer50:
Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?

I just need advice?

Look dear, don't ever give in to the call to resign.. Even your ailing mum wouldn't urge you to do that, alwayss those onkuu agbayas ati awon ebi alainironu

You & your siblings should try and get a caregiver for mama, that way you're sure your mum is well taken care of.. Keep constant communication going.. Travel home anytime you can, same with your siblings, spend time with mama.. Orrr better still bring mama to yours, get a help that will assist mama all the time.. Mama can even be rotating from one of your siblings house to the another, whichever, y'all need to talk about it

Preferably, if mama can come stay with you or any of your siblings, you'd have taken away that power/right those relatives feel they have, they'll be sooo pissed haha I'll pay to see their reaction lol jk.. In the meantime, for you to have peace of mind, I suggest you change your line.. Only mama & her caregiver should know about it and make it clear that on no account should they give it out to anybody without your consent.